r/AmITheA**hole My Roommate Robbed Me, and Wants ME to Pay HER!

[@low-keydrama1260]

1st Story, OP had an update: “Edit/update: So I visited Jilian in the hospital today and she apologized to me for what happened. It was an accident. She said she didn't eat my kare-kare but took some rice. She didn't realize that some sauce got on the rice bowl, so there was clearly a cross contamination. It wasn't her who went in my room, it was Trish and another housemate, Ian. I will be charging them for the stolen beer and food. I will definitely buy a lock after this incident. Thank you all for your advice, judgement and awards!” So it wasn’t even Jillian that gave herself the allergic reaction. It was the effing roommates who did and decided to place the blame on OP in order to get it off themselves. What garbage people

[@metademetra]

So they stole from one roommate and poisoned the other. I think Trish and Ian need to be upgraded to 4/5 buttholes.

[@low-keydrama1260]

@@metademetra same. And if (thank God it didn’t happen) Jillian died they’d do whatever they can to blame OP

[@ladysaber3464]

What she should do is label everything in her fridge with the "contains peanuts" label whether it actually does or not. Gives her plausible deniability for everything.

[@beenie3708]

@@ladysaber3464 why should she do that? It was HER fridge, not theirs

[@beverlywhitman303]

@@ladysaber3464 it wouldn't have mattered, they took sauce out of the containers from his fridge (or from one of there own) to cross contaminate what she ate. the spilled sauce on her plate wouldn't have any labels. the roommates are at 100% fault not the op, they are just trying to avoid attempted man slaughter charges with a blame game.

[@ScooterBond1970]

The "getting into pants" one: In legal circles (obligatory notalawyer disclaimer) this could be considered entrapment. She came onto him and, when he was showing no signs of wanting to make a move on her, practically BEGGED him to make a move on her; then, when he asked (JUST asked) if he might make a move on her, after she had been sending all these signals indicating she wanted such, she got mad and blamed him. There's really only two words for a friend like that: "Good riddance."

[@2Ten1Ryu]

So so true. If someone paraded some delicious food in front of me all the time, would I be the asshole for asking if I can have some?? I just asked, I didn't take anything. This girl is going to be a lot of trouble for any bf she will ever have. Good thing it's not going to be OP.

[@kristinicole2055]

This is so manipulative 🤦🏽‍♀️ I can’t deal.

[@Vgy1592]

Like. Even if he *didn't* have an interest in her before, it was outright seduction. Which, for some people, can turn the tables on their feelings during the heat of the moment. Some people just don't even think about it until the option's presented. And she was *definitely* presenting the option.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Not to mention she pulls that stunt and then expects OP to still help her and gets mad when he doesn’t want to anymore. Don’t bite the hand that feeds. Or you might get slapped

[@ImJustShayeB]

Yeah, he wanted clarification to make sure he wasn't overstepping boundaries and misreading the situation. He asked her to make sure they were on the same page, and she gets mad at him for asking for consent. Chicks like her are weird as hell!

[@WifeMamaArtist]

As someone who had long term fertility problems I can say this with complete sympathy. That insane Karen neighbour, should NEVER be a parent!

[@md.abulkalamazad6847]

Its a blessing that that entitled person cant make her kids entitled

[@92bagder]

Maybe she stopped complaining to her cuck husband and not putting out negative Karen energy that would solve the fertility issue

[@jcfreak2007]

Same here! I have struggled with infertility too and I have always told our friends and family not to hide any baby news or updates from us or worry about it upsetting us because we are incredibly excited for them as it's a blessing to have children and I wouldn't wish infertility on anyone else. Like, that's basically what you are doing when you get mad at someone for having a baby is that you are wishing infertility on them.

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

Infertile Myrtle here (many adventures in IVF, etc) and I agree whole heartedly.

[@MINGIRL1979]

Wow! Those neighbors are something else! My Mom couldn't have children of her own. She and my Dad had a solution though, ADOPTION! If this woman is bent so out of shape seeing another person's baby because she's having fertility issues, maybe she should pursue adoption instead of having her husband going over to harass OP's family because their happy little baby is "making her uncomfortable"!

[@stephanie_jjb]

Story 3: how the hell you going to lead your best friend on in such an obvious way and then get mad at him for taking the bait. That's literally entrapment.

[@rjmac3095]

If that's what you do to your best friend, then you don't deserve to have any friends!

[@ShockingPikachu]

@@rjmac3095 if that’s what they do to their best friend what do they do to their partners (also it could possibly explain why she IS single…)

[@simplywonderful449]

A lot of women do that, claiming "victim" status for the sympathy without regard to the damage it does to the men they know. False "rape" claims are all around Google as women seldom are charged when it's exposed as a lie unless the TRUE victim, the man, actually takes legal action against them.

[@stephanie_jjb]

@@simplywonderful449 whoa calm down there incel

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

@@simplywonderful449 "A lot of women"? I don't think so buddy!

[@silverflight01]

Story 3: Toying with people's hearts is unforgivable. That kind of assumption is mean as hell.

[@QuietChaos1996]

I know. I've been friends with many guys before. I'm oblivious, yes, but I know I would never pull something like that. Not even when I was in High School! P.S. Try having old-fashioned/out-dated parents who think that, when you're hanging out with someone, that it's "dating." Even after I explained to them what a demisexual (someone who develops a deep emotional bond with someone) is. I hardly knew a guy and I went to hang out with him (which I told him it was us hanging out), but he did many dumb things that just rubbed me the wrong way. The biggest one is the fact that he introduced me to his work buddies as his "date."

[@magloclen6976]

@Squid Game 🅥 bot

[@franl155]

She sends out those vibes and then it's his fault for picking up on them?

[@2Ten1Ryu]

@@franl155 Exactly!!! That is so low and manipulative. And when it comes to consent and all... he even ASKED! what a bitch. honestly.

[@kristinicole2055]

@@2Ten1Ryu fr

[@silverflight01]

Story 1: How did Jilian not realize that she outed herself as a trespasser and a thief?

[@jppokemaniac93]

Entitled people do be that stupid, they be like "So what if I stole your shit, it's still your fault you let me do that"

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@sailorstar3148]

@@jppokemaniac93 but it says the post the other roommates steal OP's soap Jilian just tasted it she probably didn't know they steal it from OP's mini fridge

[@rustygribbler1380]

STUPIDITY WITH FINEST EXCUSES 🙄

[@MalekitGJ]

@@sailorstar3148 ok, how it excuses the stoling?

[@AsianEgg]

Last story: It's like a person without legs asking the people around them to stop walking.

[@fdm2155]

Yeah, constantly peeping on the neighbors then whining because their baby is visible? Crazy!

