r/Insaneparents | her last words

[@Just_a_commenter]

Robin and InsaneParents go together perfectly - there's no narrator better at ranting over inept and terrible parents than Rantin' Robin

[@Stringspuller88]

I Agree, Cool Pfp By The Way.

[@AstroOfficialPiece]

agreed

[@emeraldfire413]

He takes it personally and it's amazing. I know he's talked about how he's grown up on occasion. I wonder if this subreddit triggers some memories for him or something

[@Just_a_commenter]

@Stringspuller88 Cheers, thank you!

[@erinnnns]

agreed

[@pumpkinpatch2203]

My mom apologizing for my childhood and admitting they put me in situations no child should ever be in, honestly did so much for my self worth, my mental health and my relationship with her

[@Mae_Dastardly]

My mom died refusing to admit any wrong, but at least my dad admitted that throwing me around and screaming in my face while pinning me to the floor so much as a kid was Bad

[@pumpkinpatch2203]

@@Mae_Dastardly I'm sorry you went through that. I never got an apology from my dad, since he got alzheimers before we knew about my ptsd and died. But even my mom admitting she should've put her foot down sooner about my dads anger was a lot of help

[@Mae_Dastardly]

@@pumpkinpatch2203 it do b like that sometimes, oh well at least we both have One decent parent

[@abyssal-turtle]

I wish I have a mother like that. I'm happy for you. 🤍

[@mycazglinski2302]

My moms husband is too stubborn to realize neglect, and verbal berating is abuse.

[@LilChuunosuke]

As a fellow passionate defender of Halloween, there *was* actually a news story in (i think) the 80s about kids consuming apples with razorblades inside, but the apples weren't given to the kids by strangers on Halloween. It was from their own father. Ironically quite fitting for this subreddit. It also reinforces the fact that the biggest danger to kids is not from strangers, but within their own homes.

[@ririlub]

😨

[@anonymoususer188]

Putting razor blades... in apples... for his own children!? WTF? Why? That's messed up on so many levels. Also, I refuse to believe that anyone would actually put anything harmful in Halloween candy that they were passing out to random children.

[@GoofyGuyTaken]

Did it taste good?/j

[@ComicallyStupid-t9y]

@@anonymoususer188 I think it was for their life insurance

[@SuicideSeason4545]

@@anonymoususer188 this happened in my city(suburb near Houston, TX) We all know it as one of the 2 candy man killers. Yes there are 2 and they were unrelated. The one that created the Halloween candy scare was a man who wanted to cash out on his children’s life insurance policies because he was so fucked financially (and clearly in the head.) it just so happened that there was 3 to 4 other kids there that Halloween night and so whenever he gave his kid some pixie sticks he laced with cyanide he shared them with his friends and they all passed away. He was executed in the 80s. His son was named Timothy O’Bryan, the murderer was named Ronald Clarke O’Bryan and he is also known as the man who killed Halloween. He was true evil.(the other candyman killer was a serial killer and his name was Dean Corl, it is such a sickening yet crazy story it’s hard to believe all that happened in my city.)

[@L_and]

r/insaneparents makes me so fucking thankful of my parents for being actual good parents and people

[@defnotnaruto222]

I'm no actual expert on these things, buttttt chances are most of these texts are taken out of context. I feel like many relationships established by teens are very, very terrible and toxic between the parent and child. The reasons for this are probably due to some economic problems or smth. My point is basically don't enjoy that you have good parents, enjoy that you actually have a good relationship with your parents instead. Of course, some of these texts are actually from delirious parents who think they're better, but sometimes its just how the parent and child treat each other and how it got so bad that it led up to that point.

[@STONKS_MemeMan]

​@@defnotnaruto222I agree somewhat. I feel like some of these posts come from one of those fake texting apps. Sometimes these are too bizarre to believe they're actually true.

[@_Funaroma]

@@STONKS_MemeManwell do you believe dozens of people in this very comment section saying they had these kinds of parents? Or the hundreds on that Reddit sub. I get that some stories can be unbelievable but even “out of context” some of these look bad. Especially all the ones were the op is an adult with children being talked to like that

[@STONKS_MemeMan]

@@_Funaroma I know. Some are still hard to believe though

[@StevenStormcloak-oy6hz]

Me too

[@Itz_Lumi]

“I’m not your therapist.” I love the points Robin made about this because it’s just an angry middle aged woman speaking with idle tongue. A mother is one who helps console their kid when they need it, regardless of time, mood, et cetera. Saying you’re not their therapist, in a medical/legal term, is correct. However, you still signed up to take care of your kid, which includes expressing support for them when they’re disconcerted or upset.

[@kingme1313]

Honestly, it is so bad to hear from a parent. My dad, when I was in my teens, made sure to tell me that if I needed to talk about anything, he'd listen. This is coming from almost 14 years of my mom gaslighting me into thinking my dad was a terrible person. Even if I didn't tell him everything, it helped to make sure that we had a good relationship at the end of the day.

[@Itz_Lumi]

@@kingme1313 that’s tough mate. That has to psychologically take its toll on yas. Mad respect fam

[@kingme1313]

@@Itz_Lumi It has, and I still have a lot of apprehension for staying any time with my mom. Now adays (since they divorced) she's toned down *SLIGHTLY* as she has a few cats. However I don't really talk to her that much.

[@Itz_Lumi]

@@kingme1313 yeah, that’s fair. At least you have others you can consult

[@tttITA10]

"A mother is one who helps console their kid when they need it, regardless of time, mood, et caetera" I'm sorry, but no! Absofuckinglutely NOT. This is an idealized view of parenthood, which, as idealized, is not real: moreover, this very idea is so frequently mobilized to emotionally manipulate - specially women - into inhumanly high caretaking workloads. Parents are responsible for some level of care, and need to take responsability for their acts (id est, she shouldn't have asked how her child was doing, if she was not ready to read the answer, or maybe answer in a more welcoming matter when the response is too much to deal at the time) but they need to be humanly treated, and need to be in condition to offer proper care: discussing heavy problems with people with improper time to deal with it, or mood to deal with it, or technical knowledge to deal with it, at the same time you hold upon them such unhinged expectations as "care regardless of time" will be heavily deleterious to all people involved, including the person asking for care. Which is to say, your comment is completely out of touch with reality.

[@karratkake]

The little tangent Robin went on at the end really struck a chord with me. I've struggled with my relationship with my parents since I was little. Abusive father, neglective mother. My father would threaten us with homelessness because my brothers and I forgot to clean the kitchen, and say that being fed every night was a 'privilege'. When I would snap and tell them how much they've hurt me, they'd deny everything and turn it against me, so sadly, I don't think my relationship with them will ever heal, but from their hurt, I gained some amazing friends along the way. They've helped me through crisis after crisis, have helped me work myself down from panic attacks, and have been the best thing I could ever ask for. I'm alive because of them, if I'm perfectly honest, and I feel like I'm going to make it out on the other side of this hellscape because of them. TL;DR: Listen to Robin, wise words come from experienced speakers.

