r/FacePalm - "Gender War" is Toxic AF

[@fleacythesheepgirl]

Context for the wife divorcing her husband over cake: The bride’s family had shoved her face in her b-day cake previously and lacerated her face. She made it extremely clear she didn’t want this at their wedding and the husband did it regardless. The issue wasn’t cake it was disrespect.

[@KennyIsUndead]

I heard the story as well. As you said she warned him beforehand and he just did it anyway although she made it clear it was a traumatic thing for her. Also the husband did not apologize or remotely stand by her on this issue (and her running of the wedding) and she explicitly wanted not to be humiliated with the photos going public (did not work obviously). I also remember that she updated it and the sister of the groom texted her that he cheated on her for 6 months with his ex (unconfirmed just the sisters words) and that the guy was basicly a spoiled brat. He made her cook twice if he did not like what she cooked. Good for her that she got out from that relationship.

[@tevenpowell8023]

Lacerations? From cake? How did that happen?

[@myownfreemind6627]

It gets worse!! She had PTSD from a car accident and it made her feel claustrophobic and she stressed that, yet he planned it and ordered a set of cupcakes too. He straight up did not respect anything about her.

[@Jack_the_Killer_Ex-Cop]

​@@tevenpowell8023candles I assume

[@MJ-zf8fk]

​@@tevenpowell8023This may be wrong, but maybe there were dowels in the cake to hold it up and they didn't realise? I'm not sure though😅

[@yukiqt]

it doesn't matter if you're a guy, girl or other; at the end of the day, it's night.

[@AlexanderdeSade]

not in sweden in the summer. we don't get night.

[@mrdollyman5675]

ok then

[@strangeaelurus]

​@@AlexanderdeSadethat's a you problem lmao

[@hydeme]

​@@AlexanderdeSadeblow up the sun then

[@letsplaysvonaja1714]

reminds of an old German wisdom: At night it's colder than outside

[@lisemartino1995]

And I say it again: being a parent is a privilege, not a right.

[@purple66666]

And a responsability

[@adamhoff4163]

More like a burden

[@RandomSwiftie13]

Ikr? I don't ever want to have kids because I know I will be a garbage parent. I can barely take care of my self let alone some child and a man who will probably come with it.

[@depressedutchman]

Hence i dont want kids, i feel like ik not good enough for kids... Maybe later

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

Unfortunately, a lot of people want kids the way a child wants a puppy, and it shows.

[@RumbleDelta]

Damn this woke generation and their… _shuffles notes_ not accepting people who beat women, what a world we live in!

[@lorissantarsiero5849]

Truly a lost generation 😞

[@aaronmccullers384]

How dare they... (checks notes) respect the law and want criminals to be punished!

[@OceanGlow-jv8kj]

Damn these kids, making their own choices and doing what makes them happy. Disgraceful!

[@hexonyou]

truly disgusting, how dare they desire and pursue their own happiness! @@OceanGlow-jv8kj

[@kaelin_cherise]

Without context, my brain immediately went "Oh here we go," so you had me in the first half, not gonna lie.

[@LuriTV]

I read about the wedding cake story. The bride was pleeding her groom before the wedding several times not to do this prank on her special day since she fell victim to this kind of BS a lot... even on her birthdays when her mom pushed her face into the cake in front of all her friends on several occasions. She left her wedding in tears while her groom and her family riddiculed her because "she can't even take an easy joke"... something like this

[@richarddraggan8290]

waste an expensive cake like that I'm leaving you too. Why do so many people think that crap is cute? I don't wear makeup but if I did. It would come second after ruining my wedding dress.

[@1997altieri]

immediate divorce ✨id literally die of embarrassment if that ever happened to me- im binding my life with a person that i love most in my life, and joining our families, and then he tries to embarrass me in front of ALL OF THEM. no actually girly youre single again good luck with "smashed ex wifes face in cake" on your tinder bio

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

@@1997altieriPreminger profile picture 😍

[@LittleMaitea]

@@richarddraggan8290not only the cake (even though it’s reason enough) the dress (VERY EXPENSIVE) the bridal makeup and hair( also ridiculously expensive, … And then the risk of loosing your eye or getting a life long scar from a pice of the decorations (This already happened) To be honest …I’m not sure if my husband would have tried this if I would be a divorcee or a widow … I don’t mean that in a quirky thehe way … my fight or flight is messed up due to trauma

[@StrayShaz]

Yeah, whoever thinks shoving someone's face in a cake is "just a joke" and that person needs to "take a joke" clearly has the maturity of a 2 year old. That shit is not funny or cool

[@lazykbys]

Fun fact: "Alpha male" dominance hierarchies only show up in captive wolf packs where the group is made up of adults with no shared kinship. A human equivalent would be prisons, although a pack of incels might come close.

[@TehkeelaSuhnrayze]

99% of those who claim to be alpha males don't even understand the concept and are misusing it. Alpha male dominance shows up also in dogs, which have been domesticated by humans for thousands of years. There's a prevailing hypothesis that it's a case of humans shaping dogs to be like us. In effect, we may have engineered an entire species to follow a toxic aspect of human civilization. So, it's possible the true definition of the concept actually does apply to us as a species. But an alpha wouldn't be some dudebro who claims it; it would be societal leaders and the extremely wealthy.

[@deijix]

Yup. The concept of an “alpha male” isn’t a common occurrence in nature. The research that dubbed the term was skewed because like you said they were observing domesticated packs of wolves in captivity. But now people think that’s just how predatory groups of animals work

[@LloydTheZephyrian]

I believe the natural equivalent is basically just Mom and Dad looking after their kids.

[@TehkeelaSuhnrayze]

Pretty much. About the only times we've seen the version as it was originally defined, it's either been in humans or in species that spend way too much time around humans (specifically, wolves in captivity that are not related, dogs, maybe housecats). And the humans examples all come from after human civilization existing. It's pretty obviously not natural.

[@lazykbys]

@@TehkeelaSuhnrayze I'm not sure we can call it unnatural, though. The fact that this hierarchy becomes established implies that it's instinctive behavior. My take is that it shows up when sudden changes to the environment result in overcrowding, when "normal" behavior isn't up to the task. I think it makes sense from an evolutionary point of view - a species with different sets of social dynamics depending on group structure would do better than one that sticks to the same strategy all the time.

[@RiveroftheWither]

Why am I not surprised that Tate is so insecure about his masculinity that hes driven himself to an eating disorder and seeking validation for it?

[@DePufferfish7]

and putting other men down for not having said eating disorder

[@Caprabone]

Any time I see a Tate quote, My reaction is, " why the eff are you not in jail?"

[@OEBlackman]

@@CapraboneHe’s actually on house arrest right now and awaiting trial iirc. The Romanian authorities are presumably collecting evidence while awaiting the court date Edit: I was wrong, he is currently not on house arrest and is apparently free (at the time of this edit). We can only hope that he is put behind bars and becomes an unpleasant memory.

[@mcu6023]

@@OEBlackman He's been released from house arrest since early august already... I'm afraid that trial isn't gonna turn out in a real sentence either, probably some extra house arrest (idk if they do that in Romania, but in my country sentences of less than 18months are almost always turned into house arrest) or he might even not be convicted at all. I hope I'm wrong on that last one though, imagine the shit we'll get from his fans if he goes free...

[@DrThemoWorm]

The whole post read like a 14 year old boy who's trying to sound edgy

[@Chickienugs]

Those wedding cake “pranks” have become a very stupid trend. It all involves men smashing a cake into their bride’s face, without her consent or when she has repeatedly refused consent, and the guy just doesn’t care and smashes this cake into the poor woman’s expensive makeup and dress, humiliating her in front of all their family and friends. Im glad to hear that more than one woman left the wedding immediately and had the marriage annulled. It’s usually a last straw situation and a huge red flag going into a marriage.

[@Insertia_Nameia]

Mt problem is that I almost always see it happen sp aggressively too. I've seen videos where the bride was fully in on it, but like I've seen where the bride clearly wasn't happy and just shoves cake back (I a not nice way, depsite the clearly uncomfortable smile on her face.) Then he clearly gets upset and shoves more into her face. I've seen a video of a guy do this to the bride without her knowing beforehand and when she did it back to him he got visibly upset and stormed off. Crying about the tux deposit. (Which was certainly far less than the cost of her dress, hair, make-up, and now needed dry clean clean costs.)

[@francaisclive2033]

Not to mention a waste of good food, like bud that’s a waste of Cake that probably costs hundreds of dollars

[@Junesaidhi]

Well I mean-I understand why some grooms do that sort of thing, like if you and partner have that kind of relationship where you guys joke around with each other then I can see why it would be funny. But yeah, I can see how that would be some shit behavior to others.

[@tymondabrowski12]

​@@Junesaidhi Just make extra sure to order a cake that would actually be safe to do that and frankly, it's still better to ask first. Some people might be still upset if it happens on such an important day even if they wouldn't mind it on a birthday etc.

[@chargestone96]

How did it start? Its such a weird idea

[@PercyAugust]

The mother immediately saying "we don't do that" to the nurse offering to speak to the daughter in private sure is a quick way to end up with CPS and/or a social worker checking up on your family right after the doctor's visit. They might just assume you're potentially abusive/have something to hide.

[@starsiegeRoks]

Yeah pretty much, and the law states that if your a medical professional and you get even a small suspicion of child abuse, your required by law to call CPS.

[@mandipandi303]

Do those people realize how hard it is to visualize success when you're worried you won't be able to afford your groceries? Success is not a priority. Basic survival is.

[@Myder_Dragon]

Very true. I see all these "guide" videos that boil down to "just start a business and work hard". WITH WHAT MONEY MY GUY?

