Procrastination and Low Self Esteem Explained | Viewer Question Response

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Dr David Maloney Psychotherapy

Dr David Maloney Psychotherapy

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@SarahElise-so3sy
@SarahElise-so3sy 4 жыл бұрын
This video deserves millions of views.. all those motivational videos really are superficial, and yeh, they may work for the moment- but you need to get to the root CAUSE of procrastination, if you really wanna hit the nail on the head. I know for a fact- from an objective point of view- and not just because of my own experience, but many others as well.. whether they, themselves are aware of it, or not- that it all comes down to self esteem and self worth. From there, you can really build on discipline, and all of the other qualities you need, in order to succeed.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
Sarah, thanks for your thoughtful comment. Completely agree, it's all about self esteem ultimately. When we address this, all the behavioral symptoms handle themselves as a result. And there are ways to build healthy self-esteem :)
@Heidi-ih9ej
@Heidi-ih9ej 3 жыл бұрын
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy what are the ways?
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Inquiry and healthy boundaries
@annunderwood8025
@annunderwood8025 3 жыл бұрын
This was incredibly helpful for me… I was in a very toxic relationship about a year and four months ago. This relationship lasted over two years and was damaging to me in ways I cant even begin to explain. After working with a mentor/coach, I was able to see how my past played a role in my choosing this person ... and also staying with this person longer than anyone healthy would have. It brought every single wound to the service… things that I needed to deal with. After healing a good amount, I found the last thing I was left with was the depression and procrastination still lingering. Your video helped me in so many ways. Thank you for giving information that I could actually apply. I’m going to try all this and hopefully it will work! God bless you!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Great to hear Ann. Best of luck as you continue to grow and heal 🙏
@l.w.paradis2108
@l.w.paradis2108 3 жыл бұрын
Even these tips are great: a schedule can be soothing in a way to-do lists never are. Challenging tasks can never be placed on a "to-do" list, because their accomplishment is not guaranteed. How to train yourself to do those sorts of things is not obvious. Our first jobs are never challenging, and they train us to do what we do because we have to, and because they pay us.
@icethecream746
@icethecream746 11 ай бұрын
thank you so much, I’ve been periodically procrastinating for a long time and can never bring myself to study until a few hours before the test due to low self esteem and indecisiveness I’m going to implement these strategies. Once again thank you very much!
@ks-xd2dj
@ks-xd2dj Жыл бұрын
Thanks for putting these pieces of the puzzle together. It all makes sense now why I keep punishing myself for nothing.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Жыл бұрын
Glad to help!
@HuyNgo-mm7gh
@HuyNgo-mm7gh 2 жыл бұрын
This is so underrated. Amazing! Thank you very much.
@fatimaal-haidar294
@fatimaal-haidar294 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much dr.David! 🌷 Great approach and tips I appreciate your time and efforts!🙏🏻
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
Keep me posted Fatima. You can do it!
@igor-yp1xv
@igor-yp1xv 2 жыл бұрын
Useful advice, thanks.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@ananyafilscation
@ananyafilscation 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Ananya 🙏
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
Do you struggle with Procrastination? If so, do you feel that working on your self-esteem has been helpful or something you want to start working on? Thanks for watching. I reply to all comments so feel free to share your experiences here.
@nl9453
@nl9453 2 жыл бұрын
you are an angel sent by Source to save my life
@TCTCTCTCTC
@TCTCTCTCTC 3 жыл бұрын
New subscriber here after just finding you/this video. I’ve watched many a self help/procrastination video, and never ever heard that strategy about making a consequence (ie no more work allowed for the day, if you’ve not started working at the time you planned). The idea of removing the indecision is so incredibly helpful and insightful, I’m so grateful for you sharing your time and knowledge here. Thank you!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Very welcome. Try this technique for a month. I have found it to be extremely effective.
@chosilyfala1483
@chosilyfala1483 3 жыл бұрын
