r/AmITheA--Hole for Calling Cops on my Karen Neighbor?

[@XLFz882]

That women just disrespected everyone the child did something he knew it is wrong but the women decided to act worse that her child geez she should have gotten a 6/5

[@ivanhardy-Birt1124]

One of the worst people on the subreddit so tad

[@JadeAnnabelArt]

Also got to keep in mind the child learned their behaviour from someone. He wouldn't be saying stuff like that unless he heard it from someone.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

woman*

[@bethanybelyeu6012]

I have an offer. the mother has to be out of the house in two days. the kid can stay a month or until she finds a place to stay. she can visit her son but only outside of the house. if she can't find somewhere safe in that time then find someone else who will take him or get CPS involved. tell CPS that the mother is capable but lost her husband and can't find a safe place for him to stay. the kid is safe, the mother is out, the problem is solved.

[@CrimsonWalter9092]

RSlash veteran here: He won't ever go above 5. I've yet to ever see a time where he has. The rarity of 5/5s means that if ever there is a 6, the entire channel will go crazy.

[@Connor-ONeill]

Karen in the second story should be glad she's only getting kicked out and that no one decided to swing at her.

[@songohan3321]

Yet. No one swung at her yet. Also how stupid can you be in order to grossly insult the one person who is literally giving you a place to stay in.

[@IrkenExile]

She'd be missing teeth if she did that to me

[@3horsesrunning199]

Exactly. I'm not for hitting a woman but this is the exception. OP should have slapped her hard enough for her to see stars.

[@dracko158]

I really admire OP's restraint here. I wouldn't be able to hold myself back like what she did there. I would've made that Karen pick up her teeth of the floor for having the gall to insult me and my dead kid.

[@TheRaven_200]

I have to say, OP showed way more restraint than I would have. If someone tried bullying me over my dead spouse, I would punch them in the face, and I won’t apologize.

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Last story: he literally pulled something out of a horror movie and was mad that you actually have common sense and called the police that’s his fault. On top of that he never talks to you, if I was you I wouldn’t have care if he’s my coworker I would press charges and would be convince he was trying to kill me until like 10 other coworkers vouch for him.

[@Lokv1]

Thats exactly why its stupid to believe such a call. Reality is not what is shown in movies and if you get call like this, then you should know that its a prank call. So while its still a stupid prank, it takes another stupid person to get so worked up about it.

[@d.phantomfan1216]

@@Lokv1 to de fair she was a young woman alone at night, and some guy was staring at her, most woman go through creepy guys staring at them all the time, and there have been cases where women were killed by men like this, so it’s not stupid that she got scared.

[@livw2180]

@@Lokv1 It's not stupid - there have been cases of people being inspired by movies/fiction. Like the Slender Man stabbings where two teenagers thought that they needed to kill someone in order to appease Slender Man. Sick people do not behave rationally so why should OP assume that it was a prank? She did exactly the right thing by calling the cops.

[@allisonickes8173]

I would've called sooner but I watch too many true crime shows sooo

[@tinydancer7426]

I would also be going back to the manager and reporting Creepy Eddy's behavior toward me and the fact that no one else is talking to me. That is not acceptable either. It is time for a mandatory staff meeting putting all of the staff freezing her out that it is not acceptable, won't be tolerated, THEIR behavior has created a hostile workplace, puts the hotel in the position of getting sued is it doesn't stop, the offending employees can/may have to be counseled about their behavior and/or disciplined (maybe ..... suspended for X days to think about whether they value their jobs and if they want to continue working at the hotel) .... etc. And, Creepy Eddy needs the sternest of the conversations since he is the offender (if you are not working,, you have no business being on the hotel property in the first place, etc., you were trespassing at that point and then you harass a coworker, etc. Maybe YOU don't need to be working here, etc.) Yeah, hard nose line, but that is what it takes sometimes for people to get their heads out of their butts.

[@luvondarox]

Dalia is playing stupid games. She won the Stupid Prize. Harassment and vandalism shouldn't be excused because a woman is "normally such a nice lady."

[@gaxalee7392]

This!! If we excused horrible behavior because the person usually acts nice, we’d have to stop punishing most criminals since they act(key word:ACT) like good, law-abiding citizens most of the time(or at least in public view).

[@Godzilladino]

Also, if she's harassing someone over something that stupid she's most likely NOT a nice woman, but just awful, I get she may be insecure, but she's acting like a child, just taking it a step further. There is no excuse for harassing someone and vandalising their property so she's very in the wrong

[@songohan3321]

@@Godzilladino There is no likely for this. Nobody nice would commit vandalism and open slander.

[@Phoenix.Sparkles]

@@gaxalee7392 Bad actions do not equal bad people and while bad behavior should not be excused, you cannot deny that we have all done bad things to some degree, just because someone is nice to others and rude towards you, that doesn't make them objectively bad people like criminals are, that just means they don't like you.

[@Robynhoodlum]

@@Phoenix.Sparkles According to your own argument, not all criminals are objectively bad.

[@cvlv10555]

1st story: The thing is, Dalia didn't confront her husband, she confronted OP who had no business with them. I'd give her a higher a**hole score for being one of those people, I know she probably is messed up to do that but that doesn't mean it's in her right to be cruel to someone who doesn't have any fault and not the real culprit.

[@metanightmare4454]

Yeah. As far as I can tell, the husband at least didn't do anything illegal, unlike his wife. He's being creepy and may be emotionally cheating on his wife, but she's aggressively attacking OP and attempting to destroy her life for daring to exist and live next her. I gotta give the actual crime committed against an innocent third party priority.

[@black1917]

@@metanightmare4454 Given Dalia's actions and attitude, can you blame him?

[@patrickmarsh2538]

That lady is insane...she KEYED HER CAR because of her profession...

[@croshaide3168]

I agree she needs a higher score than that. If the husband was pleasuring himself to let’s just go with Stephen king’s s3x scene in IT would the neighbor do that to him? I doubt it. The husband is the problem not the author, whom ever told the neighbor about her being the author is also a problem the point of a pen name is only if you want to be public then you can choose to be so. I write under a pen name it’s to keep myself anonymous I don’t want the world to make judgments on me for what I’ve written.

[@ads3047]

Yeah as people said the wife should be given the bigger score, the guy was caught reading adult material which he is allowed to do. Couples still watch and read that stuff. He was a dick for pointing and laughing and being a lil child about it to his friends but I would say 1/5 asshole score for him. She should get 3.5/5.

[@tultiden2040]

Here's an update from OP of the second story: UPDATE: my mom agreed to take my sister in temporarily, and my nephew is still going to his dad's because now his dad is saying that there's no way he's letting my sister ruin their kid. I want to thank you all for your kind words and all the love and support. Also, to everyone who also shared about losing a loved one, I am so so sorry for your loss. My nephew is supposed to leave tomorrow morning, my mom is picking my sister up right around that time, and my inlaws are bringing my boys back in the evening. We'll have a little post-birhday thing for my little one when they come, just me, the boys and my inlaws. Just some ice cream (he said he prefers it over cake) and a few cartoons. One day at a time.

[@kervinsantos5808]

Oh god i hope that mother makes the sister suffer the consquences

[@RisinTyson]

Ty

[@voutsider190]

Thank you

[@princessbeaniewiggle]

Well I'm glad the nephew's dad is sane.

