Q&A! Love, gossip, turn-ons, anxiety, writing & more | Ask Melanie

Sharing my truth on a variety of subjects including my thoughts on love/my boyfriend Thomas, writing my novel, KZbin gossip/Chris Ingham/the beauty community drama, anxiety, baby names, weightlifting and lots more!
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[@melaniemurphyofficial]

IT'S ON! been a while m'loves...I hope yous enjoy! Share those green love hearts for more q&as, if we can get to 10k thumbs ups I'll make this a monthly thing rather than a once in a blue moon thing ;)

[@thelionqueen12]

Omg when you described the love about your bf, thats how i feel about mine. Yes, i agree, thats love.

[@gabl3400]

Your videos are the ones I watch if I’m feeling anxious or sad. I fix my mood by reading your book as well, I always get something out of it 😊

[@TheVallex]

I don't know if it was intended or not, but you forgot to pin this comment, Mel! We have to scroll down to see it :P

[@ShalaLicia]

I got emotional when you talked about Thomas and showed a montage of you together. So unbelievably happy that you've found your person 💕

[@firefly24601]

Loved the montage of you and Thomas when you were talking about your relationship! Also I saw the green pulsate at the beginning, too.

[@Sarah-cu9vp]

As someone who's absolutely terrified of falling in love and being in a relationship, the bit about love and your relationship with Thomas made me cry my eyes out. I'd give anything to have something like that, yet I'm just so freaking scared. But it warms my heart to see two beautiful - inside and out - human beings loving each other this way. It's truly incredible, it's almost as if I can feel the love you have for him through my screen. I wish you nothing but a lifetime of happiness, joy and love.

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Sarah I’ve been there and that fear leaked into our first few months together, he was terrified too that I would hurt him love genuinely is just terrifying! But I was determined to overcome it and just be in the moment because too many people have warned me against living in fear incase things end up hurting, I don’t want life to pass me by with me in bubblewrap...I really hope you find/experience an incredible love and someone who can reassure you 💚 xxxxx

[@Sarah-cu9vp]

Thank you so much for your kind words Melanie. 💚

[@azadajamil8237]

Tbh you are one of the few youtubers I watch rn.

[@thecoolestgingerkid]

Yes the green is pulsating

[@makiskunk]

It's like you're surrounded by green aura! Like an Irish elven princess (which you are anyway). Lovely video, Mel. Wish you the very best 💚💚💚

[@teavetyskova]

Awww now I want to draw this 🙈

[@abb3rz07]

I'm glad I'm not the only one that's frustrated by the overwhelmingly filtered look on videos. I think there's a camera that does the same thing too, which is SO OBVIOUS from a photographer's perspective. Also the green is pulsating. It must be the mismatch of the shutter speed to the aperture. I get that concerts sometimes too.

[@_vkcs]

I like to watch your videos when I’m stressed/anxious

[@mirandamarvin6489]

I honestly felt like crying when you were describing what you think ‘love’ is now; you summed it up so perfectly and with such beautiful words 💚 I’ve never experienced it myself, but I’ve always been happy to be single and wait for the right person to have that feeling with 💚💚

[@jessie.celine]

I adore your definition of love. I'm so happy for you two. Can't wait to meet the love of my life one day. 💚

[@merle-k]

When you talked about the wellness journal, I smiled because of two things - first, I just took a shower and while I am having my face mask and braiding my hair, I am watching your video. And secondly, I got a gorgeous moleskine notebook that says Wingardium Leviosa on the cover, and I never wanted to use it because it's so pretty, And today, I decided I will use it as my diary during my gap year, and already started to prepare the pages with trackers for my sleep, my water intake, my headaches and my me-time. I felt so great because I started watching you when I didn't really know how to take care of myself, and now I can do it on my own, and I still watch you because you are amazing and your advice is really great and you also motivate myself to do all kinds of things, like take better care of myself

[@emilyjess6418]

Just thank you! I'm really looking forward to your book, I turned 30 this year, I lost my Nan last year and made a career/life change. xx

[@soufflegirl1739]

Your eye makeup always looks so gorgeous. It is genuinely unfair 💚

[@hannahashley2882]

Hearing Melanie talk about love completely melts my heart

[@KatieTuttleKaatieMyLaady]

