r/AmITheA**hole My Friend's Girlfriend RAN OVER ME WITH HER CAR!

r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP was run over by a hit-and-run when he was a teenager. This incident completely ruined his life because it slammed his poor family with medical bills and it destroyed his athletic scholarship. Later in life, he's chatting with his friend's girlfriend, and she brags about getting away with a hit-and-run against a teenager when she was younger. OP puts the pieces together and realizes that this is the woman who ran him over when he was a teenager!
00:05 u/AITAcarhitme Better late than never
03:24 u/Ok_Stairs_3264 Manipulative ex
08:38 u/gkdjbg Children have hypothetical fight
12:45 u/Beginning_Staff7654 Here's why its over
🍑 r/AmITheA**hole For Firing My Spoiled Son After He Stole From My Company? • r/AmITheA**hole For Fi...
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[@Hybrid301]

Ashley just wasn’t bragging about doing a hit and run; she was bragging about vehicular homicide. She said it herself. She thought the kid she hit was dead and she fricking laughed about it. Either the meth fried her brain that bad, or she’s not a “recovering addict”

[@annika5893]

Doesn't matter that she probably doesn't have money to pay for the medical bills etc. She deserves a totally sucky outcome.

[@ReigoVassal]

The word you seek is... Psycopath.

[@mysteryman3963]

She deserves to be sued for every single penny, left broke, then to go to jail for a long time, get out and be broke again. She is a psycho and these people deserve the most brutal karmic justice out there. I hope the op is not a doormat and will actually procced with the lawsuit

[@hazeldiez7778]

I think trever from gta 5 wont brag about hitting a high schooler We all know how crazy trevor is

[@ReigoVassal]

@@hazeldiez7778 please don't compare Trevor to her. He's way better than her.

[@Martynde]

OP: "I've been run over" Everybody: "Let it go!" No... you can't and shouldn't let it go.

[@m.j.2578]

the absolute sad part iis OP from that story will likely get nothing most hit and runs have a 3-maybe 4 year window to sue but maybe small claims court if they have ANY texts where she admits to hitting OP(or someone)

[@ReigoVassal]

"Let is go!" "Sure, after i got my legs back."

[@RisingRevengeance]

He absolutely shouldn't let it go but he may have to resort to less legal means if he wants any payback

[@武田ユノ3.0]

Or you can let it "Go" on them, that's quite gonna pain.

[@unknown-fi6fs]

@Not RickRoll 👇 not a rick rool phew

[@RealCoolstriker64]

Op should tell everyone criticizing him : “Ashley was laughing about it when she thought she killed me.” And then just repeat “She thought she killed a high schooler and laughed about it.” Because that’s what they’re defending. And you shouldn’t let them forget that.

[@zally8183]

Is it just me or... Does it sound like Ashley is pure evil? I mean.. she laughed about the thought of killing a random high schooler, that's gotta be psychopathic right?

[@sourisvoleur4854]

Sure sounds psychopathic to me, yes.

[@jiminypickles4308]

Or the meth fried her brain that badly.

[@karenneill9109]

Meth causes brain damage. It’s on of the few drugs that will literally change who you are, permanently. That’s what makes it almost impossible to get off.

[@tonythehappynerd7241]

I agree, those would be red flags

[@heatherbarrier1718]

The girl that got sucked in to a marriage to be a slave got trapped by and escaped a narcissist in under 2 years..you go girl! Most people are stuck with narcissists for decades! You're a strong one op! Be proud of yourself for loving yourself enough to get out!

[@mohsinAli-hq1nd]

Yeah!

[@yl8598]

Yes! I hope she's doing well now. Her ex husband sounds like one of those trash alpha male type guys in podcasts.

[@RyanSmith6644]

The promises he forced her to make to the kids was 100% a control attic to head F her in line with his plan

[@papabeard4976]

She was in her 30's when Tamara reached out. Tamara was 25. Anyone want to do the math?

[@gurglequeen433]

Here's the thing! Regardless of weather or not she was actually the one that hit OP, she ADDMITTED to a hit and run. She confessed to a literal crime that could have resulted in serious injury or death and she did not feel bad about it. I would go to the police about it regardless.

[@rogue9230]

I mean the fact that she's dumb enough to literally just talk about it openly and literally laughs at the experience, yeah that's a garbage human being

[@johnnagustafson9996]

Even if the statute of limitations has passed past for the crime of hit and run... I believe there's still the civil lawsuit route to go. I hope the OP realizes these people saying to let it go are not his friends. They should be able to put themselves in his shoes and understand what a horrible thing this chic did and needs to be held accountable for.

[@AceMoonshot]

@@johnnagustafson9996 Most civil suits have time limitations as well. But I think in civil cases, when you identify the perpetrator, matters. But I could be 100% wrong. And it varies state to state.

[@johnnagustafson9996]

@@AceMoonshot It's definitely in his best interest to do whatever he can do to get justice.

[@vgamesx1]

Well here's the thing, people don't seem to understand that you need evidence to go to court otherwise it's all hearsay, she has no obligation to self-incriminate and your case will get thrown out, OP has no proof she committed a crime and she didn't admit to a crime in court OP doesn't at the very least have a recording of that conversation and he blew his only chance to get more information out of her, so sadly there likely isn't much he can do at this point (legally).

[@silverflight01]

Second story's title can be reworded to: "AITA for escaping a toxic relationship despite making a promise?" Nope. That man is a stain in the world of parenting and he just wants to make OP look bad for making the right call and leaving.

[@Mjutdz]

rewarded*

[@agentmaryland1239]

@@Mjutdz No, reworded means to rephrase, they're not talking about 'rewarding' something.

[@Mjutdz]

oh

[@goku-sangreen4510]

@@Mjutdz LOL r/confidentlyincorrect

[@MythicalHex]

that man's a full on narcissist, my father was the same way (his manipulation worked with my older siblings but completely escaped me because I was too highly attentive due to being autistic).

[@LoneWolf-wp3qo]

rSlash: "He's a bad father, a bad husband, and a bad person" Me: "oh, so a bastard"

[@Juju2927]

I got that reference !

[@武田ユノ3.0]

Uhhh.... Yes, a TRUE bastard.

[@blizzardgaming7070]

Oi don’t insult bastards like that

[@FlashQuatsch]

Reminds me of that Dr Phil episode where the mom screams at the dad "you're a bad father and a WORST HUSBAND!" XD

[@aidan0275]

@Maria M it called asshole

[@HunhowsShadowStalker]

"Something Reddit won't allow me to say" Is it just me, or does that sound like they were telling OP to "self-terminate"?

[@ShelbySeng]

That is most likely what they were telling OP to do

[@BrittKGM]

Either that or to do something to himself that’s physically impossible

[@TerranosaurRex]

oh yeah chances are it was to to the long rest

[@Bremend]

OP should have told those "friends" to stop to be added to his suit

[@vanguardangel6912]

Time to ditch those friends

[@TFTN_official]

First story title: AITA for taking legal action against the person that ran me over with their car 11 YEARS AGO?! No! That’s an instant NTA from me!