[@christopherjones8448]

Hold up.. her husband isn't dead..? "I lost my husband but I'm still normal" That unbelievable assclown

[@FishAnvil]

Last story: As someone who's been working as a Houseman for a hotel for the last 3 months, that is a GIGANTIC security risk, and she absolutely has the right to call for either the security guards, the night houseman, or the police. This hotel needs to be reported, why don't they have people on guard, and why is the employee being retaliated against for keeping said hotel and EVERY GUEST IN IT SAFE?

[@AJ-zq8kv]

It was funny tho

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Like honestly, what did he think was going to happen? She strolls outside in the middle of the night and casually asks "oh do excuse me, are you a real murderer or just a normal creep? Oh, Coworker, it's you! Such a funny prank, hahaha!". Like what was his expected outcome?

[@Lilith-Rose]

An anonymous person watching you at night then calling you with what could be reasonably interpreted as a death threat deserves zero leniency. Doesn't matter if you are a 25yr old woman or a 50yr old man it is still a literal crime and a very real threat to your safety at the time no matter if it turns out to be a prank because you have absolutely no way of knowing so you have to assume the worst. Anyone who thinks that kind of thing is funny needs a serious reality check

[@gregmiller3523]

@@AJ-zq8kv agreed, having the cops potentially arrest him was perfect. The only pity was that he wasn't actually arrested and fired, that would have been hilarious.

[@AJ-zq8kv]

@@gregmiller3523 nah I mean the prank was funny

[@HawthorneVampire]

“Yeah the wife is trash, but with her husband can you blame her?” Uh yeah! Someone reading erotica, or just watching porn, is not worse than someone committing vandalism

[@VampiricVik]

I think the problem is not that he was just reading erotica, it's the fact that he thought that his neighbor writing it gave him permission to be gross to her, and his wife isn't blind and absolutely saw how him and his friends leered at OP. He shouldn't get a higher asshole score but he is, in fact, a big part of the problem

[@RJLiams]

@@VampiricVik disgusting? Really, she never went into detail but we can assume the flirting wasn't bad. Leering is weird but not disgusting levels of weird. Either way, rslash didn't give a score based on those. He gave a bigger score exclusively because he was masturbating to porn. At the end of the day the husband's actions are question except the masturbation. The wife deserves a higher score but it's clear rslash has a pretty sexist mindset.

[@HarleyMaebry]

That was my initial reaction, but then I remembered the story started with the guy flirting with OP and giving her creepy looks. He definitely deserves his butthole score for that.

[@sherylcascadden4988]

I hope you're being sarcastic....

[@ReigoVassal]

Yes. We all responsible for our action. Don't hide behind someone to justify your action.

[@TetraSky]

Second story : You're generous. I would've evicted her right then and there. She didn't "lose" her spouse. SHE made the choice to divorce. The dad would still be around but I'm sure she's keeping him away from the kid with bogus reasons like the typical entitled women who acts this way so he'd have to fight in court just to see his kid. It's literally only been a year since you lost your wife to CANCER and she acts as if you should be moving on right away? She's crazy. You need time to truly "move on", if you can ever move on. Jumping into a new relationship right after a separation isn't fair to the new partner, because they are the ones who have to deal with your broken heart and underlying emotions. There's no way anyone can "move on" emotionally from their ex they truly loved in a short period of time and if they say they do, they are just delusional and lying to themselves, because they didn't love them.

[@spectral_boi239]

I was just thinking this, and whats even worse is OP's wife wouldve been her SISTER IN LAW, so for her to talk about her passing like that is just so disrespectful n really shows how little she cares about her family.

[@pattondurio]

Nobody "moves on" but I definitely think it's possible to get into another relationship relatively quickly as long as you're handling it well. Maybe not after a death, but certainly after a breakup. I've broken up with someone I genuinely loved and cared about because I knew it just wasn't going to go anywhere and I wanted to end it sooner rather than drag it out. I got into a relationship a few months later, still pretty bummed ab the breakup, which is also totally fine again, as long as you handle it well enough. It doesn't necessarily mean you didn't love the person.

[@herrerasauro7429]

Yeah, honestly as someone who went through something similar, my wife died but we didn't have kids, I would've straight up assaulted her then and there. I know everyone has their own reactions and feelings, but after the fact, I was both extremely sad and WITH A TON OF PENT UP ANGER, and while I was able to hold myself when people said stupid shit to me (as her family did on her funeral, where they kept fighting their petty bullshit over her casket), I don't think I'd be able if someone did the same to a son of mine. It was rough. Also, about "moving on" emottionally it's hard and weird. You both "move on" and doesn't. I was deathly afraid of forgetting her, of letting it go, but I came to a compromise in which I branded myself with something that will always remember me what we went through together and only after this I was able to start living again. This took me 4 years. Right now I'm 4 years in another relationship and happy again.

[@skywalkerjohn8965]

She's talking about one of them being normal when she basically shit talking a child. Talk about irony

[@threegsgaming6959]

Second story: “we both lost our spouses but at least I’M still a normal person.” Uh, no you aren’t. Normal people don’t bully and tease other people for LOSING THEIR SPOUSES, or let their kids do the same. And if she argues that it is, tease her right back and take it one step further and tease her that she can’t keep a husband because her clock’s ticking. I know it’s harsh, but you do NOT say what she said in front of children who lost their mother, a grieving husband, and the family of the person who died and NOT face retribution. *spits on ground*

[@annika5893]

Also, normal people don't leech off on their family and support themselves financially, housing included. If she can't do that on her own, then she darn well better have some respect. Can't have both: relying on someone to provide housing and insulting and mocking them in their own home. I hope she gets her normal person butt out of OP's life fast.

[@lacko623]

I have a good guess, why the sister was divorced...I'd have been fed up with her sh*t too...

[@cassandrasullivan_1]

Now we know why the sister is divorced.

[@machete746]

It's mad disrespectful that she said that they ''both lost their spouses'' when really she got divorced from her ex-husband.

[@Panda-cute]

@@machete746 “Mine might have died but at least they wanted me”

[@Da1ienx]

last story: guy being creepy in the parking lot, calling and making what amounts to a murder threat? yeah i would have called the police too... AND pressed charges. the fact that the police even offered shows even they thought it was super creepy

[@ScooterBond1970]

"Ugh, you shouldn't have called the cops, I wouldn't have done anything" "I didn't know it was you, you didn't exactly identify yourself" "..."

[@taylorlibby7642]

1st Story - Think you're wrong about this one. The husband isn't responsible for his wife's outrageous behavior. He may not be the greatest husband in the world, but I don't see how that excuses her violent outbursts. IMO it actually makes her actions worse. If she has problems with her husband she should confront him, there's no excuse for taking them out on an innocent third party.

[@Alexis-dt2vy]

I so agree. Why should he have the highest score when all he’s doing is reading and getting off to it- the being creepy and staring part is weird but the Wife was DESTROYING PROPERTY. How is she not the highest butthole???

[@songohan3321]

I agree also. If anything, the husband's is probably doing this because of the wife's behavior. I seen plenty of these holier-than-thou types and they are the absolute worst types.

[@serge263]

I agree. The Husband is likely also neglected too. On the side of horniness. Likely the bedroom life is unsatisfying.

[@danviferahr1426]

To be fair, he deserves at least 2 out of 5 buttholes purely for being a creep

[@supernovavortex3069]

Also what is the problem with reading adult literature and "relieving yourself" when your in private it's not like it was with someone else, and did he even know if she wrote it at the time?

[@TetraSky]

First story : You tried talking to her, she went overboard. She deserve you calling the cops on her.

