Psychology of a Hero: TED LASSO (part 2)

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

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[@petrahalbur476]

Ted saying "f--- you for not working on yourself" to his mom & his mom actually apologizing hits so hard.

[@fayesouthall6604]

The bit with his mother when she hands him his clipping’s of his panic attacks from the press. Then he said he got help from a therapist she’s says defensively ‘bet it’s all my fault’

[@TokyoBlue587]

Wasn’t realistic, but it was a well acted scene

[@SwnkyTiger]

@@TokyoBlue587 Just because it isn't the most probable outcome (in every relationship), does not mean it wasn't realistic. While it may be unrealistic to your lived experience that does not mean the scene has no basis in reality. In the same way not every divorce is messy and hateful. I can sympathize with what has led you to this outlook but there isn't any need to take away from what is a very powerful scene. It has clearly meant a lot, to a lot of people. So, what do you gain from diminishing this strangers comment?

[@meme-gy5gx]

@@TokyoBlue587 To me it was incredibly realistic. I was so insanely caught off guard while watching this show because my dad committed suicide earlier this year, and my mum has always had this motto while I was growing up of "well no one's died" when faced with hardships... I won't go too much into my family dynamics, but yeah, it was just a very realistic scene.

[@scottbones]

I don't care what happened or what's going on you never curse at a loving mother. Ever.

[@NotSoCivilEngineer]

The two most touching moments from this video about such a touching show were when Alan opened up once more about his relationship with his mother, and the other moment was seeing Jonathan being present and being supportive for Alan. Both were beautiful moments of vulnerability and friendship that I’m glad this discussion about Ted Lasso brought out.

[@Narra0002]

Amen. We love seeing vulnerability, especially from 2 straight men

[@Valineris_The_Phoenix]

I cried 🥲

[@ii_Lay]

Exactly. Such a beautiful friendship.

[@deejayppaul]

Made me cry

[@Schu0086]

Agreed, this dynamic is the heart and soul of this show. Watching someone else get some love and healing out of situations many of us can relate to but possibly haven’t had that experience, we can have a moment of it through Alan and Jono.

[@carolinenelson798]

I need you guys to know that I am super hormonally pregnant and I cried so much watching this that my husband said "their videos should come with warning labels for pregnant ladies" ... i loved every second

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Haha good point! 😆 Best wishes with the birth!

[@xaderalert]

Shit... I'm not hormonally pregnant, just an emotionally repressed "the strong one" guy, and i was on the brink of tears throughout this

[@ryanthorne5432]

I have nothing but respect for Alan and his openness and honesty about how this show, and so many others, make him feel.

[@kryptofreak4059]

Y’all opened with my my favorite scene in the entire show and now I’m emotional in the office Edit: if you guys get Brett Goldstein on to talk about Roy Kent for 4 hours, I’ll watch it twice

[@nyehu09]

I can imaging Brett riffing with Alan about the filmmaking aspect of whatever movie they’ll watch with him… 🤔 It’s hardly likely to happen but I’ll just think that there’s another universe out there where this is a reality.

[@miriamrosemary9110]

Same

[@MrsOdie2]

I think we all dream of sitting down with Brett Goldstein. I'd talk to him about any subject he chooses. I also love his show, Shrinking.

[@matedervarics9827]

I don't get it... why would you stop rewatch it after that?

[@madikkenzeldafrost]

I'd pay for that 😍😍

[@The_gentleman_gamer]

Can I just say hiw much I appreciate Alan. For just showing men that its ok to cry and show emotion and to be openly passionate about your feelings. The world needs more Alan's

[@Mihaila-7892]

Yes, and he doen't look any less of a man for doing it. If not, more! I for one, do see him as a very maskuline man. Someone you can rely completely!

[@robertalexander-bk5zj]

It's too much for me, but I still see the value in having that example. For myself, it's good for me to see positive reminders that there's value in being emotionally open to levels different than my own.

[@PropheticShadeZ]

Its nice to know there are other people out there who are like that

[@MeliDMR93]

Oh Alan! I have never seen someone voice so much of what I feel regarding having an honest conversation with my mom. Thank you so much.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

You're so welcome.

[@sfurules]

Don't wait until she's gone, friend :) Some of us made that mistake....

[@Kasei.T]

@@sfurules I feel that, but with my Dad. I really want to have this conversation with him, but fear that it wouldn't be heard or change anything holds me back. But he's getting older...may we all find the strength before they (or their minds) are gone and nothing can change any more.

[@darkcreatureinadarkroom1617]

​@@sfurulesdoing it too early would be a mistake too. If you aren't ready it could set you back pretty much to the starting point, and we don't want to risk that, speaking from my own experience. It could be argued that they also shouldn't wait until it's "too late", but somehow they always get a pass...

