Quarter Life Crisis: Defining Millennial Success | Sally White | TEDxRoyalCentralSchool

Sally White had everything she needed to be considered successful. Then it all changed. She offers an alternative view on success for millennials that challenges traditional notions of what it means to be successful. Sally White is an Actress, Singer, Dancer, Teacher and Entrepreneur. She is the founder and creative director of Sally White Creative, a London based Communications Agency specialising in storytelling through Digital Marketing, Public Relations and Creative Videography.
Originally from Australia, she spent the early part of her twenties working full-time in a variety of Corporate Communications & I.T. Project Management roles. During this time she also worked as a Performer and in 2013 quit her job and moved to London to pursue acting. In 2015 she co-founded a Software Development company and also graduated from The Royal Central School of Speech and Drama with a Masters in Music Theatre.
Working as an actress, living abroad, and running her own business has sparked her curiosity in helping others integrate their interests and passions to create fulfilling and momentous careers.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@laskercruz18]

“We want things to be different but we’re not sure if or how we can move forward” this right hit me hard.

[@JTFSIX]

Because you're weak and lack depth...you have no value or purpose, Enjoy - Eat your Oatmeal

[@Samuel115s]

I'm going through a quarter life crisis but mine is more due to lack of achievement plus fear of aging.

[@tylermcallister7713]

@Dark Storytelling and do what kind of work in Australia? I would love to move out of America and start a new life

[@marianamartinezjimenez7145]

Me 2

[@prashantchaudhar1492]

Dear do what you like , do anything with devotion . And ageing is normal thing, so there is nothing wrong in that.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

You must confront your fear head on. Go volunteer in nursing homes and with the dying. That's what I do and it changed my life. Don't waste a single moment of your life doing something you aren't passionate about or not working towards a goal you're passionate about. There is no guarantee you will have time to do everything you want to do.

[@liyahlang949]

For me aging or becoming an elder isn’t scary mainly because I look at it is another day I get to live, another present . It’s really I feel about your perspective on the matter. Being old doesn’t scare me it’s not like I can stop it from happening so why give energy to a fear on a subject that isn’t going to change. The outcome is going to stay the same rather I’m afraid or not . I look at this with anything .

[@jessdolifewithme7873]

This was great. I’m 25 & I’ve been feeling so down. Working in the state government for 5 years, everyone telling me I have a great job, pressure of management to encourage me to keep promoting within the company, family telling me to go back to school, etc. This is everyone around me defining success for me. And I’ve listened until now. It’s a scary part of my life because I don’t know what to do. But I know I’m not happy. I need to do something about this. Thank you so much. You are completely right. It’s not always about knowing what we DO WANT, sometimes it’s simply just knowing what we DON’T WANT. I needed to hear that. Thank you again.

[@shashamiaow1504]

hey how are u? any updates?

[@cynthiadsilva9597]

So glad to hear this. How's it going so far?

[@sarahhight5266]

Sally White you words ring so true! I'm a millennial and constantly feel torn between my parents desire for me to work hard in a stable job and my desire to take risks and grow - both paths terrify me!

[@noonghazi]

As a millennial, I agree to what she said. I'm at this point right now where I want to make a shift in my career. I'm not so sure how to do that, but I'm pretty sure I'm on my way. True! The pressure from society and my peers is no joke. Especially when people about your age -or younger- seem to have achieved success, while your here being "nothing" next to them. That's why I -almost- quit social media. At least I don't post those unrealistically always-happy posts. More importantly, I've minimized consuming other people's posts. I do take a bit of inspiration and check to see what people are doing just to keep me motivated and on my feet. But whenever I feel unhealthy, I leave. My advice is to take things easy. Comparing yourself to other people and pushing yourself or beating it too hard for not making it will not get you anywhere. It might actually slow you down or hurt you. Take your time crafting the kind of life that suits you. One thing at a time. Start by finding what appeals to you the most and what is it that you feel you need to do or want to do. Right them down, prioritize them, then decide which one are you willing to do to make a living. All of this on your own accord, no one else's. Then create a plan to achieve what you want one by one and GET ON IT! Repeat this process every now and then and keep updating, because nothing stays the same. p.s. Some times you will need to make changes to fit other people in your life (e.g. family responsibilities ..etc), make changes according to that too. I thought I'd share the knowledge I have. Good luck everyone. You're not alone.

