How Do I Help My Child Cope with Anxiety?

Dr. Anne Marie Albano, Director of ‪@ColumbiaPsych‬ Clinic for Anxiety and Related Disorders, wrote the parenting guides on the treatment of childhood anxiety disorders, social phobia, and school refusal behavior.
In this episode of Ask the Expert, we will cover:
- What is childhood anxiety?
- How does anxiety happen?
- The importance of self-soothing and deep breathing
- How to help your child cope with social anxiety
- Motivation for your child for positive behavior change
And more!
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[@LindaHernandez-dd7eu]

My daughter had a hard time staying in school today, she's had anxiety since she was 4, she is in middle school now, she texted me minutes after telling me to pick her up and I was listening to this video and decided not to answer her text and help her cope through it 💔 it's so hard but I'm not going to live forever, she had an appointment with a psychiatrist this Wed. Wish me luck 🙏

[@MarMore13]

Ugh this happened to me on Friday for the first time with my daughter..I ended up taking her home😏 how have you dealt with ot fir this long?

[@GloomyStrawberries]

Give her some coping strategies until you find one that works for her

[@ingridugarteche4301]

Oh my goodness! My son has started middle school and he’s called me about 4 times to pick him up because he gets really sick at school, bellyaches, nausea, headache and there I go flying to his rescue. When we get home he get better and I thought he’s just being a brat to get his way! Now I’ve realized he’s suffering from anxiety disorder! It runs in my family but I never thought one of my kids coil have it! This information is very helpful and all of you are a great support to others! Thank you! The world is a mess right now and children pick up on that! Lets make their world a beautiful place with compassion and love!!

[@oneineuniceson9148]

@@GloomyStrawberries “Coping” strategies. The best thing is to work on the root of the issue so that they don’t have to cope for the rest of their lives. So they can excel. Therapists can help in some aspects. There are MANY other ways.

[@amnanaeem2328]

My 12 year is not going to school. I am going to start home school and slowly start making her go to school again. But she throws tantrums and is violent and even threatens me. The video really helped me and I will really start practicing all the valuable knowledge and insight I gained today

[@sameasyou3246]

If I could give this a million like I would..so informative and answer all my questions please do more on this topic thank you

[@triscolee]

Dr Anne...amazing session and learnt so much.

[@Yummycuisine269_230]

Thank you so much for this useful podcast🙏🙏🙏 I learned a lot 🙏

[@cherie2571]

I do agree with this teaching and have applied these ideas with my 11yr old daughter but as a 45 year old parent who has social anxiety and have had therapy I still have a real genuine fear of people.

[@PsychHub]

Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.

[@TracyEllennn]

This is great! Learned a lot. Very informative.

[@rahimaalblooshi5495]

Dr anne is amazing

[@corazonokinyo6324]

This was just fantastic, l have learnt so much. I now understand more

[@debnewton9567]

I learned a lot. Thank you. I was very stressed out before listening to the post cast. Due to my son's dyslexia and anxiety.. Thanks again.

[@PsychHub]

Thank you for letting us know! So glad it could be helpful.

[@luckyp.714]

Really, extremely helpful!!

[@donnabrunskill7339]

Excellent insight and advice.especially good roadmap for parents and elders

[@PsychHub]

Thank you for your comment. We hope you will continue to watch our videos to learn more about mental health, self-care, and ways to support others.

[@Lorraineaud]

Great interview! Great information!

[@PsychHub]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@morganjones9019]

Dr. Albano has clarified it for me. She knows what's "the way" and she communicates it simply but very effectively.

[@janasimoes1870]

This is a treasure! Thank you so very much, Dr. Albano!!

[@audreygervais]

Just thank you!

[@PsychHub]

You're so welcome!

[@annieperez8040]

My little girl is 6 and started all of sudden with anxiety, she kept saying she's sick and trying to stay at home. But I still drop her off and leave her. And it's pretty weird how she's good at school. But in the mornings, are so difficult to take her to school.