[@darkcreatureinadarkroom1617]

​@@CinemaTherapyShowseconded, and I also want to thank Jono for the validation that it's a very difficult conversation to have when the other party isn't receptive, and it takes time to be ready for it. Thank you both ❤

[@Bumbleshepherd]

The scene where the team all had a piece of the sign had me SOBBING. And each held them in a significant place for themselves

[@Mouseketeer3782]

I famously do not cry when watching things (yes, this includes Titanic and Steel Magnolias) because I know it’s not real, but darn it if the believe sign didn’t make me sob! Masterful writing!

[@Trazyn_the_Infinite_40K]

I didn't notice that, and now I'm sobbing.

[@catiscray4133]

Jamie pulls his piece out of the book that Ted gave him in season one. That's my favorite detail.

[@gracefulolivetree4218]

I am very much an atheist, but that scene almost becomes a religious experience for me whenever I watch it.

[@GhostHunter-lm8tv]

As someone who is aspiring to one day be a coach, thank you so much for making these. It’s so insightful and powerful, and ultimately Ted Lasso is now everything I aspire to be as a coach.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

You're so welcome. Best wishes on your journey to be a coach!

[@error404idnotfound3]

Is that a Brown pfp?

[@GhostHunter-lm8tv]

@@error404idnotfound3 lol yeah, it is!

[@nemtudom5074]

Im not a sportsplayer, but IMO a good coach is just a mentor who has extensive knowledge of a sport. Its about being a good leader first, and good sports teacher second.

[@missmayflower]

Keep in mind that Ted wasn’t a very good coach, just a good person.

[@ravenclawfairy3648]

Therapy Dads, you both make so much of a difference in the world ❤️ Thank you so much for being here!

[@dapeach06]

Honestly, the way that Jonathan talks about navigating physical touch when someone is struggling is the way it should almost always be approached, even in relationships, because it shows that you care enough and respect them enough to tailor your approach to their needs

[@meltingqueen]

Jonathan giving Alan permission to have the hard conversation with his mother but also to not have the conversation with her and that both were correct and okay made me cry. People always talk about reconciliation and getting everything out in the open but the reality is when you know the other party cant or wont play ball its so nice to have permission to protect your heart.

[@masmith8308]

Words cannot express how much I love the Diamond Dogs. It’s the perfect example of healthy masculinity and men supporting each other.

[@rebeccawildman8787]

I’m glad you touched on this because I don’t think enough people know: two things can be true at the same time! You can love someone and still have issues with their behavior. And Jono, thank you for being such a patient and empathetic therapist and letting your clients take the lead! I’m sure they appreciate that, especially when often we don’t always feel in control in life. Your response to Alan with his mom was honestly perfect. I feel the same way with my mom and am just not sure any conversation will amount to anything productive. But if I decide to, I can say I tried. Neither way is wrong like you said. Thank you both as always for your kindness and authenticity. ❤️

[@dimitritucker1077]

My therapist reminds me all the time that two things can be true at once.

[@pauli_joy]

PLEASE PLEASE do a Villain Therapy for Nate he is SUCH an interesting one! Also ended up binging all three seasons of this show after watching this ep and I am HOOKED

[@corneliahanimann2173]

I need someone to explain to me why he got grey hair in season 3. It is just not working for me!

[@pauli_joy]

@@corneliahanimann2173 possibly the stress? There's something called the Marie Antoinette syndrome wherein hair turns white or grey due to extreme stress. Or maybe just to show a character development

[@corneliahanimann2173]

@@pauli_joy I love the positivety here, to be empathic about maybe stress, or some alternative philosophical reason. I would have just said he looks less good lol

[@mikefish1124]

​@@corneliahanimann2173the actor has grey hair in real life. Got at a young age, sort of like Steve Martin. He turned grey as a visual representation of his character's transformation, but also because the writers wanted to let him have his real hair showing

[@Piketom1]

The scene where Ted finally opened up about how his dad died broke me. I know it's not the same but I lost my dad in my early 20s to cancer and I will always regret not telling him that he was an amazing dad with those words. That one line just stabbed me right in the heart. I had to pause the show so I could cry before resuming it.

[@Shindai]

Something I noticed that I didn't before. When Ted hangs up with his kid whose name I'm blanking on, after learning about Michelle and Jake, he centers himself by thinking "He's ok, he's ok" not "i'm ok." I think that's a subtle bit of characterisation that whatever's going on in his life, he'll get by as long as the kid's ok and safe and happy. A deeply lovingand humanising moment for him

[@samstromberg5593]

"It's possible for your parents to have done the best that they knew how to do AND for their approach to have really messed you up or caused you legitimate pain" That hit me so damn hard My parents were never physically abusive, and everyone around me thought they were really great people and knew that they did things for me out of a place of love, so I always felt guilty when I was younger (I'm talking until about a year ago - I just turned 18 last week) about hating or fearing them. I felt like I didn't really deserved to claim abuse because there were no marks on my body. And don't get me wrong - physical abuse is much worse than what happened to me. But they did really screw me up Being told things like "You make excuses - that's just what you do. It is your fault" or "You refuse to take responsibility for your actions" DIRECTLY after taking responsibility for my actions wasn't great. Much much worse was things like being told that I wasn't "worthy of love" or that I was an "ungrateful brat" because I felt bad despite someone in the world having a worse situation than mine. One of the reasons I love this show (Cinema Therapy, not Ted Lasso) so much is because my Internet Dads are so much better parents to me than my biological and legal guardians were. This episode was amazing Thanks, Internet Dads

[@trishgrant2715]

You two model non-toxic masculinity in every video. Such a great friendship. Your insights into the characters and plot lines are so good because of this. I’d be so proud if you were my sons or brothers.

