Rapid Identity Shifting Demonstration

[@SiIviuHuides]

He left himself outside the equation ❤

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@AviweZathu]

🙌😌 I love SelfConcept techniques I use them allot to bypass barriers, inner resistance, procrastination, limiting beliefs & more.

[@peterpiper5300]

How did you do it for procrastination?

[@AviweZathu]

@peterpiper5300 🤔 Identity shifting & Identity work kinda helped me & allot of Miyamoto Musashi's principles

[@chayaperl2440]

Thanks for the Demo I love seeing a session in real time and how you included the process. The face change is priceless.

[@DamonCart]

My pleasure.

[@tatianapouladian7901]

that's right, often we leave ourself out of that "circle" as he did. He forgot he is a person too. Well Done Damon. I was working with a client who was mad at himself saying he always does things for other and not himself. After working with him, he realized that in fact what he does for others has even a greater benefit for himself.

[@DamonCart]

Nice!

[@mohsenfallah5622]

This is very heart warming 👏

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@healthymindstribe2636]

Thankyou for making the video. It was easier to understand the message while seeing it in practice like this.

[@DamonCart]

That makes me very happy to hear that.

[@_cr8ive_]

Childhood emotional neglect = people pleasing = self inflicting , self sabotaging, self devaluing empath.🤜🏻💥🤛🏻👍🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻

[@AyanD.-yy6sz]

Wow! I’m an East African/American woman who grew up believing that helping people is my life purpose. Due to my background, I learned to equal love with helping others. And it does feel validating. Yet I often end up burnout and resentful, leading to a sudden checkout of life. I NEVER thought that I was also a HUMAN, an INTEGRAL PART of the PEOPLE to help. I often postponed my needs, boundaries and expectations, to soothe others. But I kept ignoring the engine of this helping ordeal: me. 🤯 Thank you!

[@DamonCart]

Time to change that and when you do, you'll be able to help others even more. You'll be less likely to burn out as well.

[@heatherjohnson955]

That made me cry when I saw that he got it… beautiful work.

[@innatitorenko1858]

Thanks!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you!

[@jackmanuputy961]

Thanks for posting Damon and kudos to Paul. This video was very impacting and compelling, a must-watch for all NLP practitioners.

[@DamonCart]

My pleasure. Glad you liked it.

[@LisaMoss2022]

This was incredible, very touching to see someone transform like that. Great work Damon!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@ThetaToDeltaWave]

beautiful work!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you 🙏

[@kritiagrawal9713]

U are a true mentor !!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you

[@forkintheroad6919]

Brilliant work Damon. Imaginary separation is such a perfect way to describe it. Presupposes so much about it not being real, but self-reinforced and made real by this imagination.

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@yelena3285]

Interesting reframing of empathy. Powerful for Paul.

[@LucidBlissHypnosis]

Yes, while reminding him of how It makes him feel when he helps others, you presupposed that he was also a person before he had a chance to deflect or deny himself that pleasure like most clients in his situation try; you did a great job, And so did he.

[@rebekahleonard7486]

Suffering feelings of worthlessness, which is where he gains when he feels he's helping others .. it's of great value to him.

[@paulinefroehlig142]

This is a great video! I realized I was (or possibly still am) doing the same thing Paul was doing - leaving himself out.

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@TomySpeedy]

Thanks Damon, this was the kick up the butt I needed to read the book! 📖❤️

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome.

[@favaro2008]

He used to perceive himself as separate from others, and so wasn't emphatic with himself

[@stevegreen364]

Many thanks for the share Damon, I've been trying to get my head around Category & Scope, and the self Concept Model through Self Facilitation with limited success only. I appreciate your making these fantastic models available, My sense is that Paul had categorised Empathy for OTHER People ie NOT (people other than) Me / NOT Self. The missing ingredient... perhaps for the f1rst time in his life he included both Self and Me into the category of PEOPLE. Almost like he embraced his heart (Me) and his Self for the first time, and that Me and Self were worthy of love and empathy and he accepted and embraced that truly for the first time. :O)

[@DamonCart]

Correct

[@zanetavasko5233]

Amazing! So greatful😊

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@mlan1203]

Paul use empathy on himself. Its super effective!