He’s so boyish and giddy when he has his hair grown out, and with the shaved head he looks very strong and .... like cuddly, in a way that bears or big cats are cuddly. ANYWAY IM GLAD THAT YOU’RE HAPPY IN THIS LOVE Edit: I just re-dyed my hair back to its original dark chocolatey brown natural color because I watched a bunch of your old videos ✨💕 I’ve been dying it ginger-red for over 6 years, and while I felt bad ass and gorgeous as a red head, it started to became one of my only defining feature for others and the people around me couldn’t see past that (like when a customer at my cafe told me that my red hair made me “look more fuckable” 😑 that’s been a defining factor of most decisions that come with my appearance,if people start associating it with sex, it’s gone). So my dark hair has been a way of rediscovering and re-identifying myself 💚✨

[@siobhan3043]

oh my god! I have red hair and reading that literally made me cringe - who says that????

[@KatieTuttleKaatieMyLaady]

Siobhan X mostly creepy older male customers. Working with the public is greeeaaaat 😭😰

[@keepsusstargazing2505]

Hearing you talk about love and Thomas just made my heart so happy 💚💚

[@LisArgollo]

I missed those videos in your room so much! They make me feel cozy and closer too you

[@mg9963]

Loved the way u explained u n Thomas... so happy for u.. 😘❤️

[@stephaniestavola2247]

Another great video girl, btw you are so beautiful inside and out. Thank you for sharing your life with your subscribers, some of your videos have helped me countless times in my life.

[@ArielWillow]

I cried when she started talking about her relationship with Thomas. Serious relationship goals! And I really enjoyed this video; I like your perspective on things and love that you’re so open! Thank you for sharing with us! ✨

[@412music412]

ahh im so happy when i see you've uploaded! i don't think ive ever been this early before lol. wayne goss is my FAVORITE on the beauty side of youtube- no bs, and his advice is always so genuine like 'i like it this way but if you don't who cares do whatever makes you feel great!!'

[@teresawatson5327]

Loved this q&a and hope you are so so blessed in your work and your relationship with Thomas. Watching your videos are always an encouragement to me.💚💚💚

[@eilidhgeddes4610]

I’m so excited about the thought of a wellness journal from you, think it’ll have to be a Christmas pressie to myself! 💚

[@Michelle2403x]

i see u

[@eilidhgeddes4610]

@@Michelle2403x I trusted you

[@AnnaDvor]

I’ve discovered this definition of love a while ago and still haven’t found anything better. "Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own".

[@geri4374]

The way you talk about Thomas makes me melt and seeing the clips of you guys together too!

[@bethboddison1583]

I absolutely love the segment where you takes about love and the little montage of you and Thomas, it’s so lovely to see you happy and In love. I also cannot wait to read if only when its out 💚💛

[@mirrorgalaxy6273]

i have and i’ve been suffering from anxiety while my life is boring and exhausting in the same time, but i’ve always had that feeling, it stressed me out and my life passed away, i do have hobbies including writing but anxiety is keep stealing the pleasure and the fun of my life

[@stinekristensen9835]

If I'm having an off day, hearing your Irish accent makes it a good one. Thanks!

[@thegeorgeousbeauty]

Oh God, when you were describing wanting to experience beautiful landscapes etc with someone you're intimate with I gasped- it is the exact same thing I have been thinking for a very long time and you are the first one I know to ever express it like that. What you said gave me so much hope. I'm a hopelessly romantic person. As I had to break up with my ex recently because we wanted different things in life and also I was experiencing what you described of not 100% having romantic feelings, I lost hope in ever finding what I'm looking for. But damn, you're love for each other is so pure it sparked right through the screen. Thank you for being you and sharing your story, it means a great lot to me. Love from Berlin

[@francescahughes1024]

The montage of you and Thomas is so adorable, it is like something from a film.

[@bethsallis3489]

Love that I know I can always watch you and you’ll never change from being an incredibly down to earth person💚

[@charlottedawson6166]

I didn't have the slightest clue about the filter being used on a camera! wow, there has been so many times where I have followed a beauty tutorial and have cried and almost broken down because it didn't end up looking half as good on me as what it did on me, then I spend ages comparing my skin and every flaw on my face whilst looking at their skin, that has definitely opened my eyes!

