Navigating a mid-life crisis | Saliha Afridi | TEDxAlQuoz

In this talk, Dr. Saliha Afridi shares some tips on how to identify and navigate a mid-life crisis and find back our purpose when we start asking ourselves "Is that all there is to life?" Dr. Saliha Afridi is a clinical psychologist with experience dealing with a wide range of mental health issues. She is the founder of the psychology clinic Light House Arabia, in Dubai, UAE. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@mommabear2544]

I have watch 3 other videos on midlife crisis and THIS one spoke to my very tired, beaten soul.

[@abdulsijad2419]

lol haha ...my advice have a warm glass of milk put duvet over your head and forget about it.....say the last part like a mafia boss

[@cwytchsparks]

​@@abdulsijad2419I physically cringed at this comment

[@alvarezgamers]

This spoke to be so deeply. I’m 42 year old male. And god and I know my hidden midlife crisis has been eating away at me.

[@user-wm1sk4on9d]

I'm going through the same thing I'm 41 and thought it would get better but I'm still messed up. I'm here with you whomever you are x

[@tonydsouza1105]

Dr. Saliha, I am also a clinical psychologist. You have presented mid-life crisis very well and in depth. Thank you

[@johnyp03]

1. When everything loses meaning, you are being summoned into the inner world 🌎 2. If youre taking 1 step forward and 3 steps back, it means you need to go back 🔙 3. Your pain is the prima materia 🤕 4. You will meet the other side of you 👤 5. You will go through a dark night 🌃 6. You will need to be your own hero 🦸 7. Know that this is a tough terrain, but it is the only path to inner peace ✌️

[@sabineskarratt395]

Thank you for summarising!

[@sabineskarratt395]

This video spoke to my soul. You articulated what I am experiencing so well. It can be a lonely journey as there isn’t anyone in my life sharing that they are going through the same thing. Thank you ❤

[@0230Raveena]

This talk has resonated so much with me. Going through the breakup of the only relationship I have had for most of my life and through the last few years, I've felt so sick and "diseased". I have to remind myself that I am perfectly healthy physically but not mentally. Now doing the hard work to get over that threshold between despair and hope and as I get closer to the end of that very dark night, the future seems bright. Its the little steps that will make a huge difference.

[@asiyashahama5875]

‘There’s no holy grail. There’s only holy trail.’ This is such an abundant wealth of knowledge and wisdom that’s truly golden. Your words are so powerful and soulful and truly truly impactful. Thank you for enlightening us with the process of spiritual alchemy and the mid life passage. I can see myself coming back to this video years later. Thank you for this phenomenal talk. 🙏✨✨

[@jordanekl5383]

This is such an obvious ploy to take in the religious minded people in the audience.... You never watched dillbert, did you??

[@jordanekl5383]

Your spirit is stronger than the bible will ever tell you.

[@ryansmith544]

5 min in listening.... she's a truth teller.. Literally one of the best things on the net.. GOLD

[@skeptic4031]

Fantastic talk, thank God I found it. 100% describes what I am going through right now, loved the 7 things one needs to do to navigate through it. Normally you just get a diagnosis but no one tells you how to handle it. Thanks a ton for this talk Saliha, I will be watching it on repeat for a long time.

[@vivianaribeiro1537]

Amazing presentation!!! I’m going through the storm right now, definitely lonely, but I can’t ignore the calling anymore. That voice saying “this isn’t it” is exactly what I’m going through. It’s been rough to navigate all the things you have mentioned, but I’m aware that it’s a road of becoming, and I choose authenticity over superficiality. The inner guide is real (from God or whatever your want to call it), but be aware that those that want to control you won’t be happy with you, and that they will even question your sound mind. This is truly not for the faint of heart. Saliha, thank you so much for describing the journey with such precision and eloquence 💕. I appreciate the wonderful speech.

[@bobdigi500]

I'm going through this too. It's a lonely experience. Gut it's comforting to know I'm not the only one going through it

[@hadeelalu5220]

I couldn't have said it better. Thanks.