[@mandipandi303]

@Myder_Dragon YES! It's also like people claiming they're successful, so everyone else should be; and it turns out they had like no expenses because they got huge loans from their family or they started off with assets. If your family has no money either, where are you supposed to get that advantage?!

[@MrGBH]

There's also research that suggests visualising success is actually detrimental to achieving it

[@LRM12o8]

> _"I became a millionaire with nobody else's help. My success is 100% self-made and for a small monthly fee you can do it too thanks to my innovative course!"_ > **started out as a billionaire** 😂 But for real, anyone who claims to be self-made is just a selfish prick who forgot about all the people (and systemic benefits they received) they couldn't have made it without!

[@mandipandi303]

@@LRM12o8 Yes! It makes me think of Donald Trump. "I got a small loan of a million dollars from my father." That's on top of the enormous wealth, privilege, and exploitative/bigoted business practices his family had already established to perpetuate their advantages. There's no such thing as an ethical millionaire or billionaire. They're just people who have gotten good at taking advantage of ordinary people. They also horde their wealth so it can't ACTUALLY help others. I'm including Oprah in this. She broke the glass ceiling for a lot of people and that's great. But she also used her power to peddle terrible people/things who/that harmed people. Especially vulnerable people.

[@hyleore]

it doesn't sound like it's "just one slap" when you call it "corrective" and expect her to "endure". your wife is not an animal to be broken in (not that I condone it for animals), she's a human being you can talk to and reason with.

[@franziska9260]

the SECOND a partner lays hands on you, there's no going back. that relationship needs to end. regardless of their reasoning

[@hyleore]

@@franziska9260 oh yeah I'm not defending anyone, it's just that I find it so dishonest that the guy starts by saying 'whatever it's no big deal it was ONCE' when it clearly seems like a pattern repeated over several generations and justified by sexist and abusive values

[@BoopaKing]

Pretty safe to assume it was a repeat offense, since to me that reads as a man who's very used to violence.

[@antoniajuel9582]

"Break in" is such a horrible word for what should be a slow, gentle process of making the animal feel safe and do what you request out of free will. In Swedish we call it "ride in" instead, and I like that much more as it's free of any connotations about "breaking" (whether that be a spirit, a will, a bone, or a back).

[@ActionYakPolice]

@antoniajuel9582 I think they were specifically referring to a version of it that used to be much more common especially in circuses where fear and pain were used to make animals obedient, that's thankfully illegal now and been replaced with the version you are talking about

[@whoviating]

My first exposure to Andrew Tate was a video in which he bragged - literally bragged - that he had no idea how to cook anything because that was a woman's work. Told me everything I needed to know about him.

[@Diamondr11Blue]

Grown adults who can't make food already have failed at life basics

[@hmnhntr]

He also has a video (maybe the same one) where he calls cooking a waste of time and therefore money, then proceeds to talk about how he and his buddy save time by just ordering in food during the previous 16 hours they spent hanging out at his house. Dude is a freaking joke.

[@deijix]

Ah yes, incompetency. What an attractive trait in a partner.

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

I've always wondered about this stereotype. Like, do these guys think every time Daniel Boone shot a deer he dragged it all the way back to civilization and said "Mommy please cook this for me"? There's nothing manly about willful incompetence, and something wildly immature about spending that much time and energy going through the motions of fitting some arbitrary stereotype instead of having something you're actually doing with your life and focusing on how best to get it done.

[@goolgepl2112]

My first exposure to him was a clip of him going against the typical college girl punching bag brought in to make her opponent sound smarter. The exchange was as follows: Woman: "But big strong men-" Tate: "Don't say that. Not all men are big and strong. That's stereotyping" If I say I have a green car, am I saying all cars are green? Seriously, this guy is either incapable of logic or knows he made a logical fallacy and still resorted to a cheap trick that anyone with an iq over 80 can call out.

[@BeasEasel]

My whole family was raised Mormon but me and my brothers each left the church at various points in our lives as we got older and experienced more of the outside world. Our mum will ask things like "If you don't believe in hell anymore, what's stopping you from just murdering someone?" So she's basically admitting that she only does good things to be rewarded/avoid punishment rather than to just be a good person, and she'd have no problem killing someone if her religion didn't tell her not to.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

that question is always so chilling to me. I can't help but ask them if religion really is the only reason they act like a good person

[@BeasEasel]

@@Romanticoutlaw Yeah, it's like they have no morals of their own and also don't care about the law??

[@Aaron.Thomas]

One thing I note here is that "the outside world" means everything not mormon. It's because when you're Mormon, your world is also Mormon. At least that's how it was when I was growing up - your friends are mormon, your contacts are all mormon, your social circle is the ward directory, you go to your bishop before you consider counseling, you're at church several times a week and the "outside world" is a godless place where confused people struggle without the prosperity of the gospel and without the safety net of the church's welfare system, the bishop's warehouse. I mean, I'm all for the wealth redistribution program the church runs under the noses of conservative Christians, but still, the outside world thing is a thing.

[@BeasEasel]

@Aaron.Thomas Yep. I was encouraged to avoid making friends with non-Mormons unless I was going to try to convert them. I already struggled making friends as it was because I had undiagnosed autism and people would dislike me just for being religious even though I never spoke of it unless I was directly asked. We were always taught to "live in the world but not of the world." So basically the world is bad and everyone outside the church is bad and their way of living is bad. My mum specifically was a very judgemental person too so I was taught that people outside the church are less than us. Somehow I managed to see some sense for myself and made a few non-Mormon friends online, then eventually met my partner who wasn't Mormon either. We got married fast so I could move in together, then covid happened and I had a lot of time stuck inside away from the church to rethink things.

[@UnicornsPoopRainbows]

Ugh, once a very Christian girl asked me “If you aren’t Christian, how do you know right from wrong?” And I realized she had been extremely sheltered which was shocking because she was an international student who completed high school in a rich area in California. She became a close friend and was very kind but never got over the judgemental Christian thing

[@koyelimukherjee.3115]

Wife divorced her husband over cake story: her family members were actually a massive bully to her and as a family tradition they would shove her face in the cake for laughs. Her face was hurt in one of those tradition but they kept doing that and told her she is dramatic. She was actually no contact with her parents but the groom forced her to reconcile for the marriage and invited them to make himself look good in their eyes(he said that himself). After she asked for divorce she tried to talk to him to make him understand what he did was wrong. But he kept insisting "it was just a prank". Actually her no contact parents also called her to tell her "she was always over dramatic, she should learn to mature or no men will marry her" something like that. The husband is just pure garbage.

[@nicky1985824]

That's rich. Her family and her groom behave like a bunch of immature, abusive a-holes, yet she's the one who should be more mature. Him forcing her to invite her no-contact family should have been the biggest red flag and the last straw. He not only doesn't respect her at all but also verbally and physically abusive. He should have married one of her relatives. They think cake-showing is great fun so they would complete each other very nicely.

[@Dressup_Doll]

“It was *just* a prank, Han.” We know how that ended.

[@michajastrzebski4383]

tbh, he's garbage for putting a cake to her face, already.

[@passivelyasking4825]

"She should learn to mature" What they mean is she should accept being a doormat for another person's entertainment and validation. A thing basically not a person. What an awful family.

[@ThePopo543]

Wow what a bunch of c-words. I hope she finds someone kind and understanding who loves her the way she is.

[@reneemckinnon5731]

It’s shocking how common domestic violence is, I grew up with it from a baby and I turn 40 this month, there’s not a year in my life without it. I have PTSD from it and when I went through all the things that were “normal” in my life with my psychologist she was speechless. She straight out said “You had a shit childhood, no wonder you feel the way you do!” First time I heard a psychologist swear in therapy lol 😆

[@iamsongforsomeone994]

That’s how my therapist has been about my toxic friendships I had from late elementary into high school.

[@SnepBlepVR]

The big issue with players gambling is that since the players control the outcomes they can rig the games, for example if a goalie bets against thier own team they can intentionally throw the game

[@brown56765]

Yeah, I was going to point out that it was most likely that he was gambling on his own games. That would probably warrant some discipline XD

[@clubpenguin13531]

@@brown56765 The league said he didn't gamble on any games in the league he plays in

[@DIRTkat_ofc]

@@clubpenguin13531 I believe there's a law that enforces players aren't allowed to gamble on their own sports no matter if they're in the game or not, for whatever/multiple reasons

[@clubpenguin13531]

@@DIRTkat_ofc that's the strange part about it. He didn't get suspended for betting on hockey (the NHL itself said so), he was betting on football

[@DIRTkat_ofc]

@@clubpenguin13531 oh what the fuck, well in that case idk lol

[@BlazeNStar]

the gendered shaming in the media is, put way too simply, "women get shamed for body type and how they look, men get shamed for size and have their entire masculinity questions." Kind of like for women it's "why are you so fat and ugly? You should fix ALL THAT, especially the body hair and acne, because you're a woman." and for men it's "why you got no woman? no car? no more than 2 inches? Are you even a man?" Shit's bad on both sides but in different ways. And as for anyone outside the binary it is usually as if you don't exist if you don't conform to a category.

[@LRM12o8]

Spot on! 👍

[@raysay1818]

100% this also leads people to assuming members of the other gender have it easier in life because they see their own issues as something only they or others of the same gender go through and when other people don't suffer those same things it seems as if they aren't suffering at all when in reality they are struggling with different issues entirely. So we need to find ways to deal with all issues regardless of gender.

