I feel like on the last story if Callie hadn't been so young everyone would be applauding OP for standing up for his girlfriend. Even the ex wife got along with her!
@dorianleakey Жыл бұрын
People actually changed what they read in their minds because of her age, they literally lied about the story so they could have a simpler story and not feel sympathy. The age issue is separate.
@BlueSkyBS3 жыл бұрын
Story 1: Yes, it was mean. As mean as it needed to be.
@CocoCece083 жыл бұрын
It was savage, beautiful, and honest. And I freaking LOVED it.
@jogoseamvs98713 жыл бұрын
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@f.t.cnation99993 жыл бұрын
Nah not mean enough
@Undomaranel3 жыл бұрын
@Purplekitty81 ingram That wasn't sinking to her level of back handed statements, non-direct/passive aggressive insults through assumptions if others, general "mean girl" pettiness. That was telling it like it is, cutting through the bs, straight to the point kill shot. Big difference.
@gisi52763 жыл бұрын
All adopted children could say that to mean same aged family members
@Park-Kim_VMin3 жыл бұрын
Story 1. NTA I was adopted too, yeah they chose us. I hate these people who think just because you're not adopted they're not family her cousin was the AH.
@pansprayers3 жыл бұрын
Seriously, though. My husband and SIL are adopted. The family has major issues, but exactly no one would ever dream of acting like this towards them, or tolerating the behaviour. The cousin would be told to leave until she could figure out how to be a civilized human being.
@brandommario23 жыл бұрын
I’m a guy. I don’t know much about periods, but I at least know they don’t work like urinating. Positive you can’t hold it in
@lilmisskristy54673 жыл бұрын
I was born a female and can tell you. You can not hold it in. So yeah you're right.
@tmoney88763 жыл бұрын
@@lilmisskristy5467 even if it was just to use the bathroom, some people can't hold it in for long periods of time. Teacher was just an ass.
@Latchkeyclown3 жыл бұрын
Cough, sneeze, laugh, or sit: * *drip* *
@bunnymoth77943 жыл бұрын
Its similar to a nosebleed. All you can really do is catch the blood until it stops by itself
@bluedragonfly81393 жыл бұрын
@@Latchkeyclown Or worse...
@lenamarist5743 жыл бұрын
Story 2: the father and brother don't know how uncomfortable it can be when you realise your period started and you're rushing to the bathroom. And like they said it was the last straw, there were probably tons of other problems and complaints. OP didn't make the man lose his job, his incompetence did.
@lifewithlee62983 жыл бұрын
Yeah it’s like a guy siting in his balls ⚽️ ⚽️ and a woman saying , to bad , you should tough it out 😱🤗
@amberleeannalee19992 жыл бұрын
This story is proof the American education system is crap. Many red state parents and “conservatives” won’t even allow their kids to take health class and in community college a biology class I took had the entire reproduction chapter was removed.
@TsukiKageTora3 жыл бұрын
Story 5: If I was that son, I wouldn’t have married that girl. If she was so insecure over women dressing for her wedding to the point of drinking, that boy has a lot of times in life of being accused of cheating or finding X more prettier than her.
@FoxyMomma4ever3 жыл бұрын
I agree wholeheartedly!
@zerobolt95063 жыл бұрын
Yea, all the commenters can't get over the age difference, there was bigger age difference in the past, now is much better then before, not to mention that one commenter saying it was all about up staging the ex but him, his GF and the ex was getting along.
@juanperez96883 жыл бұрын
@@zerobolt9506 exactly, he’s at the where he’s can still think for himself, and I didn’t get the “gold digger vibe” you know. Honestly he an AH but in a good way by revealing a future broken marriage. Also what if the son is jealous of his relationship, like imagine get upstaged by your dad 😂
@christinacumbest76423 жыл бұрын
I would have to agree with you!
@PrincessQ-fj9ly Жыл бұрын
@@zerobolt9506 As a person who isn't crazy about big age gap relationships, I would consider that irrelevant. As long as they're consenting adults, I'll try to trust that couple. The real issue is that OP's son and daughter in law were wrong for snubbing Callie and lying to OP about a plus one and OP's wrong for going against the bride and groom's wishes and inviting his girlfriend out of spite. ESH.
@samurailevi493 жыл бұрын
Story 3: Honestly I don’t see how they’re the asshole. Then again, I’m on the spectrum and just didn’t see anything wrong with it and it sounds like OP didn’t see anything wrong with it too. This is why I don’t communicate with people much in person.
@NobodyLikesThePlasticBear3 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY. As a girl and someone on the spectrum: wtf did they actually do wrong? I know some people in the comments explained that to them but "you compared your wife to your neighbor" seems like such a reach.
@purelysmetalnightcore3 жыл бұрын
@@NobodyLikesThePlasticBear I'm a woman NOT on the spectrum and I don't get it, either. I like to dress up at family gatherings and never once thought my married male cousins were admiring my body when they compliment my outfit.
@samurailevi493 жыл бұрын
@@NobodyLikesThePlasticBear I mean what did they want him to say; “My god you look ugly af in that dress. My wife is so much better looking and I’m glad she doesn’t dress like you.”? The poor dude couldn’t win either way. Edit: BTW sorry if it sounded like I was debating what you said. :’) That wasn’t what I was going for.
@jazzywarrrior14143 жыл бұрын
I'm not on the spectrum, and I say stuff like this a lot with my SO's or whatnot. I think it's just different cultures, but it's bullshit that they get so uptight about that.
@Hetalea3 жыл бұрын
If that's any reassurance to you I'm not on the spectrum but think the same as you, I don't get the wife's reaction. Unless OP had been a creep on the neighbour's wife all evening I don't see why sensible people would've that kind of reaction and I'm confused that the judgement was YTA
@epicXtrollface3 жыл бұрын
The period one is so infuriating.. "Learn to control yourself" How does this man think periods work?? It's like getting a stab wound and being told to just hold the blood in. There is physically no way to control the blood seeping out of a hole in your body. I honestly wish that was an option...
@Slicksterpat3 жыл бұрын
Story 2 I am a 58 yeard old male. That teacher should lose his job. He is too stupid to teach young people anything.
@pansprayers3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, my 45 year old husband said more or less the same thing. But, it sounds like neither one of you are completely obtuse, 😂.
@Slicksterpat3 жыл бұрын
@@pansprayers Thank you.
@pansprayers3 жыл бұрын
@Rusty Shackleford easy solve on this one. Put a wicker storage box somewhere discreet in your classroom that is stocked for each 'gender' (if you will), and stock it with basic hygiene products in grab bags that will meet each's needs, and easily labeled (not by color, you're getting a Master's, so you can decide there). Toothbrush/paste, deodorant, small soap, feminine hygiene products as appropriate, and let it be known that if anyone is in need, that they are able to get an emergency kit, no judgment. This also comes in handy for students who are homeless/come from working poor families (the number is shocking, and it's usually not who you think it is). Let your colleagues know as well. My husband's aunt, cousin, mother, grandmother and I did this, and there are actual grants to assist with the cost, particularly in underserved neighborhoods. Plus, like school supplies, it's usually tax deductible in the US for whatever the grant doesn't cover.
