Reacting to ADHD TikToks 😬

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[@doddleoddle]

The way u said “does not everybody have a clothes pile” sounded very BRITISH

[@stevie]

Ahhhhhh

[@MzClementine]

@@stevie it may be a bit of a gibberish mess. Pardon me. I have too many things in my life. I don't want to add something else. I will never be diagnosed. I will not allow it. I'm cool. Oh my God. Are you kidding me. No no no no no. Seriously. I do a thousand things at once. I run around the house, and remember all the things that I walked away from. Is that seriously ADHD? What? Literally I've never looked into this because I'm like no. No more disorders. No more genetic syndromes. Seriously though I have so much on my plate but what? This is really ADHD, crap. A 20 minute dinner takes me an hour and a half. Don't at me 🤣 😂😂🤣 I'm only 4 minutes and 39 seconds in and this is making me quite emotional. Shoot. Like seriously this is how it happens, because it happens in my daily life. 17 minutes and 28 seconds? Can I handle this? I'm laughing I'm laughing right now I'm I'm laughing. Making light of the situation. It'll be okay. Object permanence there's a name for it. I don't want to tell you how many light bulbs I have out, and I only realize they're out when I turn them on. I know this because it just happened. Again what the phk 😟 You can always reach the toilet paper from the counter you know. Oh my God. But I have to admit I get really excited whenever I actually put a roll on. Oh my God. Close piles. What? What? You know whenever I first met my husband he never had a clothes pile. He still doesn't. God love him he brought me a a rolling laundry basket so pretty so nice what has a huge pile on top of it and then I have a few other ones you know just a few. They're in my room where the door is shut so nobody sees them. And I don't hang out in my living room so it's nice and clean. No piles. Although there's some boxes in there.. 🙈🤔 I just bought audible last night what the actual hell is going on what was the universal lining saying you really need to watch this because watch it. There are a few books that I want to read and I'm having a lot of trouble getting through them, all three of them yeah because who reads three books at one time? Me. Okay so what if someone hyper focuses on many things. And not just one thing? I bet you know that I don't accomplish a lot in a day but guess what, we have a week that turns into a month and you know. It gets done. oh my God I can't believe this. Oh my God you have ehlers danlos? I'm hypermobile and vascular. That's what I meant in the beginning of my comment I have a lot on my plate no reason to add something else in there. I feel bad cuz I interrupt people a lot too. I have to mentally tell myself to be quiet be quiet be quiet and then I'm like pay attention to what they're saying did you hear what they just said. Please don't ever ask me to memorize your name in the first year that we meet. It takes a good year for me to understand your name or learn it okay. Okay I just took a break and I spoke with my husband. I was like holy crap I have never ever investigated a DHD look at that I said it wrong whoops talk text. So I said holy moly I truly think I have ADHD, my husband says Jesus out of 21 years you finally realize that. I said wait a second you've known the whole time. He said yes why do you think I lie to you so that you can be on time. Why do you think I go ahead and fix everything that you don't fix because you forgot about it. Why do you think I allow you to interrupt me because you need to get that mind flow out or else you'll forget about it and blame it on me later. Because it was so important which nine times out of 10 it really is so I think it's precious you interrupt me just to get out what you have to say so you can get it out of your brain. He's like darling I love you so much. Sweetheart you have ADHD and I've known this whole time. He started naming off different things that I do, he laughed and said I bet you any money there's a link within your connective tissue disorder. I said oh my God I'm watching a video right now where a woman had just brought that up. My husband, so sweet and endearing. He says, darling I love everything about you. But to be honest with you, I would love to see you focus on one thing. I laughed and I said there's a girl on here that says oh my God people can actually just focus on one thing. No joke it's impossible for me to meditate. I mean I can shut things down whenever I go to sleep. That's why I have to listen to scary stories when I sleep. It helps my mind go quiet. Oh my God. I'm shook. I am seriously shook. I wonder if my son knows too. The whole thing on finding things moods everything. I'm 14 minutes and 41 seconds in. I'm flabbergasted. I can't believe this. I