Psychological Whiplash

[@sushmayen]

Psychological whiplash causes invisible wound that take very long to heal.

[@exileonearth6942]

You just described my entire life with a narcissistic mother and narcissist husband. Add in their self focus, entitlement, expectation to be served and worshipped, superiority, and negativity in general, and it's a toxic mix that has poisoned me my entire 65 years. And they get worse with age.

[@tonitv9991]

why did you like that treatment?

[@abbratakeschicago]

Realistic expectations go out the window with them.

[@kathleenferguson3296]

​@@tonitv9991 Nobody likes it! However, it's what we're used too.

[@bronwyntanner4501]

We are related!!!! No contact with my narc mother and ex husband together with 5 former friends

[@marilynschmidt6400]

​@@tonitv9991You don't like it as a child growing up. You have to put up with it. Obviously your a narc asking a question such as that

[@user-io7kz4kv3z]

Dr. Ramani Thank you for your Clarity and Compassion ! You literally Are Saving Lives and Saving all of our Sanity !

[@flightmama3191]

❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤Amen to that 🎉🎉🎉I bought her book and it's AMAZINGLY healing 🎉🎉🎉She helped me in so many ways, I finally ran, but he's sti raging and not helping me get away. Crazy thing is he's got a new family of 5 and two dogs, U would think that'll keep the bastard busy, but he thinks I am his friend and can complain about it 😂😂😂😂😂😂My off switch is ON🎉🎉🎉 MAGNIFICENT GRATITUDE BEAUTIFUL SOUL HOPE U R HEALING❤🎉❤ UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND RESPECT 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

[@youngblood8540]

"Of all the animals, man is the only one that is cruel. He is the only one, who inflicts pain for the pleasure of doing it." ~MARK TWAIN~

[@kl8132]

Great quote but he was actually mistaken. Have you seen documentaries of Killer whales? They will kill even if they've just fed and they will play with their prey by tossing them back and forth to their partners, very very disturbing to see. Even so, man will always go home with the trophy for being the most sadistic.

[@maddyf2042]

? CAN you pick up narssitic traits from your family that at MY age over 50 got blindsided by the ultimate infidelity btwn my ex Partner 17 YRS and my mom , sister in all my blood relatives condoning him living an intimate relationship with 2 or who knows I believe it might've been more THINGY IS THAT I FEEL SOO STUPID AND INADEQUATE AND INVISIBLE THAT I FELL FOR NORM FAMILY WOULDN'T DO THI I'M NUTS THEORY HE'S SO NARCISSISTIC CONNIVING SMOOTH THAT WHEN I WOULD TELL MY MOM SISTER THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG HE'S CHEATING ON ME THEY WOULD SAY JUST PRAY OMG HE WAS CHEATING WITH THEM!! DOUBLE LIFE

[@maddyf2042]

NOW I BELIEVE HE'S UP TO THE SAME THING WITH MY CHILDREN AND MY EX HUSBAND? I'M SO FKIN UPSET AND CONFUSED I'M PROJECTING W MY DAUGHTER FOR A GOOD REASON I DOUBT MY SELF ALWAYS SO I SUCCUMB TO A NON EXISTENT PERSON! IT'S LIKE WHY SHOULD I EVEN TALK WHEN ALL THEY DO IS LIKE MY DAUGHTER SAID WHEN I CONFRONTED HER "MOM YOUR DELUSIONAL YOU KEEP ON THIS CAROUSEL ABOUT THR SAME SHIT ABOUT HIM" FUNNY SHE GHOSTED ME 4 MTHS NOW !! I DON'T KNOW I GIVE UP I LOVE THEM ALL BUT I TRUST NO ONE

[@jordanaddis5120]

Dolphins also kill for fun, and seeing how a wasp will fly into your house attack You because how dare you be there in your own house jm pretty certai dolphins and people arent the only things that enjoy inflicting pain Also house cats are fed regularly, so really theu dont need to chase the mouse that just came into the cats home, but they will still chase it. They won't even eat it, but it wont stop them from catching it. So nice quote but not very true.

[@youngblood8540]

People not only inflict physical pain but also shred you to pieces verbally for pleasure.