[@heathercohen9063]

I love these videos. I always feel like I’ve learnt something about myself from listening to you speak

[@megan82345]

i absolutely love the feel of your videos that you do when lying down on your bed! they're so relaxing and feel so real and raw, absolutely love all the topics that you bring up/address! thank you for creating such amazing content x

[@olivia6388]

you have come so far since I first started watching you!! I’m so happy for you!!

[@sage9756]

a wellness journal is such a good idea !!

[@Jac-Jay]

Love Wayne Goss,most genuine beauty youtuber and he still works with clients which I think most of the make up artists on KZbin think they are way above now.

[@user-qc5pt1we7u]

Mel, you are always a breath of fresh air on this platform💚 One of the few no bs creators that always manage to bring true joy in my day🙌🏻 Lots of love x

[@melanien7028]

The montage of the video clips of you and Thomas was so sweet. Also, I'm very excited for your novel! 💚

[@meganholmes4422]

I love this video 💚 you explain yourself so well and I love how relaxed you are with the questions! I am so with you on the love thing💚

[@ace8910eca]

I just ended nearly 3 years of long distance with my boyfriend and have been thinking a lot about if the way I'm feeling and we're acting is good, and your response to that question here really calmed my mind and helped me realize that yes, everything is still okay. So, thank you Mel 💚

[@bettinak.4]

OMG I just realised that the first video that I saw on your channel was FOUR years ago! The one that was about school. I fell in love with your channel and it's getting better and better. I just want to say thank you for the high quality content. You are an amazing human being! 💚💚💚

[@Pumpkin31000]

Love the idea of a pact to not watch the drama. I try hard to never click but definitely occasionally do!

[@amannyelattal5695]

Liking the video even before watching cuz, ya know... it's Mel 💚

[@maja8453]

Love these videos! Melanie makes me to calm and happy - best feeling for an introverted person like me 😄

[@marsiebunbun]

love these chit chat videos u have been doing lately!! it makes my heart so warm to see how happy u look wih thomas and i can't wait to feel that way, it feels so special and beautiful even from the outside💚

[@scorpioinlove888]

I am so glad you found what we all want to and that is someone to share our life with. 😊💕

[@haisesasaki3944]

My eyes got teary when you described what "romantic love" is to you. I watch your videos before sleeping so I can have happy dreams ❤. You're such an inspiration. I want to be married to that thing behind me.. lol 😂 Well, me and my sister named our little brother after our grandfather -whom we never met- although it was a silly joke and it continued. Even thought it's not a great name I can't imagine him having another name. 💚💚💚💚

[@user-kc8cc4uv3o]

Awww this is the cutest imaginable video ever I love how open and honest and just real you are as a KZbin personality seriously it feels like with your videos your just having a really good chat with an old friend in you pyjamas drinking tea 💚💚

[@DarwinsWench]

I love that journal idea! Brilliant!!!

[@victoriamather2267]

The end question was so sweet!

[@MotorCityPhoenix313]

Omg the montage with you and Thomas.... ALL DA FEELZ!!!!! 🤗🤗🤗 I can't handle it!

[@jamesfv1]

I love this so much. What you said about love is so true. That’s exactly how I feel about my partner. ☺️

[@TheyCallMeKatwin]

I love your content! Thank you for keeping it real!

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

Absolutely agree with you about avoiding the drama being pushed into our faces on KZbin, it really isn't something we need. Cutting it out is the way to go. Also, unfortunately, I too feel like we've seen too many abuse scenarios recently online and with Pres. Agent Orange that I'm not expecting to see this guy being dealt with appropriately. The Thomas tribute made my eyes very sweaty, I've watched you for so long and I'm so so happy for the both of you. YOU'RE WEE GEMS 👑👏

[@bloom2105]

That photoshop filter is INSANE

[@jessb2495]

I’m so excited for your book! I’m 25 and the closer to 30 I get the more I feel like I’m still not where I should be or where I thought I would be when I was younger. I’m very much living in my own fantasy world and I feel like I’m not ready to grow up and I’m still wishing for something magical to happen to me like you read in teenage/young adult novels and for you to write a novel about a woman turning 30 is so exciting and makes me feel like I’m not getting to old to still be in love with fantasy, paranormal, or alternative things! 💚💚💚

[@ailsahall8565]

adore your chatty vids, and your make up looks amazing!x

[@rosie4546]

you and thomas make me so happy and genuinely just make me believe in love

[@SimplyMayaBeauty]

I really relate to what you said about the end of long distance as I just got to that point myself a few weeks ago!

