What Launched Sarah Falter to Full Recovery - Without the Type A Drive 🌟

[@RaelanAgle]

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[@EmergingForward]

Thanks so much for having me on Raelan! I am so glad you are out there connecting us all and making all of this information easily accessible to everyone. It is really beautiful that we can all benefit from your videos and from our collective experience including trial and error solutions until we find what is right for us. I really appreciate what you are doing and hope you will always continue!

[@AnneAlready]

Sarah, thanks for providing this perspective and sharing your recovery story. I'm wondering - do you consider you had hypervigilance as part of your anxiety picture?

[@EmergingForward]

@@AnneAlready Hi Anne! Yeah for sure, hypervigilance. Around others especially, at school etc. even at home - social anxiety.

[@mirandaandrea8215]

Thanks Sarah and Raelan! Really appreciate your sharing Sarah! ❤

[@IronicUseOfElectrons]

What she is saying about breathing is accurate, I never would have believed it before my journey being as skeptical as I am, but experiencing it firsthand was pretty eye-opening.

[@kalina4416]

Thanks so much Sarah and Raelan for this video! Finally a story of someone who is not type A. I am definettly not, I'm a type Z personality :) So it's very hard for me to relate to this stories of always being busy, overachieving, burning candle at both ends etc both with ME/CFS and TMS community

[@EmergingForward]

Haha, what is type Z? like a mishmash? That's me too. Yeah I mean I like to relax, and go slow sometimes and really enjoy.. I'm so glad you could relate! What is TMS?

[@kalina4416]

I just made it up(Z type:)I like to do one thing at the time, I'm not driven and ambitious, I enjoy simple quiet life. TMS stands for tension myositis syndrome- term from dr Sarno@@EmergingForward

[@EmergingForward]

@@kalina4416 I like that, made up or not-Z type:) yeahhh simple quiet life:) Ah ok right, thankyou👍

[@J-xy6eb]

Great to hear from a non type A anxious person! It was a period of prolonged stress due to family circumstances that brought on my long covid/cfs including parenting a child with additional needs. It’s putting continuous stress on the body that causes it from what I’ve seen

[@janerogers3176]

Great interview as always! So I am still going through the thick of it with my long covid....MCAS or CFS whatever we all got lol And I just gotta say Ralean you are saving lives, Thank you SO much. I came across one of your videos a couple months ago and you have been a guiding light for me ever since. Not to mention what a great interviewer, you are so thoughtful and considerate in the way that you speak to us and the person you are interviewing. and so authentic and open-minded. and I love love love that your interviews and your channel don't focus on one specific way of getting better or one specific type of person. Your channel speaks to all of us and I appreciate that so much. Also want to thank Sarah for sharing. wow I mean this is really what I needed today. ugh my journey has been brutal like most are. I am also not really a type A person. but i think that's because I don't think I ever really lived truly to who I am. I definitely have perfectionism but i don't think anyone around me would think that. And I'm realizing I really lived by what others thought of me instead of listening to myself. and I'm finding out, I'm a pretty cool lady haha. so in my journey, I have this happy amazing big fun Irish family. But after getting sick, when I needed support from them more than ever, instead I have never felt more alone. And you just don't see that, like I would expect to see that from a broken family but not mine! And I would hear stories of people getting better but they had a family that wanted to help (which I feel is very normal) um, but my family has not been that way for me. And I felt like since I dont have a healthy support system with my mom and my sisters, other family memebers whatever, well maybe I won't get better. but that's so false lol About two weeks ago, I just had to make a big decision for myself and I had to stop talking to my sisters. NOT AN EASY DECISION I love them they were my best friends, and I still love them and maybe some day theyll make things right but for now, for me, I had to make that decision...It was scary but then a couple days after doing that, I started noticing parts of me coming back. parts of my personality. This creative confident goofy ass part of me that I haven't felt since I was a teenager. Also started sleeping better WHICH we all know is huge. I MISSED MY SLEEP oh happy days. ANYWHO. These past two weeks there were parts of me that still were like "you can't do this on your own! Abort! Must get family support!" lol oh that rhymed lol but I put this video on and it was the best reassurance telling me I'm going down the right path. Not that you need to cut family members out but that Im finally putting myself first. So I wanted to just tell you thank you thank you thank you for coming on Raelans show. And thank you Raelan too, all of your interviews have been helping me❤🙏