@pansprayers3 жыл бұрын
@Rusty Shackleford yeah, I'm a product of Oklahoma Choctaw Indian Reservation upbringing. My husband (up until my hysterectomy due to a metric ton of issues from PCOS and Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome) knew that part of the store better than I did. My husband went to HS in Arizona, but thankfully, due to being the product of a fairly liberal Mormon grandmother who was an educator (he eventually became one as well), put the onus on himself to make sure he knew what he needed to do to take care of his partners. He was the one who fought for my hysterectomy when it all got so bad it crippled me. He's very much of the mindset of, 'If I want to have fun with it, I have to also take care of it'. He bought tampons and pads after Hurricane Harvey when we lived in Ft Worth, and PROUDLY made the trip to Houston to hand out what he calls 'Comfort Kits' (bright ass pink with hearts, BTW) to every woman he came across that he put together without being prompted. He was asked how he knew it was a need, and just said, 'Well, your period didn't check the weather today, now did it?' He just does what he hopes someone would do for his wife, daughters, and neices if the situation was reversed.
@hannahdavis57253 жыл бұрын
That last story though I kinda go more ESH. The bride sounds like a real piece of work tbh, but the father is also apparently one too.
@rustyshackleford16973 жыл бұрын
1st story: NTA. I think people who can dish out the hurt but not take it are pretty awful people. I get that they may have stuff going in their life but to tear other people down to make yourself feel better is no better than being a big bully and is absolutely despicable.
@Trojianmaru3 жыл бұрын
Everyone always expects us to think about what might be happening in the bully's personal life, but nobody ever expects the bully to care about what's going on in our life.
@f.ah.c21143 жыл бұрын
Story 3: I truly appreciate last comment because I was stuck in “what is wrong in thinking your wife would look nice in a specific dress??”. Guess that you do have to be mindful of any implication even if it would be misplaced. So annoying.
@ccmcgaming3273 жыл бұрын
You don't nobody can control what stupid people think it's more concerning how childish his wife is and the last commenter on the post really stupid
@f.ah.c21143 жыл бұрын
@@ccmcgaming327 thing is, even if you weren’t at fault, what do you prefer: being right with a pissed off wife or from time to time be humble, say sorry, and have a happy marriage?
@Mildly_Dead3 жыл бұрын
@@f.ah.c2114 If you have to apologize for everything you say even when you did nothing wrong you should rethink your marriage.
@TsukiKageTora3 жыл бұрын
Story 3: NTA, he wasn’t saying the neighbor was attractive, he just said the dress is cute. I mean people, men and strangers included, that don’t have any sexual attraction to me say whatever I am wearing looks good and/or ask where they could get on because it would look good on themselves or something (I am female). It isn’t a big of a deal, I’d feel flattered someone likes what I’m wearing
@darknessbobulus3 жыл бұрын
Thats along the lines of what I am thinking.
@alexiron68763 жыл бұрын
It was a innocence question but a really stupid one to make in public with someone you just met.
@sleepyearth3 жыл бұрын
I think her husband was around too and it might be interpreted the wrong way.
@darknessbobulus3 жыл бұрын
@@sleepyearth Thats kind of the problem with calling the guy an asshole. Everyone is basing their opinions on what they assume he meant rather than what he actually meant.
@AKilahVamp3 жыл бұрын
Most women do not want to wear what another woman is wearing (unless famous lol) or want their neighbor copying their style, that's just a no no. And for him to say in front of everyone "babe, get one like it!" Is a tad creepy, it just kinda crosses a boundary. He should've just left it alone at "that's a nice dress".
@Ajedhunt3 жыл бұрын
Story 3: am I the only one thinking that if the genders were swapped in that story there would be no issue?
@sarahshock68053 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna comment this elsewhere, but I want you to see it because I think you'd agree with me: Stories like these support the need for an r/AreTheNeurotypicalsOkay, although it already fits in r/AreTheStraightsOkay. This man commented on _a dress_ a woman was wearing and everyone thought he was eyeing up the woman in that dress and comparing his wife to her.
@blifefamilyadventures69943 жыл бұрын
I agree
@Hetalea3 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!
@emifukakado-msjoke3 жыл бұрын
Frrr . There is no problem with what he did. He complimented a dress. And said his wife would look good in something similar. A woman could compliment a shirt and tell her husband that he’d look good in something similar and no one would bat an eye
@Gerilyn20033 жыл бұрын
@@sarahshock6805 Agreed, the commenters otherwise need to to chill out. He was literally admiring a piece of clothing, NOT the person wearing it.
@jackspring77093 жыл бұрын
Story 3: NTA: I've heard numerous women compare their husbands and spouses to their neighbours - infront of them: whether its their car, their house, their job...even their - shock horror - stylish clothing!!!
@darknessbobulus3 жыл бұрын
Ikr? The post strikes me as shockingly Mysandrist.
@jackspring77093 жыл бұрын
@@darknessbobulus True and I was amazed at the angry yta reaction from redditors.
@ceeshnia3 жыл бұрын
"Obviously we've established a close relationship with most of the neighbors." Me, an introvert: "...obviously."
@bluedragonfly81393 жыл бұрын
LOL, I know one neighbor out of the six of us in the building, and that's only because she got some heavy stuff from Fedex as I was coming home and I felt bad and offered to help her carry it upstairs.
@ceeshnia3 жыл бұрын
@@bluedragonfly8139 That was kind of you! It feels odd talking to neighbors, even if it's just helping them out/they help you out. When I lived in Utah I vaguely knew the neighbors across the street because they helped us move in and the dad would sometimes help me shovel snow since I was the only one in my house who did (I would bring cookies or a pie over as a thanks). The neighbors to my left I only knew because of how many times I had to catch their dog who they kept leaving outside when they left (even during the 4th, which?). Didn't know anyone else there and we lived there 4 years. Lived here for 3, and know one neighbor because they are very chatty and wanted to make sure we were set up for the winters in Maine (which I can appreciate as we moved out into a small town that tends to lose power several times each season, so that was some good information to have). Now I mostly wave if they look over and I can be seen or to bring their husky back (he likes to jump their fence to visit, which neither their older dogs do thankfully).
@Trojianmaru3 жыл бұрын
I live in a regular house, so I only consider the people on either side of me, and across the road to be my neighbours. Even still, I only regularly talk to one, and that's because her cat constantly wanders into my house, and her 2 daughters wander in "looking for their cat" Even though we're on great terms, I still sometimes miss the old days of having nothing to do with my neighbours, and that's with only 1/3 neighbours interacting with me. I dk how people manage to be involved with all their neighbours, having them all in their business, listening and gossiping.
@Slicksterpat3 жыл бұрын
Story 5 What you should have done is pull your son aside and talked to him then when he confirmed that he lied, left.
@darkshadow55813 жыл бұрын
While that would of been better, son is an AH. If they had just said "i don't want your SO there" clear YTA. Instead they lied about something was so clearly gonna backfire, just seems like a slap in the face. And even then OP didnt make a scene or cause drama, they just did what everyone else had already. Also, in comments OP said they paid half the wedding cost.
@Jamlf3 жыл бұрын
@@darkshadow5581 Wow, learning about how the father paid half made this even worse.
@rebecca44803 жыл бұрын
Wow paid half the wedding and couldn't even invite ops girlfriend of a year. NTA for sure. I'd cut him out of my will
@nareemcloon58063 жыл бұрын
@@rebecca4480 no I say everyone sucks here. Even though op helped with the cost, it doesn't mean that he can co trol the guest list. His sons wife is Hella controlling and jealous, but op should've listened and not brought his gf. Not because of the reason behind it, but out of decency. If they said she couldn't, then she couldn't go.
