All couple pass through this kind of problems during the first years of their marriage. Decreased attention does not mean decreased love. Attention will be shared between families when children arrive. You will pass this chapter and be settled soon. Please be patient and understand each other. Don't speak harsh this to each other because you are partners. When two people come together from two families, they vary in different things. And to be come compatible takes time. I am 32 years in marriage and passed many ups and downs. Today we have happy life. May God bless you.