Raise Your Social IQ

Looking to be a bit more social, but have no idea where to start? I'm SO glad you found this video!
In this video, I talk about how anyone can be more social even if you're shy. I go over how to read body language and what subtle nonverbal cues mean and what to do about them!
I am going to teach you how to get ahead and be authentically confident by using your people skills, body language, and nonverbal behavior.
Take our quiz and find out if you are people smart!
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In this video:
0:00 Intro
0:15 What is a behavioral investigator?
0:25 How to be socially confident
1:15 What is a truth wizard?
2:03 What to do if you're shy
2:54 To those who want to be more social
3:35 Microexpressions quiz
4:48 Introverts
7:08 Microexpressions quiz (cont.)
8:47 Outro
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Do you know what cues you are sending to others? Learn how to control and leverage the tiny signals you’re sending - from your stance and facial expressions to your word choice and vocal tone - to improve your personal and professional relationships.
This is our latest bestselling book:
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Vanessa Van Edwards is Lead Investigator at Science of People - where she unlocks the formulas and patterns behind human behavior for hundreds of thousands of students in over 200 countries. She is the national bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding With People, available in 14 languages around the world. Her work has been featured on CNN, NPR, BBC, Fast Company and dozens more.
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[@ScienceOfPeople]

Learn more about raising your social IQ with the article!: www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-be-people-smart/

[@shmankersox]

4:44-4:49 there's an editing mistake. Loops back to earlier in the video. Great material though, thank you for your work!

[@maxwillson]

That's funny! My older brother is extremely social and if he sees me with my hands in my pocket he will walk over and pull my hands out of my pocket because it's too awkward for him. Now when I think about it, I don't think I've ever seen him with his hands in his pocket.

[@mundaneamazing]

These videos have been really helpful. I read an entire Body Language book, but the few videos I've watched of you on this show very well confronted the social issues I have.

[@bvrasel3040]

I never feel bored by watching venessa video

[@nickhughes7043]

I'm a truth wizard, study me! no really though I think it has to do with me being highly sensitive. thanks for all the great vids.

[@blisswkc3344]

Thank You sooo much dearest sweeties 💐🙏🏼 You’re such an inspiration ❣️ Stay Blissful Eternally 😇🕉💖

[@Silirion]

Thanks Vanessa! This is great!

[@stephenmcfarling1083]

This video is pretty awesome, it's thought provoking

[@oslokru1972]

Really interesting video. Thanks for posting it. The guy (host) got on my nerves. He was trying to be funny but ended up being silly. I'm really glad I found you on KZbin today. :-) :-)

[@dihan7217]

someone is seting the source video back in the middle... please repair it. Content is very good, as always and fun to watch.

[@nickcampanella4964]

Great stuff Vanessa I always liked your stuff

[@urbanninja4330]

Theres a glitch in the Matrix :|

[@user-xy7tj8yx1u]

image good

[@saurabhaggarwal1950]

Loved the conversation, :-) Truth wizards, hahaha...

[@nataliareis1006]

Vanessa you are amazing. I love your videos amazing content .

[@SlNlST3R]

Great info I watched it twice!

[@PilotVolunteer]

Super. Thank you

[@evianmason1630]

Vanessa is A Good mentor

[@Airplane_boy312]

No body gonna talk about how beautiful this woman looks? Truly a person to socialize with

[@concepcionladion6481]

thank you.

[@curtisfoster4256]

Queen Midas does it again. 👑

[@fraizie6815]

"Science of people" and this thumbnail. I would run away if someone 'smiled' at me like this, thinking they're a lunatic.

[@lilabukvic6916]

There is no other just reflektion of oneself.

[@REBELMISFIT]

Wow the automatic close captions is wild lol

[@imjihan1319]

U are awesome

[@exellentedecorations9454]

True video

[@hakithemonkey]

"Don't slap people in the face" If only the brother Will Smith saw this video 🥺

[@phyllislogie]

This video repeats itself halfway through.

[@TheLoneComic]

How easily we forget the original meaning of putting your hands in your pockets was to non verbally communicate to the women in the room (if you are a man) that you are not here 'to put your hands' on any women. So, a man would put his hands in his pockets to socially intercommunicate to the entire room in the old days, "I'm keeping my hands off." It had nothing to do with meekness and everything to do with forestalling misconceptions about his intentions during social interactions in that new room of social creatures which contains usually about half full of women. An alpha male would back then almost always put his hands in his pocket when entering a room with more than two women to serve the 'husband shoppers' early notice of the boundary being established he is there for socializing and not significant relationship searching activity - something women are almost never not doing.

[@wallyschroeder615]

You know what I'm doing now? I'm scratching my head and wondering-wtf is going on with this video? lol It keeps repeating

[@teriday954]

The trick is to avoid people as much as you possibly can, then avoid them some more.