[@lady_draguliana784]

15:50 It should be Noted that EVERY instance of Razor Blades or Deadly Poisons being in Halloween candy (and there're only a handful) it was ALWAYS the child's Own family (typically their parent, though I think a sibling may have been behind one of the 2 ever razor incidents) trying to kill or injure them and get away with it.

[@thelunchlady8276]

It was because it's a Satanic day of celebration.

[@blazingvenom6012]

@@thelunchlady8276it’s because money exists, please get your head out of your ass

[@fulltimecommenter]

​@@thelunchlady8276you can be Christian but not overly religious Halloween is NOT satanic, but it isn't related to Christ in any way. So it is a pagan holiday, but it's not satanic and Christians also celebrate it. Also what the actual f is wrong with you? Wishing death upon innocent children for trying to get free candies in a day designed specifically to get free candies?

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

@@thelunchlady8276 it's not Satanic (and even actual Satanists don't worship the Devil, in spite of the name). I'm finding it weird how there are people using their religious beliefs as justification to hurt and kill their own children (and sometimes other people's kids, too). Regardless of how you view cultural holidays that isn't justified.

[@hayasheeeesh]

​@@thelunchlady8276 it has a deep history in venerating the dead. If you think Halloween is Satanic, then you better not do any presents, put up Christmas trees, celebrate Easter, or blow out birthday candles because those all have origins in Paganism. The Timothy O'Brien case was a cut and dry case of attempted life insurance fraud. But if you genuinely think Halloween is about Satanism, then I bet you don't do much reading.

[@WilliamBrowning]

All children deserve a parent, not all parents deserve children.

[@ZeroPlanZone]

Wiser words could not have been spoken.

[@nomoretwitterhandles]

A good parent*. I'm sick of mediocrity. I'm sick of the bare minimum. I've watched too many children suffer from their parents' bad choices, even if their parents "cared" enough to give them the bare minimum. Fuck that. Children are HUMAN BEINGS. Is it not human to want the best for our fellow people? To help them grow and flourish so that they may one day create a future better than the one we thought possible? Children deserve what they NEED, and what they NEED are decent parents who know how to do their fucking job.

[@i-eat-covid]

i know that no one gives a damn or asked but 100th like😎

[@cynister7384]

@@nomoretwitterhandles That's the point of the quote.

[@NERDY04]

That is true watching these makes me so mad

[@Cecona]

15:40 So the tainted candy thing actually did happen, the only thing is that is was the parents that messed with their own kids candy, not some stranger

[@hayasheeeesh]

Just the father

[@Danka42]

Family being the real danger, imagine that... 🙃

[@SamsarasArt]

​@@hayasheeeeshdidn't he have gambling debt so he killed his kid for the insurance money and blamed it on trick-or-treating?

[@funnymannotfunny]

@@SamsarasArtyes, he took out life insurance policies on her, poisoned a pixie stick, and gave a few poisoned ones out to shift the blame away from himself. He still got caught though and I think the number of total occurrences of something like that is in the single digits.

[@Argwohn915]

@@funnymannotfunny I'm not a native english speaker so I hope u still get what I want to say. Here where I live, on a child playground, whitch is open to everyone, someone glued razorblades on the "firefighter--like slide pipe" dunno the correct term. So that when u slided down u would cut open your hand or worse. Oh and on the pipe above the normal slide that is supposed to be the grapping bar. There were razorblades attached, too.

[@bouncycomix]

The hardest thing about having to deal with parents like this past 18 is just the fact that if they decide to, they just legitimately can throw you out on the street. They make you feel like you can't stand up to them, EVER, or you're completely screwed. And let me tell you, having that paranoia hanging over your head at all times does NOT make it easier to solve the problem. My mom wasn't like that, thankfully. It was my stepdad. I wasn't getting kicked out unless I did something real stupid. But that didn't help the way I felt, and some people have it worse than I did. I wish I had more advice to give.

[@Linty-hk8st]

Oh man, I’m sorry if you had to deal with that. I hope things get better, love from some rando on the internet.

[@bouncycomix]

@@Linty-hk8st Oh, no worries, I don't live with them anymore. It's definitely colored my adult life somewhat, but I'm doing well.

[@Veiled_Lepidoptera]

I love these. I love how outraged Robin gets. Thank you for being an advocate for people with abusive parents, Robin. You're amazing.

[@normal_username1]

The ones who experienced it know most about it

[@Love2Banime]

The dishes part reminded me back when a friend I used to hang out with (also with other friends), had this one parent that practically banned everyone from coming over because "their child" did not clean the ONE dish that was left in the sink. JUST. ONE.

[@dhanurvishnu3035]

Omg

[@InMemoryOfGB]

a punishment is a punishment though

[@heavenlypillar]

@@InMemoryOfGB ever heard of an unfair punishment? A scolding would have been just fine.

[@InMemoryOfGB]

@@heavenlypillar But its still a punishment either way

[@Love2Banime]

@@InMemoryOfGB kinda little much though

[@meowmreowmeow]

Robin pointing out how making threats on your children to basicslly making them homeless is bad is REALLY making me rethink my mom. She said she’d kick me out the house if I didn’t finish all the homework I ended up procrastinating in. Fair with the procrastination I would guess, but,,, yeah

[@sylvirgiomanach1491]

Threatening to make your child homeless over something as asinine as homework is freaking crazy and absolutely abuse.

[@BaldCoryxKenshinfan]

I can’t even count how many times my mom has threatened to kick me out but I do know that she actually has kicked me out 3 times because I have severe depression and she “can’t deal with me”. She was the reason for me depression. She was incredibly abusive.😭

[@rsnnramlall9642]

@@BaldCoryxKenshinfan damn. I hope you get the help you need and deserve, no one should have to go through this. I hope your mother gets the treatment she deserves as well.

[@Caitilizzie]

That is definitely abusive, and i’m so sorry you had to go through that. My sister is 16, and she has a lot of mental issues and struggles with school and procrastination like you do. It’s to such an extreme level that she had to drop out of normal high school and take online school, but is still struggling. My parents try hard to push her to do her homework, but I don’t remember them ever threatening to kick her out of the house if she didn’t. And they definitely aren’t perfect either, they have said so many awful things to us, but they’d never stoop that low. I’m 22 so it’s a bit different for me since they want me to move out for my own good, which i’m also trying to do right now myself. But they aren’t threatening or abusive about it at all, my mom just genuinely wants to help me be an independent adult. Threats are horrible regardless, but i’m assuming you’re also probably a minor, which makes things much worse.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

I'm not sure if you're saying that you just realized maybe it's not okay for her to do that, but that's what it sounds like. And this whole comment thread is correct. Your mom IS/was abusing you. She is/was overblowing a small problem to the point where she abused her child. And if you are a minor, she is LEGALLY OBLIGATED to pay for your food, housing, and the clothes you need. If she does kick you out she is _breaking the law_ and the police will consider it a big deal.

