Public Restrooms are Uncomfortable! ( Misgendered)

[@nyves104]

ever since I chopped off my hair, I've had a lot of bad experiences in public bathrooms. though it did also led to one of the funniest experiences I've had too. during finals week at my college, a guy clearly thought I was also a guy and followed me into the bathroom. poor dude was immediately baffled by the lack of urinals but also more than a little too tired to care and said "fuck it" and went into a stall, did his business and left. I still laugh picturing his face as he tried to figure out how he has gotten it wrong

[@ericacooper6748]

Honestly, if I saw you in a public bathroom I’d quickly run out to get my three daughters (who loves you) and beg for a autograph or a pic! We’d be fangirling!!!!❤️💕

[@lynnorabutts2712]

😂😂😂

[@bad_torres3333]

Ohlguk9ohihu

[@tommythegreat1543]

Being Trans I DEFINITELY can relate🤦🏾 Which is why I carry everywhere. People will try to harm us for no reason.

[@bighormsheep]

THANK YOU for talking about trans people in this! cis people really think only trans people get misgendered or 'offended' by use of the wrong gender language, but it happens all the time to cis ppl as well! we all just want to be called the things we prefer, and do our business peacefully

[@MA-ky2ur]

Amber, I honestly do not understand how it is that they don't see a woman when they see you, seriously. It could be that you have a presence about you, that people don't understand and it just puts out strength and sureness, which is wonderful, I just can't see that you look like a man, yes you are somewhat masculine, but your feminine side is right there with you. When you talk to people or smile at them, you are feminine, and I think when you are around women that you are attracted to, then your masculine side comes out, I say this because I have seen your videos on KZbin. You are an awesome, kind, respectful, understanding, etc. Wish you the best this New Year.

[@RecklessSweetheart]

This happens only every time I leave the house to go some where, which is daily. Thank you for putting this out there and sharing this so people like me don't feel alone. Short Story: I will never forget, I was at a car dealership with my Dad and I had to use the bathroom and an entire grown ass man in his middle age walked into the women's bathroom, while I was washing my hands, took a piss and then washed his hands next to me and walked out like he didn't just violate my boundaries as a woman in the woman's bathroom all because I was masculine presenting and walked into this bathroom so he assumed it was the men's bathroom. Shorter story: I was chased into the bathroom by another woman being yelled at to get out and when she put her hands on me I turned around and told her I am a women, do you want to see my bra or my panties first? Because I just did not have time for it that day. She was mortified and apologized for the rest of the day about it. This is a thing that needs to be addressed. And I love how people are like if you don't like how you are treated, change the way you look. And I wish it wasn't like this but do I conform to society or do I continue to be happy being authentically me? I chose to be authentically me.

[@ashleyfagan8633]

@RecklessSweetheart I had the sMe thing happened to me. I was at a Walmart and I had to go to the bathroom this sorry "white lady" was with her granddaughter and the little girl had just walked into the bathroom before me. I went in and she came in fast and was like "sir this is the female bathroom" I kindly said I am a female. She said oh I'm so sorry it's just my granddaughter was in the bathroom and I didn't know. But I get called sir on a daily it used to bother me but now I just don't have the energy for some of this ppl.

[@RecklessSweetheart]

@@ashleyfagan8633 I'm sorry that happened to you! I understand not having the time any more, that's how I feel.

[@ashleyfagan8633]

@RecklessSweetheart I appreciate that seriously but I know who I am at the end of day so I just learn to let it go. Another one happened to me I had to do a drug test cause I was in pain management because I have lupus and sarcoidosis the nurse took me into the women's bathroom did what I had to and we came out. Unfortunately I had to go back in and this older gentleman gone yell and say "sir your in the wrong bathroom" pissed my mom off and she went off. But ppl need to think or just kindly ask it would be so much better.