[@morgandouglas6014]

Even if OP cannot sue anymore, I would end the friendship with the so-called “friend”, because I can’t believe the friend didn’t see anything wrong with what happened to OP. At minimum, if I were the boyfriend, I would’ve immediately broken up with the girlfriend.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Seriously. I have no idea how a person's reaction can be to laugh and tell them to get over it rather than immediately break up with the psycho laughing about killing someone even she identified as a kid.

[@ZenGamer360]

LMAO imagine 'So my girlfriend hit you with a car and ruined your life? So what. It doesn't matter, does it? It's all part of the past.'

[@KCorgi4]

Maybe she's giving him drugs to? Idk

[@moony2543]

@@KCorgi4 yeah definitely

[@nasonaso8356]

Sure, buddy

[@alwf905]

For the degree story i feel like the friend deserves an extra 0.5 for starting the conversation in that way. Who tells a friend “i bet your parents would rather have me as their child instead of you”?

[@krystaldragons6040]

Someone who is not insecure about how their parents feel about them wouldnt even grace that with a response, let alone one diminishing the other to worker ant while promoting themselves to CEO, in the real world many CEO's don't make boatloads of cash and like Rslash said anyone can start a business so both of them should get a bump in the butthole score

[@julieann2454]

That's what I thought too, the friend had it coming! Dished it but couldn't take it

[@MoostachedSaiyanPrince]

I feel like it's more than that. What she said pretty much translates to her telling Op that her chosen career path was a waste of time, and she bets OP's parents wished she had chosen the same path as her to he less of a disappointment to them. Yes, the argument turned into childish bickering, but that doesn't change the fact that OP's friend was the butthole that started it, and all OP did was retaliate after being provoked. I feel like OP deserved one less butthole, and her friend deserved one more.

[@thealbatross88]

11 years is definitely outside the Statute of Limitations. However, the SoL may be tolled during the time he did not know who hit him. SoL vary by state, so OP is doing the right thing by seeking an attorney to assess the case

[@supervegito2277]

The comments for the post itself did point out that lawsuits arent subject to limitations If thats true... then thats always an aim.

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

@@supervegito2277 It depends on the state. Indiana, the state I am from, does have limitations on most civil suits. Negligence, personal injury, medical malpractice, wrongful death, and intentional tort has a limitation of 2 years.

[@supervegito2277]

@@Fallenfromgrace1990 So what about this thing i also saw, where you flat out didnt know at the time, ie, didnt have enough facts to do anything due to it being a hit and run. Or as OP did report it back then, does that count? If theres absolutely nothing he can do legally that feels a bit shitty... though he could always just make sure to get evidence and then shame her online Said Evidence being needed to protect against a defamation lawsuit AFAIK.

[@thetableofelements4472]

Depends on the country too

[@thealbatross88]

@@supervegito2277 comment 1: a statute of limitations doesn't bar you from filing a lawsuit. it's a defense to the claims in a lawsuit. comment 2: that's the reason i stated the SoL may be tolled (meaning time doesn't run) during the time that OP did not know who hit him. usually, the SoL will only begin to run when the victim "knows or should have known" of the harm. (e.g. SoL for medical malpractice claim for object left inside the body wouldn't begin to run until the person discovered the malpractice.) this varies by state and cause of action, so I didn't go into full analysis.

[@innatemeerkat4506]

If I was OP in the ran over story after Ashley said "Probably 10ft in the ground" I would've said "Actually I'm right here"

[@shadowman7307]

How very convenient that Tamara remembers one little promise from all that time ago but seems to have forgotten everything that happened after that.

[@kaykay8855]

She probably remembers more but since she was raised by her trash father he probably twisted the memories.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

The worst part of the stepchildren story is that...unfortunately...this is part of how Karens are made. Clearly, the uncivilized and evil behaviors of the father have rubbed off on his poor children, who are now most likely deeply rooted in the karen-hood and may never recover from it. The father is the true evil here, and those kids, toxic and delusional as they may be, can only be blamed to so much of an extent.

[@squishy2368]

Karen's 9 times out of 10 happen because of an entitled mom 🤣 this is the exception not the rule

[@sentientcardboarddumpster7900]

No no no don't you pin Karenitis on a man. People are responsible for themselves.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

@@sentientcardboarddumpster7900 So hold on, "dont pin Karenitis *on a man*", but then people are responsible for themselves. Make up your mind! Are you implying women cant possibly be responsible/men cant be karens, or are you just saying people are responsible for themselves? Either way, I do agree that the daughter is responsible for herself, but you cant POSSIBLY deny that the father's toxic influence, which mind you, THE OP DESCRIBED AS ALREADY TAKING HOLD ON THE DAUGHTER AS A CHILD, had a part of it.

[@sentientcardboarddumpster7900]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 my bad. Don't pin karenitis on another person. We're all responsible for what we put into the world. Thanks for asking, Karen

[@squishy2368]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 I gatta say I work at Starbucks dealing with Karen's often. You're toein the line my dude, don't act like you didnt know what they meant 🤣

[@phobos258]

You can totally tell RSlash's parents did not get divorced when he was a kid. As someone whose parents went through a divorce I can tell you it's absolutely 100% better to be honest with them, trying to hide the truth will only cause greater hurt in the future. And it is a absolutely their business why the family is splitting up, it affects them greatly and they deserve to be told the truth.

[@GrifoStelle]

Depends on the faculties of the kid. But yes, blunt age appropriate explanations are in order. Just like in horror stories the monster you imagine is always worse than the monster you see. If mom had stepped forward and explained what she had done and that it was going to mean divorce, I'd bet she would have been better recieved. You can't tell a teen that the divorce is "Adult problems" without fully insulting them. Especially if you'rerepeatedly asked and you repeatedly ignore or brush them off. They're still a child but if you're worth your salt as a parent you've prepared them for serious conversation and consequences. Don't treat them like less or

[@LezChap]

My only problem with the cheating divorce story is that he raised the kids to believe cheaters are the worst scum on the planet, worse than kinderfickers and murderers...While I agree that cheating is unethical and lacks integrity and hurts and betrays the people you care about...raising them to consider cheaters that way, and then refusing to soften that when he "exposes" (tells the truth about) his now ex-wife...he's purposefully using the kids as a weapon in the divorce. That's a rather asshole move on his part. 2.5/5 for him, 3/5 for her for cheating in the first place.

[@dinoburre9826]

@@LezChap you’re literally accusing the father of planing this weapon for divorce for 17 years?🤦‍♂️😂

[@cristiancastanon]

@@LezChap What is he suppose to say to soften the news? She cheated on him for 3 years, with no regard to her family. Also by the end of it she acting like a victim, there's no way of knowing now but if he didn't expose her. She could have told the kids something way more different to try and villainise her now ex-husband to excuse her cheating. So I don't think he's the asshole for telling his kids the truth.

[@LezChap]

@@dinoburre9826 Planning this weapon? No...but he did create the weapon, he had it lying there, and when he was hurt, he used it as violently as possible.

[@steakanator7236]

Rslash: I don't often give out 5/5 scores because it diminishes the impact if I do it too much. Also Rslash, this time: you get 5/5, and you get 5/5! Everyone look under your seats, you ALL get 5/5!

[@aoiterasu]

It was only two tho

[@maieen2665]

LOL! Those 5/5 scores were justified, to be fair

[@Heid192]

@@aoiterasu 3 actually

[@nicholasfarrell5981]

Oh, c'mon, what did I do?