[@MyHandleIsGood]

More like chopping off their legs because they might be using them in their own home

[@RiveroftheWither]

Speaking as a mentally disabled person who also has physical health, I fully agree. Now if they invited me over, knowing fully what issues I have then yes, I would expect them as my hosts to be a little accommodating. You wouldn't invite someone with and peanut allergy to a dinner party and only offer peanut and peanut contaminated food to them, you would make sure to have 100% peanut free food. However that's not what's happening, op is on her property and they are on theirs, to expect op to accommodate their issues to THAT extent is entirely unreasonable. Especially considering that this is a human baby they are complaining about! They're not a object that can be stored away upon request, they're a tiny person that requires constant care and attention. What do these people expect to be done, keep the baby inside even though time outside is important for health and mental development? Mark of which parts of their own home is visible and never go in there? What about when the kiddo becomes mobile? Do they expect op to literally lock them up in a room so they don't have to see a toddler run by a window? Is the kid not allowed to have a freaking birthday?! Tobe frank, those people are insane and might not even deserve kids if they can't view ops baby as a living, breathing person

[@jeroenkoomen3305]

"You are not allowed to eat that cookie because I am on a diet"

[@Sanodi21]

I mean, you say that but there was a prorevenge story that rslash did that dealt with someone that was exactly like that

[@yelyahfan88x94]

Why do I feel like Jess is insecure enough that if he rejected her she would have gotten offended? I just feel like that immaturity in the prank doesn't end there.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Agreed.

[@alexisross9343]

Yeah. It was beyond loaded.

[@calculator4482]

Yea. Now that op is ignoring her she would totally harass him and say she loves him and Kim got her confused

[@rickpearlstein6421]

I hear ya. Her girlfriend had been saying this for the last couple of YEARS? Yeah, it was obviously his only intention. SMH.

[@raquelwoodard4208]

Nieghbor: "How dare you play with your infant in your own living room!"

[@mbyerly9680]

And I hurt my back twisting over my balcony so I could see, too!

[@impossiblegrl3698]

There was an update/edit to the 1st story. Jillian didn't go into OP's room. Her gf and one of the other roommates did. She ate some of the rice (which gf and roommate got off OP's mini fridge) and some of the sauce got on the rice. She apologized for what happened. *edit to fix grammar/spelling*

[@louisa5342]

Oh so it's 100% the GF (and other roommates) fault? That makes sense

[@izumisagiri]

you cannot resist the deliciousness of kare-kare with rice and bagoong lol, thats why they stole the dish

[@gemrock]

Could someone please share a link

[@nna_]

I guess they just want to pass the blame to op bc they have guilty conscience for giving the roommate the stew

[@supervegito2277]

OP is still in the clear, but those "Friends" arent...

[@MadMusic26]

Oh my god, does that lady expect to just never see a pregnant person or baby again? And looking in op’s living room and backyard? That’s nuts.

[@KnittingGirl28]

Sure sounds like it. I get she's hurting cause she can't have a child like she really wants. But she should understand that it is not the problem of her neighbors, and it's not like op is going around bragging about how wonderful it is to be a mom or whatever. She needs to accept that the world goes on, and if she cant stand seeing children or babies then move to a neighborhood with lots of older retired folks? Less chance of being triggered .

[@samanthajeffers9339]

Agreed. Hopefully that lady gets some sort of therapy, because she’s clearly hurting. But taking it out on her neighbor isn’t the way to go, and it doesn’t help anyone.

[@Reuraku]

One thing that really rubbed me the wrong way, how is asking about a kiss the same as a hook up, yes it can lead to it but it could simply be an admission of romantic feelings, which is not I repeat not the same as 'just wanting to get into someone's pants'. OP did not as to cop a feel, or to go to his bedroom or anything of the sort. Yes a kiss is intimate but it's not dry humping.

[@QuietChaos1996]

I totally agree. My parents called me and a guy hanging out a "date" because he showed romantic interest in me, but I'm a demisexual (I even explained to my mom that I need to develop an emotional connection with someone before I date them). I've known him, kinda, for three-ish years when I was working at a gas station. He was flirting with me in front of my mom. He met my parents on our first hang out that was outside of me working. I personally told him, more than a few times, that we were just hanging out as friends on the drive to his other place of work. When we got to his place of work where he's a chef, he introduced me to his coworkers as his "date." Then ordered me dessert without asking me first. He did ask *after* he ordered the dessert for me. Visited a couple monuments, but I only asked what the stars on one monument were for and he explained that it was for police officers. Then the paw prints were of the K-9's who worked with law enforcement. HOWEVER, when we visited the monument for the fallen warriors in war, he just explained in great detail about a stupid boat. Never asked. Just assumed that I wanted to learn about a f*cking BOAT [when I did not]. I zoned out and just nodded my head and made "uh-huh" noises in the right places. I really didn't care.

[@HandleBeTaken]

Sad thing about this story is that the best friend probably just got the idea in Jess's head, and now that OP has stood her up it might feel confirmed for Jess. "Oh, he was just trying to get into my pants. See, now that he knows it's off the table, he won't help me out like a friend." Don't get me wrong, OP's totally in his right, but it's just sad to know that a friendship is lost due to a manipulative "best" friend and miscommunication.

[@songbird-wj4yj]

@@HandleBeTaken it is a little sad, but honestly it’s good that OP saw what his friend was really like. Sure, her best friend put the idea in her head, but she’s a grown woman capable of controlling her own actions. Why would she even test OP like that in the first place if they’re such good friends? I don’t know, just doesn’t seem like a huge loss on OP’s part. The situation does suck, but I think it’ll be better for OP in the long run to have that “friend” out of his life

[@NEPAAlchey]

This story is more and more common. How womenhave become more sex position and simultaneously shame men for even asking a girl out as assault baffles me. Like, there are stories of women getting violently angry when turned down and trying to cancel a guy and also stories of a guy simply asking for a date getting cancelled for "harrassment". The future is literal consent forms for male/female interaction at this rate. Oh wait, women can retroactively revoke previously given consent if they regret it later. I pity zoomer men. They have some 5D chess ahead of them.

[@MLWJ1993]

@@NEPAAlchey Nah, just stay single unless you get together with someone you've known for years & is dependable. 😐

[@abrahamthebewildered1448]

Ha! You would think that girl would at least be smart enough to "Test" her friend when the stakes are lower, and not the night before she asked him to help her move. IDK what she was expecting from him. I guess maybe he should have pushed her to the floor and yelled "Ewwwww, get outta here! You're gross," then throw popcorn at her? Asking her respectfully if he can kiss her after she sends him signals so strong that they put commissioner Gordon to shame. . . The nerve! This guy needs to learn how to treat a lady.

[@QuietChaos1996]

(Hope that's sarcasm because I understand you.)

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Seriously, why do that the night before such a huge favor? Simply dumb. I'd say asking respectfully is a good way to treat a person.

[@NEPAAlchey]

Its a no win situation, if he declined she would have either gotten offended and put him on blast, or gotten more aggressive to get the desired reaction. Either way dude was screwed. If a girl you know pulls crazy shit like this, run far and fast.

[@2lickslust451]

@@NEPAAlchey id be gone faster than my father after he saw me when I was born.

[@2lickslust451]

@Chris G most would. I know a lot of people who want to save their V card and stuff like that for marriage.

[@BobBlumenfeld]

The last segment is an instance of true narcissistic entitlement: World, conform to my wishes! And OP's mom sounds like she literally falls over when leaning backwards to please others.

[@jamesnorman9160]

Thing I love with these kinds of people is that they can't help but show their true nature sooner or later. Like RSlash said, that lady needs help if she is that triggered by the sight of a baby, not by sending her husband out to harass their neighbours.