@zerobolt95063 жыл бұрын
@@Jamlf Mark needs to talk about this things, but I feel like he too had a problem with the age difference and all.
@roukerasati96113 жыл бұрын
Story 2: Absolutely NTA. If we could "hold it in", we'd never need products for it! I'd tell those ignorate male family members "Sure, let me cut your jugular vain and I'll tell you to "hold it"!" Yes, that's an extream example but it is basically what it's like.
@ToeBeanCozy3 жыл бұрын
If my partner ever says to me "That's a really pretty dress, you should get that dress you'd look great in it" I will assume he means exactly what he says. Wife sounds like she has some issues she needs to resolve rather than just assuming her husband is checking other people out and thinks she's hideous. Jfc.
@jlyo19913 жыл бұрын
Some people act like women are delicate flowers who can’t handle their own emotions and everyone needs to do it for them. That story and the last story are good examples for me.
@HaleyJo1992 Жыл бұрын
That's what I thought! I've had this sort of thing happen and was flattered my bf thought of me when he saw the clothes.
@francit4856 Жыл бұрын
Insecure much??????
@Maddluv4eric11 ай бұрын
EXACTLY! Because WTF?! You can’t compliment your friend and then say your wife would look pretty in the same thing?! She’s trippin!
@disenchantedtear82193 ай бұрын
@@francit4856thank you! Glad I’m not the only one thinking this!
@lee55273 жыл бұрын
Story 3: it might be because I'm socially inept, but why was the dress comment out of line?
@Takeoverartist19873 жыл бұрын
Because of double standards women regularly tell their man in front of another male friend things like “ look at his outfit it looks great we should get it for you” or “ hey he has a really great job you should ask him if they are hiring” and many more, but it’s ok to shit on men
@roukerasati96113 жыл бұрын
Basically, it's implying that someone's better then your wife.
@imdone99673 жыл бұрын
Think because he was telling her what to wear and it was a new neighbor?
@TsukiKageTora3 жыл бұрын
Because apparently if a man compliments a dress on another women it means he wants to bone her in faulty feminist logic.
@TsukiKageTora3 жыл бұрын
@@UsulPrincess it’s saying the dress looks good, if you’re so insecure that complimenting someone else’s clothing offends you and makes you think you’re being compared, then you have to go to therapy.
@gamergal90003 жыл бұрын
Story 3: NTA, all the husband did was comment on the dress, his wife jumped to conclusions hardcore, I can't stand people that let their heart heavily rule over their brain...by the way I'm a female myself, I feel if I was in that situation I would've just said "alright cool"
@locusxe14113 жыл бұрын
He’s still an ahole. You don’t just comment on some random woman’s dress and then go honey you should get something similar
@gamergal90003 жыл бұрын
@@locusxe1411 And yet women are allowed to say to their husbands they think he should wear a suit they saw some other guy wear and there are no problems there? Yeah, sure
@locusxe14113 жыл бұрын
@@gamergal9000 yeah that was my bad. I wasn’t listening to the story because I was busy but then I went back. The only problem I really see is that he said it in public
@gamergal90003 жыл бұрын
@@locusxe1411 ok yeah fair enough, still think the wife really overreacted personally but that’s just my opinion
@locusxe14113 жыл бұрын
@@gamergal9000 yeah I get you
@yabe-kfptentacultist3 жыл бұрын
story 2: No OP, the teacher had it coming... sounds like he needs a women's biology lesson
@sierrastanley31093 жыл бұрын
As if he can get any woman
@Davtwan3 жыл бұрын
If his job really was that important and was already under investigation, then he should have known better than to threaten his job security in a pandemic. He should have listened to his own words: “you should have planned better. Learn to control yourself.”
@annefromthetwincitiesmn88473 жыл бұрын
Story 5 Why was the mother's boyfriend allowed but not the father's girlfriend? OP isn't the AH for being upset about this. It would have been better if he had asked his GF to meet him there; then privately told his son he doesn't appreciate being lied to and left with GF.
@Rukiah13 жыл бұрын
What are the chances that both parents are dating people the same age as their kid? The son might be embarrassed dad is dating someone young enough to be his sister. It's creepy that there's an almost 30 year age gap. Everything with the bride is separate from op's actions and opinions so it doesn't affect the judgment. Plus the story is from op's POV and bias so some things about the wedding and bride should probably be taken with a grain of salt.
@songohan33213 жыл бұрын
So basically it was OK for the mother who did the cheating to be there with her significant other? But back on topic, why did the son lie about it. Just tell the truth on how he feels about it or how the bride feels about it. The dad could make a decision not to come or not. Yes what the dad did was wrong, but I can't stand how Reddit is giving the son a past because Reddit always have a problem with men dating women younger than them but it is OK for women to date men younger than them. If OP son has a problem with it, he is a grown ass man and should say so. Not pull this bullshit and expect things to go well without any problems.
@sleepyearth3 жыл бұрын
@@songohan3321 It's the son's wedding and it's his right to choose who to invite.... Stop lying please. Reddit has never given a pass for women dating men with 30 years old gap. Show us which reddit story states that. Like father like son. With father who pulls such bullshit, do you expect the son to fare better than him?
@songohan33213 жыл бұрын
@@sleepyearth And how am I lying? Did you even read the same story I did?
@tmoney88763 жыл бұрын
@@sleepyearth then he should've told his father that he doesn't want the wife there instead of lying about no plus ones.
@Ryokamen3 жыл бұрын
I think I might be the only who thinks that the dad in the lat story is not the asshole. If the son had manned up, instead of outright lying, and simply just told his father he didn't want her there instead of literally giving everyone a plus one I would then say the father is the asshole, but he didn't he lied. This makes the father feel left out, not saying what he did was right, but the whole situation could have been avoided if he had not lied. Seems like the bride was bad as well if everyone ended up at the bar next door partying.
@ice10553 жыл бұрын
Story 2: it’s funny how the males in her life are telling her to hold her period In like it’s an option. Educate them
@pansprayers3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, if women could 'hold it in', Kimberly-Clarke would go out of business overnight.
@yef1223 жыл бұрын
Right- I don't need any man man-splaining to me about how my period works.
@Davtwan3 жыл бұрын
Sophia - Did their parents or health class taught them _nothing_ about female biology? What, did they expect they’d just figure it out on their own?
@lrock483 жыл бұрын
You can't educate people who are willfully ignorant, this is the information age, there are absolutely no excuse for people not to look up information.
@toffiet33473 жыл бұрын
Honestly dont they think we wish we could. I'm fortunate enough to live in a country with relatively in expensive menstrual products but I understand that is not the case with other countrys (there is also period poverty here) but it still tracks up quite a bit. Dont you think I'd rather spend that £10, £15, £20 on something else every month
@MB730993 жыл бұрын
Story 5: I don't understand why everyone's giving him a YTA rating? The son could have easily just said to his father: "You're invited, but I don't want your girlfriend there." Simple as that. The father was out of line to bring her anyway, but the son is still at fault for deliberately lying to his father and thinking he wouldn't mind when he got there. You don't lie and then get upset when someone figures out you lied. ESH for me. Also, bridezilla much? It doesn't sound like much detail was made, but if the bride was that insecure about her day that his girlfriend was enough to upset her, I think the son is about to marry a landmine.
@TsukiKageTora3 жыл бұрын
She kicked women out that dressed “better” or “prettier” than her and started to drink. God help OP’s son because their marriage will not last a year if she is that insecure about other women at her own damn wedding.