[@RinkameWolfs]

I think you’re wrong on the second story. OPs sister deserves 5/5. She compared her divorce to his becoming a widower, IN FRONT OF HIS THREE KIDS AND THE PARENTS OF HIS DECEASED WIFE. It has been about a year, so this wound it still fresh, and the kids will probably be in therapy for the loss of their mother, AND SHE HAS THE AUDACITY TO DO THAT.

[@Grouchbox]

I wouldn't even be on speaking terms after that, and I would let everyone know why. People deserve to know what she is REALLY like.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

Omg I thought her husband died. She’s not even a widow. At least her kids still have a father.

[@maieen2665]

*First OP:* I shouldn't laugh, but the whole scenario is ridiculous. Imagine getting mad at a woman who's minding her business writing adult novels. The wife should've gotten mad at her husband for harassing OP. OP is NTA. Let's hope OP's neighbor doesn't find out about Chuck Tingle, lol. *Second OP:* I can understand (but not excuse) a 9-year-old child saying something cruel, but a grown woman? During a toddler's birthday!? I'd kick her and her son out too! OP is NTA. His sister can take her "normal" @$$ elsewhere. *Third OP:* First, I should point out that OP said she and her boyfriend _do not_ plan on getting married. There's a big difference. Secondly, I thought OP was the breadwinner while her boyfriends lay around the house doing nothing, or have a notably smaller income than OP. Turns out they're both loaded. Anywho, OP is NTA. She can spend _her_ money as she pleases, and her boyfriend's daughter is her boyfriend's responsibility. Maybe it's time for OP's bf to say "no" to his daughter. Shoutout to OP for raising her son to be a responsible man, and not a spoiled "trust fund baby." *Fourth OP:* I've read this story before. Just like the third OP has the right not to spend her money on her boyfriend's daughter, this OP doesn't have to spend his money on Leah. If Leah or her mom persist, OP can just tell them, "Sorry, but my masculinity is too fragile to pay for your college fund." OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* How _dare_ OP fear for her safety after seeing a strange figure and receiving a creepy phone call! I heard that you're not supposed to prank cops because they're always on edge; I assume the same is true for security officers. OP is NTA. Play stupid games...

[@corrodedvoid7479]

Win stupid prizes

[@fusedzamasuthegodswhatifs2677]

Win stupid prizes

[@zillasaiyan1m274]

Win stupid prizes

[@who.where13]

Win stupid prizes

[@ivilrat]

Win stupid prizes

[@allitadawn]

I'm sorry but in the first story am I the only one who is concerned about how the husband found out about what she writes?! She said that she doesn't give specifics about what she writes and that she uses a pseudonym that only her friends know about, meaning that one of her friends must have told the neighbor's. If I was the op I would be very concerned about what my friend's are telling people behind my back

[@tully6648]

I'm honestly very concerned because of how Dahlia's husband was skeezing on OP after he found out. The way she described him and his friend looking at her, you know they were thinking something stupid like that because she writes that stuff that she must be easy. If I were her, I would DEFINITELY be on my guard from there on out, and tell all of my friends to never, ever reveal that info again.

[@gregmiller3523]

@@tully6648 Agreed, some guys seem to think that a person's occupation entitles them to certain types of behaviour. I would most certainly advise this woman to be very careful about being alone with that guy or any of his friends. It's so sad that people have to offer safety advice to prevent people from becoming victims instead of being able to tell a potential perpetrator to behave themselves.

[@Tustin2121]

I wouldn’t put too much potential blame on the friends. We live in the internet age, where if someone wanted to, they could doxx you in minutes. I can easily envision a scenario where the husband is found out, the wife / wife’s friend starts looking up information on the writer of the books (probably to send hate messages online), and tracks down her real name in seconds. OP even said herself it wasn’t really a secret so much as they didn’t talk much about it. She could have easily posted some things on the socials about book sales.

[@chrisprilloisebola]

@@tully6648 lmao what?

[@Liam_Phoenix]

@@tully6648 Honestly it's kinda hilarious because I'm like the biggest virgin anyone has ever met but **I** write just the filthiest fanfics, so clear,y to that husband I must be the easiest hoe around, meanwhile I'm asexual and don't even like most people!

[@jerryeubanks3177]

Last story: it wasn't a prank. A prank ends with everyone laughing. What he did was stupid. And he can't be surprised the cops were called. Unless he's stupid.

[@Yewro2000]

"It's just a Prank" mentality at it's best

[@ladosis5596]

He should thank his lucky stars he wasn't chased out with a shotgun

[@blupuffsbigtime]

The guy honestly could’ve been arrested simply for saying what he said, that could be considered an admission of murder

[@DrunkSamurai]

"A prank ends with everyone laughing." That's not the definition of the word prank.

[@DrunkSamurai]

"The guy honestly could’ve been arrested simply for saying what he said, that could be considered an admission of murder" They wouldn't be able to arrest him for that.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

Story #2 - NTA, and honesty, after seeing the edit on Reddit, I’m giving OP’s sister 6/5 AHs. Apparently, according to her ex-husband who she shares custody with, it seems like this wasn’t the first time she did something like this. Because her ex said “there’s no way he’s letting [OP’s] sister ruin their kid.” No wonder he divorced her sorryless ***.

[@hireien]

Yikes. I was going to extend the smallest bit of empathy that maybe the sister was struggling with the divorce but felt she couldn't express it because it wasn't as bad as being widowed. I could see how being unable to process that could result in redirected resentment toward OP. But nope, sounds like a garbage person. Obligatory, that doesn't excuse the behavior even if that were the case. Her actions were completely abhorrent.

[@lolaj9701]

There’s only one thing left for op to do; have some villains in her books based off of the wife and her husband

[@animeotaku307]

Nah, that’s a can of worms that’s not worth opening

[@Tustin2121]

I think that’s a great idea, actually. It’d be cathartic to write the awful behavior she displayed into a plot. I wouldn’t publish it for a few years, tho, definitely not before any court proceedings are done, but also maybe after she or they move away. I think there’s some mileage to get out of a nutso Christian Karen who can’t mind her own business. (But then, I write stores about gay guys in relationships, and the nutso Christians are already a staple of that genre anyway.)

[@davidmillar-haskell8863]

I love it! She would need some guidelines from a libel lawyer, but if she models the character on a generic holier-than-thou religious nut she should be good.

[@C.G.Gaster]

Fourth story. The aunt was gonna make her apologize. Then it means nothing. Forcing an apology out of someone is like artificial meat. It's the same thing on the surface, but that is it. If the niece was sorry about what she said she would apologize and not expect the money previously saved up, or in general (though that is my thought process). Op is far from being the AH, you don't make fun of someone's problem like that

[@matthewwilliams3579]

No, there's nothing much that anyone needs to understand. By the girls rhetoric she has obviously been indoctrinated into toxic 3rd wave feminism, her own ideology should've made her reject his money on principle but that denote rationalism and from everything I've seen of the movement they aren't rational.

[@gregmiller3523]

@Sergio Bicerra That's also a really good way of making them own up to their bias, if you keep asking why they eventually have to admit they are hateful or run away. Though sometimes one can find the root of their hatred and give them a chance to get over it (though this outcome is horrifically rare).

[@Tustin2121]

OP and his ex were trying for five years, plus however long it took for his ex to get married again. That means the girl was a preteen for most of the time OP was married. There’s literally no way she formulated that opinion purely on her own; she was parroting what her mother had been saying forever. She just had the misfortune of stating it back to familiar company right when the subject of the gossip could overhear it. You know the other two women were likely nodding in agreement if neither corrected her. They’re all AHs.

