Wipnchat Wednesday #39 - The Mental Load of a Work At Home Wife

[@abbiewoolmer4662]

I love your WIP and chats! It helps me get through my paintings just listening to you and what’s going on makes me feel a little less lonely, and I’m very sorry to hear about your grandad thinking of you and your family!

[@loismthompson3918]

I’m glad you both talked to each other. Listen to what each other have to say. You can’t know what’s on each other’s mind all the time. We are here for you. We love you.

[@craftinjudi141]

Always here to listen! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.🙏🏻❤️

[@savannaethridge8831]

Oh thank the gods. I've been sooooooo stressed and your diamond painting vids always calm me down

[@K-OticKrafting]

Biggest hugs to you in dealing with your grandpa, I have been through many cancer battles with family and it is such a hard thing to go through. One in particular is the reason I diamond paint....it really is the only thing that gives me a mental break. Take it one day at a time and make sure to cry when you need to. Do not become good at holding in your tears all the time, crying is not a bad thing, it is a form of release that we need from time to time :) That said I tried to remember all things I wanted to say but as usual after I watch any videos most of it leaves my brain. You asked about AB’s in kits and I just love them, the more the merrier. I get so excited when I see they have 3 ABs in a kit or watch an unboxing and see a big bag of them.....Without going overboard I guess lol but I do love the bling!

[@emilymcateer4428]

Chin up chick, we all have those days. Remember all of us that you inspire & motivate we're behind you like you support us. Thankyou for the rocking tip for mulitplacing it's really helped me. 🤗

[@shelleymademesmile]

Love AB drills! I bought purple white and red to add to my the fun never ends. I love when you show where the abs are so I can see what is in there there is and where they go so I can order some extras when I order the canvas so they arrive around the same time. I plan to use the left over purple and white ab on the worlds away canvas. Please keep doing it and shout out to dpwith sparklers for having an excellent selection. PLEASE keep showing drills. Hugs from Toronto.

[@jessicachamps3949]

I agree with all of this & also buy from DP with sparklers, awesome site, awesome lady.

[@traceywoollan3909]

Love the idea on a winters eve hot choc, open fire , diamond. Painting and your story telling in the background please please please do it and remember your not alone we all love you on here best wishes x

[@kristimoore8763]

That's really thoughtful of you to consider time stamps. I will just let it be known, I love listening to the whole thing - I go ahead and lift my eyes to watch periodically. I'm usually lurking and working. :)

[@diamondnana1026]

I love AB’s but struggle placing them. I can’t wait for Friday. I love your unboxing’s. I love your voice, if I’m really tired I can listen to your WIP & Chats puts me to sleep

[@kristimoore8763]

A change of pace feels great! Yes, be sure to change things up for you when you need.

[@char-leeberry6095]

I like your videos you have a soothing voice I enjoy watching or listening while I work

[@booboo8115]

YAY❣️❣️❣️ Congratulations on becoming an affiliate! I will be sure to go through you when I order! I have your first & last ones in my wish list. I ordered “Cobbled Bridge Cottage” since the shoe was OOS. It’s on the way, I can’t wait. Plus, I got my light pad today....ohhh, what a difference❣️❣️❣️ (happy sigh☺️☺️)... Take care and stay safe ❣️✨🌻

[@rkretovics]

You are AWESOME and I appreciate you. I love your videos!

[@HopeandCope1]

It’s a good idea to get the boxed meals, especially if you are open to different spices etc. It’s a good idea when you both work to get a house cleaner once a week. You can have one real in depth cleaning once a month then maybe once a week or every other week with basic, dusting, vacuuming and whatever you choose.

[@mindysdiamondmoment]

Thanks for keeping me company. I relate to the home work duties. I hate thinking about dinner ever night...lol

[@rodmiriam81]

I always enjoy your content. I hope you do a stitch and chat! Also alway more Luna! I like a little ab so that it highlights some of the picture and not over do it.

