AUTISM TRAITS I DON'T HAVE (lowkey fail)

[@heleni0]

Do you remember when people used to glue jewels to their teeth? Budget version 😛

[@jordangraybill1374]

Helen B 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@chloeshayden]

Gucci vs Walmart

[@felicityjuckes6152]

Haha lol!😂

[@corvigae]

I just laughed so damn hard at the "unimaginative play" part because that is such a BIG BIG MOOD that for the longest time I used to see that trait listed on autism checklists, like "some autistic kids don't PLAY with their toys, they just lay them out/line them up," and I would be like "oh no I didn't so that, I was super imaginative with my playing," and it would COMPLETELY SOAR OVER MY HEAD that no I definitely DID do the "laying out/lining up toys" thing, but that WAS me playing with them, because all the "playing" was going on in my head, the toys themselves were just a visual aid. Also it kind of just shows how much of a "neurotypical looking at an autistic person and making assumptions about them" perspective that trait is, because that play style was anything BUT "unimaginative," but it APPEARED so from a neurotypical way of looking at things.

[@pruedence110588]

This exactly, yes 💯

[@lilythatlittlecat]

I'm soft spoken and never had a speech delay, but am definitely a mimic. I mimic subconsciously. It's like my brain is like, "ooh, that accent or quirk sounds fun. Let's try it!" I also enjoy mimicking characters and accents, but not the person I'm talking to, so I hope they don't notice when it happens!

[@ylla_]

Wait this is mimicking? Didn’t realize that I mimicked

[@drawnwithlove3499]

Do y'all do the thing where you're narrating in your head and it slips out and you end up whispering to yourself

[@MsLPSFOREVER]

@@drawnwithlove3499 all the time. All day long.

[@Emma-eg7gy]

Alot of times when I speak to someone with an accent I automatically start speaking with that accent. Worst part is I can't stop and its the most awkward thing ever.

[@Emma-eg7gy]

@@drawnwithlove3499 and the amount of reactions like: Who are you talking to? What are you doing? Its so awkward

[@purpleyeseo9519]

I love hearing that the way you played was exactly like I always did! I was obsessed with littlest pet shop and I would get them all out and put them in place and then come up with stories in my head only moving them occasionally. There was a ton of stuff going on internally but externally it looked like I was just sitting and staring at my toys for hours

[@MsLPSFOREVER]

Wow...you literally just described me...like I remember just lining things up over and over again and then going in my head "this is it, this is quality entertainment" 😂

[@YourMum-jc4df]

This makes feel so much better I thought I was weird for being so internal about it

[@shayshayxox929]

I did the exact same thing and planned a whole direction for them in my head and everything the littlest pets would say and do, then when I had it complete in my head I was too tired to act it out and would put them away 😂 Literally EXHAUSTED

[@alpacatastrophe]

SAME! Except I lined up identical toys and made them repeat one activity 30 times before deciding the next story in my head.

[@sunnydays7678]

Not me being 16 and STILL “setting scenes” with the lego sets I build and then never touching them again LOL

[@comcat8524]

I DEFINITELY FEEL WHAT YOURE SAYING ABOUT THE UN IMAGINATIVE PLAY i actually spent like the majority of my childhood maladaptive daydreaming and sometimes i would set up scenes or create intricate stories in my head but i was verrryyy secretive about it so all of the adults in my life would like. Actively tell me i had no imagination and i for sure internalized that lol

[@MsLPSFOREVER]

See, I never shared it with someone except a select few, but my family members would tell me they'd oversee me playing and how complex I must have set things up, but they didn't see the whole picture. I would feel embarrassed when people watched me play.

[@leelove6722]

I used to play with my friend who we both kinda were alike and we both had a story in our head, we were best friend but this caused a ton of fights😅 In the end I let it go her way and kept a comic notebook so I could change the story to go my way later

[@karstynmcdaniel]

Rules are one of my biggest things and that's a reason kids didn't like me at school. I didn't get why I shouldn't tell the teacher when I see a rule being broken. I still don't get why rules are in place if they don't always apply. That's just confusing

[@shayshayxox929]

Yes! It would cause like a mental crisis in me about to tell or not tell in fear of angering the others but I felt I HAD to 😭

[@LineLi225]

I remember I told the principal my class(2nd year of high school) was making fun of the geography teacher on a group and I was revolted by it and when my classmates discovered I denunciated their bad action they bullied me the whole year and acted as if I was the villain and said I was a bad person and a betrayer

[@cubeception4561]

Same, I always tell people off and tell a teacher if I see a rule being broken, same with grammar I will always correct them. That’s why people hate me lol.