[@reamaoba]

Gosh Alan is really something. I can’t imagine how therapeutic this channel is for them. I’m a sensitive person too and I hate it when people make me feel as though what I feel is less valid because I cry a lot, whereas a lot of people cry at their breaking point. It’s not true, hey. Cry whenever you need to. Thanks to these two great men for helping me with living that truth. I love this channel so much🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@corneliahanimann2173]

I don't know why, but I always saw the emotional capacity for a person as a sign of strength. There is so much power behind being able to care and being confidently vulnerable with others.

[@juangwillems]

Also, the openess from Alan to talk about his sh*t and be vulnerable always, ALWAYS, makes me want to hug him first, and deal/be open about my sh*t

[@katemiller4084]

What I love about this channel is that you two open me up to tv shows and movies I would never think to watch. For example, I saw the trailer for Ted Lasso, but thought it was not for me because I have no interest in English or American football, but after watching part 1 of this video, I binge watched it and I love it. It’s just so wholesome. Same happened with the film Train to Busan, usually don’t like horror films or tv shows, but I gave it a chance thanks to you guys. I suppose it’s just like Ted Lasso said “Be curious, not judgmental”. ❤

[@ladyeclectic]

I adore my mother, she’s come from a real place of pain and broken the generational trauma she had to endure. But as much as I love and respect her, there are things she did and said that have taken DECADES for me to work through.

[@dr.disappointment8400]

Im only turning 18 this month but I get that. My problem was that my dad didn’t show or tell me that he’d been very depressed and alone before let me fall into a state of extreme loneliness that I’m only now starting to climb out of

[@jacobchernack1055]

I couldn't agree more with Alan - this was the right show for the right time.

[@kirstedock77]

On Roy Kent: he’s always been that person. He loved his niece and went to yoga before Ted ever came into his life but he hid those things. Ted’s influence helped him to stop masking to match the tough footballer persona and show the world the person he’s always been.

[@themicahnism]

I would LOVE to see an analysis piece from y’all on Nate. Such a complex character that acts like a hero one moment and a villain the next. Great vid as always.

[@fayesouthall6604]

Lots of people were shocked by Nate’s turn but I saw it from episode one.

[@kalpbhavsar]

I kinda lived it... so I would be really interested in an episode on Nate

[@Linnyfish8]

I broke down sobbing during the thank you , F you scene, because it's everything I want to tell my mom after learning a lot about decisions she and my father made raising me, which all ties in right to the "glorious and". Unfortunately, she passed away 6 years ago suddenly, but this episode provided such an unexpected emotional release. One of those things I didn't know I needed until I had it.

[@drjomendeztalks]

Ted Lasso is forever in my heart. I started watching in late 2023, in the middle of separating from my partner of 11 years, navigating coparenting and needing to believe that divorce can be amicable even through the pain. I’ve watched so many times and appreciate the brilliant actors, extraordinary writing and overall delightful humanity in a vast range of emotions. We can make mistakes and redeem ourselves, we can grow from pain and reach a better place. We can be completely apathetic to soccer and still come out singing “We’re Richmond till we die”, lol. And the amazing portrayals of badass, flawed, magnificent women is oxygen. Rebecca made me feel a new kind of pride in being tall, curvy, girly with an edge, loving and strong at the same time. Ted Lasso is a precious gift and I love the heartfelt and fun loving commentary. Thanks, guys!

[@juangwillems]

I've said it on the first part, I'll say it again... It is one of the most heart-warming, heart-felt, heart-everything series of all time. It encourages funny gags without being at an expense of anyone, it makes you want to be a better person (or at least that's my experience with the show). And sometimes you (I) might think ok but Ted's a made-up character, one cannot be like that in real life... But you can.. Or at least, you can try and be curious, not judgmental, be open to grow, to deal with pain, to be more Ted.

[@alyzu4755]

I've been watching TL clips since the election. To remind me that goodness exists in the world, and that art can (and does) change people . And to not give up on my own creativity, because it just might save me. 😊 Thank you both for being so genuine and vulnerable. Thank you for being an antidote to the toxic side of the internet.

[@toharonyeulo2441]

It's insane how this channel really makes me want to be a better version of myself

[@ananimal9779]

And I bet you are, each and every day ❤

[@alexexum6084]

I’ve had panic attacks. I get Ted’s struggle. I just started therapy bc of your channel and Ted lasso’s theme of making it ok. Thank you.

