90 Day Fiancé - (Deavan & Jihoon #1) - Therapist Reacts

[@wall.daisies2952]

I really appreciate Jihoon's parents for being so respectful to Deavan regarding Drascilla's wildness

[@siriusthecat]

yes they are SO sweet to her. They have big grandparent energy. Just a simple loving smile to Dracilla

[@HelloTruDee]

They def had experience of being parents themselves and have that patience. It’s sweet. Not sure but Jihoon doesn’t have kids yet in that episode.

[@whoops8412]

Especially considering their culture... it was amazing to see how respectful they are to Deavan for even having Drascilla and marrying their son. Big love and true meaning of family from Jihoons family, Deavans family on the other hand... yikes. Her mom was worse than Dracilla when it came to manners

[@hadizamohammed]

They're easily one of the most respectful and kind parents in the history of 90 day

[@CrimsonEclipse]

Well they guests and Deaven paid for everything when they visited. It's only polite. But when things got established and Jihoon's mom was more critical.

[@313eve]

"A cook person". Very admirable profession, much like the "hair cutters". We love your idiosyncrasies, Dr Honda! Keep being your wonderful self.

[@rhondajohnson8310]

Ha haaa... I forgot about the hair cutters comment...

[@epicjen]

And the fire people

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Yeah. Not sure what's wrong with my brain. :)

[@313eve]

@@PsychologyInSeattle We're a big fan of your brain! Personally, you've helped me bring a lot of things to therapy that I didn't quite know how to articulate myself. Thank you.

[@m.r.e.5731]

@@PsychologyInSeattle It is precious!

[@josefinthor9194]

I just gotta say that this is my favorite proposal in 90 day fiancé. It's clumsy and adorable, like it can be in real life. Not the kind of cinderella moment you see in movies that people assume it has to be like.

[@MsJeanneMarie]

Yeah and I appreciated how sweet she was about it. I could see it going very different ways with other people who’ve been on this show.

[@dogtrainer4645]

Jihoon's parents were eating raw bacon and Druscilla was rummaging through the food because they were all really hungry. I think it was like 2 pm and they hadn't eaten breakfast. Deaven wanted to make breakfast, yet slept in and then took forever to make it. Lol

[@apollojakenwill]

What I hated was Deavon had definite expectations of Jihoons parenting, but did not communicate what she wanted him to do, so half the time it was like she was mad for overstepping, and then she’d be mad for him not doing more

[@kokolatte825]

Yes, Devan was like this. Kind of reminds me of Molly when she brought home that guy in his 20's from the D.R. She expected him to be a father figure at 26 with no kids but expected him to do it intuitively instead of talking it out with him and her kids. A mess.

[@cassieg4874]

At the same time, his mother constantly babied him and didnt help further his growth into becoming a man and an instant father. Yes she has high expectations but this is also her 2nd child....she also is the one making the move and expected to feel secure one she got to Korea. Communication is such a huge problem between ontop of the culture difference and language barrier.

[@apollojakenwill]

@@cassieg4874 i definitely agree about Jihoon needing to take more responsibility and grow, I just think she needed, as Drusilla’s parent, to be a lot more clear as to expectations and boundaries with her because it can be very hard to step in as a step parent because there can be a resentment from “I’m her mom so I don’t want you overstepping” on both sides

[@summers9052]

@@cassieg4874 yes but you said it yourself, this is her second child. meaning she knows the gist of the whole parenting situation and she should be grown enough to be able to communicate even a bit just what it is she’s expecting from him. he’s a brand new father, he’s not gonna know what the deal is right off the bat and she’s simply not patient or communicative enough to be of any help to him or herself.

[@kassyyar97]

“Maybe this is an Omen of things to come” That was hilarious! Pretty sure Dr Honda is a clairvoyant 😂

[@shelbielynne9609]

YES. I've been wondering if you'd ever tackle this couple. They definitely have a lot about their relationship to comment (speculate) on.

[@meepgirl1434]

i’m happy to hear you talk about raising a child. Watching your videos I tend to get overwhelmed about all the ways you can mess a child up. And how much that affects the person forever.

[@Leah-uy8om]

As long as you’re aware of your own issues and you try your hardest to make the kid feel loved, appreciated, and valued, that’s the best you can do!

[@mrsfr.]

yes, and i think i've commented something like this in some video, it's always extracool to hear your talk about children.. we want more :) oooo i feel terrified of all the ways I HAVE messed my kids up.

[@moomoocachoo9025]

...I feel sorry for the trainwreck that will come from this.