[@Kasiarzynka]

@@cubeception4561 I relate to grammar, but not the telling on other kids thing. I don't think I've ever done that, partially because I knew they'd hate me and make my every day super miserable, lmao. Expect when I was 9-10 and two kids around my age argued next to a 6-7 yo about how Santa doesn't exist. 6-7 yos usually still believe in Santa here so I went to a teacher and was like THEY'RE ARGUING IN FRONT OF (NAME) ABOUT THE EXISTENCE OF SANTA because I wanted to protect him from the truth. But I'm generally strictly follow the rules/laws kinda person and it makes me so stressed if I or someone around me breaks them. I was going crazy about my uncle parking incorrectly recently (we had moved abroad and he was visiting), which was one of many small things that led me to hyperventilating uncontrollable sobbing combined with the feeling of my throat closing and strangling me. Not fun.

[@Mahala_Jo]

OMG EXACTLY SAME

[@smeatar]

On the "no empathy" thing, I definitely have more empathy than most people I know but my empathy is less accurate (if that makes sense)

[@mollymcbride1942]

YES

[@HawkinaBox]

Same here :)

[@beepbeep5755]

Also more empathy with animals! Like way too much!! Or at least for me anyway

[@ScoobyDTyree]

I have empathy issues. I bounce between too much empathy and then it's like an overload and I shut it completely off so it's one or the other. No in between.

[@cemeterygates1713]

I feel a ton of empathy but I don’t know how to respond to people’s emotions. If a friend is crying, I’ll obviously feel bad that my friend’s upset but I won’t know what to do next (I’m not very good at comforting people and stuff like that). As a result, I come off as apathetic. It’s annoying because, if anything, I feel more empathy than most people I know :/

[@1articoli]

The topic of empathy can be confusing because it's usually not defined precisely. What many people on the spectrum lack is called cognitive empathy, i.e., the ability to read other peoples' face or body language. Also called TOM or Theory of Mind. It doesn't mean that people with autism necessarily lack affective empathy, being able to empathize when you know their situation. As you said, many on the spectrum have an abundance of affective empathy.

[@drawnwithlove3499]

For me, I just don't know how to handle or express it properly without doing it... wrong???? Do neurotypical people just have an automatic thing where they know EXACTLY how to deal with someone crying? Is there a secret class for that I don't know of???? Help??????

[@AmberRooster]

@@drawnwithlove3499 I’m sure you could tell your friend that you love/ care about them but aren’t entirely sure how to respond to people crying. It’s okay to say that :)

[@MsLPSFOREVER]

I definitely have a lack of cognitive empathy, but for the most part I'm good on my affective empathy levels.

[@kathybramley5609]

Not a fan of this analysis. I think it's anachronistic cruel misunderstanding of processing and of communication & inferential differences. Biologists equate elephants recognising touching their own foreheads in the mirror as theory of mind equivalents. But lots of sharp technobabble says we have none. It's insulting!

[@kathybramley5609]

The classic smarties in a pencil tube experiment was a kind of behavioural spoonerism, and a leading question.

[@Yours_sincerely_thedreamer]

I have a lot of empathy. Sometimes I wish I wouldn’t, because life would be kind of easier. But I often don’t really know how to show it and what to do, if maybe someone is crying. Shall I give a hug? I hate hugs, but maybe the other person likes it. Shall I ask them questions and show how concerned I am? Or shall I leave them alone? Or distract them? I feel so helpless in situations like these. And fake. I wish I would know how to make the other person feel comfortable...

[@andyrevan]

If I see someone I care about crying I usually end up crying too

[@katieanderson2260]

same

[@gladysolvera6566]

I cry easily even if i don't know the person. I often feel so overwhelmed with my emotions I just stay in my room and talk to no one.

[@222fairydust]

same. i guess neurotypicals said we aren't empathetic because they judge us by our behavior or reaction that isn't accurate to what they define as an empathetic person. i do and feel exactly like you when a person cries or suffers, i feel very bad, i'm worried and i panic because i don't know how to comfort or how this person prefers to be comforted. my brain is also like "i hug them? and if they push me away? do i let them alone to process everything? will they interpret that as me not caring? they want to talk about it? should i ask? if i ask if they prefer a hug, or being left alone is weird? i should naturally know what to do... oh, no, now it's too late, i've been staring with a blank face" and all my life since i was a child people had always misunderstood my staring and interpreted it in a wrong way, as if i'm a creepy person or cold.

[@Kasiarzynka]

@@andyrevan this, plus the OP, I'm like so lost if something like this happens because I never know how to react. I'm a very solution oriented person, I guess, so if someone's crying over say some situation they're in, my mind's gonna go on a rollercoaster of "how could we fix this situation?" Royal we, apparently, as in me and my mind, because it does things on its own sometimes lmao

[@penglingwhisperer3382]

I thought “low key fail” was an autism symptom and I was really curious whatvi was and if i had it lol

[@ZombieMan1997]

Carrie Beckwith-Fellows ME ON A DAILY BASIS THOUGH!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@joanadias8192]

SAME

[@auroraswarriors]

I related so much when you said “I think I’m really good at inferring other people’s thoughts/emotions but maybe that just me being autistic” because I used to think I was so good at it too, until my report came back with my assessment that said I was really bad it 😂😂😂

[@lizgubler2460]

I totally relate to how you are with the rules and schedule things.