[@MrsOdie2]

I love that Jamie had his piece in the book, The Beautiful and the Damned, which he initially threw away. And it had all kinds of bookmarks and notes in it. My English teacher heart exploded.

[@iPeace460]

What Alan has to say about the scene with Ted and his mother, you can see how much it means to him and THIS is why art matters. This is why we have to respect our writers and actors and pay them every cent they are worth. These ARE real jobs. They have real lasting effects on people and Alan and Jono’s reactions on Cinema Therapy shows us that. Being able to see ourselves reflected in fiction isn’t frivolous, mindless entertainment that has no effect on our lives. The power of media is watching something that resonates with you and forces you to grapple with whatever is going on with your own life. That’s what they are there for. Thank you for showing your vulnerability to us. I love Ted Lasso more than words can describe and it’s enchanting how much the show resonates with people on so many different subjects. It’s a show I will treasure for the rest of my life. Thank you for analyzing it and to your editor(s) for editing a huge 2 part video!

[@LadyKjell]

I don't give a shit about either kind of Football, and Ted Lasso is still one of my favorite shows. I laughed and cried and I love it very much. Thank you both for highlighting and spreading the word on how great the show is!

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

You're welcome. Thanks for watching!

[@rosaliac.386]

Fr, almost missed out on this golden goodie. No lie, 27:50 was the final selling point, on my way to add it to my watchlist now😅😂

[@sonorasgirl]

Same! I honestly can’t stand most sports (I get bored watching) but this show made me cheer, boo, and hiss along with any other sports fan lol

[@ostatecznykrach]

Whatsmore I think that Apple should be your sponsor because after this episode I'm strongly thinking about subscribing them for Ted Lasso, despite I'm trying not to watch TV series (too addictive for me). Alan, Jono - thank you, thank you, thank you. Watching you, your friendship, your emotions, support it's breath taking. You were and are still for me great support in depression

[@peachlings3766]

Same. This is the most well-written show I have ever seen. It means so much. I don't particularly care much about football irl, but I did when I watched this. It is so hard though to convince people to watch it. As soon as I mention the word 'football', they immediately write it off because they don't like football. But like, neither do I!!!

[@pawea1347]

"Ted Lasso" came to my life in the exact moment, when I needed it the most. For me it feels like a friend, who would talk to you, listen to you, cares about you, and at the end of your confession he/she buys you your favourite beer, or something else you like, just to cheer you up. And you feel, you're not alone in your pain and in your happiness. Forever and ever.

[@tkrause1116]

As someone who works with women working through recovery and other obstacles, I often put out my hands like 2 sides of a scale and say "these 2 feelings can coexist" and sometimes (read: often) there are actually more than 2 opposing feelings that are coexisting and that is so ok and very human. Thank you to Jono and Alan and all your CT crew for all you do. Alan, you ARE helping.

[@theshalahkay]

Ted is obviously the focus of the show but Jamie's character arc is probably my second favorite after Ted... there's just so much there, and the change is phenomenal

[@fayesouthall6604]

From episode one to the end of season 3 is incredible!

[@leafyveins4985]

Seeing Alan just lay it all out and be so beautifully honest, and manly enough to cry, is honestly so healing.

[@Trysht]

The thank you/fuck you conversation was one of the most impactful, intense scenes of this entire show for both me and my partner. One of the best, most straight forward explorations of the complicated feelings so many of us have when it comes to our parents.

[@tvestal100]

The whole thing about "parents can have done the best they could and loved you and still mess you up" i needed to hear that today. Crying during my lunch break isn't ideal, but i needed it. Thanks.

[@chetranqui]

"Replace judgment with curiosity." My favorite book on relationships (DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley) has this as one of his rules in creating a safe environment for relationships to thrive. It's great to see y'all on the same track.

[@Braddicusfinch]

Honestly, the films and TV shows are great, but watching Jonathan and Alan's individual approaches, their connection with their emotions in ways that still promotes positive masculinity, and their friendship, that is inspiring to me, and is something I try and take forward in my daily life. Never stop doing what you're doing.

[@timeandrelativedimen]

Literally just finished Part 1, what amazing timing!!

[@punkhades748]

Same hahahaha

[@jenschafer269]

Me too!

[@whitepudding9193]

Exact same situation

[@JGooden762]

Ted Lasso, in my opinion, is the best TV show ever made. Not because it's the most well-made or the best story, or whatever, but because it's the best show I personally have ever seen and will ever see. I am convinced that no other show could ever do for me what this one did...

[@samstromberg5593]

This and Inside Out have been two of my favorite episodes on this show because it's when Alan gets super emotional, totally risks ridiculed, makes it all raw and Jono is just sitting there being supportive. You can tell it's hard for Alan to get this stuff out, for whatever his reasons may be (which, to be fair, there's a lot of valid reasons that it would be hard and he's much stronger than I am for doing it anyway) and his buddy is just there with him. Because Jono doesn't want to steal Alan's time or interrupt his process, but he needs to lend him support and strength. And that's one thing Jono is just so damn good at. Which is good because these moments of Alan's make me feel like I'm not irreparably damaged, that I can continue. Thanks, Internet Dads

[@SinHurr]

I have an orbital laser ready for anyone who attempts to ridicule Alan.