[@melissarudolph399]

Big hugs Rachael 💕. Hiring a house cleaner was the best mental gift I have ever given myself. Go for it, also the food boxes are an amazing time saver, I use home chef and it’s been awesome. I’m sending positive vibes 💕💕

[@dorothycarnal7443]

I haven't experienced AB drills yet. My next painting will be my first and I am very excited about it. I just started diamond painting in April and to this point only have one WIP at a time. I am on my 8th canvas now. I learned a lot from watching your videos. Thank you

[@elsekristinveivaag608]

Sorry about your grandfather Rachel. Sending you good thoughts. 💕💕 Beautiful owl.

[@ellesaaltjejenneke5400]

Sorry about your grandpa and that you’re feeling down. I have similar mental health issues and am still receiving treatment for it. I lost my dad recently and know how hard that is, I’m more like you I think.. trying to keep going. I’d love daily crafty chats! I love Heike’s too, so sorry to hear about her circumstances. Hopefully things get better for her too.

[@loismthompson3918]

Hugs and Prayers to your GrandParents.

[@amandacallahan5402]

The insta pots are fab! Especially from scratch.

[@MrsLolaLou]

You do your videos the way YOU would like to do them. Everyone can just bypass what they don’t want to see. You do a really good job, don’t change it for some small group that can fix their own issues. If you take the drills out, the viewer can not put it in the video if they would like to see it. You feel me? Lol. Do how you feel. 💙 We are just lucky you do this for us. Thank you for being you!!!

[@kathleenkarppinen9559]

I have an Instant Pot. Changed my cooking life. My partner is a foodie, loves to cook (which I am incredibly grateful) however he likes different things than me. The way it works at my house, he takes care of the vehicles, mechanical stuff, all the mowing/trimming and his work clothes laundry. I take care of most everything else. That being said, I don't have to cook every night for supper, and often I'll catch him vacuuming or something to help out. He's a great dude, I'm grateful for him. But I'm laughing about James not using the hamper. Samesies. :)

[@lynns.7655]

Thank you for sharing. I now know I’m not alone. One day at a time!

[@uberpink2569]

My condolences for your grandfather. This is such a tough time for you. I love your videos and how you share with us. My heart and thoughts are with you 💕

[@flavinthefabulous2713]

Like the sound of your plans for the new schedule. You do what works for you. Also I was taught a trick with my hands to work out how many days in each month. Make a fist, start on your left hand index finger knuckle, that's January with 31 days. Work your way along the knuckles, the gap between is the in-between month without 31 days (February, April, June). Then when you hit your pinky knuckle jump to right index knuckle (that accounts for both July and August having 31 days) it just falls apart when you hit January again. So it's only effective for the first 12 months.

[@jerseygirlprincess0823]

Thank you Rachel you and Mrs Coffee taught me how to multi place and I love it I love using the rocking chair motion. And I love your 🦉 it looks so cute.

[@rachelveaudry3393]

I'm sorry to hear what you are going thru with your grandfather. I just lost my dad in february and been going back and forth from my house to my mom to take care of her. I feel like i live a double life. It gets really hard. So I know how hard it is. So take it one day at a time and stay positive.

[@carlaamundson2436]

Rachel i am so sorry to hear about your Grandfather’s cancer getting worse. Love ya friend! ❤️❤️❤️ i will keep him and your family in my prayers.

[@patriciahunter1566]

Thirty days hath September April, June and November All the rest have 31 Except for February which has 28

[@corinnerenshaw3621]

Don't forget about leap day year. :)

[@Sandrawest64]

The last lines I learned as "Except the second one alone Which alone has 4 and 24 Til leap year gives it one day more"

[@petrabrochner2064]

Thank you so much for this video.

[@gabyfs4870]

I had forgotten how relaxing and entertaining is to listen to you. Hope everything with your grandpa gets better and he doesn't suffer that much...xoxoxo

[@jessicascrafttime1274]

Totally feel you about cooking dinner. I don't mind the cooking but I HATE the deciding and the supermarket shopping

[@suzanostmanbackman5005]

I enjoy your talks so much. Relationships, loosing a parent, worrying about sickness and organising your life with cooking and cleaning is so easy to relate to. Such high recognitionfactor on the subject of what chores we end up taking responsibility for and what we divid up beteen ones partner (and children). I read a book some years ago that really made me realise that women often take on projects/tasks volontery. Even in a equal relationship many women just do tasks without actually thinking much about it. The book is only available in swedish :( The title so well describes the situation. Translated to "I quit as the projectleader for the family." What happens when a person states that I will no longer take responsibility automatically for the things that need to be done at home and under what conditions. To have that conversation with your partner and kids is a must but even more important is to recognise our own behaviour.