[@MuskaJahan]

😍 beautifully written

[@santoshmisal]

Beautiful thoughts, million miles separating millennials but struggles so similar..

[@zamokuhlemolamu3229]

Es9

[@emy3982]

Thank you for this comment, I needed to read it 🙌

[@Whooshta]

Thank you, Noon! I usually go to youtube comments seeing the worst, but this post was definitely the best. Much love!

[@emmacat3202]

Most of us are not worried about keeping up with appearances. We are mostly worried about trying to pay off our student debt, afford housing, health insurance, saving for retirement, and wanting to start a family. This economy that the Boomers created has stunted that for us.

[@alivin6295]

I'm 26 and Iost, I quit my job for more than a year now, and I'm trying to get back in life, but I don't know how, I don't even know what I really want..😢😢

[@irwanadhinugroho9092]

hey same here. I quit my job on January and still don't know what to do

[@ayshb2150]

I'm doing something but I dunno if I wanna do it?

[@vladis4538]

I feel the same. I was fired on july and cannot decide what career path to choose. I am stuck now(

[@hettijayne]

Hey I totally resonate with you too I’ve experienced this, can I ask what job you where doing?

[@captrodgers4273]

who the fk is paying your bills?

[@ladysagexo]

She could not have said more of a true reflection of the nature of a "millennial" life right now. It is harder for us I feel, in a lot of ways because we have developed new ways of thinking of what success really means to us and to the world. Why should we live a life of routine, when in our hearts we want to create a life of love in all things we do as well as express our own unique self to the world.

[@kyledelrosario2081]

true

[@deesmoove5852]

Lady Sage Yes indeed, well explained 🙏🏾

[@maxdominate2481]

You sound like an unfocused slacker girl!

[@Dead-cg1yy]

There's no such thing as a routine free life. Stop focusing on yourself, and instead focus on what you can do for others. Live for the little things that you take for granted everyday. Maybe then you'll see the light behind the abyss.

[@santoshmisal]

Thank you so much Sally! These are the thoughts that need the stage.. it's the persuit of happiness in whatever capacity you see fit.

[@jefferia8]

This is awesome, I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like this. I refuse to feel like a failure, my definition of success is completely different than the average person. This has only inspired me more to pursue my purpose

[@candicedavis1751]

Wow literally the story of my life word for word. Also had a high paying job flying around the world business class. Ended up hospitalized three times with no medical explanation except stress. I left my job almost three years ago and now run my own start up. Haven't had any severe illness in all this time outside of corporate. It's much harder on your own (especially financially) but you eventually get the hang of it. Life is so much better and healthier on your own terms

[@3shTHEillest]

I’m 24 and currently having a quarter-life crisis. :( But this talk made things clearer. Amazing talk!!!🙌🏻

[@cynthiadsilva9597]

How are things now?

[@smollweii4168]

I'm 24, I just quit my job from a company where most graduates would dream of joining, my family were proud of me, my friends think I'm doing great, everyone I met says that I'm on the right path. But I was so miserable in that job. I had no purpose, meaning and looking at people inside I couldn't foresee myself in that kind of environment and lifestyle for the next 5 years. I hope I've made the right decision...

[@stefanomeroi6365]

How are you now?

[@HockeyVictory66]

Love this girl and this talk. Passing it on to my daughter so she can define her own meaning of success and not let others tell her what success is.

