r/AmITheA**Hole For Completely Shutting Off My Neighbour's Water Supply? - Top Posts Of The Week

[@jameswatson9338]

Panic attacks don't qualify as "emotions." They're something that takes over your entire body and mind. It's a horrible experience. So, I can kind of understand losing track of everything else going on and not thinking of your friend's well-being during one.

[@sophdog2564]

I agree, but I think one thing that people did make a good point about was being more prepared. I have ADHD and similar sensory processing issues, and I probably would have brought noise-cancelling headphones if I thought this would be a problem (OP should consider this and other things in the future, make sure they are wearing clothing that won't cause sensory issues, for example). I think their friend is still more of an asshole for leaving them there for 20 minutes to go smoke because if she hadn't, I doubt that it would have become an issue. OP would have been better able to communicate their rising anxiety if their friend was there before it was so bad, but the friend left for 20 minutes and I doubt that OP going into the smoking area to find her and tell her would have improved their sensory situation (personally cigarette smoke is a sensory problem for me)

[@LilChuunosuke]

I agree. I also agree with the YTA that said they should've prepared a plan B in case they experienced sensory overload, but I feel like none of those people have experienced panic attacks either. No person is capable of coherent, intelligent thought during a panic attack. Only that they are dying and possibly to get away from whatever triggered it or may make you feel worse. I remember one time when my mother caused me to have a panic attack at her workplace, I was literally crawling across the floor to get away from her. All I could think was "I'm about to die" and "get away from me" I would say it's a NAH situation if the friend didn't verbally beat down on this dude after he apologized and took responsibility. She could've just lost track of time on her cig break, but this tells me that she really didn't care about her friend or his mental health.

[@alea8274]

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[@tamitami7396]

Fight or flight, super override, options at that point is literally run, or fight, it can not be controlled in the minute it happens. It is so sad that so many can not understand what that is like. I kind of feel that if this is a real friend they should try to learn more about the friend who suffers from it.

[@norberthopf5777]

@@sophdog2564 r

[@janicewilcox8590]

"I feel this is rude because it feels like she's dismissing me" ... She was. Mind your own business. Those dogs love to run and going on walkies/joggies once every two weeks isn't hurting the dog and probably helps keep him from getting fat which would be worse for his breathing than the occassional jog. Go find a corner to sit down in.

[@janicewilcox8590]

@@jlp2061 for real

[@machintelligence]

If your family believes that your brother deserves the house of his dreams, let them pay for it.

[@MilluMArt]

Yes! Seriously, how entitled do people have to be to expect their younger brother to buy their dream house for them? I also have a well of little brother, but I would never dream of asking for anything like that. Even though I have had tough times financially and once in a while, I have considered, in my desperation, to ask him for a small loan, I have never actually brought it up though. Probably never will, since I have the strong belive, that my financial struggles shouldn't be his problem. So even though he could help, I don't think he should. I suspect, he would in a heartbeat, if I just asked, hence why I don't.

[@machintelligence]

@@MilluMArt There are societies where they take the "you are your brother's keeper" very seriously. Individual rights and responsibilities are not strongly supported. Can you imagine being punished for something your cousin did because of family responsibility? Or even worse, having your sister killed because she "dishonored the family"? I can't; but it happens.

[@buckfisherGBY]

@@machintelligence That kind of thinking and acting needs to stop. This is the 21st century, not the 7th.

[@blaze556922]

He's a member of the family too. Greed is always wrong.

[@MilluMArt]

@@machintelligence I am aware that there are other cultures than mine in this world.. It still does not change my mind, that I think people are being way to entitled, if they expect a familymember to buy them their dreams, simply because this family member is more well of.

[@michellej3140]

The family who supplied fresh water to the other household are in their right. They may also be paying for the extra electricity needed to pump water up to their water tower.

[@FirstIsa]

This, my uncle inherited 200 acres from his family (originally part of the 1863 Homestead act it was split up over generations but his portion had never been developed beyond fencing for cattle). He and my aunt built a house, paid for a well to be put in and had it set to pump water up to a tank on the hill above their house. A year after they moved onto the property his sister decided she should live out there as well (ignoring about a hundred other issues with her choice to suddenly be interested in property she'd ignored for the last 30 years and how she went about building her custom designed house). She asked if she could tap into their water lines and wanting to avoid a nasty fight they agreed as long as she helped pay for electricity and upgrading the pump since the one they had was designed to pump water uphill about 300yards and adding a second reservoir 1/4 mile away and 100yards higher would overwork it. Not only did she never pay help pay for the electricity she never made arrangements to upgrade it after adding a larger water reservoir tank near her house and installing about an acre worth of automated sprinklers (for gardening she never actually started). He eventually told her the cost was too much and disconnected her line. Their cousins actually came over and helped him dig up the pipes she paid to have laid and left them stacked neatly by her garage. She ended up having to pay out about $80K to have a new well installed and new water lines run because the only area it was feasible for them to put another well required going through bedrock.

[@luvondarox]

@@FirstIsa It might sound cruel, but at the end of reading that, I felt / thought a singular, intense *"Good."* at the sister getting disconnected and having to dig her own well. I can't fathom people who just don't hold up their end of contracts and just blithely assume their victims are just going to suck it up and deal with it.

[@FirstIsa]

@@luvondarox luvondarox I absolutely loved my aunt and respect my uncle. I can count on one hand the number of times I heard either of them swear or speak I'll of someone with the exception of his sister (and my father, though that isn't so much a can of worms as a tanker of toxic sludge). The water issue was mostly a matter of being the last straw and the only one they could do anything about. When they moved to the property they paid to have a simple but nice prefab house set up, I'm pretty sure they spent more on the horse barn and fencing off a couple pastures for my aunt's 6 horses and his garage for car restorations than they did on the house. His sister rather than using the existing gate and (admittedly worn down) dirt road that was closer to where she build decided to have the drive to her house use their gate and drive so everyone would drive past their place to get to her's. And the woman held weekly parties. Setting aside four months of dealing with construction workers driving past their house everyday at 6am having idiots everyweek flying down their gravel road at 30+mph and spoking the horses was a constant problem.

[@luvondarox]

@@FirstIsa Oh my goodness, that would genuinely infuriate me. Your folks are saints for tolerating that. Is it, like, a shared property or something? Or is she using the nicer driveway / path that's actually on your Uncle's property instead of using her own, and he and his wife are being incredibly gracious enough to allow it? I don't know how rural an area they might be in, but maybe she could find someone with a box blade that could (at least slightly) resurface the path leading to her own house past her gate? There are folks to hire for that sort of thing out here (like, if she doesn't want to go full contractor, she could hire Bob and his tractor for a few hours for a couple hundred to do the job instead), but I'm kind of in John Deere country where the farmers' kids would offer that just for driving practice, like most city kids offer to mow yards. Surely if she's throwing parties it would be better for her to have it all on her side, right? {Edit: I very belatedly realized that was all written in past tense. Is this all in-the-past stuff? If not, give your aunt and uncle a big hug, because they really are freaking saints. If so, big hug for you.}

[@FirstIsa]

@@luvondarox It's past events. My aunt passed away due to cancer almost 8 years ago and my uncle ended up selling the property- after I turned 18 (I spent most school breaks with my aunt since she was my Godmother and frankly the two were better parents than my actual ones) he started saving money and convinced his sister to sell her share of the property to him and then put it on the market a few years ago. I don't blame him since living there was a constant reminder of her last few years being sick. And yeah the place was about a rural as you get in California. My afternoon chores there included shooting ground squirrels to keep their population down because the things are a nuisance to livestock. Just as a reference the property was in Adelaide, Ca and all the properties around him belonged to relatives due to how his family got the property.