[@jordanekl5383]

Anyone who says the words "Amazing Presentation" Is ether a CEO of a big company, or someone just waiting for the next cult leader.

[@jennyfox1398]

@@jordanekl5383 why is that? What you said literally makes no sense. Not only is she not asking anyone to follow her, or buy anything, or do anything she isn't pushing any religious ideology. You sir are a wierdo.

[@jordanekl5383]

​@@jennyfox1398 Its called a joke... Its not seriously stating they are doing anything at all. Just satire. You obviously didn't get it, but for some reason of self superiority you decide to talk down to someone else. How can anything being boiled down to 2 words like that ever be taken seriously? Good luck going about life with this kind of output. You asked how, so here's some parallels. Like how the video tries to illogically force the ideals to only a certain type or group of peoples. Having to feel accepted, and apart of a larger community. Following a new kind of personal life structure. Claiming to be able to supply some assistance to a very complex mental state. Exclusion of others, without directly stating it. Its a rather vague question you asked, so i hope that i covered enough for you. Same can be said about Pyramid schemes. What you've done is cherrypicked parts and not apply the full information. I never suggested it had to do with "asking anyone to follow her, or buy anything, or pushing any religious ideology" That is your own thoughts and feelings on what was said. What makes sense, is using your brain for yourself. Its not hard to see the connections, and to understand hyperboles and satire. Also it helps to have any knowledge about the topics included. Cus there's allot of examples that i left out. Have a nice day, and best of luck with that shrewd kind of mentality!

[@francesthomas1045]

Thank you so much. I really felt that you were speaking to me personally. Everything you said is happening to me right now and I thought there was something wrong with me but now I realise I’m on the journey. I now have the confidence to embrace it. Thank you.

[@AewonWolf]

Great talk, it's as if the speaker was dictating my own personal experience and as someone thats gratefully come out the otherside, I've become so fulfilled and happy in my life. I hope more people see this talk so they maybe better understand their experiences cause unfortunately I don't think most people get to the point of taking the appropriate steps to finding their authentic selves cause they just don't understand what is wrong or missing. I've found that my inner guide is God/love, I let light and love guide my path and it hasn't failed me. I've chosen to desire less and enjoy the simple things away from what society celebrates but bring me joy. Thank you for this talk 🙏🏿

[@tomtomtombygttc6787]

Beautiful

[@pilar9247]

This is absolutely amazing. Thank you. It helped me see some things I needed to see and acknowledge. More work and learning for me

[@8127fernie]

I’m glad I could finally make sense out of all this. Thank you. 🙏🏼

[@user-th6hv1xx5t]

I am A clinical psychologist as well. She has A beautiful mind and A beautiful style

[@GoofballGoddess]

This is wonderful. Thank you for this deep, inspiring, heart and soul affirming sharing. I needed to hear this, and will embrace the journey ahead.

[@AtHomeWithLulu]

Oh my gosh, this was wonderful! I felt like she was reading my heart like a book! I must’ve said, “Yesss!”, a dozen times during the video. Thank you for this. It brought so much clarity!

[@sandeepneb777]

Thanks Saliha… by sharing your experience and knowledge for sure you have paid your debt… I am really inspired to take the baton from you in this relay race for some action. Lots of takeaways for me and at the right time when I am actually facing all this. My sincere thanks to you and KZbin

[@hadeelalu5220]

Thank you Saliha. It's like you're living with me and reporting my exact stages. Wow. Thank you for an excellent, to the point, and effective look into our struggle.

[@jordanekl5383]

Thats the point, hit the vague topics that rings true, and convince you that shes the best, and has the solutions you need. When never stating that, and never actually saying anything thats phycological, or physically helpful.

[@jennyzhang6601]

yeah almost the same feelings exactly clearly

[@vlrkst]

Thank you for such an inspiring indepth presentation. To the point, indepth, heart driven, human. Greatful!

[@ayeshasajid5652]

Is there a lag between the audio and video in first few minutes or is it my internet acting up?