[@justmeok2]

But it is all jihoons fault!!!

[@kara.g.]

I saw the video on my page and said, “Oh no”

[@longisland-icedtea]

And once he's caught up he NEEDS to know what happened AFTER the show. Deavan leaving Korea without telling Jihoon she isn't coming back, showing up on IG with a new korean boyfriend/father to her 2 kids, taking Taeyung away from his father and grandparents leaving them helpless because they can't afford an international custody battle. SO SAD.

[@justmeok2]

@@longisland-icedtea "he's abusive" × 1000 times. Also her claim about dracula's hair patches, ugh. Jihoon was a decent (albeit lazy) guy.

[@longisland-icedtea]

@@justmeok2 that too! So much happened after the show IT'S NUTS

[@yasmin_dom]

Jihoon’s parents were so kind and accommodating. Specially the dad

[@carissa7434]

Appreciate you speaking up for parents. My kid has poor sleep schedule, poor listening, and other struggles. Felt judged for years. He’s recently diagnosed ASD, everything I felt like was my fault as a parent was actually something that lead to diagnosis. Life is much easier now, but it took a long time to get answers. No idea about these parents, of course, just in general people are so quick to judge and it’s nice when someone has kind words for parents.

[@Leah-uy8om]

I feel like everyone who eventually wants to have kids would benefit from working a childcare job first, to practice child-rearing skills. I don’t have kids but I have worked as a babysitter/nanny/daycare teacher/au pair/after-school care worker and it really gave me a lot of empathy towards parents because good god, kids are tough to handle sometimes! It seems like the people who tend to criticize parents for having misbehaved children either a) have no kids themselves, or b) have kids that are naturally easygoing and obedient. One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone’s like, “that kid is so spoiled, his parents need to beat him more!” like, what the fuck??

[@heiroffire5743]

@@Leah-uy8om yea like “wow you’re kid is being a kid? You should beat that out of them” It’s really sad and tragic thinking. And it leads to a lot of trauma as an adult when you aren’t allowed to express yourself as a child, which is the most important time to learn self expression

[@heiroffire5743]

@@Leah-uy8om like not only are they not allowed to be children, they’re also being punished for it and are confused because they don’t know what they did to deserve that kind of hurt from their caregivers/parents

[@gunillajohnson5923]

Also dealt with ASD. Parenting theories go out the window when it comes to certain disorders

[@katiearcher4475]

Im also a mom, when i talk to my other friends who are parents the biggest thing we all agree on is consistency and routines. How each of our kids respond to stimulus is unique to them, but at least theres some form of routine in the chaos of life. XD

[@a.typicalmillennial]

Korean deserving listener here! I've been waiting this video! Thank you very much 😊

[@jihyeonjung-chen5449]

I’m Korean and over apologizing is definitely something that we see a lot in our culture. Also, at the end of the video, it may seem like Jihoon has low self-esteem, but I think it is more cultural than it has to do with self-esteem. Koreans value humbleness so I think that’s why he emphasized his mistakes and wanted to point out that despite of his mistakes, Deavan accepted him

[@MsJeanneMarie]

I’m American and one of my best friends is Nepali. She often tells me how surprised she is that I and other Americans are so polite or what she considers to be overly polite. Like she says in Nepali culture, when you’re close with someone you don’t need to apologize for small things or ask for things or say excuse me. For example, I ask if it’s okay if I stay at her place when we plan to drink. She always says, “yes, of course! You don’t need to ask!” Or I might say “sorry, I’m late” and she says “you don’t need to apologize for that!”

[@chanellee9762]

I’m American living in India and they also say there is no need to say ‘thank you’ to someone you’re close to. I would say the downside to Americans being so “polite” is that when someone deviates from this and slights us, even without meaning offence, it’s common for so many of us to explode with rage. I hate that. For example, someone not holding the door open for someone and that person going off. You see the same thing happening on the road too often. Also when we do something for someone and expect a thank you but don’t get one, I’ve seen people fly off the handle for that. Hate to say it but I think many times Americans aren’t -actually- polite at all when it really comes down to it. Took me living in India to sort of resent our forced politeness culture.

