Why Is Everyone Saying Bluey Has The Best Mom in Media? (Inspiring People to Become Parents)

[@Pugly]

Watch Australian only Bluey episodes & more by using NordVPN (Atlas VPN is now NordVPN): nordvpn.com/pugly Happy Mother's Day buddies!! I promised this video a little bit ago but I thought it would be perfect to finish this project just in time for mothers day, when starting this I was nervous about how much I could really talk about but once I started digging deep I felt like this was just a TON to say about Chili so thats why this video is so long haha. Nevertheless, I hope y'all enjoy this as much as I enjoyed making it buddies :) Become a Member: - PC: kzbin.info/door/DZNUb6vcwQT2G4qXz_VzUwjoin - Mobile: www.patreon.com/TheUglyPugly?fan_landing=true Twitch Channel: www.twitch.tv/puglystreams My Bluey Twitter: twitter.com/HeelersFridge

[@chellastation]

Next to Moomin Mama, Chilli is best mom 👩

[@cherrybell297]

I love how no one ever comments about the sponsor in videos 😅

[@HackiePuffs]

I love that you made a whole half hour video giving Chilli the praise she deserves. Lots of people go on and on about how Bandit is an amazing dad and credit where it’s due he is!! But I feel like the love and praise for Bandit overshadows the praise that Chilli gets when she’s just as amazing of a mom. She deserves the praise too 🧡

[@Pugly]

I think that’s why this video ended up so long haha, I really wanted to express a ton about her character and I felt like there just so much to say since I don’t get to actively express my feelings about her since majority of the discussions I see are for bandit instead haha

[@ArcanGaming7189]

Chilli is amazing. My wife takes a lot of inspiration from her. There's no doubt she deserves every scrap of praise she gets. I think Bandit gets more attention because at least American dads have a huge issue with being basically everything he isn't. U.S. dads often get so alienated from their families and especially their kids by no fault of anybody in the family. Ah the larger issues of how unbalanced our lives are...

[@supper-girl7405]

@@Pugly it’s almost sad. People don’t expect men to be good dads but they expect women to be good moms. But you know what, times are changing and things are looking up :)

[@jadecoolness101]

@@ArcanGaming7189 "by no fault of anyone in the family" it's his OWN fault. Men don't raise their own kids, and then expect just as good of a connection with them as the mother who spends 24/7 with them.

[@uselessartist182]

@@jadecoolness101 There is an odd pressure on men to avoid showing emotion, and to only provide for the family monetarily. This is not to defend men who genuenly abandon their children just because they don't care. But it's been constantly showed down their face that they are meant to present themselves as emotionless machines. Sometimes it's not because they chose to, but because they are so used to not being able to be emotionally present they don't know how. I come from a more "traditional" part of the world which is not as progressive, especially with gender role stereotypes forced upon people around me and even on me. I've seen male stereotypes pushed on my brother since young age. "Don't cry", "Why do you like this?? It's not manly", "Stop acting like a -" You get the idea. Bad parents raise bad parents. And some of these bad parents don't even realize they're being bad parents. I wouldn't say it's only their OWN fault. The only thing I'd really blame them for is perhaps parenting unprepared. But even then, no ammount of training can prepare you for the 18 years (minimum) of the real deal.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

Chili’s whole story arc of her insecurities surrounding motherhood is so realistic. 1: Her sister is unable to have a child 2: Bluey was a rainbow baby so it’s likely that fertility issues run in her side of the family 3: Baby Race shows that she felt like she wasn’t a good mom because Bluey was a bit behind on her development 4: Bandit talking about how Chili doesn’t want him to have a vasectomy while he does (Ep PERFECT)

[@luvxoxundertalehazbinhotel1835]

Infertility is actually a bug problem for Australian cattle dogs in general

[@Eszra]

She also lost her mother which I feel is another reason she had those feelings during Baby Race. She didn't have her mother to help her. She had her Mother in Law but she was Old School and wasn't what she was looking for.

[@sparxstreak02]

9:58 A moment a LOT of people overlook is where Bella (CoCo’s mum) actually encourages Bluey & cheers her on as she shuffles across the room but Chilli barely notices.

[@beachboysswiftie]

aww omg i never noticed that until right now

[@CraftyVegan]

That caught my eye on the second watch through. Bella needs an episode like Wendy got and like Jack’s dad got

[@kid14346]

Baby race mentally wrecked my spouse and I. Our kid is less vocally or emotionally developed compared to the kids in our friend group so we were constantly comparing. We even did the whole checking with doctors thing and our kid is just on the lower curve of that, but nothing bad. After we watched Baby Race we realized that constant comparisons are not health and it even helped us realize the things our kid was excelling at... like our kid is pure muscle and body to the point where at 2 years old they took an 8 foot tall metal ladder to a different room when we weren't looking, climbed it, and grabbed a toy off a top shelf, and climbed down... it is honestly terrifying and we have been putting locks and baby proofing on a lot more stuff now.

[@frenchiesottises8193]

As scary as it is, it's impressive they were able to do that. Hell, they even knew to use a ladder, most kids would probably use chairs as they're the easier option.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

Your kid is still cooking, and every kid is a little it different. They reach certain mile stones at different times, but just because some reach that finish line a little later doesn't mean they're not still in the race! Just cheer them on and encourage them along the way and don't lose heart or feel like a bad parent. 😅❤🎉

[@amygodward4472]

Same here. My little one is almost two and probably has a vocabulary of max. 10 words, but understands when I speak to him in English AND French and has an enviable talent for music. He does actual chords on the piano, sings along in tune and can transform absolutely anything into a set of drums with different pitches and everything. Sometimes I have to remind myself that when he gets frustrated everytime he wants something!

[@Ra1ndr0p]

As Chili once said: “Im afraid I’m not perfect” She may seem perfect, but she’s made mistakes. There’s no best mom. All moms are good. Abusive moms don’t deserve the label of mom. They don’t deserve a kid.

[@itsmeezee3818]

I completely agree. I believe you hafta earn the title of mom.