just thought it was hyperactivity. Like you couldn't sit down. I had no idea it was all of these things, in a hens basket, with a goat and a cow, and the kite. Taking a ride on Puff the magic dragon. Don't forget to pass, it's un- polite to puff and not pass. So in school. I couldn't understand in first grade why they dropped off our lesson in science, and picked it back up in third grade. That was a hypocrisy to me. They wouldn't let me take out the third grade book to finish the lesson. So I convinced my grandmother to write a check, yes I'm not old. And buy me the book so I could finish the lesson. I would finish all the lessons before everyone in the class I already knew the answers and a lot of times I didn't have to study for them. Always above level. So above level they didn't know where to stick me. When we would get taught a lesson I would be like why are you dropping it and not picking it up next week we're going on to a whole another subject oh don't worry you'll pick that up in third grade what? Like if you're going to build a castle you don't do it on quicksand. Why give me a fractal bit of information that I have to hold on to for 2 years and not know the ending. You're crazy. I guess that's hyper focused huh. Holy crap. I'm 44 years old and I'm just like realizing this. I mean I got chills. They're multiplying. Yeah I got that song stuck in my head now. What the actual heck? What? Medications don't work well with me because of my EDS? Yeah I'm kind of scared of medication. Kind of slows down my digestion and I don't want to get gastroparesis again. I'm actually really proud to say that I have EDS hyper mobile and vascular and I'm not on anything. Besides Puff the magic dragon and my delicious kratom tea. But like do we actually have to take medication to actually be able to focus? But I can focus but I can't focus. Sh hhhhh.... Oh I will finish a series in a day. I just put it on fast mode and listen. My husband's like how can you absorb any information. And blah blah blah blah tell it to him and he's like whoa you can actually understand that. Yep. I'm a good girl I never ruin things for him though. I like people to have joy in their lives. I promise you I won't tell you what happens. But I won't promise you that whenever I'm sitting there watching it with you that I'm not going to yell and talk at the TV. Or the movie screen. I can't promise that. Unless I'm chewing hubba bubba, or bubble tape. That's practically the only way you can really get me to shut up.. I love blowing bubbles and snapping my gum. I found that out years ago that my husband would always have a whole bunch of gum for me to chew whenever we would watch a movie together. I find that so sweet. But I had no idea that all these methods to my madness or actually a reality of ADHD. And I'm not self-diagnosing anything but God damn I hit every single thing in this video. I'm okay I'm okay. No I'm not no I'm not. What the hell? This is me selling off the edge of the Earth but actually finding out that the ocean just keep going and going. Go figure. Well Rome wasn't rebuilt in a day. That's my excuse for everything. Shoot. How can you rebuild it if you can't focus on it.?! Your video just gave me the biggest smack of reality. I don't even know where to go with this. I'm a little wigged out right now. Like one of those fluffy wigs that you buy from Amazon you're so excited, it only cost you $10. It most certainly looks like a wig, you wear it for a day, and you wind up looking like a person that has been struck by lightning, with hair growing out of their forehead, and no part to be had. Oh my gosh. Frazzled. Well, I'm going to go brush my fro out, and melt it with my flat iron. These are all euthanisms euphemisms. There that's better. Talk text, cheers. I reposted this on your name just hoping that you would see this. You have flabbergasted me. And bless my husband. I had to call him. Oh my goodness oh my goodness. I'm shook I'm so shook. I mean everything to a tee even your EDS. And I don't mean your tea I mean everything that they were explaining. I had no idea. Absolutely none. You may find my comment and comments, but I was really hoping that you would see this. I'm not trying to self-diagnose or anything like that but oh my gosh. I had no idea I had absolutely no idea. I thought ADHD was all about hyperactivity. 🙈🤦🏻‍♀️🤔🤭🥴😅 Please forgive the comments that have no flow because I was watching it as I was writing it. Called my husband in the middle and then finished it off. I'm sorry it's so dis-conjointed. I try to rewrite things but this one I'm just letting all the bladder out. Whoa is... me.... Little ol' me. Complete and utterly mind blown. I can't wait until my son wakes up from his nap. Don't fret he's not a child he's a young adult soon to be 18. I wonder if he knows too.