[@flattlandermontgomery1524]

He didn't include himself as someone he needed to empathetic toward, and I do the same thing.

[@DamonCart]

Correct

[@elenorthelander4722]

He forgot/bypassedhimself ❤ Lovely to see how he interact emotionally with his inner being ❤️

[@williamlundbergh]

He was discounting HIMSELF!

[@DamonCart]

Indeed.

[@001rlima]

People lack self love because they never looked at themselves as needed to love themselves. They look for love by doing stuff for others, neglecting their inner self needs -own self love-. Because they are too close to realize the concept of themselves as lovely and unaware of the importance of their self worth, self confidence, self esteem and self image. To care about others is easier. To care about oneself you must discipline the demons, let go of pain, and resolve inner conflicts. It is the mastery of oneself that brings genuine freedom and self love-- First--.

[@DamonCart]

I hear your positive intention. However, the way in which you're thinking about this can cause problems. We cannot love ourselves. We are love. We can stop dividing ourselves into part of us who does the loving and part of us who is loved and just be the source of our love, which is the truth. There's no such thing as self-worth because your worth can't be measured. You don't need discipline. You just need clarity.

[@harshathakkar537]

As always very nicely explained..very useful..am an ardent follower.. One suggestion... The camera angles were shifting very frequently...if it could have been more casual setting with facing camera.. without the added video clips ... Keeping only the live session clips...it would have done the job of being as effective as your other casual yet content rich videos...

[@Kangarooleathershoe.]

What a beautiful moment! Did the new identity stick? How has his life improved since?

[@DamonCart]

Last time I spoke to him, it was still there. He has become much more assertive and at ease with himself.

[@rebeccaderiese8229]

He was neglecting giving himself help… I have recognition of this in myself as well

[@ffmamim7]

Selfishness to the core is the answer. Religious believes are responsible for the need for the attainment of selflessness, holiness, and perfection.

[@DamonCart]

Selfishness is the answer to what?

[@ffmamim7]

Humans are fundamentally selfish, but society educates solutions for nonexistent problems and makes us set goals. NLP could be a tool to reconcile the neurotic conditions we are in. Rejecting the need to be good is one answer to our problems. Money is undoubtedly the only important goal to pursue.

[@DamonCart]

@@ffmamim7 can't tell if you're being sarcastic. The "need to be good" is so vague that I can't really agree or disagree. We feel a need to be fulfilled. I've nothing against making money, but money will only solve problems that not having money creates. While it helps, money will not ultimately fulfill you.

[@gooddayyt99]

The most spiritual thing is becoming a physical being. We come here forgetting who we truly are. So that we can then remember.

[@jamesross4319]

I know how because I read Steve's Book. I even shortcut it once by simply dissociating the negatives in the negative self belief and accentuating the preferred opposite. However like you said--changing the ones that you don't identify or creating ones that I don't have is perplexing. So I haven't done successful or wealthy or a lover. And that's why I can't yet afford your products. ;-)

[@DamonCart]

Keep working at it. You probably need to transform those counter examples.

[@zuhamalik1662]

Self-empathy

[@anneo9855]

Regarding Paul, he believes that he is an empathetic person, but his behavior indicates that he does not have empathy for himself.

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@tinagoddard4938]

Realising that some people see themselves when visualising and others like me do not, was a lightbulb moment. How do you create a vision of a desired you in order to swish, when you can’t see yourself?

[@DamonCart]

Everyone does both. If you were fully associated all of the time, you would not have any perspective of who you are outside of yourself as in how others might be thinking of you. You would also not have the ability to disconnect from situations. And you would struggle to plan anything for the future because you would always feel stuck in the present moment. An easy way to visualize yourself is to imagine looking into a mirror.