@jgw54913 жыл бұрын
I agree ESH for both those reasons. And it's no one's business if two adults decide to date at whatever age. And I also agree with TsukiKage Tora below that I would bet on an early divorce. In fact, if the son has any sense, it will be a quick annulment.
@marshawargo72383 жыл бұрын
Being the father I'd have patted him on his shoulder & said "Congratulations Son, but I have to leave. Being I left someone at home alone who loves me appreciates me and doesn't lie to me, so I'll do what she wants. Good Luck in your marriage to HER." Then went on an expensive date with the one person who was slighted for nothing more than her looks.
@sleepyearth3 жыл бұрын
The son did that. He told him to get his girlfriend away but his dad do not want to do that. So the father is an YTA. Simple as that. It's his son's wedding and the father has NO right to do this to him. The son is not upset that the father figured it out, he is upset his father has gone against his wishes and brought his girlfriend who is almost same age as him to his wedding. I don't think you get the gist of the story.
@sleepyearth3 жыл бұрын
@@marshawargo7238 Ngl. Not even sure this statement is true or not. The father kinda "groomed" the girlfriend while she was still in college. It's a major red flag for me. A father who doesn't respect the wishes of his children don't deserve to have them. I won't be surprised that his children goes NC.
@cheryl87053 жыл бұрын
Story 3 - NTA! Wow, do we really live in a world where being friendly and giving someone a genuine compliment is considered an ahole move?! I take zero issue with OP's actions. Wife is being ridiculous, everyone is being oversensitive for no reason! I am seriously dumbfounded that people are saying YTA, why do they all want to be offended by nothing?
@FoxyMomma4ever3 жыл бұрын
Well, it is Reddit. They can be extremely harsh. Especially in the AITA subreddit.
@sherryflanigan76803 жыл бұрын
I agree but maybe it was the "way" he said it? Not sure but yea, ridiculous people can't even give compliments. Crazy. 😣
@supershaunaXD3 жыл бұрын
omg same I first heard it and was like "wait why is everyone reacting so badly?" and I still don't get it
@Star-Eyed-Ocean3 жыл бұрын
@@FoxyMomma4ever yeah it's so frustrating
@Enigma-pj3co3 жыл бұрын
Story 3 nta he liked the dress and told his wife she'd look good in it. His phrasing could've been weird. Doesn't make him an ass.
@mexcop1133 жыл бұрын
That what I was thinking
@marshawargo72383 жыл бұрын
My thoughts too. He probably didn't even see what the woman looked like. He Saw The Dress... Like if he was in a department store & saw it on a mannequin.
@loganlazarus56443 жыл бұрын
Everyone talks about there needing a justified asshole tag, I think there needs to also be a "not an asshole but you are stupid" I get that he didn't do anything wrong per say, but common sense would say that this would have set someone off
@marshawargo72383 жыл бұрын
@@loganlazarus5644 I Like That! "Your not an Asshole honey, your just stupid" hehehe
@Enigma-pj3co3 жыл бұрын
@@loganlazarus5644 really? I sincerely think his wife was overreacting.
@christinacartter97843 жыл бұрын
Story 4: meal prep for a whole week is A LOT. It might be ok to ask for help with a menu and/or grocery list, but the actual prep is too much.
@toysruskid50743 жыл бұрын
Depends on how bad a cook she is. Had it been my mom, the kids would be begging for canned food for dear life.
@scousemouse95663 жыл бұрын
Story 1, NTA, she had it coming, loved the video, thank you Mark for all your hard work, love sent to your Dad 🧇🧇🧇
@Russman673 жыл бұрын
Story 2: OP didn't get the teacher fired. It sounds like he was well on his way to getting that pink slip. And "should have planned better" does not apply to periods.
@charlotteflick36672 жыл бұрын
#5 once you found out there was a restaurant next door you could have met Callie there. Callie got a night out no wedding rules broken.
@EverlieS5053 жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA the cousin pushed it too far. But I wonder if there are issues between the cousin and her parents, judging from what OP said. It's no excuse to be a a**hole to someone, but if she's felt neglected or unloved by her parents, then OP'S comment may really hurt.
@louellacharlton44253 жыл бұрын
Or this what PARENTS think
@wmdkitty3 жыл бұрын
Well... that's her problem, and doesn't justify her comment about OP not being a "real" part of the family.
@EverlieS5053 жыл бұрын
I know, that's why I said that it's no excuse for her to be an a**. Just that it may explain her jealousy and why she dislikes OP, but that's just speculation. Absolutely no reason for her to lash out at OP.
@25Erix3 жыл бұрын
Story one: I (33F) was adopted at 3 years old by the same family who fostered me starting at 17 months. I cannot imagine any of my cousins saying this garbage. Everyone in my family accepted me as family since the beginning and when it comes to my younger cousins, my nieces, and my nephews, they never knew any different. I'm about to become an aunt for the seventh time to my parents' only grandchild with an actual biological link to me. My half-bio-sister (almost 32F) was adopted along with me and is about to have her son any day now.
@Tammohawk13 жыл бұрын
Oh no, my co-parenter is going to be gone for a week! Whatever shall I do? You do what you have to do because you have to do it. Without any excuses or whinging. How can you not know what your kids eat, even if you don't do the cooking? It's not rocket science. edit: When I was 24, my dad was 51. His girlfriend was 25. I have brother that is only 3 months older than my oldest son. Yes, we were both pregnant at the same time. And yes, it was very strange.
@MOlsen-sg3yi3 жыл бұрын
Sorry #3: Maybe I'm just dumb...... but i don't see any problems here. The comments..... especially the last one was just was really projecting. The wife is just really insecure while the neighbors arw just weird. If anyone agrees with the comments feel free to tell me why because i really confused on what the problem is.
@weedpuncher0363 жыл бұрын
I agree with YOURE comment
@this_username_is_taken70043 жыл бұрын
The problem was that he complemented the neighbour's dress and then said that his wife should wear it. This is a big no-no because it's implying that the wife doesn't look as great as the neighbour. If he just said that the dress looks great and left it at that, then that's okay
@MOlsen-sg3yi3 жыл бұрын
@@this_username_is_taken7004 he's not IMPLYING anything tho. The wife is just insecure, as a girl i don't see anything wrong with what he did. People are just reading to much into it and are clearly insecure themselves.
@lilolmecjАй бұрын
@@this_username_is_taken7004he said his wife should get one similar, as wife would also look great in it. I don’t see how this is awful.
@lilolmecjАй бұрын
@@MOlsen-sg3yiin fact my husband bought me a fleece pullover, he said that my sister in law was wearing a similar one and he liked it and thought I would look good in it too. How could this be offensive?
@thatsnazzylad3 жыл бұрын
Story 5 - this was hard, but ESH. OP for bringing an uninvited guest, and the son and his wife for letting their insecurities control how people were dressed and who was invited
@valibeeholloway67513 жыл бұрын
I swear the stories are getting better and sadder. ( ⚈̥̥̥̥̥́⌢⚈̥̥̥̥̥̀)
@broken_queer_but_fighting85893 жыл бұрын
🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜
@justinjones-smith51683 жыл бұрын
Story 4: YTA. You should know what they like or just take the safe options.
@CocoCece083 жыл бұрын
Especially when they're OP'S kids too! Hell, even I know my husband's preferences (beets, mushrooms, chili, etc.) and he knows mine (when I'm sick, I LOVE Bojangles chicken cause it's spicy and good for my sinuses).