[@MsJeanneMarie]

@@chanellee9762 I don’t think Americans are more polite than other cultures. This is how my friend describes but I think it’s just a difference of cultural expectations. All cultures have behaviors they consider polite or rude. Some of them are just different than American behaviors. Anyone who has a disproportionate reaction to a situation isn’t serving themselves well. But it’s acceptable to expect someone who understands this culture to adhere to certain aspects. If I give someone a gift and they toss it aside and say it’s cheap, that’s considered rude by American and I’d guess most other cultural standards. That’s because it doesn’t adhere to our expectations of what we consider polite or respectful. No one is forcing anyone to be polite, but if you chose not to be, people are likely to feel hurt and disrespected. Conversely, when my Nepali friend doesn’t say thank you or excuse me or something like that, I don’t even notice. It’s no problem because we ARE close and I already know she cares about me and respects me. So, I completely understand why Nepali and Indian cultures operate that way. It works and it makes total sense. Politeness isn’t a bad thing. It’s just a way of showing other people that you respect them. Different cultures express that in different ways.

[@CrimsonEclipse]

I think it depends on the upbringing of the American because just in the US there are different behaviors and cultural styles. Depending on which part of the US the behaviors and mannerism are totally different and it's also the same as well if you have religious backgrounds too. It shapes the behaviors. But I would agree some Americans are actually very polite. My husband is one if them. And when I took him to China people were suprise how polite he was to offer his seat to the elderly on public transportation and open doors for people.

[@MsJeanneMarie]

@@CrimsonEclipse yeah for sure, American culture is not monolithic. And I actually don’t think Americans are more polite than other cultures. I think it’s just a difference of expectations.

[@puli_dreadhead]

Oh I was friends with some international students and their parents told them at one point that Americans were going to be a bad influence on them. (Regarding body piercings/tattoos) I guess that somewhat accurate since they’re not using my money I wouldn’t bat an eye if they told me that they want to get a full sleeve done.

[@jasminehouston-burns1691]

I feel like I've been watching this channel just waiting for him to review the infamous Danielle and Mohammed.

[@zahrai1235]

Hahaha I’d love that

[@oliviam6332]

Yes! He should definitely react to them!

[@jasminehouston-burns1691]

@@oliviam6332 I just assumed it would happen, but then he does couple requests and I'm surprised I haven't seen them yet.

[@LDrosophila]

Yes please

[@k.shin__]

YESSSS me too I've been waiting!

[@laurabarss3543]

Can’t wait for dr Honda to see Devon’s mom and especially when she visits and meets jihoon’s parents 🥴

[@whoops8412]

Lmao she was worse than Dracilla!!! I couldn’t believe how rude she was when they were driving.... deavans mom was screaming in Jihoon moms ear. Deavans mom is the only bad thing in their life 😂☠️

[@kokolatte825]

That woman is a bad person. Maybe even worse than Asuelu's mom.

[@ms8martini]

@Laura Barss you are soo on point! I’ll bet that Deavan’s mother will be *diplomatically* roasted by Dr. Honda as he observes future episodes. Can’t wait to hear his professional observations/ comments

[@bellissima78]

@@ms8martini me either! Lol. Those were awful scenes.

[@oliviam6332]

@@whoops8412 Drascilla is a toddler who was forced to go to a different country with a different time change, culture, and language. Plus she was filmed for tv. Give the poor girl a break. Edit: Also if there’s anyone to blame for drascilla’s bad behavior, it’s Deavan. It’s her job to teach her child to have manners, which she hasn’t done a good job of doing.

[@annefrank7005]

My take on this couple: Jijoon is an absolute sweetheart but quite immature. Still he tried extensively to do the right thing, to own up to responsibility, to help provide for Deavan and her new life in Korea. Deavan on the other hand.. was consistently sour towards him and his family, belittling his every effort and always making him feel small. It was quite sad to watch

[@kendall9862]

I’m guessing you’ve seen the rest of this season. I like jijoon, but in what ways did he actually make any effort to do the right thing(other than straight up lying to Deavan and his parents)? He lied about having a job and seemed to do very little in terms of actually making any real effort to support his family.

[@puli_dreadhead]

@@kendall9862 he had a few jobs but one was illegal/under the table and I think the other was a delivery person. I think he was in a lot of debt too

[@jenniferlee7740]

I love you Dr. Honda! You really help me see things in a totally different way. I know your videos aren’t a substitute for therapy but I’ve learned so much from you and I feel like you model such positivity.

[@jenniferlee7740]

And you are so reasonable!!

[@BrainBryanBrian]

@@jenniferlee7740 Dr. Kirk honda is really cool!!!!

[@mariamnavarro4548]

We don’t deserve you Dr. Honda. Have a wonderful week!

[@agbluvsu2]

But we are his deserved listeners!

