r/Bestof My Husband is Obsessed with My Hot Boss

[@silverflight01]

Story 1: He stalked another woman, lied about it, and then tried to hide dating OP's Boss. And the gaslighting, man that is a lot of gaslighting. He is dangerous, through and through.

[@shadowmewfred09]

He's just pure scum though and though no amount of holy water can cure the evil poison that spills out of his mouth everytime he speaks

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

Yeah, he got what he deserved, but I think OP and her boss might need restraining orders, just to be safe.

[@Juju2927]

At this point, I wouldn't be surprised too that he's the reason the Boss's ex-husband is no more in the picture.

[@lancerevell5979]

He ruined OP's life, she has every right to ruin his. Karma, AH! 😡 Light up this gaslighting barstage! Burn him to his core!

[@LunaP1]

I wonder if the country OP lives in has good mental health facilities. That nut job needs to be locked up in one.

[@PunakiviAddikti]

Y'know, there's a saying "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth." I feel that can also apply to families. Let them burn, OP.

[@iPLAYtheSTATION]

Agreed. The family in the last story made their bed, and now they can lie in it.

[@BeeWhistler]

Dang, that saying hits hard. My family wasn't half as bad as his but I don't really talk to them anymore. They're cold, almost never seek out contact, and when we do get together it's all politics and arguing. Each sibling moved out and never looked back unless they were short of money and my mom can't seem to accept that it might be because she was always telling us not to be a bother... so now her kids don't bother her. As the youngest, I got left mostly to myself and no one cared about my life events much because they'd been there and done that, I guess. When my brothers became obsessive supporters of a famous bigot I decided I didn't need to talk to them even a little anymore. Now, my husband's family was closer to the OP's and he cut off contact entirely around 8 years ago. So yeah... if you don't feel that warmth, you find somewhere you do feel it and don't look back.

[@givemethasauce5720]

except for naruto it seems. wouldve been a much better plot if he did actually destroy the village

[@sirinkaslana3709]

He did, in his own way

[@Josh_the_jester]

Also let's say that the dad somehow manages to find OP. What's he gonna do, scold him to death? OP could effortlessly overpower his ex father if he got physical. Why? Because OP did 6 sports a year for 6 years.

[@complainx3]

I think OP and her boss in the first story need to IMMEDIATELY get a restraining order. This sounds like a story that can escalate really really badly. Especially with how much OP’s ex-husband has been blaming her, I wouldn’t be surprised if he might try to physically harm OP in retaliation for destroying his delusional relationship with her boss. 50 calls is actually considered extremely excessive.

[@weezieyo]

Agreed. That man is *dangerous*.

[@HumbleWooper]

50 calls in a WEEK is too much... that many in less than a day, it's 100% a "grab a restraining order and alert the neighbors" red flag.

[@sunshinegirl_]

Too late: the boss kept dating the ex-husband and is now expecting with him. Yes they're still together

[@aliasme-cc2qb]

I am so proud of the last op for getting away from his horrible family. Clearly they don’t think they did wrong. They will soon suffer from the fallout of their poor parenting.

[@lancerevell5979]

Those ingrates deserve whatever karma they get! 🤨

[@aliasme-cc2qb]

@@lancerevell5979 absolutely! I hope they suffer! I’m not usually happy with other’s sorrow but in cases like this… I enjoy it. I was abandoned as a child and adopted by great parents. I was lucky. I don’t like when people hurt kids.

[@survivedandthriving]

@@lancerevell5979 Karma is a beautiful warrior goddess. And yes these so-called parents deserve to be smited by Her.

[@kervinsantos5808]

The fact the aunt said " you gave him a bad childhood". Yeah, the fallout will he massive. And the two sons would need to learn life lessons soon

[@fanfictiondreamer7836]

What OP went through was clearly abuse. His parents were pretty much training him to be a servant for his 2 younger brothers for life and the parents are upset that they lost that. The rest of the family knew about that as well. I would have loved to hear what sort of things were said by the mother after she was told that she shouldn't have mistreated OP so badly. I would pay anything to hear that argument. I would also bring the popcorn.

[@NinjaBoy641]

"He told me to tell her the truth" But. But she did. She did! She literally did!

[@fdm2155]

The soon to be ex husband is delusional.

[@LilDevyl17]

When the "Ex Husband" said, "Tell her the truth!" He meant, "Tell her that you lied to her b/c you're the one that's delusional! I never stalked her!"

[@metademetra]

Accept that OP didn't, because she told her boss the lie her husband told her. It was actually the BOSS that told HER the truth. Basically throw the whole man in the trash

[@JadeElfen]

Here it was not about the real truth, but HIS truth.

[@cfavano1]

no she didn't, she told her version of the truth specifically to ruin the relationship

[@DaremoKamen]

1st story: It doesn't matter if it is petty for OP to tell her boss or not, she owes it to her boss to warn her that the new man in her life is just as sucky or more than the boss's ex-husband.

[@cfavano1]

no she doesn't, she could have left well enough alone, instead she chose to be vindictive

[@ZombieSazza]

Congrats on escaping OP! I escaped with a young persons charity just before 19, best decision I ever made. I kept low contact until my early 20’s but the abuse never stopped, so I cut all contact. I couldn’t be happier, the trauma never goes away and I got diagnosed with cPTSD & PTSD when younger, got therapy and medicated, so now I live life for myself. It’s genuinely freeing being able to escape your abusers at a young age, you can carve out what life you want, figure out what goals you’d like to achieve, figure out who you are as a person, and I wish you all the joy and happiness for your future!