[@foxyfox9196]

The thing with those statements is. Abusive individuals already don't like to acknowledge they are abusive. And even if they do they seem to internalize this image of abusers as being one dimensional Disney villains that just enjoy being mean, cruel, selfish, etc. Irredeemable. Evil. Nobody likes them. Entirely unsympathetic. No real motivation or true concern for anyone else but themselves. Etc etc. No redemption. No room to grow. No sympathy. And no forgiveness. (Hence, as a neurodivergent queer scapegoat from a very dysfunctional mostly Latine family, why I think it's important to recognize Encanto does have a villain, and she is an abusive mother/grandmother that specifically treats her neurodivergent/disabled lineage as a big burden and blemish on the family best to avoid, keep out of sight, and hope to prevent others like them in the future. And the ending indicates a honeymoon phase unless there's prolonged efforts to alter how she thinks, talks and behaves. Her trauma isn't an excuse. It merely gives context and makes it more human and realistic. And you can try to reason any connect with a villain/abuser, even ambiguously redeem them. Darth Vader did it. He's still a villain, even if you understand why and can sympathize with him and even if he eventually changes course. Star wars still has a damn villain sorry that common take really annoys me) They say they can't be abusive if they aren't the worst parent ever. If they don't do these cartoonishly evil things. If they have "good intentions but simply made mistakes" (which i thought was bad when it was used in relation to my broken collar bone, but i later on saw it used for both CSA and filicide). And if they aren't really abusive then there's no real need to change anything fundamental or the way they even think about family dynamics let alone hierarchy. Just tweak the details so maybe it doesn't end up going "so far" next time. But you cannot truly acknowledge the scope of damage to the victim or to center their needs without it being "demonizing the parent" and "taking away their rights" or "telling them how they have to parent". Without it being some vague outsiders using "out of touch definitions to police families using a moral panic". Or at least trying to turn children against their families, culture, religion, etc. And it strengthens the culture of those who blatantly promote child abuse, neglect, and otherwise complain about acting having to do with modern safety and developmental improvements because "i turned out just fine without all that coddling". And it absolutely encourages people to refuse to ever see anything in themselves, their families/parents, or their culture that could at all be considered abusive or harmful. So it doesn't matter what lines they cross. There's always a reason why it's different vs all those other legitimately bad people who end up in the news (or who actually deserve to be,from the perspective of those who do get into the news). And in the end the rhetoric only ends up putting more children at risk of more abuse mostly for culture wars and untreated generational trauma purposes Then abuse victims are pushed to avoid using the term, to acknowledge the trauma they have, and consequently are shamed for avoiding their "difficult parents that care so much and tried their best even if they aren't always perfect". Because absolutely nobody wants to acknowledge what abuse really is, how common it is, and how close it really is to a lot of popular parenting norms. (like anything from authoritarian, helicoptering, or even passive parenting can easily slide into territories of abuse, neglect, or behaviors that otherwise sabotage children attempting to launch into adulthood/gain healthy independence especially if you aren't very mindful of what lines exist and for what developmental stages) Because the stigma is so strong that most parents get right on the defensive and offensive and even lash out at their kids in private the second you start to talk about the issue of child abuse in a serious and informative way that tries to prevent further harm. every single parent that sees aspects of their behaviors in that of what is abusive or otherwise harmful. Because how DARE anyone judge their parenting when they're just trying their best and mean super well etc "unlike all these modern day ultra woke parents that refuse to teach kids how to behave and have proper respect for authority and old school discipline who ironically go around judging everyone whose parenting style isn't just like theirs" etc etc. And whole cultures of estranged parents whining about how they're being treated like complete monsters when they just tried their best and maybe even sacrificed and did too much to try to be the make perfect parent ever only for it to never be good enough. It's often easy to see heavy layers of narcissism and hints of dysfunctional family dynamics (eg a "best friends" dynamic. "they saved my life after i lost my partner and then suddenly declared it was toxic and cut me off out of nowhere, probably because of their new partner being jealous of our close relationship and telling them it's more unhealthy than it really is just to hurt me". Or even references to being an ultra involved helicopter/mower parent that feels betrayed when the "ungrateful adult child refuses to acknowledge all I've done making their life so easy only to blame me for their failures in adulthood and cut off contact for no real reason other than their Inability to take responsibility". All strong indications of truly unhealthy or even abusive dynamics. And also intense ignorance as to how unhealthy, dysfunctional, or abusive those dynamics are especially for the long term development of their children. Cause like it or not. Most abusive parents are overwhelmed. Are struggling. Don't have good examples to look back on. And don't see themselves as abusive and never will. Especially as they mostly all do try their best. (yes even alcoholics and those with other mental illnesses have their own struggles that make their best frequently not be good enough, especially without a solid enough auxiliary support network)

[@witchypoo7353]

I tell myself often that my mother isn’t a bad person but she is a bad mom. To me she’s a sad & hurt woman who is generally speaking a good person, but she is a bad wife & mother & as her child I secretly do not claim her. I can’t because it will only hurt me & really wouldn’t do much good for her either as it’s a job that is too much for her to handle. To me she’s kinda like an elderly neighbor who i occasionally help because she needs it. There is love from me for her, but it’s a distant love that lacks sentiment

[@violetparadiso]

My therapist and I were talking about this regarding my mom (who I still have a good relationship with) and how the idea of being a 'good' parent is so unclear. We talk a lot more about what's effective/functional. What lessons do you teach your kids? What is your goal for your children, and are you achieving that? Abuse is a category of verbs, and that has a broad definition based mostly on actions that people take. It's totally possible for a dysfunctional parent to hear what they're doing and improve. I think people should be defined by their verbs, not an adjective as subjective as good or bad. My mom wasn't always good at her job, but she was always willing to listen to other people about what would make her better at it. Sometimes, she just made mistakes about whose advice she took. I think if your parents are unhealthy for you, its okay to cut them out of your life. I think that it's easier for us to avoid our parents' mistakes if we identify their harmful actions rather than assign unclear terms of subjective morality to who they are as people.

[@foxyfox9196]

@@violetparadiso yeah I think you explained it better than I could.

[@TheCottonCandyQueen]

I’m not gonna cry, I’m not gonna cry about chili, it can be strong. “Remember that I’ll always be here for you. Even if you can’t see me. Because I’ll always love you.” [SOBBING]

[@saul8510]

hug

[@PipeAndHammer]

I'm a new mum and I have CPTSD from childhood neglect and abuse. One of the things people with childhood neglect can develop is an addiction to productivity. My husband is exactly like Bandit and he constantly has to help me turn off 'work mode' where I feel that I'm failing my son because the house isn't spotless 24/7. I'll forget a mug on the counter for three days or I struggle to do the laundry, often forgetting it on the sofa for far too long and think I'm just like my parents and end up going down a depressed spiral. But Bluey has been helping me maintain a simpler outlook on life and understand that ONE DIRTY MUG doesn't mean I'm an abusive parent.