[@chrishall647]

Hey Vanessa, I love your videos, I've been interested in body language, NLP, evolutionary and behavioral psychology for a while. I'm confused though, in another video, you said that men often put their hands, or fingers sans thumbs, in their pockets to show attraction and convey confidence. In this video, it seems like you said the opposite. Is this based on the situation or environment? Also, I always thought that Ekman's micro expressions referred to subtle involuntary facial expressions that only last for about 1/32nd of a second. Like when the person's internal feelings or thoughts are inconsistent with the words they are saying. Thanks, - Chris

[@jopsamp]

she said man put their hands in the pocket and leave their thumbs out

[@Huonous]

When you pause a video and someone seems to have a totally different facial expression, is that (even sometimes) a micro expression, or something else? :D

[@ericalexanderson3442]

ty for reminding me to stay away from crying drunks lol!

[@mrbigbear07]

You remind me of my friend Carrie RIP

[@pradelelien3267]

Dear!!😍

[@rickyv1439]

Did he say Vanessa van patten?

[@go-goakins1489]

Vanessa is intelligent beautiful and funny

[@vernaharris4700]

I agree with you. She seems very likeable.😊

[@ichbinlieb7125]

why is it repeated? I would have prefered it to go straight through.

[@caatabatic]

my secfet so that SO's think I am faithful is to be faithful.

[@pradelelien1858]

Where are from originally?

[@imjihan1319]

I love u venesa

[@shellducker7078]

Some guys put hands in pockets near their groin as a prowess to direct attention there as well.

[@CB-bl8sp]

Did he say van patten?

[@ashay76]

I love Vanessa. Anytime the guy is in videos he is annoying. Very disrespectful to Vanessa and the other lady. Always interrupts and has to be the center of attention and loud.

[@kevinalmiron8693]

How many times did you go to this same program? Its about 90 percent of your videos

[@alcudiababe1]

I found if you constantly talk with your hands it defeats the object of what you are trying to say because people are more focused on what you are doing with your hands, rather than the message you are trying to convey

[@nascentnaomie]

✨📝📝

[@Rosannasfriend]

stop the video at about 5:15. It repeats everything from there.

[@BeOutstanding]

Great Content Thank You Vanessa Hand is the window Pra Open bod Smi fully

[@brucewayne2955]

Deja vu

[@amelmatt5641]

Venessa: smart, cute, knowledgeable in human relations. Interviewers: annoying af and painful to listen to.

[@rabiul910]

What does it mean about your sitting position,you collapsed your legs entire video

[@grapiken7766]

The video is doubled over.

[@natalieernst7948]

Can I comment

[@JoaquinKamaBeltran]

🤔

[@analozada9475]

Your comment said it all... Is not a "small box" it is reality and reality hurts. You probably love that show and that's why you are crying about cuz I hurt your ego. Lol

[@Gogoma68]

You’ll be Natural when u born again.

[@Himesua]

truth wizards.... you mean empaths???

[@vickeyindian1063]

how to know if a girl likes you

[@mutegabriel4812]

😹😹😹

[@Adilharp]

she might be good with reading facial expression but really bad at imitating them

[@mjs28s]

+Adil Sami it is hard to imitate a micro expression. Those happen in 1/10 of a second and are natural. Faking them is pretty tough when they normally occur subconsciously.

[@daviddeharty2656]

deaf community

[@suziestar7778]

why dont you just call every one of these podcasts...con!!! con!!!! con!!!!

[@analozada9475]

The fact that she watches the "Bachelor" made me doubt her credibility. A truly deep, smart person wouldn't b able to watch such a moronic show unless they do it for scientific research.

[@billfill4807]

agree... I'm just watching this because I get off on how stupid some people are.....

[@analozada9475]

lmao

[@nicholasrumiansev7374]

I disagree. It's a popular show (which can give you all sorts of insight into other people as well as your own guilty pleasures) and it's about relationships developing and all the body language that goes with it. How much of it is acting? How much is real? Can she guess who is going to hook up before it happens based on body language? What is it that they say or do to create attraction? Can she guess who he'll pick? Actually, I wrote all that before seeing the part of the video where The Bachelor is mentioned and sure enough that's exactly what she does. Seems like a pretty smart way to watch a show like that. Besides, from watching several of her videos and reading a handful of articles she seems plenty intelligent to me so I think you're only discrediting yourself for jumping to such a conclusion based on the fact that she watches a particular TV show. After all, are you going to pretend that all the TV shows you watch are high-minded and enlightening? Do you watch sports? Do you watch violent action movies? C'mon.

[@teresalynnhasan-kerr9373]

Ana Lozada I don't think she claimed to be truly deep. Also a truly deep, smart person wouldn't put others into such a small box.

[@amandamorse694]

+bill fill That's nasty. You get off on that? That's stupid.

[@ContactSusTee]

Man host is annoyingly loud and interrupts too much. He should listen to your advice instead of talk over it.