[@breadstick4458]

Breaking news: The gender binary continues to be awful for everyone. More at 10

[@straecat]

@@raysay1818 Yep, we also haven't experienced the issues of the other gender (with the exception of trans people who have experienced both), so even if we think we could "handle" the problems of the other gender more easily, the truth is we all have a breaking point and when the same negative experience is repeated throughout your life, it's bound to affect you and turn into resentment. For example, I hear a lot of men say things like "I wouldn't mind being catcalled, I never get compliments.", when the reason they "wouldn't mind" in the first place relies on them being a man - women don't just dislike catcalling, we FEAR it because we are the weaker sex, and men who catcall us are not complimenting us, they're sexualizing us in public and often retaliate horribly if we don't give them the response they want (and even if we do, because they see it as consent). On the flipside, it probably is horribly lonely to be a man at times, and your feelings are often invalidated because people expect you to "be a man" and deal with it. I don't know what it's like to be a man, so I can't give an in depth example for them, but what I do know is that my problems are no more or less than theirs. They're different, yet just as valid.

[@dali-dog]

I agree to an extent, but it’s also totally true that people, even women sometimes, will make fun of a man for his looks. Like on the whole it’s slightly less common, more people care less about a man being “fat and ugly” than a woman, because too many people have this gross perspective that women basically only exist to be pretty because of a history of them only being valued as wives etc- but body-shaming and generally looks-shaming does happen to men too and nobody has to deny that this happens. You can acknowledge that women have been systemically oppressed for generations, and that their insecurities come down to a genuine fear of their lives more often than men, without claiming that men’s social issues don’t exist and that men don’t sometimes feel bad about their bodies too. For the record, I’m not claiming you’re saying any of this at all! I’m not mad, and not saying you said anything wrong, just thought it was also an important thing to add on because these topics are very nuanced. The issues men and women face are different in a lot of cases, but not so different that one gender has never felt rejected for their appearance, yknow?

[@cyrusunderscore7315]

Fascinated by the wife hitter. Arent those types supposed to be like "rrr gotta provide and protect" but then he made his wife feel so unsafe that she called the cops? And that wasnt the wakeup call that made him think hes performing his chosen role poorly? Theres something wrong with her instead? Anyway i hope she can get out

[@TehkeelaSuhnrayze]

Guarantee you 100% he learned it from his dad. Usually, abusers learn it from their parents.

[@purple66666]

​@@TehkeelaSuhnrayzeto which you can also add toxic influencers nowadays.

[@WynneL]

@@TehkeelaSuhnrayze He literally said so in the video...

[@angrynoodletwentyfive6463]

The idea of conservative policies actually preventing abused children from being helped is actually sadly not something that woman made up. Conservative states in the southern US really have eliminated or failed to implement alot of policies that were created to help children reach out to the authorities if they are being abused and it really doesn't seem to be unintentional either. Children have a right to privacy. They have a right to be able to tell a healthcare worker, or educator, or police officer, or other authority figure a secret and not have that information relayed to their parents without their permission. And a parent does not always know what is best for their child or have the childs best interest at heart. If a child absolutely insists that their parent cannot know about something they probably have a reason.

[@waffles3629]

Yep, in some places if you admit to your parents abusing you they tell your parents. 🤦🤬 Like yeah, great idea, if you want children trapped in abuse that is.

[@nopenope9118]

Plus all the weird child marriage shit they’re always pushing. It’s so creepy.

[@krankarvolund7771]

There's a group of cristians called "Christian Scientists" (nothing to do with actual science) who lobbyed several states to have the right to not medicate their children, because their core belief is that every illness is fake and can be healed by prayer. Most states allowed it and recognize their hospitals (where no healthcare is given) a genuine hospitals.... Several children died horribly from these laws (like diabetes, one girl died from an absece larger than her leg, etc...), and it took the mediatisation of some of these cases for some states to abolish these laws.....

[@akamesb4540]

​@@nopenope9118they push what?

[@KyleRichter34]

​@@akamesb4540 Child marriage is legal in a lot of places, democrats keep introducing legislation to make it illegal, but republicans keep blocking the bills.

[@tarrantwolf]

If I remember correctly Lavinia didn't "quit her degree early", she was expelled from medical school because she, you know, STABBED A GUY.

[@taylor_green_9]

That clearly goes against a medic's oath, so it makes sense that they'd expel her

[@athenarocks7657]

Maybe she thought “do no harm” didn’t kick in ‘till graduation.

[@louieekk]

The one about the wife being surprised that atheists can love reminded me of a girl in my history class that once said that when a person is an atheist there is nothing keeping them from robbing, killing, etc, and I was like HAVE YOU HEARD ABOUT THE FREAKING CONSTITUTION????

[@i.147]

nevermind the constitution its just? having empathy????

[@wintergray1221]

They can't fathom a conscience because they believe theirs was a gift given to them by God. And atheists, because they are godless, must therefore be forsaken by that god and have their humanity revoked. It's sickening tbh.

[@diarmuidkuhle8181]

​@@i.147exactly. Which as a social species we pretty much had to evolve.

[@diarmuidkuhle8181]

​@@wintergray1221 and never mind how many atrocities religion has both excused and inspired.

[@draconicfeline6177]

The constitution? Humanity? Human decency? The social contract? Honestly I'd trust a strange atheist's over a strange religious person to be kind to me anyday.

[@WillRennar]

Dear Mr. "Correctional Slap": It's not that women "can't endure" it. It's that society no longer expects them to put up with it.

[@voidroad]

i mean men and women are equal which is why men are allowed in women's sport , so just fight back with your hands whats the problem?🗿

[@MaidMirawyn]

Can’t endure it? More like WON’T. We have options. I endured it as a child because I had no choice. As an adult? Not happening. And many DID NOT endure it in previous eras. BECAUSE THEIR ABUSERS KILLED THEM.

[@phamdung3884]

@@voidroadeww, an aggressively ignorant transphobe.

[@LynetteTheRogue]

I hope his job fired him too

[@Just_Reading_Comments]

@@voidroad 1. Men are not allowed in women’s sports. 2. Nobody should be placing their hands on others in anger, or physically “correcting” others, that is assault.

[@TheDarwinProject1]

The guy who got the "neutered" tattoo knew what it meant. Its amazing how long that click bait lie story has gone unchecked, especially since the story is so much more heartwarming! The guy said he got it because he wanted to carry a part of his dog with him at all times. "I can just look down & know I have a part of him with me at all times."

[@kitkatbreaker1270]

A part of him, based on a part that's without him! (Very wholesome story, 10/10 dog and 10/10 guy)

[@zachlap3020]

39:32 this reminds me of the quote : « good people who do good in fear of consequences are just bad people on a leash »

[@mikejeffries3333]

Yup. People who say stuff about "Without God, you would just be out there sinning and murdering people." Are telling on themselves way more than the atheists they're criticizing.

[@florianricquart4114]

Just in case, for those wondering : At 9:15, the gender of a "washing machine" is female (because the gender of "machine" is female). And if you want to scream "Sexism!" because of that : Dishwasher is male.

[@Vivian2043]

As a Spanish speaker (Spanish genders practically everything) I can confirm that a washing machine is indeed feminine. We call it “la lavadora”. Btw, languages are a subjective system, so please don't take my comment too seriously, I just wanted an excuse to talk about how Spanish genders everything.

[@SpringStarFangirl]

Same here, washing machine is feminine and dishwasher is masculine! They're really just kinda arbitrary.

[@j.dragon9936]

In German they are both female...

[@w.reidripley1968]

As a sometime student of Spanish, there's a detectable difference between the machine that washes dishes, and the worker running the dishwashing machine. Don't mix 'em up, or you may end up hiring dishwashers with way too lively a sense of humor. Sure, they're fun...!

[@worldwideweeb3974]

Actually... in german machine is also female and Dishwasher male. (washing machine = Waschmaschine; dishwasher = Geschirrspüler). If you add machine to the back of "Geschirrspüler" then it becomes female (Geschirrspülmaschine). In german you can basically change the gender of everything by combining it words with redundant meanings.

[@rolfs2165]

I wonder if that woman ever asked her neighbour whether he could take care of her toddler or help her carry the groceries inside. Or if she just expected him to magically read her mind.

[@theperiidot]

The second one 100%

[@DannX68]

Also, it's all her choice. Why would others want to get involved in that? Today the groceries, tomorrow it's "Help me move".

[@tarrantwolf]

And then you remember the post "my neighbor babysat my kid and refused to take payment, can I sue him for child support because he took on a "fatherly role?"."

[@tokyobateman6610]

Or just expected him to take on a fatherly role

[@MmmHuggles]

There's also the whole thing of "not my responsibility". Yeah, its nice when people help out, but nobody is obligated to help anyone and this woman seems to think their neighbor is obligated to help her because she pooped out a baby. The neighbor doesn't have to do anything if they don't want to and is not the villain for doing nothing.

[@Akikokitsune]

About that asthma attack scenario - I'm from Poland, which is the opposite of woke/liberal, and 15 years ago it was a rule here, that if the kid is over 11 they should talk to the doctor without parents present. It was later explained to me that it was probably due to asthma being similar to panic attacks/anxiety and they wanted to check the child's health without possible stressors around.

[@MamaCat956]

When I went in for a tubal the doctor took my male partner aside and told them that if they weren't okay with me having the procedure done it's not happening. He didn't have to feel pressured by me to agree with it. If he wanted a vasectomy then the same discussion wouldn't apply to me. He could basically do it and I wouldn't know.

[@wardrobewings8000]

And if you didn't have a male partner at the moment then the doctor would start to pressure you into not doing it because "what if your future husband wants to have kids with you? 🤨". Been there, and no amount of explaining that I'm not interested in having a male partner or kids managed to penetrate that thick skull.