[@lexyshannon9428]

Honestly, sometimes we focus so much on managing all the complexities and details of our lives, we forget that it's okay to slow down and recognize that we are enough. Disordered circumstances such as CPTSD make it especially easy to overlook your own value in the presence of both external and internal stressors. That's why it's so important to recognize when it's okay to take a step outside of your own headspace and breathe. There is no such thing as a perfect parent, but there is such thing as a good one. So, keep going! You're doing great ❤

[@johnl6176]

The fact that you think these things already makes you a better parent than your parents.

[@PipeAndHammer]

@@johnl6176 yes!, because one dirty mug is not the same as being beat for forgetting the laundry, or being left to walk a full 5 miles home as an 11 y/o girl because I disagreed with my father over religion. (: My children have known only love and joy since the day they were born. Honestly they're abit spoiled lol but that's exactly what I wanted for them ❤️

[@PipeAndHammer]

@@lexyshannon9428 thank you (: this actually helped a ton 😅

[@Watermelonsandpeaches]

Hey you are not a bad person for going through what you had to go through none of that is ever your fault! You are already alot better than your past and everyone makes mistakes if anyone ever says anything don't listen to them they are not worth your time. I bet you are a wonderful mother and a wonderful person don't let anyone tell you different! Have a great night :)

[@This_is_weird]

There’s no perfect parent. However, a parent who realises that shows that they’re a good parent.

[@Pupal_Dugal]

One of my favorite parts about Bluey is how the parents feel like real people and not just "mum and dad" like most parent characters in kids tv shows dont have any dimensionality most of the time lacking names. But Bandit and chilli are real Bandit has 2 brothers and likes to tease, play touch football and is an archeologist and chilli is great at ice rugby with sticks and art she has a sister and her mom is gone like sheesh there's just so much character to them.

[@NAZRULISLAM-kz6yc]

they don't like REAL parents.......there too good to be true.

[@kittythalj9882]

​@@NAZRULISLAM-kz6yc For me they don't even exist.

[@TuesdayDulin]

Something this show made me think of with my 5 and 7 year old is play with them, less phones. It's hard being patient. Thats the hardest part of parenting.

[@gentlemankaiju1997]

I've said it before but hearing "you're doing great" is so important and baby race is actually what got me into Bluey. Chili also feeling anxious and stressed finding it hard to relax is also extremely relatable. Shout out to the most patient and realistic parents I've seen in an animated show.

[@ikrIkarus]

Although a bit off-topic, I think it is also interesting how Greeny can be seen as an analogue to both Bluey and Bingo, combining traits of the two later shown in "Movies", where Bluey is revealed to be different to other children in that she is scared of watching movies and possibly other things, being "a bit of a sensitive kid", how Bandit puts it, and Bingo is shown to be into exploring. Probably no coincidence either. Possibly making the couch bit in "Mum School" another instance of Bluey coping with her problems through play. With her calling herself "cushion head" at the end possibly alluding to that also, though perhaps that is only about her feeling inadequate at that moment, without hinting at a deeper relation of her to that situation. And also Bluey thinking that Greeny lashing out to the other kids in retaliation is no problem, which is a stance someone who found themselves in such situations would likely hold, I think. But I may be going a little to far with that one.

[@Pugly]

Oooh I really really love this, I completely agree that this was not a coincidence. I never really thought to look at how it relates to the characters in the show tho I probably should have lol. Thanks for sharing this, this was a really awesome analysis

[@ikrIkarus]

@@Pugly thanks ^^ your videos always seem to inspire me to do these

[@princesspikachu3915]

Also to add to what you were saying about Bluey in the Movies episode I wanted to bring up season one’s The Creek. Where Bingo and Mackenzie had no problem with wanting to have Bandit take them to play in the creek but Bluey kept freaking out about how different it was from the playground. And also in the season two episode Double Babysitter where Bluey is unsure of being put to bed by a babysitter because her Nana was watching something scary on TV while watching her once. There’s multiple episodes where Bluey is scared or nervous about something. The adults are usually there to guide the children and it’s refreshing to see that in children’s media when it’s mostly “just figure it out yourself”. Though calling Bluey children’s media seems insulting but it technically is. It’s just good children’s media that resonates with all.

[@ikrIkarus]

@@princesspikachu3915 I also think that reflects in her being occasionally somewhat bossy during games. I think that is not so much about her wanting to control people, but rather a need to feel in control and keep things within her comfort zone. Something that can also be seen in "Postman", where when the parents squabble, she takes matters in her own hands to make sure everything is the right way, her parents loving each other and not being "enemies" how she puts it.

[@Ambipie]

9:35 the genius of Bluey's first bit of problem solving being "rolling is faster and more fun" really speaks to Bluey not being necessarily behind, but just thinking differently, Blueys character fits with "the right way is boring"

[@RockyR3X]

I swear when Chilli said, “I’ll always be there for you, because I love you. Even if you can’t see me”. Bro I was ‘bout to start sobbing

[@peacockqueen]

I'm pretty sure Bluey did the sticky toy thing on purpose so she wouldn't go to the park because she was nervous to see Judo after not seeing her for so long.

[@Pugly]

Extremely clever thinking buddy, I never thought about it that way

[@chickennuggets1384]

Speaking of Chili, I just re-watched the latest Bluey episode "Dragon" **SPOILER WARNING** In the episode Chili mentions her own mom. And I noticed on my 2nd re-watching that the horse Chili rides flys away after she thanks her for everything. I think the horse is suppose to represent Chili's mom who has passed away. Also the horse has the same fur color as her mom

[@syabilaazri7834]

Well, that just make that line from grandad episode sadder... "i still need him..."