[@user-io7kz4kv3z]

It's like trying to stumble through or navigate an invisible land mine trying Not to step on or set Off the hidden 'triggers'

[@goldieshawel8683]

Exactly so

[@tishie42]

But even if you step on a previously detonated mine, it still goes off. No win..

[@user-io7kz4kv3z]

@@tishie42 indeed. True. Repeated explosions, all too often No Warning

[@ceceb9082]

My body is tense all the time always in fight or flight mode and I can't tell you how uncomfortable it is jist to be in my body everyday. Narc mom and sister, step-dad supporting them, I was black sheep. Even though none of these people are in my life I attract them through partners and relive it all. Sigh. Why can't people just be honest?❤Thank you Dr. Ramani

[@kylen4701]

Get into meditation brother. It helps.

[@angelicamaster7764]

​@@kylen4701 Darling, you will learn to choose better from this horrible lesson. You know red flags. You know yourself, too. Best wishes 🎉❤

[@julief634]

I can't be around many people anymore cause I don't know who to trust. I use to be an extrovert now im to myself and introverted but for a good reason. Introspection heals me. I need to stay away from potentially attracting the same abuse back into my life with lovers, friends..etc. I'm a narc magnet. 😢

[@wanderer0617]

I practice yoga and meditation. Yin style yoga has helped me release that all day tension and stress stored in my body. It's an ongoing practice. There's very good yoga and meditation classes on KZbin. ❤

[@cupcake0480]

You might benefit from TRE (Trauma Release Exercises) and somatic healing, which really helps to release the physical tension

[@ambershaw4769]

I call it 'ambush'. Because it comes from no where

[@juanitaarbelo5409]

This was my childhood and I know that melancholy feeling well. It took me years to shake it off.

[@turquoisoul]

This melancholy affect your speech making it monotone. At least mine from the very childhood.

[@pinkmeadows]

I would be caught off guard about something that I allegedly did who knows when and long ago. I would be very internal as a little girl. Being accused of something is bad enough, but then for it to not be true and blown up out of proportion is horrid!

[@cymbolichuman433]

Yeah, you're feeling good, everything seems pleasant, and then... They go off on you, (?) they suddenly ruin your good times (?) They speak ill of you in public (?) and expect you to hug them (?)

[@tracyking5945]

There’s a certain cadence, a grim underlying note to them. If they aren’t happy with the rhythm or melody, they will make the record skip.

[@julief634]

They hate when I'm happy, calm and confident

[@camilledunsford2632]

Jekyll and Hyde

[@eil9255]

I'm out and healing, thank God and Dr. Ramani. This brought me back, both comforting to know it was a thing and a bit traumatizing to relive in my head. If you can leave, after the loneliness comes peace and calm. Being able to think clearly is a cherished gift. You're an angel for sharing so much. Bless you.

[@user-uz8np4iv8g]

Agree, I'm 5yrs out, but the ruminating and thoughts of why couldn't I help him still linger😢 Hopefully with Dr Ramani,s daily posts guiding me, they begin to lesson.

[@eil9255]

Her channel helps a great deal. Finding a good in-person therapist couldn't hurt either (make sure they are versed in narcisscistic abuse recovery). So glad for you to be on the healing road.

[@jj-hawk]

Hi Dr Ramani - so grateful I found your channel - reading ‘it’s not you’ and signed up for North Carolina. Didn’t know I was in a covert narcissistic relationship with my husband of 3 and 1/2 years , together for 6 and 1/2 years. And I can finally identify that my father is a covert narcissist which explains our horribly toxic relationship. I was living in an alternative reality - by his own design. He had me completely cut off from everybody. Basically a little bird in a cage let out when he decided. Trusted him blindly. Found out in the worst way he’s been cheating on me - thought my whole world was destroyed when in reality, needed to be destroyed so I could be free. That woman died that day - every day since had been brutal but necessary. I’m getting more of me back every day. I find out more and more - master manipulator and liar. But my eyes are wide open now. Going to take a lot of therapy , but I am grateful.

[@jodycasey6936]

I bought her books, now I’m trying to work out North Carolina in November. I’m so happy for you!