[@daisyvazquez3881]

I resonate with the message a lot right now in my life. I'm 27, working in my second job out of college and feel so unhappy/unfulfilled. A big part of me wishes I had chosen a different career path but what the speaker said is so true. We're getting paid a lot less than people our age did back in the day, and we're more educated ; more in debt. Its a challenge. I don't want to throw away my education but at the same time my happiness is the most important of all. Feeling very stuck on what step to take next :(

[@cynthiadsilva9597]

Hi Daisy, I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through. It's been 5 months since this comment and I wanted to check in on you and see where you are at...

[@akirakir2271]

The most wholesome and insightful speech that covers so much aspects of the struggle and, most importantly, what to do with it. "Since when being busy became cool???". Chill and let yourself be. Instead of "take risks and go out of your comfort zone", take risks TO FIND your comfort zone.

[@oliw-xn2ng]

I am turning 25 next month. I’ve recently quit a corporate job.. and I really needed to hear all of that. Thank you.

[@soniathegemini1593]

Those who post perfect pictures on social media are living an illusion. The more real you get, the more confident you are. Brilliant video & hats off to following your passion 🙌

[@littleman6950]

Coincidentally, it's easier to take risks, switch careers, and move/travel when you're not perpetually broke and stressed about making either a car payment, rent, or food.Another speech from a successful(ly) detached person.

[@gangifreek17]

Eli Short or have children too feed on one income and a minimum at that

[@michaltakac673]

Your nickname just suits you perfectly. Find a way how to change that circumstances you've got yourself into, instead of whining at the wrong grave ;)

[@pistolen87]

I totally agree, I've inherited quite a bit of money which gave me the opportunity to find my luck as an entrepreneur. Having said that, if you want you can minimize your costs. Rent is much cheaper in a small town or in the countryside. You can grow your own food. Buy a used car. Making these choices you can lower your cost dramatically. Having children cost a lot though, so no children.

[@tammyton]

​@@michaltakac673 "change the circumstances you've got yourself into, instead of whining." You have no idea what caused the circumstances the person you've replied to has described. Does insulting people who are going through rough situations make you feel better? Does it make you feel like the bigger person? What's the purpose? You're not saying anything useful, just rubbing salt into the wounds. You just seem like a privileged person looking down on someone who grew up in a completely different situation and environment than yourself. Maybe you should think about making changes in your own life.

[@littlefishies9592]

@@tammyton Salt hurts, but actually heals wounds. Maybe if you read the whole statement instead of just the part that was triggering for you it would be evident that he was encouraging her to do something to "change her circumstances" aka take responsibility for one's own life, Instead of stewing in the pain as unless that ends up motivating someone to act, it can be an endless cycle. He was doing something their parents probably didn't do, which is why they are in their current predicament. Tough love is real love

[@hannahlipka8988]

Thank you for sharing your story! I’m 24 and had to move back in with my family bc of covid, and my jobs slowed. I’m part time serving and part time clerk at a courthouse. I’m miserable, and I feel stuck. I also did one semester of college and stopped, years ago. I want more than anything to go back, I’ll tell people that’s my plan. The truth is, I still don’t know what I want to go for.. your story makes me want to delete Instagram and fb.. you made me realize how much I compare myself to others and how easy it is with these apps. Maybe I’m so stuck on one thing (a college degree) I’m missing what might be right in front of me. And I will still go to college, no matter what. But maybe that won’t define me as a successful person, you made me realize that thank you

[@josephcoluccio604]

For a long time I thought I was the only one who felt this way.

[@Ashes2Ashes_Blush2Blush]

💖💖💖

[@Evil_pinata]

Some of the best advice I figured out on my own is don’t always take everyone’s advice.

[@bulletproofdiamondwinstar9470]

This is the most sophisticated TED Talk I've heard that I took notes, but comments are the simplest somehow.

[@TheSnowskate94]

I'm 24 currently working at a hospital as a CT tech and I am completely unsatisfied with my life. I haven't been happy since before I began working this job, about a year ago. In a few months I am dramatically reducing my working hours in order to pursue graphic design and music. I'm nervous for this, but I have to stay true to myself and find satisfaction with my life

[@selfentertainment4086]

I've been stuck in a crisis state since I was 22 and I'm now 35 and still feel stuck in a loop of under paid jobs and overwhelming bills.