[@robertsisk5491]

"We don't get any private time together" Me: Car. Go to the car!

[@Sue_Me_Too]

Lol when they have to use OP's car!

[@chaosreaver3597]

Tried that once, wouldn't recommend.

[@myfavs3530]

Get a motel room.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Get a motel room like every normal person lol

[@thesimplifestyle2022]

M O T E L, like normal people do

[@darklightmagus1222]

Big breasts story. I always rethink a situation with one or more genders of everyone involved and see if the situation would look a lot more serious than what it was made out to be. In this case, if a male coworker kept making such comments about one's breasts, he would be reported for sexual harassment without a thought. It should make no difference if a female coworker made the statements. It is sexual harassment.

[@ZombieSazza]

Absolutely this 100% She’s extremely jealous, spiteful, none of what she is saying is a “lighthearted joke”, and it’s pure sexual harassment!

[@krismartikris4834]

Re: marrying after the death of a spouse - Well, this one hits home. Mom told me that when my grandmother died, my grandpa was not handling it well. He married at age 38 after traveling the world while in the Navy - I have his log book which lists every port, the name of the ship and the dates of arrival and departure. He enjoyed being married to a woman just as strong mentally as he. They were married 30 years when she died. Mom said he started to fade away. A year afterward, he attended a reunion and came across a woman (then a widow) he’d been engaged to before he joined the Navy. The love was still there and they asked my mom for permission to marry. Mom said after she met B she immediately said, 'yes.’ My bio grandmother died before I was born, so the only grandma I knew was B. She treated me and my siblings just as she did her biological grandchildren. Grandpa was always smiling and in a good mood, and took such care of her. My mom loved her. We all loved her.

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

Also, my thoughts on the Pet vs Allergies post; You can actually only rehome a pet that is exclusively your own. If you give away someone else's pet, that's called stealing. Just FTR.

[@carolbelvin5278]

As far as the story about the cat, if I was the son, I would never speak to my mother again unless she got the cat back. Also, I would do whatever was necessary to get rid of that man. That man and the mother would never have a moment of peace due to giving away the cat. Before I was done, that man would want to get as far away as possible from me and my mother. It would be all out war.

[@Cheepchipsable]

Kids try to get rid of new partners anyway -they are accustomed to having Mom all to themselves. Kudos to you for wanting the woman who sacrificed a lot, even her own happiness, to be miserable and alone for the rest of her life.

[@Sue_Me_Too]

I fucking hate cats. They can live in the barn if they want but they gotta get their own food.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@Cheepchipsable My mother & her older sisters did exactly that to my grandmother. Her husband died when my mom was 13. They threw a fit every time anyone showed interest in her. She just gave up. She is 92 & is now dying of lung cancer. She still talks about her late husband all the time. My mom is 60 now. When my own husband of 14 years was killed in a car accident 3.5 years ago, I realized just how bloody selfish they had been. They all left her to go get married & live their own lives but still acted like bloody fucking children if a guy was interested in taking my beautiful grandmother out on a date. My own daughters, who were 17 & 13 when my husband was killed, & even my stepson, also 17 when he died, encouraged me to try date someone new about a year & a half later (They were then 15, 18 & 18). If my stepson can be generous enough to consider that I might have a need to move on & be happy again, I feel like my mom & her 2 older sisters have no bloody excuse for their behavior. I find that decision of theirs to be quite disgusting. I gave my grandmother a Chihuahua about 9 years ago because I didn't want her to be as lonely as she clearly was. She talks to the dog like it's a person & cooks for her dog. She loves her so much. She is a bit less lonely. I just cannot understand that level of utter selfishness, because they knew they were leaving to have families of their own anyway & they did know that. That's where I'm at. 🤷‍♀️

[@johnnyboy4654]

My mom did the same shit to me and I have never looked at her the same 🙄

[@johnnyboy4654]

@@Cheepchipsable they shouldn’t haven’t have given away his cat fuck off that shit hurts you so bad

[@ItsYaBoiV]

With the couple tryin for a baby, about the obgyn thing: Dude was not an a-hole for bringing it up! This whole mentality that men can't ask anything of their partners anymore without being controlling butts is really getting on my nerves. I get cysts, and had issues trying to have a baby when I was engaged. We weren't actively trying, I just mean we weren't safe, and I never had so much as a scare. Turns out I had a condition and can't even have children. Also turns out that if I hadn't gotten checked out when I did and had an important surgery, I coulda died. With no symptoms! That woman gets cysts and has a bleeding disorder, I can almost promise she probably contributes to their issues with having kids. Jeez.

[@mpmansell]

This. It seems to me that the guy is concerned for his wife's health, as much as anything else. Cysts and bleeding can indicate much more serious conditions, including cancer.

[@MissCaraMint]

Mark Mansell Especially since men who aren’t familiar with having periods or without that stuff works in generel might also be a bit panicky as something bad is happening with his wife that he just doesn’t understand. The way some women talk about cramps and such you’d think they were dying every month, and now something ekstra is wrong? Of course he’s gonna be woried.

[@mpmansell]

@@MissCaraMint Or men who are, having had several women in their lives where such issues have arisen :)

[@krismartikris4834]

Re: women bleeding randomly - If this happens to you or a loved one, get it checked out immediately. It happened to me after menopause. Per my OB, if a woman (regardless of age) bleeds when she is not supposed to, get it checked as it is not normal. In my case the biopsy result was uterine cancer, in the 'infantile stage'. On a side note: I gave permission for my surgery to be observed by students, one of whom was my doctor's son. The son decided he wanted to be a surgeon in the obstetrics field.

[@candyluna2929]

EXACTLY!! MY husband and I have been trying for like 4 months now. The other day he calls me and tells me about a remedy that can help women get pregnant. Was I mad for it? NOOOO, I LOVE HIM FOR IT. He bought it for me and I've been taking it. Yeah we haven't been trying for a long time but he cares and tells me about which hospitals to go to and which not to and all that.

[@trevanminnig3499]

The story about the “emotionally abusive” GF reads just like my previous relationship... I’m sorry to that girl for having to go through that

[@WobblesandBean]

58:00 This man sounds exactly like my abusive ex. If I stood up for myself even _slightly_, he'd spend weeks gaslighting me and telling me how emotionally abusive I was, how he'd always have to walk on eggshells around me, etc. Let's just say I had a bit of a panic attack reading that update, cuz it took me right back to those horrible, dark days. Poor OP. She needs to block ALL of these people. Those men are not her "friends", they are his. And they are just as twisted and misogynistic as he is.

[@lara2937]

Feel you and been in similar situations. I feel bad for everyone her ex dates and everyone who dates her ex friends. All of those guys are out of their depth when it comes to understanding abuse and consent.