[@EmergingForward]

Hey Jane!! This is a beautiful share. It touches me. First, I agree - Raelan is absolutely saving lives. I am so excited she is now offering her own program. And, I am so glad that my experience was also helpful to you!! That is so cool and makes me feel great, thankyou for expressing it. "I don't think I ever really lived truly to who I am" - yeahhhh, I am only NOW doing that and yeah, it does feel amazing and way less exhausting! I'm so excited you see that, because that is the beginning of getting to your true authentic life whether or not, and to what degree, it includes family. You can find your "tribe":) here with Raelan, and wherever else that may be for you as well, or create it. I am creating my own tribe, and you are welcome to join! ❤

[@rachelstevenson9659]

That’s so lovely to hear!! I was also a “sleepy” kid and I was never really thriving/going to the gym/doing sports or doing well at work, I was always in a sort of overwhelm and tired. Of course I do still have those personality traits of perfectionism/trying too hard/people pleasing, but it is a bit different to the typical type A so thank you so much for sharing 🥰

[@EmergingForward]

Absolutely, thankyou so much for relating and expressing that so perfectly!!

[@sarahdean6441]

Definitely relate too the childhood trauma and anxiety. A very encouraging, inspiring story. Thank you Sarah and Raelan ❤.

[@EmergingForward]

Aww, thanks for sharing that Sarah

[@nolamayer4101]

Love your t shirt Raelan 💗

[@jog5289]

I also thought Raelan's t-shirt was cool! 💗

[@spruceysarah]

Thanks for another great interview! RE: "type a" personalities, I think at the end of the day any kind of long-term stress will increase suseptability to me/cfs, whether that comes from personality, internal/external expectations, trauma, etc. So, much like the "perfect storm," it's less about the particulars and more about processing/reducing/resolving stress the best we can -- which means everyone has a shot at reducing symptoms and improving quality of life.

[@lianpeet3502]

Great interview, thanks you two!

[@sadnagoso-yn6iz]

Thank you so much for helping us. God bless you. Am also a mother of 3kids is really hard. But now I know even we can recover. I really appreciate.

[@EmergingForward]

Thanks Sadnagoso for your comment, God bless you too! Yeah it is SUPER tough to be a mom while having this! Especially if your kids are small. Yes for sure I believe we can ALL recover no matter our situation. Of course if there are specific medical issues that needs to be addressed, but I think you know what I mean❤

[@nolamayer4101]

Wow what an amazing person you are Sarah! To feel like you didn’t belong as a child is such a huge one and then to go through two divorces and come out the other side knowing who you are, what you want in life and what you don’t ,is so inspirational. You have definitely climbed a mountain and are now at the top, so enjoy the view !🌈

[@EmergingForward]

What a GREAT reflection thanks so much Nola!! I will! and I know others will join me❤

[@nolamayer4101]

Wishing you all the best Sarah 🌈@@EmergingForward

[@mrsi82]

I really appreciate you bringing up the issue of "type A" personality being more susceptible. I have found this a worry that maybe I won't be recovered because I'm not this type. I do believe that resolving our emotional hangovers can help.

[@EmergingForward]

Thanks for your comment mrsi! I appreciate that I'm not the only who doesn't always relate to that storyline/personality type. I believe that you absolutely can recover ❤ yeah it's physical right? But emotions can be involved too, they were for me because they led to physical reactions (like the constant fight or flight response which I now believe really wears a body down)

[@manua779]

Amazing channel Raelan, so helpful 🧡

[@RaelanAgle]

So glad to hear that, Kristina! ❤️❤️❤️

[@eviemorgs]

Research shows a link between adverse childhood experiences and chronic illness later in life, usually the type A personality traits are actually trauma responses and coping mechanisms that can become unhealthy

[@EmergingForward]

Wow ok yeah makes sense. There is such knowledge amongst Raelan's viewers, it's really very impressive and cool. Glad to be a part of this tribe and contribute my two cents/experience to the collective.

[@underachievingoverachiever]

Came here to say this too. It's all just different coping responses to fear

[@breezylyn2168]

How do we get better ?