[@fanfictiondreamer7836]

I feel bad for all victims of abusive parents or guardians. I can't stand people like those evil monsters. Not to mention all of the needless strife that they've inflicted on their victims for whatever reason. There's a special place in hell for monsters like them and I'm sure satan is salivating over the thought of all the horrible punishments that they'll endure for all of eternity.

[@Annie_Annie__]

Similar happened to me. I went low contact in my 20s, but the abuse and manipulation continued so I went no contact. My abusive mother now tells everyone that my dad (who isn’t abusive) “brainwashed” me and that’s why I cut contact, which is utterly ridiculous. Dad doesn’t even think about her much less talk about her enough to “brainwash” me. I just don’t even care anymore. I’m married now so I’m perfectly happy with my own little family.

[@ZombieSazza]

@@fanfictiondreamer7836 man I hope so, my mother and brother deserve places side by side there

[@soulofflame9999]

@@fanfictiondreamer7836 "All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children.

[@fanfictiondreamer7836]

@@soulofflame9999 So true, so true

[@davidjacobs7465]

I have way less tolerance than op from the second story. At age 15 I was getting ready to... end my dad. Because he was a constant threat to both me and my mom when he was drinking, which was constantly. My mom divorced and moved me out with her right on time as it would have taken less than a month in those conditions for me to do it. I was well aware of the consequences and I was willing to take them... still am tbh after nearly a decade.

[@chezsnailez]

Too bad you didn't. Because you would've been at our house in Snaileyville the whole time it happened...

[@kaimagnus5760]

At 15 in those conditions you probably could have gotten away with it to. Legal systems call them "Crimes of Passion" when someone commits a heinous act directly as a result of extreme stress or abuse.

[@KingRinVT]

Probs would of gotten away with it cause of the justice systems rules. Love how your mom got you out of there tho. Good mom.

[@kranberry3318]

I understand the feeling. When I was 6 years old I used to wish on stars that my parents would die in a car “accident” as long as no one else was hurt. I think around 7 I wanted to grow up and earn enough money to hire a hit man. By 8 I wanted to kill them myself. There were a lot of times when the only thing that would calm me down was vividly imagining murdering them.

[@bland9876]

Based on some of the things that a girl told me. I wish I'd stalked your back to her ways of murdered her stepdad. She was so messed up and scared that I couldn't convince her to ever hang out with me. Normally when you talk to a shy person you can at least tell when you're doing bad things to her/him and can make the choice whether to continue being rude but not with this girl. Her stepdad throughout all the stuff that she had used to take care of her pet only 3 days after it died because "it would help her get over it". That's what she said that he had said to her after she found out.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Story 1: This seriously brings into question the exact circumstances of how OP and her ex-husband first met...

[@Yossarian921]

Did OP mention how she and her ex-husband met? I can't recall.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@Yossarian921 Pretty sure they didn't.

[@zSpirall]

It does bring to mind the pattern this guy has...

[@pippo17173]

@@Yossarian921 No she hasn't since after deleting her account. It quite honestly makes me think if this is a pattern with the guy.

[@KharneSunar]

Happy new year. The ex-husband from the first story definitely needs to have protective orders placed against him for OP and her boss, that is a man child who likely would do something incredibly stupid. Second story, those parents and siblings are deranged, unless the siblings have a 'come to Christ' type of moment because of OP's leaving, they are outright screwed by their own choices.

[@fanfictiondreamer7836]

Of course, the guy sounds like a narcissist. He really is demented. These poor women have been victimized by this jerk and neither of them deserved it. I hope that guy gets what's coming to him.

[@valivali8104]

While I feel most for OP of second story, his brothers are victims too. Hopefully OP having left is awake-up call.

[@lorilancaster5917]

Story one: thank goodness OP didn’t have children with that POS. Also hope that her boss will serve as a character witness in the divorce. Not sure how they handle it since I don’t think they’re in the US. Second story: do you think the parents will recruit the next son up to be the servant or do you think they’ll just wallow in repercussions of their actions with blank confusion? Hope OP lives his best life. Maybe suggest he change his last name so it could make it harder for them to find him? Glad he lied about the state he moved to.

[@gudkush420]

Needs to be turned into a eunuch tbh.

[@kranberry3318]

@@lorilancaster5917 Changing his name is a really good idea. Not only is he harder to find, it’s a nice feeling of severing ties. I’m so glad I started going by a different first name and I can’t wait to have it legally changed. After I get married, my name will be nothing like the one my “parents” knew. I’ll have a name that’s never been soiled by their voices.

[@dracko158]

"He told me how he hasn't been happy in all his life and that I shouldn't ruin his happiness." Um, what about OP'S HAPPINESS? Jesus, this guy ruined OP'S happiness, and now HE has the gall to tell her to not ruin HIS? What a damn hypocrite! WTF is wrong with him?!

[@RasenKamehamehaX100]

Once I heard that, I was legit screaming at my screen "snitch like your life depends on it OP. Fuck him and fuck his happiness."

[@dracko158]

@@RasenKamehamehaX100 The moment he emotionally cheated on OP, that's the moment we don't give a sh*t about his happiness.