[@bellablue5285]

​@@wardrobewings8000been there myself... like sure, let's avoid the practical medical procedure because no husband or long term male partner, not like my uterus isn't actively trying to kill me (and had been for almost a decade by that point) 🙄

[@nathryl03]

Isn't it lovely how our bodies don't belong to us, but to men we might not have even met yet 🙄 (or want to meet)

[@LRM12o8]

Damn, that's disgusting! 🤢

[@drtaverner]

Every woman I've known who asked was denied. I have one friend who has a skeletal anomaly and could never carry a foetus to term and they _still denied her!_ Like, with all of her conditions, pregnancy could kill her, but nope! Nobody asked twice when I got my vasectomy. "Sure, we'll just adjust that plumbing for ya, no prob."

[@jlessien3826]

22:22 you'll see moms telling their kids that they wished they were never born. Child abuse is more common with mothers who are forced to give birth to a baby they didn't want in the first place. ( not my story though, just a general comment).

[@i.147]

not even just that, mothers can end up being abusive after being convinced to have children to 'make them happy' or 'find a purpose', they realize theyve been lied to and grow bitter, and its always the children who end up suffering. can confirm. we need to stop telling women being mothers is their calling and a replacement for proper therapy

[@BigFanOfManyThings]

The wife being surprised her atheist partner could love others gives me the same vibes as when friends are surprised I can love people as an aroace.

[@kitty79er]

dude feel bad for you... i have seen the assumptions the aroace community gets. you guys can love platonically but not romantically/sexually, right?

[@StormEyes1991]

​@@kitty79erYes. But so many people think aroace means robot with no feelings. Not aroace myself but I am acespec.

[@unchartedraider7547]

Hey fellow acespec. Yeah.

[@StormEyes1991]

@@unchartedraider7547 Hi, I'm demisexual. What flavour of cake are you?

[@deijix]

People really out here forgetting that romantic and sexual love/intimacy aren’t the only types you can experience. It sucks that people make assumptions about you due to their own ignorance.

[@PrideTheTiefling]

Fun fact from a fellow Polish person: 90% of Polish people are signed to a catholic church by their parents when we're literally babies and can't even talk yet. The actual percentage of people identifying as catholics is much lower. Still pretty high, but no, 90% are not catholics, but people who have been baptized and didn't bother to apostate (it's a lengthy and complicated process so many atheists and agnostics don't go through the process even though they're very much not catholics)

[@Liggliluff]

Similar thing in Sweden. Everyone born before 1996 were automatically registered in the Swedish church, but now you have to do it manually. So every year with old registered people dying and young unregistered people birthed, the percentage drops.

[@LianTheInvisible]

This is kinda similar in Italy too. I was basically a newborn when my parents decided to make me have "my head sprinkled with holy water". I basically couldn't say anything about any of that, and I also did other kind of "sacraments" when I was in my teenager years, 'cause legally I couldn't really say no. The ironic thing is that my parents are not even that much religious.... my dad even identify as Atheist. They made me do all of that for "traditions" and for satisfying the conservative/religious part of their families. While I think that there are a lot of real religious people in my country, I think that there are also a lot people who has been "coerced" into being recognized as religious by their conservative/religious families. I'm thinking about doing the Apostate... But like op said it's really complicated and long process, so even if I'm not Catholic I'm registered as one.

[@dickottel]

True, even some atheists baptize children for the family. I didn't bother to apostate 😛 I'm Polish, I've been an atheist for about 16 years. The number of Catholics here continues to drop 👍

[@VincentVonAnclesnatcher-so9xk]

wait, what does apostate mean exactly? Im from the US and was baptized in a catholic church shortly after i was born (like a few months old i believe) but im not religious. Do they like assign you to the church when you are baptized? im confused

[@PrideTheTiefling]

@@VincentVonAnclesnatcher-so9xk Apostate is a term used everywhere, including the US. It simply means that you signed documents to be excluded from church - all your sacraments are invalid and you're no longer included in church statistics as a church member. And of course it means no religious burial when you die Edit: forgot to answer - yes, when your parents baptize you they do sign you up to church, so if you were baptized, the church does keep your documentation and technically, even if you're not religious, if someone wanted to make statistics on how many catholics there are in your area, you would be included in this statistic. Idk how it works in other countries, but in Poland in order to apostatize, you first need to obtain a written confirmation from the church that baptized you that you were indeed baptized. So yeah, the church keeps your documentation from the moment you didn't even know what the word "document" means till you decide to sign out of it.

[@jollywriter6258]

That part about not being able to love without religion hits home. My aunt and uncle literally gave me an intervention in my early 20s about it. My parents were misguided and allowed it to happen, but have since realized how fricked it was. They ambushed me in our basement entertainment space while I was watching YT and started lecturing me about Jesus and God and whatever. Then they asked me if I love my parents, to which I answered of course. They responded that if I don’t love Jesus and God, I can’t love my parents. Trying to argue that they were wrong and needed to leave me alone in my broken Spanish was traumatizing for me. However after a discussion with my parents about how inappropriate and offensive that was, my aunt and uncle haven’t spoken to me about religion (in respect to me) since. And now, after so many years, I’m ready to shut down all that nonsense. Broken Spanish or not.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

some people really do make their inability to love others someone else's problem. Sounds like some hardcore projection

[@rocketpsyence]

I'm sorry they did that do you. That was abusive and cruel. :(

[@hmnhntr]

Imagine claiming ownership of THE CONCEPT OF LOVE Religion of the humble and loving, y'all

[@Dressup_Doll]

@@hmnhntrYeah, let’s not claim those people.

[@gaylewinds4808]

My friend's (thankfully) ex husband got VERY mad at her once and threw in her face that she let the father of her children hit her, but she told the husband "not even once" and went on about it not being fair. After a few of us pointed out that he basically told her he wanted to hit her she took a much needed look at her marriage.

[@lullustration5775]

The stairs thing is so ableist!!! I don't take the escalator/elevator because I'm lazy, I take it because my knees are fucked up and taking the stairs is really painful

[@Nakia11798]

It's definitely not what they were considering when they made that, though. I switch back and forth bc sometimes my knees are also rather rude to me. I try my best to do stairs, though, because it's not always an option I'm given.

[@VannahSavage]

@@Nakia11798 intent doesn’t matter, effect does. It’s a shitty thing to imply.

[@m.h.4144]

I think it was probably just a joke.

[@teritt]

@@ngotemna8875 Korea literally has the reputation of massive amounts of fatphobia, to the point that Korea is in fact implying that people who are lazy are fat and Vice versa. You know exactly what’s being implied, don’t act like you don’t.

[@rebny7801]

I walk the stairs as often as I can, it's a cheap workout and they are much less crowded. I always fell like escalators are for people like you, people who need them.

[@0symandias]

4:13, I think what Tate meant here was that the true sign of manliness is to die of starvation. I'd be great if he took his own advice (for legal reasons, I'm joking)

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

He's still really pissed off about that pizza....😅

[@XanagiHunag]

Slapping a woman so that she goes into the kitchen is possibly the worst idea you could have. Knives are stored in the kitchen, right ?

[@voidroad]

I dont think you know how knives work mate. Knives are not guns. They are short range and when you stab someone they dont die instantly like if you shoot someone in the head , in a knife fight both get cut a lot before they fall. It takes minutes for the person to die. And you don't survive for minutes against someone 30kg+ heavier than you with more muscle and who most likely got into more fights than you, nobody will hold back if you stab them, you made it a fight for survival. Best case scenario for the woman the dude bleeds out after he kills her. Worst case she dies and he doesnt because she didnt puncture an important organ properly.

[@abbirezac1982]

​@@voidroadyou sure are fun at parties..

[@kyokoyumi]

"Then he ran into my knife. He ran into my knife ten times."

[@katerinaadriah]

It's the cast iron skillet.

[@luckybat7137]

*Aqua Tofana* is very easy to make if you know where to get the ingredients. Just a few drops in his food daily will do *wonders* for his physical health, and also for your mental health.

[@55alegria]

Facepalm story: Our teacher told us that there was some student who legit told during the class "But poor people have less empathy and emotions, I saw a study about that" and I don't know how they explained this 20-something that people are people.

[@yuzuchi5381]

isnt it really the other way around ? Rich people are normally way worse people then poor people ?

[@ruansasa289]

​@@yuzuchi5381yes

[@55alegria]

@@yuzuchi5381 Yeah, but the student was probably from a well off family, considering how much university cost

[@yuzuchi5381]

@@55alegria yeah ... most rich people are sooooooo far disconnected from reality .. its wild

[@wartgin]

Maybe (giving them the benefit of the doubt), they misinterpreted one of the studies that shows those who are under severe stress (like that caused by poverty) have less bandwidth for other issues? It's one of the reasons an oligarchy tries to keep people divided and focused on their own problems.

[@-TrulyDevious-]

No matter what gender you are, you are human. You have feelings. They matter.

[@db_524]

♥️

[@solomonverrico]

Try as I might to sell the entire planet to the Batrachtian Armada What Lives Beyond The Oort Cloud.

[@m-fh1km]

except for men apparently

[@-TrulyDevious-]

@@m-fh1km sadly, but I do hope that changes

[@mikejeffries3333]

Seriously. I hate people trying to argue whether men or women have it worse, like, dude, can't we just acknowledge that we all have problems and maybe we should just... work towards solving them? Together? I've also known enough people to say with full confidence that women are capable of being just as awful as men and vice versa.

[@pigcatapult]

19:05 So the thing is, that guy who beats his wife just like his dad before him? He's comfortable saying that online because *he expects others to agree with him.* He believes that a reasonable person with functioning morals should take his side and condemn his wife's actions.

[@billiegrimm-stone3866]

My favorite thing about "ooh scary chemicals" is that when you break everything down it's literally ALL chemicals. WE are made of chemicals lol everything has SOME kind of "chemical composition"

[@thestoryKeeper123]

Guess you could say that love is just a "Chemical Romance"😎

[@NoxLunarwing]

Yeah it's what kind, in what combination, and in what amount that matters. Hehe chemistry go brr.