[@user-uz8np4iv8g]

Proud of you, these are the 1st steps, to finding yourself once again. Knowledge is power

[@julief634]

I want her book. Can I get it on kindle?

[@le_th_]

Take care of yourself @DoctorRamani It sounds like you're going through some stuff related to this right now and it's so so exhausting. Wishing you well~

[@user-uz8np4iv8g]

Dr Ramani, your Village of followers are there for you.❤

[@janeloraine6231]

Thank you for validating these experiences. They are so squishy- no definite shape or form, but plenty of emotional fallout. Whiplash is a perfect analogy.

[@yukio_saito]

There is too much back-and-forth and up-and-down during a toxic relationship. My neck still hurts after going through toxic workplaces.

[@camsteph67]

On and Off.... OK. Best thing in the world... then TRASH... Gotcha

[@user-fe1pg5cf5u]

Some of the most toxic narcissists, I’ve met in the workplace. They cruelly take out their frustrations behind the scenes all day away from their “public”. They have an expert, well polished facade for getting money.

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

‘Mini grief sequences that culminate into a melancholy that trail you in your life..’ 💯 how I feel. Thank you for explaining it. ❤

[@abigailfeldman]

Thank you, Dr. Ramani. This is exactly how I’ve explained it to myself… whiplash.

[@moniquejackson7741]

Brilliant and sooo Validating. Once again your timing is perfect, Dr. Ramani. Just yesterday the narc and I were discussing something that has rarely triggered them in the past, and boom, I was standing there, dumbfounded that I was actually surprised by yet another Shame Tirade, and I froze. It's so Great to have this thing named and acknowledged. Thank you so much, Dr. Ramani!

[@HillaryMarkham]

Hypervigilance and shame are exhausting. Thank you for your work. 🙏🏻 Thank you.

[@linnnea8171]

Latest whiplash, I mentioned in a friendly tone that a bag of food had gone old and tasted funny and maybe it would be a good idea to throw it away, and she acted like I had acused her of something and started manicly to empty cupboards in search of old stuff, while her 10 minute morning porridge was still on the stove simmering. It sounds like nothing but it was awful. And of course I ended up apolgising for warning her of food gone bad.

[@sparkygump]

It would be nice to feel safe for once.

[@lisageeck]

That's just walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop. Or holding a live grenade. It's only a matter of time before something happens.

[@wildhorses6817]

PERFECT, Holding a Live Grenade ! Yes, for Decades. My poor body is still in recovery mode.

[@user-io7kz4kv3z]

Even if we like the James Bond adventure lifestyle, when it comes to our partners , our families, neighbors or our Co-workers we like to Think we Know Who We are Dealing With ! Consistency of Character Is a Need we have as human beings. It's Instinctive for us to like to feel we are 'Safe' with those we are dealing with or at least have an element of safety

[@angelicamaster7764]

I started hyperventilating the day of the final "WHIPLASH" by my ex-Narc husband. It's been 3.5 years since I divorced and RAN far away from him. I'm now able to get through a day without a sedative for the anxiety. My body is finally in better health. No weird rashes, hair loss, nausea or vertigo. When I want to give up ... I force myself to remember how far I've come since THAT day and all that's working well in my life. THANK YOU for all you do Dr. Ramani!!!❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

[@b8akaratn]

Oh, 😯 i am truly sorry to hear you're experiencing something. Prayers for your fluid calm & resilience to be strengthened! 🙏💙❣️

[@b8akaratn]

...i also like yr shirt a lot...☺️🤭

[@anupamaramesh7070]

❤loads of love, respect, and prayers for you, @DoctorRamani!

[@user-qv9nw1dq2f]

Routine, predictability, balance, calmness, peace, joy and serenity are extremely helpful sanity checks . Drama, trauma, chaos and lots of other narcissistic favourites are not. Thank you dr Ramani 😊❤ God bless you ❤

[@user-io7kz4kv3z]

I call it "being side swiped "

[@sheenar4928]

After years with a narcissistic mother, then marrying man with the same serious traits, I have had health issues that have been severe. Healing from uterine cancer, breast cancer, terrible arthritis etc. has been a long journey . At 64 I wish I was 'fixed', 'repaired' however it's still ongoing. The 'whiplash' I have dealt with now runs with my sister and her beatings. Their victim narrative is killing me. I am trying to remove myself, divorced the man, but with a 90 year old mother, sister relationship it is proving more difficult. It truly is a living hell at times. I am tired.