[@RasenKamehamehaX100]

@@dracko158 I didn't care for it either, but part of me was like fuck him. He's not worth it. Find your own happiness. Don't let his bullshit distract you, but that level of selfishness, entitlement and the complete lack of self awareness fuckin floored me.

[@flocktropa]

"beautiful when she was young" lmao she's 38, that's not old at all, but also poor op, her ex-husband is awful

[@fdm2155]

Yes, it is odd that she thinks she and her husband are 'young' but her boss is somehow not young despite being under 40 years old. LOL That part sounded like a kid's perspective of age. BUT that crazy ex husband...? Whoa, both ladies are clearly better off without him.

[@lifewuzonceezr]

I cringed..

[@quillo2747]

38 is old to someone in their 20s. A 38 year old female without kids will probably never have them. Most men value youth because most men still want kids

[@flocktropa]

@@quillo2747 I'm 23 and I think a 38 Yo WOMAN is not old , also you're weird people's values aren't based on them wanting to procreate or not

[@ifeelfantastic1014]

Yeah. I mean 38 is not young but not old at all 🤔

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 1: He can go to hell, your boss is scared because he was stalking her for over a year. He even used his wife to do it, and has been lying to both of you so he could not only be with her but also use OP for God knows what. To be able to see her at the office, or keep up appearances, or maybe to not look like the bad guy have her want divorce. He emotionally cheated on you, and probably physically cheated too, he can try the victim blame you all he wants but the truth is he did this, not you or your boss and I hope you have evident to give restraining order for both of you. Seriously though change your locks, someone this crazy will do something dangerous and you should protect yourself and maybe check in on your body just in case.

[@Nerobyrne]

What is "emotional cheating", exactly?

[@dardarbinks3391]

@@Nerobyrne it's where you are emotionally invested in someone else to the point where you have essentially abandoned your current partner. It looks like what the ex husband did. But it can also be hiding who you are talking to. Not being open about issues in your relationship, and turning a cold shoulder. It's all the same stuff of physical cheating without getting into bed with the other party.

[@RiveroftheWither]

​@@Nerobyrne You're in love with/emotionally invested in someone who isn't your partner. Think, instead of just having meaningless sex with someone, your boyfriend/girlfriend is taking someone else on dates, flirting with them, buying gifts, gushing to you about how wonderful they are etc. It's just cheating without the sex, they don't have the guts to dump their current parent before falling for someone new and investing their whole heart into it.

[@Nerobyrne]

@@RiveroftheWither I love how you said "invest your whole heart into someone new", because every time I fall in love I have to generate new stock so I have something to give the new person ^^

[@sharienglish4655]

@@Nerobyrne Right….and you should do that as a single person…not while you are still in a relationship with someone else.

[@gecko2.617]

Story 1: He is not happy, he is unhealthily obsessed! That obsession could possibly endanger people (the boss in this case and the husband) if husband does not get professional help by a psychiatrist!

[@cfavano1]

nah the guy is fine, op is just bitter

[@BeanManolo]

First story: "YOU LIED ABOUT ME BEING A CREEPY STALKER!" Like, dude, BECAUSE YOU ARE A CREEPY STALKER! I'm happy both OP and her boss both dodged the massive red flag trainwreck bullet this dude is.

[@cfavano1]

no he's just a guy and op is bitter and vindictive

[@JustAJinx-ci6hg]

OP: I don't want to ruin his happiness... But idk what to do! Me, channeling my inner sith Lord: "Dewit"

[@julydaydreamer404]

OMG, YES! When she told the boss, I was a little scared the boss would turn on her, but when in the last update, the boss dropped him, I exclaimed such a satisfying YES, because OH DEAR! Neither of them deserve a man who is going to drop them by the current most "interesting" woman in sight, I hope they can both find partners and have a fulfilling life they deserve

[@BubbleBunnyy]

Same I was like fuck his life up he doesn’t deserve to be with that woman.

[@Ragehunger]

Certainly sounded like he expected to receive unconditional love but feeling no obligation to give any in return unless he "felt like it". He doesn't deserve to feel whatever little twisted happiness he can squeeze out of his one-sided relationships, so he can go cry about it. And as far as creeps like him go, I doubt this will be the last of his victims unless words are spread far and wide about him and his unfaithful, stalking, gaslighting and victim-blaming behavior.

[@maieen2665]

Happy New Year, Slash Fam! *First OP:* OP did her boss a _huge_ favor by telling her about OP's soon-to-be ex husband. I was getting major You vibes from reading the story. Best of luck to OP and her boss. *Second OP:* I was worried OP's plan might backfired. I let out a huge sigh of relief after reading the updates. Congrats to OP, and Shout out to his cousin for helping. Also, hey, fellow DMVer!

[@someguywithatophat7599]

major what vibes?

[@rowancampbell2091]

@@someguywithatophat7599 You is a show about a stalker/murderer

[@someguywithatophat7599]

@@rowancampbell2091 Ah, thanks for the context lol. I was like rSlash isn't a stalker, nor was OP, so who could it be? but its just a show hehe

[@maieen2665]

@@someguywithatophat7599 Yeah, I was referring to the Netflix series. Sorry for the confusion!

[@alexstarchild7647]

Right, the husband in the first story immediately made me think of Joe

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Last story - good on the OP for following the advice. Informing the police was a great move. And all the steps - bank accounts, phone, etc was brilliant.