[@breadstick4458]

Hehe carbon based life go brrrrrr

[@naolucillerandom5280]

You are chemicals, I am chemicals, the pizza you ate last night is chemicals!

[@NoxLunarwing]

@@naolucillerandom5280 yus delicious chemicals :3

[@mogenoof]

18:24 this reminds me of a story i read of a woman who got married off to an abusive man. they had a son and he got a girlfriend who didn't lick men's boots, but one day the son had an argument with his girlfriend and came to his parents to ask for advice. the husband said to beat her and the wife agreed because she had been led to believe that women served men. it's really sad. but the son slapped the girlfriend and she beat him up so bad he had he say it was a horse instead, so there's that edit: book is called 'the color purple'

[@solomonverrico]

"...he had to say it was a horse..." rofl! Good for her! Love it.

[@osheridan]

Welp, I hope he learnt a valuable lesson that day.

[@legrandliseurtri7495]

@@solomonverrico Not really no. That's a disproportionate and unproductive response. Just leave him.

[@LRM12o8]

@legrandliseurtri7495 it's not disproportionate, but indeed unproductive, sadly. This boy lacks the knowledge to understand why she beat him up. With this upbringing, he's not gonna see it as a well deserved consequence of his violence against her. He's gonna think it's unfair and see himself as a victim because in his mind he only did what he was supposed to do. 😢

[@Alexandraadftxr7052]

@@LRM12o8 that's one of the reasons why a lot of male victoms are not legitimet. They abuse they partner, then act like a victom when she fights back.

[@deanoh4395]

ngl if i see someone laying on a grave (stone or not) i have two thoughts: "who was this person to have someone miss them so much?" or "how did the corpse get OUT of the grave?" Fun Fact: "I Am Stretched on Your Grave" is a beautiful poem and has been sung by a variety of artists ❤

[@dragonkeeper19600]

I have seen women lament that they ever had children. I also have friends who lament that their mothers ever gave birth to them. Not in a joking “haha millennial” way but in a completely earnest “my mother was unfit to have children” way. Whoever says that no woman has ever regretted giving birth doesn’t know anything about what women are really like.

[@susannairisastarte5192]

True. And many of us are happily child-free by choice. 😊

[@solomonverrico]

I mean does that really surprise anyone that the pro-forced birth hot take is from someone who is incapable of paying attention to anything past their own biases?

[@Enriquez2222]

Most of society doesn’t care to know what women are like

[@StormEyes1991]

I'm definitely option b. My mother should have had all of us taken away from her. She was not fit to be a parent.

[@amukbir8777]

Ive heard plenty of women regretting NOT having children. So your idea is half true,this is not white or black. Its grey. There are women who regret marrying. There are women who regret not marrying. Every life is different and every person is different. We cant use something universal to say what is best for everyone. That is up to the person to decide about themselves. And the truth is that every individual is not the same and the same set of rules wont apply to everyone. If you say to women : "Dont marry,its a scam!" You can be setting someone for a miserable life if what gives them happiness is having a sense of family and community. If you say "Get married young!" You can be setting for someone to have a miserable life depending on what they want to do in the future. There is no universal right answer to this. You as a person are free to choose and to make the decision that you think suits you the best for the future. My parents have been married for 30 years and all the "marry young" have worked for both of them apparently but NOT everyone will have the same result so think about it CAREFULLY and learn about yourself more before choosing and be prepared to embrace the consequences of your actions. Whether its happiness or misery. This generation needs to act more like adults and part of it is what I described. Follow what makes you happy but dont blame anyone if you end up where you dont want to be.

[@AIHumanEquality]

I live in Canada next to the US and I've seen many Canadians and Europeans think what they're going through is similar to the US. I don't think some people grasp just how bad the situation is for millions in the US. Imagine working two jobs and still being unable to properly afford to survive. It's insanity. If you worked two jobs in Canada people would just think you're really ambitious not that you need them to be able to eat.

[@-Devy-]

I've literally never come across a single westerner who thought that.

[@Acorn905]

Lucky im a Canadian atleast weve got standards :I

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@-Devy- Lucky you. I have unfortunately including people who live in my city.

[@black_nekoboy828]

Well, I talked about this with a cleaner at my school (Germany) and she did have to do two jobs, but I think that was to afford night school Cleaners are usually underpaid in Germany though, institutions hire an outside organisation who sends people over and aren't allowed to do anything / do not care enough if the workers are paid minimum wage

[@desirosethorne4429]

It's absolutely dystopian. I'm worried that I'll never leave home because I can't get enough money to even afford rent. I still live with my mom. Taking another job would be extremely detrimental to my mental health and I am not willing to do that. We don't even have safety nets to fall back on or welfare because the Republicans and conservatives think that they're "handouts" and that we should just pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and shut the fuck up. They conveniently ignore the tax break they've been given, the massive bonuses for working for the government, and the fact that welfare and helping people survive is LITERALLY the entire point of a country and civilization.

[@eskarina1000]

You're spot on about how we should be talking about men's loneliness, depression, and ending themselves rate. However, online, I only ever have these things brought up as a response to what women are doing. Is it really genuine concern for men when it's being used to try to silence women, say it's women's fault, or as an example as to why feminism is bad? To be completely clear, we should be concerned, and we should be talking about it and trying to find solutions. The situations in which I see it being brought up is not doing that, but rather attempting emotional blackmail to bring women "back in line".

[@marcusreading3783]

I think its more because it always seems to be JUST womens issues being brought up and mens being completely ignored, if not outright mocked and dismissed out of hand. Yes, women have issues that need to be addressed, but so do men and theres nothing to say that we cant do both at teh same time. Hell, I know for a fact that during mens mental health day, not only was it basically completely ignored (I didnt even know that was a thing), but there were a lot of comments degrading the idea that it was even needed.

[@m-fh1km]

you’re saying this as if feminist women don’t constantly blame SA, certain laws, p3d0ph1l1a and how women are treated on ALL men as if every single man in the planet is at fault for their issues. also feminists have gone out of their way to shut down events advocating for men, for example they are currently trying to stop a men’s shelter from opening in NYC, so i think it’s safe to say that feminists are no good allies to men.

[@Jack-so5bp]

Just the word gender said in any context is enough to get people foaming at the mouth. Thank the emotional support demon Click is here to help us through the nonsense 🙏

[@tripolarmdisorder7696]

Ra'men.

[@Watcher1134]

I think alot of stuff on the Internet can be easily placed in the catagory of requiring an 'Unamused Anya Face' or 'Concerned Uzi Meme' reply

[@BoopaKing]

I got hounded as a "transphobe" once for saying identity politics is a heated topic. Actually no, that's not what happened exactly, I got hounded as a "transphobe" for using the words "Identity politics". This was during a discussion about the wizard game. Click is a treasure for helping me laugh at these situations instead of getting angry.

[@introspectiveseraphim6251]

"Women are nice and don't body shame ppl they perceive as men" i literally got called a fatass a couple months ago by some blonde girl who didn't want to tear her nose out of her phone long enough to see me crossing the street in front of her car

[@Yamidoragon]

It boils down to being people. I used to be ridiculed as a teenager by other women with more venom than men to be honest. Being insufferable is gender agnostic 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Suited_Nat]

@@Yamidoragonthis fr lol. I’ve had it both ways: I’ve had dudes call me shitty things, but I’ve also had girls bully me. Being shitty really isn’t just a one gender thing honestly 😭

[@tarrantwolf]

I've got a friend that's 5'6" and work with a guy that's about 350 lbs, they'd both very strongly disagree with Eilish.

[@naolucillerandom5280]

This is just a guess, but it might be true in celebrity circles. Here in the normal world people are just jerks about everything 😂

[@eclat4641]

Im sorry to hear that

[@ElementalofAir]

Tell the cops nothing. Tell the EMT's/medical professionals everything. My brother worked as an EMT, and one thing he would often complain about was people refusing to disclose drug use. He's like, "We're not going to turn you in. We're here to save your life."

Yeah, there are two kinds of people you tell the _whole_ truth to... EMTs and your lawyer!

[@SpecialBlanket]

they should be mad at the govt then, it's just not safe to tell medical ppl stuff.

[@betsyjohnson9699]

Yeah. The EMTs will find out, whether you tell them or not, it’s just whether you want that to be the hard way or not

[@siximpossiblethings6388]

33:00 One illustration I heard about positive masculinity done right is Aragorn from The Lord of the Rings trilogy. Aragorn is an absolute picture of masculinity, but he behaves in a manner that uplifts, inspires, and protects those around him. He never uses disrespect or aggression with his loved ones or allies. If you need an example of how to be a good man (not some niceguy) and a leader (if that's your thing) study Aragorn.

[@wintergray1221]

And he's not afraid to show affection for his friends. I definitely stan him!

[@breadstick4458]

And he’s not some emotionless “tough guy” either. He shows affection and isn’t afraid to cry either. What a dude!

[@hmnhntr]

I would also say Gimli is a good example. He shows how you can become more open and kind without 'losing' your masculinity.

[@goolgepl2112]

Confident, capable, uplifting. If that's not the essence of masculinity, what is?

[@Dressup_Doll]

The dads in one of my favorite shows, Arcane, might be a good example. One of them, Silco, who is a powerful crime lord, started wearing makeup to not scare his adopted daughter and has no problem showing affection to her in front of his henchman. Vander gave up trying to change the upper city by force to take care of his children. It’s a genuinely good show, and my dad likes it, which is high praise even if no one else cares. He likes the dad characters and understands their motives. Sorry, I just wanted to talk about that.

[@notoriousgoblin83]

27:43 Oppression is not a competition. Instead of arguing who has it worse, maybe we should work together and make everyone's situation better, rather than debating who's closest to the rim of the crab bucket

[@Diamondr11Blue]

I've said this before and for downvoted. I feel it's common sense to get along, no?