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

The STEM/CEO Battle: If I was BOTH their parents, I'd be embarrassed no matter how rich they are lmao

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

While the friend was being disrespectful, OP didn’t need to engage. He/she was being just as childish. I would’ve said, “idc what degree you have, I’m happy with my business degree. Stop being so childish and grow up.”

[@pixlbelle8081]

They both kinda suck- jobs are jobs, some pay more, yes, but that doesn’t mean it’s inferior to another. A job exists because one person doesn’t wanna do one thing but another can and will for the right price. And the thing with “parents will want their kids to be CEOs” or whatever: good parents will brag about their kids no matter what they pursue, as long as they’re happy and in their mind successful, that should be the goal. I know my mom brags about me and my siblings, and really only one of us is going anywhere near her type of career (that being my brother), she just wants us happy and brags about our happiness

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

@pixlbelle8081 exactly. Sounds like a good mama. All I want is for my kids to be happy and do better at life than I did

[@thomasmcsherry5938]

RSlash: "I've an English Degree and a Masters and they're the most worthless degrees ever" Me with an English Degree about to go into a masters of education: "....... my emotions"

[@strawberrysoulforever8336]

I only have a BA in English from university. I was going to go for a Bachelor of Education but plans changed and I instead got a Certificate In Proofreading and Copy-Editing. RSlash might not need his English degree, but mine gave me the grounding I needed to get a more specialist qualification and start my own business based on that qualification. Who knows? You might use your qualification as much as I used mine. A general grounding in English is important.

[@silverselkie1692]

Rslash is doing the standard English major comedian bit of cracking a joke about nor needing his major not realizing that his writing is where it is now thanks to that major.

[@scheneli000]

​@silverselkie1692 and reading comprehension, empathy development, and so many other skills that come with reading, digesting what was read, and responding to it

[@somerandominternetdweller]

The kids are a reflection of the father’s parenting, before they got married. Also the kids generally project it to some degree as the get older as well, unless they get a taste of reality.

[@kervinsantos5808]

There teenagers. At that point they know cheating is bad. They know to never cheat unless its a test u didn't study

[@somerandominternetdweller]

@@kervinsantos5808 I think you got the stories mixed up, my comment was too the OP that married the douchebag dad with two kids, that were little kids at the time of the story. Also the same story the kids projected their dad’s attitude too the OP during their marriage, and the dad welcomed it.

[@salemriver6967]

I think op is nta for telling his kids the reason behind the divorce because 1) the would eventually find out whether it was from a family member or a friend of their parents and 2) lying to them about the reason would cause more problems once the found out the true reason.

[@somerandominternetdweller]

@@salemriver6967 to be honest what I got out of the story, is the OP explained the reasons why she left them. I don’t think anyone that isn’t willing to compromise and to talk down and berate you is not going to work out. Also to encourage your kids to do the same, it takes a piece of work to do the same. Obviously when the daughter called the OP as an adult, she obviously didn’t do any self reflection. Most adults realize when they did something wrong, in their life they usually own up to it or learn from it.

[@SSawy3r]

The dad is definitely showing some classic signs of Narcissism. And him showing the kids that that kind of behavior is ok

[@finalbossgamer5481]

OP: Your girlfriend ran me over and fucked up my life. "So? It was 11 years ago. Let it go." bitch, don't say "let it go" to someone who was 1: Partially paralyzed, 2: lost a baseball scholarship because of said paralysis, 3: could have fucking died, and 4: their mom was pretty much destroyed financially because of the hospital bills. Edit: the friend and his family telling OP to "let it go" is like telling someone with no legs to stand up. It cant be done

[@AnymousScreams]

Also the factor of trauma to it.

[@finalbossgamer5481]

@@AnymousScreams yep.

[@finalbossgamer5481]

@@strastven5475 Yeah. This girl, who was once a meth addict, ran over this person, fucked up both their and their mom's life in a lot of different ways, and had the audacity to make jokes about it, almost laugh about it, and her god damn boyfriend told this person who had their life destroyed "Get over it"

[@gaxalee7392]

“Let it go” about a situation that, to this day, still effects Op in a tangible way. Op can’t “let it go” because the results of Ashley’s shitty actions haven’t let him go. I hate anyone who tells someone to “let it go” about an event that seriously hurt them and/or still effects them years later. No one has to just forgive and forget just because it’s easier on the shitty person(s) who hurt them, don’t owe them shit.

[@ReigoVassal]

She's really a Psycopath. And the worst one too.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 he needs to save every message as evidence. Then sue everyone on her side for harassment.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

Exactly!! Suffer not this delusional THING to have its way, make sure she bleeds every last cent from her bank account and suffers the consequences. Honestly, if she was sufficiently repentant, I'd give her 4/5 since surely the guilt could have wracked her enough to snap her out of this shit and would at least show a glimmer of salvation for her. However, since she was an unrepentant MONSTER, she deserves the rare and coveted 5/5, no mercy for delusional pricks.

[@zara_lye]

Agreed strongly. I hope OP doesnt drop the case. If not for his sake atleast for his mom who probably went through hell too.

[@Nik-nt3io]

Ashley Story - OP, just use their logic. Sue her, hopefully she does 10 to 20 in jail for what amounted to almost killing someone and running away from the crime scene. After 10 years, they should all get over it, since it's been some time after all. Also, if you feel bad for the possibility she may do time, keep in mind she felt no remorse about almost taking 70+ years of your life away from you.

[@Roozyj]

rSlash: "It sounds like she was not just telling stories" Me, in a Dhar Mann voice: "She was changing lives"

[@occultsupport]

we're not just telling stories we're taking lives

[@grimlockgreg3063]

Story 1: legal time, baby Story 2: you need to cut them off before they drag you back. Story 3: reminded me of the elementary school fight Story 4: the relationship was ruined 3 years ago.

[@Sanodi21]

Honestly? OP in the first story would be the butthole if he *didn't* go after her. She's a massive, sociopathic danger to everyone, plain and simple. She shrugged off the idea of her *killing* *someone* . How do we know OP isn't her only victim too since *obviously* she wasn't in a rush to call the police or an ambulance either. Also, last story? What I was talking about in an earlier video; OP is 1000% in the right despite the (rightfully ex) wife being 1000% in the wrong and trying to play the victim card and gaslight OP into thinking he was wrong to tell the kids.

[@SLYKM]

It would be gaslighting if she told OP that she didn't cheat on him. Please don't misuse medical terms. She's not just trying to make him unsure of his own sanity, she has an opinion that him telling the kids this thing ruined her relationship with the kids. Since it did result in that, its true. Even tho the kids did need to know the fact of their divorce at some time.

[@TerranosaurRex]

@@SLYKM is gaslighting a medical term?-

[@johnmayernick9561]

She didn't call an ambulance because she was a meth addict and she would probably end up in prison. People rarely have any compassion in these scenarios.

[@benjie128]

At almost a 10 year age difference, Will just wanted a live in nanny, cook, maid that he could sleep with who'd also contribute to the bills, i.e he didnt have to pay.

[@amycaires8499]

The term is bang maid.