[@bella-rolland]

" Informing the police was a great move" that is indeed a great move, it never occurred to me that informing police will not create a missing report

[@Milk-ck1wv]

Story 1: Girl tell your boss! Save you and her he's dangerous and obsessive!! Tell her about the stalking,following,getting jealous easily and everything. He's lied over and over again! Edit: so happy of op for telling her boss! They deserve better.

[@Lestaticate]

I've heard these stories before and I just find it INCREDIBLE how unhinged people can think and treat others. I hope OP in the first story and her boss formed a strong friendship from that crapshow, and I'm so HAPPY for OP in the second story from escaping his abusive home and is loved and supported by his Aunt and Cousin. I have a feeling he's going to do great things! Thanks for years of reading these tales @rSlash and I wish you and your family a great new year! You too comment section!

[@mostar1219]

She wouldn't have ended the marriage if he hadn't been stalking another woman like hes some groupie

[@BlueKinTsukiko]

For the first story : OP file a restraining order asap. This man is going to psychotic levels of insanity. The reason I'm saying this is because he is gas lighting you but also this may of been starting to even the first few times you've mentioned your boss. File a restraining order but also file a police report about him coming in. Post the full context of this story everywhere even your apartment building and neighbors if you have any. Men like this will get very violent very quickly. He is being entitled and saying "he's not at fault" so he's in denial. He stalked someone for six months to cause a relationship to happen because she wasn't on bumble and then was pretending to be someone perfect for her by seeing everything she's posted. He did this in a year. He's known you for I presumably think MUCH longer. He may now become violent against you because he lost your boss which was his gf. All of which this was for and worth doing to him. You have to protect yourself and kick him hard and out of your life. Had posters up that he's banned from the premises even. He may become a violent stalker. Story 2 : OP there is a huge chance you're not related to your dad. I think you should however look into a lawyer for child abuse. You can sue them as an adult for that because the events were recent. But this would most likely help you long term so you can afford schooling and really focus because they can owe you child support as well because of how you were treated. That or payout for damages and you never having a child hood. This is a very serious crime you can do especially if you have friends who witnessed it. Take time to see what your options are and know you'll be loved for being who you are to others as long as you can move past the pain your parents inflicted on you.

[@TetraSky]

Second story : Ah yes, abusive entitled parents. Here's hoping OP doesn't have any issues going forward. I know some awful parents who used their kid's SSN to get credit cards and the likes. So hopefully, OP is on top of things and check his Equifax and what not once in a while to see if nothing bad happened.

[@snake5solid]

Story 1: Holy crap, this guy is creepy af. I bet that he was stalking her. Not just through media but physically. Both of them should have restraining orders against him because is definitely dangerous. And good that OP talked to her boss and didn't hold a grudge against her. Both are victims of this PoS. Story 2: What messed up parents. They gotta be narcissists. Treating OP like a slave and wanting him to basically slave away for his brothers. So unfair. And his mom is shocked that he would leave? She probably thought they had enough power over him to control him. But I'm so glad OP managed to get out. Good for him, I wish OP the best. I hope every kid of such parents find their way to freedom.

[@DarkEinherjar]

As rSlash said in another video, "children have this visceral need to love their parents." Imagine how much one has to fail as a parent, to the point that their child wants to erase them from his life and never look back. That's how much these parents in the second story failed OP, and they're setting up their two other children for failure in life, so they failed them as well.

[@PowerStruggle555]

if op didnt find out, they had stuck together? what wouldve happened: -start going to a church that boss so happens to attend to "but we arent even "insert faith" -husband suggest they move to a new home...that so happens to be in the same building or neighborhood where her boss lives

[@kervinsantos5808]

Yeah, Op and the Boss need to go into some sorta Witness Protection. Cause this guy sounds a bit to unstable and possibly arm

[@pippo17173]

Stalking has no bounds

[@PowerStruggle555]

@@pippo17173 seriously if OP didnt divorce him. his talking would be worst. then op likely losing their job due to conflict of interest since her husband is stalking her. at least op warned her so wont be the case. they both have issues with the pos

[@spicy_shumai]

Imagine OP becoming friends with Rslash, that would be something right out of a movie.

[@LunaMane]

As horrible as OP's circumstances in Story #1 are, let's not forget the major silver lining in this dark cloud. She found out the truth before they had kids.

[@toritori2299]

The first story is so messed up. I can't believe a husband would say "someone like her would never look at me" straight to your wife, admitting he sees the wife is less than the woman he's talking about. Fkn gross

[@Alycornz]

Rslash: wow! You're like 30 minutes away from me, op! Op's exhusband from the first story: *taking notes*

[@AndrewHalliwell]

Story 2. "What do you mean, the mother's story in Cinderella didn't end well? That's exactly how i want to raise my kids."

[@akl2k7]

I think there's at least one version of the story where either the mother or the step-sisters got their eyes pecked out by birds. Probably the Grimm Brothers' version. Yeah, that'll end well! Never mind that your kids can choose your nursing home!

[@trickle6871]

@@akl2k7 I'm pretty sure that's the same one where a sister cut off her heel so she could fit in the shoe

[@Ayaforshort]

Why do I have the feeling that if OP in the last story did a paternity test it would come back that is either not his mom or not his father. Seriously the father could have had an affair and then brought the baby into their house together or the mom could Have had an affair and the father is not over it. Why else would you treat your 1st child like literal garbage.