[@annaisbach9729]

I can totally understand that it hurts to see a pregnant woman and her other child when you want a baby yourself but can't get pregnant. BUT to demand them to move out of your way instead of looking the other way and build a higher fence (that's what I would do in the first place if I was in her shoes) is just insane! What a crazy person. A what a spineless husband to try to accommodate her by yelling at their neighbours day by day... smh

[@1bendykat]

Rslash: “if you think it’s not your fault, I guess you’re just nuts!” Me: Like… peanuts?

[@shinymainespoon]

Exactly!

[@MIKasKiHy]

Heeey

[@orbeezeater]

@@olehart5850 “Toyota’s are not toys, there are cars” _it’s their name /lh_

[@vibe1270]

I thought that too 😂

[@Richard_Nickerson]

No, they're legumes

[@Juju2927]

As someone who's allergic to peanuts, I always take measure to verify what is inside the food I eat in case I'd do an anaphylactic shock. Which means that I certainly make sure to NOT touch food that isn't mine or that I don't know what is inside. The only case OP would be the butthole would be if he was the one offering said food to her knowing there was peanut in and knowing her allergies, since people tend to trust close ones offering food to not fuck up- (and also the straight up lying on the content of the food, but y'know). EDIT : I corrected the comment since I thought *Jilian* was the one who blewed up to OP, not Trish. So : OP : 0/5 Jilian : 0/5 (if she said nothing) Trish : 3/5 Butthole

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@Juju2927]

@@Aethian Doesn't change the score on the entitlement. In fact, it makes it even worst since she's asking to OP to pay for the Epipen and not the girlfriend who's the one who gave the food.

[@driedguide4236]

Looked up the story and there has been an update (Edit/update: So I visited Jilian in the hospital today and she apologized to me for what happened. It was an accident. She said she didn't eat my kare-kare but took some rice. She didn't realize that some sauce got on the rice bowl, so there was clearly a cross contamination. It wasn't her who went in my room, it was Trish and another housemate, Ian. I will be charging them for the stolen beer and food.) So Jilian's Girlfirend get's the A points in my book for blowing up at OP for her actions

[@sailorstar3148]

@@Juju2927 But ....... it was the other roommates demanding that OP pay for the Epipen

[@zenopath1]

Yeah, it doesn't surprise me that they trespassed into his room and ate his food, that's typical entitled roommate stuff. They probably think everything in the apartment is shared including food. They probably think it's the OP's responsibility to alert everyone to the fact that his food contains nuts (I don't agree with that= but I can almost see their point of view on it. The OP had a right to have private food he didn't want to be "shared"... But what I don't get is why Trish would risk her life that way. If I had deadly allergy to a food item that is commonplace, I too would be extremely paranoid about eating any food not 1) prepared by me, or 2) in which the person responsible for it has personally confirmed that it is safe. My guess is they were probably all stoned and had a bout of the munchies. Maybe that is why they think OP is at fault. "We can't be held accountable for our own actions because we smoke a lot of pot, you need to be careful of what you leave lying around."

[@joraluzmala]

There is an update to the first peanut allergy story: Jilian called OP an apologized for her friends behaviour, turns out it was Trish who took the stew and fed it to her Also OP is getting a lock for their mini fridge

[@sailorstar3148]

So it was the girlfriend and the other roommates that nearly cost her life and they to blame OP for it

[@QuietChaos1996]

They shouldn't just get a lock for the mini fridge, but also their ROOM.

[@your_local_questerian]

i think the roommates imo deserved a higher score than jillian. yes, jillian was an idiot but honestly, the roommates are worse because her friends (especially her girlfriend) gave her the food and nearly k worded her.

[@LouvuiLove]

The last story. The neighbors need to move or the couple with the baby need to get restraining order or something against them. The mum was wrong to tell her daughter to apologise. She’s in her own home and can do as she likes with her child

[@barbarastorball2117]

The fact that OP is expected to hide the child simply to hide the child simply to not make the neighbor feel uncomfortable is not possible. The neighbor either needs to get a therapist or she needs to realize that is that she may need to find a new place to move to because OP is doing what she wants with her child on her property.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

They need therapy, cause where ever they move they'll still be pregnant women and babies

[@kristashafer93098]

I saw that story posted on George Takai’s page. OP added that her mother later told her that before getting pregnant with and having OP, she too struggled with infertility. So that pads experience made her more sensitive to how the neighbors must be feeling.

[@angycat4262]

"sure mom, I'll just stuff my baby on a box and move her crib to the bathroom and never let her play on her own backyard since I should be more accommodating to my nosy entitled neighbor"

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@the truth OP stated it was her mom that made her sunbathe....... so it's probably some other bad parenting trying to bend to someone else that was causing the anemia....I think you are right that it's interesting she doesn't have those same anemia problems now that she is away from her mom's care. 🤔 so I think you could be onto something

[@axepagode33626]

Friend makes a move and blames me story: Why on Earth did you apologize to her? She needs to apologize to you. She was the one being manipulative, hurtful, and wrong. Yet, you apologized to her. That's ridiculous. Don't ever do that again OP.

[@LadyOMyth]

I can't imagine doing what that girl did in that third story. As a romantic, if I'm going to hint to guy that I want him to make a move or if I'm going to make a move myself, it's not going to be as a test but only if I actually want a romantic relationship with that guy. What she did was cruel and childish and OP handled it the right way. If he was only trying to get into her pants, he would've forcibly kissed her or immediately try to dominate her. But no. He ASKED if he could kiss her. That's just so sweet and thoughtful. Who wouldn't want to be with a guy who shows respect like that? Also with that, you should be showing respect right back and testing him is not respectful at all.

[@alexhulea2735]

i can't imagine anything dumber than 'make him believe you want to do something with him; make it as suggestive and believable as possible. a man who is platonic will OF COURSE refuse you.' the mental gymnastics of that test are in 'probably too stupid to breathe and walk at the same time' territory

[@samuelsoliday4381]

@@alexhulea2735 To put it in tvtropes "what an idiot" terms. *You'd expect:* For the girl to directly confront/ask OP about this issue and take note of how he responds to said confrontation. *Instead:* She tries to "test" him by being as suggestive as possible and concludes out loud that he was trying to get in her pants because he asked for permission to kiss her. *Even worse:* She decides to do this test the night before he was supposed to do her a favor by helping her move. *As a result:* OP is insulted and decides to not show up to help her move.

[@julzerbug]

I would be the crazy sister wanting to role up on the bitch 🤣

[@Parasax1]

I don't agree with him doing the right thing. He shouldnt be apologizing, since he did nothing wrong. He should hava just said "look, i like you, and i'd love a relashionship with you, but this is not ok" or along those lines. By apologizing, and because oh the girls twisted mind, i think it went across like "ha he knew he fucked up, and now he's trying to lie to me again just to hook up". I feel those kind of people deserve to be alone or to have someone else do that to them, so that they can understand how mean and traumatic it can be. He even asked PERMISSION to kiss her. Like he did everything perfectly and respectfully, and now he may think that he was in the wrong or something and never try again if not after the girl goes for it.