[@PalmelaHanderson]

I wish I had a "thank you, and f*ck you" moment with my mom, as well. I never did. She did so many things for me and loved me unconditionally, but she was also toxic in a lot of ways. I never had the conversation with her because I didn't want to hurt her. We ended up growing apart anyway before she died, so I guess the end result would have been the same, even if it went bad.

[@bensonprice4027]

Thank you for sharing this. I think I needed to hear it.

[@heartlessgeek1908]

Alan, when you said Ted Lasso saved you at a time when everyone was horrible…I felt that too because that was the exact same thing for me here in the UK during Covid. I was working as a cashier in retail and it was awful to see and deal with such impatience and rudeness from what seemed to be everyone! So thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your experience! Thank you Jono for making such incredible insights into wellness and kindness into each episode. Your work is very healing and the level of empathy you have is something I try to incorporate into my life towards others, so that it better helps others. As a matter of fact, your show Cinema Therapy has helped me too throughout lockdowns and all the way through university. Your show is beautifully amazing. Much love and thank you very much indeed. 💖💖

[@babykicks03]

"The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off." Is a Gloria Steinem quote ❤

[@LeMayJoseph]

That moment of live therapy between you two that happened while discussing Ted's scene with his mom made me cry more than anything in Ted Lasso. And let me tell you, that's a damn tall order. I'm proud of you both and grateful you didn't edit it out of the video. Thank you.

[@jocelynfisher3174]

Appreciate your vulnerability Alan. Thank you noble sir!

[@dvs9019]

This might be the best episode of Cinema Therapy I've ever watched. Thank you both for all the light that you yourselves bring to the interwebs, which is often such a dark place. You are brilliant. You are enough. Thank you.

[@sarahrzewnicki7292]

Thank you Cinema Therapy for literally making the world a better place. You guys are helping us and I think yourselves grow and be healthier and healed and truly, thank you ❤

[@alexandrahennig2112]

I cry everytime Alan cries... gotta love being the super emotional friend :D

[@captaincrabsauce6874]

The thank you, f**k you scene brings me to tears every time. I've not seen something portray how I feel about the great job my parents tried to do, having kids at such a young age, whilst acknowledging the impact of what they got wrong. They were just people who are trying to learn on the job.

[@mpete400]

You two men are some of the most wonderful people on the Internet. Thank you so much for being such great role models and people.

[@m3rrys0ngstr3ss]

Regarding what Alan said at the end about the show acknowledging the hurt, I remember a reviewer saying that's what *actually* makes a media property more wholesome in his mind, and why he liked Season 2 better than Season 1, BECAUSE our boys were in the depths and still had each other, not because the depths and darkness don't exist on this show.

[@pro100olga]

To address Alan's words in the end: I think, with this show you are already doing same things as Ted Lasso did, which showing us kindness, support, frienship and vulnerability. Thank you for that! ❤

[@zotriademaj6531]

Everyone says this in every video but thank you. I honestly am so glad I watched that Mean Girls episode 2 years ago because your videos are such a journey and cathartic. Thank you Alan for all your tears and honesty. Thank you Jonathan for your compassion, insights, and humor.

[@caliburn9140]

I cannot state how much this show means to me. I've already commented on part 1 and the video on the patreon. But I can't pass up an opportunity to sing this shows praises. Such a beautifully made show, hopefully more comes from it, but if not I love what we've gotten.

[@Seldamarjaana]

Alan you already help so much just by beeing vulnerable. And the support that Johnatan offers just by being present and listening and saying "thank you" is amazing. I love you guys so so much!

[@laraamiri1874]

I also really appreciate that this show is centered around a middle aged man who seeks out therapy and - although has to work through his initial hesitation - actually learns to manage his response to the hardships he’s (been) dealing with. So much growth. And it’s even more beautiful because while there are many inspiring male characters out there, this kind of character just resonates so well with grown men who might be dealing with similar problems (divorce, feeling like they’re not being a present father figure, dealing with hurtful childhood memories & family issues, work-related stress etc.). Doesn’t matter who it is, it’s incredibly healing to see an on screen character, be able to relate to their struggles and watch them grow.

[@cpcoultertweedles7216]

I also love Ted's response to the book. We all know that he would be overwhelmingly supportive of the book, but that he wanted to make it clear that 'it was never about me' says so much about his character, and demonstrates so well how to accept success with grace.

[@gerrigarrick]

What a beautiful episode. Thanks for sharing your feelings on the show Alan. I concur so hard.😊 It's why I write as well. Life is hard. Let's uplift people, entertain them, make them laugh and cry and when we can do that....wow, to get to do so, what an honor. Cheers to striving to make film that helps. 🥂

[@abt9123]

I binge watched Ted Lasso recently while going through a family situation. Families are complicated no matter how supportive and great they are. And all conversation about parenting and no matter how much good intentions they have, they will be fucked up anyway is so real. And thank you very much Alan for being so sincere and vulnerable with us, do not forget that you might be sad but you are not alone.