[@deepanshu564]

7:17 do you know what's different how neurotypicals and adhers perceive this sound as ? I'm not diagnosed by a professional but I'm thinking to get an appointment

[@irfansyahril8511]

AHHH DODIE

[@domzhawk1651]

I'm a therapist and I LOVE that ADHD is getting more attention because it is sooo much more complicated than people realize and presents so differently in everyone

[@lifesquixotic]

I feel like almost everyone i know has adhd though. So does everyone have adhd? Or do we just live in a distraction heavy world?

[@rosieblyther444]

@@lifesquixotic it's a little more complex than that. I notice this happens a lot with any type of illness, mental or physical, that has been historically underdiagnosed and only researched in white males, will have a research breakthrough that will lead to a surge of people that have been told for years they are making stuff up, finally have an answer.

[@MzClementine]

@@rosieblyther444 no joke I just got off the phone with my husband. I don't subscribe to this girl she just popped up in my feed my thumb accidentally touched it. It's like the universe just came together hello hello yes my dear you must watch this. I asked my husband, do you think I have ADHD? He laughs and says oh darling you don't know that? You love the human body, you have a protocol for cirrhosis of the liver, and hepatitis. You help so many people. 21 years of marriage and you didn't realize that you had ADHD. Everything that these people were talking about and doing in their videos I do. He's in trucking every time he comes home he fixes all the lights in the house. I don't understand why someone can't just reach for the toilet paper. Although I get really excited whenever I put it on the roll. Piles? Clothes? I plead the fifth. And they're behind closed doors so you can't judge me. Boxes, all those too. I'm flabbergasted. He laughed at me and says sweetheart do you know how many times you start, and it takes you a bit to finish them as you walk around the house going oh I was doing this oh I was doing that oh I was doing this. Dinner that'll take you 20 minutes to do will take you an hour and a half. We've been eating European hours since I met you. And I said you don't know that I might have been born in Europe in another life. And I'm just stuck on that time zone. He laughed and said no darling, things just distract you too easily. I said you're okay with that, he said of course I love you, and it's okay that you always interrupt me. I know you're just trying to get what you need to get out of your head when you're thinking about it because if you let go of it you won't remember for a while and sometimes they're important details that you must get out. I said sometimes. Hahahaha 🖖🏼😏 I'm a little flabbergasted right now. This young lady in the video said it may be connected to her ehlers-danlos syndrome. I have EDS hypermobile and vascular. I mean like you couldn't check these boxes off, what am I kidding yeah you can check every one of them off. I actually joined audible last night. I'm just in the start of my free trial. Yes I have three books going on Kindle. I thought to myself maybe it would help me if I listened so that I wouldn't kind of drift off and want to jump into something else and then something else you know who reads three books at one time I realize that. My husband says to me see darling, it's okay I've always known. I'm shook. Absolutely shook. I'm 44 years old and this stuff has been around forever, and I'm just realizing this. I mean this is like Twilight zone for me. You can totally do a skit off of me. I keep on going wait no oh wait no oh wait oh oh oh... Golf clapping turned into check out this beat. He he.... Oh my goodness. I don't even know where to go with this. What what what🙈🤔😟🙈 🤦🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@auzzietravels8002]

Hey I feel like I have adhd and seen to relate to all those things but I know my family will think I’m just lying or forcing myself into believing something

[@sukisukughost]

ADHD also doesnt have much rep so its nice to let it be seen for once

[@easilystartled2203]

ADHD tiktok motivated me to see my doctor only to find out I have been diagnosed since 2013 and my doctor not only didn't tell me but threw me on every anti-psychotic and SSRI to deal with my associated depression and anxiety and never actually addressed my diagnosed adhd. So if you're wondering if you have it, go to the doctor and advocate for yourself ENDLESSLY. Be insistent. You are your only advocate and cannot count on the medical system to operate within your best interests.

[@job5236]

I have a chronic illness and strongly agree with the part about the medical system. Doctors are humans. They don't mean to make mistakes, but they make A LOT of mistakes. Always trust your instinct and your body more than what doctors are telling you. If something feels off, GET A SECOND OPINION. I know seeing a second doctor costs a lot. But just think of how much trouble you might save yourself! If your doctor was wrong, you'll struggle for years because of a wrong diagnosis. But when you finally get the right answers, you can also get the help you need.

[@alexandrahenderson4368]

I was diagnosed as a kid but wasn't told by my family until I landed a job that doesn't allow ADHD people to work there..... They told me only because they knew I couldn't get medicated until I retire.... I'm 19. Retirement is so far.

[@ashtaylor4107]

@@alexandrahenderson4368 what job is able to legally say people with adhd can’t work there? That’s concerning.

[@spaceheroes2]

The tiktok Stevie didn't get (where the person is organizing their pantry, but then throws the boxes in a pile) was so relatable to me! It seems like I'm a perfectionist when it's inconsequential (like making sure cans are perfectly lined up), but not when it's important (like just throwing boxes and clothes into unorganized piles)

[@stevie]

Yeah I guess I didn’t get it Bc if I don’t think it’s important then it’s not important!