[@nereafernandez6519]

I just realized I watched the video in the same position you filmed it, which makes it more like a chat with a friend hahahahahaha love this kind of videos! I almost cried with the clips of you with Thomas.

[@diga1234567890ify]

Im so so so happy to see you happy. While you were talking about your relationship with Thomas, I was smiling and my roommate noticed that and said I have a face of person who had just seen the video of a cute puppy falling and getting up again. Yeah... its kind of the same :) I love you, you deserve the best

[@carriedavies4973]

love love love, love, love love looove these types of videos, just being gloriously you yet informative 💖

[@MainlyHuman]

The pulsing light is a resonance/phasing effect. It happens when the frame rate of the camera/screen is close to the frequency of the AC power supply in the light.

[@Tess_-cm3jd]

this was so great to watch! Everytime i get a notification that you've uploaded i get so excited and i drop everything I'm doing to watch!

[@laurenjade1670]

I'm so excited n impatient waiting for your book to be released!! x

[@2trickyvicky]

You're one of the few KZbinrs I watch that hasn't made drama their content. X

[@kvinettaf09]

Ahh this was so wonderful 💚💛 Your first novel sounds amazing! And I'd never known that before, so excited to read what you're working on now. And also what you shared about releasing a playlist with the novel, what a freaking awesome idea, it sounds amazing!!! 😄 And that montage of you talking about love with Thomas :') Oh my heart!! It filled it right up, that was beautiful. Always a lovely time watching your vids, much love!! xx

[@yarekim5932]

Glad everything is going well in your romance , thats wonderful . You look fantastic Melanie . Congratulations !

[@ragingredhead9555]

😱😱😱 You have to do a video on how you did your makeup for this video. THAT IS SO GORGEOUS! GIVE ME YOU FACE 😂😂😂

[@Gloria-xb6ch]

I’ve been looking forward to be sitting down with my dinner & this video ALL DAY. This is the best feeling 😌

[@Nientjuh22]

Melanie, I just want to hug you both, you beautiful people :)

[@anabela2691]

GOD i just love listening to you talk im so glad i found your acne videos ages ago and decided to subscribe

[@NayNay-oc6le]

I love how when you are talking it’s a real conversation and you can really engage with what you are saying always love your videos 😍x

[@laurentweed4685]

Love the montage of you and Thomas x must admit going into my twenties I’ve started losing faith in love but here’s proof that they do in fact exist just hope I get that one day

[@rosanne411]

Ahhh I love these Q&A’s! Listening to you feels so comfy and intimate. 😊

[@mariaandzanessa]

I love you so much and you’re such a big inspiration to me. I’m a writer as well and I also started from a very young age and everyone around me felt it was strange but I just loved it - writing was always such a big part of me. In the last three years I had a lot happen to me and I just stopped writing. I’ve missed it so much but you’ve inspired me to start again so I’d just like to say thank you 💚 also, you and Thomas are my favourite couple ever, I wish you all the happiness in the world.

[@evameer6955]

So excited💚💚💚 your videos make me so happy

[@christineheise1103]

All I can focus on is the green light now! How very Gatsby ;) . Also fabulous video, love you, you beautiful human!

[@HitoKunioka]

The green light is good. Reminds me of Gatsby (which is a good thing.)