[@npflaum]

In my 20's, I lost several friends to suicide. After that, I made a huge effort to let people know that they were important to me(and that I loved them). I love this show for allowing people to see close, caring friendships.

[@cardsfanboy]

As someone who has lost my mom, that thank you, and f-u conversation would have been cathartic. At the same time I had teenage conversations with her that left her in tears that I truly regret because I, at the time never realized what she did do for us. Parents are not perfect, they don't know what they are doing, they are just trying to get from one day to the next. Kids don't realize that. Ultimately long term, the best they can do is just have you survive day to day, make it to school, and hopefully keep you out of feeling the need to go down a dark path.

[@BethJC1993]

The conversation between you two around Alan's mum was really beautiful. Saying "thank you" and "you're welcome" in such sincerity to your friend is lovely and very moving to see. Thank you for letting us be a part of that moment, and Alan, I wish you some healing in your situation, whatever form or path that may take.

[@LokiMischief]

To the Internet Dads: Both of you helped me the way that Ted Lasso helped Alan. I found you all when I was going through a rough spot in my life. I have several mental health challenges and sometimes, some days, looking into the world and seeing men like you, men like the man I want to be, it means more to me than words can express. I don't have any connection to my parents at this point. There are several challenges layered there but the least of which is that they don't think that people like me (a gay trans man) should even exist on this planet. They are both quite vocal about it. I would love to have the "Thank you, F you" conversation with my parents but, like Alan, I know it wouldn't go well. Thank you, both of you, for being there in ways that you don't even know, to help people you may not ever meet, see that there are healthy, helpful, supportive men in the world who want them to succeed. We haven't met. We may not ever meet. But thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

[@Scrofar]

The whole parent talk had me in tears. I wouldn't say I ever had a close relationship with either of my parents; in fact, I was happy to move out of the house because living with them was, put simply, insufferable. Even though they took care of me well, having a conversation with them almost always impacted my mental health and self-esteem to some degree. They cared about me, I know, but they didn't believe in my dreams, and that hurt me most. I was happy, and mostly glad, and maybe just lucky, that I got my dream job somewhere far away from my parents and that I could basically start a new life there. Fast forward five years later: I haven't given up on my dreams, but life's taken a hard turn on my living situation, and I'm constantly teetering on being broke and poor. I'm planning to move in with my relatives who lives in a different city. My dad calls to interrogate me why I never chose to move back home earlier; I would've been well-cared for, I could've saved money, etc. He was understandably very frustrated with my decisions, and how I had taken so many risks to pursue my dreams. I always feared being vulnerable in front of my dad especially, because growing up, crying was looked down upon and would've been met with a lot of yelling. I learned how to withhold my emotions to avoid backlash. I learned how to lie about my feelings, though the contradiction was that if I was caught in a lie, I would also be punished. I learned to get better at lying. Despite this, however, lying about my feelings really got me in worse places: my friendships were so one-sided because I rarely voiced my opinons, I never properly communicated at work and would bite off more than I could chew, and I found myself in extremely uncomfortable situations because I didn't want to look weak and vulnerable in front of my peers. I always feigned a smile even though I was hurting inside, and I would kick that hurt under the rug and try to gaslight myself that my discomfort wasn't real. On that call, something snapped within me. That "Fuck you" moment happened with my dad. I told him I was never happy living at home as I got older. I told him that I was sick and tired of all the yelling. I told him how I lied about how I felt, and that he essentially taught me to lie. I told him I didn't want to return to that damage. I apologized for yelling at him, and then I hung up. I cried for the rest of the day and my eyes were burning by the end. I remember having lost my appetite so badly that all I could manage was eating half a can of cold corn for dinner. My heart was hurting by the end of the night. But at the same time, it also felt lighter. The feeling was both liberating, because I spoke the truth for the first time, and also heartbreaking, because it took me this long to say it. I don't know when I'm gonna call him again. I know I'll have to face him again during the holidays. I want to be able to someday complete the Ted Lasso moment and have the "Thank you" second half. I'm not sure if I'll be strong enough to do it. I only know that I want to make sure to do so before it's too late. Okay, I know I've talked too much. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this. I hope, with some effort, I can rekindle the relationship with my dad (and my mom as well) to a better and more understanding state.

[@duko3000]

Ted Lasso is one of my favorite series ever, i truly appreciate you covering it. My dad and i watched it together week to week, and we watched the finale three days before my grandfather passed. Many tears were shed that weekend, and im grateful for the show help my dad express himself healthier, just in time.

[@gobabygirlzen]

My favorite scene - Ted telling Sharon the horrific story of what happened to his dad. I was bawling.

[@TheSquishySnail]

I'm really enjoying this breakdown. I just started watching Ted Lasso and what an amazing show it is! Love hearing your views on this show and the characters.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Glad you enjoy it!