[@cd4536]

When I was a kid people would always say talking to me was like talking to a small adult. I was often treated like an adult because of it. That did more harm than good. I think back about it and cringe at how weird and inappropriate so many of my interactions were.

[@drawnwithlove3499]

Very common asd symptom in children. They'll be smart at first but then start declining later in life At least for me

[@cd4536]

@AND ANDREY ISN'T HERE did you ever feel weird and kind of icky after listening to them?

[@ranee5019]

You just described me

[@cd4536]

@@ranee5019 Good to know I am not the only one. Sorry you experienced that.

[@rosexthermite]

adults say im like a small adult as well, but luckily it's not led to situations where adults have gotten too inappropriate. the way i speak when im talking about politics, mental health or my special interests often sounds mature or formal, ESPECIALLY when talking about politics and mental health.

[@-belue-6697]

These list are basically comparing BOYS with Autism VS GIRLS (OR MAL VS FEMALE IF YOU ARE AN ADULT LIKE ME)...FEMALES present quite differently (even though we ALL share a few common traights ofAutism)...But just recently have doctors started to realise the WOMAN and MEN can present their Autistic traights in a myriad of diffent ways...cause boys and girls are different just in general and each person has their own, unique personality...Back in the beginning, the Autism "test" as it were, was created based on the population of little white boys/children (I'm not trying to sound sexists or whatever), but way back it was just a thing that white males had more of a priority and say over woman (different times, different culture)... Females and girls in general tend to maturity wise be a few years ahead of boys or males...If a boy fell behind socially (for example), it tended to also be more obvious...If a woman or a girl fell behind and the Autism "test" being designed for boys and males to begin with...The female or girls would only fall behind socially a few years, which, per the "test" would make them an average boy of the same age...Sothis so woman and girls tend to go ALLOT longer to be diagnosed...If they are lucky a woman or girl might be diagnosed or the subject of Autism will be brought up with a doctor towards their teen years, when the flood of hormones kick in and it gets harder to function without help and all by yourself having Autism that no one picks up on because you are female seem normal based on traights more geared to boys...This is if you are lucky enough, as a girl to be diagnosed anytime during your childhood years... There is a HUGE percentage of woman that develope "coping mechanisms" and learn on big straight as a result of not being diagnosed over time..."mimicking others and their environment"...So, while they are still Autistic, they seem "not Autistic", woman and girls over time had to figure out their Autism on their own... If a female or girl has more "general" Autistic traights or people don't assume that females and girls are just quirky to begin with...Then it might be easier to notice a girl who is Autistic like all the "checklist" say... BUT, if you only have some "typically male Autistic traights" and present differently, because females and girls are intrinsically different than boys to begin with...You get what is commonly referred to amount female Autistics as "missed" and go all the way into Adulthood to even just be noticed by a doctor that allot of your traights are probably and most likely Autistic... Personally, I am 41 years and it was only a few years ago where it clicked with a doctor that I am Autistic and he explained to me the difference between boys/males, females/girls who are Autistic...Even though my whole life and researching these "list of Autistic traights" I knew something was amiss and things in my life made ALLOT of sense... So yeah, sorry for the long post, but these are just statistics and my thoughts on the matter at hand. 🎃 🌈 🤘✌️🖖🙏🏽☯️ 🕊️ ☮️

[@222fairydust]

@Iris Ormond yes, you can still be autistic. there's autistics that joke and uses sarcasm. being on the spectrum is something only you on your own body can know, if you always felt different, like you didn't fit in or people always seemed to know something you don't you probably are. not having some traits doesn't take away your autism. for example i do have trouble telling when people are being serious or joking but i can tell when people are sad, getting annoyed or tired of me because of their subtle facial expressions or tone, and i'm careful with my words and i know when to continue or let it go, i'm not oblivious like the stereotype

[@rachaelsturgess770]

I have 3 different kids with Autism... all have 3 different traits and ways of acting and behaviours. ❤️

[@Dirkschneider]

I am doing my assessment now and I gave been a bit sceptical about it. Mainly because I recognise a lot of autism traits in myself BUT I don't have any of the "weird" ones. I don't have meltdowns in any real sense. I can shut down at times and stand confused for a bit and at one point I went down to my knees because I was so mentally exhausted. But I don't feel these were things totally out of my control. I would have been able to snap out of it if I would have had to. Also, I don't have any main sensory problems. I don't have more trouble with textures and fabrics than most people. I do however avoid noisy places and feel stressed in those places but then, doesn't everybody to some extent? But just because these traits are weird to me it doesn't mean that my "normal" traits doesn't seem weird to others. I rationalise everything about myself that others find odd and they make sense to me. But we will see at the end of this assessment.