[@lindapatton4478]

I love how the divorced mom has the ex listed as "Dumb Dumb' in her contacts. That text just proved she was correct.

[@b1rdsar3ntr3al]

I LOVE when people insult their exes in their contacts. my ex in my contacts is "brad bitch." like "bad bitch," but he's a bitch :)

[@chilling_koala]

​@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_Alive someone got dumped by his girlfriend, I see

[@usernameisusernam]

@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_Alive oooooor… he really is dumb? I mean, his text shows a lot

[@dlightningz6775]

​@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_Alive this.

[@JadeFanuga]

​More likely? We have nothing but text about these people, and these texts shows the husband in a very "dumb dumb" light, get your fucking facts right

[@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi]

"Hey mom, I feel really bad. I think its something I ate earlier" "No, its because of that damn phone "

[@thetruenugz4409]

I fell of my bed once, broke my finger. My mom blamed it on my phone😂

[@coolDude-sx6we]

Turns out it’s because she fed you Shellfish but there’s an 50/50 chance Shellfish gives you instant death, but there’s a 100% chance of pain agony and suffering

[@KLEEEEE_]

@@coolDude-sx6weDAMN STRAIGHT

[@itsthejavavoid]

"hey mom i just got abducted and ive been stabbed" "its that dang phone!!!1!"

[@beelzebub7221]

sounds like my father. Every time i got sick it's because I used to stick my fingers in my mouth when i was 3 and he's held a grudge ever since. Or it's because i don't get enough sun even though I go outside every day, multiple hours a day, and work as a landscaper (aka outside work). Or it's because i have a dog.. He hates my dogs but neither of us are actually affected by them health-wise.

[@M_Alexander]

As I recall, the guy who infamously poisoned Halloween candy only gave it to his own kids

[@hayasheeeesh]

Yup. The Timothy O'Brien case. He did it to get their life insurance policies. And he used cyanide, not razor blades.

[@M_Alexander]

@@hayasheeeesh whoever did the razor blades thing probably did it just to take pictures and report it if they even went that far

[@MaraBaelish]

My mom used to be JUST like these crazy parents. So glad she got clean, is medicated, and in therapy now.

[@Genburthing]

I honestly want to congratulate you but i really dont know how so… cheers on that?

[@defnotnaruto222]

​@@GenburthingJust say "Happy Paper Cowboy!"

[@itsthejavavoid]

this is the same with my mom. she was pretty emotionally abusive without realizing it, and it took a while to finally get her to realize it. but since she did, everything has been so much better and i'm just so proud of her. i know she never meant to hurt me on purpose, and since the 'talk' we had, things have been way less tense and uncomfortable. she's been so much happier too and that makes me happy

[@Neptune_Demon]

Lucky, my mother is an alcholic and the shit that comes out of her mouth nowdays woulf make you think she belongs is an asylum. Sorry mom, didn't know playing a goddamn card game with my sister and my brother's girlfriend was pissing you off to the point where you got off your lazy fucking ass on the phone with our grandmother to tell us that you were going to go "mideavle on our asses." baiscaly telling us that you intend to beat our ass's or some shit later. (Sorry moment of rage lmao)

[@Napa39]

5:34 Oh that $50 is definitely being used in an abusive fashion. In general, paying rent in some form to your parents isn't bad or abusive, but I can guarantee that a parent that acts like this on "late rent" has rent exclusively to abuse their child.

[@dtk7181]

Worst is that op is 17 and paying this "rent". I just looked up the post and they said they turn 18 in Jan

[@AshLilyNeko]

I am guessing it goes to their alcohol/substance/spending problem tbh

[@djt08031996]

> gets to the rant at the end > gives Robin all the headpats > you have our support

[@KowaiZuzu]

I went no contact with my dad 5 months ago and today I got a text from my sister letting me know I'm invited to his Thanksgiving this weekend. I was gonna say no obviously, but it still brought up a lot of wildly conflicting feelings. So I left it in notification limbo. Well, listening to this video has given me the strength to text my sister back "thanks but I won't be there". I'm lucky that my sister is cool, so the response I got back was "lol I figured" and I know she won't mention it again.

[@nomoretwitterhandles]

Good on you for finding that strength. I currently rely on my parents for housing (I'm an adult but my health is poor and I may not be independent for another few years), but the moment I get out of here I am gone. I might keep minimal contact because I do still love my grandparents very much, but the rest of my immediate family is trash. Literally the only good thing they've done for me is allow me to stay with them while we figure out what's going on with my health, because they're not THAT heartless (thankfully). You deserve a good family and I'm sure you'll find that someday. It really is lucky that your sister is chill. Stay strong!

[@luphone2781]

The dishes thing and sociopathic Mothers is completely true. My lung collapsed years ago while I was visiting my Mother, and I ended up a couple minutes away from the other one collapsing and killing me despite having made it to the ER (Because the ER and hospital in my area is horrible.) They finally intubated me and the nurse called my Emergency contacts, one of them having been my mother, which has since been changed. She told her what happened, how close I was to death etc. All my mother asked was "Did he do the dishes before he left? Will you pay for a taxi (I had left my car) for him to come back and clean the dishes and kitchen?" The nurse politely ended the call and gave me the most empathetic pitiable look before stepping out the room.

[@WeirdWonderful]

I am so sorry you went through all of this. I have one note though. There is a time for professionalism and there is a time to give people a dressing down like they never experienced before. Even at the risk of potential termination, there are people who have to be told just how much of an a-hole they are being. Just saying if that was me I'd have spent twenty minutes yelling at her through the phone.

[@DenvaProbablyDraws]

@@WeirdWonderful I think anyone would appreciate that a lot, I wouldn’t have the courage to do it though :/

[@AceJackWagon885]

oof

[@jevilcore]

As somebody who’s a victim of parental neglect (generally not her fault, my brother was born when I was 5 years old and he’s… difficult) among other things, hearing “threatening your kids with homelessness is abuse hit like a truck.

[@SirAsdf]

These parents sure must be prepared for the fact that their last moments of life are going to be spent sad and alone knowing no one is going to attend their funeral.