[@Samlazolo]

If the Kenyan government can be shamed by a single youtubers action then it sure as hell deserves to be shamed

[@msskaggs3911]

@31:20 I'm a man and I the best way I can describe how I feel is people aren't afraid of masculinity, they're sick and tired of certain men's insecurities masked in a weird perversion of masculinity. Example: (1) Man wants to grow out his beard and enjoys drinking a neat bourbon after dinner → modern society has no issues with this guy. (2) Guy is insecure about himself and believes he needs to grow a beard and drink bourbon neat to be considered a man; he projects his unhappiness and insecurity by claiming something like-- 'beardless men who don't drink bourbon aren't real men.' → this is toxic masculinity, and the people who think like this are either grifters or insecure boys in men's bodies.

[@margodphd]

Yes. Thank You. "Real men" don't "need" to do anything. "Manliness" is usually something that can be attributed to guys that do what they want, when and how they want and feel is right for them, without being concerned about how they are perceived. Those people, that spend time & effort on doing, not thinking about how they are perceived, are those that are living happiest, most authentic and full lives. Which is good. We all should be doing that.

[@wartgin]

One of my mom's favorite stories (probably apocryphal and 1970s or earlier) is about the bullfighter who disappeared from his party. A guest found him changing the diaper of his child and questioned him saying "aren't you worried that people will say that isn't masculine?". His response boiled down to "I am a man. Everything I do is masculine."

[@eskarina1000]

This is spot on! Thank you for expressing it so well!

[@goolgepl2112]

Unfortunately, when anyone mentions "toxic masculinity" it's often misinterpreted as "ALL masculinity is toxic", which is ridiculous to literally anyone

[@voidroad]

and i'm tired that being a dude is called toxic because the government wants weak and malleable men as it would make any revolt in case they go too far with fucking up our liberties impossible. look at college campuses in the US , bros with blue hair screeching at people for not calling them madam , good luck fighting any authority with that

[@TimeturnerJ]

That "wood carving" was probably not even Photoshop, but just AI-generated. That hair seems like something AI would do.

[@ABtheButterfly]

"takes care of you for life" I can't help but feel the person who made that meme is the same type of person who will get mad at women for being "gold diggers" cause if a woman decides to be a stay-at-home mother she would want her husband to make money to provide for her and their kids. not to mention most families both parents work cause they basically have to cause the economy and kids are expensive

[@mandywalker3393]

From the time my boys were about 10. I sat outside the exam room for the beginning of their visit and then I went in. You NEVER know what your kids might want to ask the doctor. I don't understand parents who can't trust their kids at all. I also made it a point to have male doctors for them.

[@rebny7801]

That make you sound like a good parent indeed. I agree, as a kid there were stuffs that I wouldn't feel comfortable to talk about around my parents. Why would it be different for my kids?

[@waffles3629]

Yep, and it doesn't mean it's about sex, kids can just be embarrassed about acne. Or wondering a lot of things.

[@LRM12o8]

That's a good way to go about it. I think asking kids if they want to speak to their doctor alone or have their parent(s) present should be the norm. But why is having male doctors so important though? 🤔

[@wartgin]

​@@LRM12o8Because as they enter puberty, they may be embarrassed discussing changing bodies with someone of the opposite sex (especially if they have picked up any of the common views about opposite genders floating around that age group or in the general culture).

[@eskarina1000]

Once I reached about 11 or 12, my mother would ask me if I wanted her to go in with me. I didn't realize just how awesome that was of her until much later in life.

[@georgejones3526]

2:04 - Someone mentioned elsewhere that the woman specifically asked him the day before not to push the cake in her face and he said he wouldn’t, but still he did it.

[@StopSign692]

Can confirm.

[@Nagadirchan]

Still its pretty weird to divorce over something so stupid, but again if she wants to divorce over something like that it probably would not work in a long run

[@inkdragoon4547]

​@@NagadirchanTo be fair, she had dealt with these kinds of pranks every year on birthdays and such because her family just would not stop doing it to her, even after she asked them to stop. She specifically asked her husband not to, but he did anyway, and he and her entire family ridiculed her over it because she "couldn't take a joke." I totally understand why she divorced him so quickly; he completely ignored her wishes and shamed her when she wasn't cool with it. That is a massive red flag.

[@alchemysaga3745]

​@@NagadirchanAh yes, because the issue is her enforcing boundaries. Not him doing something *against* her lack of consent. People who can't respect bodily autonomy for minor things eventually ignore it for major things with the excuse of, "Well you never cared before!" You're literally saying people should do what they want to their partner, even when the partner tells them no. Use your brain for five second- I understand that's apparently extremely difficult for you and something that doesn't come naturally, but put in the effort for just a few second- and realize that telling people that they should do that is really fucking stupid

[@Nagadirchan]

@@alchemysaga3745 I am using my brain and the title said: man did prank she divorced, so by my logic that sounds stupid asf. Also pranks need consent now? I know they can be done in tastless way but again she knew he was prankster, was probably tired of that and still was getting married to him? I feel like the issue should have been adressed before wedding and such?

[@ashe9908]

The thing with the girl that got Kevin ‘tattooed’ on her forehead, it was indeed fake. She wanted the internet to freak out so she gained attention. She made a video explaining that it was fake and then proceeded to talk about that she regrets all her real tattoos and basically warns people not to get tattoos at all.

[@deijix]

Lmao she took quite the U-turn 😂

[@embertheunusual8036]

IIRC on the cake photos, she spent an obscene amount of money on getting a makeover, and had asked him repeatedly not to do that, which he apparently agreed to only to do it anyway. Yea, not a good sign for how he was planning on treating her going forward

[@DIRTkat_ofc]

That's not the full thing, from what i've seen she's asked him not to do it because she's had her family do it on her birthdays multiple times, and even injuring her face badly (possibly with candles, support, or decorations), giving her trauma, and also that the husband was a cheating spoiled brat. So getting out from this relationship, and hopefully from the toxic family as well, was probably the best thing she could've done. Also after the wedding cake incident her husband and family kept mocking her for "not knowing how to take a joke".

[@LRM12o8]

Well, makes sense then to break up. As is usually the case when people show dramatic reactions over seemingly petty things, it's not just because if this one thing, it's just the final straw. I just wonder how she didn't realize sooner what a stubborn ass he was. I thought at the very least the planning of a wedding would be enough of a personality check 😅

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

39:45 As I read in a meme in another of your videos: “If you need the threat of hellfire to be a good person, then you're just a bad person on a leash.”

[@creativeusername8339]

The gender thing about different languages is so real. I was scolded by my Italian teacher because I used the wrong gendered term FOR A KEY 🔑

[@indrimza]

My french classes are basically like this 😭

[@ThePopo543]

In Arabic they don't scold you, they just laugh at your broken Arabic and say something like "haha you sound like a r-slur" Edit: the kinds in class I mean, not the teachers. But the teachers do laugh though. There was this poor girl who was with me in 2nd grade who transferred from America, and she didn't speak a word of Arabic. She got bullied all the time for it... I spoke bad Arabic too and we would've been best friends if the school didn't break up our class into two rooms and they put her in class A and me in B. I didn't see her at all after that so I'm guessing she left the school. Can't blame her. Hope she's doing alright, wherever she is now.

[@SingingSealRiana]

I am so frustraited with my native language, cause there IS No Singular they, No way of neutraly refering to people If you plain do Not know for example . . .I hate IT, everything IS gendered that even If one invented pronouns for neutral use you still Had so many words you never even think about, that still are gendered

[@Stirfry47]

​​@@ThePopo543 R*pist? 😭

[@betsyjohnson9699]

This is why I’m so bad at learning other languages. Especially French when there’s no rules for what makes a word masculine or feminine, and it’s just like ~vibe~ it out. Like, what?!

[@allyturner147]

Saying "Food's awful and eating sucks" should automatically disqualify anyone from being taken seriously

[@julsdemers4740]

food is great and so is eating! if it werent from risk of weight gain i'd do nothing BUT eat XD eat and sleep are the best parts of my life!

[@yaboye3791]

Something tells me Andy burns his weiners when he boils them in water 💀

[@jenniferbelveal4331]

I've met people who have some food aversions- it's a neurodivergent thing. Had a coworker that loves cooking and food, but couldn't eat for very long before his body just didn't want to anymore. Of course, he nor anyone else I know with eating/sensory issues diefy themselves as being smarter/manlier/better than everyone else because their biology stops them from enjoying food.

[@allyturner147]

@@jenniferbelveal4331 I didn't think about that, that's fair. But I agree, having a superiority complex about it like Mister Top G is just cringe 😬

[@julsdemers4740]

@@jenniferbelveal4331 i feel very bad for them that they cant enjoy the food they cooked :< for me its the reverse, i hate cooking/fear cooking, but i love eating food! (and im neurodivergent too, so i can somewhat understand the sensory thing, when i say i love food, i only mean a few specific foods that dont trigger any bad sensory response from me)

[@Pablo360able]

It doesn't matter if you're a boy, a girl, what words I say, what chords I play, or if I stay in tune; at the end of the day, it's only a Northern song.

[@niloofardordahan6915]

My therapist told me that when "the secret" was translated into our language and published in our country, the therapist population saw a huge spike in people getting ill with guilt over how their intrusive thoughts were the reason for tragedies happening around them. It's a "good" book in theory but it ignores a huge part of how the human mind works. This gave way to people falling into huge depression because the illness or death of a loved one crossed their minds and they felt like they actualized the event by not being able to control their thoughts. The truth is, we all get these thoughts and if we don't shut them immediately it's mostly because we are trying to test our strength & survivability.