[@ladiblue03]

I thought the second story Tamara probably had take on the responsibility like the cooking and cleaning that's why she upset. They treated her like a door mat.

[@epsyblue7714]

Kind of makes her a hypocrite then. She expects OP to do all the work, while taking abuse, but it's a problem when she does it.

[@calebvaldecanas8867]

“My major is better!” “No, mine is!” Rslash: *pitiful*

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Also rSlash: No, my career is better than both of yours put together! How do you like them apples?! 😤

[@ManlyStump]

On the second story, she said she and the kids made promises *to each other* at the wedding, so I'm curious what kind of promises they kids made to her and if constantly belittling her and treating her like a slave might have violated any of them!

[@SailorMya]

Right! It was so long ago that I doubt the kids even remember their promises to her. Sadly sounds like the dad just wanted a replacement mommy to pawn the kids off on so he can go back to his shitty ways... I really feel he did the same to his first wife because this behavior doesn't come out of nowhere... It sucks losing a parent but you can't treat others like crap because of it... She even gave them longer to change then most would have...

[@ManlyStump]

@@SailorMya Agreed. She was a saint for putting up with it for that long (or an idiot, I'm not sure XD) but definitely shouldn't feel bad about breaking any promises. The "dad" was such an arsehole I wondered if he'd driven his first wife to suicide!

[@SailorMya]

@@ManlyStump Don't know how she passed but it really feels like he thinks he is the victim here being left having to actually take care of his own kids... Why else would the ex-step-daughter contact her if he wasn't still blaming her for his bad parenting... Realty is he saw he couldn't take care of his kids and found a nice person to trap so he didn't have to do the "wife's job"...

[@ThatFoxyPixelKid]

@Twisted Lain I went to the post to see if it was updated or if there was more context added in the comments. Will's ex-wife died of, I think, a genetic disease.

[@ThatFoxyPixelKid]

@Twisted Lain To be honest, I wouldn't be surprised if the reason Will stayed with his ex-wife so long was that his ex-wife got pregnant and he didn't want to pay the child support.

[@sjosik]

"most parents would want their kid to be a CEO over a programmer" no, most parents just want their kids to be successful lol, this is the most childish thing I've heard in a while. I feel like this is the perfect example of "when you make your entire personality about your major".

[@neffyg35]

the father definitely took advantage of a younger woman to basically become his live in babysitter and raised his kids to be absolute little shits. I'm glad she got out. she should lay out the truth to that child and if she won't believe it well sucks to be her but OP doesn't owe that child now grown woman shit

[@DeliberateContrarian]

She willingly chose to take on a parental role in the children's lives and therefore, legally, if you believe in equality, was responsible for child support until the children became adults. So, about ten to sixteen years of back child support.

[@neffyg35]

@@DeliberateContrarian no that's not how that works. She never formally adopted those children, they were not her biological children, and she never had any parental right to those children. She could divorce and leave, which she did, any time she wanted and not be financially responsible for them at all. And if you really want to go that route he could have tried to take her to court for that but knew it wouldn't fly because of what I stated above or afraid that the real truth would come out about how he was a manipulative little bastard. 2 years in a kids life as basically an abused nanny isn't what traumized that girl. The 15 years of hearing her father probably bitch like he wasn't a pos probably did.

[@neffyg35]

Also a promise at a wedding to children is not legally binding

[@alexandrasteves3847]

Honestly it sucks but OP had to choose herself here. It sucks to leave the kids because (while they were being brats) they are innocent. Her ex husband was abusive and using her to get free child labor and she couldn't stay in that environment. Even for the kids.

[@neffyg35]

@@alexandrasteves3847 true and also he made her hate the kids too because he got them to be brats to her. So she had to get out.

[@shockwave3864]

Trust me, if my gf hit a high schooler, and laughed about them “probably being dead”, then I would instantly break up. On top of that she is a “recovering meth addict”. Wtf? She doesn’t seem like she’s recovering at all, she probably just had a dose actually.

[@epsyblue7714]

Hey OP tell your friend this: "If someone tried to shoot you dead and got away with it, would you let it go?".

[@crazycaitlin1602]

OP Might have lost an mlb contract Everyone: “Let it go” Yeah true lost millions of dollars and an amazing life for him and his family but let it go for sure

[@johngennaria7081]

Also to point out, his mom was a single parent and had less intense jobs to help OP growing up. Obviously the individual who ran him over should face some repercussions, but it's hard without hard evidence. Criminal law likely won't be possible to press charges as I think the stature was up years ago. However, he needs the information to launch some sort of small claims, which likely is harder still as OP likely has to find a way to prove over 11 years worth of waiting. I'm not saying he shouldn't try to get legal action, just saying he's likely going to be hitting the brick wall harder than it should happen. As for the friends, they don't realize that OP had his life stripped from him when Ashley hit him years ago. She made his life worse and left his mother with a large amount of debt because she ran that red light. That's 11 years of scars and now they want him to forget it? No. They should have done was question who that woman was bragging about nearly killing a human being. Rslash gave her max, but I think this warrants way more on that scale. She stole his promising future and seems to think she's immune to punishment. I'm sure there's a man upstairs that will cast wrath upon her when I'm his presence

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Pfft scholarships and potential careers aside, telling someone to just let it go after someone laughs about killing a kid? Insane.

[@nallyaaaaaa]

unrelated but i've been watching so much miraculous ladybug i thought that's what "mlb" meant for a second until my braincells reconnected

[@Right-Is-Right]

To be fair it sounded like OP might of been able to hit or throw a ball but lacked drive, otherwise they would of gotten somewhere in life, I doubt they would of lasted college playing ball let alone have a dream career.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@Right-Is-Right First of all: might've* and would've*. It's a contraction... how does "might of" and "would of" even make sense to you? Secondly, lacks drive? Based on this one story in which he had his life ruined by someone else? Does your brain just not work?

[@Reuraku]

In the first story the fact that she openly admit to at least what she thought was vehicular homicide and laughed about it says a lot and the fact that OP's friend was fine with dating someone who thinks they killed someone and finds it funny means they are both messed up. Anything OP can do be it sue, press charges or both they should without a second thought and get some new friends while they are at it.

[@luvondarox]

The "friendship" between STEM child and Business Major is just... wild. Rslash's commentary is accurate.

[@DayKiyokki]

I have to disagree, the person with the business was simply saying that their parents are already proud and do brag. And they were right to say most people would want their child to be a CEO than just a programmer.

[@fantum12000]

I also have to disagree, the one with the stem major insulted not only op but his parents as well first which is what started the argument imo they are the only asshole in this situation

[@natytambasco]

The two of them insulted a lot of people two

[@fantum12000]

@@natytambasco as true as that might be, business major was defending himself and his parents from stem majors insult

[@ladyofrillwater]

The programmer started the fight, and then the business major decided they were going to be just as bad, while both of them decided they'd shit on the humanities. They're both assholes.

[@DrakeB9000]

For the last story of the wives cheating on her husband for 3 years pretty much she was trying to figure out a way to make him the bad guy so she can look like an angel

[@CJalterr]

Ashley bragging about running someone over and them probably dead reminds me of that one girl who killed her dad with her boyfriend

[@reddiamond6524]

"Recovering?" Mmmmmm...... IDTS. Also Will: "She's the one! The one who will free me from the kids because SHE can deal with them while I do WHATEVER I WANT! 😜"

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

“I’m tired” and she isn’t?