[@Cheepchipsable]

The Anxiety one - wow, obviously a lot of people don't understand anxiety attacks.

[@Zuzki86]

This one! I have had sensory overload and anxiety many times and it literally makes you feel like you are going to die. I swear that if any of those that called her the AH would try a simulation of those things, they would be crying in a corner. It made me so mad!

[@HeroStudios101]

Agreed, i couldn't believe any of those people who called the OP the AH. I suffer from panic and anxiety attacks and it can get so bad the rest of the world is a blur. They act as though the op left in their right mind when and anxiety attack is being anything but in your right mind.... it's infuriating to see it dismissed so flippantly.

[@12sizednugget67]

I suffer from mental illness and I agree, it isn’t that easy. But it’s not an excuse. Period.

[@Penelope9441]

Anyone who doesn't suffer the overbearing situation of being left alone in a massive crowd in a strange place with serious anxiety issues shouldn't have even commented. I am lucky to have not suffered a full blown attack in 5 years, but hearing that story and the steps OP went through took me right back and head to tow I felt the skin flush and the fluttering in my throat and stomach. Definitely NTA.

[@kvngcasim7712]

@Rebekah Sorrells I was thinking about that. I feel like OP realized afterwards they realized it afterwards that they were in the wrong and attempted to contact them to explain so I was like oooo ok they did try to make things right so NTA.

[@Norinia]

The story about OP’s sister and BIL wanting to stay at home, I’d have to warn heavily against the last comment. If you do such a thing, they may think you have shown the green light to ‘have fun’ in your bed, while you are out of the house! Adults are adults, and if they really need that ‘together’ time, then I’m positive they’ll find some way to do what they want, wether it’s a place the kids wouldn’t realize or notice, or if they have to rent a hotel room for the night.

[@jlp2061]

You need to also not make it so comfortable that they procrastinate about finding own place

[@Winddrvn]

20:53 - Logically what she did is expectable and reasonable. Emotionally empathetic she is not. She has never claimed to be otherwise, signing away her parental right yet still financially supporting is above and beyond. And for her the girls where an unplanned unwanted accident. Was she TA for saying that in front of said children, yes. Is she TA for not taking it back, no. You can’t force people to care. The girls are TA for taking out their anger on the step mom. And their comments that call her a bad mom, she never claimed to be their mom. Made it clear she deferred any emotional talks to their parents. They have a right to their feelings but they weren’t “abandoned”. They had their father, a stepmom, and an emotionally unavailable financially supporting birth-mother. Saying that she should disappear wouldn’t solve this either. When they find out that the mom is biological they’d still look for their mom, rinse recycle and repeat. Their parents were FWB for crying out loud. In the end: NoAssholeshere. Shit happens. Everyone is doing what they think is best.

[@krystalfloods6197]

I agree with this

[@SolidifiedHoney]

This exactly. Basically the birth mom was just a surrogate mother for this family. Except she's paying them instead of them paying her.

[@krystalfloods6197]

@@SolidifiedHoney exactly and ppl say stuff like that all the time about their pets. The kids definitely need therapy though.

[@EvesDailyVlogs]

the person having sensory overload is NTA, i went to a loud concert with a friend who struggles with the same thing, even tho i was severely drunk and went to the smoking area, i still made sure he was okay and brought him outside if he needed to calm down. also who jus leaves their friend ALONE in a club knowing they have sensory issues. also the OP apologised profusely. maybe the friend should have had money for a taxi

[@nvfury13]

Exactly! What makes it worse is if it was a woman with sensory issues and someone bawled then out for it everyone would be jumping to defend them and cry “NTA!”.

[@nvfury13]

Exactly! What makes it worse is if it was a woman with sensory issues and someone bawled then out for it everyone would be jumping to defend them and cry “NTA!”.

[@nvfury13]

@Andri An odd intermittent glitch with commenting with the app.

[@alana.dyer.author]

@@nvfury13 a glitch in the matrix causing a double comment lmao

[@nunya3163]

The 'bigger' woman that refuses to buy veggies for the daughter, and who is angry that the daughter wants to be healthier is totally the AHOLE.

[@moniquehunt4475]

NTA, wasteful on the pool draining water everyday.

[@chaosreaver3597]

Agreed, that pool family was abusing a free source of water and was disrespectful to one providing it. The OP asked them to stop then warned them that their supply was going to cut off when they refused. The level of entitlement of that pool family, while not the worst I've ever heard of, is pretty incredible.

[@KaiPonVisp]

You can clearly tell who isn't used to stimuli overloads in the comments to the club one. I do get overload from stimuli sometimes and even the most trusted friend in that moment is something that causes more stimuli/fear. You are pretty much not yourself is a stimuli overload situation. The friend is the asshole for not understanding shit like that could happen despite knowing he has a problem with stimulus overload!

[@MrAbomb234]

nah. while he did have a panic attack and I can attest to the fact that they're awful, he's still the asshole. he not only put himself in that situation knowing this is a possibility without having a plan or discussing with his friend before, he even admits he later left because of his possessiveness over his friend. it reads like he left because he was jealous and wanted to punish her for making a friend. it is your responsibility to know yourself and how to react in uncomfortable situations and how to act like a reasonable adult when things feel bad or appear wrong. all of it couldve been avoided if he just said some shit instead of bein a salty bitch

[@johnnyboy4654]

@@MrAbomb234 sensory overload is way worse than a normal panic attack

[@AOGPlays]

@@MrAbomb234 Mate i had a panic attack in a bloody subway queue of all things and being autistic i was mighty confused and lost especially as it was my 1st panic attack ever. Getting a friend to come over if they weren't nearby or me moving to a crowd of people to find a friend would of been a damn mission. You might be correct that normal panic attacks are usually not enough to warrant this shit but sensory issues get way too underestimated by people who haven't experienced them especially the overload episodes of various intensity.

[@SolidifiedHoney]

Exactly, the OP even states that when they are being overloaded they become irrational

[@whistlerwind7422]

It's extraordinarily deceitful not to inform your partner about a vasectomy before you get married. What will break her heart more than anything, is how deceitful her husband has been. She would be well within her rights to divorce him. That's a damn big lie, with no possible excuse.

[@whistlerwind7422]

@@RisefromyourGRAVE: That's the biggest load of bullshit I've ever heard. He knew from the start that she wanted kids. Having a vasectomy isn't taboo in today's society and telling her doesn't break some big code of my body my choice. Adults have this type of conversation. But let's take your point. He never said he didn't want kids, he's been lying his ass off from the get go. She was honest with him, and and he's been living a lie and dragging her through it. He didn't tell her because it might be a deal breaker. And if she finds out, the vasectomy won't matter. The lie becomes the deal breaker.

[@mdlizzy]

Yes. And he can try to get in reversed. But it’s easier to just make her think she’s the problem.

[@mdlizzy]

Gee I wonder why he’s divorced.