[@bnashee]

I always enjoy watching these videos explicitly because Robin's reactions to these monsters who think they get to call themselves "parents" really aligns with how i feel too. I had really horrible parents and i do not talk to them at all anymore and never will again. Because they were like these people. so it feels really nice to be able to see someone completely and openly affirm that decision like this

[@KageTenshiiRyuu]

He gets so _livid_ reading these posts! You can physically feel the anger emanating from him with every deep breath he takes to continue his rants! I gotta send this to my cousin. She has so much to say about her mother (who is legitimately insane, going so far as to empty my cousin's bank account after kicking her out the house). I'm sure she'd appreciate this so much!

[@misty_ferretXD]

my mom is on of the sweetest people in my life, she respects my boundaries as much as she can, she encourages me to open up about my problems to her, im able to joke around with her, and is overall just a kind and caring person. I honestly see her as both a friend and mother.

[@thedevvsterr]

Good for you!

[@blitzkri860]

same. don't have my dad but I'm honestly lucky with how my mother treats me compared to this vid 💀

[@Cyberwritesidk]

Yeah. This subreddit made me realize how good and nice my mom is. In fact she looked at some of these and said "thats just straight up abusive"

[@vadalilmash1875]

I hate it when people call Halloween “satanic” because fun fact: during the Celtic festival of Samhain, a holiday similar to Halloween, they dressed up to ward off ghosts and spirits

[@Williamisasuka]

Yes!!! (Pagan here) Theres nothing Satanic about it at all! Christians (Bad ones) Just use it as a way to push down Celtic pagans.

[@matthewgilfus1640]

Belief in ghosts and spirits is superstition, which IS Satanic

[@fairyfoxey9438]

It's also funny they call it satanic when it's ironically technically a christian holiday! (they stole it, but "halloween" was still made by them. The original religion didn't exactly include trick or treating lol and they have a different name for the original version)

[@ballisticdestroyer2744]

Halloween is literally derived from "Hallow's Eve." which connects to All Saints Day, Hallow's Eve was to make saints fast and then on All Saints Day (or it was Hallow's Day, I forgot.) they would feast.

[@bexj4205]

I love Halloween so much. My favorite time of the year. October is the best.

[@Juzokinnie]

Robin going on rants while crapping on terrible parents is really satisfying to me, he says all the things I wish I could say to my dad's parents, whom were very abusive in all manners. Once I get my sh*t together, I'm not taking bs.

[@KLEEEEE_]

hell yea.

[@ACKamikaze]

I'm that parent my kid comes to for everything... And I love it... I also give her space within legal reason (Not gonna let her break insane laws) but she's 16, she's her own person, and whatever she does, I support!

[@NartSadiku-ws4ow]

THANK YOU!

[@kitkatbreaker1270]

You're a good parent :D

[@nomoretwitterhandles]

That's amazing and it makes me happy to see that some parents do still give a shit about their children lol. You both deserve great things and I'm sure she will become a terrific adult.

[@darkeuropa7]

Unfortunately, each kid requires different parenting. All of these people are saying you are a great parent, and you might be, but they have no idea about how your child actually acts. You do this kind of parenting to a kid that needs to learn of consequences and I can very well just call you a bad parent. You need to be in control sometimes when it comes to certain children. Still, great communication also matters. Parenting is not easy for some.

[@fairyfoxey9438]

@@darkeuropa7 There is no situation where you have to give your kids 0 privacy, lack of respect, and not be the person they can come to when troubled. Giving them space within reason, understanding they're their own growing person worthy of respect, and supporting them generally tends to end in kids not having issues! Obviously you still punish them when necessary and they understand this..but being supportive and caring IS being a good parent! You should NEVER say someone is a bad parent for supporting their kid. The fact their kid goes to them for everything, trusts them that much, says they're doing great as a parent.

[@HazooToo]

As a Mom, every time Robin says something down about himself, it makes me wish I could stop him and hug him and remind him how much we all love him.

[@PracticalNeuron]

i don’t need any solid evidence to know that you are a good parent keep it up

[@norielgames4765]

Your kids are lucky

[@amandagroetzinger7537]

The one where the kids got "couch sitting lessons" really hit home for me. I was an adult living with my aunt at the time and she wouldn't let me sit on her new couch because I was "too big" and would "break down the couch". I was about 200-250 lbs at that point. She also had me sleep on the floor in her basement on a foam pad for under sleeping bags because she didn't want me to break down the mattress on her futon. She told me I was the reason she even had to buy a new couch, even though it was close to 15-17 years old. To top it off, I wasn't allowed to sit in the front passenger seat of her car for the same reason. I ended up with an ED as well as very low self-esteem by the time I stopped living with her. Getting over it has been hard. Thank you for shining a light on these experiences and calling out the parents in these situations.

[@omgtatercat]

I think it's good for younger folks to hear Robin let them know that just because they're adults, their parents aren't always right. That even if you are a minor, if you are being abused, it still isn't okay.

[@EricTheKei]

19:40 "OK, I'll just puke on the dishes before I get a ride to the hospital to get myself checked out, then. Have fun with that!"

[@ElementalofAir]

When my mom was a kid, my grandma once said, "I hope you have kids just like you so you'll know how hard it is!" And my mom responded, "I hope so too, cuz then they'd be perfect!"

[@makodolphus7810]

The "razor blades in food" thing has happened before, actually! In a burger king, bread loaves, pizza dough quite recently, and cakes. And that last one happened here, in Australia. *You are far more likely to get a razor blade from a burger restaurant or buying bread than in halloween candy.*

[@timburtonluver28]

Yeah, the whole razor blades in candy specifically hasn’t happened at least. What DID happen was a dad took out a life insurance policy on his kid - then laced a pixie stick with potassium cyanide. His kid ate it and passed and he put another pixie stick in his daughter’s bag plus those of 3 other kids to make police think it was one of the neighbors that had poisoned them. That was what kicked off parents checking kids’ candy on Halloween and then eventually the false story about razor blades took off. The dude was charged with murder and was given the moniker of “Candy Man” and “The Man Who Killed Halloween”.

[@lilia3944]

And the case where they were in candy was parents trying to harm their own child and pin it on someone else.

[@silverflight01]

@@timburtonluver28He was so desperate to pay off his $100k (about $590K in today's money) debt that he was willing to take out a life insurance policy on his own kid, murder said kid, and then attempt to frame multiple other people for it.

[@timburtonluver28]

@@silverflight01 Yuuuup. He was such an evil father that he ended a life he was meant to care for and changed an entire holiday forever.

[@_CloudyyO]

I don't exactly remember the quote, but "every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child" - these parents are absolutely wild and pathetic 👁

[@mathiaswilhelm1902]

10:13 I’m particularly angry at this one “I’m not your therapist I’m your mother” Meaning: “I can’t be bothered to maintain the mental wellbeing of my own child, they think I’m their mother it’s not like they’re my kid or anything

[@norielgames4765]

That was the closest to what I experienced. Except my relationship with her wasn't close enough to tell her the truth about how I feel "I just thought that as my mother you'd care about me", as the person in the video said. And if I did say that to her, it'd be the end. She'd make herself to be the victim for years and years. I should know, because I made that mistake once and she never stopped. Going no contact was the best decision I made in my life, my mental health and emotional well being sky rocketted after that. I feel like a human now, and I'm slowly starting to come to terms with the idea that I actually matter sometimes.