[@courier-ec6zj]

That first story: absolutely take them to court.

[@nightshade6146]

Also create a reason to go on r/nuclrearrevenge

[@buddyburrows]

Man today is a bad day for RSlash giving almost everyone 5/5. Haven't seen this happen in such a long time.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

Glad to see I'm not the only one who was a little unsettled.

[@nallyaaaaaa]

man, he was really upset and didn't censor that one word. not saying he's wrong tho, damn those people deserve those ratings

[@buddyburrows]

@@nallyaaaaaa I always forget people tend to censor their words. Hes been more lenient about it recently it seems.

[@nallyaaaaaa]

@@buddyburrows yea, tru tru

[@Docwilson91]

I honestly think R/slash becoming a father has a lot to do with it. I honestly like the more decisive R/slash tbf.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

Cheaters deserve every bad thing that comes to them. Someone finding out their SO is cheating breaks them down mentally, physicall and emotionally. It's torture what goes through the mind when they look back after finding out. Don't cheat.

[@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681]

give me a break

[@sarahrapley3968]

As a child of divorce, I struggled my whole life with it. I was 4 when my father remarried and I was never told the truth as to why my parents divorced, because I was “too young”. I hated it, I would ask anyone I meet that knew my parents before and during the divorce. My mother finally told me her side of the story when I was 16. My dad on the other hand only told me his side when I was in my late 20s. They both told me their truths and they were both different, but I was able to understand both sides and come to a clear idea of what happened from that. I just always wish I was told the truth from the start. “Mommy and Daddy have been fighting a lot and Daddy has found someone that can make him happy. We want everyone to be happy but Mommy and Daddy can’t be happy when we fight. Mommy and Daddy might not be in love anymore but we will always love you and that is what matters the most!”

[@TheDarkLink7]

The story about the lady leaving when no one was home. I agree that the child is just repeating what the dad did.

[@LunaP1]

She should’ve reported him to CPS right after the divorce. Those kids were brainwashed into believing everything he’s told them.

[@oonachestnut509]

Yea, this story is crazy. But what i don't believe is r/slash saying that the kids can't be traumatized. That's not true. The child is used to coming home and being with her. She just ups and leaves with no goodbye or anything can give the kids abandonment issues. I understand she had to do what she had to do, but she could've gone about it better.

[@AlexIs-Yup]

OP: “Business is better.” Other Guy: “STEM is better”. Me, a BFA Illustrator: “… wut?”

[@kdsfhkljfnsdfo1323]

Literally, I was facepalming while hearing this story. They're both so convinced that "their major is better" without any regard for anything else. Ironically, despite how they hate each other, they're exactly alike. Dumbasses.

[@SUPERVEGITO896]

@@kdsfhkljfnsdfo1323 actually the friend took digs first

[@TerranosaurRex]

bfa?

[@AlexIs-Yup]

@@TerranosaurRex Bachelors in Fine Arts

[@365ral]

Nothing says "good parenting" like using your kids as tools to win a quarrel.

[@mr.beaver5029]

What she’s that one that cheated

[@purplefreedom1631]

@@mr.beaver5029 i think the comment is about the man who used his children to attack the woman who left, not the cheater...

[@HidForHG]

@@purplefreedom1631 I’m pretty sure they are talking about the divorce one. Bc the woman who left wasn’t a quarrel. She left a toxic and demeaning relationship.

[@SLYKM]

@@mr.beaver5029 yea she cheated on OP, she didnt cheat on her children. Otherwise she seemed to be a good parent or else OP would have said bad parenting is what ruined their relationship with her. OP taught the kids that cheating is horrible before telling them what she did. Totally not manipulative on his part. Mind you, she should have not trusted him to not paint her horribly and told the kids herself. I dun get this weird idea that all ways that a cheated on person deals with it are fine and healthy no matter what bc the cheater is who cheated. It screams "you started it," energy. So?

[@miniman649]

@@SLYKM "OP taught the kids that cheating is horrible before telling them what she did. Totally not manipulative on his part." It literally isn't. He was teaching them that for YEARS before knowing his wife cheated on him. Stop trying to excuse the cheating whore and twist the story in her favor.

[@pantheggon]

"Why would you tell the kids I cheated, now they hate me!" aw man, you shouldn't have cheated then lmao

[@PixelByteSquad]

Story 1: Ashley basically ruined OP's live and she had no remorse, she didn't knew and was amused with the idea that they were dead... yeah no, sue the shit out of her. Story 2: Holy- imagine mistreating your wife and then make the kids hate her. The fact both him and the kids started to not give her respect sucks, no wonder OP left.

[@evol6489]

As someone who's works multiple jobs in multiple fields and has a degree in the STEM field I feel I can confidently say that the only jobs that truly make the world go round are those from trade school. I mean every other job has its use but trade school jobs are so much more valuable and people honestly take the people who work them for granted.

[@robertpeacock1635]

I came here to say that their friend that both look down because he went to trade school to become a plumber, would probably make more than either of them, if not both. Not mentioned in story, but possibly true.

[@rtrgirl417]

Preach!

[@yarraidalg]

as a humanities graduate i give that story a big fat ESH

[@harounfarhani2138]

Teachers are far more important and taken for granted far more as well. Without teachers the world would basically fall apart, no one would know where to put their kids, and brains all around the world would stay extremely underdeveloped, without teachers there would be no trade school.

[@Andruth34]

Guitarist: "Guitars are the most important instrument for rock!" Drummer: "You're wrong, it's the drums!" Vocalist: "You're both wrong! There's no soul without lyrics!" I feel like this is the wrong question. None of this shit would work if any one part was missing. The fact is, "what makes the world go round" is a complex interconnected set of things, not any one profession or category. Every component is dependent on others in order to function.

[@TheFalseEsquire]

That last story… Props to the op for saying. Most likely if he didn’t say something the ex wife would’ve probably twisted it to be his fault

[@imzadi83fanvids7]

Agreed. The cheating spouse isn't just cheating on her husband, she was actively and willingly damaging her family unit. If she cared so much about her kids and what they thought of her she should've found something else to do like volunteer at their school, or get a part time job and put money away for their college or something. Pretty much anything but what she did.

[@SLYKM]

She seemed to not want it brought up again. Idk I may be exceptionally more jaded than most people here, but as a child of an abusive molester parent, Id much rather let good relationships between kid and parent stay intact. The mother should have been convinced to tell them herself or OP should not have ingrained the kids with the idea of how bad cheating is before telling them the truth. That part just seems to be bitterness on his part bc I never had to be taught that cheating is bad. He didn't just tell the truth, he told them what to think about the truth for years before telling them.

[@jamesf694]

@@SLYKM as someone who also came from a broken home STFU. my dad didn't need to teach me cheating was bad because i got to see first hand how that bitch( i refuse to call her mother) ruined his life, when all he did was bend over backwards for us. my sisters friends used me as a living ken doll, you want to know who had my back? not the bitch, but my father who knew that as the only boy i was getting constantly dumped on by "mom" and "big sis". from my perspective op did EXACTLY as he SHOULD have.