[@sychaepowell2918]

Half-sibling story: I have several half-siblings from my father and honestly I haven't seen them for years until high school and my relationship with them as a child was simple but now I feel much closer to them. We have our own time, our own life, and can actually have conversations about life. None of us are extremely close in age and yet we still bond. IMO from my own experience forcing a relationship on kids while young will definitely make it worse for them to bond when they're older. My nieces are forced to hang out and 2 of them can't STAND each other. So, no, she doesn't have to set up play dates if they're gonna see each other at least a few times in a year. It's more than enough to grow up deciding to be close

[@midnightbeans8694]

“Am I the a hole for giving away my sons cat” Me before story “yes” Me after storie “yes”

[@midnightbeans8694]

Hi past me

[@midnightbeans8694]

🟠🔺⚪️ 🔻

[@patriciaredding3133]

For the family that moves into sisters home and wanting their bedroom for privacy, get a hotel room if they want to have sex. Sister isn't obligated to let them use her room for their Romp sessions.

[@bob8mybobbob]

Last story: OP wasn't stopping his son from having another kid, he just said that if they did they had to move out. If your financial situation is so bad you can't afford a place to live, it's irresponsible to plan to have another child. OP wasn't kicking them out. OP wasn't threatening to disown his son. OP and his wife simply don't want another baby in their house after already raising at least two kids of their own and having their grandchildren live with them as well.

[@leighnisbett9691]

Your agreement was with the last owners,not the new neighbours,contact a lawyer to send a letter ,and ask them to join the mains waters ,so it would cost them money.

[@steve43t]

Water waster. NTA. My parents and their neighbors are on a well and live next to a desert. My brother and his family are on a well in the midwest. Water conservation is a serious thing if you're not on city water.

[@paden1865able]

Oh, no, no, no, the person with anxiety in fight or flight mode is NOT the asshole. The person they were with ditched them for almost half an hour in an unfamiliar place. The dude made a mistake, yeah, but got out of a situation that could have led to a full blown meltdown. The gal wasn't worth it.

[@DylanTheDuck18]

paden1865able yeah, wtf is wrong with these people. Nobody realizes how hard fight or flight mode hits.

[@lunkee6972]

They had ample time to inform them before the fight or flight hit in.

[@azulyraazul9287]

i cant agree with this, you can actually make a plan to avoid fight or flight mode, this person knew that they had this condition and what the triggers were, and chose to lie. anxiety doesnt excuse all of your actions. i say this as someone with anxiety issues too.

[@AlyssMa7rin]

@@lunkee6972 They didn't, though. Their panic attack set in *after* their friend dumped them to go smoke for **twenty minutes**

[@MrAbomb234]

@@AlyssMa7rin they did tho. they admitted they were feeling it coming on when they were alone. plus it reads to me like the dude got salty because he saw her with a guy she met and immediately assumed that she's gonna fuck him and somehow even if she did that has anything to do with him. it reads as possessive and gross. I know how bad panic attacks are personally, but as an adult you have a responsibility to act right despite circumstances and not let petty jealousy lead you to leave your friend in a dangerous position. like damn how did you guys miss that part. all of this couldve been resolved if he had a plan before he was in that situation. everyone sucks here

[@SuperRandomNinja1]

The girl who was getting Flack for "abandoning" their children did a more than commendable job it's not great of course but it's better than a lot of shitlord parents. She made sure that the kids would have a safe stable home and was there to provide for them when need be taking that responsibility if it were not for the friend saying that he would take care of the children she probably would have aborted the kids do to her lifestyle. In all honesty what should have happened was the father and stepmother should have not told the children about the situation. Instead do like adoptive parents do with children that they adopt as a baby and not tell the children until they're old enough to understand. And for up until that time the biological mother is actually nothing more than an aunt to them in terms of relation as far as they know their stepmother would be their actual mother. That would have alleviated so many of the issues. I think it was irresponsible on those parents at that point to let the children know. Especially OP states that the guy met the stepmother like a year after. So the children would have been well too young in their life to be able to even comprehend let alone remember that this woman just appeared in their life out of nowhere. For all they know she is there actual mother if they had not said something about it. She signed away her rights as a mother and everything else but still was up and ready to take care of the kids as needed paying for their food in vacation and things like that. Things that honestly she should have and rightly did provide. She at that point is no longer responsible for the children and what happens to them what gets told to them. How did their parents said you know we're not going to tell them about this situation until they are older and can understand that would have been the right thing to do and she sounds like she would have been fully well to go along with it for the entirety of the time. Had they waited until the daughters were 18 then they would have been at an expected maturity level to be able to understand the scenario. They're guaranteed not going to be happy about it and there are going to be some issues. But they would not have been nearly the same because for all they would care at that point their stepmother is their mom whether it's their adopted mother or not. So for all they know they did have their mom in their life. And they at that point would be old enough to realize that their mother did not just fully abandoned them that she was constantly there making sure that they were doing all right. Or if just for the sake of Simplicity they decided since they're not going to tell then they will keep the biological mother out of their life that would have worked as well. Either way op did the right thing. It was their parents who decided to do stupid shit and let children know about the shit that they are not nearly old enough to be able to comprehend properly. Opie is not the asshole the fucking shitlords that were the parents who decided to tell their small children that their mother abandoned them but with their permission would allow her to be there where the assholes. Seems like she would have gone along with either way. So she is not the asshole

[@Sddvhjkkll]

Ok no need to go so harsh on the parents and I agree that they shouldnt tell them until they were old enough. It would still cause problems because the kids would feel like their life was a lie for a little while but at least they wouldn't feel that for their entire childhood. I think op shouldn't have said the thing about the dog and the kids were in the wrong when they said the stuff about their stepmom. I dunno if I got it all but that's what I think. But yea the parents shouldn't have told them that bc that's dumb

[@SuperRandomNinja1]

They would have avoided 99% of the issue with the kids had they waited. I don't know any people who are orphans so I can't ask them hate when you found out did you feel like your whole life was a lie but I would guess if I were going to venture to say that they wouldn't because at that point they recognize that their adoptive family is their family it's been their family the entire time and just because now they found out they were adopted once they turned 18 now it changes and they're no longer family. It would have been much easier. And I don't think OP said anything wrong by saying what she did about the dog because having a pet is different than having children you can still feel protective and caring about a pet without having maternal instincts. And yes I agree the kids were definitely in the wrong with what they said to the Stepmom for all intents and purposes that stepmom is their mom and the way that they reacted was completely out of line.

[@hothotheat3000]

Paragraph breaks. PLEASE.

[@SuperRandomNinja1]

@@hothotheat3000 but it's all one paragraph and even if it wasn't I don't know where to break it off into paragraphs I have dysgraphia writing that in general was hard as fuck let alone putting proper grammar and punctuation

[@RaizelSX]

@RandomNinja 024 the problem you meet here is this the OP is still the AH no matter what. She could have told them at birth, at 13, at 18, or even 21, maybe even on her death bed. But still the AH. Every time the girl would see their life as a lie. Even worse the dog is better then them. If anyone sat down and put those 2 things together, they would be pissed. "My mom loves a dog more than me" It's as the last commenter stated. She abandoned them then teased them with her presence, she's a deadbeat all the way, if this was a man she would be such an ah that the post would get pulled down for overloaded comments of aholism. Sure she believes she did a great job by not being their mom, she believe she wouldn't be a good mom, even saying the girls were lucky to have one, but she is the new definition of deadbeat parent, she paid her bills but then did bare minim. She teased those girls with her presence and then rubbed her bs in their faces, that they could never have her. And what everyone missed is the twins were/are in therapy, for quite some time too, maybe they were coming to terms with the fact they felt abandoned and we're dealing with it believing that their mother cared and then she says some trash stuff like she did. Idk if people know this but therapist exist for adults as well, and some adults do have issues they we're dealing with from the age of childhood, maybe this is something new idk

[@buckfisherGBY]

To the girl in the boy group of BF buddies: These guys are NOT your friends. Knowing the inappropriate jokes were happening and they were part of it, and then taking his side about you telling him the jokes needed to stop, shows they and he are the A' Holes.