[@EnergiAngel]

And don’t forget when chilli said “Remember, I'll always be here for you, even if you can't see me, because I love you” probably her mom said the same 🥹

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

While I don’t want biological children, Chili is the kind of foster mother I wanna be. I wanna foster a child and give them a moment of stability and a home full of love ❤️

[@Truzyxx]

I like how it shows Chilli really having to /work/ on being patient. In episodes like Unicorse, we see her clearly fighting her urge to snap and even getting a bit frustrated with herself. We don’t come by calm and patience effortlessly. Also: major props on the Persona 4 tracks. Combining 2 of my great loves, Bluey and Persona :D

[@_AustralianCattleDog]

Chilli is definitely the best mom in media I've seen and her parenting is absolutely beautiful!

[@CarloCarlitobanitoUguccioni]

Finally someone speaks about the incredible character that is Chilli (who is my favorite of the show, if it wasn't already clear from this comment). We (as community) are always preying Bandit for his infinite patience and complete dedication into child plays but rarely underline the incredible parenting job of Chilli. She is a little overprotecting and exaggeratedly afraid of competition (I'm referring to episodes like The Claw or Obstacle Course), but this contributes to make her character more realistic. Plus with her needed 20 minutes in Sheepdog and his lost of patience in Sticky Gecko, she appears like a more reachable parenting model compared to Saint Bandit. I'm so glad that in season 3 Ludo gave Chilli a lot more attentions and screen time.

[@Snarl_Marx]

Chilli reminds me so much of my own mom. My 2 older siblings were a walk in the park for her calm, collected, organized demeanor. Then I came through like a hurricane haha I distinctly remember a handful of times where the exhaustion was palpable to me, even at a young age. But, she always made sure that I knew I was loved and appreciated for who I was. She fostered and encouraged my interests and hobbies and celebrated me as an individual. I would often feel lesser than my brother and sister because I was so unlike them - and her. But now, as an adult and a parent of a wiley daughter myself, my love and respect for my mom grows even deeper. What a perfect video to post on Mother's Day!💐

[@totalynotcatherine]

9:30 That method of moving "bum shuffling" is called "scooting" by my family. 3/6 of my siblings were scooters. I may be a little biased as a scooter, but it is the superior mode of transportation, as my hands were free. The only downside is that all my pants were worn through at the bum.

[@bestaround3323]

Just walk lol. What were you, a baby or something?

[@totalynotcatherine]

@@bestaround3323 lol, right?

[@Grim_Sister]

One of my personal favorites is Driving, where Chillie needs to try deprogramming the mindset most adults get into: that everything must have a purpose. In Driving, Bluey wants to play, well… Driving. But she finds the game unfulfilling when Chillie shows she can’t relax and enjoy spending time with her daughter because of her constant phone calls from work and her purpose filled mindset. Bluey finds a clever way around this by telling Chillie that they have to get soy milk for her doll client in her make believe cafe before the customer loses her patience and destroys the curtains. This way, Chillie has a purpose and Bluey gets her game time with her mom. It’s a clever and sweet episode that shows not only how relatable and fun Chillie is, but also how observant and intuitive Bluey is.

[@pundertalefan4391]

I like how you talked about Mum School. I have autism, so I was definitely a Greenie. Still am. But I'm lucky to have an understanding mom and Grandma. :03

[@bw-leftturnracing7779]

I'd argue they have the best mom AND best dad in media

[@Pugly]

Couldn’t agree more, I made a video for the dad for that exact reason haha: kzbin.info/www/bejne/imm5i3uHnrJ_sNk

[@7Write4This9Heart7]

I've thought a lot since finding Bluey that IF I ever become a parent somehow (don't want any of my own, but yk, end up with a kid somehow or other), I want to be a parent like Chilli and Bandit (and not anything close to my own emotionally abusive/manipulative/neglectful mother). I'm not a very patient person, but I'll definitely do my best!

[@Ambipie]

7:03 i love how bluey does the "why train" all inquisitive kids take their moms through

[@tiff0795]

Mum school I always interpreted as someone who wasn't raised with gentle and understanding parents. Where spanking was common in their household like my husband and me. Showing that there is in fact, another way that works, and "we all fail mum school sometimes" and just trying again tomorrow that if you're trying to break a cycle, be kind to yourself as well. Everyone is learning, and you may fail, but tomorrow is a new day to try again.

[@XanSprouse]

Gentle parenting is allowing kids to live in a kid world, not punishing them for not being adults yet. Those of us not raised with patience are jealous of Bluey and Bingo.

[@IzzyMoonbow648]

Bandit and Chili are who I want to be like when I’m a parent

[@esmeraytv]

To me in "Mom school" greenie developing differently remind me of something completely different. As an undiagnosed autistic kid i was very different and was met with not so understanding and gentle response, it hits very hard because in a weird way i relate to greenie.

[@angelinacamacho8575]

Chili reminds me of tohru's mom in fruits basket and that anime is littered with childhood trauma caused by bad mom's or just bad parents in general.

[@cutepuddleslime8201]

You think Chili is a bad mom based on the way you're describing her?

[@angelinacamacho8575]

@@cutepuddleslime8201 no

[@Emma3k]

It makes me really emotional how my mom went through the exact same thing Chilli went through in Baby race. She told me how it took me a very long time to start crawling and preferred other methods to move around, she felt like she wasn't doing enough. She hasn't seen the episode but I will tell her to.

[@Pugly]

I would love to know her reaction if she ever does watch it buddy, It sounds like you’re very close to your mother if you feel emotional through her experiences and I love hearing that. Wishing you and your mom the best 😊💙

[@Emma3k]

@@Pugly I am very lucky to be able to say we are very close. I'll try to remember to tell you her reaction xd. Wish you the best too

[@WinterPains]

​@@Emma3kDid you have her watch it?

[@Emma3k]

@@WinterPains @Pugly omg thanks for replying and reminding me of this. I did, she loved it and told me it almost perfectly represented what happened when I was a baby. She has decided to watch bluey with me now lol

[@Pugly]

OMG!! That’s absolutely fantastic buddy!! That’s the best thing to hear right now for me, I’m so happy for you that you can explore the show with someone you love and that they really resonated with the episode 😊

[@keemera-art]

Wow… that episode about greeny hit me hard. I struggle with a lot of mental development issues that set me further back in school than my other peers. All the people I knew in elementary learned to read before me and it made me feel inadequate. But I’ve progressed and gotten better and I still have things that set me further behind like my depression but I hope like with my dyslexia that I can overcome it… like greeny

[@DECEASEDONII]

watching this after mother’s day and yesterday being difficult due to childhood trauma is really… healing. i love chili so much.