[@daniellesdazzlindogs]

Absolutely ❤your videos! I like the story telling videos. I think i really like your new schedule only if it works best for you then it will be great for us! ❤ the 💠 coverminder from cals craft. Beautiful

[@maryannjohnson5410]

I'm so sorry about your Grandfather. Hang in there. My husband and son are better now about helping out, but last year I was working part time and in school full time, and feeling guilty because I wasn't keeping up with household stuff, and wasn't home every evening to make dinner. We tried both Hello Fresh and Home Chef meal services. Home Chef seemed to fit us better and we did it for awhile.

[@MelissadeGraaf]

Hugs from the Netherlands. ❤️

[@kathleenkarppinen9559]

It's tough when your person is going through emotional stuff, especially if they don't necessarily want to talk about it. My guy spent a good portion of the summer working for the Army National Guard and ended up in California for 5 weeks in the box (basically the middle of the Mojave desert, Death Valley area) and he was so different when he came home. Hard to shut off "Army Darin" versus "Home Darin." We struggled for a good month after that, but we got through it. I feel you. I hear you.

[@coletteduff2762]

When you can afford it get a cleaner. Even once every 2 weeks. I hurt my back cleaning the shower, the resentment was huge. The help with cleaning has taken that away. I also find that I am more motivated to tidy up before they come, because I don’t want to slow them down- they can get more done. As for HelloFresh! I love it. Same thing, I’d get home at 8pm after working 12 hours and have to sort dinner. It’s so easy my 15 year old cooks one a week too. Sending you a great big hug. XXXx

[@kiradobbs457]

Sending positive vibes!! ❤️ You should do a video on your food box if you guys do that. My fiance and I are contemplating trying it out but I have a lot of food allergies and not sure how accommodating they are.

[@mmsgilchrist1]

Okay girlie! I just wanted to say "You can do it!" We should always build each other up. I have a chronic illness which means chronic pain. I also suffer with debilitating depression and anxiety disorder. I just feel you are a soul sister with all that you spoke on. I understand your struggle and I just wanted to encourage you right now! xoxo Kelli

[@RachelRaeCraft]

Thank you, Kelli!

[@sheilawilliams6989]

I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa life sucks and at this moment in the world it is best to do as you say one day at a time is the best way to deal with it I know how you feel as my mother had the same my thoughts are with you please take care and stay safe xxxx

[@teatimefix8752]

So sorry for your grandfather 👴... I’m agree with you on the cleaning 🧹 duties, I hate it so much that I would rather to have someone to do it for me... OMG a Briani, my husband will make one for you if we go to Ireland or if you come in London (is from Mauritius 🇲🇺) so it will be a pleasure to do it.... for the cleaning, I leave on my own with my 2 girls for over 7 years doing everything on my own so I understand you very well, I break down in few occasions finding myself sitting on the floor crying like a baby, so much on our shoulders that it’s hard to cop with it... I love AB’s colours they are so beautiful 😍... changes are good 😘😘😘have a great week

[@arcticmusicback-up1895]

Sorry to hear about your grandfather. I lost my father to cancer last year. I hope everything works out for your grandfather. Just take one day at time.

[@kaybaby8654]

So glad to see a diamond painting WIP

[@joeh4796]

Hugs to you during this time!

[@annedacosta2864]

I love the crinkle sound ☺

[@elizabethwoolston]

Take this how you will, I won't be offended if you ignore it. My husband and I started assembling a list/menu of meals that we know how to make, and like having. If we discover a new recipe we like we add it to the list. My husband regularly refers to this list when we're looking for what to eat. We've found this to be super helpful.

[@Pheasant-wy3cg]

Sorry to hear about your grandad and that your having a hard time ☹️x I love biriyani,I have it from the Indian takeaway! Those meal boxes are a good idea x

[@julieknight6372]

sending lots of virtual hugs from Australia.