[@luanaastralis9991]

I relate to you so much right now

[@thatrelatableautistic]

The moment you realize Chloe has the same 3am schedule as you

[@shayshayxox929]

Even though my older brother who was also autistic, (he has passed away..) presented so differently than for me, I always understood him like no one else, this was before my diagnosis and before his passing, the more I learn about my autism the more our relationship makes sense, how drastically different it was compared to the relationships others had with him. I even realize we had some of the same traits, he just showed them so much more than I did. I miss him so much. But learning and meeting others like us gives me some new connection and insight and I just better understand what we had now 💙

[@charlottebrunt3965]

I saw you at the 1975 concert this year but was to shy to say hi I wish I did

[@everything_i_think2291]

Thank you so much for your videos. My daughter is autistic and I struggle to understand her, it doesn't matter how many books I read. There is no comparison to watching such a natural video. You are very inspiring.

[@autismenlightenment]

Agreed you will learn a lot from content created by individuals w autism. I never understood or recognized that I was autistic until hearing someone on the spectrum describe their experiences. I even worked w kids on the spectrum but the books I read were not accurate. There are many good educators out there now. We can all help each other. Check out amethyst ask an autistic. She had the basic information in a way I could relate and understand.

[@wantingoneangel8976]

Chole, I know that you are a very empathetic person:)!! I so admire your energy and I really like your Wolf Shirt:)!! Thank you for sharing these points of possible Autism symptoms.

[@HawkinaBox]

That formal tone is relatable. I act more mature for my age due to my upbringing, though, and kind of on my own part of how I want to act around people. I have autism, but it's mild.

[@discord1880]

mild autism doesn’t exist acttualy:)

[@mortysmith7673]

@@discord1880 I feel I might have autism cuz it just makes sense, altho I don't really deal with sensory issues so I feel like I wouldn't be considered autistic because of that fact. But I related with a bunch of other stuff, especially in my childhood. So I like to say I have "mild" Autism

[@discord1880]

@@mortysmith7673 u don’t necessarily need sensory issues to ha fr autsium also autisum stays whith u ur whole life so i’m order to have it u still need to relate to traits now ofc not all autisum is difrent for everyone but mild autisum doesn’t exist your probly just high fuctioning guesse what i don’t mean this meanly but ur as autistic as anyone eles non-verbal autistics but ur difrent bc u have strengths that they don’t but u still heav weaknesses and that’s fine that’s just autisum but mild autisum isent acttualy a thing a lot of ppl still think it is

[@ranee5019]

@@mortysmith7673 I'm in the same boat as you. I'm not sure if any kind of autism can be called "mild" as long as the internal struggle is there. It is really hard to pinpoint, and my therapist flat out refused to diagnose me, when in my mind, it couldn't be clearer that I'm autistic. Many adults and/or females often fly under the radar, as masking for years causes us to lose sense of self to the point when we can't distinguish between our "presentable" self and "raw" self. Give yourself time, cut yourself some slack. Take it easy, breathe. Everything will be alright!

[@tabitas.2719]

@@mortysmith7673 I thought I didn't have sensory issues (in part because my entire family is similarly sensitive) until after over a year of living with my (highly sensitive) husband and constantly going "Wait, what, you can't hear that? Your brain can just filter that?".... I just always assumed everyone heard and smelled what/how I did. 😬

[@MsLPSFOREVER]

Okay when you talked about the playing thing, I felt my eyes go wide and the realization of how you described it hit me like a train. I didn't even realize until now that that's how I played

[@aeronprosek7963]

Um...so what you're saying is, normal people don't get dolls just to use them in elaborate stories they puppet them through? What do "normal" people even USE dolls for? I hope this doesn't sound obnoxious. I'm just...what? I didn't...realize that wasn't a normal thing. Uh...

[@shayshayxox929]

The times I appeared rude to others was when I accidentally spoke over people in conversation, everyone in my family who has autism does it, so not only was it something with me, but it’s literally how I was raised to speak. When a manager had a sit down conversation with me about how she knew it wasn’t me being rude and she knew me as a person, she said I could come off as extremely stand offish to others and needed to let people talk and not constantly come back to their statements with my thoughts, explaining things too in depth etc. I went to the bathroom and cried my eyes out, I struggle with trying to restrain myself around people that don’t necessarily get that about me or understand that I don’t intend anything to be hurtful or rude. I just have thoughts constantly flow and making connections and when I make a connection to what someone says it’s as if I HAVE to share it and blurt it out, it can be very hard in a professional setting.

[@steveneardley7541]

I'm half Italian and Italians very commonly interrupt and speak over each other. This kind of behavior is pretty well accepted on the East coast, but now I'm in New Mexico and it is definitely considered rude here.

[@shayshayxox929]

Growing up I was so monotone, when I am not doing well as an adult I am too just so FLAT! But as I got older I was always over the top and still speak “too” quickly, especially when I’m feeling well or excited, or when I am just trying to get through everything without making a “mistake.” At work now I am so overly professional that my managers want to help me try to relax and be more casual, when I run meetings, thankfully they are so supportive since I was able to confide in them about my autism, very thankful for them!