[@lifewuzonceezr]

Exactly where my mind went

[@CP-ho2wj]

Another reason could be they never wanted the kid in the first place and kept it out of religious reasons. This happens more than you think.

[@WyntheRogue]

Alas, sometimes crappy people are just crappy by nature/without any rhyme or reason.

[@condorboss3339]

@Sergio Bicerra Agree. I thought OP was either the result of an unwanted pregnancy or infidelity. Even so, I found it strange the father forced OP into sports but did not do the same with his brothers - usually fathers who force their sons into sports want ALL their children to be jocks.

[@abiean222]

@@condorboss3339 i think that was just a status thing like, "look at my son who is so good at sports!" kind of thing. it was just for bragging rights

[@sarasvensson6026]

Both of these stories were absolutely insane and I feel so bad for the two OP's...

[@Eppon6]

Is it just me, or does it sound like the OP from the second story might be adopted? They had each kid within less than 2 years of each-other, so timing couldn't have been the breaking point for the regret. Then there's the 'we kept you alive' part. Did they adopt the OP from a bad situation, and then regret their choice when they had bio-kids? Either way, that was a nasty Cinderella story there. They probably made the OP do so many sports to keep him out of the house so they could pretend he doesn't exist.

[@annienunyabiz6627]

That first story is legitimately terrifying. First he stalked that poor woman, then he lied about who he was, if they slept together then he essentially r-ed her due to lying about who he was and what he had done to her, gaslit his wife, probably destroyed her ability to trust going forward, and created trauma in at least two people. He was a human wrecking ball all for his own selfishness.

[@MasteringMason]

I feel bad OP in the first story. Also, glad OP told the boss about the husband being a stalker. What a creep.

[@bonniehalf-elven]

It always makes me wonder what makes parents decide to favor one child and abuse the other. Best of is the best thread you do, OP. Keep up the great work!

[@BattleOverride856]

BPD, for starters

[@joseph0998]

Story 1: He is insane… The internet stalking? Fair most people do that if they have a crush, FOR A YEAR is creepy as anything. Not to mention how horrifying it is that he used OP’s phone to do so. While in a relationship! Liking all the company picture with OP’s boss is a entirely new level of creepy, and then STALKING the boss THE ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP is PSYCHOTIC and OBSESSIVE, He is a real life Joe from YOU level of stalking, now in a show that’s purely functional yes I enjoyed YOU in a real life situation however, that’s HORRIFYING. He literally slowly but surely built a relationship up from his time in the gym while getting all the information about her life from a employee who subconsciously gave it after months of being manipulated and tricked into thinking that he just admired her. He then used that knowledge to work his way into her life, not to mention the fit of rage/jealously he had from seeing her out with another man! And then relatively fast able to find out who that man was… JESUS CHRIST that man is 100% DANGEROUS and MENTALLY UNSTABLE, Op needs to get a restraining order on him and so does the boss. I wouldn’t be surprised if he specifically targeted OP due to her admiration and connection with the boss like some Messed up stepping stone to his PSYCHOTIC DREAM. Everything about that man is dangerous.

[@cb.on.yt22]

i cannot even begin to imagine how OP from the first story feels, that’s so much worse than just plain old cheating! He aimed to harm the most fragile parts of OP, “a woman like her wouldn’t look my way” ?? what does that say about the woman who is? him begging her not to ruin things because he’s never been happy in his life? ouch. Guess that means all of the time he spent with her was just wasted in his eyes. He is one of the worst kinds of humans. edit for the second story: this was a weird way to find out r/slash lives near me and OP most likely goes to my school.

[@thalianox2492]

That husband should be on some sort of list

[@Some_Guy6]

Story 1 : The only thing he should date is a stuffed animal teddy bear.

[@CapnCrunc3]

“He hasn’t been happy in his entire life” wow even I felt that 6:47

[@draksig12]

For the second story, I am just surprised the parents didn't demand that OP take care of his brothers AND THEM for the rest of their lives. But be careful, the family that knows the whole story may one day accidentally rat you out and the parental units will descend like locust on you to run your life.

[@bloodclaw123]

I admit, I'm sad about the last story. I want to know -why.- What possible reason could the parents have? Even if it's something stupid and insane, like "We just didn't like him" or some dumb thing... The lack of closure makes me feel even more irritated with them. I'm so proud of OP for escaping that hellhole.

[@Rainbowssugar]

Yes I totally agree like what is the fing reason???

[@abiean222]

abuse has only one reason: the abuser is an asshole. abusers do what they do because they have the opportunity to act that way and they take it. there is no other reason. they could so they did.

[@cael1978]

I've seen it so many times, and there never is a reason other than "because we can". Good on OP for leaving these pathetic losers and (hopefully) living his best life.

[@8bitarmory846]

"we kept you alive!" Congratulations. You fulfilled one of the bare minimum legal obligations for parenting.

[@DragoNugget]

Last story was so hard to get through...i hope those parents get hospitalised and worse! ❤😊

[@samschellhase8831]

he 'hasn't been this happy all his life' is quite the gut punch to say to the woman you were just married too

[@JerziTBoss]

What a creepy behavior from the guy in the first story. He stalked his way into a relationship with a woman. What's worse he did that while still being married. OP and her boss should be thanking each other for sharing all that info so they both can distance themselves from that creep.