[@LadyOMyth]

@@Parasax1 Him apologizing wasn't what I meant. He was respectful and asked her if he could kiss her, that's what I meant by handling it right. If a guy asked to kiss me and I was clearly giving him signals, I wouldn't get mad. Of course, I also wouldn't be beating around the bush and would've asked him outright if he could kiss me. And, I mean, he only asked to kiss her. He didn't make any suggestion to her that he wanted to have sex. Unless that's a new thing now? Two people kiss, guess they have to have sex?

[@SuperCleopatrajones]

Platonic friend story: She doesn't deserve OP'S friendship! Her and her friend are !@$%$

[@Schweighsr]

So Jess had move out of her apartment quickly because "her situation with her roommates has become highly unstable due to irreconcilable differences, so she was in a rush to leave." Gee, I wonder how that happened? Maybe she pulled the same high-school level tricks on them, too?

[@sourisvoleur4854]

Good eye. I'll bet you're right.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Just the other day, there was a story about a grandma stealing her grandchild and trying to get their DNA tested. The overwhelming response was "why didn't they call the cops? Of course she's never seeing that kid again." So, that's a resounding NTA on cutting them off for DNA testing without your consent.

[@kristinicole2055]

Yea that story was absolutely wild. Who tf do you think you are? Some people are beyond willing to love and raise a child that’s not theirs’, and it’s nobody else’s business otherwise. You know?

[@SevCaswell]

I would be reporting my parents for assulting my child if they did a dna test without my permission

[@EarthIsNotFlat]

@@SevCaswell Except they needn’t assault the child to do a DNA test. Just swabbing an old bottle or dirty diaper in the trash is sufficient.

[@warsongAro]

paternity fraud is a real thing so the DNA test did not bother me, but being racist itself is a reason to you not see my child.

[@RWAsur]

I have a great example of that 4th story. I work in a frameshop. I once had a lady working here who had a miscarriage. We frame baby photos, announcements, and cross stitch birth dates all the time. She didn't get mad at fucking customers for bringing in things regarding their children, which is basically how the OP's neighbor is going about it. Instead, she asked management and the rest of her team to try and handle these art pieces while she was going through therapy! The rest of the world doesn't stop because you're having a very bad time, even if its a helpless situation! And the story had a good ending, my coworker was able to become pregnant again and have her little girl.

[@Bladedcloud6159]

*4th story

[@RWAsur]

@@Bladedcloud6159 thanks lol lost track

[@sourisvoleur4854]

@@RWAsur Great story, KN. Your co-worker did it right. And I'm happy for her that she was able to have a child.

[@morgandouglas6014]

I think OP‘s mom needs an a-hole score for not having OP‘s back. If I were OP I would’ve threatened to call the police.

[@TheSeaofScience]

He didn’t even try anything sexual. He ->asked

[@KnittingGirl28]

That's the worst part, this guy seemed so sweet and she just trampled all over that and basicly made him feel like trash for it. He's better off with out her to be honest

[@t.matthies3049]

@@KnittingGirl28 I know. Honestly, I wish more guys were like him (asking rather than assuming he can do something, and taking no for an answer should be a lot more common than it is).

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Those neighbors in the last story are genuinely insane. Telling people what to do in their own home? Calling your private property public? And the mom agreeing!? How does infertility excuse bad behavior?

[@Takokujin07]

No wonder God flipped the off switch on her uterus lmaoo

[@thebaldcat6708]

I can’t tell if Rslash calling the thief’s “nuts” was a joke or unintentional

[@shinymainespoon]

maybe both?

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@shinymainespoon It literally can't be both in this instance. I think it was a joke, but peanuts aren't even nuts.

[@md.abulkalamazad6847]

@@Richard_Nickerson peanut its int the name

[@JosieJOK]

@@md.abulkalamazad6847 Peanuts are legumes, not nuts. The vernacular name having “nut” in it is not proof of anything.

[@md.abulkalamazad6847]

@@JosieJOK i always thought they were nuts but so there pease?

[@TetraSky]

First story, NTA. Imagine stealing someone's food. In their personal fridge. In THEIR personal room. And being mad at them for it. They shouldn't eat other people's food. They are responsible for their own wellbeing. Stealing food without permission that is not labelled when you know you're allergic to certain food, is like playing Russian Roulette. Your roommates are completely in the wrong here and trying to gaslight you on this.

[@lonelyronin2428]

Dont have to. My siblings do that all the, despite my parents and me getting on their backsides about. They do it everytime I go to work, despite me hiding them in outragous places. I now put it in my mom's room, which has a doorknob that needs a key to unlock. My locking trunk and new locks come monday.

[@wookiemellon2038]

The girl who said he was getting into her pants. She said want to do something and when he asked. She said I don’t know something. She was implying that and because he said yes she was like well actually no. That was very manipulative. And I would have been irritated

[@JediLadyMisty]

Exactly!

[@NyxyPixie]

I feel like if anything he should have gotten points for trying to clarify and asking but well... I'm not a jerk who tests my friends so I dunno what passes for logic in such a mind 🤷🏽

[@kryptopolis2196]

I was angry that he kept apologizing lmao, I undestand that it is akward but he didnt do anything wrong 🤦‍♂️

[@youtubeuniversity3638]

Story 3... he asked for a kiss. A freaking kiss. The freak does that have to do with getting in or out of anyone's freaking pants?

[@ravyn9380]

That last story is worrisome. This neighbor is DELIBERATELY looking into their house. How are you gonna tell me that they can only see in from the 2nd floor & she's always up there on the balcony? She's making herself upset, probably taking it out on her husband, & then he comes to yell at OP. Yes, infertility must be frustrating & stressful, but she should know better than to behave the way she is.

[@Annie_Annie__]

Last story: that story is infuriating. I’ve dealt with infertility for many years. It SUCKS. When I was at my worst point of it I was in a deep abyss of depression and it felt like the universe was putting pregnant women and new moms in front of me constantly just to rub it in my face that no matter how I tried I wasn’t, and couldn’t be, one of them. I was bitter, angry, and just indescribably depressed. But I also knew that this was all a me problem and not a problem for them. The only consideration I asked for was that family and close friends not blindside me with their surprise pregnancy announcements. That way I could cry and be upset and feel how felt in private, then be genuinely happy for them with the rest of the family a few days later when they officially announced it. Most people understood this. But I definitely didn’t expect people just not to have babies within my sight or hide their pregnancies from me. If I was having a sensitive day where I couldn’t cope, I just stayed inside, away from my front windows (lots of people walk by my house with strollers), avoided tv (*so* many diaper, formula, baby-product commercials as well as birth-control, etc ads) and made myself a kind of mental fort for a day or two until I felt like I could put on a brave face and cope. Because I’m aware that the world doesn’t revolve around me and my medical issues or mental health struggles.

[@RashBold]

Hmmm...kare-kare. I love that dish! According to an edit to the story, it's Trish and another roommate stole the dish and rice. Jillian only the rice but it had some sauce on it. Jillian later apologized for what happened.

[@QuietChaos1996]

I don't think that Trish is aware of something called CROSS CONTAMINATION. X'D

[@l.tc.5032]

Jillian shouldn't have to apologize. It wasn't her fault and I'm not sympathetic towards OP. It doesn't matter where the food is stored if someone in the house has an allergy that severe you need to label your food. Accidents happen, and given that OP's fridge was rummaged through it just shows that private spaces aren't as private as you think and you need to be careful.