[@barbarradevlin9111]

I just recently found your channel, and after watching your videos on autism, I’m starting to question if I am an autistic woman. I always felt like I was like a chameleon in social situations, matching what my observations of others were. However, if you get me talking about something I love (one of those things being music) I will ramble on and on and on. I also get really jumpy and over expressive and have to be told to lower my voice or calm down when I’m talking about something I’m passionate about. I also have always had anxiety with loud noises and big crowds (unless there is music which seems to always calm me down because it gives me something to focus on). I don’t have many friends and have never been able to keep them for long because I don’t always seem empathetic enough to them even though I deeply care. I know I do have PTSD from a trauma in my young adulthood, but something about my personality just tells me I’m something more? Who would I see to be diagnosed if I am autistic?

[@shemeliahwilson8194]

Barbarra Devlin I’m adult women now and feel I have been misdiagnosed always getting diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I believe it is so much more also . From my understanding u go to ur GP states ur reasons why u feel a test for Autism is needed. Or other option if u have a therapist or counsellor tell them they can do a better referral

[@barbarradevlin9111]

Shemeliah Wilson I live in the US unfortunately, so I’m not sure if it’s the same process here.

[@Dancestar1981]

Ask for a referral to a clinical psychologist who specialises in autism spectrum disorder in adults and women for a test

[@barbarradevlin9111]

@@Dancestar1981 thank you 🙏🏻

[@Avesim13]

How do you have the cutest clothes in every video? 🥺 I so appreciate your videos. If it weren't for people like you, I probably never would have found out I'm autistic, and finding that out has been the biggest relief. ❤️

[@firefly7076]

10:12 Exactly! This made my mom tell me autistic people don’t have empathy (which is bs because both she was in *my* space, and I have a thousand anecdotes to disprove it)

[@waffle2529]

One of my earliest memories of my childhood was saying good morning to someone we walked past, randomly. I was about 5 so it was pretty unlike a 5 year old, and my mum and this stranger got so confused lmao. Mimicking at its best ✌️

[@JennyJinKs]

"i had imagination but it was MY imagination no one else was allowed into it" i felt that so hard i spit onto my keyboard trying to hold a laugh xD -i was doing something else while watching as per usual so i wasn't really expecting to hear it-

[@stephblair7245]

Im with you on the just not caring of others perspectives (that does sound bad, doesn't it). Whilst I believe I am one of the least judgemental people, it takes a lot to convince me of your opinion if it does not match my own. Whilst I will listen and attempt to understand, I won't let it influence myself. These checklists make me certain of my autism also!

[@Mahala_Jo]

We are so alike! You make me so excited! I relate to you so much. Like my only difference from you is the picky eater, and rule following is super important to me. I also love your use of hand gestures I do it so much and it puts your point across so well

[@NoOne-wt6om]

I have always been extremely imaginative but I have monotone voice and I struggle with being empathetic towards others and I'm disorganized and I avoid social situations.

[@cheynaynay57]

The want to follow rules but can’t is literally me and that’s my intersection between autism and ADHD. They fight with rules and structure 😂

[@katiekat4235]

I was just thinking about the empathy thing. I think that we think and feel so much for others, that showing it is really unbalanced. In my experience, I share so much with other people, gifts, complements, phone calls, run errands for or with others...others just dont reciprocate. So I dont understand why doctors and others say we dont reciprocate when many times it's others who dont empathize with us. Or maybe that's more like giving instead-because I have a difficult time giving or receiving in the moment. And can do it on my own without receiving anything beforehand or in return. So maybe the person genuinely doesnt receive what I give them nor do they care about what I gave them. Anyone else?

[@steveneardley7541]

I relate to what she blurted out--"I understand other people's points of view but just don't care." I think with the level of confusion in the autistic brain, we spend an awful lot of time processing our own thoughts and emotions and that leaves less time and energy for other people. And what you say is true. I don't see a whole lot of effort from anyone else to understand ME. The "lacking empathy" thing is just BS.

[@ktkat6887]

When I was a kid I used to 'direct' scenes with my dolls in which they would be constantly switching bodies or a spell would be cast changing their moral beliefs. Eventually I would lose track of who was originally good and who was originally bad so I'd restart the whole thing. Yeah I was a weird kid. I also typically called classmates by their full names instead of nicknames unless they asked not to be called by their full name. For example if a kid was named Camron but everybody called them Cam. I would still say Camron. If your name was Alexander I would call you Alex though because that was my cousin's name and he hated being called Alexander so it would just be weird. Anyway I found this video very insightful. I haven't been diagnosed yet. But I'm pretty sure I am and am trying to gather a list of traits for when I approach my doctor about it.

[@amymclellan583]

I'm a fellow aspie! You're very cute, blueberry pip and all. Sending love from the UK x

[@prunedance1]

So glad to know I'm not the only person awake at 2am crying over beautiful ballet dancers gold buzzers on WGT🤣🤣

[@calooptes]

where did you get your shirt? i absolutely love it!