[@keepdancingmaria]

"It's a weedicide, not a pesticide!" Jumpin' Jerusalem!

[@kessiawright1710]

I used to be a daycare teacher and you didn't undermine the teacher, you taught the child how to clean themselves, a basic life skill. You redirected the child. Kids that age are very emotional, teachers have to redirect kids all the time. The teacher is new and young, she has to realize that she still has things to learn. It comes with experience. She took it personally that the child gets dirty every day and wants to change. It is what kids do. They get dirty. It is a normal thing. If a child is so anxious of what their parents will do that they lose their mind crying, then you have to adjust to the child. The teacher can discuss it with the parents to send play clothes and that their child is afraid they will be mad at her for dirty clothes. I had to tell parents to send them in play clothes frequently. The teacher could have avoided the crying by allowing her to change. Kids have extra clothes for a reason and, at that age should be able to change herself. There are other things I have issue with because some kids has undiagnosed issues and can feel tortured because of those issues. Daycare teachers also have to be on the look out for abuse. Some parents and teachers have unrealistic expectations of the normal developmental abilities of kids. Most parents get it when you politely explain about kids getting dirty, however, there are parents who use it as an excuse to be emotionally and or physically abusive to their kids. Just dismissing a child crying because they are scared of their parents reaction over a minor issue is not a good response. What if the child is being abused? Daycare teachers have to watch out for that. The child could be spoilt, but needing to change their dirty clothes is not a smart last stand with a child. If you don't have time to allow it, then tell them when it can happen. It redirects and teaches them delayed gratification. I would have been happy to have someone come in to help. NOT AN AHole.

[@gracecookie4604]

My parents gave away my kitten when I was a kid I never really trusted them fully again I loved them but i never fully trusted them

[@MutiJezabella]

Oh bless you. My parents sold me to a distant cousin and left me in a war zone but I guess I know how you feel

[@gracecookie4604]

@@MutiJezabella k

[@quentinstayskull2464]

Our mom did it with our dog. Fuck em

[@Sparkitto]

For the “loving my dog more than my kids” story. The title is pretty misleading...I mean she didn’t outright say to them “I love my dog more than you”. She just said her dog was her fur baby, something that all pet parents say. Definitely NTAH: those twins were cruel for saying such a thing about their stepmother. Also, junaidaslam1983 seems to have issues of their own. She’s projecting poor parental behavior (possibility from their own childhood) onto the OP that has been determined to be inaccurate. The mother honestly went beyond what she was obligated to do after signing over all parental rights. She provided what she could financially for the girls, she agreed to spend time with them when they decided they wanted to know her. She did the responsible thing and gave those girls a better chance at a happy life, and yet they chose to hold one small comment against her and their stepmother. She could’ve just as easily chosen to never see them again after signing those papers. She could’ve gone no contact and not contributed a cent. She’s NTAH.

[@Cheepchipsable]

It's more about the issue being close to the surface for the twins than the mother. From their perspective, the person who is meant to take care of them and love them sidelines them in favour of a dumb animal. Yeah it was a joke, but just reinforced the way the daughters were feeling. She INTA, but just a dumb cnut for apparently not even thinking what a parent who doesn't give a toss about her own kids can do to said kids. People go their whole lives holding grudges, in the same way many boys idolise their missing fathers for a long time, then regret not knowing them. What would be worse, feeling abandoned by a parent who was never there, or feeling meaningless by a parent who is there but just can't be bothered? The life you never experienced is always better. ;-)

[@Sparkitto]

Cheepchipsable again, there’s nothing at all in the post that says the woman could or couldn’t be bothered with the children. For all you know, she could’ve spoiled those girls rotten as their loving “auntie” and showered them with gifts and affection. Of course she cares about them, because if she didn’t she never would’ve met them. EVERYONE who has ever lived has said something dumb in front of the wrong people. I’m not saying the woman is a saint or some shit, she just doesn’t deserve to be accused of not giving a single fuck when she clearly does.

[@Lukmendes]

It's so weird the guy in the video only got such aggressive replies lol. Ultimately that woman isn't an asshole, the girls chose to see her as a mother even though she's not around to be one, she's not responsible for the the girls' reaction, I dunno how some people got so butthurt over that saying it gave them abandonment issues, that's kinda pushing it lol.

[@adrianmcbride1666]

@@Cheepchipsable she is not their parent.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Agreed! I had to skip that person's rant, it was pages long and pretty aggressive for someone not involved or that doesn't know them, definitely sounds like they're projecting. Bio mom went above and beyond, and even said step-mom was a great mom. Teens, early twenties, adults or not, the daughters still sound like spoiled brats, and most young kids even know better than to act like a brat.

[@captainkittygaming9022]

My mom got rid of our cats because her boyfriend was allergic and I understand being miserable because of allergies but those cats were my best friends and pretty much my everything at that moment in my life

[@luvondarox]

I hope we get updates for a lot of these. Some of them make me so infuriated that I can't stand the thought that there aren't any acknowledgement or resolutions.

[@rollothecat2010]

Pool story: OP is not the ahole.

[@evecampbell3069]

Do you know if there is an update?

[@lexalford5956]

If it is a well on your property then you can shut it off and not give it to them for free. They can hook up to the county’s water supply and pay for it

[@AGreen-sx5ou]

Talk to a lawyer; it may be that a judge would force you to continue the old agreement in water rights for free?!

[@robertmanning3922]

A. Green have you heard of the phrase “nothing is free”. Well needs repairs sooner or later. New pump, piping, water quality testing, anti-siphion valves n testing. Need professionals to remove pump when it goes bad. Etc, etc. They need to pay for the maintence of the system. Sis is paying 40 a month.

[@AGreen-sx5ou]

@@robertmanning3922 True, but I meant only to point to the "Grandfather" type of agreement that a judge MIGHT consider if this well is the only currently available water source for the people's house/property. Personally I hope the fools stop emptying their pool; that's fantastically wasteful in this day and age. My pool slowly loses water to evaporation and regular, constant cleaning and recirculating, and does cost about $60 per month just for the water to keep flowing in.

[@Cheepchipsable]

@@AGreen-sx5ou This seems more likely, but maybe meter the water or reduce it down to a trickle. House would be practically unliveable without a water supply. Former owner might be liable if he didn't explain the current arrangement.