[@stampandscrap7494]

Its just another way the rich persuade everyone else its their own fault that they arn't rich, and thst the rich deserve all they have l.

[@georgejones3526]

19:41 - I love the way it sailed right over Click’s head how the Chinese symbols all looked similar to the corresponding latin letters of the English alphabet.

[@lazykbys]

I went crazy trying to figure out how those symbols were chosen. At least they could have gone with something even vaguely phonetically similar.

[@bigcreepythings]

The "Chinese alphabet" sheet is SUPER common in less than great quality tattoo shops; they'll tell you they can "tattoo your name in Chinese" then use a flash sheet pretty much exactly like that.

[@RazielSoulshadow]

I think I recognize several of the characters there from japanese. The one for C looks like the Kanji for the number 4 for example (though it's missing the stroke on the right to complete the box), while "I" is the Katakana character for E of all things. Very bad to be sure...

[@hailthequeenFM]

​@@RazielSoulshadow(四) is 4

[@restrictedmilk]

​@@RazielSoulshadowActually all of those characters appear in Japanese exactly as shown. The symbol you think is 4 is actually a very similar looking symbol used for counting certain kinds of animals. But just because it appears in Japanese does not mean it is exclusive to Japanese. Many kanji are identical between the two languages (well, in some written versions of Chinese), although strokes and meanings may vary slightly

[@Entity_in_your_walls]

2:09 I saw a reddit story on that from the womans perspective. Her family did that do her on her 17th birthday despite her asking for them not to. She got hurt by one of the cake decorations. Her husband had been watching those videos and found them funny. She did not. He joked a about doing it to her on their wedding. She said she'd leave him if he did. He thought it was a joke. Welp, he did it despite her repeatedly telling him not to. And then, yeah, she left him-

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

20:00 Actually, they specifically chose some Chinese characters that vaguely look like our Latin letters.

[@chakatfirepaw]

The issue with athletes gambling isn't that they are gambling in general, it's that they bet on their own sport. When you bet on your own sport, it is possible to be making bets where you are motivated to play less well, (or even intentionally cause your team to lose), in order to increase the chance of winning.

[@clubpenguin13531]

Although in that particular athlete's case, the league said he didn't bet on any hockey games, he bet on football games

[@chakatfirepaw]

@@clubpenguin13531 Some leagues enforce broader bans, (such as all sports betting). This is because a more general rule is easier to enforce, (you don't need to find out if he's betting on hockey specifically), and it preempts an athlete using permitted betting to mask prohibited betting, (he can show you a pile of receipts for overall low-risk football bets while hiding a couple high-payout hockey bets against himself).

[@LRM12o8]

17:07 what fascinates me the most about this post is how this guy who's probably in his fifties or so can blame the "woke generation", which typically refers to the youth, without realizing how much that makes him sound like a creep. Like, excuse me, are you saying your wife belongs to the "woke generation"?!

[@Noooooone]

Tbh, that guy probably thinks the "woke generation" started when women wanted to get the right to vote and have their own bank account.

[@lloyddragon2036]

I don't understand why the mom with toddlers and groceries didn't simply ask the neighbor for help. he probably just didn't know she wanted any. like imagine getting mad at someone for not helping you when you didn't even ask. how dare you not read my mind!! like we humans came up with this thing called language for that reason. needing help as a mom is perfectly valid; i can only imagine how exhausting it must be; but you can't get mad at someone for not automatically knowing you wanted help in that situation. no one needed to be an asshole in this situation, yet ultimately that was what she chose to do

[@vaughnhaney7020]

Yeah, honestly I've had a lot of encounters with people where I've offered my help and they've been offended that I thought they needed it, so it's possible he was worried about that ngl. I could definitely imagine an article going "Men think single mothers are too weak to even carry in their own groceries"

[@dickottel]

I love to help but I'm often too socially awkward and shy to offer help.

[@wmdkitty]

Because don't you know she's a single mother, and it's just sooo haaaaaard! She shouldn't have to stoop to _asking_ for help, you're supposed to just read her mind and help! /S (like, really heavy sarcasm.)

[@LRM12o8]

One would think that's obvious, but to some people it's apparently not. I once got yelled at and reprimanded by a teacher in elementary school because I didn't hold the door open for her when she was literally 15 feet behind me and I had no idea she was even there. Well, at least she taught me how irrational the old-fashioned concept of chivalry is. Why should men always make concessions and do the "heavy" stuff for women and never the other way around, even when the woman is a fully grown 400 lb adult and the "man" is a six year old. 😂 Good thing I didn't grow up in a time when a woman slapping a man for anything she deems "offensive" and adults beating children to "teach" them were still socially accepted behaviors. Would have been even more absurd!

[@Diamondr11Blue]

@@wmdkitty by choice too

[@thats-too-salty]

Can I just say that you are a very inspiring role model? My brother is struggling a lot and he lacks a good male role model in his life. Our dad is verbally abusive and generally a not nice person, so I’ve been looking for videos on KZbin that can positively reinforce lessons for him coming from a man he can look up to. Recently I’ve been sending him your stuff because you appeal to the importance of morality, while also being a strong role model in a masculine way. I genuinely think what you have to say can make a difference for a young teen who needs it, and thank you for being who you are. ❤

[@Bookwright]

If you're from USA I can recommend ”Beau of the fifth column” as a very healthy masculine and safe role model. He talks mostly about news and has a military background. A kind, intelligent and calm person.

[@margodphd]

Cyzor is awesome too!

[@dickottel]

thespeechprof can be his online dad 😊

[@Knight41b]

While "The Click" isn't a bad person and does give some decent advice from time to time, please remember he's from Sweden/Europe (his entire YT channel is satire) & doesn't really pay much/enough attention to things outside his country. Each country & Region is very different. This also includes life experiences. I understand trying to find a role model is hard, (sometimes they can be completely fictional characters & other times they are actual real people) I also believe finding one that an individual can resonate with is important. Perhaps finding a role model with a similar personality could be helpful? I do wish you luck though.

[@joparkin6960]

If he likes fitness or wrestling, I heartily recommend Simon Miller - he's a lovely guy.

[@lavenderandwine]

The abusing wife one was admittedly triggering. I spent 6 years in hell with my abuser convincing myself it wasn't happening. I never understood how people could do that and not just leave until it happened to me. It really does fuck with your brain and make you reliant on them. It's now been 6 years of freedom thanks to one of my best friends. I have PTSD. I can't bring myself to be in a relationship with anyone ever again. To be fair i'm ace and likely aro anyway but still. It's just really not appealing. I wish I could wipe every memory of him from my brain but those scars will last forever. But me living my life on freedom, happy, with 4 cats, and so many amazing friends I never would have met if I hadn't gotten out works just fine as healing and a giant fuck you to that fucker who tried so hard to destroy me.

[@LB-uo7xy]

And he won cause you're still letting him destroy you now, inside your head, from very far away. Also you don't think, as an already 6 year in victim, that you would NEED those memories as to not repeat the same mistakes of the past? It's the lack of them that made you think you wouldn't be there.

[@Alex._-._..-.-_.._]

No matter what anyone believes, I hope they'd rather leave the room so their child can answer the doctor's question correctly rather than their wellbeing be at stake because they were too scared to tell the truth. Also I was having a hard day today and these videos always help cheer me up, so thank you click.

[@LRM12o8]

Unfortunately, many people don't think that far. They would choose to leave the room so their kid can answer honestly over the risk of medical complications, IF they would consider the risk at all, but all they're thinking of is their entitlement to be fully informed of their child's health issues and their instinct to protect and help their child, even if it's not needed. It's parental entitlement.

[@simonwinn8757]

It's not about answering questions honestly about things like sex and drugs, it's saying a parent has no rights over medical information i.e. doctor's appointments since the child is over 11. Also do you believe a child can understand long term consequences by consenting to medical procedures.

[@TabbyDapperSir]

15:38 I am Jewish, culturally and practicing, and I have to say it is genuinely ridiculous how many non Jews try to mansplain my own religion to me. Idk, just hit a nerve with me today. Edit: In my original comment I said "Christians" instead of "Non Jews" which was very poor word choice on my part. My point wasn't to criticize Christianity, It just so happens that in the example I was thinking of, the guy was Christian, and I was trying to emphasize how out of their league they were in the conversation. There's so many differences between Christianity and Judaism that run far deeper than Believing in the Messiah, and simply put it, non Jews, especially Christians, don't understand that and they try to correct me about my religion without knowing the context. TL;DR: I used the word Christian instead of Non Jews which is why all the replies are talking about Christianity.

[@SpringStarFangirl]

YES. THIS.

[@Tobertobee]

EXACTLY. I’m ex Christian and I couldn’t STAND that Christianity is so horrible to other people with different beliefs or harass people who “promote sins”

[@haydenmeeks8869]

Trust me. Those people aren’t Christians. They are using Christianity to hide behind their awful behavior. Jesus told his followers to love everyone even when they sin because we would be hypocrites if we decide to judge. When you see and meet true Christians, you can see how loving it actually is.

[@PrideTheTiefling]

@@haydenmeeks8869 thing is, the phrase "love someone even if they sin" doesn't erase the fact that many christians consider being gay a sin even though this verse was literally plastered to the bible years and years later. It doesn't matter if someone says they love me if they genuinely believe the way I was born is a sin in itself. It's still an oppressive thing to say to someone.

[@NoxLunarwing]

​@@haydenmeeks8869yeah I may not be a Christian myself but having a grandma who was and she is the kindest person in my immediate family definitely helped me see the difference. She was often being my mom when my own mother was not, she was the first to accept me when I came out and was there for me when my mother threw me out. But yeah at this point I call the other group the pseudo christian cult cause I want to differentiate them from Christians. As much as there is bad in the world there is still a lot of good! :)

[@mr.penguin5519]

(10:52) A few months ago I went in for a therapy evaluation and the therapist asked me a bunch of personal questions in front of my dad, and the moment he left she was like "Alright now that he's gone, is there anything you'd like to tell me?" As a trans person in a transphobic family it really made me feel better.