@Ally.813 жыл бұрын
Definitely the AH, she should know by now what they like, even if they are 2 and 3 years old, is not like they live in different homes. But i do have a question, do u think the reddit community will have judged different if the mom will have been the one going away? 😁
@shannonbullock22023 жыл бұрын
Story 3: It's obvious by his reaction the husband was innocently admiring the dress, not the woman wearing it. As soon as he noticed everyone was misinterpreting his intention he should've apologized and laughed it off. Everyone would've laughed and problem solved. Now the new neighbors think he's a creep hahaa
@redditprofessionals40243 жыл бұрын
11:09 I found it hilarious too. She can dish it out, but she👸 sure can't take it. I am glad your grandparents sound so awesome. It is appropriate for them to reward the kids that help them out.😛
@Lextasy.4203 жыл бұрын
Love your redit reading marks ! Xo from Canada. Snows finally melting and I do my chores listening to you
@MarkNarrations3 жыл бұрын
A pleasure to keep you company during those pesky chores Alexis :)
@catte.3 жыл бұрын
Is that your cat in the profile pic? Really, really cute!
@Lextasy.4203 жыл бұрын
@@catte. yes it was the day I brought him home from the shelter ! he’s now a 15 pound fluff monster now
@catte.3 жыл бұрын
@@Lextasy.420 adorable!
@seankeller15603 жыл бұрын
Uhhh in that last story people need to grow up. Yeah a 53 yr old dating a 20 something former student may not be great, and bringing the gf even though she wasn't invited may have started this. Still the son is spineless so i'd say ESH. Just because the father could and should have left after finding out that he'd been lied to.
@itsjustmaddisen2 жыл бұрын
For real, that whole family is a mess.
@leopardnosepaws3 жыл бұрын
Story 2.... should it just come to the point that boys should have classes that teach them the basics about periods.
@wmdkitty3 жыл бұрын
Especially since some boys have periods.
@purelysmetalnightcore3 жыл бұрын
@@wmdkitty Lol
@ettinakitten5047 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely! Sex ed classes should teach the same material to everyone. Even if you don't have periods, you're gonna have friends/loved ones/people you've got authority over who do.
@godbacks093 жыл бұрын
I’m a man and I know there’s no way for a female to control or hold their period. They started teaching sexual reproduction and stuff about reproductive systems in the human body at my middle school. It amazes me that there are people out there who are that uneducated about that type of thing.
@moelee8923 жыл бұрын
The wedding story: ESH. Dude shouldn't have taken his GF, but his son needed to grow a spine and explain the situation in the first place.
@Speireata43 жыл бұрын
Story 3: Maybe I am dense, but I don't understand why people called the man the AH. He just said that the neighbor looked good in that dress, that it is a beautiful dress and that maybe his wife could buy a similar one, if she likes it. If my boyfriend had said that to me, I would have looked at the dress and either had replied that yes, I like the kind of dress and might buy a similar one or, that no, I don't think it would suit me. I really, honestly don't see the problem.
@cheryl87053 жыл бұрын
That's because there is no problem. People are crazy if they think OP is an ahole for giving someone a compliment on their clothes. Ridiculous. Not a world I want to live in.
@Ghostcyborg713 жыл бұрын
The problem is everyone assuming he's comparing the women
@darknessbobulus3 жыл бұрын
@@Ghostcyborg71 "Assuming makes an ass out of you and me"
@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT3 жыл бұрын
Thats because u have a functioning brain
@Speireata43 жыл бұрын
@@Ghostcyborg71 but he didn't, at least from what he wrote in his post. That's why I am so confused about everyone saying that he was an AH.
@darknessbobulus3 жыл бұрын
Im sorry but Im with OP on story three. Hearing the guy explain it, when he said "People can't seperate you looking at the dress from looking at the woman under it" made me actually laugh my ass off. I suppose its because I'm pretty good at compartmentalization (IMO anyway), but my first reaction was "That's ridiculous! And it sounds pretty mysandrist (sorry for spelling) of them." I mean shit, when I compliment my friend because his new glasses looks great, that doesn't make me gay. Just because you like someone's outfit doesn't mean your attracted to them. And telling someone "Hey, you would look good in X too" doesn't mean you don't already think they'd look good. This right here strikes me as just everyone reading way too much into something because "wahman." Flip the genders, and I sincerely doubt everyone would be reacting this way. NTA.
@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT3 жыл бұрын
Right it was so freaking stupid
@MsUnamusedNerd3 жыл бұрын
Last Story: so the bridezilla is so insecure about how she looks she demanded all the younger women come to the wedding looking ugly so she could feel better about herself? WTF? Did bridezilla not have the budget to get her hair done, make up done, nice jewelry (even if it was costume jewelry), and a beautiful dress to wear on her big day? Was she a little heavier and didn’t think to start dieting and exercising months before the wedding to lose some weight? Also WTF? OP is in his 50s and he’s dating a woman half his age they used to be as former student and what’s worse she’s very close in age to his son? I can understand the son not wanting Callie there. It would make anyone feel extremely uncomfortable that their parents are banging someone that’s incredibly close to your own age. Honestly that sounds like a shit wedding. The bride is being an insecure diva and the groom is having drama with his father.
@shikuthetempest3 жыл бұрын
Right? The dad is absolutely an asshole (and super gross) for obvious reasons, but the son's new wife is no prize either. I can't imagine marrying someone who wants to micromanage what guests at her wedding wear and how they style their freaking hair because she doesn't want anyone else to be "pretty".
@MsUnamusedNerd3 жыл бұрын
Not only that can you imagine someone unknowingly/unintentionally following the bride’s standards and the bride being pleased someone is “obeying“ use them as an example? She’ll basically be putting them on a pedestal and calling them ugly when the person was genuinely trying to look their best. Picture this: you’re going to someone’s wedding and you had no clue the bride wants you to dress/do your hair ugly so you don’t upstage her. So you put on your best clothes, do your hair the way you like it, and when you arrive to the wedding the bride praises you for looking ‘frumpy’.
@jamestown83983 жыл бұрын
Callie is 25 years old - she's a grown adult of sound mind, so she can surely make her own decisions. OP isn't preying on her, she willfully chose to date him.
@michaelmorris83023 жыл бұрын
@@jamestown8398 exactly people get bent over him dating a younger woman but not the x on her 3rd random and getting knocked up at her age if he didn't want her their he should have said dad my wife doesn't want your gf there instead of lying about it
@shikuthetempest3 жыл бұрын
@@jamestown8398 I am also 25 years old, a grown adult of sound mind capable of making my own decisions. I am in no way in the same place in my life as a 50 year old, I do not have nearly the same amount of life experience, and no 25 year old does. A 25 year old is much less likely to spot red flags or abusive behavior because they haven't had nearly as much experience as a 50 year old. There is an inherit power difference when it comes to an age gap like that even disregarding the fact that she's a former student of his, which is its own sort of power imbalance.
@sagesaria3 жыл бұрын
Story 3: ...am I missing something? I'm a woman and if my SO said that a certain dress would look good on me I'd be flattered and ask about it. I know that men tend to come off unintentionally creepy or sexualizing, but I didn't get that feeling from his comments? I'm so confused.