[@joyceoakes5500]

I love to watch it all

[@wolfpackdiamondpainting9928]

I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa! I am always here to talk or video chat with you!!! Yes I have had Hello Fresh and Home Chef. If you like Prep work, get Hello Fresh. If you don't like Prep work, get Home Chef. They are both very good. A lot of the boxes take longer then 30 mins. Just an fyi. It tells you a time, but for me it takes longer. If you have questions please let me know. Love you girl! Tell James I said hello! Give Luna a hug from me too!

[@wendanik1]

You sound like me. Housework at my home is just absolutely the worst subject, no one has the energy, and we sit around stressed out that things aren’t as clean as we would like them to be. It’s a major dread. Just the daily grind causes me anxiety and that just likes on. Thinking of you as I can relate. Love your owl,by the way. ❤️

[@gypsyallie]

💗💗 Extending so much love your way. I’m so sorry about your grandfather being so ill. I pray there are some treatment options for him. Also, so happy for you to do the boxed meal plan! That should be a real timesaver. I’m not even married but I feel this living with a male roommate! Sending hugs to you, James, and pats to Luna. I laughed to hear she got her OWN SAUSAGE!!! Lucky gal! Oh!!! And you said Anna guessed that knitting project. WHAT IS IT!? I could not find her correct guess comment!! I was so sure it was a mitten! 🤣🤣

[@RachelRaeCraft]

Sorry, I forgot to say! It's a yarn coozie!

[@gypsyallie]

Rachel Rae Omg! I would never have guessed, but that is so cool! Anna is a skilled guesser!! I enjoy using double pointed needles (have not done it in a WHILE) but I have one epic pair of socks that I made and am sooo proud of. I wear them in the winter and they’re so warm! Lol. I’m a little behind watching your videos because I was out of town. Catching up!! Hopefully you are showing us the yarn coozie on Flosstube (or will show it soon)! 👏🏼👏🏼

[@kristimoore8763]

It's just as exhausting sometimes, but I make a meal list for two weeks out. I create my shopping list based on the meal list. I will either designate the meal to a night while making the list, so I don't have to think about it again - or - I will play it by ear based on my time or what I feel like eating. Maybe try the box a few nights per week, but then make your meal list for the other days. It takes some time to prepare, but it's worth it to not think about it again.

[@craftybeautee9573]

Thanks for sharing! We started Hello Fresh a couple of months ago for a lot of the reasons you mentioned. They have some amazing vegetarian meals. And calorie conscious meals that are tasty. The hubs has liked both the veggie and lower cal meals. But it has really helped me not have to make all the decisions. Plus you will have recipes for another time.

[@TheMinniesimmer]

I'm sorry to hear about your grandfathers cancer, my dad had it so I known how hard it is dealing with that. I'll be thinking about you and your family ❤️

[@pinaydiamondpainter1564]

To remember days of the month, use your knuckles..the bony protrusion are months with 31 days, in between are the ones with 30 days or less. Start counting January from the index finger knuckle all the way to the pinky knuckle..😊

[@kathygoodman6159]

Oooo I never heard that one! I always use the saying. I love this.

[@AnxietyArtAdventures]

Thank you for keeping me company while I try to diamond paint today. Key word id try with my two crazy kittens! Oh the ups and downs of marriage. Communication is key, but it is so important to be respectful when "asking" a significant other to do something or to change a bad habit. I was also raised in a very old school family that believed I was only going to college to find a man. NOPE! I declined being a debutante, and my parents were so upset, but I do not think parading around a country club in front of men is the way to find your soul mate. My parents love my husband after they got to know him, and have become much more open to more modern ways of the world, but it took some time. I personally do not care if a dp has AB's or not. They are pretty, but will not deter me from buying a canvas if they are not included. As a stay at home wife who also does KZbin and will soon be opening an Etsy shop, I do understand the mental stress of feeling like everything house related is on your shoulders, on top of your daily schedule. We have a good system where I will clean most of the house and he does the majority of the cooking. We have actually talked about a meal service, so I will be interested to know what you think. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I sincerely hope medicine can help your grandfather. All I can say is that if you do move back here for a bit, we will have to meet up and get a coffee! Much love and many hugs. xoxo 💜

[@RachelRaeCraft]

Those cats are so cool. And yes, the idea of marrying the doctor or scientist was drilled into me from a very young age. I have only started to build my sense of self and confidence in my ability to make decisions without guilt! Good luck to you and your etsy shop!