[@matthewwilliams3579]

@@Tustin2121 Amen to that!

[@CidVeldoril]

I did not take it as making fun of the problem. She merely stated facts. Yes, facts that would have been sugarcoated if OP had been around, as people usually do. OP's ex clearly valued motherhood. That's fine. Her now being pregnant kinda proves that the problem lies with OP, which Leah stated. Fair. The wife would have ruined her life had she stuck it out with OP, so her leaving was smart. She stated that. Maybe OP doesn't understand that because unlike women, men are not on a timer when it comes to procreation.

[@bdpickett]

Hard disagree on the first story. The husband is definitely acting like a creep, but that doesn't excuse the wife's behavior in the slightest. Honestly, if your first response to your husband reading pron is to harass the person who made it, you have a skewed sense of priorities. The wife clearly has issues, and her actions needed to be addressed by the law. That said, husband was definitely acting like a creep in regards to OP. Just because a woman writes erotica, that doesn't make her some loose woman and doesn't excuse flirting with her when you're married. Dude also has issues, but didn't cross the line too hard, yet.

[@rugalbernstein5913]

I mean, imo the husband didn't even do anything wrong until we get more context. Reading porn isn't a bad thing to normal people, the wife obviously being an exception for being heavily religious, unless the husband is expressly doing it as a form of lusting after the neighbor, which we can't actually prove with the speculation we have, the only actual asshole here is the wife for going out and blaming the neighbor and subsequently damaging her property instead of actually confronting her husband about how she feels with the novels.

[@bdpickett]

@@rugalbernstein5913 He was actively flirting with OP and likely telling his friend about what she wrote.

[@ConTacT_Web]

Last story: Ah yes, better wait till the guy who said he burried five people comes closer, just to make sure he's an actual killer and not some coworker doing a prank.

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

Story 1: Yeesh. Speaking as an asexual, I personally find nothing wrong with erotic fiction, and it's probably the best way people can release sexual frustration without any serious consequences. After all, no one got hurt or had to debase themselves in order to create it, and no one's getting hurt in reading it. Like it's not a sin to have a fantasy as long as you don't act upon it (speaking in Christian terms). Though geez, the husband's obviously taking it to a level above fictional fantasy if he keeps bothering the author about it.

[@bbjjbb61]

Unfortunately, speaking in Christian terms, looking at another with sexual thoughts is a sin. The Bible says continuously thinking or, in today's society, reading about sex outside of marriage is indeed sinful. The way people would avoid being sexually frustrated is by getting married. I am respectfully correcting you because I think saying something like this could be dangerous for Christians because it just isn't true. If the Bible is a Christians guide to how to live a certain way then they have to read it to get that guidance. I'm speaking in general not saying you don't because I obviously wouldn't know. If someone is a Christian I would encourage them to not listen to tv preachers or pastors who don't live what they preach and to take time every day to read the Bible so they get the info from the source.

[@summerwolf7197]

@@bbjjbb61 okay the bible is also very very old and changed when convenient.

[@rixtunz3625]

@@bbjjbb61 The neighbor broke the real meaning of Matt 7:1-5. Maybe you should reread Mat in full and ruminate on the truth, because it is not your place to correct anyone but yourself until you are perfect in the eyes of your maker.

[@kateboarman8674]

@@bbjjbb61 respectfully not everyone is a Christian

[@ViirinSoftworks]

@@bbjjbb61 I see where you're coming from, but I disagree (trying to be equally respectful but I'll probably fail). I'd actually ignore the book and the televangelists equally, and instead listen to how non-Christians think a Christian should behave (at least the ones that aren't zealous and xenophobic). The Bible has a lot of encouragement of wrath, ableism, xenophobia, and superiority complexes. If instead non-Christians set the standard, then Christians might be able to present the group in a way others can respect, or at least not fear.

[@marukouga135]

I absolutely can and will blame the wife for her actions. Vandalizing someone's property isn't a reasonable response to your significant other reading porn.

[@threegsgaming6959]

Third story: this is a no brainer. The guy doesn’t see OP as his girlfriend, he sees her as his bank account. Dump him ASAP and don’t look back.

[@BonnieHalfElven]

Yep. Run!

[@dracko158]

It would be more appropriate to say "he sees her as his ATM". But yeah, dump him immediately.

[@heidtb6746]

I would say that OP is kind of an AH for the "i have no relationship with my partners daughter" attitude. In a relationship, you should not only care about your partner, but also their immediate family. Especially because they plan to marry... Nevertheless, 30K is unreasonable and i agree with RSlash on the rest of the story

[@Diviance]

@@heidtb6746 Ehhh, I don't think you should inherently care about their immediate family. The only one you should inherently care about is your partner, the rest is on a case by case basis. You shouldn't treat them terribly, but you don't need to care about them either.

[@heidtb6746]

​@@Diviance It might depend on a few circumstances, but as a foundation for a relationship that is heading towards a marriage, shouldn't you at least try to know your partners family? Especially in the case of the daughter, i think a "i want to know you but i don't care about your daughter" is probably harming the relationship over time. (because it sounds like the partner and his daughter are pretty close to each other) Unless ofc OP forgot to include some information about things that happened when the attempt was made.

[@theavatarofinsanity]

Overboard? No! Dalia is NOT a lovely woman and she deserves having the cops called on her.

[@rosebud100623]

Last story: Something is seriously wrong with that guy. Any normal person would act the same way as OP, and thankfully they were both adults. That story reminded me of something my sister did to me when we were kids. I was in Elementary School and she decided it was a good idea to hide in the bathroom to scare me when I got home because she got out of school early- I usually got home before her. I didn't go in the bathroom that day so she decides to bang on the wall. As a kid I didn't call the police because this was before cellphones were a common thing to give kids and to get the house phone would've required to go closer to the bathroom. I ran out the house terrified and went to the neighbors. Those type of pranks weren't funny as a kid and they aren't funny now as an adult.

[@Liam_Phoenix]

You were a smart kid 10/10 I knew A LOT of kids that would have gone to the noise lol

[@Hybrid301]

If that guy’s daughter loves him less because he gives her less money, it’s because she has been raised to equate money to love. That’s all on him and his ex.

[@ajjamsen694]

For the throwing sister/nephew out story, I love how the sister puts herself in the same category as OP (widower/grieving/etc) when all she is, is divorced and hearing how shitty of a person she is, her ex was in the right mindset to GTFO. She didn't lose her spouse. She straight falcon punches everyone away from herself and deserves all the hate she gets. Who tf would say something like that to a grieving husband/father AND CHILD(ren) Also...the pranking coworker story, that idiot could have gotten shot or something if OP, a random bystander or something, panicked, thinking the coworker was dangerous and shot him in self-defense. AND AT 2AM?!? God, this is a Kevin story, for sure

[@realrealwarpet]

Last time a woman named dhalia was talking to me about her religion, i ended up flayed. Really terrible religion, 0/10 don’t recommend going to silent hill for that reason

[@Dragonemperess]

I think that's the same lady that tried to convince my neighbor's daughter to "Give birth to a God." Or something. I called the police and pulled out the chancla, but she ran off before I could smack her! Crazy lady and her crazy religion.

