Q&A - How I'm Feeling After a Breakup & When Will I Move Out... Again!

[@Helen44marie]

I'm sure you don't agree but I think you look happier.

[@LucilleXox98]

@@Helen44marie I definitely feel happier but it’s nice to know that I also look happier 🥰 xxx

[@emilyrobinson6091]

I spent years in an unhappy relationship and made excuse after excuse, and would try and convince myself I’m ok and it’s ok and I would never get anything better and this is how it’s meant to be for me. But eventually I met someone else who showed me that I could be happier and did have a future, so like you I came out of that relationship… looking back I don’t no how I stayed. I was MISERABLE. He had a detrimental effect on my mental health. I actually don’t feel like the same person after some of the things I went through. He didn’t want a life, he chose work and gaming over literally anything else. He wouldn’t even come for a walk or to see my fam. Amongst many many other things. So trust me. What happened needed to happened for you (and me) live your life girl. Life is too short. 😊😊 so glad to see your doing better xxx

[@LucilleXox98]

@@emilyrobinson6091 Sounds like we went through a very similar situation. I’m so glad to hear that you met someone who made you truly happy and I totally agree that sometimes you need to go through something difficult to get to the better things. I’ve definitely learned a lot from that relationship so I’m taking that positive from it. It’s so sad that a relationship can have such a negative impact on your mental health. I feel like a completely different person now, like you did too when you came out of your relationship. I know what I want in the future now, and I know what must have things I will look for in a future partner, so at least it’s been a learning experience. Thanks for sharing this with me by the way, it makes me feel so much less alone. ❤️ xxx

[@Kloetenhenne]

​@@LucilleXox98there is a German saying that roughly translates to "there is a lid for every pot". Sometimes it just takes some time to find your lid.

[@alangiles776]

​@@KloetenhenneWhat a lovely saying. I love that.

[@emilyrobinson6091]

@@LucilleXox98honestly if you need to vent, feel free to message me. I no I wanted someone to vent too who didn’t already know about everything, I’m still like a broken record, as happy as I am now, it’s taken time and will continue to take time to get over everything. Also… channel 4 documentaries… love cheats. That’s worth a watch. 😊 xx

[@lucy-sv4ns]

having those honest conversations with yourself about what you deserve is so important, and you can see those thoughts and revelations have had an effect on you. you can feel the growth radiating through the screen!! so happy for you x

[@ollie9316]

Thank you so much for being so open and honest. Hopefully it's cathartic for you to share, but also it's so helpful for others to know they're not alone. You definitely seem a lot lighter and like you're more comfortable in yourself recently. I'm so happy you're posting more too :)

[@emmasanderson5454]

Well done Lucille 😊 I’m so glad you are feeling stronger and happier. Thanks for the video xx

[@ashleighsteaparty268]

Although there was two of us when we bought our house, we didn’t have as big a joint salary as we would like and the area we lived in at the time was very expensive but we were able to buy a 3 bed house in the end and I love it. The main two things I would say that helped us was 1) Use a mortgage broker, they have access to lenders that you can’t just go directly with who manually underwrite mortgages so could potentially give you more money. 2) If you live in an area that costs quite a lot consider moving a bit further away from a main town/city, we moved 30 mins away from where we were before but it was 30 mins further away from London so we were able to buy a 3 bedroom house for the price we’d have got a 2 bedroom flat. And it was a new build too so didn’t need any work xx

[@Pinknwhitefluffsoundslikedex]

You dont realise your own potential! You are a lovely, kind and pretty girl with the kindest of hearts. Meeting another prince is the last thing you want right now but you will when you are ready. Great video as always and enjoy the moment. Take care. xx

[@jessbaldwin]

So happy you’re continuing your vlogs and video. Have watched your videos for years. ❤

[@LucilleXox98]

@@jessbaldwin Thank you so much! That means the world to me 🫶 xxx

[@cerysthompson9641]

Lucille, so pleased how far you have in such a short time ❤️ you seem to be the happiest you have been in a long time - my mother has a saying what's far you will not go past you - wishing you all the best and enjoyment being loved and supported as you deserve xx