[@AC-qo8oq]

I went to college and worked all throughout school and graduated with no debt. I was passionate about a certain industry, started from the bottom working as a receptionist, got certifications and climbed the ladder to gain a very professional position (flew all over, gave financial presentations etc). Then, got laid off because that entire industry failed. They laid off hundred. Now, I’m back at school again with 18 year olds, taking basic classes and redoing my entire career. I can’t tell you how stressful and sad it has made me feel. I could go back and work my entire life making basic money in another industry, but I want better. This whole thing has postponed my dreams of buying a house or having children. It’s devastating because I followed all the ‘rules’ and still fell flat on my face. I think I have really bad luck.

[@mdm134]

What was your job

[@AC-qo8oq]

WTF analyst in oil and gas

[@seanengelsen7267]

I’m in college with a bunch of young recent high school grads as well, and honestly it’s not uncommon anymore. The job market is volatile these days with the spectrum of industries changing constantly. I wish I already had a degree too, but I also was in a career field that was not long term sustainable. I would like to at least have the option of having kids in the near future but that’s not something you can really plan for. Just remember you’re not alone and we all have to make up life as we go and remain adaptable. To live is to risk it all.

[@AC-qo8oq]

Sean Engelsen thanks Sean for the positivity and sharing your story.

[@mariberry06]

I feel the exact same way as you, I started school again with 18 year olds as well trying to start a new career in healthcare, I also had a prior degree and worked through school working and graduated with no debt, but working in that industry for 5 years after grad was very unfulfilling and I decided to make a career change and got back to school to study to get into healthcare and it’s true it’s postponing all the things you’ve mentioned and it’s stressful but we will make it!! I wish you all the best in your journey!! What career are you studying for now?

[@BIKER38]

I feel it's better to not compare yourself to other if you wanna reach your goal. Because it will take time and money that you will sacrifice for it ! the last sentence is priceless ! " you have to work hard because learning what you want/don't want takes time but if you develop self awareness, allow yourself to grow and commit to your choices without judgement then you allow yourself to create autonomy. millenial success is about shaping individual identity." Thanks for this wise talk, it's perfectly resumed !

[@devonr2960]

I love you so much Big Rod! You are absolutely amazing

[@brilliantreadtv393]

One thing I have realised being a millennial that we should do is - keep learning, keep adding meaning to your life and moving forward!

[@tiendang7531]

All Ted videos are so inspiring, because they are gentle, kind, and accepting of differences. I think Millenials are worthy of sympathy, in fact, I think they have been dealt a very bad hand, with false optimism from their parents & teachers (Baby Boomers, good for them that the Silent Generation sets them up for the American Dream, but now completely unachievable for their kids). The system sorts of fails them & now it's not fair they take the blame, especially considering the 2008 & 2020 crisis outside of their control. This video is relevant, as success metrics need redefining: ok with having less, not being exceptional, with an ordinary life. There are beauty in realizing all of this :) good luck to us millennials!

[@sashs8461]

A lot of spot on points, the facade of social media. the real self and ideal self point of view was an eye opener. also yeah the thing about being busy! who said that was good thing. keep fighting the good fight millennials we can turn this around ✊

[@Ashes2Ashes_Blush2Blush]

I'm so grateful I'm not the only one...I was being so hard myself, and was thinking I wasn't doing well enough, and felt so lost. But, as millennials we are in a funked up position. Glad for this.

[@lincoln6981]

I’m 27 and wanting to quit my career as an automotive technician. Been here since I was 19. Took the job because I had a 1 month old baby that needed formula and diapers. So I took it. And been here ever since. I think I’ve had enough of this place , when I think about leaving I consider just a different place , but now altogether not considering staying in the industry. Thing is , idk what else I would/could do

[@wiooz8690]

right. so change the rules and definitions of success so that we can feel better about ourselves. got it.