[@chrissiel9230]

Can you pretty please do a make up tutorial with that glitter and the purple highlighter you use? 😍

[@sakurayume375]

Most of the ones you don’t have, I have 😂

[@nathdominguezmazhari1094]

Girl, your shirt is so amazing. I spent a good time during the video just looking at how awesome it looks. Also, a few days ago I was reviewing traits with a friend and I was also like, god, I definitely am autistic. 😂

[@Mrfurball25]

You have a really cool personality

[@lawrence_ellis]

Rules and routines...do you have also have ADHD? I have ADHD and I have huge problems with needing routines badly but not sticking to them, then everything getting hectic and stressful, then the world feeling like its collapsing around me because of not having routines. I feel like it may be a ASD/ADHD clash.

[@Moana_moo]

Honestly same. Like i have adhd and often wonder if i ain’t on the spectrum as well but i don’t like rules and routines but in my case i definitely have more adhd traits

[@oh_rhythm]

U are seriously extremely beautiful

[@shirleymylers7541]

hi I love your videos and can really relate to most of them because a couple days after my 13th birthday I got diagnosed with autism and my mom started to cry right in front of me when she found out because she felt so guilty ,ever since kindergarten I can remember getting bullied and made fun of because I was quirky and different now I'm going into high school and my mom and I were worried because I am getting bullied so much so we are going to do this program where it teaches parents to homeschool their children and I was just wondering if you can share your experience on being homeschooled and have any tips. thanks

[@Queen_mammabee]

“I’ve something stuck in my teeth” posts anyway possibly coz she’ll never word it the same again....me ...I accidentally deleted a well worded article on my fb group...I wasn’t as satisfied with the wording I used to redo the article 😭😭😭 literally cried for a solid hour

[@meghanb8319]

I relate to you so so much! I've had a lot people tell me I don't seem autistic because I don't show a lot of the traits you talked about in this video, but you also don't have them which makes me feel valid

[@ThisMyHandle.]

It’s so brave of u to post this even tho u don’t think it’s perfect. And THAT makes it perfect. Anyway, thank you for these videos. You are helping me understand my baby daughter so much and I see hope for her future seeing you even tho she has the diagnosis. It scared me but u are so gorgeous you are softening my heart and showing me she can live a normal life. THANK GOD. God bless you girlie.

[@hazelmoran9022]

Love the video! I barley noticed the blueberry! Through your videos I have learned sooooo much about autism and I've noticed that I have a lot of autism traits but I don't know how to let my parents know what I've noticed. Any advise?

[@chloeshayden]

Hazel Moran buy them a rainbow cake and pop out of the closet saying ‘SURPRISE! IM AUTISTIC!!’ Or maybe sit them down and tell them there’s something you want to talk about- might work better!

[@rosexthermite]

@@chloeshayden hey, i kinda have a question as well. so, when i was 4, my parents tried to get me diagnosed with autism. i only drank my juice when it was at a certain spot on the counter, i was terrified of sensored toilets (and staff members at my school treated me like shit for using the big bathroom (because it had a toilet seat and would cover the camera so it wouldn't randomly flush on me) to the point where they put a staff only sign even though no staff members used it just to keep me away from that bathroom stall for no reason), i was partially non-verbal, i refused to go barefoot and still refuse to go barefoot, i always had mental breakdowns because i felt no one understood me (keep in mind i was 4 to 7 while i would think things like this and have mental breakdowns), i was bad at comprehending what anyone was saying to me and i would ask excessive questions, etc. yet, the psychologist ONLY had me do an IQ test for my age group, nothing else to diagnose me, and decided to say that i had 60 iq when that wasn't the case. i just couldn't answer the questions because of my lack of comprehension and speech. i was told i had anger issues and a learning disability my whole life and simply believed it and thought that was why i was different. but now, as i still show autistic traits (and possibly adhd traits (rejection dysphoria and inattentiveness being a few) since being autistic and having adhd is a common combination) and am starting to recognize them better, im beginning to really suspect im autistic. i don't know what to do next because, although my parents would both love to take me to get a diagnosis again, mom keeps forgetting (partially because her adhd consists of memory loss), and my dad has to work consistently. im scared of reminding my mom because im scared of confrontation in general and i don't wanna be a burden on my dad while he's trying to work for our financially struggling family. what should i do? edit: also, fun fact of the day, i have both a monotone voice and an uncontrollably loud voice!! how is that possible? i don't even know

[@Unicorn.Trucker1987]

I haven't been diagnosed, but I feel like I have a few traits that could potentially mean Im on the spectrum. I say things without realizing if they're mean (for example, I said something to my cousin absentmindedly and she got offended. It was apparently about her kids. I didn't know and still don't know what I said to this day). Certain things will irritate me. Even if they are small and can't be helped. Like if I'm riding in a car with someone and they're going over bumps and I'm trying to type something on my phone or read something and the bumps irritate me so much I want to snap. The other day when I was stopped to double drop and hook some trailers, we didn't drop the trailer straight so I got frustrated trying to back under it that I threw my glove at the trailer and just threw a fit because it was late and I wanted to go home for my hometime. There's also more but these have been the moments that might consider me on the spectrum