[@GrinGrim87]

Story 1: NTA Just thinking about it makes me mad. Ofc you're NTA, THEY ARE. You steal food out of MY fridge but it's MY fault that Jill almost died

[@shinymainespoon]

Hey I almost killed myself with an explosive I stole from the government! Totally the government's fault!

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@locusxe1411]

@@Aethian op still isn’t an asshole regardless so

[@maieen2665]

2:02 "... and if you don't think it's your fault, then that's just nuts!" That shouldn't have made me laugh... ETA: Two "nuts" in one story!? RSlash, you mad lad!

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Peanuts are legumes 🤷‍♂️

[@ChrisMaxfieldActs]

@@Richard_Nickerson And tomatoes are fruit. So what?

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@ChrisMaxfieldActs Notice my shrug? "So what?" Exactly 🙄 Stop trying to start arguments over nothing.

[@gerrard1144]

Jillian: *is allergic to peanuts* Also Jillian: *steal OP's food in his personal minifridge and almost died* Trish: YOU ALMOST KILLED HER, PAY FOR THE EPIPEN! Trish, i think you need to go to the mental hospital. Jillian stole OP's food. It's his personal space, you can't just enter OP's room without telling OP, and Jillian literally stole it. OP, NTA.

[@lancerevell5979]

OP needs new better roommates. Get quit of those thieves!

[@hitmonkey2984]

@@lancerevell5979 all of them. Don't take a theif's side either.

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@sailorstar3148]

But the update says that Jillian didn't know that the soup was OP's and she didn't know that the other roommates steal it for OP's room

[@gemrock]

@@sailorstar3148 could you share a link?

[@ZombieSazza]

“Then she asked for Jess’s address, which I declined to give her” Mad respect for OP’s sister, because OP did absolutely nothing wrong and wanted to rain down hell on Jess on behalf of her brother.

[@Sterncold]

First story : NTA. OP need to find new housemates and possibly not dumb ones. They just revealed to OP that's they're thieves and shouldn't be trusted. Second story : NTA. What they did was disrespectful for OP's wife. Also it's his child he can do that if he want to and i wouldn't blame him for it since how shitty they are. Third story : NTA. First of... WHO DOES THAT ? Like seriously... what she did was basically tempting OP and he took his chance, just like anyone would in that kind of situation ! Heck he even asked her if he could kiss her, not something everyone would do. OP would be better cutting her off entirely, that's not how a friend should act. Fourth story : NTA. It's their problem, not OP's problem and she is right, if they're so upset about it they need therapy and also to stop looking at OP's home. What they're doing is an invasion of privacy and OP could sue them for it.

[@aceospades6570]

Oh boy... I think all these stories deserve a response First story: I read about the update and learned that Jillian did not actually take directly from OP. In fact, she didn't even go into their room. What happened was a cross-contamination between the kare-kare and some rice (both of which were OP's). So this isn't really her fault. The other roommates are, as rSlash put it, nuts! I mean, they admitted they were trying to steal beer from OP and ended up stealing beer AND food. They are at fault for everything. Second story: This one just feels a bit off - for two reasons. 1: I'm not exactly sure how DNA tests work, but how would OP's parents go behind his and his wife's back and manage to get a DNA test? And 2: who on earth makes comments like "I am so glad to confirm you are indeed my grandson" especially when at the home of the people whose backs you went behind? I'll need a bit more confirmation here. But, if everything does check out, yeah those parents don't deserve to be in the kid's life. In fact, I would have suggested preventing them from seeing the kid long before this happened, with their nice comments about the wife. Third story: Maybe Kim did have suspicions. Maybe Jess was concerned and wanted to follow through with the test. There are MUCH better ways to test if someone is a creep than what she did. I know rSlash gave the curly fry example and while it is a good example, my first thought was more like "there are better ways to determine if someone is a thief than offering them stuff and taking it back when they accept", which is basically what Jess did. She's the one who initiated it! OP just went along with it. Fourth story: Those people are insane; but you do see people like this all the time. I'm sure we all have seen people with the mentality of, "I am incapable of doing that thing so therefore, no one is allowed to". Give me a break. I have a buddy who has a condition that prevents him from driving, but do you think he yells at people who have driver's license? Exactly, no he doesn't.

[@erinnix3197]

I agree. Today's stories are insane.

[@montamagic541]

Mail in DNA tests are such a common thing that people give them as gifts. The parents would only need a few seconds alone with the baby to get a sample. But I agree that no one talks like that unless they're in a M. Night movie

[@gmun2248]

All they would need for a DNA test would be a hair, or (most likely) a cheek swab - really (/scarily) easy to quickly rub a cotton swab inside the baby's mouth, then put it in a sterile bag/tube they would have brought it in. They wouldn't need to test the son's DNA, they'd submit their own to check for a match. (Although technically if they needed the son's DNA, stealing his toothbrush or taking a piece of hair (e.g. from a hairbrush, or similar). I suppose if they're whacko enough to do that because in some twisted way they do want a grandchild (as long as they know it's theirs), you could argue she was expressing relief - or happiness? - that he was really her grandchild, obviously unaware anyone could hear. The whole story is f×cked up, so I wouldn't get hung up on what she _says!!_

[@gaialanzer81]

First Story: I remember hearing, in Canada, you can go to jail if a violent burglar or murderer is injured or killed in your house, even if their death or injury is due to self-defense. Prankster: Usually guys tend to be wrong when they use the "she was leading me on" (usually as an excuse for something piggish they do to the girls/women), but in this case, the girl was definitely leading him on. He didn't initiate that confrontation. She cozied up to him acting like she was into him, and I could imagine it's not impossible to fall for a friend that close and that into you. Lot of couples and married folk are each others best friends. What I'm trying to say, there was no need for deception. If she truly was a close friend, she could've come out and just ask him without pretending to role play interest to get it out of him. Last Story: It's none of the neighbors damn business what the OP does in HER house with HER children. Definitely NOT the butthole. And yeah, why the hell do they keep LOOKING at and INTO the OP's house?

[@terencepaul7475]

Story 1:Same here in the Philippines, the Law expects innocent citizens to just run away or cower in fear if another person is trying to kill us. There was this police officer who was attacked by a teenager with a knife, he got stabbed multiple times, so this officer had no choice but to draw his service firearm and shoot the teenager. In the end the kid was hospitalized in critical condition but he lived, meanwhile the police officer WAS JAILED. And all this was even recorded with clear video proof that the officer was just acting in VERY CLEARLY SELF DEFENSE.

[@livingbygrace5501]

We are allowed to use reasonable force in Canada.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

rSlash is right... I was completely platonic friends with a girl for nearly a decade before anything happened between us. We then dated for like a year, broke up, didn't speak for a while, then went back to being platonic friends again. It can happen.

[@xShadowbane451]

I actually have a platonic friend and we work together. I'll sometimes bring her food (Or vise versa) and of course give hugs. But here where the shit begins, someone at work has been telling everyone we are sleeping together. Which of course, we most definitely are not. We both got in trouble for this at work, was put on different shifts and if we work together can't touch at all. So pretty much our harasser is getting nothing done to her, while we are getting punished for something that's none of their business to begin with. Which is always fun.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@xShadowbane451 They can't force you not to make consensual contact, I'd talk to HR

[@KolkoCat]

You should have read the update to the first story. Jillian didn't blame OP for anything. She go in the room, her friend (Trish) did. So it was her friend who poisoned her.