[@samanthaecotothermia7896]

This one is going to be a doozy! Thanks for being so open to suggestions from your audience, Dr. Honda!

[@ChekkersYT]

I don’t shame parents unless their kids destroy my stuff. I think it’s reasonable to expect parents to keep their kids from destroying your things.

[@stephaniespurling6105]

Thank you Dr. Honda for finally stating the obvious-That people need to think before reproducing with people they barely know. 🙄

[@jettopistoru]

Thank you Dr Kirk! You really give your audience almost everything we want lol. We appreciate your willingness and the amount of content you churn out!

[@DechenWongmo]

y'all are putting poor Dr.Kirk to work™️ with this suggestion 💀

[@gabrielabarbara5662]

Jihoon's parents are so sweet!!! They really warm up my heart.

[@katkat4986]

And they gave him dependency issues

[@toddrach2809]

Thanks for doing this couple. Please be careful what you say about Deavan. She likes to sue people.

[@yasmin_dom]

Oh my 😂

[@thedudeabides5695]

Can't win....she's now a public figure.

[@pinkpugginz]

yep she threatens to sue everyone

[@kmonkey8874]

shes def gonna threaten to sue lmao

[@pinkpugginz]

If I were a single mom I would never allow my boyfriend to sleep in bed with my kid all together. Especially so early on in the relationship. my cousin was molested by her moms bf who would sleep in the bed with all of them

[@kokolatte825]

I'm sorry that happened 😔 Also, Devan is a space cadet. In her defense, it could be pregnancy brain.

[@Diana-rx7bu]

I agree with this. That made me so uncomfortable seeing that

[@pinkpugginz]

@@kokolatte825 I don't know if you are aware of this but deavan was severely abused and sexually assaulted by her ex boyfriend. so for her to let some strange man be in bed and watch her daughter alone makes no sense at all

[@kokolatte825]

@@pinkpugginz oh my! I did not know that. I dont really follow the show outside of just the TV show and Dr. Honda's reviews.

[@elisejackson2854]

@@kokolatte825 that’s no defense and a lame ass excuse.

[@lavenderfields6666]

Team Jihoon all the way. I hope he can find happiness and their baby can connect with his real dad in the future 🙏🏽

[@mokc913]

Yikes, spoilers!?

[@silversun1203]

Not everyone's seen this but thanks for spoiling it.. 😢

[@notdatwoo]

U should put a spoiler alert lmao

[@jennysearle5353]

Lmao at the people complaining about spoilers. These people are real and they’re not apart of some fictional story.

[@puli_dreadhead]

@@silversun1203 people break up I don’t know what you expect from this couple. Parents barely make it work when the live in the same country, they don’t. They also have the stress of a language barrier, expectations, and different parenting styles with a baby in the mix.

[@CrimsonEclipse]

What I remember the first season with Jihoon and Deaven. Deavan admitted she was worried about disciplining Dracsilla on camera and how the camera crew was enabling the behaviors. Deaven cried at the airport because she was telling the camera crew to not film her disciplining her kid but they refused and Dracsilla was also running wild. Deaven has a lot of insecurity issues and worried about how it would look on camera. But at the end it does not even matter since she will look bad either way.

[@roryspickett9881]

It just occurred to me that Utah appears a lot on this show. I wonder if the state as become TLC's hunting grounds for content.

[@devasyajarrett141]

Lol their cultural nuisances are slightly different from main stream American culture. So if that's the case it makes sense

[@thedudeabides5695]

A lot of Las Vegas too....maybe tax breaks in those states?

[@pinkpugginz]

Utah sucks

[@bluetextbooks]

This couple takes a sharp left turn. They are the reason I began watching the series.

[@chicavant7052]

I Love you Dr Honda and I believe WE DO deserve you. We really really do.

[@This_handle_is_tak3n]

“I’m not a cook Person” :)

[@ChristinaChrisR]

Lol was smiling about that too

[@Elpaisdelosguapipos]

I've seen a few comments about this but I don't understand. Was it a joke? (English is not my native language so maybe that's why I don't understand why so many people are finding this funny)

[@ChristinaChrisR]

@@Elpaisdelosguapipos it’s because whenever someone on a show went to the hair dresser’s, dr Honda would always pause and like; what do you call that…hair…hair person? Cutting person? 😂

[@ChristinaChrisR]

@@Elpaisdelosguapipos and people in the comments would go: HAIR DRESSER! STYLIST! BARBER!

[@Elpaisdelosguapipos]

@@ChristinaChrisR oh thank you for explaining it to me!