[@AnxietyArtAdventures]

@@RachelRaeCraft 💜

[@rkretovics]

I like the ab’s as an accent. I am doing my first one with ab’s and I am liking it!!!

[@lindabishop-surbeck2575]

I have a lot in common with you except I’m probably your others age. I have degenerative disc disease and had to stop working in my mid 40’s, at age 59 I had two rods put in my back. Anxiety, definitely! I have PTSD that stems around hospitals and death. I can no longer go to funerals, and I have to take anxiety meds just to go to the dentist or doctors. I wish your grandfather the best, he’ll be in my thoughts. You’re definitely a work from home wife!

[@Technicolor731]

I love just a “highlighting” or an “accent” of AB drills. 👍🏼❤️🥂🍾 I absolutely LOVE your videos!!

[@ritacore5606]

Sorry about your grandpa. Hope things get better for him. It is so hard to lose a parent. Both of mine are gone now, my mom just 2 years ago. My husband and I are the same when it comes to trying to find something for dinner. I ask him what he wants and he says, what do you got? It's frustrating because I end up trying to come up with something even though he knows what we have in the house. I do most of the chores around the house but if I ask him to do something he will. It works for us. Whatever you want to do with your channel if fine. I'll always watch you.

[@lryan1965]

I love you huni and I’m so sorry you are in such a bad place. I totally understand, I’ve been in a pretty bad place lately too. Please try and take things one day at a time and hopefully things will fall into place as to what you need to do for you and your Grand father and everything at home with James. Sit down with him like you did this time and let him know you need him to do things too. My ex never did anything at all for 22 years and yes I know what you mean about being so mad at them for it. Don’t let that happen with you two, you have a good relationship other than that so please don’t let that get between you. I love AB’s, I would like to have lots more of them in a painting but I would probably over do them lol. Take good care of you, I don’t mind hearing your rawness because I can relate so much but I wish I could reach through the video and hug you and fix all of the things for you. Xoxoxo

[@RachelRaeCraft]

Thank you, Lynda!

[@denisenugent3966]

As. 56 year old woman, I have a OCD cleaning mom, and I rebelled as a clean freak! My husband and I have been married for 32 years and we still do the “what do you want for dinner” talk everyday.

[@shannon7071]

rachel..use your knuckels and the inbetweens to remember which month has many days... and yes july and august have 31 🙂

[@laurasstudio]

Hi Rachel. Second one here. I wish you well :)

[@sharecreations6752]

Hey Rachel💜 9 years fighting cancer is really a long time. It's always hard, but hopfully you can turn it the positive way. He could live some years longer to enjoy life as it is. My grandfather had a fight for half a year and lost unfortunately. But he made it to my graduation and for him that was the most beautiful moment, cause he knew my struggles with it.💜 We're standing with you and support you as you support us!💕 and I'm wondering how you find the food-boxes. At the moment I feel like I've got the same issues, but we will overcome them by finding some solutions for ourselves💪 after the rain comes always sunshine, so the storms of yesterday are over and enjoy some sunshine this week💜 big huggs!

[@karengordley4508]

I love AB'sand special drills, but like to be quided where to place them . I get a little stressed over the idea of deciding on my own!

[@suefrost3201]

I know what you mean about cleaning. I work at a college dorm cleaning 40 hours a week. And really don't want to clean at home and it gets so frustrating when the hubby just leaves things and messes everywhere,plus I also have anxiety issues so that doesn't help.im very sorry to hear about your grandfather. Mine actually just passed away and I didnt see him much as he lived in California and I michigan.