[@Hybrid301]

So, protective orders for both the boss and the wife are in order. And document everything! This guy seems like someone who would dangerously escalate

[@HoodieHorizon]

the cousin and aunt are actual kings, props for them for looking out for OP

[@DarkAngel65989]

This is a great way to start the new year. I remember hearing about the first story somewhere, yeah the ex-husband suck and weird/creepy. As for the second story I think the parent were almost living through OP especially by making OP do all those sport and the whole first kid syndrome, where they put all their responsibility on their first kid and for the second and other they don't put as much pressure on them.

[@stringbean02]

It was a guy not a girl

[@DarkAngel65989]

@@stringbean02 Whoops, I think I am mixing up stories in my head

[@teslagasoline5629]

Last OP should get in contact with rslash for a cameo lol

[@ZacharyDavidColeman]

The husband with a crush on the boss is very similar to something that happened to me. My ex very clearly was obsessed with a guy in our social circles who had a girlfriend. When I confronted her on it, instead of saying it wasn't true and that she only loved me, she said "don't worry, he'd never be interested in me. He's made that clear." Unfortunately I was stupid enough to stay with her until a few more straws broke the camel's back. Don't settle for being second best, no one deserves that.

[@TeasyLove]

yes, so many of us come from situations/upbringing where we don't fully value ourselves ... so we will take anything that we can get ... but as we grow and expand into valuing ourselves more, we realize what we really want more clearly ... and often times this can make it seem like we were just settling before, but then we're not truly valuing the importance of the relationship we were in or the qualities of the experiences that we've had ... as those experiences, especially if negative, gave us the signal of change to make the choice to further improve our own life and well-being .. without (or with less) submission and sacrifice!

[@JuniperDenn]

Everything important has already been said about story one, so I'm just going to pick out a compleeeetely different detail which has nothing to do with me bashing OP I'm just flabbergasted about a random thing she said: that the boss must've been beautiful when she was YOUNG and that the boss (38) is TOO OLD for ex-husband (29) ... I'm sorry but what 😅🤣 as 33 year old I'm just confused about her concept of old age, it's relation to beauty, and her idea of an inappropriate age gap. Anyways glad he is an ex of both her AND boss.

[@Remmeister2000]

"It sounded like he was a few weeks out from hiding in her bushes with a pair of binoculars" *I AM WHEEZING*

[@mrphenom1643]

Props to OP for risking all she has to tell her boss the truth. I don't know if I would have done that because you run the risk of looking vindictive.

[@erichharp2758]

RSlash...thank you for what you do. As a member of the Army, I travel a lot. Your videos in the background make the trip extremely fun.

[@InMintCondition13]

Thank you for your service!

[@CaptainTom_EW]

Thank you for your service sir!

[@Leiliel1]

Story 1: That poor woman. This wording is intentionally vague on the subject. Good on OP for leaving, she needs a restraining order issued! As does the boss! Story 2: Wow, that was a trip. OP is definitionally victorious.

[@christinebuchler2801]

Story 1: Would live another update whenever it comes around!

[@pippo17173]

Sadly she deleted her account but it's best to assume she went threw the divorce and the boss getting ready to file a restraining order.

[@sunshinegirl_]

It get's worse: OPs husband left the city and terminated the lease on the apartment. HIS LAWYER told OP that she had to leave the apartment till February. Then during divorce proceedings, OPs boss just ignored the topic and didn't talk much to OP (just noding with a smile in acknowledgement). As soon as the divorce was finalized, OPs friend send her a story of the ex-husbands IG (OP is blocked) showing him and the boss PREGNANT. That cow told the office she's having a long distance relationship with her bf and is now expecting with him. The whole office congratulated her. OP is, of course, devastated

[@raptorblarg2284]

It feels like something is missing from the last story. I have a hunch that OP was the product of someone being unfaithful and that's why he was treated like that. I've never heard of a case of multiple golden children before. But good for him for getting out and starting a new. It sucks he has no support network but that will grow over time.

[@j.jtilling1722]

My mum thought she was hilarious because one of her few nicknames for me growing up was "Slave Girl". After finishing high school, i left home before 18 to join the army, because it was the easiest way to have a roof over my head and good pay, while allowing me to ditch my mother asap. That wasn't the end of our relationship unfortunately, I have caved to her over many years because of her access to my siblings. I couldn't bring myself to leave them alone in her care. But I hope OP stays strong and cuts ties, they'll be happier for it.

[@BubbleBunnyy]

The first one is scary, it shows you can never really truly ever know a person.

[@Esperologist]

That husband... trying to gaslight his wife. First trying to convince her that he loves her and stalking another woman means nothing... and then trying to convince her that she owes him something, and should therefore help him get together with the woman he was stalking. Obsession is the right word for him. He may or may not be infatuated... but he definitely has never been in love. He just wants what he doesn't have and can't cherish what he does have... so even if he got the woman he was stalking, it wouldn't be too long before he finds a new person to obsess and stalk.

[@evilmotorsports5076]

Story #1: OP's soon to be ex husband would have gotten away with it had he not snitched on himself. First rule of Fight Club, you do not talk about Fight Club

[@shykorustotora]

This husband wasn't dropped on his head as a child... he's a straight up Aliens who was never taught basic human behavior. "Please ex wife! Please tell my new girlfriend I'm not creepy for stalking her for a year at her gym and I was gas lighting you this entire time! I've never been this happy before, including on our wedding day, so PLEASE help me!~" Like.. dude... on what planet is that kind of logic EVER going to fly???