[@legoqueen2445]

The mother was making it harder than it had to be. She asked her daughter how her day was and the daughter saud she'd had a hard day. All the mother had to do was show some compassion or empathy, by responding with 'I'm sick of being your therapist' she's being combative and hostile then flips into victim mode when she accuses the daughter of implying she's the worst mother. I thought the daughter handled it really well!

[@phonsegirk]

These are incredibly insightful for people like me. I just started as a counselor at Job Corps. This shows me why a lot of the kids are so “messed up”.

[@rustyjones7908]

I've known people who went through job corps. Sounds like a cult and none of them have a job.

[@SiebayRoo]

I appreciate Robin’s brutal honesty when it comes to this sub in general. Some people never grow up and are not meant to be parents, but end up making everyone around them suffer for their choices. My parents have definitely shown some of these signs before, but they will own up to their mistakes and will more than make up for them. Some things we just have to disagree on and live with, and as of now, I feel okay with that.

[@norielgames4765]

I'm happy for you. Enjoy and learn.

[@dragonashly3383]

"im dying" "did you do the dishes?" "no, im dyi-" "i dont care, do the dishes"

[@righteousone5119]

Literally

[@ByronSpalti]

**Years later, when the kid survives that incident.** Parent, *Kid* "I am dying. Can you help me?" *"Did you pay your monthly rent?"* "No, I'm dying." *"IDGAF, pay your rent, let me know, and then begin waiting for a help that will never come to you."* "I have treated you nicely my entire life, and this is the treatment I get back?" *"You threatened to kick me out of the house, said 'You are supposed to be gay, break up with your GF', strangled me, threw me against a wall on Thanksgiving, and threw a TV remote at me. That's not even 1% of what you did. Never lie to me again."*

[@boredbear1828]

I fucking LOVE it when Robin goes on rants because I relate to him sooo much

[@RoseFBN]

As someone whos parents made good on their threats to make me homeless (and who to this day dont see the problem with it) this video hit home. Thanks for that ending Robin, i really needed to hear that

[@toulousegoose1150]

Mine did too. Now she wonders why I live 3,500 miles away in another country and only see her once a year.

[@ItzS0ul_Cherry]

"Have you done the dishes?" Famous last words

[@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi]

"did you take the turkey out of the freezer"

[@primpywastaken]

fr

[@itslll7245]

“Did you at least harvest the sugar cane before you left?”

[@mun3698]

My mom 😂😭 she’s done nearly all of these. She’s been “charging me rent” (forcing me to pay her whenever she wants) on and off through out the years since I was 16. If I get a job where she knows I’m being paid a bit more than usual, she raises the “rent”. I have not been able to save for my own place and I am a hermit due to being traumatized my whole life by her. I am 28. It absolutely is a weird control thing. She even forced me to sign lease she printed out from a lawyers page and refused to talk with me about any specifics. I had attempted multiple adult conversations with her about what I can and cannot do - chores, buy groceries, take care of her (she’s “disabled”). That was not enough. She ends up yelling and screaming at me and making my life hell for however long it takes for me to break down. She’s legally kicked my sister out for “elder abuse” without allowing my sister a grace period to save any money or having any place to go. This sister is one under control of our abusive father’s side. So yeah. 👍 Forgot to add my youngest sibling is “taking care of her” (it’s mostly me as this sibling is disabled too just not “legally”) through the state and getting paid. Most of this siblings paycheck goes to my mother. This sibling cannot leave the state because of this job and is getting royally screwed with the healthcare they used to have. Edit: after a lifetime of abuse, I did get my day in where I beat her ass for real. She came at me first and I was 17. She’s still terrible, but it staved off the rage 🙂

[@dude.5476]

WOW. I am so sorry, thats just awful. I really wish you the best of luck, hopefully youll be soon in the safe space you deserve ❤

[@fairyfoxey9438]

I really hope you can get out..honestly in such a bad situation I'd suggest getting out. Find the cheapest place you can stay at temporarily to build money and GET OUT of there! Even living homeless for a day or 2 (like dipping out right as you get your paycheck to keep that money) is better. You don't deserve to be that absolute witch..being disabled is NOT a good reason to abuse your kids for money. You may even have grounds to sue her..as what she's doing is not lawful.

[@toulousegoose1150]

So she kept you under her thumb until you were too old for any kind of support services? You *really* need to get out before it's too late. There are jobs with housing with parks, farms, and fish plants. The work is usually hard and dirty but you'll have independence, peace and sanity.

[@soullessphantom9872]

What kind of mother would do that to her own children. I don't care if she is disabled the fact that she wants to pay rent for "living" in her own house is ridiculous. Man I feel bad you having a hell of a life living with someone who thinks she's a landlord or something

[@finnfilledmuffin9930]

So convenient that you posted this right after i had a meltdown over my narcissistic mother

[@7sins_of_life]

Honestly finding good constructive hobbies helped me a lot, granted the abusive parent isn't in my life anymore and that makes everything easier. For me baking and plant care is really helping my mental health and I'd always encourage anyone to start something constructive like this. Try to find something that makes you happy and that works for your situation

[@phoenixtigress3243]

Robin getting mad on other's behalf is the best 😂😂😂

[@cynthiaholland13]

Oh my goodness!!!! As a mom I am so thankful my teen and young adults talk to me! Sometimes I'm overwhelmed and I'm praying internally for them and me and it's a privilege to know that's going on in their lives!!

[@farawayxgalaxy]

These videos mean a lot to me. It feels comforting to know I’m not alone. Its so relieving that others recognize this behavior as abusive and I’m not just insane and pversensitive like my mother tried to gaslight me into believing. But the best part is when Robin gives the emotional and encouraging talks while being angry at the patents. It helps remind me that there is the other side and one day I will reach it

[@tibbetabbi880]

If any kids is out here in the comments have a bad parent just know its not your fault! Im proud of you all, you Guys are awesome and you deserve love and happiness ❤

[@ectothermic]

This subreddit is really hard for me to watch cos I realise I had it so good with my parents. They would yell at me and we'd have tons of disagreements and fight and stuff but I was never threatened with being kicked out. For the record I was NOT a good kid. I'm still in good terms with them, they chilled out a lot as I got older and realised what they were doing. I also regret a buncha stuff. To threaten a child with homelessness though.. and think you're in the right? A lot of these parents seem to have kids just to have the equivalent of a dog or a cat, hell they treat their kids worse than their pets I bet.