[@RachelRaeCraft]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[@suefrost3201]

@@RachelRaeCraft thank you

[@Emmacaseylovescrafts]

Thinking of you Rachel and your family. prayers.We here for you .I get anxiety I understand the thought process with that tho everyone's different anxieties is the common thing .Just take each day deep breaths I've put on so much weight this year I'm taking up more walking got my dogs to help me lol pull me along haha and just eating less 3 meals a day no eating in between i lost that way before.🦄thankyou for being real and honest

[@janawalker8709]

Nice! 🏆🏆🏆

[@rubyq]

I absolutely love those little things that make the relationship spark. I've been married 10 years -this Dec will be 10- and we also do things like that and its just so nice and homey. Totally get you on that. Im writing as I watch so I am hoping you are okay since you said you have been feeling down.

[@RachelRaeCraft]

Thank you, hun

[@EchoesofColour]

🤗 I like ABs as a garnish/ detail in Diamond Paintings. Too much of those ABs would seem to overpower the canvas. Many prayers for your Grandpa. Cancer has a history in my family as well.

[@michellelosch9928]

I did the Appalachian Trail with another app - - it had 7 sections about 100 miles each......it took me over a year and got 7 medals then the company stopped with the free medals and you had to buy them 🙁. As far as AB’s it depends on the painting......If it’s a nature picture then no - - if it’s something with stars then yes!

[@lindabishop-surbeck2575]

PS if you have a bad back my best advice is build up your core muscles and walk walk walk. Because of my back my husband does the cooking, floors and dishes. And he does his own laundry. If he didn’t he wouldn’t have clean clothes!

[@LucyKoda67]

Please be kind to yourself... whatever you need you should do. It's different for everyone.

[@debrakayser7055]

I am so sorry about your grandfather. Cancer is a nasty disease. I will be 🙏 for him.

[@jennylynn41576]

By not sharing that rawness you essentially did what you were worried about with James’ reaction to you asking for the box meals. We all know that you’re human. We all have struggles. And it helps to see others deal with those emotions. But at the same time that can be a very private moment and it helps just to say it out loud even if no one hears it. Whatever works for you and your mental health is what you need to do. Not what others need. 💕

[@taniakramis]

Hi Rachel!!! I think that after this many months locked in, I'm in the same mood regarding to cooking. I really have no idea of what I want or how I want my food... I'm right there with you. I'm just tired of thinking about food and cooking food to get fat and thinking about eating healthier but not craving anything... yep...

[@karencollier227]

I’m so so sorry, I know how you feel. I also suffer from an Anxiety isssue.

[@dolphinsuzanne]

I’m exactly he same as you I suffer from bad anxiety and depression and have problems about cleaning because of my background because my mother forced us kids to clean constantly because we were women. And not all women love to clean. I do like to be clean but hate the act of cleaning it causes my anxiety to get out of control. It’s ten times harder when no one in your life essentially my kids they do not understand because they don’t have the same situation as me

[@joeh4796]

For my part, I do like to see the drills during the unboxing videos.

[@SheriTracey61]

Cis-marriage isn’t the only spot with those issues. Girl!!!! It’s everywhere. LOL

[@kathygoodman6159]

I don't really love AB drills. The coating always comes off for me and that's why I don't love them. I don't really feel like they are so special that it's worth it for me. If I didn't have trouble with the coating I would probably love them. Maybe it's because I press so hard on the drills? I do have a heavy hand.

[@divyalife6988]

Hi Rachel. Let me know where I can give you a simple authentic Indian biryani recipe with either prawn or chicken. Dal is also easy to make that’s one of our staples that I make at home . It would be easier if you have a pressure cooker. :)

[@kathygoodman6159]

Why is it that when it rains it pours? I just lost my husband and my mom within less than 2 weeks of each other. I'm a mess, my husband was gone in 3 weeks, it was horrible. My mom was 92 (almost 93) years old, but her death was unexpected. I just had heart surgery in January and I need a second surgery, but then COVID happened, my husband got sick, and then my mom died. Then I found out that I had no health insurance, they just canceled it without even telling me. People are telling me to get over it, and even my children have changed towards me because they don't understand what I'm feeling and how my world just rocked off its axis. My husband and I were together for 44 years, I was just 18 years old when we met in college. They have families, but I'm all alone now - my husband was all I had. It's easier for them to move on because they have children and spouses. I wake up every single day and realize all over again that my husband is gone and I am all alone. Yes, I have my children and grandchildren, but I never get to see them because they have such busy lives. They don't make time for me, and I really feel it now. Sorry for being so down, but I don't have anyone to talk to so it just comes out. I'm praying for your family and I hope things work out with your grandfather and your husband. Grief is a terrible thing, be gentle with your husband but do push him to get better by just being there. I wish I had someone here with me to help me get better. Just don't tell him to get over it. It's the worst thing you can say because it's a trigger. Everyone grieves in their own time and their own way and when you put your time and your ways onto them it really hurts. That's what my kids are doing to me. It's only been 3 months since my husband died. When you're with someone most of your life it's hard to figure out how to live without them. Your husband's dad was there his entire life and took care of him. It's hard to just move on. Sending you love and hugs from Maryland.

