Re-Parenting - Part 88 - Culture, Attachment and Shame

[@suzijorgensen6545]

Thanks for your support and helpful information. Something happened to me when I was just turning 4-5 years old. I was looking at my little body in the mirror one day, and I asked my mother, "What are these little dimples on my tummy? Her reply was, "Oh, it just means that you're a bit fat". I literally felt a blanket of SHAME came over me....and I was on a downward spiral from then on

[@JasG-fi6dp]

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[@hmart276]

❤

[@AurelienCarnoy]

You are not your body. You are not any of the things you can see, feel, or even think. If you perceive it, then it is because it is in front of you. You are that which perceives. You are even able to perceive that you perceive . That is self awareness. That is ever present. Unchanging. That is what you refer to as "I am" when you say i like chocolate 😅

[@AurelienCarnoy]

You might also notice that at the same time as you received shame, you also received love. A secret love, as it is shameful to feel ashamed but shameful people recognize each other.

[@dranmac]

Siblings have greatly contributed to my cptsd

[@godislove8740]

this where Rambo helps me "Let it go, leet iit goh". I'm ashamed to say I'm now attached to Rambo then the Reacher series came out. Lesson for me was one of Being - In control and not Being - Forced into Action. Class is on.

[@avonleamontague2469]

I sometimes forget that my siblings probably also have CPTSD. I wish they'd consider that I do, too. And as misunderstood as it may make me feel, they'd probably say I've contributed to theirs as well. Fun times this CPTSD is.

[@oscarmax3242]

This talk was especially helpful. Thank you so much for all that you do to help people understand and to heal.

[@beatrice349]

All the videos you have made and your caring energy behind them have helped me so much through the past few years. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

You're such a light, Tim. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@gabegibby6515]

This video was awesome. Was spending a lot of time looking at family trauma but couldnt seem to trace any more hurt back to it. This helps me feel validated in experiences i had outside the hope which I think played a big role for me.

[@JsusCrisis]

I had to listen to my mother and all her adult troubles burdens, once she was done she went working, never asking about my feeling.. she was was often away we where at home with stephfather who fysickly abused us and once sexually abused my sister,

[@grahamthegrand]

I really enjoy your content Tim, i’d love to help you get your stuff on podcasts. Would be great to be able to listen to your talks on the go. Thanks for all you do.

[@NarrelleChain]

When i was older, i got message from narcissistic personality disordered 2 sisters that i was an ugly failure, i was alcoholic/addict, i didn't realise until my 60s that they had been gaslighting me, they were actually jealous psychopaths, i don't speak to them now, is bliss!😂😂😂😂

[@BRANDNEW715]

❤❤❤ this is so enlightening!!

[@rebeccaconn389]

This was very helpful … I see some attachment issues from my parents … but definitely issues with all the other environments that you mentioned … makes much more sense now. Trauma and shame from so many different places. Church, school, peers, siblings…

[@kathy1001]

🙏❤🙏❤ Thank you, Tim.

[@lynnettekirvida182]

Thank you for addressing the sibling component. I'm in my 50's and knew that my childhood was hard because of my relationship with my older brother. More recently, I came to realize the impact. This is rarely recognized or considered in my experience. Thankfully, my brother and I have a close relationship now, but I do believe our unhealthy relationship growing up contributed to my insecure attachments as an adult.

[@dranmac]

One of the cornerstones of attachment is security, and security depends of many things. It’s obvious attachment with parents are not the only focus, although the most powerful in its capacity to harm or heal

[@ChrisOgunlowo]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@ponytail911]

Fantastic video! Thank you.

[@carpe_snarkum4612]

Thank you, this is helpful!

[@danhicks.]

Another good one Tim 😊👍🏼

[@truthministry7462]

Powerful

[@beadingbelle3486]

I'm not sure that mental, physical & sexual abuse between parents which the child witnesses on a regular basis was mentioned.

[@marijana7656]

...and then we're the sick ones for not adjusting to these kinds of societal structures 🙄