[@KateCozy]

Aw I’m so happy you are doing better. It is awful feeling lonely when you are with someone! It will always be hard.. but when you focus on yourself and have that time to yourself. It does get easier and better 💕💕💕💕

[@parkerbaff8864]

Glad that you are slowly getting back to your old self as hard as it is. You will eventually find someone that wants you for you and truly does make you happy, dont be too down on yourself. Definitely look into shared ownership for your house issue. My mum had to move out of her rented house after my dad died in 2022, its turned out to be the best thing she's ever done. Take care, been watching you for almost 4 years now and you are so lovely x

[@emilythomas2326]

Girl I feel you about the buying alone situation!! I have a decent amount of savings at the moment (maybe like £30k). And I'm in a decent job (around £28-30k), not really high paying but it's ok. I could afford to pay a monthly mortgage payment, with enough to spare for emergencies etc. But, banks would refuse to lend me anything more than about £120k, and I live on the South Coast of England where the minimum price for 1 bedroom places are about £300k. So I'm basically stuck. I've lived with my parents since I graduated uni so I could save, so I don't want to rent at this stage, but I'm desperate for my own place. My parents aren't particularly well off so couldn't be too comfortable being a mortgage guarantor which is fair enough. I really do feel so stuck. It is so frustrating and demoralising! One day we will get there, we might be in our 80s lol but we will get there! Also, I'm a folklore girlie through and through!! Lots of love ❤

[@shego4893]

Hey again Lucille sending love from Australia, I had a person tell me one day abd this changed my life when it came to relationships and it was "every time you choose somebody who isn't choosing you, you abandon yourself" it stuck with me that never accept friendships that are one sided abd I have so many amazing friends and though I really want a partner I'm still better off alone with friends who care than in a relationship I feel abandoned in. So proud of you girl, you inspire me!

[@Sophwaffles]

Glad you’re feeling better❤ I actually found you on Spotify a few months ago randomly!

[@Lynne-mg4ir]

😊 enjoyed watching how much you have got your confidence back + doing so well time is a great healer take care❤

[@alangiles776]

Hi Lucille 🙂 You always seemed happy before your life changed earlier this year but you seem ultra confident now and ready to take on the world 🌎. You should be proud of yourself. There is a guy out there whose destiny is to be 'your man', and I hope he knows how lucky he will be when he meets you. I feel your pain about your inability to obtain a mortgage but things are not likely to change. The banks are scared of the high risk of defaults, the UK owes so much money, the taxes are at a post 1945 high and the events in the US last week will make the world economy fall back. I like your real-ness. Complete honesty. I hope you have a good week, Lucille.

[@shayjenkins6268]

Your my comfort KZbinr ❤

[@LucilleXox98]

@@shayjenkins6268 Ahh this makes me so happy! Thank you! 🥰 xxx

[@alex-de9bw]

There are some schemes around which are shared ownership or rent to buy where you monthly rent is a contribution towards buying the house! Definitely research around it as I am currently in the same process as you but living in Edinburgh and prices are ridiculous xx

[@milliem9141]

I agree that time is a healer. I've just gone through a really difficult time at work and have been signed off with stress and anxiety, it felt awful and dark but things are starting to get better now 😊

[@LucilleXox98]

@@milliem9141 I’m so glad to hear that things are getting better now. You should be proud of yourself for getting through such a difficult time. Take each day as it comes and remind yourself of how well you’re doing ❤️ xxx

[@Sylphadora]

I love seeing you back to your bubbly self ❤

[@LucilleXox98]

Thank you. It’s been difficult but I’ve got through the hardest part! 💪xxx

[@chelslifex]

I understand what you mean about trying to move out on your own, it’s so hard with trying to save for a deposit and everything because there is so much you have to consider

[@Shannon-pm5zs]

You know your worth now, Lucille❤️ you’re glowing x

[@LucilleXox98]

Aww thank you, that’s so kind of you to say! ❤xxx

[@breakfastattiffanys741]

