Protect Yourself from TOXIC Relationships Now!

[@tessjones5987]

I am so co-dependent. I am learning to wait 3 weeks before I act like a savior. I get so wrapped up in other peoples problems; that they cause themselves; that it is hard to not give away the farm. I am 72 and I attract people(almost strangers) who start crying and telling me all their problems. It almost works. Now I wait 3 weeks and than I can create non-codependent response.

[@carriehobbes2448]

Thanks for sharing this!!! This is great advice - I also struggle with White Knight Rescuer Syndrome

[@DrDanielFox]

It’s great that you’re recognizing this pattern and taking steps to create healthier boundaries! Self-awareness is a powerful tool, and waiting before jumping in can really make a difference.

[@sparklingloveandlight]

What about a partner that holds grudges every time they feel upset by anything? And constantly brings it up and makes you the problem

[@DrDanielFox]

Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s important to talk about these dynamics, and I appreciate you opening up about it.

[@nikishh7407]

Run

[@Ana_DayTmian]

I'd say it highly depends on what you've done to make ademnds (if anything), as well as in which situations it's being mentioned. If they only bring it up when they want/need something (including your forgiveness for something they've done), it's a no-brainer. Still, a lot of people expect to be forgiven without doing anything to make it right... some won't even apologise.

[@Vixinaful]

Sounds typically narcissistic. Cluster B. Get the hell away.

[@Ana_DayTmian]

@@Vixinaful not all cluster B disorders are created equal

[@user-gb7vx5qu3h]

When offering service to others, boundaries are essential. Make it clear what you are offering and what you are not offering, at the outset, and stick to it.

[@DrDanielFox]

Thanks for sharing.

[@aldebaranredstar]

Thank you, Dr. Fox, this is very helpful. I think I have a codependency because giving to others seems to be a way that I validate myself. And I’m always listening to people’s problems and trying to be helpful and and I don’t feel that it’s reciprocated very often. It’s like you’re giving strokes, but you’re not getting strokes. I think my way of getting close to people is giving to them, listening to them and basically being like an unpaid life coach. Time for a change!

[@BloodSavedMe]

Same.

[@carriehobbes2448]

Often happens when the only way we had to feel connection was to become a parents parent- or to listen to others problems outside of the family in a desperate bid to be seen and valued. Very painful!

[@j.f.1982]

I'm actually scared of how accurate this is. I love my wife but I believe we married way too soon to know each other and I started living with her before I knew what I was getting into. She is trying to change I think, but it never has fully stopped to be controlling in some way or another; and when she is in a good place and we are not fighting she is very supportive and kind of love-bombs me into feeling bad for believing she has been controlling; but she has made me stop talking with friends before, she has also caused me a bunch of issues at work because she fought me in the morning or was always jealous of things she made up in her mind about me having affairs. Right now this all calmed down a lot but I do feel f-ing exhausted and burned out both by work and by putting out fires.

[@aldebaranredstar]

Good luck. Sounds like you need some alone time.

[@carriehobbes2448]

If she is actively aware of her problems and working on them somehow - therapy, self awareness, shadow work, inner child work (these areNOT easy!) then there is hope for her to heal and for you to be happier in the relationship. If there is no active self work, then it’s unlikely things will change. I’ve exhausted myself working on myself for decades to heal from a very tough childhood and toxic family dynamics. But my partners have ALWAYS told me they’re proud of me because I have worked and worked so hard to heal. Even my therapist reflected it years ago - once she retired I couldn’t find someone and did what I could to keep healing and learning healthier dynamics. I’ve done this while struggling with major physical health issues and financial worries and intense isolation from family and society. It takes true grit. But it means I now have a wonderful partner who is so kind and is helping me heal even more, it’s team work! I share this in the hope of helping. This is what it looks like when someone is dedicated to healing. Their partnerships get healthier and the partner will FEEL the dedication and see improvement over time. My partner is not my punching bag - I love him deeply and even now am wracked with guilt and remorse if the old patterns take over. I punish myself much more than he wants me to. I’m trying to learn to be kinder to myself through his love. He is free to leave and chooses to be with me. I hope this helps you see that even a person with problems can learn to get better. But THEY need to be working on it first and foremost. You can’t do it alone for them!