[@MarcosProjects]

Alan, what you say at the end here about what you want to accomplish and why, I know that you hope to do it through traditional cinema, but please know that for a lot of us you're doing it even better than a lot of the best movies here. I love Ted Lasso and 100% agree with everything y'all had to say about it but hadn't appreciated all of that at least to the depth that I do now because of these videos. The same is true for Everything Everywhere All at Once, and many Pixar films and so on. You guys help deepen my love for these movies/shows and appreciate all of the mental health aspects they contain that we can learn from. I know you highly value doing those kinds of things through subtlety (traditional 'good' filmmaking) rather than explicitly explaining it (what y'all often do here), but as you said in the RRR video, "remember how I said subtlety in filmmaking is good? F--- that noise, this is good"

[@barbarapacker5722]

I get and really felt that, "Thank you and F--- you scene." I was so proud of his mom for not getting offended as she listened so carefully with her heart. Whenever you address your mom, maybe say, "It hurt when ..." and share what you have learned as you have matured. I can't imagine blaming my mom for handling things wrong with us. She was so gentle and patient, never giving up, so that talk would not be appropriate with her, but I fear my own children want to tell me similar things because, although I did a lot right, I was not always as gentle and patient as my mom. I know I disappointed my kids, and I want so much to heal their broken hearts. (I know "I" can't heal them, but for them to be healed and me do my part, I mean.)

[@abbalou7717]

I think shows like Ted lasso are so powerful because they're teaching us how to take a gentle and emotionally positive approach to relationships. It coach's us on how to be calm in the face of big emotions whilst simultaneously saying emotions are OK. Feel sad, be sad, it's OK to be angry, it's OK to get anxious, but what's not OK is hurting other people and lashing out. It's some of the best writing ever.

[@keul2704]

Just hearing Ted’s reaction to his mom saying “your boy misses you” feels to me like it’s the last thing I want to hear right now, but honestly it’s something I absolutely needed to hear. I relatively recently had to give my dogs away. Permanently. One of my biggest fears is that they’ll have moved on, and forget that I ever existed. And to escape that pain, I tried to cope with the loss on my own, and to an extent I’m doing that right now. But when I tell you that this is my god’s honest truth, there hasn’t been a single day that’s gone by ever since that I haven’t thought about them. And even now it kills me to think about it, because all I wanted was to give them a good life, and when I had them all I could think about was how I was failing them. And now that it’s finally over and they’re somewhere else, I’m absolutely heartbroken that they’re gone, but I’m also in some ways happy that they’ll have a chance to have a better life than I could have ever given them. I know I’m doing the right thing in my head, but I know in my heart that I just wanted to be a little bit more selfish. Just so I could see them. Just to be there, but I can’t. It’s not fair to them. So yeah, this show hits me very very hard right where it’s hurting the most right now, and I’m grateful for the show and for y’all for putting it out there. Anyways, vent over. I’ve got a wild morning to prep for. Thanks for the video!

[@octaviamacisaac8062]

Watching these videos is like getting additional free counselling sessions in between visits with my therapists. I watch a lot of these videos and recommend them to family and friends when I'm struggling to communicate my own internal dilemmas, anxieties and fears. As someone on the ASD spectrum it's a very useful tool.

[@Mad_Oph]

It has been so goddamned refreshing to have a show that flat-out tells guys that they're only harming ourselves by not being open about what's going on upstairs, and to be so utterly dismissive of all the stupid, bullshit tropes that plague television. Rupert is basically the only real bad person on the show, and the worst of the guys on Richmond just need help finding their way. It's just nice to see hope and growth earned and portrayed realistically, as attainable by anyone willing to do the work. I don't think a show has ever made me cry this much, and I couldn't be more thankful for its presence in my life.

[@fayesouthall6604]

Bingo !

[@devinmarvin3920]

Please make a Roy Kent episode. The scene where he hugs Jamie after his fight with his dad is one of the most moving scenes I've ever seen on screen.

[@joanmilton9986]

Putting the message back together works as a metaphor for the team. One, that each piece contributes something special to the message and one piece isn't any more or less important than another. Two, that the smaller pieces, when put together, make something bigger. That that message is "Believe" is even more powerful.

[@moon83star30]

This is what your guy's show is for me. It helped get through that not so great time the past couple of years. It was a ray of light. So thank you and please realize that you two, through this show, already bring hope to many. Please continue to do what your doing. Again, thank you.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

We're honored to have kept you company these past few years. Thank you for your kind comment, and thanks for watching! :)

[@krnelfarb]

Alan and Jon: what Alan says about Ted lasso and is similar to how I feel about you guys. I discovered you during quarantine, when I was probably having my worst time and it brought some joy to my days. Lockdown and the subsequent reopening of everything made me realize I’m pretty sure I have autism. I finally got an evaluation, but no result yet. Watching you guys react to movies actually helps me recognize and process my own emotions sometimes. Thanks for all you guys do! Also: hi Sophie!