I have faith you will find a partner who has a passion for travel as you do ❤ and make wonderful memories together. Imagine if you stayed with Michael, you would always be travelling alone 😔

[@tracym8975]

Totally agree music is so amazing to get us through things. I went through a hard time years ago I got my ear phone on and just walked listening to my music. Was the best time of the day 😊

[@LucilleXox98]

@@tracym8975 100%!!! My favourite time of my day is also putting my headphones on and going for a walk. It does wonders for my brain and just distracts my mind. I’m glad to hear music helped you get through a tough time too. 🫶

[@J97736]

James: so good to see you so happy! Keep the vlogs coming! 😊

[@LucilleXox98]

Thank you so much ☺️

[@toria8140]

Our salaries are a bit different but I bought my house at 22 and I think I borrowed 4.5 times my salary! So I’d look into rates in case you can borrow that much too 😊 Set up a lifetime ISA with moneybox after a year you can buy with free money from the government and they have free mortgage advisors! Mortgage advisors are incredible

[@ImLokiAnnoying]

I’m so glad you’re feeling better. I’ve been thinking of you! 🫶🏻

[@Storm_grey]

Would you ever share your playlist? I always need new music to listen to

[@isobel841]

My daughter is a carer so on a low income wage and she managed to get a mortgage on a small two bed flat in our area. It wasn’t easy but she did it. So just know it’s possible. She did it on her own, no joint mortgage

[@isobel841]

She’s 20 x

[@margaretsneds]

because your in Scotland you should look into the Government Open Market Shared Equity Scheme which can give up to 40% of the purchase price towards your house. the scheme is closed just now but it could re open in the new financial year. i would look into that :)

[@chelslifex]

Love your videos and seeing how more happy you are

[@LucilleXox98]

Thank you, that’s so kind of you to say ❤xxx

[@michellejohnstone4906]

It’s not buying but there is a thing called mid market rent. You basically have to prove you earn below a certain amount and the rent is 30-40% cheaper xx

[@oliwiadziwisz6056]

great video ! you could consider shared ownership if you are buying a place alone xx

[@LucilleXox98]

@@oliwiadziwisz6056 Thanks so much for the advice. I will definitely look into it. I wish we were taught these things in school cause I have no idea where to start when it comes to buying a house. xxx

[@travellingemmaadventures]

I second shared ownership, it's a great opportunity and really helps people to get on the property ladder on their own!

[@oliveclark8826]

I am buying on my own at the moment. I do not have a high paying job - under 25k, I have saved a lot and am having help from family. My parents are also guarantoring my mortgage. This all being considered I was denied so many mortgages coz I had to be able to cover 75% of the mortgage! Speak to a mortgage adviser and look at your affordability, they will be able to shop around for you. I am having a friend be my lodger so she is covering a lot of the monthly mortgage repayments. It is a bit of nightmare buying alone though, I am extremely lucky my parents are guarantoring my mortgage, if they weren’t I wouldn’t be able to do it. Would you consider buying with your sister? Also look into shared ownership !! Good luck. Show recommendations - big little lies, best show I have ever seen (really good for a self love, girl power era too x)

[@LucilleXox98]

@@oliveclark8826 Thanks so much for the advice. I will definitely look into shared ownership and a mortgage advisor. Ahh there’s so much to think about, it all seems so grown up and stressful 😂 I’m so happy for you that your parents are guaranteeing your mortgage to help you out. I won’t be buying with either of my sisters as they both have their own partners, kids and homes, so I would need to buy alone. My mum has watched the show ‘Big, Little, Lies’ and she said she loved it so I will definitely need to give it a watch. Thanks for the suggestion ❤️ xxx

[@rcs.tf89]

Lucille would you ever consider doing something like cabin crew abroard? Like emirates or something. I know you like travelling. The accom is free great pay :)

[@LucilleXox98]

@@rcs.tf89 I actually love the job that I have now, but I’ve definitely thought about cabin crew abroad in the past. Unfortunately it wouldn’t be possible for me now as I have a dog. 🥰