[@JadeAnnabelArt]

Story 1: Jilian and the roommates are in the wrong here. It's like breaking into your neighbours house and being surprised that the guard dog attacked you. Story 2: Parents showed no trust not acceptance for their son or his wife. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Story 3: I think the saddest part is it wasn't even, him leaning into kiss her, or him groping her. He did the most gentlemanly thing ever, he asked politely if he could kiss her. He didn't assume, he ASKED. The fact she jumped to conclusions tells me she was fishing for a reason to hate him. Or too eager to listen to her buddy with her 'he must be a creep.' I find it so stupid that after pulling that on him, she expected him to help her. Story 5: This one really ticked me off so using paragraphs. This is where the trigger warning debate comes into play. The world can not cater to every single trigger warning out there, some are too obscure, but just as strong as the more common ones. There are warnings you can avoid, (For instance, reading the label of food before eating it, if you're allergic to something. Or looking at the rating of a movie before watching.) Others are a lot harder to avoid, but you know what grown adults do with functioning brain cells? They control their intake of content, say like, if dogs scare you, move into a pet free apartment, when you go out, keep your distance from dog walkers by crossing the street. Maybe if looking at a pregnant woman causes you to fly into a furious rage, so strong you can't even tell your neighbour why you're upset, you should have checked out the neighbourhood before moving in, or installed blinds, or talked calmly with the neighbour about how it's upsetting and you'd appreciate a level of courtesy. Not banning them from the yard or anything, just, don't flaunt you have a kid. Though that isn't OP's responsibility to listen. I just, yes it's upsetting to be infertile, but to get irrationally angry at someone else? It's the individuals responsibility to monitor their intake. You can't watch an R rated movie and get mad it had naughty words, it had a warning. You can't move next door to a pregnant lady and get mad she has a kid.

[@ElvhenRogue]

Jillian wasn't the one who stole the food and only had some when she got home later when her girlfriend offered some, there was an update that rslash didn't read

[@sailorstar3148]

Actually Jillian didn't know that the other roommates were stealing OP's food from their mini fridge she wasn't there when they were stealing.

[@hydra2295]

About the baby story: NTA It’s true that when you are having psychological problems seeing things that relate to that is awful. I have depression, and when I was on my worst crisis just seeing people being happy or getting achievements hurt so much because I spent 3 years locked in my room. But did I demand that everyone stopped living? No. Because that was my problem. If she doesn’t want to see babies or pregnancies than she needs to move to an apartment or a secluded house. The neighborhood isn’t hers, and she can’t mess with people’s life’s. Also, the baby will grow. There is 18 years of children things to come in that household.

[@DeanDraxon8752]

The one where the girl thought OP only wanted into her pants- He could have just went in for a kiss if he really just wanted to sleep with her. Instead, he asked because he didn’t want to ruin their friendship if he tried to kiss her and she didn’t reciprocatez

[@NyxyPixie]

Yeah you would figure he reacted in the best way possible...

[@sourisvoleur4854]

He was the perfect gentleman. The friend (and her friend) were, as rSlash likes to say, "toxic".

[@Gypsygray]

Tell Paul to tell his wife if she doesn’t stop invading your privacy you’re going to call the cops on them for being peeping toms.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Exactly, some places even have laws specifically against peeping toms

[@FerventLotus]

Story 1: They won't go to the cops because they would have to admit to the fact that they violated their room mate's privacy and that they were opening his fridge to look for beer, and even if an agreement was to label everything, if something wasn't labeled, then Jilian shouldn't have ate from it, and they shouldn't have taken it. So don't pay.. they can't sue because fault is on them. They can't call the police, because they would be trespassed.

[@LukielsAngel]

R/slash, it was his secretary but yes also his friend. And Jim Carrey's character said he would have gotten him 10K, but (shrugs) details.

[@randheermallawaarachchi4914]

I think that Kim deserves a BH score as well

[@megadrako2763]

(Story 1) I'm deadly allergic to peanuts and the going to a known peanut eater's room and eating their food (and then giving it to someone else) is such a bad idea, I never had to stay in a place where I had to ask someone to label their stuff (especially in their own room where I should never be in without their permission) but if you have that then you should still ask about it whenever taking something or just don't take it because the consequences of it being peanuts aren't worth it.

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@QuietChaos1996]

But it was in OP'S FREAKING ROOM AND MINI FRIDGE! Trish, Jillian's gf, and another roommate, Ian, had gone into OP's room and stole beer and the Kare-Kare. I don't think OP should label anything in HIS fridge that is in HIS room because nobody should be in that room other than OP and anyone that OP is dating. Trish offered Jillian rice when she got home and didn't realize that there is such a thing as CROSS CONTAMINATION.

[@megadrako2763]

@@QuietChaos1996 I agree only op and people they allow in there should be in their room and thus there should be no need to label stuff anyway

[@megadrako2763]

@@Aethian oh ok thanks but Jillian is a thief but an unaware thief at that so I still don't blame her

[@sailorstar3148]

@@megadrako2763 Hmm...... Jillian didn't steal it was their girlfriend and the other roommates that stole from OP and Jillian didn't know that they stole from them

[@TetraSky]

Third story : Almost any guy, in that situation, would think the same. Even if they weren't trying to "get in their pants" from the get go. It's horrible of her to play with you like that as a "test". And the guy can't play the plausible deniably card for too long either because then if she really was interested, she will think he's spineless. There's literally no winning for men in situations like that. NTA.

[@samuelsoliday4381]

tbh I would've spent the time OP spent apologizing to explain to her exactly how stupid her chosen method of "testing" me was. During the "test" in question I would've been more annoyed than aroused with her "I'm gonna send signals instead of being direct" approach. Probably would've snapped "Okay, seriously, cut it out. If you want something from me, be direct about it." or something like that.

[@MyHandleIsGood]

Where was Kim's rating for getting Jess to do that?

[@holyhelga]

i would put a lock on the room as the OP's room mates clearly cant be trused not to tresspass

[@moony2543]

Hey. I’ve had a pretty bad day so far, seeing your notif just cheered me up. Thanks rSlash

[@arianaready2929]

I hope your day gets better, you got this

[@lucindathegreat733]

Sending good vibes and I hope your day gets better 🌠

[@thefreakshowsys]

Rslash is the best and can make ANYONE’S day better =) also nice pfp I love undertale ^^

[@Walton_FURY]

Aw

[@spin_iv763]

I hope it gets better muchacho

[@kurogames9358]

The roomate that had the reaction in an update said she didnt want op to pay for an epipen she thought some of the sause got on her rice and thats what happened

[@QuietChaos1996]

Trish doesn't realize that CROSS CONTAMINATION is a thing. X'D

[@brainjuice6931]

Hmmm...kare-kare. I love that dish! According to an edit to the story, it's Trish and another roommate stole the dish and rice. Jillian only the rice but it had some sauce on it. Jillian later apologized for what happened.