[@damonsnow11]

@@SLYKM You’re acting like he told the kids cheating was bad just to make them hate the mom more, but the post explicitly said how that’s how the kids were raised. Since all of them are teenagers, and he didn’t find about the cheating until recently, that seems to not be the case. Also, you state how you know cheating is wrong, but also feel the guy shouldn’t have ruined the kids relationship with someone who has been cheating for years. Personally, if I knew someone had been cheating for that long, that would make me wonder what other things they may be teaching their children that they shouldn’t be.

[@Toastiel]

@@SLYKM no, I can't imagine a kid keeping a good relationship with their cheating parent, the one who broke the family, while being oblivious to how crappy their parent is, they'll only come to hate that parent more once they found out the truth.

[@alphadron4073]

Christ, those stories. Three 5/5s is probably as much as the other perfect asshole scores combined throughout your carreer, man. All well deserved, too.

[@CrimsonWalter9092]

I imagine he does this in an accumulative manner. All the ratings generally gather up to lead to a batch of stories that are meant to provide examples of atrocious behavior. It's meant to tell us "this is the worst end of the spectrum, beware of these people/behaviors/etc." That way, gather a bunch of really high end stories after giving examples of lesser evils to instruct. A fatherly habit I see growing with much expediency, RSlash. :)

[@dragance9995]

idk i feel like it kinda got overused a bit.

[@Rukia12342234]

For the divorce story: Dad is absolutely NTA. My parents divorced when I was little (10 and my brothers 7 and 3) and all I know about why they divorced is that they started fighting and it escalated to my father coming home, robbing us blind, attempting to kidnap my brothers, and leaving in the middle of the night. We were never given any insight as to why things happened the way they did, why they had escalated the way they did, and the fear and uncertainty and came in the following months pretty much destroyed what was left of my childhood. In my opinion, it's critical that when parents get a divorce you have an age appropriate conversation with the child/children and make sure they understand what's going on and why. Not knowing can do so much more damage in the long run. This mother didn't want her kids to find out but the thing is, things like that have a way of popping up when least expected. She can be mad all she wants but if I were one of her kids, I'd rather hear from my parents that mom was cheating than from someone outside the family who knew what was up.

[@beaniebeans3456]

Please let us know if there was an update to the hit and run story. I hope op gets the justice they deserve.

[@julieann2454]

My jaw dropped during that first story! That girl thinks she killed someone and doesn't even care?!? She was nonchalant about it! She is a legit sociopath

[@lapisthederg]

I just find it funny with that little example RSlash made, as soon as he said “My dad could kick your dad’s-“ I get an ad right when he was about to say butt. Perfectly cut 👌

[@maxterdelta2220]

Me being a student in animation who probably will go hungry, seeing two people with good careers fight like kids xd

[@darkflower6841]

Please don't do animation majors like that. I'm one btw

[@SRosenberg203]

They don’t have careers. They have majors in college. That’s not even remotely the same thing as having a career.

[@ChrisMaxfieldActs]

@@SRosenberg203 Yes! They both have lots of arrogance and presumption, but neither has a career, yet.

[@jaymel4691]

@@SRosenberg203 Exactly! I majored in Political Science (it was a bit more interesting and current than just History). Now I'm a registered nurse in an outpatient clinic- pretty far from where I started out, lol.

[@TerranosaurRex]

this- this is sad-

[@gatorboymike]

Programmer: "I can hack you." Businessman: "I can fire you."

[@jasondyrkacz8270]

Programmer: More free time to hack you then.

[@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902]

Fourth story: They'll find out sooner or later. She’s just complaining that her children also caught her and are mature enough to know she screw up and judge her for tthat.

[@lordshaxx4693]

If I went out on a date, and the girl go "I don't blame your dad for being upset you quit being an aerospace major, I man you became a History major of all things." then there will be no argument, since I would up and leave then and there.

[@ZombieSazza]

“Let it go” is always said by those who’ve never suffered from trauma, whether it be abusive family, road traffic collision, being attacked/mugged, someone betraying you, sexually assaulted, etc, it’s *always* said by those who haven’t had to suffer the lifelong mental/physical implications. I’ve been told by random people that I need to “get over it”, “let it go” and “she’s your mother, just forgive her” when she heavily abused me and enabled my brother to violently assault me, whilst both being homophobic, and I’ve absolutely no intention of forgiving them, in fact, I cut all contact. My families abuse gave me permanent nerve damage and PTSD, I’m about 90% bedridden and have mobility issues, when I have the energy for a short walk I have to take regular breaks and walk with a cane, plus dealing with the chronic pain that I’ve lived with since my teens from my damaged pelvis, meaning at 30, I’ve spent at least 12ish years in pain, every second of the day, and fighting with PTSD. I dunno why I should “let it go” or “get over it” when I have to live with this for the rest of my life. I absolutely abhor that attitude, and I don’t understand why folk side with the person responsible. OP has had his health ruined, something I massively empathise with and feel his anger over, and don’t blame him for wanting to get justice, he can prove through a decade of medical records just how much that collision has changed his life and that she isn’t even sorry, like who jokes about that with “oh he’s probably 6 feet under, lol”?! She was literally laughing at committing vehicular homicide, she thought she’d killed a kid and was LAUGHING?!? Not the butthole, his “friend” however is a massive butthole for siding with her and telling OP that he needs to simply get over it. He deserves justice, and in my opinion, justice doesn’t have a timeframe, you can get justice at any time you want.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

To me, "let it go" and "forgive and forget" are acceptible ONLY, O N L Y, with minor or moderate issues, preferably if the person was repentant and admitted fault to it mind you. MAJOR BLUNDERS like what you and that OP went through are NOT to be forgiven OR forgotten. Forgiven can vary based on the crime, severity, and exactly how repentant to perpetrator really is, and its entirely up to the victim, but never forget such things.

[@ZombieSazza]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 fantastic response and totally agree

[@julieann2454]

Absolutely! I was told by a family member to "let it go" after suffering constant abuse and abandonment only a few years prior to her saying that! Screw her!

[@lpfan4491]

Forgiveness is like trust. It is earned and given, not privileged and taken. If there is 0 indication that the person changed, there is 0 reason to let it go, regardless of how severe the damage is.

[@ExDragonMaster]

Blame shifting is commonly seen among people who cheat. Same with wanting to cover up the story. I totally see these with the cheating wife. OP might want to head to r/survivinginfidelity for support.

[@Fmanzo10]

Yup, she already blamed her affair on him because he “works too much”. No doubt if he hadn’t told the kids the truth she would have turned it all around and blamed the divorce on him and had the kids hating him instead. I’ve seen it a thousand times.

[@Davimez]

Yup you can tell this Karen is not that bright. You can't win against a narcissist, they will blame it on something. It's never their fault, if it wasn't the husband. I'm sure she would blame the kids.