@alicewilloughby43183 жыл бұрын
First Story - People who label adopted family members as "Not REAL family" really piss me off. The cousin had it coming (especially since she said it in front of the four-year-old!) and OP has nothing to apologize for! Wedding Story - When did Bridezillas become such a "thing"??? I can't even imagine a bride thinking it's okay to exclude someone from her wedding just because they might look better than she does!
@funwithcoding28183 жыл бұрын
Story 5 is ESH, more the couple than OP. They lied about the reasoning behind it, and the bride sounds like a nightmare besides. OP still wasn’t giving a plus one, so he had no right to invite his gf, but he’s also understandably upset that he was lied to and that he was being treated differently. This is like the ones where people are told it’s child free to avoid certain children. Circumstance is the only thing preventing it from being nta entirely
@Sascha-bf1kw3 жыл бұрын
S3: I didn't understood why everyone was so mad at him mabye he said this in a creepy way or stared at his neighboor I don't know NTA... I think, because what he did sounds like something I would say and I would never be mean to anyone or look at someone else's wife in this case mabye I'm too stupit for this one.
@Timbulathespidermonk3 жыл бұрын
Wow! Mr T was teaching math? “I pity the fool who didn’t do their algebra homework!”
@izzlebizzle95813 жыл бұрын
Story 3: NTA. All he said is he liked the dress. He probably should have said it in private but he said nothing wrong and everyone else is assuming the worst of him
@emibaka3093 жыл бұрын
Story 3: nta I mean come on. If my bf saw a nice dress on a person and told me that I should get a similar one because I would look good in it, whats the issue? He thought it would be something I like and I would look gorgeous in it. He would be thinking of me looking cute. So whats the issue here honestly... I have no idea why would that be awkward in any shape or form. Its a compliment to the girl wearing it but also to your girlfriend/wife. He isn’t saying that you “HAVE TO” get it. He isn’t forcing anyone. Just saying that the dress is hella cute 😄
@namayra2993 жыл бұрын
I didn't even notice that I started the video when it was uploaded just a few seconds ago. Who needs notifications when you are just on KZbin waiting for something good to watch.
@kiratheangeloflove31243 жыл бұрын
Story 1: wow NTA at all! She had it coming. My mother was in foster care before she turned 12 and kinda adopted her a couple years after. Her forster parents are my grandparents, still have close contact to them today. Some of my cousins at one point started to say we wasn't really family. It felt like being stab in the back, but right now there's nothing. My grandparents have even accepted my aunts ex husband children into the family (a really bad man). They are amazing and have shown me how been loved by family really feel.
@Slicksterpat3 жыл бұрын
Story 1 Normally I would say YAT but not in this circumstance. Cousin asked for it and it seems that grandparents agree. Totally NTA times 100.
@suko12543 жыл бұрын
Story 5: ESH The son should have just said "Hey dad my soon to be wife doesn't want your girlfriend to be there" instead of lying and saying no one gets a plus 1 because of covid and your AH because they both clearly didn't want here at the wedding and the bride is a huge bridezilla making the other women come to the wedding ugly so she could feel good about her self? Like come on man that girl needs therapy or something. OP needs to talk to there son like the 2 adults they are.
@hojmatros51023 жыл бұрын
Story 2: Whenever one of these men in OPs life gets a cut or scrape and start bleeding, she should scold them and tell them to "keep it in". They don't need to risk staining something or inconvenience people who dislike seeing blood. They should have planned better anyways.
@lilolmecjАй бұрын
Good Grief on the husband traveling/meals! My husband was gone half of each year. Usually I would get a week to go visit family when he was home. He never asked guidance on what to feed the kids. I sense resentment of husband going away for a week.
@ritafryer81343 жыл бұрын
Story 3. I wonder if them and his wife would have jump to the same conclusions if the guy had said nice shoes?
@semideadnat3 жыл бұрын
Charming-Pudding made a good point in their comment and honestly I agree very much with their comment. It hits all the right points and they clearly marked all the valid reasons as to why Op was acting rather rude.
@CatAstridphe3 жыл бұрын
Story 3: Without listening to the comments... I just ??? He really liked the dress and thought it would also look nice on his wife. I don't see an issue here. If my SO wanted to buy me clothing he thought would nice on me I'd be extatic, even if my friends had the same thing. Samesies/twinsies is a real thing and I love when me and my friends have the same stuff.
@familyytowo72613 жыл бұрын
THIS CHANNEL IS TO LOVELY IM GONNA CRY!!! ♡♡♡♡♡
@broken_queer_but_fighting85893 жыл бұрын
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@MarkNarrations3 жыл бұрын
Aww you're too lovely!
@bessevaraven859 Жыл бұрын
It's his normal chores and doing a bit of food prep before he dumps EVERYTHING on spouse for an entire week isn't unreasonable for him to be asked to do.
@CocoCece083 жыл бұрын
Weekend off work, and... sore throat and sinus pain. But still watching before my nap.
@dragonleheart21372 жыл бұрын
I loved Mark’s reaction to the title of the neighbor’s dress story. It absolutely made my day 😀.
@anonymousbrooks81943 жыл бұрын
Story 1. Don't start shit, there won't be shit.
@espio3293 жыл бұрын
Personally last story is more of a Soft NTA going to ESH. His son lied about having +1, but his cheating ex-wife gets to bring her boyfriend and the main reason why is cause his DIL has massive insecurity issues? Not only that, but she's making her Bride's maids and other female guests wear uglier dresses and hairstyles to make her feel better about herself. Ignoring the age gap, Yes the son should have been more direct about invites, but the father has every right to be peeved. Edit: Another detail I noticed is that other guests left the wedding due to how much of an insecure bridezilla the Bride was. If anything the Son and his wife ruined their wedding not the dad.
@soulbound23 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@the_classy_crackhead3 жыл бұрын
on your side here
@angelflyfreesky49843 жыл бұрын
Also, in the thread's comments, OP had said he paid for half of this wedding. I'm definitely going with nta. I think way too many people are hung up on the age.
@espio3293 жыл бұрын
@@angelflyfreesky4984 agreed, majority of the votes are coming from looking at the Noticable age gap. Not the son and DiL lying to their father and throwing a hissy fit that ruined their wedding.
@daltongrady56433 жыл бұрын
I dont unterstand why you dont have FAR MORE subs, but you deserve them buddy. Keep at it!
@unwantedpickle81053 жыл бұрын
Story 3: NTA. yo wtf is up with them? If my boyfriend said "hey I like this dress she's wearing and think you'd look good in it," I'd be pretty flattered. I am very insecure about myself but would never be offended if someone said they think I'd look good in something (unless it was absolutely ridiculous) especially not my boyfriend. He clearly is thinking about me and isn't implying she's better than me or any other negative thoughts unless his tone did. In fact, we do the same thing with store mannequins. We look at their clothes and go "I think this will look nice" then proceed to try it on.
@wmdkitty3 жыл бұрын
1: NTA. You never, ever say or imply that an adoptee is not a real part of the family. Period. And yes, at least OP was wanted. To repeat, for those in the back: *_FAMILY DON'T END IN BLOOD_*
@LillyianPuppy3 жыл бұрын
Maybe I'm the only one, but I kind of think a mild everyone sucks for the dress story. He wanted to know what was wrong with his comment, and she refused to tell him and just yelled at him more. His apology sucked, but he still seems to not understand why he was apologizing. On that note. I've picked up items of clothing for my boyfriend that I saw on people and looked good. I've also complimented men's shirts and never tried to insinuate that those men were hot. So if he did it in a leering way , ok, but it seems like a genuine misunderstanding. I know, I know, I write too much sometimes for comments no one actually reads. LOL
@michaelc.r.64163 жыл бұрын
Well, I think it might be NAH as well because as you said, is just a misunderstanding. I felt that the husband did nothing wrong but the wife just misunderstood all the meaning of his comment. He tried to fix it apologizing but you can't do a proper apology if you don't feel that you did something wrong... which again... as I felt you implied (correct me if i'm wrong) ... he didn't. I mean, I never thought you could actually interpret his comment the way the wife did but seeing how many people actually saw it that way, is kinda understandable(?) why she would be mad at him and wouldn't want to talk about it right now.