[@jamesross4319]

I have a similar thing that came from a book I read in my teens, the logic works brilliantly when I am in that headzone but ordinarily I am too much like Paul. (Except it was starting from selfishness and eventually realizing that everybody else belongs in the same category.) It deletes anger at least the self righteous stuff just evaporates due to several logical algorithms. So I avoid it because it seems like a left hand path even though it is about everybody getting what they want.

[@thepassiveprincesslife]

He thought that by being an empathetic person and helping people meant putting others first, and he had to come second

[@alimollaei2300]

Do you have full course about Identity changing...?🤔🤔

[@DamonCart]

Yes I do. Email [e-mail] and ask about our Self-Concept training. Someone will be happy to help you.

[@alanpckenna]

Himself. We have to help ourself before helping others

[@gharkarajanamaste1693]

He left out self empathy.

[@irohsslipper6155]

Although I'm very much late on this - I've paused & will answer: What Paul is calling empathy is in reality people pleasing - An inauthentic & exhausting behavior with a deeper root belief as the cause (not worthy, not enough, have to do XYZ to achieve desired condition (love/validation/respect etc) This results in him neglecting his own authentic needs & values which stifles him in every aspect of life that people pleasing shows up. Probably drives a certain neuroticism, overthinking & inability to shut off or rest because "he hasn't done enough (for others)" So his empathy becomes distorted through this lens of lack that completely forgets himself - Leading to a great sense of suffering, particularly in the "part" of him that has yet to be re-integrated with his authentic self in the present moment The degree to which those parts relegated of ourselves have been relegated to the shadows of the unconscious mind is the degree to which we lose spiritual & psychological integrity in the present moment - The ability to move through the chaos of life with our mind & heart unstained by fear, anxiety and doubt

[@DamonCart]

I'd say that sounds accurate. At the same time, I believe Paul genuinely likes to help people beyond people pleasing, which was the leverage I used to coach him to include himself in it.

[@irohsslipper6155]

@@DamonCart 100% brother - The forgetting of himself in the equation is the distortion. The authentic expression allows him to serve with even greater power, as he has gained integrity & personal power by including himself - Very nourishing Really appreciate your content good sir - Using it to round out my own understanding of identity shifting 🙏

[@DamonCart]

@@irohsslipper6155 my pleasure.

[@kirann414]

Hi Damon. Thanks for sharing I'm a self concept student and loving the program so far Have a couple of questions for you 1. "He is an empathetic person because he likes to help people. Are you a person?" -> That's so profound. How did you come up with that? Is there any guiding principle / concept to come up with reframes like that? Can you point me to the training within SCRG if there are any 2. You said that you are one quality transformation away. How do you identify that one quality. I find several when I do a values elicitation on my specific outcome. Is it the first quality when you do the hierarchy?

[@DamonCart]

Glad you're loving the program. 1. Once you master the Self-Concept Model I recommend that you continue learning about the underlying theory that makes the model work, which is the theory that Steve Andreas created called Scope and Category. When you say, "I'm empathetic", empathetic is a category, which we refer to as a quality in Self-Concept. A quality is a way of categorizing an aspect of who you are. If you say, "I help people", people is also a category. It's not referring to helping animals and it's not referring to helping the environment, which are all categories as well. Paul's statement of belief was, "I'm empathetic because I help people." Within the category of his empathy contains people. For some reason he wasn't categorizing himself as a person so when I asked him the question if he was a person, he couldn't deny it, therefore he had to categorize himself as being within the category of people and therefore within the category of his empathy. The more you understand categorization, the more these things will become obvious to you. 2. Every time you transform a quality it's a transformation. Your list of values are the best clues you have to transform into the ideal person you want to be, which will automatically create the life you want to live. I recommend starting at the top of your list of values and work your way down the list optimizing any qualities that already feel certain and transforming the qualities that don't feel certain into certain and solid qualities.