[@jusj99]

I totally understand what you mean that's been happening to me my entire adult life. I'm 40 yrs old and it still happens to me but I've had all the scenerios you were talking abt happen to me also. The worse place is at the gym, they look at me like "OMG 😳 WHAY ARE YOU DOING IN HERE!?!?!!!" I'm just thinking trust me I just have to use the bathroom, and nothing more..

[@unknownusers547]

Thank you Amber😭 your video just helped me in time about how to deal with embarrassing moments in public bathrooms

[@jrodriguez5891]

I had an experience like that were i was washing my hands and this lady she walks in looks at me then looks around the restroom and back at me then walks back to check if she's in the right restroom then walks back in and keeps looking at me in the most meanies look. I finished washing my hands i was so confused at Frist, that i went to check if i was in the right restroom and walked back to dry my hands and i spoke oh i am in the right restroom and i walked away and she ran out so fast to check again and she look down in shame after she realizes my voice.

[@nicola_mamorobela]

I love how you are open about everything, about yourself and your experiences ❤️don't ever stop!!

[@jenni9471]

Amber I want to congratulate you on the human you are I found your channel yesterday and each thing I'm watching just gets better I'm bingeing it all at every chance I get right now what comes screaming from you is this hedonistic energy of someone who's lived through shit worked her way through learnt and worked on herself you got something inside you that bright trust me I'm a 36 years old grown arse pagan white witch goddess whos lived and goes in her own lane so I know what I'm saying I'm loving watching you 😉

[@Marteen40]

Honestly when I get you’re handsome or any masculine type thing I just reply flattered it’s like the masculine part of me likes it. Sometimes even in chats if people don’t see my face they think I’m a dude I don’t correct them.

[@ItsEkcho]

I’m just here to take a piss. Idgaf who’s in there. I’ve gone in Mens restrooms when the Women’s restroom line is long. The mens restroom never have a line and they mostly go to the Urinal so the stalls are empty.

[@ELmayberry]

I've done the same thing 😂😂

[@fredfarley1604]

Y'all are awesome 😂👍🏿

[@Nita-qu7wd]

I hate public bathrooms sm.. the amount of times I walked into the girls bathroom and I got the nastiest looks is too many to count

[@t3m077]

Same here.

[@flamer1411]

Ok, I was at work in the Women's locker room washing my hands. Another staff walks into the restroom, stops when she sees me. Steps back out to look at the sign. I look at her roll my eyes and say " you are in the right restroom". She looks at me and says she is sorry. I walk out but she comes to find me when she was done. She walks up to me still apologizing. She feels like crap because, heres the kicker lol she was a lesbian too 😲 she felt so back but I didnt care. I get looked at and called sir all the damn time. It's to the point where I dont say anything anymore.

[@paulina.b]

people are so mean.. im sorry wish people can accept people for who they are!! Show some love everyone ❤ 💕

[@lassam333]

That's one of the situations that make you realize how hetero-normative the world still is. Hopefully conversations like this one will help start to make a change.

[@tanaka5291]

thank you so so so much for talking about this. it's a constant daily struggle which is exhausting and defeating and I am relieved to hear you speak about it ! much respect

[@alwaysarcastic]

I’ve had this happen to me more times than I can count. I have large breasts and a decent sized butt and I will get misgendered. It happens to me at work and I just don’t say anything anymore. I used to correctly people as politely as I can but that only caused more trouble than anything else so I just let it be and keep it pushing. I try not to use any public restroom when I’m out if I can avoid it. I’ve had someone verbally assault me while washing my hands in a female bathroom. I couldn’t say anything because she was white and I’m black and where we were is a predominantly white neighborhood. I didn’t want to be labeled as “the angry black woman”. Now if I absolutely have to used the bathroom, I put on my earbuds and play something loud.

[@tonyamayo287]

Being willing to learn no matter our own personal preferences. I’m learning new things as a straight woman by watching videos such as yours and simple things like using non-gender terms as a safe zone. Thank you Amber, and keep being you and to that I give a Gay-men!