[@Liam_Phoenix]

HA! I get that reference

[@sourisvoleur4854]

Infertility story: If Leah had offered to apologize, that's one thing, but the sister said she'd MAKE her apologize. Meaning Leah wasn't at all repentant. Cut her off. Hotel story: THEY are giving YOU the cold shoulder? Talk about a toxic environment.

[@kervinsantos5808]

The reason why the mom is making her apologize is cuase now she has to save 2 years worth of money. Like bish this is ur fault. Qhat i would do is talk with all three of them. Then shame them all. With the mom and sister Lead would have a drame 1 dollar bill and say " let this be a reminder" and walk off. Then tag them in photos Using Leah's ex college fund for fun stuff. Like a trip to Disney World Saying. " I love having this extra money"

[@SilverMe2004]

@@kervinsantos5808 No you wouldn't. to do anything remotely like you said would require you to admit that you are infertile and if you wasted 5 years of your ex's life denying it why would you start now? also the sister offered the apology before he *texted* to make his big man show of power by trying to ruin his nieces future. so the only reason then was because everyone knew that his fragile male ego couldn't handle the truth

[@murtaghmorzansson]

I think I'd actually appreciate it if my hubby read "adult fiction" instead of watching it lol, catching them watching it is much more uncomfortable

[@ArianaRaven]

Why? Watching porn with your partner is fun

[@nicholasrussell1914]

@@H-to-O being caught in this situation just means the spouse saw them watching it, not necessarily looking for them doing it specifically. It could actually be an accident.

[@murtaghmorzansson]

@@H-to-O "catching" my spouse typically involves looking over at him from across the room and realizing that he's watching "corn," at which point I promptly mind my own business, but thank you for your concern.

[@tra12048]

Honestly, if I found my SO jerking it to porn, I wouldn't get mad (obviously), I'd ask him if he wanted assistance LOL. Then obviously drop it if he refused. Seeing people get angry at their spouse for watching/reading porn has always been a bit weird to me. But what do I know? I'm a 25 year old virgin that hasn't had a boyfriend that I can actually be physical with :shrug: (for clarity, I have a bf. I just met him over the internet, we live across the country from each other, and we haven't had a chance to meet up yet. that's what I mean by "actually be physical with." he isn't imaginary, I swear! lol)

[@SilverMe2004]

@@H-to-O you do see the irony in, you a stranger, trying to tell a married couple (legally a single entity) to respect their privacy?

[@TetraSky]

Last story : That ain't a prank to do to a woman at 2am.

[@xXSPADEGG]

That’s not a prank to pull on anyone unless you’re prepared for consequences

[@animeotaku307]

2nd story: I would absolutely give the sister 5/5. You do NOT tell someone how to grieve/when to move on unless their behavior is harming others. OP seems to be taking care of his kids fine; he just gets upset when his late wife is brought up and that’s normal. If anything, it seems that the sister is going through her own issues and is taking them out on OP to make herself feel better.

[@silverflight01]

Story 5: Like many past stories, this isn't a prank. A prank does not emotionally damage people like that.

[@JediLadyMisty]

Exactly, a prank is a whoopee cushion on a chair.

[@Liam_Phoenix]

@@JediLadyMisty Or like fucking plastic wrap on a seat, something that makes people giggle not could literally traumatize someone!

[@sonicbird]

1st story: being insecure will never be an excuse to bully another person or commit vandalism. OP did not put that book in his hands and tell him to think about her when he reads it, if Dalia had a problem she should have taken it up with Roger not commit crimes.

[@vintagecameragirl]

A lot of this stories are just more complex versions of "Don't bite the hand that feeds" More people should learn that their opinions, actions, and views CAN & WILL effect their lives.

[@richewilson6394]

Creeping stalking co-worker needs to be fired. Also I submit a lawsuit against the hotel because NO SINGLE WOMAN SHOULD BE WORKING ALONE AT NIGHT ANYWHERE!!!

[@Lilith-Rose]

Unfortunately equality laws mean if you can have a man working alone you can have a woman working alone otherwise it is grounds for a gender based discrimination lawsuit, so that case would be thrown out of court immediately on those grounds

[@clevergray8754]

Ngl I probably would've just punched my sister for saying such awful things. Sure, it'd be wrong but I guarantee she wouldn't ever say anything about my late wife ever again. Oh and OP is NTA and showed some remarkable composure.

[@ashh4929]

For real, I'm seriously surprised no one at that party pimped slapped the stupid out of her. Not only is is beyond words disgusting to say that in the first place but saying that at the time, place and in front of the significance the people there represented, and all the man who took you in with no expectations? Then the litte cherry on top just being she obviously doesn't discipline her child if he keeps acting like that (gosh I wonder where he gets it) so he's clearly going to be one entitled gem of a human being too. She unlocked at least 10 levels of moron in about 3 sentences. 2 days was extremely generous.

[@pattondurio]

Talk shit get hit 😂

[@dracko158]

Preach. I would've made her pick up teeth off the floor. Like who the hell hurt you?

[@shadowbear123]

Second story: how does the sister treat the son behind OP's back and how much does that influence her son's actions? I wouldn't be spirited if the sister's son was picking up on his mom's feelings - either explicitly stated or implied by the way she acts that OP doesn't notice. I think she should have gotten the full 5/5 asshole rating tbh. I understand you save it, but based on the circumstances, she might be encouraging the bullying behind OP's back because she obviously agrees with what her son is bullying OP's son about.

[@tychul]

The last story… so many red flags from that guy… I really hope OP does go to HR and really watch her surroundings. I don’t trust that man and something feels really off to me…

[@chrisprilloisebola]

"so many red flags" lmao for a goofy naive prank? Why are you pretending you know that guy kiddo?

[@hualni]

What the husband does has no bearing on what his wife does. This is like saying his actions are a result of the wife being insecure.

[@rissarea23]

Thank you! A lot of people are saying he was disrespecting his marriage but I don't understand where they got that because no one said the same about the big craze of 50 Shades of Grey.

[@HarleyMaebry]

Flirting with and creeping on the neighbor is pretty egregious. Doesn’t justify his wife’s vandalism, but he isn’t innocent.

[@hualni]

@@HarleyMaebry Since it doesn't justify it, it is a separate issue all together, and not part of the current conversation.

[@chrisprilloisebola]

true

[@chrisprilloisebola]

@@HarleyMaebry creeping on? huh? Sure flirting with her (if thats what actually happened) isn't a good thing while married. But the wife the issue, not him. Stop the cope

[@MisuzuPM]

My guess is that the coworker in the last story told everyone else is was a "harmless joke and she called the cops on me" without going into detail about what it actually was and that's why they think she overreacted.

[@trickyagent127]

First story: Ah yes, the totally lovely woman who keys peoples cars. Op: 0/5 A**holes, Dalia: 3/5 A**holes

[@Nerobyrne]

that "5 buried none found" guy is lucky his coworker called the cops. I'd have called my friend Ivan and that guy would have been buried and not found.

[@Ambidexter143]

Story 1: If nothing else, having Dalia arrested and convicted of vandalism will allow OP to sue her for repairs to her car and door. It'll also teach Dalia that there are consequences for being TAH.

[@darkdemondevil]

I mean....if the woman is hyper religious and her first thought is to paint and key people's property....maybe the husband wasn't interested in her because of her behavior. They should probably split. (Based solely off my limited knowledge from the story. Obviously I know nothing, so I'm just drawing conclusions from the aether.)

[@artemisiapura5178]

Sounds like Dalia isn’t good in the sack and she’s upset about it

[@luvondarox]

Or her husband is pure trash and she's upset about it.