[@TheGlitch2121]

Yay another video. Bluey just inspires me to be a parent as soon as i can. I have raised my little brother since he was a baby. It was the best time ever for me, when i made him laugh it made me happy, sad that we grow up so fast.

[@Snarl_Marx]

Remember, there's no rush in becoming a parent. Though I'm sure you'll be a fantastic one. I thought I was 110% ready to be a Mom. But it's a really humbling experience pretty quick. It's worth it, I wouldn't trade my daughter for anything. And I think that's because I allowed myself to grow, as an adult. You don't have to touch and go. Your children are forever, there's no rush because love never runs out. 💟

[@m3rrys0ngstr3ss]

My only kid is 2 now, not nearly Bluey and Bingo's age, but Chilli still makes me feel so *seen* as a mom.

[@missingwalle9364]

I really appreciate you making this video bc this has been on my mind since I watched a video about Bluey and this one guest speaker waxed poetic about Bandit and then just threw a oneliner like "and Chilli was just there" and it rubbed me the wrong way. Like someone else has mentioned in these comments, it's easy for a dad to be a "good dad" bc our current role models are severely lacking and I'm glad Bandit is changing that tide. But it's just as easy for moms to be overlooked, or worse be labeled as a "bad mom" bc society sets this expectation that moms should be good by default. Or at least perform physical and emotional labour for their families without question or fault. But I commented on that video that while Bandit is an amazing father that takes part in childrearing, play, and housework, he still has moments where he can be oblivious to his daughters' emotional needs and oftentimes Chilli acts as the bridge for their daughters to openly communicate to Bandit about their feelings and for Bandit to learn and grow from it (ex. "The Weekend", "Yoga Ball", "Obstacle Course", and "Chest"). It is also explicitly stated and shown that Chilli is a source of both comfort and fun for Bluey and Bingo (as seen in "Daddy Putdown", "Copycat", "Driving" and "The Beach"). It's also very telling how important Chilli is to the Heeler family and the show's core message when the episodes that stick out as emotionally profound to audiences are also Chilli-centric ("Sleepytime" and "Baby Race"). She captures the quiet strength and love that all mothers try to do but so badly need to see or be acknowledged for.

[@miramerali5807]

Chili is a great example of a well written mother character and growing up and now I would have appreciated a mother to tried to understand me ❤

[@samsam5864]

"Remember I'll always be here for you, even if you can't see me, because I love you" I always tear up when i hear this, Chili is such a good mum

[@RampAgentLife]

I love the part in "Sticky Gecko" when Chilli is just losing her mind while flipping through the catalogue. Makes me laugh cause I can relate so hard😂❤

[@robin_hatter]

Great video! I love Chilli as a mom and character. Knowing that she struggles about pregnancy is always makes me emotional. I also love her relationship with Brandy and her dad. She grow up strong and life made her stronger. Thats why she's always focused on made the tasks done. She really is a queen 👸 Also her relationship with Bandit always inspires me. I hope you made video about that someday 💙

[@SyIzumakai]

I’m not a mom, I plan on never being a mom, but this show and stuff like this does make me cry because I love my mom and I think about things she must have went through with me. I love my mom.😊

[@yoshi_chuck05]

I’m not a parent myself but I love Chili as a caring mom! I have my mom being the best she can and she really does her best by looking after us, feeding us, and so much more. Both fathers and mothers do there dang best when taking care of their little ones. I’m so glad to have a caring family. And Chili and Bandit is no different. Both show so much care and love by being engaged in their kid’s games and teaching valuable lessons for not only their kids but for adults and maybe even kids alike! Chili is indeed the queen of moms around the world and Bandit being the greatest dad he can be by being king of fathers alike! Thank you for making this video!❤❤❤

[@LuckyGhoul]

A lot of the episodes with Chili make me cry or want to cry because I wish I had a mom like her. She’s truly an amazing character. Also, good job with the videos! They’re great! Keep up the good work 🙂

[@notyouroppar4406]

Mom school and baby race make me even sadder considering Chilli lost her mom earlier than she thought she would.

[@Mx.Phoenix]

Something I love about the parents in Bluey is the ages. Chilli and Bandit are suggested to be in their late 30s/early 40s due to them being 10 in the 80s. With Bluey and Bingo being 4-6/5-7, that means they had kids later in life, maybe they didn't even get married until later. I grew up being told by TV/media that you get married and have kids in your early 20s, which is fine but so is waiting!! Coco's mum, Bella, is about their age (maybe older) but has 9 kids so obviously, she started sooner. Having kids when you're younger or waiting are both fine and I just like seeing that represented.

[@keiokayy]

Chili made me appreciate my own mom more... i was watching the sleepytime ep in front of her while she was on her phone and i tried so hard not to cry and hoping she doesnt understand what the ep was saying lol😭 Both of them are silly wise and often seemingly perfect but the truth is otherwise but they both try and work so hard and often reach their limits, wanting to be alone and being stressed because well kids HAHAHA! I guess thats why i love bluey it makes me think if thats what my childhood wouldve been like if it werent for circumstances, but watching it also reminds me theres still time and i get to have that chili bingo and bluey has right now and I truly just need to appreciate it

[@laurenluna460]

I actually don’t have children but I love how chili is an adult that is trying to live in the world. And god her telling me that I’ll be a queen one day really makes my day.

[@samanthanewman2183]

Chillie healed me, I wanted a mom like her and seeing her raise bluey, who I relate to has been healing

[@Breezely22]

I love Chili. She reminds me of my mom. I miss her. 4 years without your mom feels like forever. I cried during the beach episode where she went on a walk. And when she brought the pool supplies. And when she tucked into bingos bed with her. Chili is what I miss most about my mom. Especially the silly things. Watching Bluey makes me feel vulnerable in a healing way.