[@katerinabanecourt]

Honestly, that first part - regarding gossip and online drama and such, is so true, and it's in large part why I don't actually use social media and only watch very, very few vlogs that genuinely interest me, also for the most part I don't read other people's comments on videos I watch (unless there is maybe a question I have regarding the content, or music playing in that video, and I want to see if maybe that question was already answered) just because the comment section tends to be the place where the drama tends to develop and happen and all that, and I mean, the websites I do use such as KZbin, I visit and use those sites to have fun, maybe learn something and the drama just really ruins that, so I don't put myself through that at this point. I also do not read or have any interest in celebrity gossip/tabloid stuff - like that Ariana Grande topic you briefly mentioned, which although I do love her music I have absolutely no idea what it's about tbh, although I do vaguely recall reading something (I think in the iTunes review for her album "thank u") about an ex-boyfriend of her having died tragically, but beyond that it literally totally passed me by - and it's just not something I'm interested in knowing about a actor/musician that I adore, because I feel that their personal life is just not my business, after all I wouldn't want people that don't even know me to gossip about my personal matters or try analyzing things in my personal life, or anything of that sort, so I definitely steer clear from that type of headlines and discussions and such... On another note, personally, I definitely feel that, while labels might be needed in some situations and circumstances (especially in the days of Twitter and people not really wanting long detailed explanations, but just something short, direct and specific), overall people shouldn't be labeled and especially they shouldn't have to feel the need to label themselves in certain ways, because I think that in a way this habit of labeling people and putting them into boxes according to how someone (or they themselves) label them, is what keeps barriers in place and makes things like sexual orientation, gender identity, mental health issues, disabilities - basically anything that might make someone stand out from the norm - controversial and a big deal and all that. I mean, obviously, it's just my own opinion but personally I just feel that things like differing in some way from the majority of people only is made a big deal because of how society makes a big deal out of those things by feeling the need to label everything and anything and make a big fuss if something or someone doesn't fit in with the rest or what they consider the norm/normal. ... But, in any case, yes, that greenish light in the background definitely pulses!

[@katarinatagesson1729]

Thank you for this video! We as consumers have so much power and i personally am very consious of what i watch on youtube, buy in stores and read. Hope more people will cut out negativity in their lives, we will feel so much better then!

[@lilymayamorin2124]

Honestly, the type of relationship that Thomas and Melanie's is everything I want out of my love life

[@teavetyskova]

You two are the most adorable couple I have ever seen 😍

[@majdeclercq5688]

The answer to the question of love is so resonating with me at the moment. Especially the part before you and Thomas got together. Two of my really good frieds have now became a couple, and while I am so over the moon happy for them that they finally are together, it also makes me feel so alone... Which is stupid, because it's not like I am more alone than before. The alone parts of my day just somehow feel more lonely than before. They always say that love comes when you aren't looking, but god damn, I hope it comes searching for me some time soon. I love your vids Mel, they bring me so much joy! I wish you all the best and for your hopes and dreams to become a reality!

[@teagirlworld5186]

I do like this Q&A THE MOST 💚💚💚💚

[@WholeWheatSandwich]

I always feel safe watching your videos. That's weird to say, seeing as watching youtube shouldn't feel 'unsafe'. But it does! I have watched you for years and you are like a sister talking with us and a pioneer for issues that matter. Thank you for being a real person lol. Very relieving to me and I'm sure many others. Love ya girl!

[@quinton7194]

Thank you Melanie for this video, very useful information and thanks for answering my question!!!!!!

[@melisamarian7440]

Wow. You literally described the way i feel romantically. The only difference is that you could put in in words and i couldn’t. And somehow even if i didn’t fully experience it with someone who feels the same i could still feel it that way.

[@sarahsscribblings590]

I love the concept of your Lore book, if you ever decide to revisit writing that book I shall be there to read it.

[@alyssawolfe2879]

You literally make me so happy and I love watching you just talk lol 💛💛💛

[@elizabethshay1177]

I love the idea of that pact, yes yes yes!!!

[@chocolatecherry790]

Awwwww you're so beautiful 💜💜💜 I love you 😊😊 and you're both so sweet together I hope all your dreams and wishes come true 😄😄💜💜💜💋

[@barpoe1]

I love that so many youtubers are coming out as bisexual. They’re definitely role models and influencers 💖💕

[@erinkelly419]

She's called Erin?! I'm definitely going to have to read your book now! :)

[@lauraomar6786]

I love you so bloody much and your vids are amazing... I just wana hug you 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕 loads of love from isreal

[@uzytkownik_7115]

It was very moving you talking about love , I literally got emotional

[@dorothyszucs6066]

“What do you do when you’re anxious?” I watch your videos! 😃

[@user-xu9gi8qn4r]

Melanie you look beautiful! could we get a makeup tutorial of this look?? especially that eyeliner wow