[@elizabethpiper]

I really enjoyed this video. Thank you!

[@rhaacke]

Defining success is not difficult. Successful people are people who reach their goals. Money doesn't need to be one of them.

[@idrisabdi1397]

When you realize you have no character when you feel like you are just guessing through life.

[@amys5505]

Massive amounts of student loan debt, entering the workforce when the job market was at its worst, barriers to affordable healthcare (in the United States), and high-stress jobs that pay too little are likely the reasons behind most millennials' crises, if they have one. Oddly enough, many of these factors are even mentioned in the talk. Despite stress and illness, the stronger message is that leaving school at 18 gave our speaker the life experience and (more unusually) the MONEY she needed to kickstart her dream. I like the message of this TED talk for young people coming out of high school. As a millennial, I don't find it relative or representative of our generation's experience.

[@sheentheexplorer3859]

I’m turning 23 by the end of June and to be completely honest... I’m still not sure where I’m standing at the moment

[@alxpanti]

Thank you Sally White.

[@jvergara799]

She's making good points, I learned the hard way today apparently

[@se4271]

This young lady did a lot of smart thinking. I'm very impressed.

[@fiolaanne8578]

I felt stressed when I am looking for first job, but I am stressed now because I don’t like my job, it’s only 1year, in fact, my seniors appreciate me a lot and promoted me, but I feel miserable because I am not doing what I like.

[@monsun3365]

Im 28 and feel stuck... I earn a nice paycheck, have a great job, but after the end of the day I'm not happy... The worst it became after someone broke up with me, and she is very successful... Here I'm thinking I'm loosing time... And everybody is telling me, you won't find better... I've been feeling for years that I'm not where I want to be and I'm just working to have money, which I spend trying to chase happiness... It's pretty bad...

[@Larindarr]

it doesn't help if you have a family and a retrograde society hounding it on your mind 24/7 what you should be, why, and why what you wish to do won't work. In such cases for me, I was put in a crisis before the quarter one where I had to... basically choose me over them. It was painful. Because emotionally I had to make them.. ineffective, irrelevant. Like amputating a piece of your heart. It was the only way. And now that I am in this quarter-life crisis it does help to not have them around telling me in passive aggressive, subtle joke and mocking remarks AAAALLL day what a failure I am.

[@maxdominate2481]

You should read Dr. Wayne Dyer's book..."Your Erroneous Zones". This is the first book in a six part series on making your own way in the world whilst staying mentally healthy. Used paperbacks available on Amazon.

[@cynthiadsilva9597]

Sorry to hear about this. How are you doing now?

[@bjewel3751]

I resonate with this soo much. Currently going through the same thing at 25. Thank you so much for this talk ❤️

[@missyoothoudt8243]

Bree currently going through this and I am 26.... I felt like I was so alone. ❤️

[@cynthiadsilva9597]

How's life for you now?

[@cynthiadsilva9597]

@@missyoothoudt8243 Sorry to hear about thishow are you doing now?

[@sarthakmirchandani]

@@cynthiadsilva9597 are you also going through the same?

[@cynthiadsilva9597]

@@sarthakmirchandani I have come on the other side. WBU?

[@joshmoses6753]

Education is great and doesn’t undermine ones intelligence at all. One thing you can’t teach though is heart and good manners. If you have both that’s a weapon. People notice attitude too. So education never really ends beyond the classroom.

[@hvidtsted]

Starting @16:06, she throws the strongest point: We experience stress, regardless if we choose the number 1 thing we think is the most fun in the world, or whether we let society, friends, family, environment etc. weigh in and send us in the direction of a perhaps "smarter", but very requiring job. It seems she went from the 'smart' job, to what she conceived as the most fun and fulfilling job. That is untill she realized that being an actress means rejection that most likely causes the same amount of stress, that her previous job did. Although likely in different forms. Having dealt with stress myself, and still spending time understanding it, and getting better, I think I've learned the following: It is not necessarily about removing yourself from the situation that causes stress, as having a job, a spouse, a family, aging and more, will cause you stress. It is about managing that stress, so it does not 'hurt' you. So you need to learn the right tools, techniques and thought patterns. If all these tools have been used, and you still feel a level of stress that is undesirable to YOU, you definitely should get out of that job. Don't be miserable. And losing a job is not that big. But start by learning to handle your stress.