[@paigemcentire5446]

Ted Lasso is one of the only pieces of media I've seen recently that actually does the "sad/dramatic moment followed by a joke" without ruining the dramatic moment. So often it's just a throw-away quip to try and lighten the mood, but totally undercuts the moment. Ted Lasso (and some of the other shows from the same showrunners like Shrinking) understands how to make a joke OUT of the moment which makes it relatable, which makes it hit harder. Ted asking for a hug after he really opens up about his father doesn't undercut all the growth and understanding but reinforces it

[@anschw]

Oh Alan, thank you for being you! ❤ It's good to have you and Jono in the world, what you do matters so much to many people everywhere 🙌 keep up the good work, greetings from Germany ✨

[@sophiepomerleau708]

I would love for my dad to take accountability for what he did to me, how he raised me. The best thing he does he’s being the best grandpa. He respects my niece and nephew, never scream at them, etc. For me, that’s quite enough

[@kikon78]

Dudes the amount of power and compassion I get from this content as a person in his therapeutic journey is infinite. Thank you from the bottom of my self and my life experience!

[@parissinclair6513]

I would love to see you guys do a compilation of healthy teen relationships/teen dating! It seems like movies and tv shows so often get it horribly wrong, and I would be really interested to see good examples of young romance.

[@QJJ245]

I am crying with Alan... I hope my kids will grow to be as open and in tune with themselves. I hope I can be as caring and supportive as Jono. I love Cinema Therapy. It has helped me so much in my own emotional journey. Reinforced my own therapy. I am a better person and parent. Thank you Alan and Jonathan so much. Truly.

[@danielvanpatten9526]

It was refreshing to see a character work through their own discomfort with therapy, and it leading to a healthy place. When I was struggling with the passing of my father, it took me a while to get to place of comfort in seeking help from a professional but it put me on a path of healing that allowed me to be who I am today. Thank you for the vulnerability you show to us regularly Johnathan and Alan. I also wanted to take the chance to recommend an anime movie that I think is would be very powerful to cover, it's called Josee, The Tiger and the Fish. I touches a lot of topics like depression, escapism, how to lift others up, taking chances to pursue dreams, being self-sufficient, the frustrations as well as challenges that come with having a disability in a world that is not commonly built to cater to your needs. There is a scene in that movie that makes me sob every time I watch it. Again, thanks for the videos. The channel has been a comfort since it came out.

[@mr.osclasses5054]

My favorite little piece about when they talk about Roy and when he sings along as Rebecca is singing "Let It Go" is how Brett Goldstein did an interview where he said that scene was all him and he had no idea the camera was on him, he was just mouthing the words along because he knew/liked the song. Turned out to be a wonderful unintentional character piece for Roy, though, given other things that happened in the show, like the Julie Andrews roles.

[@Jallorn]

Finally watched Ted Lasso, on the inspiration of this channel, in fact, and came back to rewatch this with more context. I find myself caught by something I hadn't: how the humor after Ted's confession in therapy doesn't interrupt, undermine, or in any way disrupt the earnestness of the emotions on display. Instead, it serves as a release valve, a reminder that for all the pain Ted is experiencing in the scene, all the pain we get to feel cathartic empathy for, this is a healing moment. This is a release for Ted as much as for us. It's not a joke that creates barriers and distance, or a joke meant to show the audience how clever a character or writer is- it starts from a completely earnest place for Ted, and he doesn't make a joke until halfway through the humor- and it's still an earnest expression of Ted's compassion, just in a funny way. It brings joy into the experience of this emotional, painful release, and it's done so well.

[@tomislavlucic9346]

I enjoyed watching theese two videos on Ted Lasso as much as I enjoyed watching Ted Lasso show. Such a warming, positive and great work guys.

[@efoxkitsune9493]

Thank you, Alan, for getting so vulnerable and real and for choosing to share that with us. Genuinly. A real role-model. I truly appreciate you. Take care, sending love your way ❤

[@nicoletownes3225]

Back again after the season 4 announcement! I also wanted to say that as someone who is also an emotional person, I think it's important and significant how Allen allows himself to show his emotions on this channel. It makes emotions feel accepted, and makes the channel feel more genuine

[@fayesouthall6604]

When Ted calms himself mid panic attack I was willing him and crying when he deals with it. So beautiful 😍

[@fayesouthall6604]

Absolutely I cried and whooped.

[@summerwoodward8967]

thank you to both of you for putting such vulnerable things into the world. Hearing Alan voice his own fears and hearing Jono's words of comfort and reassurance was really speaking to me very directly, and I'm sure hundreds of others. You both are doing so much more than you could realize with this show by modeling open vulnerability between friends, so thank you so much

[@MalaysianChopsticks]

The only tv show that I binge and do not feel it looses steam or I feel tired of it. Ted’s positivity is just very refreshing

[@Lenci_of_Hazelnut]

Ted Lasso is the best show I've ever seen. And I grew up loving media to the point that I'd often walk to the theater by myself on discount Tuesdays. The bar was high, and this one tops the charts for me.