[@cikanyoro]

It's your eyes😂

[@vishalbhardwaj85]

This is gold. Worth million views

[@user-nc9bw8fm1o]

That's SO PERFECT. Thank You very much.

[@Paul-jq8by]

This is really good. Should have millions of views.

[@Xeik38]

Resonated 💯 ... totally relatable. Started my crisis in 2021... Moving towards inspiration right now.

[@amedkhan]

Dr Saliha! 🙌💫 The best as alwsys!

[@Blueridgenc1]

This all makes sense - Thank you

[@devin3891]

A lot of thoughts over the last few months. Thank you.

[@jasenomade]

Love it, thank you. I need to listen to it again and again and again 🙏

[@KompheakPen]

Oh wow, just wow. I cant believe a lot of people going through this too, I thought its only me and its very heavy. I'm facing it right now and I cause a lot of pain to people around me. I have no guide, no experience and losing everything at the same time. And I hope its true that the seed must be buried under the ground between it grows back up. Im in the 5th cycle now, I hope it wont last that long for me. Thank you so much for this video, it opens my eyes.

[@jenabhafeji8010]

Such a helpful talk thank you.

[@Mahbdw]

Very insightful talk! Thank you Saliha! ❤❤

[@caramelcooler9710]

I love this right here!

[@tonydsouza1105]

Dr. Saliha, listening to you resonated with my own inner journey and I can see that your sharing is based on your own personal journey. Very deep. God bless you. I wish I had an opportunity to chat with you personally

[@benjamincrabtree3102]

Absolutely incredible talk.

[@user-eb7zo1cq2l]

This is brilliant!!!! So insightful- Thank you 🙏🙏🙏

[@jimcopeland204]

Thank you Saliha!!! ❤

[@AM-qr4ys]

This is me right now. This was so helpful. I’m really struggling 😢. I was already in this then A huge loss in my life really took me to my knees. This is hard 😢

[@shanamarie]

I feel the same way

[@user-fo2ty3bt9m]

Thank you 😍

[@danielleg8266]

Thank you.

[@diraw9396]

thank you ❤️🌟

[@carolina9304]

This was so graphic! I mean, I really could visualize it. Now I want to turn it into introspective art excercises.

[@rosabutler7893]

Wow !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This was a heavy dose of medication , I will take it , my soul needs this in the now .

[@lynessamarie7938]

😊 Very well put enjoyed it thank you

[@stephaniemand]

Thank you So so so so much

[@anuragsharma9415]

Tremendous....thank you so much Saliha...Will l follow your advice 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@steve13l666]

Brilliant. 🙏

[@Truly_amazed]

It is a lonely place indeed! I do feel that it's a calling, I just feel lost and not sure from where to start to make it a winning journey.

[@silviocoelho6780]

Really great talk! I felt very identified to everything you said and all the tools you gave to. Tks Saliha, really!

[@ganeshradiga]

I admire your analogy on the difference between motivation and inspiration. Motivation is something that you need to push yourself towards, whereas, Inspiration is something that you get pulled towards.

[@prashanthbhat6383]

Excellent!!

[@hadeelalu5220]

I wonder why this video doesn't have millions of views. It's gold.

[@jennyzhang6601]

probably a lot of people don't realize they are in this stage just like me before

[@jordanekl5383]

I can think of a few reasons. But you would have to be outside of her so called "demographic" to see any of it.

[@mohankannegal8988]

Unfortunately, subconsciously we prefer to listen to Westerners on the internet which I think is why it has fewer views than it deserves. This is extraordinarily insightful. Thanks Saliha so much for doing this talk.

[@Trish4175]

I know!

[@JP-yj3qd]

Ready to do the work ❤

[@liezelvs]

This was so insanely good and on point im going through this exact thing at the moment it is so lonely and dark and sad but after this video im going to be a phoenix rising from the ashes 😂

[@jennyzhang6601]

amazing

[@wrdna58]

My first step is to try and make sense of what she actually said! Perhaps because half of what she said is incomprehensible to me is part of my problem! Maybe if I buy into this lingo I will start to believe it, a bit like Woody Allen's hopeless search for religious belief.