[@mrsfr.]

kids that has no boundaries and acts "wild", are often desperately screaming after someone to tell them NO. boundaries and coherent parenting gives them the feeling of safety they need. an adult that sets the boundaries is a safe adult, that may have been missing from their lives. and if you are the stupid one who's telling them what's ok and what isn't, surprisingly you are the one they come close to and feel comfortable with.

[@moraewe]

While I’m not Korean, my husband is and I have many Korean friends. What I noticed as far as apologizing is that if you are someone older, in authority, or you are someone they care about, they will apologize if they do wrong. From my observation, Korean culture is very much a culture that prioritizes respect.

[@LeanDoughnut]

Oh no, Kirk has been conditioned to brace himself for the dumpster fire to come with new couples

[@iamtheboneofmysword607]

As a south Asian, if I had behaved like Drascilla (especially in front of guests).... Let's just say I would never.

[@smacksalad]

Oh wow. This likely to be unintentionally hilarious and I already feel bad at that thought :)

[@Aw_tig]

I remember watching this proposal and just laughing so much, I had to rewind and watch again 😂 I do love these two together. Sometimes I wonder if the camera men are also laughing and if they have to try really hard to stay serious and keep filming

[@RM_BER]

I want a "bundle of impulses"-shirt!!!

[@Thegiddyowl]

Jihoon’ s parents eating raw bacon makes me feel better about trying to eat the hard cornea of a red snapper eye when I was in Japan lol.

[@brandoniswhoiam]

Finally! Kenny and Armando have very little conflicts with each other, btw. So, I think it’ll be kinda boring. However, they ARE my favourite couple.

[@thisisavivistanaccount7866]

I loved them. Most of their problems seemed external? Seeing them tackle things together was super refreshing

[@beekay9607]

Yay, I’m happy you’re talking about them. I honestly wish Jihoon had his own show showing his life in Korea and trying to find love, get his son back, etc.

[@MomijiFAndres]

As a half Japanese person, I am one of those people who apologize "too much". I was programmed to apologize for things when they go wrong and blame myself even when it's not my fault. I have been getting better at it with the help of my therapist and other people in my circle but its a hard habit to break.

[@azzurracupini6441]

Ahah I Can relate to You so Much Dear💖!!!!

[@missincognito2666]

His parents are so sweet especially the father I could tell he has a lot of character

[@acd1168]

Thanks for coming through with this couple Dr. Honda. You are spot on about spacey people being long distance runners. I know someone who is the same way.

[@SupaTang]

Devin had a lot of trauma coming from her past relationship (her baby's father). It was clear from their time on the show and Jihoon is dealing with some arrested development and having large debt from him committing a crime. They both had a lot to heal from.

[@tulip5210]

what was the crime?

[@SupaTang]

@@tulip5210 he was repairing and selling stolen phones and when he got caught he had to pay a debt because of that.

[@RyuSaga99]

Ah.. Andrei and Elizabeth... The "how to not" family of the franchise..

[@jobeey]

"I'm not a cook person" 😂

[@moonsunmars1827]

Yes!! Thank God for Dr. Honda! Your reactions are EVERYTHING!! Much love from Norway :)

[@keerahh2378]

Love that you're doing this couple from 90 day fiancé!!

[@alisha1377]

Thank you for reacting to this couple! Me and my husband are an international/cultural couple, I’m from the US (hispanic) and husband is Chinese (Zhuang ethnically). we communicate in mandarin, and both have lived in one another’s culture and hometown. This couple was hard for me to watch and I really empathize with Jihoon. This couple really had a disconnect, I did wish that they overcame their miscommunication and cultural misunderstanding. Would you be able to have a video for international couples who communicate in between languages? I haven’t found a therapist (in US) that are familiar with international couples that communicate in a dual language setting.

[@thedudeabides5695]

Was it hard to learn Mandarin?

[@alisha1377]

Yes and no, the grammar is a lot easier in comparison to many European language families (imo). Learning to listen and speak can happen within a year, and can improve thereafter. It is a lot better to learn within the country, it becomes less daunting when you are in the language environment and need to speak to do most things. The difficulties I personally run into is the writing system of hanzi and the many dialects within a province, even now I barely understand my husbands hometown dialect. 😅

[@RockyDaTherapist]

It was difficult for me to watch this scene. I grew up sitting down and asking before I touched or did anything. I most definitely would not have had my dirty bare feet near the food. Definitely a cultural thing for me. My parents would say "No home training".