[@Sorchia56]

The degree envy story is so hilarious!! My cousin has a Criminal Justice degree from a University. He was a copper for a while wanting to get into the FBI. He is brilliant with computers, always has been. He went on to become an IT specialist for the military. Now, he works for himself as a contractor with the military and NASA. He makes more money than he knows what to do with, loves his work and gets to spend time with his kids and wife. His wife’s family is savage wealthy, as in billions! He didn’t go into his jobs thinking he had to prove himself, he just wanted a good fit for him and his family. They are the most incredible, down to earth, super fun family! My egg donor tsk, tsk’d over his choice to the family and while I went no contact with everyone except him, he went very low contact. It’s phenomenal. I joined the government straight out of high school in the 80’s and worked with many branches of the military. He hears my name in circles, I hear his and we laugh about it. We’re both such underachiever’s and such a disgrace to the family!!! 😂😂😂

[@JR-zi4bj]

OP's wife"...adult issues"[13:36] OP "I think you meant to say Adultery Issues"

[@theslothpotato]

For the last story, if the dad didn’t tell the kids about their ‘cheating mum’ I GUARANTEE some gossip would of told them. That would lead to the kids being angry at the mum (obviously) but also the dad since he wasn’t forthcoming with why. The dad told the mum before the conversation that he would tell the kids why if they asked. He was honest about that. It’s not like he decided to just say it for the sake of it. The mother is DEFINITELY 100% an asshole. I have no respect for cheaters and completely agree with what the dad says. Good video as always OP! Hope you, the mrs, the baby and Hugo are all doing amazingly!!

[@breezy3392]

That story about who has the better college major makes me so glad my family supports me being a creative entrepreneur. The degree that I did earn in university doesn't actually matter that much

[@velvety2006]

my mom is proud of both of us brother is a lawyer and I am a street sweeper lol

[@Dudman83]

I know someone with no degrees or skills on paper. Has never gone through a course in his life. He is extremely good on computers and is just super smart in many ways. He is a programmer and now owns and runs a business worth millions. I agree both these people need to grow up

[@velvety2006]

@@Dudman83 there are more ways than just the main roads to climb up in the world.

[@Dudman83]

@@velvety2006 that’s a great way to put it. Remember main roads can also make you miss so many important things along the way as well. Seems like these 2 taking the “main roads” won’t do them any good in the real world

[@asmith8692]

My nephew was a computer science major, in a tech heavy area. He works as a HVAC technician for clean rooms. Moral of the story, don't count on a STEM degree guaranteeing you a job in that field.

[@ryanhansen7056]

"Business Majors make the world go round!" Yeah, right, tell me another joke.

[@SRosenberg203]

Lmao right? MBAs contribute about as much to the functioning of society as TikTok videos.

[@jaymel4691]

I mean if you really want to know what jobs make the world go round- garbage collectors.

[@SRosenberg203]

@@jaymel4691 Oh yeah, 100%. They have the most powerful union in NYC for a reason. We think the UFT and the Police unions are powerful, but when the Sanitation Workers go on strike, the city caves and gives them everything they want in about 4 days, every single time. And honestly, they deserve it. Anyone willing to do a job so necessary and so disgusting deserves to be compensated to the sky. You'd have to pay me like $300,000 a year to get me on a garbage truck driving around the city collecting trash.

[@filipecordeiro7109]

@@SRosenberg203 well after a month of strike the city would be up in flames without sanitation workers, people tend to forget that its the little guy that keeps the piramid proped, not the top, take the top 10% away and nearly nothing changes, but if the base is gone you have no piramid.

[@leadharb]

Kinda hard for the guy to let go of getting run over when the person who did still brags about it proudly.

[@Arendelft]

I'd be willing to bet that since it was a hit and run and the person who ran him over was never caught, the Statute of Limitations could be vastly extended given that said person was just discovered. What I wish, more than anything, was that OP could have tricked Ashely into giving up information in front of a witness, maybe even an undercover cop who could be recording her, that would be AMAZING and would have been, in my own opinion, his best chance at successfully suing that idiot.

[@autumndickson2433]

I relate to the last story. My mom resents my dad because ,"he was never around to help raise you kids." I'm like, "Woman, he was out working his ass off so y'all could barely pay the bills. Shut your mouth."

[@TikiChaparita]

All many parents want is a happy, healthy, and productive kid.

[@deannaabeyta1855]

Unless they’re the kind of parents who project their failed dreams onto them or just kinda let them fend for themselves

[@TikiChaparita]

@@deannaabeyta1855 Hence, I qualified my statement with “many” (I hope it’s many and not some -I’ve worked as a music coach so I’m familiar with the parent pushing their kid to their own infilled dreams 😒

[@Sorchia56]

That’s all we’ve ever hoped and prayed for our children. We’re as proud as heck of them and always will be! The crazy, miserable parents out there projected their failures on their kids, can stay away!

[@BladefireA]

When it comes to the last story, the kids were going to find out eventually. There was no way that could be kept a secret for long at all. It's best that their dad told them as soon as they asked, so that they weren't being lied to, because that made things worse. I was 16 when my parents divorced because of my mom cheating, and I won't give details, but I went low contact for a couple of years, but the relationship was somewhat mended since then. I don't think that could have happened if I didn't know in the first place and found out later. I'm not saying his ex-wife deserves a second chance with her kids, but if it's anything like my situation, she has a better chance of mending the relationship if she owns up to it and gives them space to process and forgive.

[@huh4963]

In the first story I’m actually happy that the mom agreed that op should get a lawyer

[@toportime]

"You took our punching bag away, how dare you! You made promises to stay!"

[@jenniferann7212]

LOL, loved rSlash's response to the two idiots arguing over whose major was better. A waste of their time arguing about it, a waste of our time hearing about it! (But at least we get to laugh at them, so that's something.)

[@DeathProductions200]

True! To be fair, my brother and I do the same thing but more in a joking aspect. I was doing graphic design before I had to stop due to some reasons, and my brother was doing a business major. But for us it wasn't about competition, just us being dumb siblings and want to annoy each other any chance we can get

[@chrisdeleon4440]

Rslash and you both ignored what started the fight though. The STEM girl said OP's parents would want her as a daughter so they could be proud of their kid. That's incredibly messed up. OP was within their rights to retaliate to that BS.

[@nallyaaaaaa]

man, i'm not usually someone to be a "you should be a bigger person in an argument and not fight back" because i get it, i'd usually defend myself reasonably instead of ignoring a comment. however, both of them eventually began to fight over a stupid thing. yeah, the stem friend said something stupid, and the business friend said something silly, but after a while it really spiralled into a ridiculous thing lol.

[@ayush6025]

@@chrisdeleon4440 exactly. It’s not an ESH, it’s a NTA. The other girl is a piece of shitt and so delusional thinking her computer degree would be ‘better’ than a business degree, which is primarily how you enter the managerial world.

[@SUPERVEGITO896]

Yo op was told that her parents were disappointed in her by her friend so ofc she would snap

[@hydra2295]

About the cheating story: NTA The kids aren’t even kids anymore, they are teenagers. They are old enough to have a right to know why their life will change so much, and they are old enough to decide how they will judge their mother. They can already judge people, because they are people. You kids have a right to know who you are and decide if they like you.

[@alisontibbens2155]

Degree vs degree: Sounds like a good Epic Rap Battle where the third party comes in and mops up the floor with both of them.

[@KayBbyXOXOXO]

Ngl, that STEM degree is probably gonna make her a lot more money and that business degree is literally never gonna get him to a CEO position.