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

The psychological whiplash in my family is exhausting. Just experienced this with my mom getting mad because I can’t attend a family lunch due to previous plans I made before I knew about the lunch. She insisted she told me about the lunch before and tried to guilt me into going, as she always tried to force me to be around the narcissistic family members. I stayed strong in the truth, and my brother confirmed that the lunch plan was new. Then my mom suddenly switches gears and acts like it’s not a big deal and admits the plans had changed so said it’s ok if I can’t go. So maddening. I don’t need her permission. So tired of it. Not engaging and taking care of myself. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[@user-io7kz4kv3z]

I get Quiet and go with my Gut on addressing the contradiction and idiosyncrasies . But be wise, try to be discerning, ...Please Use Caution ! Safety First !

[@lizb4348]

So hard when the flying monkeys are unleashed.

[@bobbilynnsmith5146]

Ah haa, after almost 3 years no contact I've been suffering with psychological whiplash! Yes, that really resonated with me this am. Thank you for putting into words what my brain has been doing to me while ruminating. Enough!

[@michaelbevel8539]

That happened to me with my therapist. I was going to therapy for a year and then I got referred out of nowhere. I got blamed for not being able to trust her when I questioned her motives. Major psychological whiplash and ended up traumabonded.

[@joeprimal2044]

Wow, that’s not good. Now you’ll need therapy for your therapy. 😂 Good luck with the new one.

[@yukio_saito]

I fired bad therapists before I got more traumatized.

[@michaelbevel8539]

@@joeprimal2044 yep, I've been with my new therapist going on 4 years now. Took me 2 of those years to even discover what had happened to me. All my behaviors correlated with what happens to people who are traumabonded. It was very surreal and eye opening once I started doing all the research on traumabonds. I was like, "That's exactly what I've been doing and saying!". Once I realized I was stuck in cognitive dissonance, it became a lot easier to own my truth and label it for what it was.

[@lizb4348]

I believe you can file a complaint in your state and their license may be investigated.

[@waggishsagacity7947]

Thank you, Dr. Ramani: Perfect timing for me, literally speaking. I decided this morning that it's time to change the course of my Narcissistic relationship toward MY recovery, and you came along and confirmed my resolve. Thanks.

[@marysisak2359]

What a great description "paranoid storm." I can almost see that going on in my mother's head.

[@valerierobertson6334]

Thank you for all your advice. You’ve helped heal my heart❤

[@user-ep3ed5jd7q]

Dr. Ramani, you are a true genius at analogizing the cruel underpinnings of how malignant narcissism pivots and or paralyzes. You have such a beautiful heart. Thank you for loving us, sight unseen, story shared.💜☮✝☮💜☮✝☮💜☮✝☮💜

[@rebellaire55]

You just described my dad and validated my experiences. You were able to demystify the thing that I have been experiencing when my dad suddenly rages in a middle of nowhere.

[@SherryTomlinson-mk7gm]

Hey Dr Ramani at 63 I am finally going to ask my therapist to refer me to trauma therapy. I been avoiding this for 20 years. The song walking on broken glass comes to mind- whiplash. Ty so much I would like to hear more from you about psychopaths and malignant narcs. I believe my dad was a psychopath and a very short marriage to a sociopath.. and my life full of narcissism. Probably was safer to have narc friends. Because of my inability to trust. Though I have had a few good friends thank goodness. Peace!

[@PenninkJacob]

Yes!!! routine!!! thank you so much!!! 👍❤❤❤

[@plarsen2654]

Thank you Dr. Ramani....you nailed it! once again.