[@underachievingoverachiever]

@breezylyn2168 there's no one way, but I think it really all comes down learning to feel the fear and not run away from it, which is really difficult to do. I believe this is why pacing can sometimes work because you increase activity in a way that doesn't seem too overwhelming and gradually learn you are okay. It doesn't work when you're terrified of your symptoms though because you'll train your brain that any discomfort is bad. That's the trauma response- these feelings are terrible and I must get rid of them.

[@carolr2572]

Wow. I have Chiari Malformation and just diagnosed with MCAS. I’m a mess. You give me hope. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@carolr2572]

Omg. I had SVT too. Had an ablation done.

[@EmergingForward]

@@carolr2572 oh wow ok, hope that turned out well and took care of it

[@EmergingForward]

Oh wow, yeah! I had never heard of it til I got (possibly) diagnosed with it. I had to google MCAS- yikes, no fun, I'm so sorry for what you're suffering through right now. I am glad to pass along hope! Yes there is definitely hope! Absolutely, my best to you ❤

[@rarelymary]

Thank you so much for this video. And thank you so much Sarah for doing this interview. I am currently going through me/cfs (undiagnosed as of yet but pretty sure I do) and, although, I am worse than I was when I was little, being exhausted/tired is something I've been ALL of my life. I don't remember a time when I had a good amount of normal energy so this video is superhelpful! I also worry and question that when I get back to my "normal" that's still not going to be enough energy to live a normal, average life so it's difficult to imagine being better and having more energy than I have ever had before. Lots of things resonated for me in this video and I'd love to see more videos of situations like this. Again, thank you so much!

[@EmergingForward]

Yes thankyou Raelan for having me on and for all the videos/interviews you do, putting everything together for us to all see the patterns and take what we can to help us. You're welcome Mary, thank YOU so much for sharing how you relate to this- it is really nice to know we are not alone and to have had similar experiences. I'm really sorry for what you are going through and have gone through. I absolutely believe you can get to a place of more energy than you've ever had. Of course I'm not a doctor and don't know you ha, but I BELIEVE this and am sending love to you and everyone.

[@rarelymary]

Thank you! ❤@@EmergingForward

[@jog5289]

Well done on your recovery, Sarah, and thanks for sharing your story. That brain surgery option must have been so scary to consider! I've watched Barbara O'Neill's videos too. She's great. I must get back to looking at Raelan's pacing advice after hearing how it's helped you. The Soma Breathing sounds very interesting too, especially being scientifically backed. Thanks again Raelan for all you do. 💛🧡💜

[@EmergingForward]

Thankyou Jog! Yes it was ha. Oh cool! Yes something about Barbara reached me one day it really was a turning point. Similarly Raelan’s stuff really helped because it was so simple- I really needed something very simple, a starting place. I’d love to hear how it goes for you! And if you’d like to try the SOMA Breath reach out anytime I’d love to have you!

[@knittingggg326]

I know Teal Swan art when I see it :) lovely!

[@EmergingForward]

haha yeah!!! authentic relationship and self love:)

[@chaseoklahoma7267]

Interesting you experienced a lot of pain on your right side. That’s where I experience most of the pain I feel. I also don’t identify as a type A but I have always pushed myself to the max when it comes to work and being really hard on myself mentally.

[@EmergingForward]

I am so sorry to hear about your pain, and at the same time I really appreciate you sharing that! Because I don't hear that a lot - pain being on only one side. It is interesting right? Like what would cause that? I also appreciate how you don't identify as type A and yet have some characteristics that could be similar. I can relate to some characteristics - like being hard on myself as you mention. Writing out my negative thoughts and then talking or writing back to them is helpful for me to be kinder to me.

[@chaseoklahoma7267]

I have one question at least at the moment lol. Did the pain seem to originate from a certain place then spread from there? Thanks for sharing your story I can relate to much of it. Super excited to be where your at one day!

[@carolinaramos5304]

Sara what youtube channel did you use when you found soma breathing?

[@EmergingForward]

What do you mean? If you search SOMA Breath on youtube you'll find it. I don't remember the exact video I first stumbled on. You could also google Niraj Naik SOMA Breath meditation he is the founder. He actually was very sick himself, with ulcerative colitis, and ended up embracing these ancient pranayama techniques and more to heal himself (he used to be resistant to them, and very science based only, he was a pharmacist previously). My exact beginning with this was: I was watching one of Raelan's interviews with someone talking about Soma Meditation or something? and in looking for that, I happened to stumble on this. Sorry if I didn't understand your Q correctly!