[@thenagito]

Andrew Tate was literally just like "If you don't have a female then have an eating disorder"

[@Genderqueerquack]

11:03 in the USA, you can ask for this no matter what after 14. It’s in place because the bulk of teens would not admit to s3x, drinking, or drugs in front of their parents. It’s also so that if they have concerns over abuse, you can answer without fear of punishment.

[@LRM12o8]

There shouldn't be a minimum age for that, especially for that last reason!

[@Genderqueerquack]

@@LRM12o8I agree, but I think the concern is that shady stuff can happen? Idk, it’s kinda dumb. 14 where I live is when you start getting medical autonomy but idk if that’s in all 50 states or not

[@ZombieWilfred]

24:10 Ooof! A bread knife has got to be one of the worst knives to get stabbed with! They're usually not very pointy and they're serrated. Probably the only knives in most kitchens that would hurt worse are a table knife or a butter knife because of how dull they are... 😬

[@Rabbit-the-One]

Of the topic around 11:30 I can relate. I was taken to rehab in my early 20's. My mother was there for the intake interview so I lied about my drug habits. This lead to me being severely under medicated through withdraw. This could've killed me.

[@LRM12o8]

In your early 20's?!! The frick, Why was she even allowed in the room in the first place? You were an adult person at that point! 🤦‍♂️

[@PerovNigma]

14:44 It really annoys me when people act like you're still a virgin just because you haven't had vaginal sex. Imagine getting an STD from someone and they go "But I've only done hand stuff, mouth stuff, and butt stuff!"

[@akshaya6770]

The doctor probably meant that her hymen is still intact.

[@msthecommentator2863]

Okay, guys, is it a feminine trait to... **checks notes** ...eat food?

[@Dutch_Man68]

Yes! If you are a real SuperMegaGigaSigmaAlpha male, you don't eat food. What are you, some stupid beta?!

[@janemiettinen5176]

That slappy husband should think his arrest as correctional arrest, for “correctional” slap.

[@LRM12o8]

If he doesn't stop it, he'll might get put into a correctional center! 😉

[@janemiettinen5176]

@@LRM12o8 Exactomundo :)

[@amaperson2886]

Fun fact: there are very very few exclusively herbivorous animals. Cows, deer, even rabbits will eat meat if they’re given the chance.

[@kittycatmeowmeow963]

Really? Very interesting.

[@queersoapybar]

And chickens will absolutely cannibalize too

[@i.147]

casual geographic actually just released a video on that exact subject!! nice coincidence

[@Aaron.Thomas]

I mean, American Heritage Dictionary et al: herbivore: An animal that feeds chiefly on plants. herbivore still just means "mostly" plants. So, it shouldn't really be much of a surprise. Is there someone claiming all these animals can't eat animal sources?

[@Raienya]

I know someone who picked up one of the Pride Nutcrackers at Target. She posted a picture of it on her Facebook page, and is getting accused of "ruining society". What the FRICK????

[@wintergray1221]

Their blinders are so thick they're wearing concrete.

[@samiraperi467]

16:15 She's going to have a bit of an issue with "no African ancestry", because *everyone* has African ancestry. 42:30 NGL, PC hardware is a hell of a drug.

[@DIRTkat_ofc]

Just had hardware problems on the pc here yesterday and had to buy some of these paste, can confirm hadware problems are a hell of a drug

[@jamesonmiller8283]

Isn't the real point that the cleaning lady will rat them out, and they need to hire someone else.

[@SpamEggSausage]

you try to tell racist idiots that and they're not going to believe you

[@melissawickersham9912]

Everyone has African ancestry if you trace the genealogy back far enough. Homo Sapiens originated in Africa, after all. However, most DNA genealogy services don’t trace the family tree back that far.

[@Eleanor_Ch]

"As part of an April Fools’ prank, two radio station's DJs in Florida joked that “dihydrogen monoxide” was coming out of the water taps. Residents who didn't know that was just another name for water were sent into a panic. WBBH’s Meaghan Smith reports." Enough said.

[@solomonverrico]

That was actually just the most recent iteration of that gag, at least as far as wiki is concerned. That was in 2013, but the hoax goes back to 1983 in Durand, Michigan. It pops up every so often and people fall for it, every time. There were at least fourteen other iterations, including an episode of Penn and Teller.

[@breadstick4458]

Dihydrogen monoxide: 😊 Carbon monoxide:😟

[@FaethorFerenzcy]

21:00 An apple a day keeps the antivaxer away? :D

[@Wild_goat]

The article calling the woman in the couple trying to conceive “still a virgin” is so weird Like, why are we still defining virginity by vaginal intercourse? 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃

[@rebny7801]

I guess her hymen was still intact, maybe that's how the doctor found out what was the cause for not conceiving. But then from a social point of wiev I agree with you.

[@feuerling]

​@@rebny7801 A hymen doesn't necessarily tear from sex, and a damaged hymen doesn't mean someone has had sex. They can also heal. It all depends on the shape, size, and elasticity of the individual's hymen.

[@waffles3629]

​@@rebny7801 hymens don't work like that. Some people don't have them, and some people's never tear. You can also tear it riding a bicycle.

[@firespirit8925]

​@@waffles3629can break using tampons too

[@dickottel]

you put tampons or dildo, you can still be 'a virgin' if you never had sex. but it's funny to call someone who's had anal sex many times 'a virgin'.

[@Starrie-o]

Whatever gender you are, you're beautiful

[@yuki97kira]

😯😯😯

[@puppyqueen5688]

Unless your a terf

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

☺️

[@vidachsa]

I know ☺️

[@Steve-xo5pq]

Aww! No, *you're* beautiful! ☺️

[@cronchy_bakingsoda]

The woman with the toddler and the groceries who complained about her neighbor not helping, though she never said she asked him to help, also said that she was a single mother. There was a circled section of the writing where she said that her son was donor conceived which would be through sperm donation. I do not like to blame single mothers for things, but she chose to use sperm donation to have her child without a partner, knowing she would be a single mother. But then complains about this motherhood of hers and how someone who is not required to help her needs to help her.

[@alecmullaney7957]

Some people think the only way to be fulfilled is to have a kid, and thinks being a mom gives you special privileges

[@mandywalker3393]

I go to the gym. I do chair yoga. I swim. I do light weight training. My rheumatoid arthritis makes stair climbing difficult for me. I never go to the second floor. Don't judge everyone else by your abilities.

[@davidgeorge1943]

I swear, every time I witness anything about Andrew Tate, it sounds like he's destined to belong in a Family Guy cutaway.

[@aoneal3723]

The widow statue on the grave is kind of beautiful, actually. Imagine if you came across a gravestone like that from hundreds of years ago... It would just show how much the person was loved and grieved over. I wouldn't think poorly of the surviving spouse

[@grilledpook]

yeah i feel like people would have a different reaction if this was from the 1800s

[@Stonedsheepu8906]

Fun animal fact: One of the very few predators of a Canadian moose can be an Orca. A moose can dive as deep as 20ft underwater for plantlife and sometimes swim to islands for fruit. Orcas don’t care what they’re facing because they’ll try to eat it anyway. There have been traces of moose antlers in dead orcas

[@gameprose4293]

My entire life, I've been mocked for being to short, for being too thin (elementary school), for being too fat (middle school and onwards), for having a busted looking nose, for having lips that are 'too red' (I don't wear lipstick or anything, they're just naturally like that), for not having enough body hair (when I was younger), for having too much body hair (more recent), and so on. Most of the body shaming came from girls and women. The fact there are people who claim that boys and men aren't body shamed angers me.

[@kayreb]

The surprise of the Christian wife when she learned atheists can love people makes a lot of sense. I grew up in evangelical Christianity...and we were constantly taught that what sets Christianity apart is that it 'is the only religion with a loving god'. And that by being a kind, loving person, people would start to realise how different you are and then you could tell them about Jesus (when they would inevitably come up to you and be like 'woah, I've never met a person who is kind before...why are you such a good person'). It wasn't until I was questioning my beliefs that I came to realize how incredibly messed up and idiotic that idea was. I was brainwashed to believe that any non-Christian who said they were happy or that they loved people were all liars who only said such things because they wanted to keep sinning. It really messed me up and made it very difficult to leave because I thought that I would become a horrible person if I did.

[@draconicfeline6177]

In the bible, though, God is extremely non loving and cruel...

[@kayreb]

@@draconicfeline6177 yeahhhh... but we don't like to talk about that bit

[@SkylerNightsky-z5n]

Bro people really are stuck in the past. We should just love each other and support each other. If something isn’t your thing or if you don’t like it then distance instead of being mean lol

[@wilyriley_]

40:03 I feel like it’s less “wishing death upon someone” and more “being so afraid of rejection that yes, the death sucks, obviously, but at least it’s an explanation” source: this would be me

[@anitanielsen1061]

OMG I LOVE *EVERYTHING* ABOUT YOUR PFP!!!

[@wilyriley_]

@@anitanielsen1061 AAAAAAA TYSMMMMM

[@Polaris-qq2nh]

0:24 he has an army of emotional support demon plushies and I’m so here for it!

[@jefftheevilpotato]

39:50 As a christian myself, this is stupid. Most christian’s love because love, not because it’s a core christian belief. Also, other religions do also hold love as a core belief, I believe buddhism for one, and probably judaism and islam, considering they are very similar to christianity.

[@Enteringdullsville]

Yes, to all of this.