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Hi Lucille how are you happy Sunday afternoon to you and happy fall day and I enjoy your channel and you are amazing supporter

[@KarlaEmmerson]

I’m in a very rough period in my relationship right now. I don’t know if we’ll make it to the other side, and it’s fine and natural but I have a dog. I can’t afford buying my own place in Copenhagen (swear to god, I don’t comprehend how single people do it unless your parents are wealthy). And no rentals allow dogs. So I’m in this limbo, with eu future being so unknown after the election, wow it’s a rocky patch right now. But I’m trying to stay positive that everything happens for a reason and me and my dog will be ok ❤

[@LucilleXox98]

@@KarlaEmmerson I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a tough time. I hope yous manage to work things out, but if it’s for the best that you part ways, I hope you manage to find a home for you and your dog. It’s so inspiring that you’re staying so positive. ❤️xxx

[@mazh354]

It sounds like you didn't end up comptaible :( same thing happened with me and my ex we were together 9 years i think. i understand as I've been there x

[@milliem9141]

Ps I bought a coach house myself on a really low income. (less than 20k😅). It's like a flat but with your own entrance and I have a garden. You're still young and will get there 😊

[@LucilleXox98]

@@milliem9141 I’ve not heard of a coach house before, I’ll need to look into it. Thanks for your reassuring words, I’m sure I’ll get there. 🫶

[@user-ts5uk1kl7w]

Girl, I want you to get a house, if you ever get offers to do an ad and you think “I probably wouldn’t use that” just do it, literally don’t care that you are blagging,😂 I’m rooting for you so much xx

[@LucilleXox98]

@@user-ts5uk1kl7w haha, thanks so much! That’s so sweet of you to say! It’s so nice that you want good things to come my way! Hopefully I can afford to buy myself a place in the future 🤞 xx

[@Rosie4511]

I bought my own flat in May this year. I’d never lived alone before and my job doesn’t pay much either but I’m lucky in the sense that I have good savings which my parents started for me when I was little😅 but no I love my wee flat. It’s not easy by any means I also went to a Mortgage Adviser they were really helpful

[@notcountingsheep3361]

I purchased last year with my sister but 7 weeks after moving in she took her life, so I'm left with our $3k monthly mortgage. 😢

[@georginar6615]

So many red cars in Inverness!!

[@FayeSwinglehurst]

why don’t you look into the track record mortgage by Skipton, it’s for renters and you have to have been renting for at least 12 months and it is a 100% mortgage no deposit x

[@ellynash4922]

Hi How about shared ownership scheme with the Government OR buy with Laura??? Xxxxx

[@LucilleXox98]

@@ellynash4922 I will definitely look into shared ownership, thanks. Both my sisters have their own kids, partners and homes, so I can’t buy a property with them. Xxx

[@rene8703]

Wait when did ye break up you and micbeal

[@Kloetenhenne]

Where have you been?

[@James-b7p2k]

Your ex fella will see this video and he will be in touch in the next few days put money on it

[@scottmckenzie365]

I love u lots

[@Helen44marie]

If its 4x your salary you get a house in Wales for under 80k, I know you probably wouldn't move out of Scotland but it is do able. I'm sure if you look for a one bed house in Scotland you may even find one 🤞🏻

[@LucilleXox98]

@@Helen44marie I never realised it had changed from 3x your salary to 4x. Unfortunately, I could never get a house for 80K where I live, possible a studio apartment for a little more but I couldn’t live in a studio apartment with my reactive dog as we can’t have a shared entrance 😕 x

[@Itwasntmeitwaspatricia]

Banks now give you 4.5X your salary :)

[@LucilleXox98]

@@Itwasntmeitwaspatricia Oh my gosh, that’s great to hear! Thank goodness 😅 xxx

[@mariasol1545]

As someone from South America, im very surprised your English and American viewers ask you to move out so often. Maybe its culture shock on my part, but I dont understand the rush when you could instead move out once you are fully financially stable and in a better mental headspace