[@madaleeX]

I’m surprised you have these issues with having your long hair and looking like a woman (to me). I had more of an issue when I had short hair and I was always mistaken as a guy.

[@emuejevoke5760]

'see them, see me, see them, see me' !!!!!!!!!!

[@33billbert]

I’m a lez. I get misgendered like 4 times a year and I don’t give a shit. I got misgendered in front of my girlfriend and she was shocked but I was like babe! It’s fine! How can I blame them? I dress masculine. Lady could’ve avoided it by saying “I have a customer” instead of “I have a gentlemen”.

[@bananyacat1267]

I have had security follow me into the bathroom and forced my stall door open :( It felt like it was my fault. Especially during that time I was questioning my gender and really pushed my expression.

[@MsReign4eva]

I would have filed a report that was unnecessary and a violation

[@Charlotte-lt9ni]

We (people who are not part of the LGBTQIA community) need to do better! Get educated and help to educate. Watching this made me feel sad that people can feel like this while using a public bathroom, something that most of us take for granted. This day in age no one should feel like that, as you say people should mind their business and move on. A simple smile can make anyone's day X

[@karmaleglass2168]

What's sad is , the youth of the LGBTQIA community. Many of them have bladder issues because of this. High School bathrooms are where the most bullying goes on and so they will avoid at all cost.

[@djsmoothjackson630]

The video was very informative , I feel where u coming from sometimes when I dress a certain I get that same reaction in the bathroom people r so judge mental towards other people. Love the video Amber❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@retronightmare7043]

This happened a lot to me in school growing up. Not always in the bathroom but just in the hallways or if I had a substitute teacher for the day. I never spoke up, people just laughed and other kids corrected them. I actually stopped dressing so manly when I became an adult. I tried it for about a year and I hated it. I wasn't comfortable and men started treating very different and it felt gross. I went back to what was comfortable for me now. Even though, I still get those weird looks because I'm non binary and married to a cis man, so when people see us in public they look confused or turn up their noses at us.

[@linjmee85]

i'm masc presenting and routinely get "sir"-ed, but when i use the bathroom i make sure to walk a bit more femininely and cough. thankfully i'm quite short, so most ppl can tell i'm a girl but boy do i get self-conscious

[@theresahayes4763]

Very informative! I loved it!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤❤

[@EdwardSanchezProductions]

Thank you for educating us amber

[@outthewayk247]

Yo as a Stud woman, I DESPISE public restrooms

[@lisareynolds3824]

I feel you SO much on this one Amber. I am an aussie woman, I stand 185cm and I get this EVERYWHERE. But I can even go one better than your story.. I am a breast cancer survivor and had to have a double mastectomy .. so 185cm with NO titteez AND I am a plussize woman, soooo .. women literally scarper when they walk in and aee confronted with me. I just WISH they knew I may be a big girl .. but that's all I am .. just a big old girl and a gospel singer. Thanks for this story. At least i'm not the only one.

[@boredom247]

I don't like going into public restrooms I get questioned stare at all the time and look at side ways in certain restaurants and the way my anxiety is setup I hold it when I get home and don't go out to eat as much

[@lcmd91]

Omg this has happened to me so many times. I work in corporate America and I kept getting called sir bc I had a short cut and was typically dressed masculine. But I got boobs and they are not small. I got so irritated I permed my hair after doing a big chop. I definitely regretted that. Now I have my locs and I honestly do not care. Like I have time and want any and all smoke.