[@toniace2274]

Thank you so much.

[@ryanwalthuis1928]

-Think of jobs you would like to do and do them. -Think of things that you have done ^^ that you really enjoy. Passion is discovered through action. -Think of something that you can teach someone else; something you are good at. -Find out how you can use that skill to solve a problem or utilize that skill to help others. -Ask; the worst someone can say is no -Get out an do things; motivation is key -If things do not work out, there is always tomorrow -Passion discovered

[@alexfinn7989]

Great video. But it took me ten minutes to realize you were not wearing hospital scrubs.

[@Ashes2Ashes_Blush2Blush]

OMG SAME HAHAHAH

[@Silaqui21]

Really? My first thought was "What a cute outfit, I need this" ;p

[@ziia_zoozoo5231]

@@Silaqui21 Same here...😁

[@nemophilas2050]

Great video ! Good luck to you !

[@AnnaSttAzzia]

GREAT TALK !!!!!

[@HiddenWen]

Think the problem is super fast success leads to a shallowness in life. The process of reaching success is usually what makes life meaningful and bearable, even if the process sucks. For most people, success occurs around their mid 30's to 45. At those ages, the mid-life crisis occurs. So not surprising she experiences a quarter-life crisis.

[@Rody_Ioni]

This what Emma Watson would sound like if she was Australian. It feels like you also have smartness and leadership as a common trait. I am officially a fan now.

[@bd_bandkanon]

I have never eaten avocado on toast.

[@Mr3DLC]

Me either

[@Gabriellaella23]

Me neither. I don't even like avocado. It's like clay

[@imking1243]

TheBandkanon but I’m pretty sure that you are not bound to your wallets

[@robbiebalboa]

You’re missing out, but people waste money buying at Cafes for someone to do it for them. If I eat out I want to eat something I can’t make at home.

[@D.j.2580]

Robert B exactly

[@ec6933]

I had mine at 22. I'm 30 now. This video is so true it hurts.

[@OldManShoutsAtClouds]

Aye, 32 here, had mine at 25. Completely reinvented myself, got back to my roots and rocking a career in IT that actually leaves me feeling fulfilled.

[@misanthropelife]

I’m 28 now and it just dawned one me that I’m already in a crisis

[@Zeldas_Lullaby]

30 is so much better though.

[@elliea595]

Are 30’s much better/stable than 20’s? I’m 26 and feeling so so lost and unhappy with the circumstances

[@ec6933]

@@elliea595 much more stable... But also more lonely. No surprises... But like...NO surprises lol

[@haileypedro5025]

Im going through this right now. Looking to make a complete career change, but its going to take some work.

[@veg94]

Amazing!

[@imking1243]

واحد من اجمل الخطابات حقيقةً ..... يبدو ان مخاض هذه الفكره نابع من عمق في معاني الالفيه والكوارتر لايف كرايسس معى تجربيه حقيقه ومؤلمه لتلك المعاني في الحياه الواقعيه ولذلك نرى فكره وخطاب جميل مبني على وقائع وحقائق علميه يولد خطاباً جميلاً كهذا الذي نراه اعلاه

[@TT-mf2cy]

I feel like I’ve been stuck in all aspects of my life. I’m 32 and I still don’t know what it is I wanna do. I’m in school but I’m not confident about my major. I’ve been at my job for 7 years and I absolutely am burned out and hate it now. I get anxiety sometimes before I have to come. I just want some type of break through. It feels like I’m just here and not living. It feels like I’ll never have that nice car, house or life partner.