[@MyFrenchTeacher1]

Thank you Dr. Ramani. For me this was the worst part of the relationship. The whiplash was feeling betrayed every time I trusted my narcissist again. We'd separate for a while and then I'd forgive and forget. It literally felt like a bomb going off every time.. Then I realized this person can NEVER be honest with me and will NEVER really have my back. (Most of the time he doesn't show his anger about whatever it is about... he just lies and cheats because he feels entitled.) Finally I felt like I was going crazy with being constantly shocked with these constant betrayal bombs.. and this was taking a toll on how present I could be with my child. Since the last betrayal I've been officially separated for 4.5 years and it feels so great to not being hit with something as soon as you get comfortable. I'm slowly healing but I'm definitely a much healthier and more present mom. Radical acceptance piece: I'm yellow-rocking with him but he doesn't know to what point I don't trust him. No need to tell him that. If necessary, I pull all the precautions discreetly.

[@Myopia2047]

Thank you for highlighting why routine n maintaining a routine is so important towards healing from narcissistic abuse

[@daisynadal6909]

Thank you for explaining the terminology, as you articulate very well what we've experienced...I have pressured speech, and often struggle to explain to people about these individuals.

[@jamesstaplesv]

I am so sorry you have to deal with toxic folk in oyur life; But Bless you and Love to yu for all the strenth and Good you have so helped us with , thanks for life! All the things you said, like you write the dcvript of my life. This healing gig , hard work. but you give me hope.

[@etherealdeal1792]

I’m healing from a sudden discard 3.5 weeks ago and my mom commented well how long did it take for u to recover from whiplash after you got rear ended and called it psychological whiplash. In the days preceding the discard the narcissist asked if I wanted to spend my life with him and begged me to spend more time with him and offered his credit card to buy spare toiletries and wardrobe to keep at his house (& we had plans the next day, next weekend, many trips booked in the future) after 15 months together (I said I wouldn’t move in til marriage). Also he’d just taken me on a luxury trip to Europe and we had the best time on a business flight overseas, but then suddenly without warning he went into a rage and started interrogating me accusing me of cheating publicly in an airport where others could hear. The whiplash describes it perfectly. Idk how I’d heal without dr ramani. Thank u from my heart. Also dr ramani you look beautiful and vibrant, heart looks especially sleek and nice today

[@wildhorses6817]

Total Projection, he was the one who cheated and then blames you. It is very common. Run. It only gets worse over time.

[@jbirdie30]

Chances are high he'll be back around. Don't be tempted; stay away! If you work with this person, seek a new job.

[@mariposa610]

9:38 "a live grenade in your pocket" exactly how these relationships make you feel 💯

[@HaggisIsGross]

All was well, the N offered to drive me home after a birthday party for an elderly relative, no drama at the party, all was well. Halfway home, the N became suddenly enraged, speeding, shouting, because (yes this is crazy) they were thanked by name at the party for being so helpful. I have never been so frightened in a car, both of the N and the potential for crashing. I got to my place, got in the door, and was so sick to my stomach. It was as if I actually had been in a violent crash.

[@dreamer5853]

thank you for speaking about this. this explains so much about what i’ve been experiencing since childhood.

[@testingfortruth4266]

“Living with a live grenade in your pocket.” Yes, yes, yes! This is a perfect way of putting it!

[@RecoveryASMR]

Yup the whole family ebables them and they betray you and abandon as well. We really need a support systrm created. Some movement needs to happen.

[@karawaldron805]

LOVE the title of this video!!! So spot on! It is whiplash!

[@teresajorgenson2308]

When I met a decent guy after my ex narc boyfriend, for a long time, I fell asleep on his shoulder every time we sat down. My body was finally able to relax.

[@TheKrispyfort]

When the adrenaline isn't needed anymore and your body and thoughts just go wild as your brain and body adjust to a peaceful environment. Some of us just don't know how to function in gentle environments and being adults there's no-one else willing to help us learn how to navigate this new world. It's kinda like being told to stay in our room until we've mastered Anaiwan and we've got no resources to help because we're expected to just know 😢

[@LValley-kz3yc]

The feeling of a black cloud following you around is hard to shake, even when they are gone.

[@JillianSiobhanMal]

People who work in law in any of the capacities experience this from the mentally ill ppl & criminals they so often encounter. There is ALWAYS a nasty lashing out as retribution at some point. I’d love to attend some kind of seminar in protecting yourself mentally from the hate. I’m sure psych nurses get it to a degree too.