[@jessicam4825]

I saw you last year at lax and we had the same flight to Cancun. I recognized you but never actually seen your videos. I actually went up to you but was awkward cause I’m a shy person. I binged watch your videos and wish the encounter would’ve been different! I love your videos and a new fan 😊❤️

[@oluwatoyinosoba1632]

I totally understand where you are coming from ❤️ I've put myself in a position of that who is gay or lesbian and entering a public restroom What I imagined is uncomfortable that I even had to stop thinking about it But yeah I'ma sorry that LGBTQ+community has to go through that just to ease themselves

[@amandaconnell653]

Sometimes it feels like we're still living in the '70's & I should know I was there! 🤦‍♀️ ♀️ ♀️ 🇬🇧 🇬🇧

[@genesismary6949]

This happen to me all da time n not only when am using bathroom bt daily thank u for always bring up topics dat really helpful ,we appreciate u God bless u

[@jjbaby1985]

37 years of being mistaken for a male I just have gotten used to it. I think it comes from my mom when I was a little girl and people would say how much of a handsome son she has(which was me) and all she did was smile and say thank you and would never correct them. So in that sense I never needed to feel to correct people on my gender and I'm ok with it but I do understand what u mean by saying having the patience to do that.

[@joannamonique707]

It's so weird to hear this happens so often. It happens to me, but def not on a regular basis and it's usually before people really look at me. Most adults seem like can tell the difference. Now the kids be confused legitimately lmao

[@Victori.A1]

Y'all should REALLY watch 'A lesbian walks into a bathroom' on KZbin TedTalk! The woman really gives some insight on this situation!

[@fionakilpatrick9234]

The ignorance smh, narrow mindedness!!! Lv your videos ❤ from Fiona in 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 x

[@Elusive519]

I get that weird stare a lot in public bathrooms too. But I have to be honest, I try not to take it too personally. There are predators who enter women's bathroom and take advantage of women there, and I think women putting their safety as priority #1 would trump my feelings any day.

[@elspethfougere9683]

Yes Amber! THANK YOU! 💖

[@saner6888]

Beautifully stated!

[@lianouata]

Yes this resonates with some of our friends

[@julietjael9371]

Last year I was travelling and at the airpot in some country every eye was on me and I can imagine wat was going on through their mind especially after I enterd ladies room

[@grakemwangi4147]

I find it hard to enter the same restroom since the ladies in will be looking at me" like yoh hold up"and I get freaked out but I gather courage and just enter ,,since I look more masculine 😭😭😭😭😭

[@MaceyPrice007]

I am Lesbian no problem going into public bathroom in store or restaurant my take on it.

[@Auroracle]

It’s wild af, cuz you don’t even look like a man. Like….? 😭

[@HomemakerDaze]

I got called buddy once and I still know it was because they thought I was a guy because I turned around and they went oh haha

[@debbievilleda5500]

We went to the store the other day there was a trans in front of me. My nephew that's 13 was like that's a dude wearing makeup with giggle. I said yeah and he has every right,is it hurting you or effecting you in any way ? Also are we in a place of entertainment for you to giggle? He was like sorry mom I told him mi hijo everyone is different what you find normal and beautiful another may not. So as long it ain't hurting no one its not wrong.

[@Riznkaylie]

Give us more vlogs , show us your love life! Been following since kierra !

[@trugeminimind]

You said it best!!! 💯

[@cookingonabudget551]

hate public restrooms because they smelly pissy and some women just be spraying piss all over the wall and floor.

[@562_caligurl_]

Can you explain IA? Thanks

[@nzatennant3851]

Why am I just seeing this after 20 hours 😡

[@nickconsuelotorres1428]

I am a nonbinary transmasc, but throughout my life, I always get confused to be a trans woman. The confusion never bothered me, but the violence that comes with it is just.... ugh. Gender doesn't make sense to me in general, and sometimes I don't think it even makes sense to society. I don't wanna use Testosterone, so I still use the women's bathroom for safety, but since I'm masc, I experience the same things, and it's crazy, cuz I just wanna pee in peace! Maybe, what could make all our lives easier, is if we acknowlage that our bodies, and the way we present, aren't the only way to exist, and before acting all sus about someone's presence in the bathroom, check out the whole scenario to see if that person really shouldn't be there, or your just discriminating. Free the pee lol

[@gemin21113]

They are disgusting 🤢

[@t3m077]

For whatever reason ppl think I'm a guy despite being short and dressing in vintage menswear that's quite outdated.