[@spaceheroes2]

@@stevie Definitely understandable

[@persephone210]

Diagnosed two years ago and the toothbrush/toilet paper one, omg lol. "Just do it when you think of it because it won't exist in 5 minutes" is my main strategy for getting little things done, but sometimes it doesn't work very well and you end up with the one where she's got 47 tasks halfway done lol

[@paulmiller7838]

I still haven't managed to figure that one out. I often walk into another room and my wife will look at me and say "why did you walk in here with a confused look on your face" and I'll reply "because I can't remember why I came in here". I know there was a reason.... I knew it 1 room ago... fuck if I can remember though.

[@HeyRowanEllis]

guess who is getting her assessment in the next couple of months!!

[@bigpharma2221]

getting mine in 2 weeks

[@RainasRoom]

I'm getting assessed August 2nd :3

[@gemstonerose4648]

Just got my letter from psychiatry uk yesterday

[@TelkaP]

Yes! Congrats!!

[@AvoryFaucette]

Yay team assessment! I'm now on month four of trying to just get access to mental health care, thanks Medicaid, but I'm hoping to be able to get mine within the next couple of months. You'd think "unable to work or like, function at all" would be enough to get an appointment, but I guess we're all struggling in this pandemic.

[@edorasmarauder5761]

I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD since I was in 3rd grade, and I have been taking medication for years, and the one day the pharmacy is having delivery troubles, I felt like gravity was increasing on me, and I was constantly zoning out.

[@annaanna6411]

Lately I've had a sneaking suspition that I might be autistic but I'm now realizing I might actually have adhd or both... And it's all thanks to social media and having access to the experiences of actual neurodiverget people. I feel like I actually see myself for the first time. All my struggles make so much sense now and it's such a relief. But I'm so scared to go to a doctor about it and be told I don't fit the criteria. Apparently it's really hard to get diagnosed where I live. There's loads of old stereotypes and misinformation.

[@gwenbeauvais7973]

I have ADHD and I find that the only thing that helps me focus on writing is classical music because if it has lyrics and I know the song I will get distracted and sing or if it is a new song I will want to listen to it over and over again until I have committed it to memory!

[@justthatgamergirl1]

I once learnt the lyrics to blue by Eiffel 65 instead of revising

[@wrengrant4678]

Newest push to get myself an adhd asessment: realising due to everyone around me wearing masks all day at work, me with my completely fine hearing still needs to lipread to fully understand people...so that's my current fave adhd thing

[@BANANA-sy7cr]

Goddamnit THAT`s why i have such hard time understanding anyone these days!!! Thank you for this revelation

[@thelittlestpika]

Someone described ADHD as burst of energy that can only be used on one specific thing like a carnival ride ticket and I felt like I was seen.

[@dango_rat]

there's a good side to lack of object permanence! if you see something awful (meme, yt video etc) its pretty easy to move on from being annoyed and get into next thing lol. meanwhile my friends next to me are still suffering from the damage of the awful thing yall perceived

[@carleena]

I watched 2 girls one cup, and the next minute was completely fine and had completely forgoten about it just because of my cute cat looking at me

[@cheezpuffg0rawr]

I had one of apparently many preassessments for ADHD and I wish I could have remembered these TikToks because I relate so HARD but when asked "why do you think you have ADHD?" my mind goes more blank than "Tell me about yourself?".

[@persephone210]

Recall just being inaccessible on the spot is, ironically, absolutely a symptom lol

[@MichaelDDarling]

Legit I've started a list of reasons I think I have it, just so I can bust it out when I finally have my first appointment 😅

[@nikk-named]

@@MichaelDDarling someone on tiktok literally recommended that as a thing to start, so guess what I'm NOT doing, since that has now become a project idea? 🤦

[@riclange1135]

Imagine finding out when you are 55 that you have severe ADHD. Wow, that is why middle school and high school were such a nightmare. Once medicated properly your world changes and everything seems to clear up. So much of your childhood also makes sense. And now again without the medication, Docs don’t like to use it after the open heart surgery life turns once again. Symptoms return but they are like old friends you have had around your whole life, in the open or not in the open they have been there. Now retired, some of the hyper focus is less important so you can go weeks in the ADHD state with little or nothing completed. Loved your video, so many truths “they” will never understand. Life at 76 and no meds can be really entertaining. Be well and good luck.

[@kylersaurus42]

Yeah, I was diagnosed when I was like 8 with ADHD. I was labeled as gifted cause I CAN do anything, I just get distracted by everything and nothing. And I often knit or crochet or draw when I watch TV...and I always know who the bad guy is when they walk on the screen

[@persephone210]

"I know you can do better than this" "You have so much *potential*, but you're not using it" ☠☠☠ And then comes the guilt

[@kylersaurus42]

@@persephone210 yup! ALL of that. 💙

[@pashpash23]

Got diagnosed this year at 33 with ADHD, currently on meds now and it does feel like putting glasses for the first time!