[@breadsotrue]

ahh this is so reassuring!! i also don’t have some of those traits but do have some

[@babyprincessplayground4250]

Me got autism ddlg abdl age regression little space my channel

[@cubeception4561]

Ones I do and don’t have, (no one cares but lol) 1: yep I definetly have that except when I’m masking 2: yeah. No volume control at all. 3: the way I speak is always seen as more mature than other people I know. 4: no, absolutely not. I have a pretty good imagination if I do say so myself, but I would never play with other people and I would always tell people what they could do in *my* game. 5: No. i do have a lot of empathy. But I can’t show my emotions very well. 6: I’m ok... 7: YES ABSOLUTELY! I always tell people off and tell a teacher if they break a rule. Same with grammar. Also I never make rules I don’t like. 8: yep! 9: same, only if I’m interested in it. I don’t like doing that. 10: YES! I am very shy and anxious until I know you well. 11: yes I do. I’m always told that I’m really rude but I don’t understand why. 12: yeah absolutely I have to do the same things. 13: same: only tennis for me. 14: I don’t sleep. 15: I eat nothing. The plainest things only. 16: yep. 17: why do you have to come at me like that? (I have like 2 friends...)

[@Roo.Marion]

10 years older than me Youknow we could be best friends we are do similer

[@456ceres9]

Chloe this talk really helped me and thanks for the one that you had at ceres it was so good

[@heikanaomi4426]

Omg ...I watched this for my kid cause she is autistic...but this made slapped me in the face that I am absolutely as well

[@aceb1249]

hi, so i've been doing a lot of research and learning about autism and it's made me realise i identify with a lot of the symptoms/characteristics. i'm 13, is it worth it to go get tested?

[@natalieedelstein]

Would love to see your chosen checklists to look at the traits I don't have. There are only a few I can think of that I don't have at all, but there are several that I don't typically have outside of when I'm in severe sensory overload.

[@joannesmith6819]

"Empathy" and "emotion" are not synonymous.

[@shinekitten7669]

duuuuude i always used to set up houses and neighborhoods for all my stuffed animals and sort them all into families by species but i never knew what to do after that so i just,,, didn't play games with them unless other people were around who knew how to do that lol

[@FutureAuth0r]

I used to make people out of cardboard and create a scene. I was like a director and actor/ actress

[@ash4794]

Your personality is soooo dazzling and lovely 😭 I love your energy and style✨ stay sparkly

[@rizzyrem]

Lol great vid. You helped me a lot more than any doctor

[@nicholibostwick1190]

This video caused me to subscribe...I love your enthusiasm!

[@Kimberlyjeana]

I love how real you are girl

[@mimicoolll0]

ughh i have a very monotone voice, i speak quiet formally most of the time too. (i also speak really quietly sometimes and people can never hear me) some of my school friends would get really mad because they think im uninterested in the conversation because i sound bored. they would also think i fake talking "proper" when thats literally how i've always been i never decided one day i would talk formally i just naturally do it lol.

[@mimicoolll0]

i feel like i have a kinda interesting imagination .. i used to have a school for my stuffed animals, various other dolls, and my dogs and i would genuinely teach them what i learned in school and i had a white board and everything

[@tamaraholloway9634]

I'm not diagnosed. Like over 20 yrs ago was evaluated but at that time little about the spectrum was known outside specialists. Idk if I'll try again since I'm almost 50 and used to my ways. I had to 😆 over the crying over commercials. I'm just like WHY am I crying over a dumb commercial? Btw on your unusual traits vid I totally feel you on sense of justice over the teacher wrongly saying a word you used you knew existed. I had a teacher who hated me because she said I was always trying to prove her wrong. I was only trying to correct the record. I just wanted to know and share what was right. As students shouldn't we be taught what's true? The more adult autist vids I watch, the more sure I am one.

[@LaceyMyriah]

“DIRECTING” while playing is an excellent way to put it!! Is it any wonder I ended up in stage management, directing, and bar management lol

[@laurajunio4911]

For those who do not recognize autism in girls and how it differs, go to the childmind.org and you will see why girls differ from the old believed standard symptoms of Autism. Some guys with lighter variations also fall into this category. Dr. Epstein discusses how many autistic girls are misdiagnosed with ADHD instead of Autism when they are indeed Autistic and that can lead to depression , anxiety and loss of self-esteem.

[@prunedance1]

I'm vegan too yay!! And sometimes follow rules vehemently but have also been arrested, fined and sent to court soooooo 🤣😜💕

[@Fabala827]

Why is it such a faux pas to have something in your teeth, anyway?? I feel like people get so awkward about it, they try to subtly hint or whisper about it or whatever, and it just doesn’t seem like it should be an embarrassing thing?? Like, you ate food (as do most humans), you got something in your teeth (again, as EVERYONE who eats orally has done)….so what????