[@LibraryBP2]

The whiplash effect also comes when the narcissist suddenly nitpiks you about nonsense. You had actually had a decent conversation with them and then BAM you are accused of not being supportive two days ago. Living with a narcissist is so emotionally draining. It's like having your air polluted and then suddenly the air is clear.

[@craigmerkey8518]

Thank you Dr. Ramani! Surviving when your outside and inside are a mismatch is consistent pain all over ! (you have to remain calm because reacting is just what they want, reinforcing their behavior) The sooner you learn it is not, and will never be about you the sooner you can reroute your path!

[@Ozy-te1rr]

I was never relaxed when I had to meet my narcisstis sister ,I usually prayed before and after meeting her

[@marysisak2359]

Whenever I tried to point out inconsistencies, my mother's catch phrase was "Don't start, Mar."

[@linnnea8171]

That's how I know that I have said something that hits home - she says we are not going to talk about this.

[@RandyBrady2024]

This was my life style. I thank God it's no more.

[@Kayra-Letsdothis]

Thank you. Even listening to this, my muscles are tightening up.

[@Felix4art192]

I put a long skinny bread bag in the garbage can, just til i went to get proper ones. He said ," what are you doing, are you trying to sabotage me, this is so stupid, sabotage!" Then stormed out, gone for hours, no contact, it's so confusing

[@pambelcher2857]

Such an 🎉awesome videos, as always

[@adimeter]

I was so glad to hear you use that 'heavy'. After all these lovely videos, I wake up feeling lighter. I've had intense therapy along with 100's of informative videos. Thanks Dr Ramani.

[@oraltosun]

Learned helplessness: We feel that a good environment will not continue, and we get nervous. Sensing this tension, the narcissist immediately reveals his reaction. And the whip smacks....

[@cynthiarouse]

Start listening to high vibrational healing frequencies when you stretch or walk. Your emotional landscape and energy will change…..

[@twistedtrailerparktales2126]

I really wish I had you earlier your videos are very helpful. Last year my stage director whom I thought was a friend snubbed me again for our local show giving the awards to the same people again despite telling me privately I've become one of the best leading men in the area. He's an infinitely charming and charismatic whose lived by everyone in town and when I confronted him about his favoritism he denied it. Then told me all my work sucks and I'm entitled to nothing. Then said he's the only reason I'm still with the company because everyone is constantly begging him to get rid of me and he was the only friend I had in the company. This really hurt but opened my eyes as well and I noticed other things like in the 7 years I've been acting he only casts himself in roles that involve intimacy with women and this is supposed to he to make the girls comfortable because he's gay. But I know he sleeps with women.

[@TheShadyGarden333]

Thanks Dr Ramani for the education.

[@fibergarden]

It's funny that you put this up today. I'd just had a good few days and was thinking 'I can do this' and today it was back to the drawing board. I'm exhausted. I think my therapist is exasperated.

[@beckyengland7164]

I call it the rug getting pulled out from under me

[@user-sp4eh6vj8u]

Purple 💜💜💜💜

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

😊 I like purple 💜

[@sbg4ever120]

I’m love purple 💜😍

[@cesarroman5695]

It's like being forced to ride a roller coaster; scary ups and downs, and you never know what's going to happen. After distancing ourselves from the madness, we are glad the ride is over. We finally find some peace.

[@TheLove1Makes]

Whiplash can affect so many different parts of the body. Thanks for your helpful lesson.

[@user-xv4mp2un7h]

Great example, "bam."

[@denineluchkow395]

❤️ that you get this

[@kuibeiguahua]

Hypervigilance is TIRING omg The catastrophe scenarist in the head is working overtime too

[@tinawilson9281]

Completely exhausting! And it seems all I do anymore is catastropheize (sp.?)

[@kuibeiguahua]

@@tinawilson9281 catastrophising couldn’t be worse!!!

[@wildhorses6817]

And, on occasion with a Rage Attack there is a Body Slam. Totally unexpected, Asking him to stop the yelling, there was nothing serious in the discussion, arranging a time to drive him to the station for the ride to the airport. The raging escalated instead and total Body Slam. He called it grabbing my arm when police arrived. These people are vicious, cruel and lie expertly. He was calm and quiet when police arrived and I was hysterically sobbing and terrified. The police bought his story whatever that was and treated him much better than they treated me. I was in my sixties at the time. Filed for divorce... And, also, beware of divorce attorneys.