[@teacherbam7230]

Thank you so much m

[@cookieeatscookies5479]

I should be graduating this year like expected. But I changed my major about 3x. I’m actually happy in my current major and don’t feel as much anxiety as before with the others. With the first major I had, my anxiety and depression were at their worst. I’ve been healing so much lately and I’m proud of me. I don’t care if I graduated later than most. A lot of my older tinder dates (the 24-28 yr olds) are in the midst of changing their paths bc they feel unhappy where they’re at. I’m working hard and it’s extremely hard, but the difference between this hard and the hard with the other majors is that it wasn’t what I was passionate about, therefore letting my mental state take control. I’m working on studying for the PTCB exam this summer to become a certified tech on top of getting my associates in chemistry while working part time. Then I plan on getting my bachelors and hopefully going abroad for a semester during that. For anyone in a rut, don’t worry. Just pick up a couple new things here and there. That’ll help you realize what your likes and dislikes are. Also, put your mental health and physical health first!

[@waRr3nxx]

I turn 30 next year. Stuck in a job I hate. Trying to turn my passions into other careers. Having trouble keeping myself motivated.

[@22f94]

Millennial success is about shaping individual identity.

[@danmartin1405]

This resonated with me personally. I'm working in finance and I am miserable and unhappy. I'm now trying to save up money to put myself into medical school even if it means I have to stay in this job that I am unhappy with a couple more years.

[@amiralimo1192]

I'm in medical school here is so tough buddy this isn't a dream think about it twice before doing it

[@sid8483]

Did you get in?

[@86fifty]

It's a great idea, a great message... Doesn't totally work for Americans, just due to the unfortunate basic reality of out-of-pocket medical costs, student loans, and rent. Apart from that, I struggle with the 'give yourself permission' part. I'm plenty brave, plenty self-confidant (about certain things) but there's just this wall up around the idea that, if I tell it to myself, it's meaningful. I seem to be hard-wired for the idea that meaning comes from other people, not in a social-media-validation way but in a helping-your-community way. I suppose the way around that wall is to find the right community?

[@fatimav441]

Turning 25 in the midst of a pandemic has been so sad 😔😔😔😔

[@gabriellakosa488]

People came up with this term Quarter Life crisis, but it`s very misleading. It suggest a particular age. But this crisis that many millennials experience is actually the same crisis that our parents and previous generations experienced around midlife. This is when they question things for the first time and this is when they change their directions in life and start a new chapter. Millennials are basically going through an early midlife crisis. It`s all about the developmental stages of human beings. We humans evolve, and the next generations are getting to the same level at a faster rate...so that they evolve further than the previous generations.

[@maxdominate2481]

Nice try Gabriella! You are more evolve; rather you've devolved.

[@SYDAirlineEnthusiast]

Quarter life crisis: the point in the 20s when you have no idea what your purpose in life is, but eventually, your life gets better. What about mid life crisis? That has yet to come in like 20 years

[@shuriken452]

I'm 24, had a quarter life crisis and ended up envisioning a humanitarian approach to health care. At the expense of developing a stage 1 bipolar disorder

[@Productivebear]

“Busyness does not equal productivity.”

[@cristianpetri1]

🤔Great and true talk☺

[@OnlyPureSounds]

My lifestory but i got a heavy depression.. i feel so much pressure i wanna die. I have to go to a clinic

[@gangifreek17]

Michiel De Jong I have a hard time after work to do dishes feed my kids I let them play video games and watch movies because I’m so drained and if I wasn’t for my kids I would mind not waking up anymore 😢

[@truthspeaker.2023]

Go see an Endocrinologist. Sometimes those symptoms have to do with our thyroid levels which can be helped. Praying for you!

[@water9baby972]

@@gangifreek17 how are you doing now?

[@AJCGUITAR1]

Translation of entire speech, lower your expectations because you got screwed.

[@Reasons2breathe]

There's something missing from all these quarter life crisis videos... DEATH... at this age you are becoming far more aware of mortality and are no longer defined by your youth. A lot of these themes are diversions from the real issue.