[@kirann414]

@@DamonCart Thanks Damon ! When you said - "Are you also a person" I was like wow !! I will hold off my intellectual curiosity for now and come to scope and category once I master the SC model

[@DamonCart]

@@kirann414 I will probably do a workshop for the group again on Scope and Category and use this video as reference. Focus on mastering Self-Concept and keep Scope and Category in the back of your mind. I have no special talent other than the skill and understanding that I've cultivated through practicing NLP and this model. You're on your way in other words. Continue to be persistent with it and you will wow yourself.

[@kirann414]

​@DamonCart I went through the recorded workshop on Scope & Category and I am glad that I did. Things have become so much clearer now. I have been practicing the SC model for a few weeks and I was doing the exercises because I was getting results. Now I understand why we do the things that we do in SC Just like how you combine various elements to get compounds, you can combine Scope and category to get any change you want and this is sooo exciting I want to share my understandings so far - Feel free to correct me if I have mis-understood something On how it applies to self-concept: - Qualities are scope and self-esteem is a category - Values are categorization and your exeprience is scope - You are getting the process elements & fine tuning it so that you can model how you do the scope which you like and use it as a model to add/transform qualities that you don't have/like - Aspects of time : Widening/narrowing the scope so that you could see how much scope would make the quality stronger. I have felt my quality get stronger by modifying the chunk size of time. It was quite interesting - Perceptual positions will give you more scope so that you can re-categore that exeprience or make your exiting category feel stronger - You use experiences from different contexts of your life to widen the scope so that the categorization can have a bigger impact on your life - Basically we are changing the scope of counter examples -> scope of certain quality when we are trying to transform a quality we don't like. When we get resistance to do that -> Parts integration - Had one interesting observation. I had a group of counter examples to a certain quality. When I narrowed down the focus(scope), I realized(or should I say categorized :D) immediately this belonged to another useful Q and made the certain Q stronger - When you narrow down the scope to transform a counter example which is the first/worst, it tends to categorize the transformation across similar examples - We do values elicitation to find categories which we like so that we can adjust the scope(qualities) to get more of the experiences that we like In the Video: You widened his scope to include himself so that he can get the empathy as well(category) I have a few questions :- - How can we apply scope and category theory to parts integration? - When we do the video editing exercise in transforming couter examples, we are playing with content. Am I right in my undertanding that we are basically changing content by suppling resources so that it will fit the category of your positive intent and in turn categorize it to your Q ? - In the spreading exercise of aspects of time where we attempt to generalize the quality across time, are we attempting to widen the scope or are we trying to impose the categorization across time? Thank you for making Steve's work available to us. I don't think I would have applied the model if you hadn't put up the program

[@DamonCart]

@@kirann414 you've mostly got it. Qualities are actually categories. Scope is all the information (visual, auditory, kinesthetic, etc.) represented including the structure of how it's represented. Category is how you feel or evaluate the scope. For example, if you believe you are a kind person, kind is a quality you use to categorize yourself. How you know you're kind is based on the scope of your experiences, the information that represents your experiences. You wrote: "When you narrow down the scope to transform a counter example which is the first/worst, it tends to categorize the transformation across similar examples" This is not narrowing. The first or the worst counterexample is more like a summary representation. It sets the criteria for the group, which lets you know whether or not an experience belongs in this category or not. So when you transform it by giving it more resources and then put it back in the group of other counterexamples so that the resources transform to them, it transforms the other counterexamples. You're redoing the generalization in other words. Your questions and my answers: - How can we apply scope and category theory to parts integration? Scope and Category is always at play, but parts integration is simple enough that you don't have to "apply it" so to speak. It already happens when you follow the steps. When two parts, which are two categories, realize that they work together better than separately because they share the same values (and the same master, you), they naturally integrate. When the two categories integrate it creates a new, integrated category. - When we do the video editing exercise in transforming counter examples, we are playing with content. Am I right in my understanding that we are basically changing content by suppling resources so that it will fit the category of your positive intent and in turn categorize it to your Q ? More or less, yes. However, it doesn't always transform into an example of your positive quality. It might transform into an example of another quality. The main objective is to transform your counterexamples so that they don't hold you back from being certain about the quality you're working on. If the counterexamples transform into positive examples of the same quality you're working on, even better. - In the spreading exercise of aspects of time where we attempt to generalize the quality across time, are we attempting to widen the scope or are we trying to impose the categorization across time? You're spreading the quality across time. Using words like attempting implies failure. Imposing implies force so I would change up how you think of these things. Spreading is a natural thing we already do so it's not forcing. Spreading is categorizing across time. Choose to categorize yourself across time as being the qualities you value. This will work much better for you than doing it with negative qualities. You're usually doing it one way or the other without realizing it. Using Self-concept is a way to understand how you're creating your sense of self so you can have choice about it rather than relying on the haphazard organization of your unconscious.