[@felixvegge3764]

Ha

[@trisgilmour]

I can definitely see that being the case lol

[@L1K34PR0]

the name reminds me of daliah from ace attorney which is a witch as well

[@carlkpsplucky5554]

She doesn’t have to be good in the sack. Sounds like she just not giving any

[@Sterncold]

First story : NTA. Except OP did give Dalia a chance ? She literally went talk to her after the leaflet. Second story : NTA. What kind of idiot disrepect their host in their house during a birthday party and not only OP but also his dead wife. Third story : NTA. 30K for a trip to Europe is just ridiculous... assuming it's the full price if it's not then what the hell is he paying for ? Also there is no reason for OP to pay for it since she isn't her daughter and doesn't even act like one. Fourth story : NTA. All they see OP as is just someone who is paying for Leah's education, not a human being. Honestly if i were OP i would cut them off my life entirely. Fifth story : NTA. While it is an harmless prank... doing that at night on the sole intent to scare someone for a prank can lead that person to call the police so they can see safe. Basically OP only had a natural reaction.

[@SilverMe2004]

Fourth story: did anyone besides OP seem to care that he was going to stop the collage fund(because unpleasant things were said)? "Honestly if i were OP i would cut them off my life entirely." you mean by suicide? sounds about right for a man that is going to punish the closest thing you'll ever have to a child by trying to destroy their future because they dare speaking the unpleasant truth

[@uhohspaghettios3801]

If youre religious, that great, you do you. But it's YOUR religion, you have absolutely 0 right to get upset at someone for doing things that go againts your religion. Its like saying you can't have a cookie because im on a diet

[@lolaj9701]

“I married an incel and I’m going to make it *your* problem”

[@joshuadavis9216]

That's why you can burn the Bible knowing it's not illegal.

[@animeotaku307]

Now if only get more people to understand that.

[@LLandS18]

It is a hallmark behavior for most religious people. That what they do with their life is judging other and tell them how to live.

[@SilverMe2004]

I think you have mist the concept of religion. but anyway I don't think she did all those things because of religion but rather because her husband wanted to have an affair. or as someone else put it, because her husband didn't want to be an incel

[@SaikiKFann]

Dalia: *keys car* *Dalila gets arrested* Dalia: “well if it isn’t the consequences of my own actions

[@TetraSky]

Fourth story : Heard this story before. NTA. She's old enough to know not to say such things. The fact she said "I told you so", means it wasn't the first time she said that stuff, too.

[@tully6648]

The story she made up about her uncle's "fragile masculinity" is so wild. Like, does she think that most people with fertility issues go around talking about it all the time? That stuff is hard to deal with when you WANT children. But the way she reacted, I'd guess she just always had an insulting view of her uncle. This is probably just the first thing he ever caught her saying.

[@samsmith4242]

@@tully6648 Yep, but her mom and grandma agree with her silently. She is in a girls club and it is fine to insult the man with feminist buzzwords and he’ll accept the apology Hopefully she’ll realise the double standard by losing her college fund, she wanted to see how bad it was to emasculate someone? Well she has done it. She isn’t going to college because of it since it is insulting. And, she has her own casual misandry to blame. Along her moms and grandmas. Hopefully, he finds someone that actually appreciates and accepts him to dote on instead

[@SilverMe2004]

@@samsmith4242 it is far too late to emasculate him not that he will admit it

[@SilverMe2004]

Op, the one telling the story, never said that she was wrong just that it he didn't like hearing it. Op still refuses to admit that he has a problem. 5 years of 'infertility problems' and next we hear the ex has a baby, I'm sure its just a faze and it will go away soon. "I told you so" means she has said that the problem was with him but got told she was wrong or at least that she's not right. but Spoiler she was right There is nothing in this story to even suggest that OP had even been tested to see if the problem was with him. the fact that his ex has a baby all but confirms that he is the problem and so op refusing to get tested speaks of his "fragile masculinity", well that fact that his niece saying mean thing is enough to cut off her collage fund is enough to confirm his "fragile masculinity". as for the ex being lucky that she left, well at that age she is basically too old to be having her first kid. so yes very lucky. in the end it's his money he can do what he wants with it, that doesn't stop him form being an A-hole for penalizing the closest thing he'll ever have to a daughter for speaking truths that his isn't man enough to face

[@samsmith4242]

@@SilverMe2004 How do we know he was never tested? It could have been the reason for his divorce, and given his families reaction it probably was. The wife left him so she could have kids. His family agrees with her choice. Now they can live with the aftermath of that, in the fact he isn’t going to dote his niece who took his ex wife’s side and agreed with her choices Reverse the roles and he would be the dick for leaving his infertile wife. While everyone would assume that is what happened. Here, you are assuming he blamed his wife and made her the problem. That isn’t what we get told, we just get told he and wife divorced over fertility issues. He didn’t say it was her. It was probably him. His niece said something awful, played on his trauma and quite clearly knew how he would react to being reminded his marriage fell apart because he was not adequate enough If he is infertile. He probably can’t fix it. You are telling someone in a wheelchair to be perfectly fine with someone saying it was good his wife left him so she did t have to look after him. From his family. So, stop assuming he has fragile masculinity and instead assuming he has a physical disability, in that he lacks the ability to do something and he is coming to term with some awful news and information that has caused his marriage to fall apart and life plans to drastically change. I feel no sympathy for his gold digging family who treat him like crap for being a man

[@TetraSky]

Third story : She's not your responsibility and she's an adult. You did nothing wrong. Like rSlash said, he seems to be viewing you as a piggy bank.

[@raidernation7427]

2nd story: op may not have a wife but at least he has a place to live. How the hell do u treat anyone like that. But especially someone that's giving u & ur kid a fckn roof.

[@MightyMoon1]

I can’t believe the creepy coworker in the last story was not only _NOT_ fired but everyone working with this woman is acting as if _she_ did something wrong. It’s shocking and gross how many dysfunctional workplaces there are because people are either too lazy to do the right thing for their employees or are choosing favorites among employees and disregarding other employee’s safety and rights.

[@yourlocalraccoondealer8611]

Was the guy who was reading adult literature really given a higher rating than somebody committing several forms of illegal damages to another person's property? Disrespecting your marriage is unacceptable behaviour, but it's not as egregious as destroying another's property.

[@damienearl1310]

I mean...yeah, I feel like he should've at least (and I mean at least) gotten it from his continuous sexual harassment of OP, if he's going to have that score-

[@rissarea23]

I don't understand how the husband was disrespecting his marriage by reading steamy fanfiction. To me thats no different than all the ladies that read and went crazy over 50 Shades of Grey.

[@ayeurieleo7650]

Didn't you know that masturbating to adult books is super disrespectful to your wife and a man shouldn't need the urge to do it. Like come on, harassing and insulting a woman is nothing compared to a man pleasuring himself alone because his wife seemed to know nothing about sexuality. (In case it's not clear, it's sarcasm)

[@supernovavortex3069]

@@rissarea23 I don't get it either

[@yourlocalraccoondealer8611]

@@rissarea23 Fair point, the behaviour being creepy to the neighbour as a result of the fanfiction is more of an issue than the fanfiction itself i agree.

[@PowerStruggle555]

"we both lost our spouses but at least I’M still a normal person.” yeah she would have a leg to stand on if she wasnt divorced. Divorce is bad especially of reasoning. but comparing it to losing someone due to cancer...is bad. for all we know. Karen's husband left her because she was a complete B and her fault.