[@iamtheboneofmysword607]

Same here. It just reads as if there is no structure/discipline from my cultural lens. May I ask which culture you belong to? If you don't mind of course

[@RockyDaTherapist]

@@iamtheboneofmysword607 I’m African American and my parents grew up in the southern part of the US. Manners are a huge thing and your child’s behavior is considered a representation of you as a parent.

[@iamtheboneofmysword607]

@@RockyDaTherapist ahh I'm not American so I didn't want to make any assumptions. Yesss same for me! If your child is considered to not have proper manners the parents will be seen as lackluster

[@abandonablesnowman]

Who tf lets their kid act like this, especially in front of guests? I could never

[@thedudeabides5695]

Trashy people, like Deavan & her Mom....

[@abandonablesnowman]

I mean, I guess it is important to keep in mind that a person’s economic and/or support system situation can really impact parenting. It can be really exhausting to be a single parent, but still, not on the counters…

[@ld8178]

I am in a Interracial relationship with an Asian-American woman. With our cultural differences it can be a lil hard. Especially with food and social norms. There is some food from my wife’s side that can be a lot for me. I do tell her in a kind way that the food is an acquired taste. Meaning, I am Interested but I am not use to this but give me time. When I tried kimchi, wasn’t a fan at first because how different it was to my native foods. but over time I enjoy the taste. Lol Point I am making is, interracial relationships can be hard but understanding our differences, Being open and respecting, acknowledging the tension helps alot.

[@JulesA5266]

Haha... What you're saying about your wife's food is how my wife responds to my food too (Malaysian food). Thankfully, she's open minded enough to at least try things once and is respectful of the fact that we just eat/enjoy different things sometimes.

[@ld8178]

@@JulesA5266 yes! it’s okay to enjoy different things. (:

[@brebree913]

I absolutely LOVE jihoons parents They’re so sweet and accepting Maybe too much of pushovers but I love where their heart is

[@Anibunny]

Wait until Deavan's mom enters the picture. . .lol. I can't wait for you to see that mix!

[@sunflowerheather7019]

The fbomb mom

[@frenchbread28]

Ugh! The mother! I'm looking forward to Dr. Honda's reaction.

[@benjaminsagar5008]

my partner and I quote "JIHOOON GET HER!!!!" All the time

[@emmavandervos]

Thanks you for mentioning not being in to running so relatable!! I forced myself to run during the pandemic because the gyms were closed down. It was a hard struggle. Now happy that the gyms are open again! I will never be super sporty but I try to be active for my health

[@rabbitgear]

I'm really glad you mentioned this notion that people struggling with another language are viewed as child-like or unintelligent. I taught English as a second language to kids for years, so I'm very aware that some extremely intelligent kids can struggle with learning a new language and then brand new teachers assume those same kids are general underachievers. I myself am struggling with learning the language of my husband's family and it kills me that they treat me like I'm stupid because I can't communicate on their level.

[@A.H.A.J]

I remember when I was a child, I would be in the kitchen when my grandmother and mom made roti (Indian flatbread) and wanted to make it too. So my granny and my mom used to keep an extra rolling pin and the thing where you make it on, they would give me some flour and a bit of dough. Which would make me occupied and that’s was a great way to interact with me. Plus I learned to make rotis. That’s one way. In my family my cousins who want too cook they would give them a spatula, a pan and some vegetables to play with whilst they cooked. Could have an eye on the kids to and finish their work too. That was a great bonding time too. That’s some stuff which works well.

[@chloebooher]

Your theory on long distance runners made me laugh! Really looking forward to follow your reactions to this couples journey...

[@LSK1]

Please do a parenting series at least the first 5 years!!!

[@ma_rotte5814]

yes, please do that! 🙏

[@rebecca9903]

here in austria it's not common to fry bacon for breakfast at all, it's usually eaten raw on a slice of bread. so yes it'd okay to eat it raw, and it tastes good too:)

[@1588chrissy]

Apparently Drascilla is just over three when the series starts

[@thedudeabides5695]

And still in diapers????

[@CrimsonEclipse]

@@thedudeabides5695 apperantly it's normal for 3 years old to be in diapers especially for overnight.

[@thedudeabides5695]

@@CrimsonEclipse No, it's not...what are you talking about?

[@CrimsonEclipse]

@@thedudeabides5695yes, go Google it. The American Association of Pediatrics reports that kids who begin potty training at 18 months are generally not fully trained until age 4.

[@thedudeabides5695]

@@CrimsonEclipse You must not have kids

[@lizparker88]

Thank you for listening to your followers! I really look forward to what you think about these two!