[@georgerobins4110]

Oh I just realized I absolutely did the “just make scenes” with the toys and not actually playing with them Welp

[@daisyandpaul]

No empathy huh I show about to much I am like a mother to my friend

[@Barfigarfi]

The playing with toys description when you were little is exactly how I used to play. I had to be directing it and everything had to match be part of the set, Barbie’s and bratz DID NOT go together etc lol

[@pruedence110588]

I started life out so excessively emotional and empathetic towards everyone and everything, but people poke fun at you, act disgusted by it, say you're overreacting or exaggerating for attention etc etc etc. So... we shut that shit down bc "normal" people have shown us that its not "normal" and not acceptable to show to people.

[@rawanmohy1768]

I didn't know that lining up toys and imagining scenes with them wasn't considered playing by neurotypicals until now 😅, then how do neurotypicals play with toys then 🤔?

[@Funky-Chicken-678]

I love how she said "thankyou for coming to my tex talk" and she litterally gave one a few days ago. How far she has come is incredible 🎉

[@aiya3130]

I would seriously give a year of my life to not have the monotone voice and flat affect. It's so frustrating!!!!!!

[@innovationsanonymous8841]

Curry and lacto fermentation is how I stopped avoiding entire food groups.

[@MxSae]

I relate to this video a lot, I’ve been thinking that maybe I’m not autistic since I don’t have certain traits but this video is very validating.

[@mysticallyra7652]

I have autism and I don’t hand flap or rock back and forth but I do fidget, I rub my fingers a lot.

[@mrriches2355]

I’ve got High functioning ✔️ Autism ✔️ Anxiety ✔️ Mono tone speech✖️ Speech loud um control✔️ Sound like adult✔️ Plus theys traits are the ones I have Lack of imagination 🤷‍♀️ No empathy ✖️ Gets angry alot✔️ Understand feeling ✔️ Listen to rules ✖️ Clumsy ✔️ Shy✖️✖️✖️ Plus I am on my brothers channel ima girl Appear to be rude to others✔️ Try to be in boy sport✔️ Eats one thing no I eat milk dairy nut stuff that’s it ✖️

[@mikayla7260]

12:40 I know this is just your opinion and I don’t really care at all, buuutt as someone who is trying to go vegan, I’m screaming that you can’t have red bell peppers, tomatoes, raspberries, strawberries, watermelon, red apples, liiikkkee I love tomatoes, strawberries, and watermelon so much lol.

[@bringer-of-change]

Honestly I don't think I would have even noticed until you mentioned it lol

[@TheAp397]

umm duos it cuont if my frends hate me and betrad me just cuese i stepped on thare toes

[@kunadiaries1181]

I get excited and my voice is like.. nah. Lol

[@darkblade9745]

6:29 that facts a lie , autistic people are very creative

[@freyaboer9137]

i wouldnt have noticed the thing in ur teeth if u didnt point it out LMAO

[@mr.guydude]

So on average you only cry once per day? Lucky.

[@Nambazi]

I had someone tell me I speak like I write my emails.

[@autisticme8592]

Loved your video and shared it on my page

[@jacobthellamer]

Cool glasses

[@maggierestivo5256]

Are you against paganism? I am a Medium and a Wiccan (Witch)...and, thanks to you...I am realizing I am ADHD, and autistic....but it doesn't stop me from talking to spirits..and crossing them over...and talking to gods. I am 60, and I bless you for what you are doing. You are truly a Beautiful Soul.....I am in awe of you. Keep on doing what you are doing.....it is your soul's mission. You are a Healer, like me. Blessed Be! Adorable One!

[@mel4340]

i really don't know if i just have anxiety or autism... I'm losing my mind. I already told my mom about my suspicion but i regret it, i don't know if i have it or if i'm faking it so i can have an excuse to be who i am.

[@quigli]

Hey, so I'm genuinely curious about this, so please don't take it as an attack: What are your thoughts on riding horses as a vegan? I'm assuming you don't see whatever it is you're doing as exploitation so I'm curious as to how and why. You mentioned you teach children to ride the horses, which depending on a lot of other variables in the situation, I could see as possibly not harmful to the horses, but what about adult humans? Anyways again, this really isn't meant as an attack at all, I'm just really curious about your opinion on it. I also have no idea what you do with the horses other than what you've said in this video, as I just found your channel, and I'm trying to keep an open mind and not judge what you're doing at all until I know what it actually is, because I'm sure that you care a great deal about your horses and animals in general.

[@PaigeHawkins23]

Omg I love your shirt!!!

[@JaggedUnicorn]

I doubt anyone knows but I'll try anyways. I need to get that shirt!! I love it so much, foxes are my absolute favorite animal! Pls pls pls, if anyone knows where I can find one please tell me!

[@JaggedUnicorn]

@Kawaiipony Productions yess! :,,O

[@ninjanerdstudent6937]

I see the blueberry now!