[@Sssssssslf]

I find it hard to believe that you are misgendered at least once a week or that that situation in the restoom happens on the regular, do these people not have eyes? 🤨

[@carbonxkiwi]

started low-dose T 'bout 4 months ago & despite being 5-foot-nothin the perception of and reaction to my presence is definitely changing in ways that indicate to me I've gotta re-analyse how I interact with the general public - and now genderally speaking no single-sex restroom feels quite right 😅 pull my hair over my shoulder & try to get out real quick, specially since've been voicetraining for a lower register

[@dvmn444]

I get sir regularly 🤣 don't internalize the glances or the how are you's women may give you so they can see if you sound like a girl 🙄 lmao! I just mind my business and make little to no eye contact with ppl 😝.

[@ChristmasDiamond]

I always say that I maybe built like my father but I am my mother’s child, it’s ma’am. I even sound like my father so folks be misgendering me all day every day. It gets old.

[@othellosmalley2729]

U guys have to stop being so sensitive you're gay most of the world isn't, unfair 🤷🏾‍♂️ idk probably and i know yall get tired of it sometimes but truth is, it is what it is in the world we live in so buck up and deal wit it like the rest of us whatever problems we run into you're not special because you're gay, you're very special because u r human.

[@kakent1]

How can someone call you sir?? You’re SO beautiful!!

[@DiMagnolia]

This would be so easily resolved if gender neutral bathrooms or single person bathrooms were more commonplace

[@eilisniaisi5954]

Most women don't want to be in a bathroom with men, it's why the sexes were separated for toilets and changing rooms in the first place

[@rabbittimetosmile7183]

Can we get hair routine

[@grakemwangi4147]

But its life🤣🤣

[@LibraTransitioned]

Thank you for this video. I hope the world introduces more gender neutral restrooms.

[@bluelagoontipplerloft6130]

Awesome 💚💙

[@DLH15]

GAY-MAN.... don’t stop being you

[@gagrlntxworld6641]

I'm lesbian and it's never been awkward to me so wtf are u talking about? Lmao

[@desireecase7870]

Love ya girl

[@jeremiejrm4106]

👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

[@darija.lyrics.uncensored]

We don't know that in Morocco, we have anti-Lgbt laws here. Idk how to feel about it whether relieved or miserable 🤦‍♀️😂 Anyways, u still managed to make that situation funny, it kinda made me laugh! Kudos 👌

[@beatriceemmanuel3214]

My crush ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@mezdaouetamine401]

I love you amber 😗😗

[@c2dajayy]

U can blame the “non-binary”community for most of the confusion

[@maritzabonilla6660]

Amber, it's a shame that you have to deal with the nonsense and ignorance, I know that in this video you are specifically referencing a certain type of people. But on the flip side of the coin. your going to be stared at because you are simply beautiful, like for real... just saying 😊

[@billskie7]

Yoo

[@Dsp_singh-f9e]

Hello mam ..seriously i love you .may i meet you please ❤️❤️❤️🙄

[@nettabear4488]

First to like

[@SugaMoma66]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@shantibants3949]

You just started with a build back better sales pitch. Unfollowed. Decentralisation of resources and tech is essential to empower smaller less advantaged communities and will also help people to hold onto their culture. Centralising everything only helps the powerful and rich stay in power, control what is considered "appropriate" and continue to to control essential resources like food, water, electricity, education etc etc. People deserve the right to be self sustainable. We are not slaves to non living corporations and agencies.

[@Rare3reed]

Yooo!! All my life I had to fight 🫡 Still remember the day the security came to the restroom to tell me I was in the wrong restroom . I was 15

[@FoxtrotUSA1]

Wow, that is horrible.