[@Oinkoinkmurderorsmth]

I’ve never really seen Bluey. But knowing Chilli had a miscarriage, I feel like Bluey not ‘progressing fast enough,’ and taking her to the doctors more than usual, is a result of her miscarriage. She may assume that her miscarriage may have been a factor in ‘stunting’ Bluey’s growth in some way. Again reaching. I feel like I worded this wrong, but I’m not implying that Bluey is stunted at all. 😅

[@couch_philosoph3325]

I love my mum and i know she loves me. But she can blow up very easily. Even today, when i visit them, it's a special day if they don't scream at each other. I always was screamed at qhen i broke something or held her up. The chili scene with the gecko/park made me anxious, sad and then feeling warm. I think i need to watch bluey

[@saul8510]

happen's something similar with me, even she almost hitting me when she get's too mad, or when i get mad she doesn't care or when i say something that she dislikes like that i don't feel well or i want to be alone or that i am sick of bad jokes that hurt , she doesn't care.

[@rowanwinter1260]

I love Bandit because he reminds of my dad and helped me realize all the things my dad did for me as a kid that i never realized. I love Chili because she's the mom i wish i had and the parent i hope to be some day. Her episodes make me choke up every time.

[@stuffthatsall]

Chili had to be my favorite character when I saw the beach episode. When I realized she was an introvert I remember crying so hard because of how much I related to it. My entire life I was kinda downplayed on the idea of being an introvert, making me resent that part of myself when I was younger, but after seeing chili, a great mother, having it too. It was a sign that said “Stfu, you matter too dumbass.”

[@waterdragon55]

I used to think it was a kids show but started watching reactions of it and watched some episodes it's just heartwarming and cute it's like when u r stressed and u want something relaxing watch this show.

[@DaYemenball]

Thx for covering my favorite character ever made in any media of any kind. She reminded me of my mom and is the exact kind of person I would like to be with when raising a kid.

[@doodle.drawz.dreamz]

HEY THATS MY ART AT THE END!! so cool!!!

[@andocoolxd5158]

Chilli's truly a queen Always putting her family first, as they mean the world to her and couldn't live without them... As she copes with her extensive work schedules (she sometimes probably stay for the night shift), stress, her family's antics, work-out sessions, housework... Just too much for the gal. But she follows her own list... Have a little cry, dust herself off, pick herself up and KEEP GOING. Yet, regardless for her issues and insecurities, SHE NEVER GIVES UP; she also got a huge conflict with her sister, her mother passed away and her dad got delicate for a health issue (and if you want to believe the miscarriage theory, that too)... Dealing with such quantity of saddening and stressful situations could break anyone... But she prefered for the show to GO ON. She's loving, caring, understanding, hard-working, quite perseverant, and always looking for a solution; she's the kind of person who prefers to be needed, always looking for a challenge or as she puts it "a good problem", all of these would be great reasons but what makes Chilli THE best mum on animation media is the fact she never gives up, she's not perfect... anyone is, but she's guiding her children to become not perfect (everyone fails mum school at least once), but the best they can be, always looking for their happiness, always spreading love and joy towards them As Bella kindly put it "YOU'RE DOING GREAT", you are an AMAZING mother, Chilli Heeler.

[@Pugly]

Can I just say that I love all the references you put into this comment, it was amazing read your love letter to this amazing character especially because of how you formatted it with the quotes 😊💙

[@mysteriouscolours1532]

2:29 watching a video about how excellent Blues is and then I hear your affection playing over it and I literally collapsed

[@Pugly]

Yesss!! Persona 4 is the goat

[@Bionickpunk]

Watched just one episode of this show and I knew that it was something else. Seeing how the rest of it is consistently great makes me happy that we have something like this.

[@rissa7059]

I love that she also humbled herself enough to learn from her kids 😊

[@saibuh]

parent of 3 and due my 4th. Before seeing Bluey I always had this mother guilt that I wasn't good enough, I wasn't doing that the world expects from a mother, my kids will do something and I will lose my tempter and how that makes me feel even worse. But Chili showed these feelings are normal. The Sticky Gecko episode was SOOOO real to me. Trying to get 3 children of different age ranges ready to simply go to the supermarket is like trying to plan and climb Mount Everest without any expertise. But even when she gets fed up and annoyed, she gets through it. And I felt validated, that having these feelings is ok and normal. So thank you, Chili, for showing us that we are valid.

[@marinstephanie649]

This video helped me uncover my childhood trauma. I have ADHD and I use several media to express myself and it's not uncommon for me to bring up videos or shows into therapy sessions. Your videos have taught me how children work, how healthy parenting looks like, and the balloon episode was the thing that clicked it for me. Obv, my therapist was the one who helped me guide me to the hidden answer my brain has been suppressing all this time but as stupid as it might sound, I saw myself in Greeny so much, and Bluey's "It has legs, it can walk" reminded me so much of the treatment I was given growing up as an undiagnosed kid trying their hardest to appease their mother who was in her own 'baby race'. This video was life changing for me because it's the one that just clicked. Don't know how better to express myself. Thank you for the videos.

[@robjgolde3221]

“Remember, I’ll always be here for you, even if you can’t see me, because I love you.” Annnnd weeping 😩

[@greggodeggo436]

Absolutely loved this video, once again you have made an emotional masterpiece.

[@Pugly]

Aww buddy, you’re the best, you have no idea how happy reading this made me 💙💙💙

[@DJFlare84]

I feel like something that people miss about Bandit is that he is very most likely the way he is now BECAUSE he has such a good, loving wife like Chilli to help him out. Bandit is not "the best dad" and Chilli is not "the best mom", they are THE BEST PARENT COUPLE, PERIOD. I always love it when there is a little scene of Bandit and Chilli showing how much they love and care for each other, like in that Relax episode when Bandit gave her a hug when she confessed she didn't know how to relax. They aren't just the best parents to their kids, they're the best partners for each other and it's a crime to talk about one without mentioning the other.

[@meikahidenori]

It's funny how Mage Simpson used to be the best mum until they reduced her to a one note character. I'm so glad we have another mum character that is a great role model for mums out there and kids to understand what thiermums go through.

[@れいい-q2m]

Bluey didn’t make me wish the parents were the parents I had but better understand what my parents went through, and respect and love them more for that

[@lotsofnames]

“Your doing great” im not even above 16 and i already nearly teared up

[@flora9866]

13:30 I really like the message of an adult being able to truly learn a lesson from a child. I feel like some parents have this idea that they are the only teacher, their child can’t teach them, but I think adults need to be re taught things. (My dad is like that, I can’t teach him, he must teach me) good video :) I really love this show

[@iantophernicus6042]

While I'm absolutely here for all the Chile love, I was utterly blown away at the gorgeous orchestral Persona 4 music. Utterly magical moment of Bluey visuals with that amazing cover.