[@millerrjem]

Thirty days have September, April,June and November All the rest have thirty-one except my grandmother, who rides a red tricycle. Then you can talk about February during Presidential election years. I've been alone alone since my wife died 10 years ago. Cancer, Parkinson's and internal spinal rods. Combination of all this stuff finally took her after 49 years of marriage. Since a few years before that I did all the cooking ,shopping and whatever cleaning was done, though she liked to shop with me pushing her wheelchair or going to the hair salon. You do what you have to. I still do everything but with no one visiting I find every flat surface seems to collect stuff and I have a kind of path from where I sleep and eating through the kitchen to the basement for the laundry.With the governor wanting us to stay home and the darecho last month it's been a strain, but I watch you on UTube along with others.

[@RachelRaeCraft]

I totally understand doing what you have to do just to get through. Best wishes to you. 💜 Take care of yourself.

[@melodyluvsherhobbies9454]

I had Hello Fresh for a while but didn’t care for it. To lose weight stay away from carbs...bread, rice, pasta and potatoes. Eat lots of protein and fresh vegetables!

[@raeallison]

The saying goes Thirty days has September, April, June and November. All the rest have 31 except February which has 28 days clear 29 each leap year 💜

[@rachelveaudry3393]

And don't feel guilty to get a cleaning lady. I know that it has helped me alot. One less thing to worry about

[@tammyhyler3001]

💜💜💜

[@Gwenluvsmusic]

Thinking of you and your grandfather. It's so awful. I hate house work, and my apartment is a tip. I'm also not a fan of cooking. I can do it, but if I can shove something in the oven, I'll do it. No dishwasher here, but I so have a microwave, from Lidl. I don't cook in it though. I just use it to heat stuff. Depression is a horrible beast, and finding understanding people is hard. Same goes for bad health. A lot of people just don't want to know. I'm now at the f them stage. I'm single, so don't have to answer to anyone.

[@silviacoralricalde8739]

Sorry to hear that your grandpa is worse...😔. I have anxiety so I feel completely related with the fact that you think what people will think without asking 🤣🤣🤣 is me all the time!!! And several times I am wrong... so try to not guess... go and ask! About cleaning and cooking OMG...I hate all that!!! since I got married almost 18 years ago I said to my husband that I needed someone for clean the house and cook... i even told that if he didn’t have enough money for pay it, I would pay from my money... 🤪🤪🤪

[@HopeandCope1]

How long is it in miles? Your walk to the restaurant that is. That is great. Good for you. Do you have any pain when you walk because of your back? I can’t walk much at all because of my back and hips hurting.

[@RachelRaeCraft]

I think it is 1 or 1.5 miles... I haven't calculated in miles in so long that I forget! I sometimes get pain, but mostly it happens when the nerve gets pinched...then I am bed-bound. Hasn't happened in a long time thank goodness

[@josiane8482]

Have you tried splitting the chores between the two of you? My husband does the vacuuming and the laundry and I fold the laundry. I do the bathrooms and dust the furniture. We both do the dishes and the mopping. It works for us, maybe it would work for you?

[@RachelRaeCraft]

I've tried.....it lasts for one day and then back to the usual lol

[@jennylynn41576]

I think your voice is why I have a hard time finding someone else I like watching. I can’t use to loud boisterous type DP videos. So when I need calming it’s your videos. When I just want something to watch I watch other KZbinrs.

[@nicolekalbes313]

That what I worrie about my grandma because she dose have lung cancer but right now it is stable but I do worry if it going to get worse