[@AnorhiDemarche]

This is very late, but my grandmother was the same. She was getting a cast off her arm and tripped over a chair on the way out, breaking the other one.

[@atheteusalexopoulos6876]

Him being hopeful cause there hasn't been any conflict yet lol buckel up homie this gonna be a wild ride.

[@sandovalbre]

You’re so, spot on! He has a criminal record, in Korea. Come to light when their son is months old. I liked this couple, but it became a massive ‘train wreck’.

[@Kayavod]

New couple, yey! I love Deavan and Jihoon. I can't wait for Dr. Kirk to react to Chantel and Pedro, specially with all the family drama. It would be nice to know what he can say about those families.

[@maribeltorres984]

whhhat not anfisa and jorge?? lmfaoo im still soooo stoked for this its gonna be intereszting!!!

[@simoneinsanity]

THIIISS!

[@iMAKiiTTY8D]

I think the whole “apologizing a lot and putting themselves down” is pretty typical for a Korean. I cannot say for sure, I only know this from my fiancée (he is Korean) and my Korean friends but it could be it is just them. 😅

[@katherinegunaratne3365]

My husband's family is from Sri Lanka and they do this too. I sometimes think it's internalized western exceptionalism...I could be reaching there though!

[@LynnAp00]

I definitely saw it a lot on those K-pop reality shows from like five years ago. lol

[@KJ-ut4rw]

I’m married into a traditional Korean family and they do not say please, thank you or sorry at all. They view women, especially daughter in law as a free house servant.

[@iMAKiiTTY8D]

@@KJ-ut4rw luckily I never had that issue with my fiancé.. he treats me really well. I hope you don’t allow your in-laws get their will with you if it is not what you want.

[@iMAKiiTTY8D]

@@ProphesyLAB I’m marrying the first son, but it will not happen. 😂 His mother is extremely kind and my fiancé and I have already talked about our limits. 💫

[@sarahserenity3872]

Jihoon at the restaurant and your story about your poor accident-prone friend gave me the giggles as I recalled an enjoyable movie called Pure Luck!

[@kimosabe818]

As a parent of an autistic child i can tell you that shaming and blaming is so common. Even with therapists! My favorite yet frustrating moment was always when the therapist would direct me to the waiting room to work with my child 'so mommy can learn that she doesn't always need to be on top of her child'. Every time i would be called back in after a few minutes by a now sweating and nervous therapist to come help me with my child... i am not a 'helicopterparent' , i am a mom of a special needs child and i happen to be the translator and mediator between my child and the outside world.

[@kosovareduraku8165]

TikTok sound: "Oh no...oh no...oh nonononono"

[@Delilah2112]

That's exactly what I thought!🤣 Hopping on the next Trainwreck Choo Choo

[@kosovareduraku8165]

@@Delilah2112 can't wait for Danielle and Mohammed tbh😆

[@BrainBryanBrian]

@@kosovareduraku8165 me too. I want to see those also.

[@heatherwhite602]

i have waited for him to do this couple for so long!!!

[@deemah3602]

"a parent on the passive spectrum" i cant at how tactful dr honda is 😂

[@whoops8412]

Omg I loved Jihoon!!! His family is so amazing!! I really liked this couple! I truly wish them both happiness and love 💕

[@littlebutterfly4512]

Lol me and my boyfriend got a request from TLC today for 90 day fiance😂😂😂

[@haleymist09]

😳😲👀 Like, to be a couple featured on the show? Wow!

[@littlebutterfly4512]

@@haleymist09 yeah they sneak around in K1 forums and they contacted me on Reddit, we haven't even applied yet, I just made a post about what visa stuff other couples use and stuff.😂😂😂

[@hahaitsnina]

@@littlebutterfly4512 Are you going to do it? 😂😂😂

[@littlebutterfly4512]

@@hahaitsnina actually no idea 😂😂😂 I didn't expect that

[@hahaitsnina]

@@littlebutterfly4512 can't wait to look out for you! Unfortunately if you have a great relationship you won't get air time or will have forced conflict because...TLC 😑 idk why they do that. I'd love to see a happy couple!

[@FittedSheet2000]

Accident prone? nervous? Always apologizing? Hmm sounds like Clark Kent, maybe Jihoon is a secret superhero

[@azzurracupini6441]

Wooow😍💖!!!! Finally Dr Honda is rewising one of My favourite couple from "90 days fianceé"🤗💖!!!! I Am Too curious to watch next episodes😉💖!!!! Hugs from Italy🤗🇮🇹💖!!!! PS: I Am howewer so sad that Deavan and Jihoon relationship didn't work at the end😔💔!!!!