[@carolinaramos5304]

@@EmergingForward you answered it perfectly thank you! I will look into it! I believe in this but I have resistance because I am a nurse practitioner student and have been so science based western medical it creates doubt in me at times. Dealing with fibromyalgia. Thank you!

[@Isaiahch35vs8]

Wow that’s me

[@user-nb1kh4ke7z]

I don't think the available energy level is necessarily what defines that "type A" personality type, as I also identify as having ME/CFS as a child. But the mental process of never being good enough, constantly pouring every ounce of energy into trying to find safety through validation, is the personality type that drives this illness.

[@RaelanAgle]

Great point, thanks so much for sharing!

[@lenemikkelsen9251]

What is the name of your Facebook community ? An do you by any chance have members in Denmark/Europe?😊

[@kaseyahlstrom9189]

Type a personalities are typically the ones who go on to write books and start channels about their journey lol. The rest of us who have this illness are not going to do that, so those are typically the stories told…

[@EmergingForward]

Ha yeah.. makes sense.. well, I have started my own utube channel and I do like to express myself so dunno:) Once I got better I really connected with forward moving energy

[@SweetiePieTweety]

I laugh because it’s a type a personality parent that then produces the child Such as this beautiful young woman. The type a personality is still there it’s just in a different role it’s the parent or the society or the school or even the boss❤ The type a personality parent creates perfectionism in their child summer able and become a type a personality and summer not able to actually do that and will it can land in their body with anxiety and depression and illness. The child of a type a personality will become the people pleaser the eternal care keeper the one that does overextend and sacrifice for others and their own children and burn out. And yes you nailed it that perfectionism comes out of shame and so often shame as what we wear when we are the child to say a narcissistic parent and often there’s a lot of trauma in that type of parent child relationship. Yes and the loving relationship feeling heard and safe that’s such a healing space and yes I was probably one of those calling you out in the comment section but it’s good to be aware of that because we distance and sometimes what we actually need to do is actually connect with the right person for the right people for the right group. So now I get to use you as a Soma breath instructor well that’s pretty cool❤

[@EmergingForward]

This touches me thankyou SweetiePieTweety❤ You're totally right, what a wealth of information in this reflection! Ah yeah? Great! I will love to meet you!

[@breezylyn2168]

Can you help with what to eat ,drink, how to help the extreme hormone or histamine issue with long covid pleeeeease ... and the heart palpitations and the extreme constipation . I'm desperate

[@EmergingForward]

Hi Breezylyn, I am sorry for what you're going through, I remember the desperation. Of course I can only share what worked for me and I am not a doctor, and it's different sometimes for everyone. I did recover eating whole food plant based, hydrating with lemon water in the morning, eating fermented foods, intermittent fasting. I had heart palpitations and one thing that helped was breathwork - intermittent hypoxia can benefit your heart by improving circulation due to dilating blood vessels and increasing heart rate variability (an important measure for strength of heart). This of course should be learned safely with a certified instructor if possible, or there are many free videos from Niraj Naik that are very informative too (he is the founder of SOMA Breath).

[@breezylyn2168]

@EmergingForward thank u so very much ,I ll take any tips. We got it bad. You're right I'm so desperate to get better. I'm also terrified. I worry this will kill me before there's a answer . My children also have long covid.my 16 yr old has heart problems now and pots. My 4 year olds bowels don't work well ,and he is never hungry ,always ill high heart rate ,histamine problems and 90% oxygen. .this has been going on a year . I feel like we are in the doctor more then weekly. I've lost 60pounds . My 6 year old lost 12 .which is alot for a little person ,she keeps getting weird yeast rashes , always tired and doesn't want to play much anymore , something is really wrong here. We caught delta ,then started and got worse shortly there after. . Im desperate to find answers . So any help is appreciated

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

@@breezylyn2168 Sorry to write this so strangely, but my comment got auto deleted, so I will try to present it in a way that hopefully it will stick! _I tried to explain more, but it kept getting deleted! I will just list the things to research._

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[@PeaceIsYeshua]

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[@LydiaNorris]

haha i am so tired of hearing that this effects type A people.. I am also the opposite

[@myacandeloro6277]

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