[@0rphaneye]

I hope Jess watches this kind of stuff so she can hear about how she hurt OP and her behavior was foolish and not very acceptable.

[@QuietChaos1996]

According to an edit to the story, it's Trish and another roommate stole the dish and rice. Jillian only the rice but it had some sauce on it. Jillian later apologized for what happened.

[@0rphaneye]

@@QuietChaos1996 I'm talking about the girl who tricked OP into asking to kiss her, not the food thieves.

[@dracko158]

Roommates: "Apologize and pay for the EpiPen even though we stole from you!!" OP: *"NO."* Roommates: *Surprised Pikachu Face*

[@QuietChaos1996]

According to an edit to the story, it's Trish and another roommate stole the dish and rice. Jillian only the rice but it had some sauce on it. Jillian later apologized for what happened.

[@otravis676]

Liar liar it was 5 grand and Jim Carrey responds " I would have got him ten"

[@H3xx99]

Rslash! You're making me feel old man, saying Liar Liar is an old movie. Lol

[@garykun3]

So let me get this straight. Op's housemates just stresspass into his Room looking for a beer inside of his personal mini fridge, saw the Kare-kare and decided to eat it? And when your friend got the allergic reaction from it, they automatically decide that its your fault?

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@QuietChaos1996]

It wasn't Jillian who did that. It was Trish, her gf, and Ian (another roommate). Trish offered Jillian some rice from the Kare-Kare and then Jillian went into anaphylactic shock. If anything, Trish is 100% at fault for putting her girlfriend at risk. Thus, SHE should pay for the EpiPen. Not OP.

[@yurluv_j3918]

She really said : Ooo whats thiss …….. let’s eat it (Almost dies ) UMMM EXCUSE ME YOU ALMOST MADE ME DIE TF PAY ME FOR ALMOST DYING

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@TheImaggine]

I understand that infertility is hard and all but that problem is on your , not other people. They arrived while OP was waiting so what the heck was she supposed to do, abort so they couldn't feel bad? Either get a surrogate or adopt. It's not a hard thing to do if you're having these issues. don't dump these issues on others just because you dont want to feel responsable.

[@evadedenbach1226]

Exactly.

[@jacobfuller6530]

the curly fry analogy was great, that made me smile lol.

[@darthmaul8278]

I can't believe OP would be such a creep as to ask someone who is acting like they want a relationship for a relationship!

[@snoworveins1212]

God I hate when people say that "You can't understand because you can't/aren't ____" because that person just discards everything the other person says even though sometimes people don't have to directly experience what you do to understand, or even just to help. OP was right in the last one, her neighbor needs some therapy and her problem really is more than just the fact that she's infertile if she constantly harasses other people unreasonable.

[@madamplatypus313]

The weirdest part is that by her own logic, the mom wouldn’t understand the neighbors’ situation either, since she’s literally the OP’s mother and OP doesn’t give any indication she was adopted or anything (and even then, she’s clearly a mom/grandma right now).

[@Shadowdancer_Gaming]

There's an update to the first story! Turns out the person with the nut allergy didn't know about the roommates going into the other person's room and went into shock due to cross contamination.( The peanut sauce accidentally got into something else. Lastly the person with the allergy didn't demand the EpiPen replacement it was the friends idea alone.

[@SpartanPrimeDSTY117]

To think that this Jess, someone who is a grown ass adult, did something so childish and cruel to a friend just before her moving day is hillarious to me. I love how she claimed that OP just wanted to get into his pants when SHE was sending all the signals that she wanted to get into HIS. Edit: Also, HE didn't ask for you to snuggle up that close Miss Jess, you made the conscious decision to do that and play vague word games with him.

[@ashh4929]

Exactly, like let me make a complete fool out of you, screw with your emotions, basically accused you of being a creep... But you're still gonna do stuff for me riiiiight? Guess we know who those "irreconcilable differences" with her roommate were caused by. Absolute trash.

[@ToastyNoneofyourbusiness]

That last story reminds me of a bit from Steven Universe, where Peridot tells Garnet to go away because her presence "makes [her] incredibly uncomfortable." Garnet then leashed Peridot to a fence because "her having free reign of the place made ME incredibly uncomfortable."

[@GalliaUchiha]

That last story I hope they start calling the cops on the neighbors when this continues to happen. Don't care if it's hard not being able to get pregnant, that doesn't give you the right to go harass anyone.

[@ConnorElzaim]

Story 3 - Full agree. The friends honestly an asshole through and through. She played a cheap mindgame at the behest of another friend, which makes her little more than an idiotic muppet with someone else's hand controlling her actions. However, the fact that she took OP's attraction as a sign that he wasn't "really" a friend is basically a sign that she has a very black and white view of friendships and...probably men too. Like, it's possible to be attracted to someone and not act on those feelings. Life isn't a romcom. I think OP's better off without that "friend" because this sounds like it was just one of many red flags about her as a person.

[@ShockingPikachu]

You can have attraction in a friendship, doesn’t mean it’s romantic attraction

[@fearandwar6090]

The first group can't be nuts though. If they are than the peanut allergy girl can't be near her friends anymore

[@franl155]

That last story - "If you don't want to be offended by seeing me in my own home or my own garden, stop spying on me." It reminds me of something I read ages ago. Around the early 1900s, a woman who lived at the seaside, on the sea front, complained because some men had taken a rowing boat out to a presumed safe distance and were swimming naked from it. The men, once told, were immediately apologetic, and took the boat out a lot further. A while later the woman was asked if things were ok now, and she said that she could still see the naked men ... with the aid of a small telescope. Some people will contrive to be offended by anything.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Convincing someone that you're interested just to see if they'll react is immature and disrespectful, and it's not that person's fault for showing interest in response.

[@Toongeek45]

The third story is exactly why it seems like we "Never get" your hints ladies! We're afraid of this exact situation! You want to get with me, tell me!

[@elbellebenneth7512]

With the prankster story, a lot of the best relationships I've seen started as sincere friendships. They built a good foundation and when it evolved from friends to partners, it was strong.

[@RisingRevengeance]

Playing with someones feelings like that girl did is just not cool, the guy will have trust issues for years.

[@briangarrow448]

The testing on the guy was just horrible. That was the lowest type of behavior I have heard of.

[@kaidenalexanderthisisme7847]

You are literally the only thing keeping me going during 5 am shifts. I start reloading your page at 6:45 and dont stop till I watch.

[@Aethian]

For all of you going down HARD on Jillian, slash should have read the update. Jillian did NOT steal any of the food. She didn’t even know that the food was OP’s. Her roommates/girlfriend stole the food/beer and then later when Jillian got home she was offered some rice that had gotten soaked from the peanut sauce. Something she didn’t know because she trusted her girlfriend. Jillian is at -1/5 buttholes just like the OP was.

[@Savariable]

Op gets 0/5, Jillian gets 0/5, the girlfriend gets 3/5 at minimum.

[@izumisagiri]

5/5 buttholes for stealing kare-kare.

[@Aethian]

@a d Jillian wasn’t asking for repayment, the thief girlfriend was.

[@sailorstar3148]

@@Aethian plus I don't think Jillian could talk because she was in anaphylactic shock.

[@Aethian]

@@sailorstar3148 The OP visited Jillian in the hospital that’s where he got her side of what happened.