@LillyianPuppy3 жыл бұрын
@@michaelc.r.6416 Exactly. They each need to spend 10 minutes to hear each other out, use their new understanding to apologize to each other, and move on. ... Unless he was actually really creepy about his compliment and just didn't share that part.
@justin097563 жыл бұрын
@@michaelc.r.6416 i like that you pointed out the apology. I normally would say yta for the apology but in this situation he had no idea what he did wrong, and an apology is first and foremost admitting fault and responsibility, which you can't get if you don't know what you did wrong. A genuine apology can still be given if you think you werent wrong, but you know that is what you did wrong to them, but if you are never told what was done wrong when you dont know, then you can never truly apologize or even prevent it from happening again, unless you massively overcorrect and at that point risk doing something else wrong. Honestly, if not for the Wife refusing to tell OP was wrong, id say NAH, but she refused to give him the necessary information needed to actually make it right. If he read the comments then he did get the information, hopefully from the last comment Mark read as that one seemed to have the best intentions there but still didnt address the issue of no one else telling him what he did wrong since any other target (his brother, father, him from his wife, etc) its not wrong, so why is it wrong here? This is the fundamental issue in this story to me honestly. (Whoo ranty today)
@videofan10103 жыл бұрын
Cousin is super bitter.
@Park-Kim_VMin3 жыл бұрын
Yep 💯
@francessmith50733 жыл бұрын
Story 2: I am truly shocked at how little some adults understand about the human body and how it works.
@indianspartan763 жыл бұрын
Story 3: NTA. Yo nice dress, honey you should get one of those. Seems completely normal
@victorvaldez88693 жыл бұрын
First Story: OP's comment was cruel, but it was earned by the cousin's cruelty, if you can't take it, don't dish it out. Second Story: If Mr. T has recurring issues with student mensuration it's on him, not her.
@louellacharlton44253 жыл бұрын
Thanks Mark. Grand stories! Stay safe and hellos to your dad.
@redninjaibby3 жыл бұрын
We need Dog Tax!
@nathanroberts36383 жыл бұрын
Story 3: Thank you to the person who wrote the last reply. I'm on the autism spectrum, and genuinely wasn't sure what the issue is (although everyone staring was a dead giveaway that he messed up). That explanation was so perfect, and so much more helpful than the usual "YTA, stupid".
@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT3 жыл бұрын
👀 I'm sorry but it was a misguided comment at best
@justin097563 жыл бұрын
@@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT the comment was coming from a constructive place, but it is still misguided i think, as it just supports the double standard that women can compliment men's clothes but if men do they are creepy and comparing their partner to the woman. Ill accept being called an AH for it, but if i were in that situation i wouldn't apologize for saying the same thing I would have were it on a mannequin or a hanger rather than another woman.
@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT3 жыл бұрын
@@justin09756 exactly idk why people think that every compliment a guy makes inherently just makes them a pervert so much so even comments on objects not people can land them in the hot seat
@daronma90413 жыл бұрын
Story 3....its the same as if he saw it on a display or if the wife saw a dude in a suit and said "hey that suit would look good on you" Its like me looking at a vid on social media and asking my gf if she likes this dress and telling her she would look great in it thats the way I'm looking at it wtf is wrong with what he said? Why are we living in a world where if I were to compliment a woman its taken as something sexual and not the same as if I were to compliment her husband?
@bambi30013 жыл бұрын
I think I may be dense to the 3rd story. I saw nothing wrong with what he said and I don't comprehend where the assumption that they thought he wanted his wife to pretend to be his neighbor. I say similar things to my friends or other people, and no one ever reprimanded me or tell me I was being inappropriate. He simply liked the dress and if someone told their friend, spouse, etc. that it is nice and should maybe get a similar one, I would be kind of happy. That's just me. He didn't even demand it, it was literal a compliment, to me at least. I do think Op messed up on how he handled the situation and if the neighbor is weirded out by his comment, he should apologize. I think ESH just because Op's wife did overreact instead of talking with him she screamed. Op is the idiot on how he handled the situation. Maybe it is just me
@luciferandassociates92553 жыл бұрын
I know right, I was thinking the same thing. It's a cute dress, hell if I could see it I might want. Because I like wearing cute things, and just because someone else has it doesn't we're being compared to each other. Like I'm so confused, was the dress not nice? Does she not want to wear dresses anymore cause the other wife is in one? Can they both not be pretty?
@eboniedreamz13713 жыл бұрын
Yes I feel the same way.
@bambi30013 жыл бұрын
@@luciferandassociates9255 I think OP's wife is insecure, Op said what he said to her. He brought the attention back to his wife and is making suggestions to her. I would want a spouse like that. Would she rather him not give her any input on her outfits? She needs to stop being so damn rude and apologize for overreacting over nothing. Are these adults or freaking children, I cannot tell.
@RSN22773 жыл бұрын
@@luciferandassociates9255 The big problem wasn't him liking the dress. The problem was OP saying to his wife "You should get a dress like that." You don't say something like that. You can say subtlety by asking his wife, "Do you think it's a nice dress?"
@PetitTasdeBoue3 жыл бұрын
@@RSN2277 No it's just overwhelming sensibility at this point. It's like people telling you to not say "handicapped people" but "people with a handicap". Talking with this kind of people is so annoying, screw the "subtlety", she's just a snowflake.
@desmond_craddock_52263 жыл бұрын
Story 3 Telling someone their dress is pretty isn’t rude
@rutyqutykandi13613 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately telling his wife that she should get it too is weird. But all the same guys don't understand most women view that as a underhanded way of saying that they think the neighbor is hot. Even if its not true it doesn't matter, its how it comes across. Plus a rule about dresses, women do not want to wear the same one that another has. This seems like a lack of understand social cues as people said.
@haileywiscott42863 жыл бұрын
Exactly. I really don't understand why everyone is calling him the AH. It's not like he was flirting with the neighbor's wife
@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT3 жыл бұрын
@@rutyqutykandi1361 even if it's not true it doesn't matter 🤦♂️ so basically she's gonna get offended at her own assumptions but yeah it's his fault
@justin097563 жыл бұрын
@@rutyqutykandi1361 part of the issue is these are generally, not always but generally, social rules made and enforced by women, and men do not live with these rules and in fact in many cases are forced to follow the complete opposite rules, in part due to less variety in clothing than women. Men and women on average act and think differently and part of the issue here is that its a woman's viewpoint and understanding of social rules and interactions versus a man's, who in this case the two appear to have very different understandings of what is acceptable, and, unfortunately, so many people, including men, think that the default norm should be how women view it and that that understanding should take priority, rather than understanding that people inherently think differently from others
@rutyqutykandi13613 жыл бұрын
@@justin09756 Yes that was what I was implying.