[@nicoleb695]

The second the first sentence was uttered by R/slash, I knew this was gonna be salaciously good. Also, OP is NTA. The car and door is OP's property, and the wife being jealous and blaming OP for literally doing her job is just ridiculous. Her husband is a womanizing harasser, she needs to deal with it and stop blaming others for his behavior.

[@morgandouglas6014]

OP DID give Dalia a chance and Dalia escalated, so OP did exactly what they needed to do.

[@zimonzieclown1633]

OP: "and we have no plans to get married" rSlash: "but we plan to get married in the future" Um, huh?

[@songohan3321]

Like with many things, sometimes writing/typing it out helps come to a conclusion. Also, in order to file a claim with insurance over destruction of property, a police report needs to be filed. Even more so if you know the culprit.

[@GeekBot404]

the hotel clerk story calling the cops is sound it IS protocal to call the cops if an employee feels threatened during work hours

[@firesong7825]

I'm honestly really surprised you somehow managed to put the blame on the husband in the first story.

[@totalldwarf640]

You haven't paid attention then. Rslash always has an anti male slant when doing am I the ahole. Husbands get the worst judgment from him. I think his wife watches him record or something and he's scared of upsetting her

[@chrisprilloisebola]

lol literally. Horrible take

[@chrisprilloisebola]

@@totalldwarf640 lol not suprising. Must be simp

[@LunaMane]

With the last story the coworker sounds like the type who thinks disparaging someone's deceased parents is funny but will flip his lid when he's the butt of a joke. OP is not the arsehole and should call up HR, like you said RSlash.

[@deadmann320]

Second story: 5 is definately not too harsh, man she's lucky she didn't catch 5 across the face for that remark. Absolutely trash human mocking not only a widow but also a child WHILE living off their generosity.

[@dengsuevang1035]

What did the wife in the first story think was gonna happen? Did she think she could destroy ops property and just get away with it? Actions have consequences. She chose to paint and key your car. She probably thought that she was doing the world a favor by vandalizing your car, and that you deserve it because of your job

[@H2Oabz]

Nah nah nah... Second story hits home! I lost my mum when I was 11, im 27 now, if anyone mocked me about not having a mum, there wouldn't be a warning! 2 days is VERY generous, I would have kicked them out there and there 🤬

[@SilverMe2004]

even if it was your sister?

[@H2Oabz]

@@SilverMe2004 if it was my sister, they'd be mocking themselves about not having a mum... But either way, it's not something to make fun of or joke about, you don't know how emotional people can be around a sensitive subject.

[@itsmilan4069]

2:55 how on earth is that overboard Doesn't that neighbour knows the saying "play silly games, pay silly prices"

[@dagnytheartist]

OP: calls the police for the destruction of her property neighbor: "but isn't that going overboard?"

[@itsmilan4069]

@@dagnytheartist either the neighbour is high on some shit or she secretly hates OP

[@ashleightompkins3200]

1st OP - Get revenge by making the villain of your next book a Bible thumping Karen. She can't get you for it without admitting that she read it

[@akatsuki2468]

First story: Why is the husband the A-hole? For reading adult fiction and pleasing himself? wtf...how is that a-hole behavior??

[@plannedsarcasm6930]

It's weird, recently R/Slash seems like he is going out of his way to blame the guy in certain situations

[@irogt]

RSlash can be weird.

[@maieen2665]

He also gave OP unwanted attention.

[@damienearl1310]

I mean, I think Dabney just zeroed in on the wrong thing, since it was made clear in the beginning that the guy was sexually harassing OP to an extent, only stopping when they stopped interacting with him I mean it's also *possible* that he thinks about them when reading the stories and all, but as Dabney once said, "I try to avoid assuming things when reading these stories", so I think it's just a case of forgetting details-

[@damienearl1310]

And to make it more clear, I still agree with you! The guy just...has more on his record than reading porn-

[@flamingdendrix1804]

1st story- I’d rather walk in on my s/o “pleasuring themselves” rather than walk in on them cheating.

[@SilverMe2004]

and if the person they were "pleasuring themselves" to, lived next door?

[@chadm.7371]

I was in the hotel business for 10ish years. This would have easily gotten the coworker fired. OP did everything right in this scenario. The protection of hotel staff and guests is always the priority. kinda reminds me of a night where a guest checked into the building, with whom seemed like a "lady of the night". He grabbed his keys, we had a pleasant conversation, and then they left for their room. A few hours later, another man was looking to get access to the previous man's room. My coworker, without thinking, didn't ask for any reason or calling the room for permission, and just gave him a key. (at the time I was in the back offices running audit reports) After the audit I checked in my co-worker and they told me about what happened. Panic set in and I immediately reset all the keys to the room while chastising my co-worker. They just replied how it wasn't their fault and we don't need to worry. We get a call from the room a few minutes later complaining that someone was trying to get in. We where told to call the cops, so I did. After they arrived we sent them upstairs, and it turns out that the first man was intimate with the other man's wife and the other man was on his way to the room to "unalive" the first man and was well armed for the task. I started to chastise my co-worker again for their recklessness but they just replied that everything was ok because we "resolved it" quickly. After filing a report to the general manager of the building my co-worker was immediately let go. Playing pranks or not paying close enough attention can seriously get someone hurt. Especially in the hotel business with the varying amount of people that go in and out of those buildings.

[@nikonarshe9296]

1st Story: Someone keys my car, they are going to court. This isn't a talking it out situation anymore because those damages have to be paid by someone and it's not going to be me.

[@Oxnate]

First story: Husband only gets 1 BH, and only for clearly spreading the rumor about who wrote the books. It's not OP's fault that her book are better and pleasing the Shrew's husband than the Shrew.

[@irantzugarcia2812]

About the fourth story, since the mother and grandmother didn't stop the niece from saying those things, it makes me think she might have heard similar rhetoric from them. At 16 we barely have our own opinions, and while she should be held accountable for what she said and acknowledge that it was blatantly wrong and hurtful, more than likely she is repeating things she has heard before from the adults in her life without much thought.

[@chrisprilloisebola]

nah you def have your own opinions at 16. Especially girls who mature faster than guys

[@SilverMe2004]

What did she say that was wrong? it might be hurtful but it was true. his ex is pregnant, so he was the infertile one. he still refuse to admit to it. and his ex is lucky to get pregnant after wasting so much of her limited time to get pregnant with him, especially considering that he couldn't seek treatment without first admitting he had a problem. Oh and 'fragile male ego' he is trying to ruin his nieces future because she said unpleasant things about him.

[@richewilson6394]

Move away from that husband & Karen to avoid anymore things happening. Then tighten security on your friends on not telling them your business and where people can find it online.

[@TheVampireAzriel]

Second OP: she's your sister, you can punch her for saying stuff like that. Shit that's infuriating.

[@SilverMe2004]

not in front of your own kids. we don't want to teach them to be violent.

[@raleighdeluca5988]

does anyone else laugh so hard when rslash goes to say something, and it cuts perfectly into an ad?? like, he just said, OP, you gotta say- and then it cut to- “c’mon girls, get your lash on!”

[@limiv5272]

Third story: She said they did NOT intend to marry. I understand rSlash reads a lot of stories and mistakes happen, but it's still important to note. Also, is it normal for a 19yr old to still be in high school in the US? Anyway, NTA. OP doesn't owe anything to her SO's spoiled "kid", who is definitely old enough to get a job and earn that money on their own

[@sabrinaheizenrader5635]

A 19 year old still in high school would have started school late or been held back a year someone along the way. People who start on time and don’t skip or repeat a grade turn 18 their senior year or the summer after.