[@ILIMOEIRO]

the writers of this show are truly on another level, I'm haven't watch the show but seeing shorts or people talking about it is an amazing experience too

[@Mayathebaddie22]

I wish I had a mom like chili, I’d give up everything to be able to have a life like this family’s

[@nessiebwur]

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers today!! ❤

[@wendallhair5645]

I was raised by just my mom we didn’t have a lot being supported by just one income but I felt she did the best she could for both me and my sister. I really love Chili because she in her own way reminded me of the sacrifices my mom made for me. Sleepytime was the nail hitter especially at the end when she said I will always be with you even if you can’t see me because I love you. I currently live 2000 miles from my mom.I was in tears because she would say the same thing.

[@Not_mera]

"babe, why are you crying?" Me watching bluey commentary: 😢

[@overlordprincess8291]

You should create videos on how both chili and bandit is good marriage. Since it can be rare to see animation. It good compared of good parents and couples.

[@overlordprincess8291]

Could you add video that focus on marriage. Example the episode “Postman”

[@snowcone8953]

The sleepytime episode really hit hard making me realize what i always so needed but never had, which was a caring loving mother. there was one night back when i went to elementary school where i hit so severely low and so desperately neede love and comfort (i was severely bullied at school for 6 years) and i was crying, strangling myself with a scarf, hurting myself and just quietly begging, banging a little and leaning onto the wall seperating my room from my moms room. i was making noise and she barged into my room, yelling at me, punishing me, the only person i thought who loved me, literally the only person i thought i had, punished me for needing her, punished me when i was in severe sorrow and pain, i just so depserately needed to be held and reassured im safe and loved, and that episode showing bingo crying and chilli instantly responding to it and responded by giving bingo love, my soul was crushed, it made me realize how i never had a good mom who truly ever loved or cared for me, my parents were the ones who expected their childs love to just be GIVEN to them purely because they're the parents, they never WORKED for it, and in so result make me never open up to them, i never take contact with them, and i wouldn't care or even feel sad if something ever happened to them, i love them only because they forced me to, but deep inside i have a strong hatred towards them. the people who were supposed to protect, nurture, guide and love me were the ones who hurt me so much, they never gave me the love i needed, they NEVER EVER played with me, they didnt care what i did or saw or experienced, they knew i had no friends at all but never BOTHERED to play with me so i was always so alone and grew up lonesome and so isolated. but its in the past, im an adult now and all i want is to be the mother i never had when i get kids of my own, i want to be a good mother like chilli but still be me, i want to play with my kids, i want to show my kids that i truly love and care for them, that my kids would always know i will always be there for them, i want to show them i truly care about them and their interests and their days and what they learned, everything, i just want to be the mother i never had

[@funkystudios12]

Can I just say that you're editing is top notch? awesome video!

[@Pugly]

Thank you!! I spend a very long time doing it so that makes me happy to hear😊

[@pundertalefan4391]

I'd love to see more about Chili and Bandit. Congrats on the 20K, dude! :03

[@RandoSando.]

Not chili being the best mom despite losing hers at a young age. Iconic

[@kaylabrownell1268]

Chili reminds me so much of my Mom, she is so caring and patient and she let me grow up on my own but was right next to me to guide me through the walks of life. My Mom wasn't the one who played games with me but she was the best story teller and I loved her stories about when she was little. And the episode Sleepytime aired I cried when sun-Chili told Bingo, "I'll always be here for you, even if you can't see me, because I love you." She used to tell me, "There will be times where I can't be there for you, but ALWAYS remember I'm always on your side and know no matter what you become later in life. Momma will ALWAYS love you."

[@camparker5000]

I love how long this video is chill is an amazing character and she deserves way more respect than she does

[@Twiddle_things]

I wish I had a mother like Chilli. I never had and never will have a mother who truly loves me as her own. The closest I got was a foster mom, but she was a complete Finn and I had grown up with Italian/Argentine culture, and I was so old (12-14), so it was so hard for her. My biological mother always neglected me... I'm sure she tried at one point, but just one. For so long she abused me and did terrible things to me. I struggled with recovering, even three years later. She is still trying to hurt me, but I won't let her. I can see some of the effects that this motherlessness has had on my psychology. I cling onto women older than me, especially mothers, and struggle with being gentle. I've become very masculine because of this. "Boys are nicer than girls" I envy these cartoon dogs and am so glad to know that several children out there have mothers like Chilli. Cherish your moms, people. There's only one of her in this world

[@cassyluvsanchez4005]

I love chili chicken😊 she reminds me of my own mother because my mom is always has an open heart because my mom is very selfless

[@GG553]

I understand why people give Bandit a lot of (well earned) credit for being a great dad, since the dead beat dad trope is so prominent in media, but I do appreciated giving Chili some love because she's an equally amazing mom. Honestly they are the best example of parents in media that I've seen in a while

[@isav7305]

Personally, I'm not planning to become a parent because the wounds of my childhood abuse run too deep, but Bluey is still pretty effective way to re-parent myself. Side note: Please do NOT comment anything along the lines of "You can always be a better parent than your mom to make up for it". Such statements come off as dismissive of my feelings and the thought process I went through when I made the decision not to have children 3 years ago. I trust that I'm in a community that likely won't do this, but I've encountered this so many times on YT and it hurts me every time. Sorry for the long side note.

[@yesthatmousyiris4887]

I'm childfree too I get how you feel

[@briannagravely9349]

Well said. I'll settle for being the cool aunt that pops up time to time for my friends' kids.

[@arithefierysecretary6411]

I think that's a healthy choice. If you don't 500% believe you'd be a good parent, then don't be one. I hope you heal. Though I hope you are still kind to any child you come across. There's a difference between not wanting kids of your own (which is valid!) and hating kids just for being kids (which unfortunately is becoming more and more pervasive). Please be the kind person you'd have wanted as a kid if you're ever around any. :)

[@isav7305]

@@arithefierysecretary6411 Thanks, I like to think that I've healed significantly since reflecting on my abuse. Tbh, I'm neutral towards kids cuz I understand they're mirrors of their environment as much I was of mine, but I think the real villains in this world aren't those who hate kids rather those who exploit them and treat them as subhuman. So while I tolerate kids, it doesn't mean I won't fight for their human rights and for them to be treated with respect and humanity.