[@robertmanning3922]

A. Green they can have their own well dug.

[@Justaperson354]

Light exercise is actually good for breathing issues staying sedentary is worse. French bulldogs and pugs are prone to being overweight which is even worse for the dogs. She seemed to know what she was doing. You don’t tell a person with asthma not to exercise you tell them to take it easy and have breaks and keep your inhaler handy

[@mrobinson5201]

When is it ever out of “fashion “ to tell people it’s “none of their business”? It’s actually the perfect time to tell some one to. Mind. Their. Business. Too many people won’t straight up tell someone to stay out of it and waaaay too many people WON’T stay out of it.

[@ceceliamacintosh2295]

I'm amazed by the civility and maturity of the french bulldog owner. And I typically don't care for dog owners because the vast majority, in my own humble anecdotal experience, are hateful/idiotic/delusional/irresponsible etc.... but this woman I commend. I was born with severe life threatening asthma, for all of my childhood it was severe. Physical exertion, smoke, allergies, cold, laughing too hard/long, etc etc could trigger an attack. But I rather would have had those playtime attacks than no playtime at all. It was unpleasant when I had to sit out wheezing audibly like a harmonica as the branchioles in my lungs tried to seal themselves shut, blood oxygen lower than normal, chest on fire, gasping for air like a fish out of water until my steroid inhaler kicked in or I had a breathing treatment... but to my simple little child mind playtime was worth it. I highly doubt this dog is 'OMG SUFFERING' the way OP sees it, especially with the dog's owner being so mindful of his condition.

[@mat5857]

Pool guy here worked on pools/spas for 6 years. First story it extremely infuriating if it small inflatable pool just add about 2lbs chorine and keep leaves/debry out... Maybe and mean maybe would have to drain WEEKLY once a week if no filtration.... That it

[@mykaelnyx8821]

The thing about the twins and their mother/stepmotheris that the poster wrote that in the stepmother's eyes for the past few decades the girls could do no wrong. That would mean they were like in their 30s when they started that shit, that is not teenager. and she said she never abandoned them, she just gave up all parental rights and acted like an Aunt. I would honestly think that's pretty responsible and good on her for not straight up telling them to screw off when they werechildren and helping to take care of them as they were growing up even if it was just financially. Also, good on her for defending their stepmother, it is very easy for a biological parent to go off and act like a stepparent is nothing when it comes to the way a child has been raised. her acknowledging that the stepmother was a far better parent than she could ever have been quite frankly is amazing.

[@mustwereallydothis]

OMG! How can that "man" justify claiming his pride would be hurt by having his younger brother be he landlord when her clearly hasn't the slightest bit of shame or self respect?

[@mikarabidkitsune]

The brother and sister story is something I relate to. My older brother always has me and my younger brothers' back and gets me gifts just because he cares. We are very family oriented. We were also really poor growing up, one year my parents couldn't get anything, he got a job and worked his ass off just so me and my little brothers could have gifts that year. The boyfriend needs to get over himself. Some siblings are just close.

[@Elegant-Dude]

The dream house brother deserves nothing

[@stormymai6252]

The story with the vasectomy could totally be true. My Uncle did the same thing to my Aunt for fifteen years. After their first daughter was born, my Uncle talked with my Aunt about getting a vasectomy but he told her that he couldn't get it without her signature. He did end up getting one but hadn't told her. They are now divorced.

[@meadowsong8560]

Holy crap! I live on a well. Draining a pool every single day? I am surprised the OPs well hasn’t run dry. If it does that is a huge HUGE problem! NTA

[@ghost_anna_reads787]

The one with the dog baby, OP is NTA. OP didn’t want the babies, OP gave away all rights to be the mom, and she stuck around with them because she is the aunty. In this case, OP was just an incubator. If all children who were from surrogate mothers felt this way, the world would be a major mess. If the twins have suck issues with knowing their incubator and their mom are two different people, they need therapy. OP is NTA.

[@heelalisall4130]

"Motherless Child" I love ALL the "armchair therapists" making assumptions, assertions and diagnoses. LoL

[@robertperez2262]

“Let’s call her ‘Yennifer’” Taco taco Burrito burrito

[@basian7365]

Family isnt just about blood and dna, or whether you look like any of them. its about caring about one another, raising, supporting, loving,... if my family would not meet atleast those requirements, then id consider myself to have no family at all...

[@barbaraunderwood1762]

My deceased ex had a vasectomy on my birthday. Well he remarried & she said later on she wanted a child with him. My daughter was n the truck when she said that. He told her I have the kids I want. That shut her down. Later found out she wasn’t able to have anymore children after the 1 she had. Not sure if ever told her about the vasectomy. The guy should have told her before they got married. He doesn’t want anymore & that’s why he had it.

[@dawnelayos3785]

If you got a podcast I would watch it all the time

[@BradyPetway]

Same

[@UberOrange712]

Same x2

[@alfieb8851]

But you can’t watch podcasts, you can only listen to them.

[@Nuxxy1405]

Thiiis!!

[@bob8mybobbob]

As someone currently trying to figure out if I can afford a house or not, I can't believe someone would pass up getting a house interest free from someone you trust. Not only would that save thousands, but you would know if some emergency happened you wouldn't lose your house (an emergency like a bad car crash and now you suddenly have medical bills and can't work, not quitting your job to start your own basket weaving business that you barely put any time into and then 'suddenly' don't have money anymore).

[@geriwilliamson1967]

Another 2 hour night. Love listening to you👌👌😊😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤👵👵👵👵

[@_Fizel_]

Wait wait wait WAIT. 2:13:22 Nah something is fishy here. Op was saying the brother has quite a bit of sway in their lives, she's not even talking to him AT ALL about the medical schools she's wanting to apply for. He made an edit to mention that while brother gives expensive gifts to little sis, he REFUSED to help little bro who was about to be homeless. I found the post and couldn't find OP mentioning the reason little bro was struggling and why big bro would refuse to help. But this reeks of major favoritism and maybe something bad from older bro. I get sending little gifts randomly and nice gifts for birthdays, but randomly sending a $500 coat is a bit much. Yes big bro has money but unless he's legit a millionaire (or super close) this seems excessive. My guess is maybe big bro doesn't like OP and is using his money to insert himself into the relationship and is trying to get his sister to leave OP and find a nice rice guy cause 'isn't getting all these nice things all the time the best, you could have it all day every day if you married someone nice and rich'. Wild guess but it's a little too odd for me. Also if someone else can find any reason about little bro given, I'd like to know. Reddit notoriously hates me and refuses to show me posts all the time. Why I don't use it much.

[@krystalfloods6197]

I saw that too and was wondering what else was going on. Because it’s weird to be showering one sibling with gifts while the other is about to be homeless. I’m surprised it wasn’t brought up and I wonder if there were more edits in the original post about that.

[@shmoonie2467]

My 86 year old dad remarried exactly one month to the day of my mom's dying. He reconnected with a family friend that had lost her husband a couple years before. My brother was telling us how different dad was around this woman. He said dad was 'twitterpated". He was. We didn't fight him on it but she didn't turn out how she had presented herself. I think dad regretted it too. She went into a nursing home about three years into the marriage. I came down to take care of my dad. He would drive (the first year I was there but not the 2nd! He was 92 in the 2nd year) every other day to visit his wife in the nursing home. When I wouldn't let him drive anymore (there's only so many near-death experiences before it gets OLD!) I would drive him there every other day. I never liked her but she never knew that. My dad was married to my mom for 66 years and she was crazy. We kids (we're all boomers!) thought the new wife would be good for dad but he just picked a different kind of crazy. I made sure my dad knew that I loved him with all my heart.