[@markmarano913]

Even if the statute of limitations is up, OP from the first story should definitely look into taking Ashley through civil proceedings. Even if she doesn't get any jail time that she so richly deserves, at least she might be made to face some repercussions and OP might just get some of what they're owed.

[@melinoel616]

When my parents divorced (I was 17), my parents told me why they decided to split, though they did not go into extreme detail. No matter how bad it feels, it’s better to let the kids know why their parents are divorcing.

[@GTSE2005]

I agree. It is much better than divorcing without a word or worse, blaming the child. Sure, divorce can negatively affect a child's wellbeing but if the parents explain why they are divorcing and do not blame the child, the effects can be minimised.

[@sirpiddlefartiii]

He asked in legaladvice and they replied that The statute of limitations on damages is 2 years, so it's passed. But he may still be able to press assault charges, and he can DEFINITELY sue the ever living feck out of her. I'd take all the text mesg proof and head to the nearest small claims court and ask for maximum damages for suffering.

[@DianaWanMa]

Damn that's sad, hope he did charge her for w/e he could

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

OP of the first story, definitely talk to an attorney. Depending on the state, Civil Law Suits do have Limitations. They will be able to direct you the best way to going about your case.

[@krystaldragons6040]

06:58 🤣🤣🤣😂😂this impression was spot on

[@izraelburgess937]

I love how people tend to assume that doing what is right for you , means you are the good guy in the story . And that everyone will understand why you did it . It’s not that cut and dry . yes the husband was emotionally abusive , yes the he turned the kids against OP. And yes she should have left . At the same time however , she was essentially the mother the kids needed and was dumped into their lives at a pivotal point in their development. So while this was probably the best outcome , OP did still traumatize the kids . OP is definitely not the butthole but with the same time LIKELY traumatized the kids .

[@beyond13reaper]

when did cooking became just 'a girl thing'? I thought everyone has a stomach and needs food, not just girls.

[@sourisvoleur4854]

Yeah no kidding! I googled "world's greatest chefs" and 11 of the first 12 were men. Someone go tell Gordon Ramsay that he's a girl. Just no. Cooking is not gendered.

[@GTSE2005]

Someone: Cooking is a girl's thing! Gordon Ramsay, Jamie Oliver and other male chefs: *Nervous sweating*

[@So_Indecisive]

@@GTSE2005 does Jamie Oliver really Count?

[@GTSE2005]

@@So_Indecisive wdym

[@pistola001]

@@GTSE2005 they are basically saying jamie oliver is crap

[@lizczerwinski5614]

Is this where I say "I can't start my day without a dose of R/Slash"?

[@thelocaldumbash698]

Yep. This is the place!

[@chriscarpenter3370]

definitely

[@alisontibbens2155]

Cooking: "girl's stuff"? Two words, dude. Gordon Ramsey. Get you lazy butt in gear!

[@nicholasfarrell5981]

Robert Irvine, too.

[@bostonrailfan2427]

Ramsey, Irvine, Flay, Fieri…the list goes on and on

[@sniffytheloveablecookie8935]

Op:Your girl ran me over bro! Jack:Um okay? So? Op's Mom:*on her way to beat the shit out of Ashely and Jack*

[@augustaseptemberova5664]

So at uni there is this pissing contest between faculties, there was at least when I went to uni. But it's fun trash talk, and brings people to try out-party each other to "prove who's best" etc. Never in my life have I heard two adults take this "my profession is better than yours" thing seriously. Ridiculous.

[@Razilx18]

When considering what to pursue academically, one has to factor the demand. Honestly, programming jobs are very sought after right now. That said, both are buttholes. Pursue whatever you want, don't go boasting like yours is better than others. In the grand scheme, it doesn't matter what you pursue, so long that you're happy.

[@erickpoorbaugh6728]

Also, a bachelor's degree doesn't necessarily lock you into a career. I forget the statistic but a high percentage of people have jobs that have nothing to do with their major. I know people with "useless" majors who were able to pivot into lucrative careers with some extra training. I also know people with highly marketable degrees who were unable to find a job in their field or decided they hated it and wound up working in an entirely different field. A "marketable" major may increase your chances of finding a good job after graduating and make the years after graduation a bit easier (so it's still very worthwhile), but you can't assume that your lifelong career will be what is expected from your major.

[@songohan3321]

OP pretty much had me at "Got ran over by a person running the Red Light." NTA. Also Jack and Ashley can go FFFFFFF themselves. Even if you can get her criminally, you can hit her really hard in civil court.

[@christian10697]

I'm getting really tired of cheaters never holding themselves accountable for their actions. It's always someone else's fault and never theirs. OP in the last story didn't ruin the family and the wife's relationship with the kids, the wife did that by banging another dude.

[@velvety2006]

There were yta's on that post because 'he did not protect the children 'I get wanting to protect a 5-year-old but these are teens they know what cheating is, they know it's wrong.

[@therealveridicalyt497]

What is the statute of limitations for a California charge of hit and run? Under Assembly Bill 184, the SOL for a charge of hit and run in California is six years. This means a prosecutor must file a hit and run charge within six years from the date a motorist commits the offense. I feel sad for OP

[@lightla123]

As someone who comes from separated parents, my parents sort of told me why they broke up (though this was given when I asked when I was older). Overall I would prefer having the truth why they breaking up of instead of tap dancing around the issue. BTW they broke up when I was 6 so even though I was that young I can't remember if I was told why at the time but I wouldn't be surprise if I had blamed myself for the breakup. Being told why stops the child from blaming themselves and leading to other emotional issues later.

[@joergbischoff2503]

Story 2, it seems so the Guy wanted just a cheap babysitter with benefits.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

The fact that he introduced her to his kids a few days after they met is a big red flag, he obviously just wanted a free nanny

[@sourisvoleur4854]

@@radhiadeedou8286 yes, and then did the whole promises thing at the wedding to lock her into the marriage by guilt.

[@mr.scarlo2234]

I hope that everyone is having a good Thursday!

[@Rose_loving_axolotl]

Yes I like Thursday

[@comanchieavonside5849]

Not really

[@thelocaldumbash698]

Ayo the pizza here!

[@jtc_jay]

I appreciate that thank you 💯💯💯😏❤️

[@skyrain4035]

@@Rose_loving_axolotl no

[@AceMoonshot]

I seriously doubt a bunch of people would say, "Let it go," when you find the meth head that run over you. Crushing not only your body but your life. What possible reason would anyone not actually involved in the crime to suggest they should just let it go? Not buying it.

[@charminglady2011]

I agree. I tend to view things like this a fake.

[@SchererProductionServices]

Oh yeah there are PLENTY of AHs out there that WOULD say it. And I know several who would and have. They don't give a shi+ about anyone but themselves.

[@charminglady2011]

@@SchererProductionServices that makes me sad to hear that then. Your comment makes me cherish my circle of friends and family more.

[@nallyaaaaaa]

okay but is no one gonna talk about how HILARIOUS the impression at 15:56 is? i cracked up laughing, lmao

[@lanaanghel8771]

How can anyone laugh at a hit and run, and tell a victim of a hit and run accident to just let it go?? Jack and Ashley are perfect for each other, both of them are sadistic idiots 🙄