[@kristeljoy1650]

I dnt even want a birthday greeting when I turned 5 yrs before 50. I feel like my life is ending in 5 yrs. I've never felt so confused in my whole life.

[@yaqubmukwambo5327]

Check out what Quran says about how to navigate the age of 40 - Gratitude! Surat Al-'Aĥqāf (The Wind-Curved Sandhills) - سورة الأحقاف And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months. [He grows] until, when he reaches maturity and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, "My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims."

[@Alicane1]

Anybody noticing the stage left camera audio is off? =S

[@vanessamorton6474]

Absolutely brilliant talk... I've recently become a Midlife Awakening Coach helping Womam through this period of life.... I loved every thing that you shared

[@jordanekl5383]

Why not help Humans???

[@born2reign90]

How can I access your services? I need help 😫

[@liveagaincoachingministry1319]

Not everyone is called to everyone. That’s what niches are all about. If she tried to explain midlife experiences to a teenager or someone in their 80s it simply wouldn’t resonate. Her niche is “humans” that fall in a certain age range. What about you? What age range or type of people do you connect with the most and feel that you can support them in their life’s journey?

[@Trish4175]

Thank you ❣️ your so beautiful and powerful

[@Salihaafridi]

The title should read “Navigating the Midlife (not mid-life) Crisis” and the real title of this talk I suggested was “Midlife crisis to midlife meaning: Path to authentic living” Thanks… - Dr Saliha Afridi, PsyD -

[@chrisbirrell7530]

Thank you so much

[@cikanyoro]

Interesting....that title could make a good book

[@gi33gi33]

A lot of comments here seem to understand what shes talking about. I dont get it, I found nothing tangible from this talk, just seemed like psycobabble for "keep on keepin on". Ill continue my search, and be glad this helped some of us.

[@TM-vb3zr]

it was the same for me. it was very descriptive, but i learned nothing about how to navigate these tough waters.

[@liveagaincoachingministry1319]

She did say to get a guide. Someone to help you. It’s definitely not an over night fix and almost impossible without a strong support system.

[@aryanparekh8119]

Yes pls guys can relate tho the starting but wtf is authentic self and inner world and need to go back and finish unfinished business? Like what?

[@aryanparekh8119]

​@@TM-vb3zryes same

[@dabrad7828]

Im 21 and going through a midlife crisis rn, even though it sounds kind of early. Seeing people around you and on the internet making big money and makes me feel worthless. Kids these days making millions of dollars out of thin air, and here i am reminiscing about nothing but the good old days

[@fmneamatullah1856]

Don't look at others. It's your only life. You don't need to be wealthy to be happy.

[@liveagaincoachingministry1319]

Make sure you’re focusing on yourself and the interest, gifts and talents that you naturally have. Turn off social media if it’s tripping you up, getting you into comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy. Those people are rich because they focused on their craft. So, you know the solution now: focus on your craft. Get amazing at it and eventually you will be the one people are envious of and giving advice to on how to become successful. Get someone to help you, to keep you accountable. Hire a coach or ask someone you trust to help you organize your steps. You’ve got this… IF you put it into action.

[@triarii9257]

This feels personal....

[@betsieblack]

❤

[@humble_integrity]

i didn't need this video to tell me this, as a kid i already had it in my head that i had to be successful first, then pursue what i really wanted. lol

[@liveagaincoachingministry1319]

Well aren’t you humble. Lol

[@denislyons]

Audio is about 1 second ahead of the video in one of the angles. Very distracting. Otherwise, great talk!

[@nO_d3N1AL]

Shame that the audio and video are so out of sync

[@chelledrill]

Bullseye! This exactly how I feel.

[@jimcopeland204]

Thank you Saliha ❤❤❤❤❤😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@sutats]

I listen to Faith No More on the topic.