[@sayhitoashley]

Yesss!! Omg I forgot about these two. I love Jihoon. This couple is what got me into 90 day fiance last year

[@shelbielynne9609]

Why do you love him? I'm genuinely asking because I don't like him at all. I do think he gets treated unfairly sometimes, but I also think he has a lot of issues and has done Deavan wrong many many many times.

[@sayhitoashley]

@@shelbielynne9609 i always appreciated his jokes and he's a funny guy. Everyone has their flaws but we can appreciate the good parts while acknowledging the bad. That's my take at least. Plus when I consider how he has lived (from what we have seen) or what effect his upbringing had on him, I can't dislike him because of how it can sometimes come out. It's a new situation for him to get money to support his family so I guess I understand his reactions which might seem deplorable to others. Just seems relatable.. kind of like Brandon (Julia's husband)

[@rainstorm571]

@@sayhitoashley well he has no family now

[@thenewmexicantexan]

YAS I can't wait for the reactions of this couple down the line. Definitely some very interesting taking points

[@katiearcher4475]

For kids, consistency is the biggest thing. You cant correct and respond on occasion when they're doing something potentially dangerous (climbing onto the counter and throwing dishes at the age of 3). Yeah, it takes a while for standards to set in but how can anyone learn what the standards are if you dont teach and maintain it. Just like how theres standards at whatever job someone has, you learn and adapt to it by the consistency. If the standard is rarely enforced, then you never really know what standard you are suppose to be hitting

[@whoops8412]

That was the cutest proposal failure I’ve ever seen! I wish I could find a person who would try to romance me even if it fails 😂💕💝☠️

[@nicky132]

Yes! Another video by my favourite psychology person 😉

[@Therapistsyaps]

I am so excited that you are doing this couple!!

[@be_me]

I'm curious, is Drascilla a normal American name? It sounds like a Disney villan name to me.

[@thebarkcrystal]

it's not a common name and i agree! sounds like Draculla too.

[@peachylady]

It sounds like a mix of Dracula and Godzilla lol.

[@sn_w]

I moved from Utah to South Korea about 2 years ago and I can definitely say that Korea is WAY different and that's absolutely a GOOD thing! 😅

[@rzl5071]

Thank you Dr. Honda, I learn a lot from you and I try to use what you explain, in my daily life, specially with my husband 😝

[@jch4518]

Request for a 'Bundle of Impulses' t shirt size 4T and 2T

[@rogerc5253]

I think a book "Kids are worth it" by Barbara Coloroso would be a good read for Deavan. I found it very helpful when my kids were growing up. Deavan might be considered a jellyfish parent. The opposite would be a brickwall parent. In the middle somewhere is a backbone parent. What you were suggesting "give her things to on the floor" maybe explain the countertop is too dangerous would be something a backbone parent would do. A brickwall would yell "Get down" and if asked why would say "because I said so". A jellyfish would get frustrated and say she just won't listen to me and leave her on the counter

[@PetiteChevalAmie]

I’ve only seen sixteenleo’s review of this couple and they are by far the funniest. I love Jihoon 😂

[@octoberzephyr9263]

Being spacey def helps with long distance running. I used to do half marathons and just space out the entire time. It was mediation for me

[@DodoToutDoux]

“COOK PERSON” - Dr. Honda Here it goes again 🤪💜 haha!

[@orlaa4539]

I really liked this couple at the beginning so I'm glad he reacting to them but it's hard knowing how bad it gets later. Especially with kids involved

[@jordanclay8517]

I had family visit my new appartment and my cousin's child had opened a drawer in my kitchen and had taken out a gigantic butcher knife and threw it across the kitchen. I was horrified, and immediately acted, and took the knife away. I didn't have a very close relationship with my cousin, so I refrained from scolding them for leaving the child unattended or their 3 year old at the time.

[@dragonsoul123]

Back where I come from (Austria) we usually eat bacon raw. I mean. We use it for cooking too but some black bread with bacon is very much a snack here. It is preserved with special salts AND smoked, at least the ones we make. Actually one of these things that have been around since... Like medival times, helping to make the food last long.

[@annabailey787]

I think “they were very good at long distance running” may be one of my favorite things to ever come out of your mouth Dr Honda 😂

[@pattprae]

Oh my god! you can be a fortune teller. Your speculation is so on point and you haven’t watched all episodes.