@Icalasari2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Charming Pudding in Story 3 - I am also autistic so I was waiting for somebody to explain. I figured something was wrong but could not place it. Now I can avoid making that faux pas
@katiesmith20313 жыл бұрын
Hi Mark thanks for the video hope you are having a wonderful day 😀
@MarkNarrations3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Katie, you too
@katiesmith20313 жыл бұрын
Much love
@Puppeteer0073 жыл бұрын
Story 2: I’m so over people blaming someone else for making them lose their jobs. If someone is acting inappropriately and has multiple complaints against them, then it’s their own fault that they lost it, not the person who complained. It doesn’t matter that we’re in a pandemic, we’re all going through a tough time right now, it doesn’t give anyone the right to act like an asshole towards someone. And honestly, the fact that the teacher wouldn’t let her put a tampon in and change her underwear if need be speaks volumes. It takes a few minutes to do. He was on a power trip and clearly doesn’t care for his students
@kixi80333 жыл бұрын
2: Completely NTA. I get that a lot of men don't know everything about womens personal hygiene, you'd think that they'd understand that sitting in period blood is gross and extremely uncomfortable. That teacher, the dad, and the brother all need a lesson in periods and bodily functions that pertain to women because they are more clueless than my husband. And he only didn't know we wiped after peeing.
@CrescentMoonDancer153 жыл бұрын
My God. #3. Everyone is INSANE. MARK INCLUDED. "Wow, your dress is so nice and pretty. Honey, you should get it too. It would look great on you." Translation: pretty dress = you have good taste = compliment = polite = good 1st impression Pretty + already pretty wife = AMAZING WHEN has genuinely and politely complimenting someone equated crossing boundaries? WHEN has saying your spouse would look amzaing in clothes embarrassing?! Seriously, INSANE! HOW is this insulting or embarrassing? Seriously! I am genuinely confounded right now and want to know.
@purelysmetalnightcore3 жыл бұрын
Story 3: wtf Mark, how is he the AH? By admiring the dress he's admiring the body inside of it? Does that apply to gay men, too? My family does not have gatherings very often, so when we do I like to dress up. I regularly get compliments on how good "I" look, sometimes the dress specifically and sometimes in general, from my male cousins in front of their wives, and IN ADDITION to their wives. It's never been an issue. I have never once considered my married cousins were ogling me or that their words pissed their wives off. OP's wife is weird and insecure for projecting. Men are allowed to compliment women.
@Josku24113 жыл бұрын
Discord brought me here quicker than youtube once more
@MarkNarrations3 жыл бұрын
Always the way!
@locusxe14113 жыл бұрын
Story 3 NTA. Now that I think about it. Op didn’t comment on the woman but he could have just said it to her in private.
@jus47953 жыл бұрын
Private as without the wife of without the person who is being complimented...?
@locusxe14113 жыл бұрын
@@jus4795 talking to his wife at home or something
@jus47953 жыл бұрын
@@locusxe1411 That would be weird... Why would he even remember the dress after the event...?
@locusxe14113 жыл бұрын
@@jus4795 I mean. If he thought it looked good how would he not remember? Do you remember to get food at a grocery story where you’re running low?
@jus47953 жыл бұрын
@@locusxe1411 It's a dress seen on the social event, not a necessity. Do you remember how everybody was dressed on the social event after it had ended...?
@TheFinalProblem18913 жыл бұрын
It seems like story 3 this is getting blown out if proportion x2. First, at the inciting incident and second, online. IMO, he didn't do anything wrong by complimenting the dress and suggesting his wife would look good in it. That is my perspective as a married woman in the US. Maybe it is cultural and it would be an issue elsewhere. To me though, he didn't say "Look at how good her body looks in that dress, maybe your body would look as good if you wore it." Which is seemingly how she took it. He simply complimented an object and thought the beautiful object would work well on his wife. Kind of a compliment, really. Now online, from reading some if these comments (particularly replys to comments) why is everything an opportunity to point out an extreme viewpoint? It was neither sexist male of him to compliment an object (not the person wearing it, aside from their taste in selecting the object) nor feminism gone amok that she was offended. The culprit here is a deep seeded insecurity that exists in their relationship. I put it that way, because she obviously carries it, and he seems oblivious/dismissive of it. But who knows why it's there. She could have developed this insecurity well before they met or it could be the result of a problem in their relationship. We have no way of knowing with the information in hand. What I do know though, is that feminism is not to blame and neither is the patriarchy. I am a firm feminist who believes in systemic inequalities... and I also believe this man did absolutely nothing wrong at the time of the offense. We can't crucify people for saying something innocuous and offending someone with said comment, which is arguably inoffensive. Where he lightly is the asshole, and he could easily yet correct the ship, is by, after cooling off from the initial argument, not being concerned with how she took his comment. If my spouse had that reaction to me making as innocuous a comment as that, I would be worried. What is going on that such a small thing would make them feel that way? I would want to help them feel better and figure out how to facilitate that. That fact that something so explosive came from such a small thing should make him worried for his wife's wellbeing. Honestly, the only response to the idea of my husband doing the same thing is a bemused chuckle that he would probably see a dress he thought was pretty and think it worked the same way on every body type. I'd be like, "Yup! Looks great on her!" Thinking, "That empire cut on that lovely slim athletic build WOULD look awesome on my busty hourglass build". 🤣
@fio11533 жыл бұрын
Story 5: How did I know that the OP’s gf was around the same age as his son. Though I was surprised that the age gap wasn’t the cause of the discord in this story.
@jgw54913 жыл бұрын
Maybe at root it was the cause, because Callie was the only one pointedly uninvited. I do agree with the commenter who said that Dad shouldn't have called her to invite her there. IMO he should have quietly told his son that he didn't appreciate the lie and that he would be leaving to spend the evening with his girlfriend. And BTW I also think two adults have the right to date whoever the like.
@jamestown83983 жыл бұрын
@@jgw5491 I'm glad you're saying that. Callie is 25, she's of sound mind, the age of the romantic partner *she chose* is nobody else's business. People accusing OP of preying on Callie are beign really paternalistic.
@leannenuttall56552 жыл бұрын
Op4... as a 9 year veteran Navy wife, I know how you feel! being the only parent can be overwhelming. And just maybe it's time for you to learn to cook! Pro tip- let the kids " help cook " and plan! this way they are already happy about the food AND everyone learns an important life skill!!
@TailsFan Жыл бұрын
Chapter 3: What is wrong with everyone at that party? Him commenting on how nice the dress looked on the neighbor is no different than him saying how nice it would look on a mannequin! "Want her to pretend to be the neighbor", that's absolute BS and the wife and everyone else at the party must've been thinking that she looked better than the wife for them to INSTANTLY jump to that conclusion.
@broken_queer_but_fighting85893 жыл бұрын
Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜
@TNTMAN3603 жыл бұрын
Just noticed you had two comments same as before have a good day
@broken_queer_but_fighting85893 жыл бұрын
@@TNTMAN360 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗
@carolroberts46143 жыл бұрын
Hello there,hope you've had a good day!
@broken_queer_but_fighting85893 жыл бұрын
@@carolroberts4614 awww hello I have that you've had a swell day as well 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜
@fantasticmrfox92913 жыл бұрын
"I got poppy in my lap for this one" *everyone* falls in love
@Maria-rq4ir3 жыл бұрын
in story 2 the teacher is crazy because he does not understand periods and how annoying it is to get blood stains out, how bad period pains can get and that anyone who gets them cant keep them in