[@arithefierysecretary6411]

@@isav7305 And that's good of you. I agree that it's worse to treat them as subhuman. But since I assumed you wouldn't do that (because who wants to assume that of another person, ya know?) I just wanted to give encouragement to treating kids with kindness. You don't have to go out and be Mother Goose or anything, just be nice to a kid if they approach you, that's all. :)

[@B-019]

Bluey deep dive with Persona 4 music? Nailed me with that Venn Diagram. Good vids, mate.

[@arithefierysecretary6411]

I'm a first time mom of 4-month-old twins. I started watching Bluey a month ago. And when I got to Baby Race, and Bella said "You're doing great", I broke. I cried so hard that my husband thought one of the babies got hurt. I felt so *seen* because I didn't know what I was doing and both of my kids are so developmentally different (daughter is very physical, super strong, already trying to scoot everywhere but not very vocal, son is more of the talker, babbling and cooing, but has almost no interest in moving). I thought I was screwing them up because my daughter was so thin compared to her chonky brother, and he wouldn't lift his head like his sister. Chilli in Baby Race is who I am now, and Chilli in every other episode is who I aspire to be.

[@crossanddream2]

This kind of stuff helps make me appreciate my mom so much more, when I was born I was unfortunately born with a lot of problems but that didn't stop my mom from loving me and doing whatever she could. Even growing up I was difficult to handle since I had ADHD and autism and my mom never had to deal with that since none of my other siblings had that. So this was something completely different, and doctors weren't helping. They were just telling her to give up on me to which she refused. And there was a time I was non-verbal which made raising me ever more difficult, and it made it difficult for my mom to help me when I was feeling upset or sad or frustration since my mom couldn't understand me and I couldn't say anything since I couldn't verbally or really physically express it. And that didn't stop my mom from coming up with a solution to teach me how to draw. Very simple stuff such as scribbling to express my anger and frustration. And as time went on my drawings got more clear and I was able to express myself better. Even when I was therapy my mom encouraged me to use my drawings to express myself to the therapist which helped me when I was younger and even today. Had my mom not taken the time to try and figure a solution or just giving up. I would be struggling way more than I am today. And she's been able to help me even now when I have my meltdowns (just me crying and going non-verbal) due to me feeling frustrated or just overwhelmed. She understands not to get angry just stay calm and try to help calm me down and give me reassurance and just give me time to calm down myself and not forcing me to talk when I am like that. My mom obviously isn't perfect, but she is a lot better than I could've ended up for as a parent.

[@Skuthulu-archives]

Oh Man, Persona 4's "Your Affection" was a great song choice

[@Pugly]

Thank you buddy, I felt like it captured chilis motherly essence as well as personality as a whole 😁

[@floffy2695]

The thing about Chili that makes me so emotional is that she's the ONLY mom character in media I've seen so far who actually has fun with her children. It is so bittersweet - an alternative universe where mothers are free from the burden of motherhood and neglectful partners to be able to actually enjoy regular fun time with children, without being the "always strict, responsible" bad cop type of parent, or... you know, dead. How many variety of father-figure characters do we have in media whom we praise and stan, versus mom characters? They're either dead, not at focus, shallow or, in recent trends, "obsessed with being too perfect"

[@WoodenClockwerk]

Hey nice use of that song 8bitmusic theory arranged! Love that channel

[@peterrealar2.067]

"You're doing great" also helps dads like me as well. Baby Race is my favorite Bluey episode because it strikes a cord with me more than any other. I've felt like I've let my daughter down time and time again by not being able to be in her life 24/7 (I'm divorced) and it's eaten at me for five years. However, now I know that she's turned out okay and and she loves me even though I've had my weak times where I yelled at her (like when she opened my taco this last weekend) and I've hurt her (I've dropped her on the carpet when she was a baby). People ask me to act a different way around children. It's hard to change and keep my cool as well as Chilli does.

[@Pugly]

I think what’s really important is that you are striving to change and do better for her, which is a lot more than some parents do. I’m proud of you for wanting to take the initiative to be the best you can be for your daughter

[@peterrealar2.067]

@@Pugly Yes, just not what others want me to be.

[@Pugly]

@@peterrealar2.067 I wouldn’t worry about that, you seem to want the best for your daughter and that speaks volumes

[@jenluvjake]

On that line of some people wishing they had a dad like Bandit: I don't. My dad was wondeeful and so patient with all of his family's nonsense. He was funny and supportive and a great man. I miss him very much, but I am glad that I will see him again one day. I do, however, hope that my husband will be a great dad just like Bandit or my own dad.

[@aleksandrar.2839]

It took me completely off-guard when the Persona 4 music hit, this was such a perfect bgm choice 🥺🥺

[@FallofFall]

I appreciate the Persona 4 music throughout the video!

[@amazing-medo3883]

what an amazing video for an amazing guy such as this video was a master piece from the editing to the script and your choice of music was awesome (you bet i realised the persona Ost instantly) chili always makes me appreciate my mom more especially after we had been going through a rough time my mom was in a really hard position for a while but because of that hardship i think she improved she became much more like chili she starts thinking about her children more and trying to understand their she always tries the best to make us happy moms are the best and an of topic thing i relate to chili in grandad i always try to make my mother rest because she is old and already carrying alot or responsibility she still sadly doesn't rest and always tired but she always tries her best for us and i always try the best for her ,mothers are amazing and your video also was it really gave me a new perspective on the episode mum school and sticky gecko you videos always cheer me up hope you the best pugly and i am looking forward for more of your beautiful videos congratulations on hitting 20k and you deserve the best happy mother's day

[@Pugly]

Happy Mother’s Day as well buddy, thank you very much for the glowing comment, I was thinking about you when I put in the persona music, I low key was like, “I know someone is gonna recognize this 👀” haha. I’m really happy to hear your mother was able to recovery from her hardships and had a positive new outlook it seems 💙😁

[@amazing-medo3883]

@@Pugly that means the world to me man when the music came i hummed along unconsciously then after a bit i realised (oh biscuits this is familiar ) it contributed a good bit in amplifying the emotional impact of this vid which is fitting for persona and thanks again for being an amazing content creator and have a good day

[@guardianofchaos1775]

Bluey is such a lovely show!