[@1234567Clairebear]

Yayyyy!!!! The hubby is back 😁😁😁😁 scared me with that trial separation /phew (Im joking ppl btw. Markee has called himself our hubby from the get go. Its always been a part of the channel. Doesnt mean anything, isnt weird etc. Its just always been there. You'll always be the fellow aussie hubby to me markee hehe love ur content) PS- i love it when ur inner aussie really comes out lol

[@thomasallen3570]

For the 'dream home' brother, this is the best example of a classic issue; If someone does not EARN something, they do not APPRECIATE that thing. Rare exceptions to that rule exist, but when the OP edits to explain all the things he has already done just proves that this brother/family expects this. "If he can buy me a vacation, then he can buy me a car. If he can buy me a car, he can buy me a house. If he can buy me a house, he can buy me my dream house."

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

If you give a mouse a cookie...

[@jezi30]

When I have guest over, it’s where ever I can put them. I own a 3 bedroom home. And one friend has his room. The funny thing is. When my parents come over from another state. It was/is never discussed but they always get my bed. Lol. It’s an unspoken thing. Now anyone else. Don’t try it. Lol.

[@Cheepchipsable]

That's more a deference thing toward your parents.

[@luvondarox]

1:55:00 Imagine being hateful about your daughter trying to live a healthier life. I'm positively squishy, and I *know* that there's a difference between my body shape and our family genetics. I'm a bona fide junk food junky. I don't exercise enough. I *know* these are issues, and I'm genuinely proud of your daughter for trying to change things up and become the kind of person she wants to be. It's hard as *fuck* to get that momentum, and way, waaay too easy to slog back to a standstill. Also... A food scale, it turns out, is handy as heck for weighing ornery ingredients so you can bake them into cookies. My good intentions have backfired spectacularly.

[@jay-sansings5024]

You sound amazing to cuddle with. I'm sorry I just love cuddles! I'm so sorry if my comment made you uncomfortable!

[@stargazersappho]

As someone with 2 rabbits that weedicide story pissed me off massively 😞 i love my bunnies i'd be devestated if someone did this and hell yeah i'd sue

[@Me-wk3ix]

I agree, first poster is NTA. You aren't responsible for carrying your family members. You made the choices that put you ahead. He seems like he's actually very generous with his family.

[@chucksellers8422]

did he say that he hoped someone gets chlamydia? Truly LOL. love the channel. great narration.

[@moonlady3000]

I started watching this without looking at the runtime. I was like 'is this a re-upload? I think I've heard some of these before...." and then suddenly I was an hour into before I realized this was the 3 hour long weekly recap video. XD

[@bananaur.]

Give this man an Oscar , he been uploading like a beast

[@jimbobjones9330]

On the house story, I thought it was bizarre that this guy had a problem with his little brother being his landlord, but had no issue with his little brother being his sugar daddy. The OP is NTA. That said, I'm extremely happy that both of my brothers are extremely successful, too (we were the weird family that somehow bucked the odds despite being poor growing up) -- we don't need to deal with this nonsense. My mom needed financial help, and all three of us were able to pitch in thousands without the others asking.

[@jdd9993]

The girl who only had male friends: Those guys were NEVER really your friends; they were always your boyfriends'.

[@MrsJScarbrough]

So my MIL married I think the year after my FIL died and my SFIL is someone they all knew. It crushed my husband and it really hurt their relationship after that. I really judge her for decisions she made during that time. My dad died in 2021 and my mom just started dating someone. He's not a bad guy and I wouldn't mind them getting married, but my mom Waited almost 2 years to even talk to someone, and it was a devastating transition for me and my brother. Doesn't make you're an adult, watching your parent with someone else is like losing your parent all over again. As a parent your #1 job is to try and hurt your kids as little as possible. I know op and their sibling this probably feels like a kick in the gut, and their dad is definitely an asshole.

[@KnightMahboul]

I just love his voice!!!! Certain words, like 'here' make me smile lol. He is very cute, I will always keep a "chucked shrimp on the barbie" for my ausie hubby..😀

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

Vasectomy Guy's ex is such a class act for not compromising him, seriously. Probably the classiest ex I have ever even heard of, in one of these sorts of videos.

[@lara2937]

Yeah that was a thoughtful move on her part, good thing she’s not with her ex any more. Def deserves better than that

[@staylor3483]

Water use rights of way are usually drawn up to specify "household usage" or solar language. Some even have more specific language for allowable usage. Also, there may also be a time cap to the agreement wherein there is a specified time frame that the beneficiary of the supply has to have their own well drilled. Also maintenance clauses and usage amount clauses. All these things need to be checked in the original agreement and any amendments that may be filed with the local government.

[@HH-ru4bj]

First story, I'm absolutely defending op. The agreement was with the first neighbor, and there was likely some title agreement attached to the use of the resource, because wells can run dry. Aquafers take time to recharge and abuse of them can cause ground settling that lead to landslides, crack and destroy foundations, or cause there to be no water at all if there are repeated years of drought. A few years ago I encountered a woman that had well water, and was frequently running low on the summer due to a new farm that tapped the same aquafers a couple years prior.

[@rileystewart9927]

ok, yes Pugs DO have breathing issues BUT also, they need exercise like any other pet still AND let alone owner said the doggo runs for like a hour at dog park and said not same thing? i mean youre right, its not the same thing, one is running , the other is walking and jogging lol, if the doggo is fine running a hour playing at dog park, clearly its fine, dogs are smart enough to know when they are tired and not tired, even if they are having fun

[@minitooth]

As someone who feels abandoned by what is supposed to be "Family" i see where the twins were comming from. They want answers and i know its bold for me to assume the situation half way through the origonal stories comments but alcohol frees people of inhibitions, that could have played a part in their outburts, and at this point i personally dont know if they got that sit down chat with egg doner and had that talk of "im sorry you feel like this but i never felt those kinds of feelings for you two but i had to do MY job as a mother and make sure that you two had a great dad, grow up healthy, smart abd enriched, how can anyone pour 100% of their feelings into somthing that have no feelings for or outright hate said thing?" Good on OP for standing up for mom. Good on Op for providing for her kids even if she didnt want to be mom. Maybe this is the situation where they needed a second mom to kick their asses and make them see straight

[@skyelindsey687]

Yep. I see the stories of people wanting to force the bio parent that doesn’t want that role into the role and that’s just gonna scar the child(ren) more.

[@nyb3672]

The thing where it was the BOYFRIEND asked her to get rid of the cat. She didn't come to that conclusion, he TOLD her she HAD TO.

[@narararamammily5386]

The people called the op in the club story one really don't understand that panic attack is not just an emotion. Your body goes onto this defense mode as your brain think that you're gonna die. You're heart will start racing and start breathing heavily. And there are much more symptoms. Although I agree that op shouldn't just leave her alone at the club at 2am, the way people just look down on his panic attack as emotion.

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

While the story with the rabbits dying from pesticide exposure is so, so sad, I found Markee's flash of righteous fury on behalf of the bunnies and owner absolutely endearing!