[@user-xh5gh1iq2c]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 02:31 🧠 *Anxiety is a fundamental human emotion rooted in our nervous system, serving as an evolutionary response to potential threats. It is natural and motivates action.* 04:27 🛄 *Anxiety should feel like butterflies in your stomach or a racing heart in challenging situations. However, it becomes problematic when it overwhelms, leading to persistent stress, sleep disturbances, and concentration issues.* 10:47 🌱 *Anxiety in children can be influenced by both genetic factors and parenting. While there may be a biological basis, parents don't cause anxiety; it's about finding a balance between support and allowing children to navigate challenges on their own.* 13:44 🔄 *Anxiety varies across developmental stages, and children need to learn how to manage challenges independently. Parents play a crucial role in empowering children to problem-solve, rather than overprotecting or solving problems for them.* 16:36 🚀 *Kids with anxiety benefit from exposure to feared situations. Avoiding challenges reinforces anxiety, while confronting them helps build resilience. The pandemic's isolation exacerbated anxiety for some children, making reintegration into normal activities essential.* 20:59 🚩 *Signs of childhood anxiety include avoidance, withdrawal, changes in behavior, and excessive dependence. Parents should pay attention to deviations from age-appropriate independence and activities, as well as input from teachers regarding behavior in school.- **00:36** 🎓 Dr. Anne Marie Albano, a renowned psychologist, discusses anxiety and mood disorders in youth, focusing on helping children overcome fears and worries.* 02:31 🤔 *Anxiety is a fundamental human emotion tied to our nervous system, originally developed for survival. It motivates action but can become problematic if it overwhelms daily life.* 05:56 🚸 *Children may not always acknowledge their anxiety; it often takes parents and teachers to recognize signs, as kids may suffer for years before seeking help.* 07:51 🧬 *Anxiety has both biological and environmental factors; it can be hereditary, but parents don't "cause" anxiety. Overprotectiveness may, however, allow anxiety to persist.* 12:46 😷 *Pandemic-related isolation can exacerbate anxiety, and relief from avoidance behaviors may hinder progress. Returning to normalcy involves facing fears gradually.* 19:33 🤝 *Empower kids by not always solving their problems; let them struggle and learn problem-solving. Encourage facing uncomfortable situations to build resilience.* 21:58 🚨 *Signs of anxiety in children include avoidance, dropping out of activities, excessive clinginess, and age-inappropriate dependence. Pay attention to changes in behavior.* 22:55 🌙 *Parents should help children learn to soothe themselves to manage anxiety. Teaching deep belly breathing is a useful technique.* 24:51 🗣️ *Parents should encourage the development of an internal coach in children, helping them assess situations calmly and problem-solve.* 26:47 🏊 *Gradual exposure to anxiety-inducing situations, broken down into small steps, helps children build resilience and confidence.* 27:42 🧠 *Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a highly recommended approach for managing anxiety in adolescents, providing practical tools.* 28:41 💡 *Parents should not measure their success solely by their child's comfort; it's crucial to value personal growth and learning in parenting.* 30:38 🤝 *Encouraging self-soothing in children involves letting them be uncomfortable at times, fostering independence and coping skills.* 34:00 💪 *Parents can set expectations and responsibilities for their anxious children, offering privileges based on their efforts and progress.* 35:27 🤲 *Using reflective listening, parents can engage with their children without judgment, creating a space for open communication and problem-solving.* 38:21 🌟 *Incentives like sticker charts and privileges can motivate children to face anxiety-provoking situations, fostering a sense of accomplishment.* 39:48 ⚖️ *Parents should avoid reinforcing avoidance behaviors; setting limits on privileges ensures a balanced approach to anxiety management.* 42:43 🌍 *Parents must prioritize self-care and continue living their lives, avoiding complete accommodation of their children's anxiety for a healthier family dynamic.* Made with HARPA AI

[@alejandrocarcamo5589]

great information thanks ///

[@PsychHub]

You're welcome!

[@math1mom]

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[@LindaHernandez-dd7eu]

My daughter gets really bad anxiety and dosent even want to try to self soothe when shes having an episode 😞 what should I do?

[@PsychHub]

Thank you for your comment. By asking for help for your daughter you are taking the first step to dispelling stigma for us all. For support and resources on mental health, the NAMI National Warmline Directory is a great resource, unlike a hotline for those in immediate crisis, warmlines provide early intervention with emotional support that can prevent a crisis - and a more costly 911 call or ER visit. The lines are typically free, confidential peer-support services staffed by volunteers or paid employees who have experienced mental health conditions themselves. For a list of where to find this service in your area please check out the link here -> www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMI-Media/BlogImageArchive/2020/NAMI-National-HelpLine-WarmLine-Directory-3-11-20.pdf

[@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382]

What does an episode look like?

[@JT0007]

10:30 lol she couldn’t about adding in that her kid is a high performer 😅 this woman needs to tone it down. We see you. And the way you know you’re still doing it wrong is you have to say, “I promise I’ll stop my rant” 🇺🇸

[@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382]

Anxiety shouldn’t overwhelm you 👍