[@marys.8905]

Idk I’m in the opposite situation, my parents won’t let me leave and they talked me out of at least one job offer I can recall. So I’m effectively trapped in an abusive household as if I’m perpetually below 18.

[@ectothermic]

@@marys.8905 I hope you find your way out soon, that sounds terrible.

[@roach5367]

I can confirm that my dad and stepmother treat me worse than their dog. My mom and her fiancé are lovely, though.

[@OtakuBakaNeko]

As a parent, I watch this sub to remind myself to always check my actions. You should never be so sure of yourself that you can't take criticism, especially from those your actions directly effect. I try my best, but I know that even my best will come up short, at least some of the time. The most important thing you can do as a parent is learn to apologize to your kids when you do get it wrong.

[@user-sus6969]

you gotta discipline them, not forgive the,

[@Unseen_ARTist]

That’s great I’m so glad your trying very hard to make your kids life amazing

[@RK.apathetic]

when I was young, like 14, I told my mother I was feeling suicidal. Lots of things were rough, my mindset was awful, was being bullied to shit and my addiction was at an all time high. My mother's response was "then do it." I've never looked at her the same and live for the day I can abandon this family as they all took her side when she said she would never say that. Something I'll never forget.

[@vinylbird]

that’s awful

[@tisvana18]

Mine did something similar, only she handed me her razor and then when I freaked tf out, she was like “I knew you wouldn’t do it.” If that sounds like a Taylor Tomlinson story, the same thing happened to her (with her dad I think?) Looots of asshole parents out there.

[@Harkz0r]

​@@tisvana18Almost makes you wish you did just so you could spite her, right? Absolutely disgusting mindset for a parent to have, wth. Really puts in perspective how fortunate I am by comparison.

[@d0g_b0y]

When I was the same age, I was trying to ask for help with my suicidal ideation and self harm. Here came my mom's bf at the time storming in with his gun and forcing me to hold it to my head. The entire time he screamed at me to pull the trigger- all while my mom just stood there frozen and scared shitless. (He was abusive to both of us.) When I refused, he just kept screaming that I was a coward trying to get attention. So after that I kept everything inside and never told anyone until I finally got therapy......13 years later. Still one of the most traumatic experiences of my life.

[@Harkz0r]

@@d0g_b0y The most frustrating thing about that I can think of is that even had you pulled the trigger, the guy likely wouldn't have cared, and had you shot him instead, you'd have likely been prosecuted (to say nothing of your mother's reaction). Some people are just oxygen thieves. Why was she with him again? I'm glad you're not in a situation like that any longer though. And I'm not surprised something like that would stick with you. Nobody should have to go through something like that. Or well, very nearly nobody, anyway.

[@IceAgePrincess1]

I want a wrestling show where victims of parental abuse get to have a knockdown-drag-out match with their abusive parent (as long as they have similar physical capabilities), and Robin narrates every single match PLUS provides the audience with details about the abuse that were pre-approved by the victim.

[@marmaladetoast2431]

good luck getting the parents to participate

[@gwenpicchi5719]

I'm sorry about your trauma and I thank you for the parenting psa. I'll remember it if I become a parent.

[@sinarodl663]

I know this subreddit is serious but I couldn't stop laughing because of the sounds the editor put over Robin's swearing 😭💀

[@camrynacecraft]

Im glad i wasnt the only one it kept catching me off guard

[@JaredGivens1]

@10:39 "I must be the worst mother" dealt with that line so many goddamn times in my life I swear

[@LemonQueenTM]

This really makes me appreciate having a family who acts like my family. I’m sorry for anyone who goes through this.

[@mojoe9600]

I so glad my mother is great and wonderful, I feel so bad for these people who have these type of mothers. I hope they all are okay

[@SailorYuki]

My mom went full victim mode on FB becasue she's a "bad" mother and her kids won't talk to her. When she was called out on it she got pissed and actually delete her account. 3rd time she's done that. I lost count on how many variations of her there are on Facebook now. Narcissists are so annoying. Some of these sounded like they'd be from her. I know most of her behaviours are due to her traumatic childhood. She had to endure a lot of shit. But that is not an excuse. You do not get a free pass to abuse your children just because you were abused as a child and have no idea how to show love or respect. I'm a middle aged parent and I sure the hell aren't abusing my child in any way shape or form. Even if I had to endure all forms of abuse as a child. And just because someone is an adult on paper, doesn't mean they're mentally mature. Why else would they be behaving like this?

[@TheTabascodragon]

This. My mom was horrifically abused as a child and sadly didn't break the generational cycle and went on to abuse me and my brothers. One of her go to gaslighting things i had to endure as an adult was her in a very indirect way hinting that maybe she hadn't been the nicest to me growing up and immediately turning around with the qualifying "but you didn't have it as bad as i did growing up". Any time I've made even a glancing comparison to her between herself and her abusive mother she would have a MELTDOWN. Thankfully now she's on a rather high dose of mood stabilizers and this has calmed her down quite a bit, but i still have moved to the other side of the country and keep her at arms length. I think when she went into her fits of rage when i was a kid she would literally get so mad she would "black out" and have memory loss of what she did afterwards. This of course has really hindered the healing process as i don't believe she knows the true extent of how she acted and what she did.

[@norielgames4765]

I feel you my friend. The one in this video where she went full victim and "I'm the worst parent on Earth". Man, that took me way back. And I did not enjoy the ride.

[@jeronimoosorio9571]

I love the fact that in 18:06 the OP named their mom "birth unit"

[@thirteenly13]

OP cant even call their “mom” mom

[@qwerty4012]

damn somebody beat me to it

[@norielgames4765]

That's the only purpose some "parents" filled. I call mine my "progenitor". Because she is. A progenitor is one of the two people who took part in your conception. I don't even find it funny enough to make a joke about it and call her a birth unit. Progenitor is a correct term and the closest to what her role in my life was.

[@jeronimoosorio9571]

@@norielgames4765 yeah it's pretty sad, but also kind of funny since usually you see literally anything else other than birth unit

[@vindexworld4636]

​@@norielgames4765call mine a caretaker, she took care of us to degree like make food and wash clothes. But thats all she did. Never raised us. Spent time with us or emotionally support. Thus my mom was not a mom she was a caretaker and only that. So im getting what you are getting at just slightly different

[@regulargoat7259]

5:26 my mother threatens me with homelessness a lot and my family and the people around me wants me to just forgive her and stop calling her abusive. Thank you for validating me. Im doing my best to get out of this hellhole but im on disability pension and between rent, phone bills, groceries, etc it is hard to get out

[@Vaihly]

This video makes me really glad my mom's not an asshole and makes me feel bad to those that have moms that are assholes :(

[@EnragedErin]

omg the parent posting pics of their kid on social media without permission. I grew up with that treatment. Mom would post monthly hair growth updates for me when I was diagnosed. I was bullied RELENTLESSLY for being bald and female. Every time I asked, mom would say "You're my child, it's my right to post pictures of you! As long as you live under my roof, I will do what I want with my child!" I'm confident I'm not the only one who heard this at least once from their parent when they first got into social media.