[@coffinpeoplestandcoffindan6189]

For the second to last story it was yta till I heard the refused to help brother who was about to be homeless wtf is happening

[@AdrienneWaterhouse]

My mom gave away my pet when i was 11 for a move we made, 40 yrs later i still wont forgive her!!!

[@leighnisbett9691]

Was it a verbal agreement?if so they must talk /ask if they can use your water well.

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

Idk about this guy, but that’s a common tactic for a narcissist. Once they can’t control you they destroy you in the eyes of others, so no one believes you if you tell them about the narc. Sometimes they don’t wait.

[@UndeadEyes]

Unfair for a thyroid condition? I have the same autoimmune disease and, let me tell you, it destroyed me. I spent years (10-ish) without a diagnoses, vomiting until I was hospitalized (was in the hospital for over 12 hours last time and it took 4 medications to stop it), breaking out in bruises in clusters of 20+ (people thought I was being beaten), unable to get up or even eat for a week after due to physical exhaustion and a sensitive system. We're not sure why, but mine is much harsher than the average Hashimoto symptoms... If I forget my meds for too long, the bruising begins again. I still will get super sick. Even when on meds, If I stress too much, I get physically sick until I can just lay over and black out because my immune system begins attacking me. I reject foods at random because my body decides it's foreign. I used to have to knock myself out on sleep medication to make the vomiting stop because I couldn't afford more hospital visits. I would spend hours convulsing and shivering on the couch, vomiting until dry heaving. No one could help or even touch me as them touching me triggered me to begin vomiting more. It would go on for hours until I'd finally begin passing out from the medication. Please, take mine if you want one so badly, but I can promise that you won't want to keep it for very long...

[@WobblesandBean]

18:45 To quote the great Lebowski: "You're not wrong, you're just an AH"

[@mysteria_1305]

I would say that the story with leaving the friend in a club is more of an ESH. How can you expect the level of how they can handle their mental situation is based on their age? Not everyone get diagnosed young! Sometimes they don’t find out until an adult or don’t get it until their an adult. Mental issues are all different and from what the op said it sounds like the situation was if something really bad happened to you and it’s either run or fight for your life. Also you can know what you have and not know how to handle it or make it better. Hell I’ve got some mental head games going and know what it is and very little of how to make it better. My depression for example, therapy helped yet didn’t fix it. In fact we found some other issues while going through it. So I got something that makes it better yet nothing about how to fix it

[@LoucheWoman]

Yeah, the coffee story is probably fake but... my father would have done that. Easily.

[@samanthasoto6571]

It honestly sounds like my grandfather

[@mattblood4201]

I will say if this real this is less than 2 weeks of moving in I think she should move back with the mom the Dad sounds like a nightmare

[@Roedygr]

I always hated veggies except for potatoes. One day my Mom said she cooked veggies to a mush because my Dad had false teeth. When I moved out of home, I lightly steamed some broccoli -- delicious! ditto asparagus, artichokes, carrots...

[@kathiemott3988]

I love playing with cats, but am highly allergic to them. I usually end up paying for it later. Allergy meds and shots don't work on me. Have tried both. My reaction to cats is the same as I get with pollens.

[@keyc.1109]

The story about the pool is in the right to get something better done because the filling and emptying of that pool is putting a large strain on their well pump and could burn up the motor.

[@catpoke9557]

The dude who emotionally abused, shamed, and even raped his girlfriend, then accused HER of being emotionally abusive... good lord..

[@nbenefiel]

I never thought it necessary to support my siblings and I do not expect my children to support each other.

[@MamaSnorlax]

2:40:00 265!? that's insane for a HUMAN. good job mate you are really strong I probably couldn't lift 50 much less 265 which is still crazy to me.

[@LuvTrinity101DDTANK]

Funny part is a properly bred Frenchie can usually breath fine. And given she took all those precautions, id assume she went to a reputable breeder.

[@mothertrucker936]

Story 2: NTA . Whoa, you are a businessman and the offer was kind. A free DREAM home!!! There is no NEED it’s a want a selfish one at that. Plus you’ve helped them que a lot already and they don’t seem very thankful at all simply jealousy and envious. Don’t tell them anything anymore.

[@ZombieSazza]

That college story is heartbreaking, her toxic ex was literally r*ping her, coercion is NOT consent, he then used his group of friends to bully and manipulate her, demanded he be able to walk all over her, and he was the one emotionally abusing her. I really hope she stays far, far away from him. She literally wrote how she cried during “consensual” sex?!?!? This poor woman

[@josephbrown9665]

I have 9 siblings and I am the one who makes the most of all of us. My mother won a couple million dollars in the lottery and she gave her 3 other kids ( the other siblings are half siblings) so she gave them all new cars when she first got her money. I refused to accept the gift from her. My oldest full sister was living in a abusive marriage. My mother had her money tied up at the time after she had gotten the cars. I was flipping houses at the time and I had just gotten a cheap run down place right down from our other two sisters. My mother asked me if I could let my sister move in the house. The house was in horrible condition so we redid the bathrooms and got the kitchen in good enough shape for them to use. I let her move out of the house with her husband and move into the junkie house that I owned. She started to do work on the house and she remodeled the entire house in a few months. She paid me a couple hundred dollars a month trying to buy the house from me. She had been paying me off for like 10 years and I had just been leaving the money in the account she was paying me off in. Her daughter graduated from high school and and she was worried about how she was going to pay for college. I had all of the money her mother was paying me. I started paying her college bills from the account her mother was paying into to pay off her house. I had already had the house transferred over to my sisters name. My sister tried to refuse the money. But when I was 16 I had a bad accident on a motorcycle and I was not able to walk for 9 months and she was the one person who took care of me that entire time. My wife gave my niece her old car when she left for college. My niece just graduated from college my wife and I were both invited to her graduation she had not even invited her father or brother her mother stepdad my wife and I. Her husband was invited by her classmate who’s family members are from out of the state. Yes we all cheered for them both. We had a little party for her with the rest of my siblings and their kids at my mothers farm house. She went to college in the country by my mother house so she could live with my mother in her older age and she met her husband in college

[@shadeblackwolf1508]

in the roommate story, i think she added that he's leaving at a bad time to indicate she owes him no favors

[@DJShihTzuman]

Thyroid patient here! My meds over the years have gone up as has my weight even with frequent exercise, my weight would go up and down. I'm currently on a high dose and get my Thyroid and Sugars checked every three months except this year I was late because of COVID and was unsure if my NP wanted me to get it done. So yes your weight will fluctuate with each increase in dosage but it will level out with constant exercise. Trust me, my weight and my body is changing with frequent walks with my fur babies.

[@lorrainemarshall9476]

Whipped coffee? Why can't he make his own? Daughter, come back and live here, I want whipped coffee. Pathetic.

[@Darwinsmom]

I despised eating broccoli when I was a kid, and brussels sprouts? Fuggedabowdit! I was 18 and on my own before I realized that broccoli is NOT supposed to be grey. Now I eat mostly raw veggies, but I also adore stir-fries without sauces. Steaming veggies is a nice transitional cooking method if you are trying to include more veggies. At least it worked for me!