[@hitmonkey2984]

Story 1 OP is not the ahole. Roommates get 3.5/5 Story 2 OP not the ahole. Parents get 2.5/5 Story 3 OP isn't the ahole. Jess gets 3/5 along with Kim. Story 4 OP isn't the ahole. Neighbors get 3/5.

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@hitmonkey2984]

@@Aethian doesn't matter. If you're deathly allergic to a specific food and you know it WASNT IN THE FRIDGE that shit is on you. Association with a thief is as bad as being one. And if she knew she was a thief, that's on her. So yes. Instead of asking a good question like "where did you get that" she just eats it? Yeah. She's still an asshole for not calling Trish out.

[@justicedunham4088]

“How dare you not label the food that I shouldn’t touch anyway because I didn’t pay for it!!”

[@pandersperson4953]

Woah I’ve never been this early to a vid!

[@gamerguy9961]

Me ether

[@crazydoggirlrules6137]

Same here

[@victoes.]

Same here

[@devo9564]

Same

[@elanorleaf9094]

Same

[@Roctev]

The last story: OP needs to set up very obvious cameras aimed at her neighbours windows, when they come round to complain she can say she set them up because she's "uncomfortable about the way his wife is spying on her and her baby" and "wants evidence to show the police, because I fear she might be a child molester with the way she keeps spying on us" that would put some fear in them.

[@KarmaTube5]

3rd story: op if you have anyone threatening and harassing you, make sure you record everything

[@sarahserenityqueen117]

1st story: NTA. Keep a lock on your door from now on and have it to where you need a key to unlock it. Also get new friends. 2nd story: NTA. You were defending your wife. My bestie is currently going through this type of situation. In this case, it's her father and step mother Diane. Diane falsely called DCF on my friend over 20 times because she wants custody of the kids. My friend had no choice but to cut that side of the family off. 3rd story: NTA. Omg wtf is Jess's problem???! What she did was really horrible. I feel so horrible for OP. From his post, it seemed like he really was interested in her and that 'prank' was just really wrong. 4th story: NTA. While I can't say the wife isn't in the wrong, because she is, at the same time, I understand why she acted the way she did to OP. Most people these days are unable to have kids.

[@embrreu]

First Story I Think Its Stupid To Expect OP To Pay For The EpiPen. You Snoop In Someone Elses Stuff, Thats On YOU What Happens To You.

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@QuietChaos1996]

It was Trish and another roommate, Ian, who snooped through OP's room. Also, I think Trish was stupid and didn't realize that CROSS CONTAMINATION is a real thing. Hence how Jillian tried the rice, but gone into anaphylactic shock. Since the juices from the Kare-Kare landed on the rice. Plus, if anything, I think that TRISH should be paying for the EpiPen.

[@FreyaofCerberus]

With that romantic entrapment (cause that's what it was) story there was one thing that stuck out to me. When the girl came onto him his reaction was "Finally" which to me sounds like that perhaps the guy did have secret feelings. Not saying that you can't have feeling for someone and keep things platonic. Just that maybe there were some hidden feelings there. But i'm ace and these things often confuse me, would allo people just instantly be dtf if their long time friend of an appropriately attractive gender made suggestions completely out of the blue? Cause i'd just be confused and maybe a little creeped depending on how they did it. *Edit* To be clear what the girl did was absolutely reprehensible and childish. Just curious about the dynamics at play.

[@ShockingPikachu]

Not typically no. Sometimes DTF is a thing that friends just do coz, why the hell not. Both single and bored so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@FreyaofCerberus]

@@ShockingPikachu Thanks for clarifying, i thought so. You know you're ace when sexy times isn't even on the list of things to do with your bored single friends. :P Movies, games, impromptu karaoke, a plethora of food options? Hells yeah. Sex and/or sex related activities? Nah i'm good thanks haha

[@ShockingPikachu]

@@FreyaofCerberus bruh I’m not even ace (I mean I don’t think I am at least) and like sex is never on the table when I’m hanging out with friends. I just know people who have casual friend sex. Not my cup of tea, I’d much rather just like draw stuff together with friends lmao.

[@FreyaofCerberus]

@@ShockingPikachu haha drawing does sound fun.. for someone with more artistic talent than none 😄. But everyone is different, I always suspected pop culture hyper-sexualized things. But then also I too have friends who are living the hook-up dream. So 🤷‍♀️

[@matthewbrooks5470]

The real villain of the third story is Kim. I understand friends not wanting their friends to be heartbroken, but it sounds a lot like she had already started to convince Jess that OP was just a creep even before the test without, you know, giving him a fair chance. The "chance" she did give him was a test that was rigged against him

[@JosieJOK]

“A test that was rigged against him.” And one that proved nothing. Like Slashy said, friends with benefits are a thing, or OP could have really wanted a relationship. So the test only proved that he’d be willing to kiss her-with her permission! Pisses me off when people do manipulative and juvenile shit like that.

[@mamabanana88]

Also, kare-kare is amazing. 3 buttholes alone for stealing that in the first place.

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@izumisagiri]

5 out of 5 buttholes for stealing kare-kare.

[@sailorstar3148]

@@izumisagiri I would like to try that dish

[@sakatababa]

3rd story: she led him on then got sad because it worked? W T F ? damned if you do, damned if you don't... neurotic, unsecure humans will be the death of us all, mark my words...

[@greatermad8288]

Bro. That first one. You go into my room and take my food and almost died and you want to be at me mad?? HELL NO!!

[@fermantgg7887]

damn when people arent taught actions have consequences

[@Danodan94]

I'd like to point out something for the second story. If you look into OP's account you should find that they are just a karma farmer and their stories are crafted for that rather than genuine tellings of their situation. I beleive they got their account suspended, but idk. So in light of this, OP's mother gets 0/5 buttholes because she doesn't exist as described, and OP gets 1/5 buttholes for lying and feeding off other people's shortsighted validation.

[@floatsam7608]

first story: I would've started labelling EVERY food item I have with "peanuts"

[@JadeAnnabelArt]

I'd be tempted to write 'peanuts' on my door to make sure they get the message

[@emilyellis9399]

AITA: one of the only examinations where a 0 is the desired "perfect score"! 😂

[@rosegomez2966]

You were right, she was trying to trap YOU or set you up! Mean spirited! Break AWAY, you dodged a bullet!

[@stefantsarev4442]

Regarding the Jess story: Such behaviour may be considered juvenile for you, OP, but it may have some horrible consequences. It may lead to severe depression. I have seen men turning into wrecks because a girl had toyed with their feelings. She is a piece of radioactive waste, OP. Throw her out of your life like you would throw a banana peel into a trash bin. She is worth less than the banana peel.

[@divinate9684]

That title is just like, why do people likes this exist.

[@Aethian]

Jillian wasn’t a thief or trespasser, her girlfriend stole the food/beer. Offering her some of the rice after Jillian had gotten home later. Rslash didn’t read the update.

[@Zangoose5]

Regarding the prankster story: I actually had a friend that, when they realized that I might be interested in dating them, just suddenly stopped being friends with me. Despite the fact that I told her that I would respect the boundaries that they set, they just up and left. So unfortunately, there are plenty of people out there in the world that behave like this. Sad as it is.