[@JackFrost008]

what a horrifficly shit woman that one is. no ty.

[@Harkz0r]

That's so disgusting. You're a person, not a possession. It's why if I were a parent, I would never post any pictures until they were at least old enough to understand the situation and consent.

[@Divos82]

As a 41 yo with a narcissistic gaslighting mother who "can't see me" bc her new husband doesn't like me... I feel this. The woman has ripped me apart in every way possible. I thought we were making progress after 10 years no contact then 10 of limited contact, Jesus. If cell phones had been around when I was a teen I would have sooo much content for this subreddit. Entitled prick parents are the worst. They fly under the radar damaging people during formulative years and no one bats an eye

[@coollobstereverydayforsixhours]

OP: says hey Mom: And I took it personally.

[@vanguardangel6912]

I feel bad having Robin read the subreddits that stress him out, but godDAMN do his rants give me LIFE! Keep calling them out, Robin! You inspire me to stand up for myself!

[@justhuebloo6674]

9:53 Relatable asf. I begged my mom not to post an unflattering picture of me crouched in a bikini as an adolescent (I hadn't physically matured) because I knew strangers (malicious or not) would be looking at it and commenting on it. She said the exact same thing about me being her kid, her having the right blah blah blah. She even took another unflattering picture of me giving her an annoyed/exhausted look while I asked her not to and posted it as well. Long story short, she sold drugs, we told, she got angry and moved in with her boyfriend and I don't live with her anymore ✨

[@Harkz0r]

I just don't understand why people like this have children in the first place.

[@DPWFG]

I had a distant relative repost a text block that was something to the effect of "stop blaming your parents for the way you turned put. You're an adult; time to grow up." But that's one of your main jobs as a parent. 1-keep the kid alive, 2-teach them how to be successful adults.

[@rose01-22]

Its crazy how many of these stories describe exactly how my childhood was living with my mom and step dad. Theyve said and done most things showed in this video its genuinely sad but refreshing to have my feelings on their abuse validated. They act like they've never done anything wrong, never apologized to me, they've straight up said they come before me and my sisters.

[@Ian_Paneque]

"Why did my son/daughter put me in this asylum and never visits me? Where did I got wrong?"

[@ventilatte4999]

Wait, threatening to send a child away is abuse!? Sooo I can call the police thanks EmKay

[@ines1084]

If you're still minor, yes your parents can get arrested for it. Sending hugs dude

[@ObsessiveSceneKidX3]

7:56 gives "You called me a whore and pushed me in front of a moving car.." "HEIDI I WAS IN A BAD MOOD-"

[@Dr_Brixx]

Hearing those stories makes me very sad. Why are some parents so horrible people. Like a lot of people already have said: "All children deserve a parent, not all parents deserve children." and that's completely true. What I've noticed often is that a lot of people get kids because they think that will solve all their problems and that children are perfect and need no help growing up or that they are already adults from the beginning. And that quote at the end was really nice to hear.

[@davidvanvlerah7825]

I have SO many bad memories and nightmares from my days of trick-or-treating around my neighborhood with all of my friends, getting free candy... *shudder* Pure trauma.

[@maniczzz]

“I hope you have a child just like you!” “I hope my child doesn’t have a parent just like mine”

[@F0xtrat775]

Someone needs to keep track of Robins swears

[@odear6087]

5:18 really tattled on herself cause she said, "I'm the adult." Implies the person really is a minor, and charging them rent is a little weird before 18, especially when she's being that anal about the time. Even landlords usually have a grace period of a day, especially with a long-standing relationship where the people know each other. I had a landlord in San Diego that one time gave me 5 days grace because he preferred check, but my parents couldn't last minute couldn't come down until the weekend (think it was due on a monday) and didn't write one prior. He got his money, and moving forward my parents always wrote one early so it never happened again. That dude was super chill and graceful, and I hope he's doing well.

[@qfcbv]

Charging rent before 18 is most likely illegal.

[@alt_f4_me]

I wish I had someone like Robin on my side when I was younger. I hope the kids who are currently dealing with shitty parents are finding comfort in Robin's outrage and realizing that their parents don't have a free-pass to treat "their" children like shit.

[@hackcubit9663]

10:51 "I'm not saying you're the worst mother in the world, mom, but you'd better hope she doesn't die."

[@Flawestruck]

"I hope you have a daughter just like you. Maybe then you'll realize..." My gosh. This really dredged up some dark memories for me. I'm happy my mom did make amends with me and that we both are working on being the best we can for each other. But that transition from childhood to adult was very difficult. She did not like losing her control over me. As a woman whose entire life was out of her control, abused and destroyed by everyone outside of her, I couldn't blame her in some ways. I could, however, blame her for her own actions against me. Very glad we both made it out of that dark time, but I realize I'm lucky. It doesn't always work out that way.

[@qfcbv]

I’m so happy for both of you.

[@itsthejavavoid]

honestly, looking at these videos, i'm so insanely grateful that i was able to get through to my mom and help her. we both had a lot of rough communication in the past and she hurt me in alot of ways even when she didn't mean to, and she projected alot of the same things in this vid on me in my early teen years. not the things like physical abuse, but the more overly concerned/stalkery sort of behavior mixed with the just plain not understanding my own feelings. she finally had a good talk with me after a while (with help from my old therapist) and since them she's been doing so much better though and i'm so proud of her, she's been so much more understanding and also just overall a lot happier. i really hope the people in this sub can get to the same place someday, whether it be reconnecting with parents or even having to let them go. everyone deserves to be in a happy and comfortable position like the one i'm in right now, where they cam talk to their parents about anything without fear of being hurt over it.

[@coolio-46]

"mom i almost died because of your drunk driving" the phone:

[@AspienWaifu]

Your videos are actually super therapeutic for me….I have C-PTSD because of a “mother” like this, and hearing your input and calling out of these things has helped me accept what happened to me and move on from it as best as I can. No contact with the Mega Beast has helped immensely as well lol thanks again, EmKay ❤

[@runningthemeta5570]

I think my parents have done that a few times. They’ve gotten mad at me and threatened to make me homeless just to make me grow up. It’s odd because in some cases I’ll try to be the adult and have an adult conversation, and they’ll scream at me and throw a temper tantrum like a child. I might add that in one case they got mad at me over the cord of a vacuum cleaner, and yes I will admit I was being kind of an asshole when I told my mom I didn’t care about it because I didn’t see any issue. But I could have been fixed by one sentence that neither of my parents decided to say. If they did then I would have admitted my error and apologize but that never happened. It almost ruined my day but thankfully I was seeing the FNAF movie later so it improved.