Bonjour. Quand je vous ai écoutée, je le suis enfant puis ado, ou je ressentais un éternel How dare u"quand je demandais quelque chose a ma mère. A chaque fois elle l'insultait et me disait : " c'esi pas pour toi" avec beaucoup d'ironie. Je me suis toujours sentie écrasée par ces paroles, mais le"comment tu oses" que je sentais dans son attitude venait de ce que mon visage lui montrait" je n'étais pas d'accord avec elle, et pas contente. Je lui montrais que je remettais son jugement en cause, et en plus que je la jugeais, et elle ne supportait la ¢a,même si je n'avais pas le droit de parles:elle le frappait l'insultait et criait toile temps. J'ai 76 ans et je n'arrive toujours pas a m'en sortir. Merci d'avoir fait émerger ce how dare u de mon inconscient. Merci.
@jafarpeirovy-khah8322
@jafarpeirovy-khah8322 2 жыл бұрын
thank you super man
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Welcome 👍
@martamanno22
@martamanno22 4 жыл бұрын
very well said 🌍🌎🌏 thank you Mr Maloney
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Marta.
@evandahsteadman7432
@evandahsteadman7432 4 жыл бұрын
Great stuff!
@thatwickedsmahttraumachick
@thatwickedsmahttraumachick 3 жыл бұрын
I feel this switch of saying I want to do this I’m on an adventure will be what moves me. I need to do videos for my company and my thing is what do I say I’ll sound like an idiot I stumble I can’t even introduce myself etc. plus I have chronic pain so the whole showering do hair and makeup just to sit and fail at the computer thing. It’s heavy. But I’m going to try this new self talk. Ok keep you updated. Thank you 🙏
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Please do Rene. I'm rooting for you 🙏
@avertingapathy3052
@avertingapathy3052 2 жыл бұрын
Actually caught myself doing some of this semi consciously or rather became aware of it, and the anxiety/ resentment that was bringing the behavior about. Or at least, inability to catch myself/lack of willpower support when behaviors / thoughts emerged out of the unconscious, just dissociated some to observe. This is a bit of a non-sequitor but CBT could actually make this worse if you are constantly focused on changing thoughts or patterns. Good to see psychoanalytic training is paying off. A year plus of motivational content has only made things worse or at least wasn't helpful.
@beachandbluesky1
@beachandbluesky1 3 жыл бұрын
Great video!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@thepropertychannel8445
@thepropertychannel8445 3 жыл бұрын
great content thank you man root is low Este punish self overwh build Este small st be kind
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@raccuia1
@raccuia1 4 жыл бұрын
I used to procrastinate but now, um, I'm not so sure.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
:)
@banugulecyuz9089
@banugulecyuz9089 12 күн бұрын
I have one question here-- if video game addiction (which feels good) for an individual with low self esteem, social anxiety, and procrastination issues, is there advice you can provide in this way as well? Turning to something comfortable that turns the mind off like video games... is it something that your advice in this video can also work through. Many thanks!
@mejo592
@mejo592 2 жыл бұрын
How can I know if i require therapy.Im extremely low on self esteem and it literally affects my day day to day life.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Best thing is not to make any long term commitment. Just try it and see how you feel. Intuitively you'll know if it is helpful to you personally. I have found it can be very helpful and is something you should allow yourself to try if you're at all curious.
@inatorquoisemood93
@inatorquoisemood93 2 жыл бұрын
👍👍👍
@barbarabologna6702
@barbarabologna6702 2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same!!!!!!! Hope the guy saw this, studied and went to the US. Do you have other suggestions/tips if someone like me procrastinates, has low self esteem and, plus, ADHD? 😂😂
@rahulgill936
@rahulgill936 4 жыл бұрын
Hi David very good video.i need to ask (it’s late for me I know)how can I overcome my porn addiction.though I m married but it’s not going away.please help me out.its ruining my life on daily basis inside my head.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Rahul. If you'd like to flesh out your question in more detail, email: david@drdavidmaloney.com
@jamesaaron5046
@jamesaaron5046 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Rahul, I think the first step, begins by loving yourself unconditionally. That you will only engage in acts that's beneficial to your wellbeing, and reject those that dose not left your spirit at the end and make you feel guilty. Self-love, gives you utmost ability to sefl-control and emotions mastering. The power to do and not to do anything is in your hands, so anytime you feel the impulse for porn, within that 3 seconds, change the thought to something better or walk a way. Try this consistently, you will mastery your mind and become more self-discipline.
@chosilyfala1483
@chosilyfala1483 3 жыл бұрын
How dare u : je me sentais constemment rabaissée et diminuée ,et j'ai toujours tache de me cacher ces sentiment ts-sensationd physiques. Beaucoup de honte et bien sur aucune estime de moi mais c'était inconscient.
@TerrileeYO
@TerrileeYO Жыл бұрын
having a websiteto go with u tube channel is extremely out dated and useless
@TerrileeYO
@TerrileeYO Жыл бұрын
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