[@rezinator5430]

What about death? The acceptance or acknowledgement of it?

[@Entropy997]

But death doesn't define a quarter-life crisis. Fear of death is an ENTIRELY different problem.

[@Lafilledlapluie]

Death has always been around looming since the womb so... IDK what this links to exactly

[@TellitTay]

“Taught that success is stability and security”

[@maxdominate2481]

...as opposed to what?

[@timnimnom]

Worst timing for me to go through quarter life crisis. Turning 29 soon and getting married in less than 6 months... About to quit my job with loads of student debt. If I don’t quit job, I think I will go crazy so I am pulling the trigger and see what happens. I will come back to this comment in 1 year and let you know how it all went.

[@neski311]

If it goes good, I dount you will come back. If it goes bad, I doubt you will come back. Alternatively, Im available to talk. Here is my WhatsApp: [phone]

[@oglioko]

How did it go?

[@sid8483]

How did it go ? 2 years already

[@miaauzina9537]

So good

[@snikovsky]

I suggest rather focus management, not time management.

[@maxdominate2481]

Good one.

[@kemem641]

it good to see do what make you happy but i cant promise i want to see my career path changed i have the option and i choose to be the top at my carrier thank you for sharing and you look so cute i got distracted so many times 😅😄😄

[@vishnubishnoipodcast3505]

Totally agree

[@gnatiu]

It was always the same. Always the same problems. Just starting earlier these days.

[@traceyrinaldi8120]

Gee I sure wish I could quit my job move to London and just become an actor lmao

[@tahah.babikir7698]

No joke, I've gone through all the life crises by the age of 24... never underestimate the power of imagination...

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

Great speech & beautiful speaker. Everything she say's is true. I hope she does get married because any man would be lucky to have her :)

[@rjtheripper931]

Our society is also one that is built by trends. If you don't fit in to a trend then you are not worthy of living a life of basic living.

[@xaviachasecorun1088]

I'm getting the older with 17.5 years old in the earth i'm the twenty age quarter fifther life crisis greetings from Spain Aragon Huesca

[@pidouble145]

I’m Australian!!! (Mocking Australian accent)

[@tajamorgan6015]

👏🏾Realist video I’ve watched

[@sunatray]

Busy is the new beautiful!

[@jungferheidelbeer8986]

Anyone else watching this while eating avocado on toast? :)

[@PatataPatataPatata]

This is basically why I deleted my Facebook account. To eat my avocado on toast :)

[@kellycampbell7937]

Hi my name is kelly and I’m having a quarter life crisis

[@skzipu5441]

She's often watched the paper made works, I reckon that's the main reason why this video can't acquire higher audiences Moreover, she's a better speaker compared with others....

[@josiehiggins9513]

This is why I dont follow people on fb

[@gangifreek17]

Josie Higgins this is why I barely go on Facebook

[@shekharverma3389]

👏💖🙌

[@jlee1936]

I think a career is a 20th century invention and I don't want one

[@kaoutarelman]

I've been lost for almost a while now, i don't what to do with my life, i can't take décrit anymore i fear of taking decisions, am 23 almost 24, and it's not how i expected thid period to be.. i thought by this age i would have responses to my questions, i would have my life together... little did i know that it will be the most confusing period of my life, i'm graduating from college, and i don't what to do after what job i want to do, where i want to start mu carrer, i'm un a relationship with someone who after 5 years together still not sure about me... i see my friends wedding photos on Facebook, or others making it to the work life, and am here scared of future and don't know what to do with my life

[@amiralimo1192]

Im 17 brother what would you have done differently if you came back to my age?

[@xLuky]

"Our student loan average in england in 32,000 pounds" *Laughs in American* aww thats cute

[@veero8130]

Yeah I feel sorry for you guys on that point. Really unfair. Should be less. But then again American wages are pretty high. We had a University fee of 2000 Euro a year and ppl went mad about it. 3 years later they changed it back to free.

[@menschderguckt]

Laughs in German.