[@Admin-rh3ws]

how old is this chick? all that really does sound good i just can't get behind it coming from someone who hasn't fully come out the other side

[@FernandoVeytia]

máster

[@Mr.Suicidal]

Every other time it shifts camera the lips don't match up ugh! Well this was nice but I didn't hear exactly what advice I could give to my mother...

[@kimsuter1841]

What about the people in your life that you hurt because you discard them so easily because you didn't know what was happening and they are the collateral damage as you go on this journey.

[@elguerrero3422]

Same question for me, I want to be there for her but how I protect people around me from all this mess… it’s very hard and to not have idea when, how or what it’s going to happen next

[@liveagaincoachingministry1319]

We don’t neglect people, what we’re doing is honoring our true selves. Just think if no one around us grew and set a higher standard, we’d all stay the same. Maybe look around and notice if people around you are holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be. Do you want to be like them? Maybe your own journey will inspire others to start their own growth journey.

[@Anne914]

This is terrifying 😱

[@robertmaxa6631]

At 51, I haven't felt the need for a midlife crisis. I can't afford it anyway.

[@adamwoodie4029]

I didn't listen to anything she said... But she could definitely fit into my midlife crisis..

[@themelodyriver]

Don't dodge the real question dude, Can you fit into anyone's life though?

[@adamwoodie4029]

@@themelodyriver maybe not anyone's life... But definitely in certain one's lives..

[@thathandleistakentrythisone]

This makes me wanna rewatch Fullmetal Alchemist 😂

[@pedromorales1863]

I'm afraid she took longer describing midlife crisis than going into detail about healing it. She gave a few steps to an obviously more complex answer and path to inner healing. Also, the tongue clasping after every other sentence was beginning to irritate me.

[@jamesherren3479]

How does a person pay attention to the words being said when the speaker looks like that 😍.

[@ronjcharity]

A motorcycle is the best therapy. It’s ok to make mistakes just don’t make them again. Realize that society fed you a line of BS regarding how you should live your life.

[@Stonelandscaping_pools]

Without Jesus all is nothing

[@faroukelhage5481]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jmonroe3858]

Why are you whispering? This makes it harder to hear what you're saying.

[@JonM-ts7os]

I litteraly have zero idea what any of this means in practicality.

[@pahanin2480]

I wonder if she’s been divorced

[@andrewrsanchez]

Arabian magic or Jungian analysis?

[@koiovomo1]

Annoying video, if you follow Jesus Christ you have no missing “meaning of life”. I have had fulfillment in my life ever since I decided to allow Jesus to be the center of my life.

[@beatrizadranuchsakai868]

I don't know who really needs to hear this, you have to stop hoping on your savings bailing you out in the long-term. Invest some of it, if you really want financial freedom.

[@fuukakoltsovaachararoro6542]

I agree with you both. The way to increase wealth and stay rich is to invest. This is the secret of how the rich keep getting rich.

[@beatrizadranuchsakai868]

@Titus Eekels I swapped stocks for Forex and Crypto. They have exceeded my expectations.

[@beatrizadranuchsakai868]

@Titus Eekels Yeah, but I still reinvest my crypto profits to property as real estate assets.

[@filhademaria3326]

Yes!

[@filhademaria3326]

@@beatrizadranuchsakai868 same!

[@jordanekl5383]

Watched less than one minute. Shes trying to be a cult leader. Doesn't matter how meaningful the message is, She is only trying to take advantage of peoples desperate feelings for her own gain. And its so faked i cant stand to know any more.

[@jasondavis1187]

Lol… ok dude.. relax and smk a joint… she clearly knows what she’s talking about

[@jordanekl5383]

So someone stating an opinion you dont agree with means they are freaking out? And thats exactly the thing... She doesnt know, because she is talking about things that change drastically between people. Also just riding a popular subject that targets people who are in a desperate, and/or weakened mental state. In order to get people to follow her, and her personal beliefs, and make gain from them.

[@jordanekl5383]

I meant what was said literally, and logically. In a calm and seriously spoken manner. This isnt cool to do, taking advantage of people going through mental crisis is a bad thing, all around.