[@romancatholicgameing]

Sorry to be THAT guy, but... *alien

[@royalbluegaming7763]

Happy New Year RSlash!!!, also, screw that first guy. So far, screw the parents of the first story.

[@Syco600]

As for that second guy, let’s hope he succeed.

[@annika5893]

Hats off to op in the last story! I hope you'll have a successful and happy life with trustworthy and caring people in it!

[@lifewuzonceezr]

Made me wanna send them money and I Never think that way!!

[@davido.1233]

I've said this before, and I'll say it again: We live in a strange world where Reddit stories have similar premises to Literotica. The beginning of the last story is almost verbatim to a work of fiction I read a month ago, where a set of parents ignore and abuse their son immediately after having another kid (though in that second case, it's a daughter, not two more boys) who they have spoiled rotten.

[@connienowak298]

Ditch the stalker, keep your boss/job.

[@silverflight01]

Story 2: So the brothers set themselves up for failure and planned on a future that counted on OP's willingness to help them, even though the whole family pretty much abused and neglected him. Those brothers better start working on education and/or experience or else they're never gonna make it. I really want to stomp this sort of parenting, it's just setting up children for failure

[@ohnosmoarlulcatz]

Unfortunately, this is the case in many places. You end up with either the firstborn male being the favorite because they will carry on the family name or the youngest male being the favorite because they will be provided for in ways the older one could not.

[@shadowmewfred09]

@@ohnosmoarlulcatz or in my case the youngest (& only) female

[@shadowmewfred09]

Yeah watch op leave and suddenly everything falls apart they deserve it

[@ivilivo]

Last story. I'm impressed by the visit to the police. Clever.

[@jeremystone5946]

Story 1: I've watched too many mrballen stories. This sounds like a stalker choosing its next victim. Get protective order and protection from this creepy guy. Story 2: is it possible to sue for child abuse? Not sure of the law but I would think with this info it would stick.

[@dengsuevang1035]

Man, how bad of a parent do you have to be to have your oldest child leave you forever less than hour after turning 18?

[@birdynerb]

first story gave me chills...

[@rhondah.1478]

2nd story: OP provided another update on 1/26/23 basically saying he was doing well, making friends and good grades and had a couple of jobs on the side even though he has a full ride scholarship to JMU. He also mentioned that he'd gone back home for Thanksgiving and Christmas to spend with his aunts, uncles and cousins but did not see his family. After the blow up from him leaving the parents have been banned from family events with the other relatives and the parents don't appear to be trying to find him anymore.

[@RADish-official]

Every time i see the word husband in these BestOf stories, I just know this will end in a divorce

[@Nerobyrne]

the future is not written, but the end is certain

[@pejmul10]

Story with the kid leaving when he's 18 is obviously a step child to one of them

[@TheCrimsonVeil]

That first story was insane. Especially when the boss revealed that he'd been going to her gym for half a year. Bro was a full on stalker.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: when I was 17 in the year 2000, I helped a friend do exactly what this guy did. She turned 18 at midnight. At 2 am, I drove to her house, she snuck out, and I took her to another city where she got on a plane. She had a long distance relationship with a guy she met online Her mom was abusive physically, but also parentified her. She pulled her out of high school to be her 3 little brothers' full time care givers. She had dreams and mom wouldn't even let her get her GED. So I get home 16-18 hours later and my mom is freaking out telling me that her mom would file kidnapping charges on me and that I just got my friend killed because meeting people online was very new. What I found out later: Her abusive mom woke up several hours later and started calling our friends to find her. "No one" had any idea where she was but when she called my house and I was unaccounted for they knew she was with me. This was WAY before Cellphones were in everyone's pocket so they had to wait until I got back. Ending: I bet you want to know, did ahe survive? Did you get arrested for kidnapping? 😂🤣 I'm happy to report that not only did she survive, she and the guy are still together today. They dated for a long time. She went to college, they got married. They have 3 beautiful boys and a fantastic life. As scary as it was, helping her escapeis one of the things I've ever done that I'm most proud of. Being arrested was never an option as I told my mom that night. She was 18 and could do what she wanted.

[@soulgazer11]

I'm SO GLAD OP told her boss the whole story. She might have save her life, who knows. That dude is obssessed and that word is not an exaggeration. If I were her boss, I'd get a restriction order and get OP to write an affidavit to help apply for it. I'm sure OP would do it.

[@brandonwhite562]

The first story is something about of a horror movie from the bosses perspective. You go to the gym with a guy for a year and start to notice them. Then you find him on a dating site a year later and he says he's going through a divorce. He's the perfect guy and you have amazing chemistry. You think you've found the one until your employee comes up to you and says that he husband (soon-to-be ex) has been stalking you for the past year. He's so crazy that he was hunting down your nephew because he might have been a potential boyfriend. Nah there should actually be a rom-com where you see this loveable couple start to date only for it to be revealed that one of them was a stalker from even before the movie started.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

As someone who almost failed both 6th and 10th grades due to legitimate, medically excused absences (I literally missed more than 1/3 of the 180 day school year in 6th grade due to a long list of illnesses and injuries)... there's NO WAY that OP's siblings are missing 30% of the school year for no reason and still passing.

[@CallMeFreakFujiko]

If I had a son like the last OP, i would be incredibly proud of him.