[@oohlalascateringservice7679]

Lacking self love

[@DamonCart]

He wasn't including himself in his own empathy, which might sound like self-empathy but there is no self who gives it and a self who receives it. The self is the source of empathy.

[@chriscollins7047]

He left selfout

[@francinefeehan6711]

He is being empathetic to everyone but not himself!

[@DamonCart]

Exactly!

[@selflovingsensitive]

He left himself out of his empathy 🙏

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@hazelperera2512]

He realised that he is a person too

[@dramalkingdom1820]

🎉🎉🎉

[@ForeverWealthy2011]

He did not include himself as someone who deserves empathy

[@taymosa]

Himself

[@kevinmasilung]

He put other people ahead of him first.

[@afuacooper369]

he left himself out of the equation.

[@stevegreen364]

Q? What is the next video you refer to at the end of THIS video Damon? :O)

[@DamonCart]

I'm not sure what you're asking. It's a video about how to overcome low self-worth, just as I mention at the end of this video.

[@stevegreen364]

@@DamonCart Yeah... which video? thanks :O)

[@DamonCart]

@@stevegreen364 just click the end screen of this video, at the last few seconds of this video. The next video appears on the screen.

[@birhanabatemulate4370]

Yes, Paul didn't include himself in helping people.

[@marteent3090]

He wasn't empathetic to himself. Didn't feel that he was important enough to receive.

[@DamonCart]

Correct

[@utubesebas]

He didn’t consider him equally deserving of the things he gave out

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@fitmamaofantastik4694]

He wasn't counting himself in

[@DamonCart]

Correct

[@paulodeoliveira1501]

Paul percebeu que ele estava deixando de lado a pessoa mais importante: ele próprio.

[@DamonCart]

Si

[@Tagukon]

He did not include himself as a receiver of empathy

[@DamonCart]

Exactly

[@dfordtru]

He wasn't allowing himself to benefit from his own empathy.

[@deniseviljoen2196]

Himself

[@tolkstein]

Self-empathy. Is that a word? He did not include himself as a person to be empathetic towards.

[@DamonCart]

Correct. He did not include himself in his own empathy.

[@pingenai]

He excludes himself from the rest of the “people”

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@gixerdiaz]

He didn’t see himself as one of the people who needs help

[@oohlalascateringservice7679]

Paul suffers from lack of self empathy, self grace and self mercy? Continuing video....

[@robbyravenwoodandthefunhou4626]

himself

[@DamonCart]

Yep

[@Cathy-u9m]

himself.

[@LilMOMMAson]

I identify as a sweet potato

[@DamonCart]

Excellent! How's that working out for you?

[@rominingthoujam1589]

He left himself out

[@DamonCart]

Indeed

[@chinothedreamgiver1629]

Stop video- He doesn’t believe he can have empathy towards himself and help himself? So like every one else is first, instead of equal and he is worthy to accept help himself. BACK- I would like to see whole video of transformation 😮

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@justthatguy3512]

He noticed he also is a person

[@terryburress4959]

He forgot himself.

[@johnathanlindsay6852]

He forgot about himself

[@psharan]

Too much of explanation and interruptions .. why so much hurry

[@DamonCart]

So you don't want me to explain what I'm explaining?

[@jugglingdrummer]

left out himself

[@TimothyLancaster-w1u]

He left out himself.

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@ei4gob]

He left himself out of the story