[@limiv5272]

@@sabrinaheizenrader5635 That makes sense, thanks

[@dracko158]

OP: **Gives Dalia a chance** Dalia: **Keys OP's Car** OP: **Calls cops on her for keying her car** Dalia: **Surprised Pikachu Face** It's not OP's problem that she is insecure. Neighbor is also a butthole for even attempting to justify or defend her crap behavior.

[@seabass819]

3rd story: yeah, no shit she's choosing favorites between her son, that she spent hours pushing through a hole maybe the size of a half dollar coin, over a step child she has no relationship with. If you can't afford to send your daughter on a trip to Europe (that's horrifically over priced btw) maybe don't promise to do so.

[@RRW359]

I don't agree with the husband's score in the first one. Pleasuring yourself in a socially unacceptable situation isn't good but it's nowhere near as terrible as committing actual property damage.

[@SSJ_Rabite]

In regard to story 1 - Giving a guy a higher score for the actions of his wife, he had no direct involvement in. How far did you had to reach to get there? 2.5/5 butt hole score for you for that one, Rslash. The husband might be trashy, but the wife is an adult and accountable for her own actions.

[@ResidentMilf]

Did you miss the part where he kept flirting with and ogling OP?

[@SSJ_Rabite]

@@ResidentMilf I did not miss that. However, how does that change the accountability of Dalia over to the husband? She is the one that vandalized OP's property. Not the husband. Is what the husband does trashy? Yes definitely. Does he deserve a butt hole score? Yes absolutely. But in the end, Dalia is the one that decided to deal with her husband's behaviour is to take it out on OP, and acted on it. Not her husband. So how does he get a higher score than her?

[@ResidentMilf]

@@SSJ_Rabite I was only saying that he wasn't just watching porn. Why do people keep putting words in my mouth?

[@SSJ_Rabite]

@@ResidentMilf Because you were twisting my words. I never mentioned what the husband did, and you assumed I missed a part. If you don't want people to “put words in your mouth”, you need to do more than just a one line reply without any context.

[@totalldwarf640]

@rslash reached there becuase he has an anti male bias. He has for a long time now when doing ahole post. He apparently is the perfect husband and knows and decides the standard to judge all husbands/boyfriends by. Women are never wrong when there is a man to blame according to rslash

[@greninjastorm6734]

1st Story: I write fanfiction for a hobby. If writing what you do is something you enjoy, why stop it? It's not anyone else's business what OP does, and what the couple were doing is generally bad. Hubby was being creepy, wifey was just...crazy, I guess

[@SilverMe2004]

wait "If writing what you do is something you enjoy" *If* *writing* *what* *you* *do* edit: You mean 'writing the the things you write' not 'that you write about thing you have done'

[@Jennifer_MB]

Sunday Funday with rSlash!

[@YeastInfector767]

Last story: on top of what you said, HOW THE HELL WOULD SHE KNOW ITS A PRANK?! CALLING SOMEONE AND SAYING THAT YOU MURDERED 5 PEOPLE THE. EXPECTING THE COPS TO *NOT* BE CALLED IS ABSURD

[@limiv5272]

First story: I don't see how it makes any difference that the literature the husband reads is written by their neighbor or that she's single. Other than that, I agree with rSlash, OP is definitely NTA

[@LulfsBloodbag]

That second story actually surprised me. When I heard you say "normally we'd give a week" and I thought you were gonna say OP WTA, but then you surprised me saying he should have thrown her out on the spot. Totally agree. 2 days is generous given the circumstances.

[@Mck499]

Howdy there. I'm excited I'm going to the coca cola 600 today! Get to see lynyrd skynyrd before too

[@madDjakni]

second story: classic case where "don't bite the hand that feeds you" applies so well

[@davesvoboda2785]

1st story. This is EXACTLY how women have been accused of witchcraft, tortured and killed, in not so far past history. It chilled me to the bone.

[@thebaldnerd1989]

First story the husband is NTA. Men, both married and single are allowed to masturbate, there is nothing wrong with that. Don’t act like there is, RSLASH.

[@Ikajo]

He was wrong to flirt with OP though. His behaviour clearly verge on the edge of sexual harassment.

[@Yaksoup98]

@@Ikajo but that's still no worse than the wife. She's a fucking psycho

[@dracko158]

You're right, but he's wrong for flirting with OP. His behavior is nearly borderline sexual harassment.

[@tycoolator500]

Story4:Imagine insulting someone for their infertilityand that person is your uncle who is paying for your college. Nta you did nothing wrong if I were you I wouldve done the same thing.

[@benjamincharlton1388]

I'd say OP isn't too much in the right. I forgot the age of the child but if they were a kid I wouldn't make their life pain. Edit: she's 16, yeah, it's her fault.

[@kervinsantos5808]

She would be crying and better start looking for scholar ships. Alsp shame on the mother and sister for gossping like that

[@SilverMe2004]

@DarkCoreX"heck I’ve never back chatted about someone in my whole life." are you being sarcastic? it can be really hard to tell some times.

[@SilverMe2004]

Imagine texting someone 'your daughter said unpleasant (but true) things about me so I'm going to stop giving her money' "if I were you I wouldve done the same thing." I have to ask what are you doing giving money to 16yold girls? "insulting someone for their infertilityand" but he doesn't have a problem it was just something that only 'lasted for 5 year' and miraculously disappeared as soon as his ex found a new partner, he doesn't have a problem no no no. your just jumping to conclusions why would you think he has a problem? just because he decide to burn the relationship with his sister and his niece because they found out about... not his problem, doesn't mean it confirms that he has a, not his, problem/ clearly he doesn't have a problem haven't you meet his 5yold, of cause not he keeps them private seriously what part of what she said is worth $10,000s?

[@tycoolator500]

@@SilverMe2004 the op was clearly hurt by the nieces words and 16 years old is old enough to know that insulting someone for no reason is a big no no and also the uncle isnt required to pay for his niece's college fund soo I don't think that the niece should be entitled to that money,and your whole argument about it happened 5 years ago so he must've moved on doesn't make any sense alot of people can't move on with their life even if it was 5 years some people can and some can't. TL;DR: don't insult your uncle and act surprised if they decided not to pay for your college tuition.

[@kotagrace9473]

The second one got me. My mom passed about 20 years ago but a girl made fun of me on the first Mother’s Day without her because the teacher was sitting with me.

[@SteviiLove]

RSlash, you're basically saying as long as someone else causes you to feel insecure, it's their fault if you decide to hurt others or purposefully damage their property because "they made me insecure!"

[@misscat6055]

For the last story op had a very valid reaction. I do night shift work too, im always on the lookout because on a few occasions homless/drunk people wonder in my store. One time there was a lady tweaking out in my store loby and another time one of my coworkers got stupid drunk and tried to pick a fight with one of my managers 😬( it was his night off)

[@derpyderp1991]

30k sounds like she wants to stay in 5 star hotels the entire time

[@Poppy_1157]

On the 4th story I can say as a person close to the age of 16 I know the consequences that come with the actions of saying what she said and I feel after the age of 14 kids can be held completely responsible for what they say and do.

[@666Brago]

if the couple's relationship was ruined because the husband was reading an erotic novel, then it probably wasn't much of a relationship to begin with.

[@ScarabD]

"Lovely women" do not key slurs into peoples cars or paint them on doors, OPs friends.