[@danakchampion]

Parents making the *still developing kid* 👪 feel like they have to "be the adult in the room" is also a form of abuse. It took me a long time to recognize that, so I want to affirm you. 🕺🏻 I was fooled into thinking it was their 🪄 parental techniques working 💢 to make me more responsible and help me to grow 🌱, ha ha. Hope you can use that maturity to discern and meet your own needs ❤️‍🩹 when your parents are too wrapped up in acting like children.

[@reijustrei]

I really needed the encouragement Robin. Thank you.

[@serijas737]

Mom: "You need to help me out with dishes." Me: *Helps out with dishes.* Mom: "Why are you doing dishes? You are bad at this. Don't ever do dishes again." Also Mom: "You will never be able to take care of yourself. Also, you should help us out more." Me: *Helps parents out more.* Mom: "It's not your responsibility to help out at home. Just pay me 300€ a month." And this is how I started paying rent at home. Still occasionally get the "you're not helping" / "stop helping" conversational loop when they're dissatisfied for whatever reason, but I rather pay 300€ and be mostly left alone than +800€ and more for a flat, groceries, car etc.

[@nevaehhamilton3493]

They just want to belittle you so they feel better about themselves not being superior to you.

[@Charafromthehitgameundertale99]

@@nevaehhamilton3493 Yep. Makes sense. I would say I’m glad people also have parents like this. But, I’m not. I’m just happy to find something relatable.

[@Bakugou261]

this makes me realize just how abusive and narccessistic my parents were

[@dichromatism1681]

this is exactly why i went no contact w/my mother. thank god she never owned a smart phone, it would've been way worse.

[@malcolmdarke5299]

Honestly, that "I'm not your therapist" one - if I knew I was someone's first port of call, I don't know *what* I'd have done to deserve that, but I would feel so, *so* validated.

[@salemfae]

Both of mine (3 really, if you include the poor excuse of a stepmom) SUPER failed me as parents. They're no longer in my life but oooolawd the effects are lifelong. Sometimes hearing you rant about these sh*theads is soothing 😅 And i cant help hope all these kids are okay. Edit: the coping with comedy is so real!!! Hugs Robin 💜

[@Phantom_Buggo]

22:09 Robin, we're all proud of you for being the person you are today. You ARE funny, we love hearing you when it's your turn to narrate the video, and we appreciate the real-talk rants you give us. Thank you. ❤

[@NecrochildK]

Things being put in Halloween candy has only ever happened once. Ever. And it was the kid’s own dad who tried to poison him and got the kid’s friend by mistake.

[@ThePieFairy91]

I was blessed with a very caring family who always opened their hearts and homes to anyone who needed it, without expecting anything in return. That's just how it was - help those less fortunate live as well as we do. Every small act of kindness makes a difference. My mom was an angel. She loved animals and was always so upset seeing anything get hurt; when she was younger she brought home all sorts of critters on the farm that needed extra TLC. The farm seemed to be the highlight of her early adult life. She told me stories about a HUGE angus bull that could seriously mess up a person - but he turned into a gentle giant around her. His name was Jeremiah, and they kept him for the rest of his life (instead of slaughter) because of how much my mom became attached. Plus, the coyotes were scared of him and stopped killing the chickens as much. My grandparents figured there were worse things than missing out on the profit of a big bull when it came to saving money on all those chickens. So my mom had her beloved guard bull, Jeremiah. She told me he loved to play with a basketball and could even fetch! Ah, anyway- That was just the kind of person my mom was; someone who brings out the best in anyone, whether they saw it or not. She didn't even have to try! She was more like the mom who adopts the kids in this video tbh. They never even had to say anything - she could always tell when someone wasn't loved right, or enough, was hungry, sad, lonely, misunderstood, lost, or even angry. Through my life we have had one of my cousins living in the basement - but he was one of the normal cousins. My middle school/high school BFF moved in for a while to get away from her family. There was a guy living in the garage for a few months and paid "rent" by putting in a patio for us. Oh- We had my crazy addict cousin living in his van, parked in our driveway, for WAAAY too long for anyone's liking. I guess it kept things interesting at the very least..? Getting him to leave was only moderately easier than evicting bed bugs.

[@Somethingiguess-tj6xo]

10:32 I'm pretty sure I've had the EXACT same exchange with my mother at least 4 times LMAO "So I'm a horrible mother then? Fine, I'll just SHUT UP!" "Mom, no one ever said that ever."

[@TearfulZorua]

My mom's favorite response to any form of criticism ever is to play victim. Like "oh no, I must be the source of all your trauma then, let me completely avoid you for 2 weeks and make your birthday sh1tty, because you dared to tell me what you think of my behavior. Nevermind that if you were to copy me id be p1ssed off with you for your disrespect." She doesn't even care, I swear. Pretends to be sweet with passive aggression afterwards too. Actually I don't wanna rant about this rn, I'm already feeling sick.

[@Harkz0r]

My mother isn't remotely as bad as any of these, but even she likes to play victim and guilt trip a lot of the time. Like just take some accountability without being histrionic and self-destructive, it's all I ask. I've tried mirroring her more aggressive behaviour too and it's like throwing water on an oil fire. She's a good parent in general but some things really wind me up. Feels a bit unbalanced, you know.

[@ItsMuffinTimePls]

Love the "well I must be the worst parent in the world" defense, the only correct response of course being "your words, not mine." (If you're able to of course)

[@kamikazebee13]

The bleeping noise terrified my cat 😅 he went running across the room all hunched to hide behind the couch

[@deathkorpsgrenadier2419]

I like these because they keep reminding me of how lucky I got with the parents I have.

[@tweakzie]

same

[@tigerheart4303]

21:08 I can't explain how much "That's a promise, not a threat" comming from someone who is actively threatening someone else boils my blood. Jesus christ. Why do people do this? Are you trying to make yourself feel better for being an absolute asshole? Trying to make yourself feel more in control here? That's not something mentally sound people say 😅

[@harrypotter7652]

Your rant at 7:53-8:57 really made me think about my childhood... I've sort of been making excuses about her behavior because I just thought everyone had parents who threaten to leave their kids, so I never really thought of my mom as _insane_, just angry and someone I need to stay away from when she's more angry. And even if she didn't apologize later, she'll always say that she loves me, so I thought I was just being the moody teenager she told me I was, but your rant was one of the few things I've come across that's stated clearly in absolute that some things are behaviors parents should never do, no matter what - not threaten their children with death, knives, orphanages, foster care, Child Protection Services, military school, boarding school, kicking them out, forcing them to walk several miles of highway at night during the winter, etc... I don't know what to do now about it, but at least I've been freed of my dissonance. Thank you, Emkay.