[@t_nels]

Yes, 'psychological whiplash', it finally has a name.

[@maxsiehier]

It's even worse, it's like receiving 60mph whiplash when you thought you were going 15mph on a Sunday.

[@The_Daniel_B]

Thanks for being there and for understanding

[@laurahall992]

5:54 I have CONSTANT bad headaches,always on edge,severe tension in my neck and can never ever relax

[@josephreyes8687]

Hey, Dr. Ramani 🎉

[@andrewrice9383]

I think that’s why that movie was also called whiplash. It has a multiple meaning.

[@EllieHabul-Morgan]

really feeling the fawn shame cycle today lol

[@kathrynsheartland]

"Grandiose Fantasy Camp" is a great description!

[@susanlohman4103]

God Bless you Doctor Ramani🙏

[@TheKrispyfort]

Routine provides psychological reset points. A lack of predictability increases the exhaustion from constant hypervigilance, which is very energy intensive.

[@rvr2844]

I’m director of a team at work with what I believe is a covert narcissist, who is committed to forcing me out or getting me fired. My bosses have offered to bring in a mediator to help us resolve the conflict. Mediators I’ve approached in the past, have turned down the work because upon hearing about what’s going on, they have assessed that the situation is beyond repair. Hiccup is that the team member is protected by their union and they know how far they can go without crossing that line. Wondering if anyone out there knows of any mediation consultants with experience working with this type of working relationships? Appreciate any/all leads.

[@TheVintageVamp]

Getting a positive “I think you’re going to have a good day today” 10 minutes after a “you only think about yourself, f*ck you” from my mom and checking KZbin to see you posted this 😂

[@j.s.1816]

@DoctorRamani this is off-topic, but I love that top!

[@desertangel100]

Nothing ages you faster.

[@privateprivate8366]

I think many people might confuse me with a person who feels, “Why aren’t things going my way!!!???” But, not really. My question is, “Why aren’t things going better 👉🏽 for everyone!!!???” I feel people have accepted or have been forced to accept low standards, without complaint and they become so apathetic, they don’t even think it’s wrong, let alone try to complain. As a result? They’ll look at me as if to say, “Why don’t you just accept sht, just like the rest of us!?” I guess I’m just not wired that way.

[@matikramer9648]

Live and learn But those with some sh.. and bs... are so many I yesterday experienced a whiplash...... I think if it were close relationships I would be deeply hurt, and would be deeply suffering now ..... Trying to shame me, and guilt trip me, and accusing of many horrible things are just indicator of what I have chosen as place to quietly grow old was very wrong... Now I'm looking where I was wrong, not assertive enough, and doing it automatically, cause I was trained to do so from early childhood. Question is how to stop reactivity... It bothersome... I'm 64, I have no much left time to do it , and I'm sad, very sad now... Just sad for being unwittingly in situation, where one refuses to hear what I'm saying, and refusing to accept that part that he has nothing to do with it, and when it finally dawns on him that he was mistaken, that youngster starts shame me and DEMAND apology.... And gets support from some, and enabling and peace making people all around... Sick place, and now i have to stop everything that I was striving to achieve (small things, but important for me) and make peace with myself because why I should be angry with somebody mentally unhealthy..... Another question is should I accept apology or should I reject it Trying to quiet my mind and get myself for myself back... What a mess PS now, looking 24 hours back it was obvious flying monkey, I think...

[@andrewrice9383]

Oh cool. I’ve been calling it emotional whiplash. I also experience a lesser version of it with people who I think aren’t super self-aware but not necessarily cluster b.

[@m.c.4565]

❤Thank you Dr.Ramani❣️

[@kyky4735]

thank you. I needed to be reminded of that

[@ayla4844]

Physical whiplash can kill. So can psychological whiplash.

[@SpooksMcGhie]

Looking good doc 👌 😉

[@gianpaulgraziosi6171]

I needed this Sept 2022.