[@seangleeson8073]

And this is how I learn that I live right near rSlash, since I know exactly what school last OP is attending, and I literally live just up the street from it.

[@thomascowan9087]

The last story: I live in Tysons corner, Virginia. Which is basically a 15 minute drive from Dulles so I think I know where this guy goes to school. I hope he is doing well and if somebody can get me in contact with him, I’d be willing to be friends with him and help him out in anyway he needs.

[@kranberry3318]

That last story was amazing. My escape from abuse was similar, but DAMN I wish mine had been as clean as his! I was honest about where I was going in my note only because it was incredibly obvious that that’s where I would go and they’d never believe a fake location. I didn’t get to arrange things with my bank, so my mother was able to steal some money from 2 bank accounts that I couldn’t take her off of. I didn’t pack and leave in the middle of the night; I packed and left after they went to work. I had 2 friends help with that part instead of a cousin. My grandmother came to pick me up and take me to the airport to go live with her, so at least I’m not completely on my own like OP. Oddly enough, my mother ALSO called my accomplice with a sob story! She called one of the friends that helped me pack up everything and cried about how we were such a happy family and she has no idea why I’d ever do something like this. My friend didn’t do what the aunt did though. She just played dumb and said “yeah I had no idea she was leaving I’m just as surprised as you are” lol That way she couldn’t get any info about me through her. Also, I pieced the timeline together later and that sob story call happened while she was driving to the bank to screw me out of my money. Anyway, major Congrats to OP!

[@Kruhee]

"It's not my fault," Says the man who has step by step destroyed his marriage, then LIED to the object of his affection, and literally showed unhinged stalking behavior. He's a creep, OP's boss SHOULD be scared of him, and honestly, OP should be too. He's detached from reality and needs help from a professional.

[@alicemoonlight123]

OP's ex husband was always fucked up. You aren't a totally rational person and one day decide to be a stalker. I bet his brother knew some of his creepy tendencies and that's why he sent the picture to OP. This story is so much more than what's said. This guy very well could be a serial stalker or worse.

[@destructo-pizzatv2263]

Story 1 has me thinking did op and her ex meet naturally or "naturally"

[@SantaClaw]

First story = solution, OP should try and date her boss.

[@hualni]

Dude that ran away, I wouldn't be surprised if he was adopted.

[@weezieyo]

Or maybe an affair baby.

[@miguelconamor6687]

Dude, I've listened to a lot of human narrators voice Reddit posts like these, but this dude by FAR reads them with the most intensity and passion and emotion and I LOVE it

[@kevinnaranek6649]

@10:45 "It sounded like he was a few weeks away from hiding out in her bushes with a pair of binoculars." Binoculars? He probably had a camera with a high quality telephoto lens so he could use the images collected later while he . . . well . . . you get the picture.

[@kennycai8695]

Story 1: No sugarcoating this, the now ex-husband already has intent to cheat after meeting the boss. What angers me about him is the lack of any courage to just break it off and pursue the boss. If the relationship is not working, just break it off and not cause emotional torment. No sympathy for this coward of a man, and he had this coming. Story 2: This is what we in the civilized world call "parentification", where parents literally just give up and place a child (usually the eldest) in charge, sometimes without any help at all. This is a form of emotional torture, and good on OP for just ditching those awful parents. I do feel a little bad for the younger siblings, since they are the product of their parents' enabling.

[@darkpaw1522]

It’s perfectly fine if he fell out of love with his wife, and everything. What made it wrong was lying to her and himself about it. Relationships are about honest communication, something he clearly couldn’t do.

[@TeasyLove]

well said! the difficulty is also that the consciousness of women (in general) is still in the "battered" or "bruised" stage, and requires a massive "put your foot down" and "healing campaign" to advance to the truly equal stage i think many men (and women alike) either do not realize this, or don't understand the importance of a man's position in a relationship and the formatting and skewed presentation of popular stories, or movies etc like this actually further push the scale in the opposite direction where men are portrayed as evil, sperm is poison, anger is bad, etc also known as the (extreme) feminist movement we are here to work together, but we need to be a little bit more constructive communicate with each other to "death", rather than sue each other to death (sometimes literally)

[@darkpaw1522]

@@TeasyLove Indeed! Well put.

[@Frolkinator]

Story 2, OP is gonna piss on his parents gravestones in 50-60 years time, id LOVE to hear an update from OPs family 6-12months after he left.

[@woofy1988]

Story 1: "I stayed faithful!" He said, ignoring the fact he was attempting to date someone who divorced their previous spouse for cheating WHILE STILL BEING MARRIED TO ANOTHER PERSON!

[@1bendykat]

Imagine being that boss. You start dating a guy from your gym, then an employee comes to you and tell you how the guy is her soon to be ex husband and he’s been stalking you, is obsessed with you, and he’s been lying to your employee about everything, causing their divorce.

[@theblackgasmask1012]

Story 1: Dont hate you're boss it will just be worse, Hate you're husband Clearly he Loves you're boss but he refuses to admit it I Say Forget about him and leave him behind, The sooner the better the longer you stay with him the more you feel worse. He loves you're boss but he doesn't wanna leave you, I Hate people like this they like someone else and instead of leaving their relationship they Just hide it and Date 2 People at the same time Just Horrible, They should not be Apart of Society.

[@TeasyLove]

step 1. identify step 2. isolate :D