[@JoleneValdovinos]

I was diagnosed with ADD, ptsd, dyslexia My ex-husband was diagnosed with BPD . Our relationship only lasted 15 years but it was a very interesting one, just like you described. I love your videos because they makes me understand better all my past relationships and at the same time ( like a mirror) see myself and recognize my needs.

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm glad to hear that my videos resonate with you! Understanding our past relationships can be such an enlightening journey. Thank you for sharing your experience!

[@emmiolim9055]

Thanks much for mentioning parent-adult child dynamics as normally it’s always parents’ fault.. I believe that the approach I mentioned doesn’t benefit anyone.

[@DrDanielFox]

I appreciate your insight! It's important to recognize the complexities of parent-adult child dynamics. Open discussions can lead to better understanding for everyone involved.

[@happybergner9832]

Thank you, Dr Fox. !!!

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@bondwoman44]

Great stuff as always.

[@DrDanielFox]

I appreciate that I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@baraaabuasal5626]

What do I do if I am the parasitic partner? ............

[@Dawnarow]

The intro got me skeptical (power struggle, energy and chakra.. made up the last one, but those got me rolling my eyes), but I know better than to judge without perspective. Solid video. Only a few mistakes about the fact that some folks aren't diagnosed and would pickup only 1/4th of this to use against actually good people caught at their whims. Kind of an impossible task, but I have a lot of respect for those who try :) Thank you!

[@DrDanielFox]

I appreciate your open-mindedness! It's always great to get different perspectives and insights. Thanks for watching!

[@yakyssim]

How do I do this by myself? How do I try & heal, deal with the mess that my ex left me in financially & with the house? I divorced him after 20 years of narcissistic abuse, all kinds of mental abuse. But when he left he left me with everything to deal with on my own. All of the animals, all the house repairs & maintenance not to mention the emotional mess I'm trying to deal with. I'm so overwhelmed & my anxiety is worse than it's ever been. I have nobody to help me and I feel like I'm about ready to just collapse. How do I do this on my own?

[@aldebaranredstar]

You shouldn’t be on your own. You need friends or therapist or a church or something as a support system.

[@yakyssim]

@aldebaranredstar unfortunately I don't have that option. My friends & family live in other states. I haven't been able to get a therapist yet.

[@sonyaparkin7841]

💚💚💚💚💚

[@SuzanneLegendre]

So the parasite is a narcissist, like my ex I just dumped, literally last night!

[@sysye]

Congratulations 🎉 your life is going to be so much better now

[@DrDanielFox]

Glad this was helpful.

[@CB19087]

Sad thing is with personality disorders, the other person genuinely doesn't understand why you feel used. Emotional immaturity doesn't facilitate self reflection. Its very sad for all involved. Don't bother explaining. Just set the boundary

[@DrDanielFox]

You're absolutely right. It's tough when emotional immaturity prevents meaningful understanding. Setting clear boundaries is so important for everyone's well-being.

[@CB19087]

@DrDanielFox The trick is to set boundaries from the start... something I never seem to do 🤣

[@KingBlack804]

Parasitic Relationships is better than being alone.

[@DrDanielFox]

It's interesting how some people feel that even unhealthy relationships can feel less isolating than being alone. It's all about finding the balance, right?

[@sundusadan6385]

Its really not you can have your relationship needs met in platonic relationships such as friends, family and meet and date then be in a draining relationship which isolates you hence you feel lonely without them

[@bhaveshoza7142]

Excellent video sir.

[@Brosepha]

I dont think so but many of us are in a bad relationship because its better than being broke.

[@silverbulletgarage309]

No actually it’s not

[@kat-75]

Thats not love.

[@TiffLive-ce2gh]

Why do they think their GOD? And do they ever know thier Devilish

[@amandaschield5247]

I had a very parasitic friendship I ended a few years ago. This is a fitting description of how it is. I’m the villain in her story but it’s been worth my peace 🤍

[@Brosepha]

I tend to attract needy people and am dealing with 2 friends who border on parasitic. Maybe its ny fault, I cant be anyones savior.