[@michellehuang3129]

So happy for you!

[@lulub517]

Me too! I got diagnosed a few days ago and my energy levels have never felt so controllable! like one of the things since taking my stimulants is I've never not had the urge to fall asleep during the day or escape reality in someway, but now I feel like I want to engage in the real world. I feel like something has really puzzled the pieces together and I finally know who I am!

[@csage04]

i noticed JUST YESTERDAY that if i’m doing multiple tasks at once that i will move one of the objects for one task around every once in a while when i randomly remember between tasks but then when i am actually ready for that task i can’t find the object that i was mindlessly moving around the house.

[@SisterSnowySpace]

The lesser known symptoms one, I'm like "Wait, these ALL fit, do I have ADHD?" 😳 Also the "do it now or you forget", I also have real bad awareness of time and sudden urges to clean stuff up. I might go and make an appointment with my doctor soon.

[@psychopathetic5341]

As much as I understand why ADHD meds (and other mental health meds) can't be gotten online without a prescription, it's also so frustrating because people with incredibly strict and/or abusive parents have no access to meds whatsoever and they tend to be among the more vulnerable populations

[@alexandrahenderson4368]

Yes exactly. Like I need them but I can't let my employers find out

[@myawatkins8149]

queen of seamlessly adding ads in SO WELL

[@sarahm857]

One thing I do having ADHD is let's say start straightening my hair...and then get distracted...and then start doing my hair again...and then need a break 2 seconds later...and this will just continue 😂 I didnt know "I got ready wierd" until someone pointed it out lol

[@alphaz27]

Haven't gotten diagnosed yet but alot of ADHD tiktoks are too relatable

[@taylor4379]

I had a panic attack the first time I took medication in like 8th grade. My mom had to come to school. I was freaking out. I remember saying "before, my thoughts were like a million books lying on the floor opened to the pages I left them on and I remembered where they all were. But on medication its like someone came through the library, closed every book, and shelved them." Needless to say, I quit taking it.

[@maxstevam430]

jesus thank you. I've been doubting and feeling bad about self diagnosing, but this compilation hit my soul deeply. how do i show this to a doctor who doesnt listen to me

[@llGemini19]

Omg that reading tip is GENIUS! I have so many books I want to read, but just can never focus on. But having the audio version playing as well as having the physical copy is a life changer!! Ughh bless ADHD tiktok tbh!

[@chip3003]

The only time Im able to hyper focus is when I'm reading, and it isn't something I can control I would be reading then I'd forget about everything else to the point where I didn't even here teachers call upon me

[@dAfoodie101]

12:05 STOP I HAVE ALWAYS MADE ORIGAMI WHILE IN CLASS I LITERALLY CANNOT WITHOUT IT

[@klarenee1123]

I feel EXTREMELY called out by the toothbrush one🤣🤣 and I don’t even have ADHD- but now I’m questioning my entire life😅

[@thatawesomegeekykid]

As someone who was only diagnosed with adhd very recently (last month), i love that it's getting more attention. I never would've looked into getting assessed because i didn't present with the "typical" (ie male) symptoms. It was only because a friend got herself diagnosed, and through her research for self advocating, recognized a lot of symptoms in me and suggested i get assessed. Even then, i didn't think about it seriously until my sister was diagnosed with severe adhd in her mid twenties. Turns out i have basically no executive functions, and have just found ways to kind of live a vaguely functional life

[@amberkendle656]

Last night my husband got mad at me and said we were never watching movies at night again because it took me 30 minutes to finally sit down to watch it. I sat, got up for water, sat, got up to put ice in my water, sat, got up to go to the bathroom, sat, got up to make popcorn, sat, forgot about the popcorn and started the movie, heard the microwave stop, stopped movie to go get popcorn, sat, started movie, stopped movie to go get salt because the popcorn tasted like cardboard, sat, started the movie, stopped the movie to throw away the popcorn.

[@justthatgamergirl1]

Thanks for this, I keep thinking I don’t have it as I don’t have every symptom so it’s good that you said you don’t either. I’ve been thinking about it years.

[@jennifervasquez]

Literally had no idea i had adhd until i started watching neurodivergent tiktok comps n was like wait a sec n finally got diagnosed 2 days ago at the ripe age of 20

[@imakedoodleslol]

i was literally watching this video while doing some drawing on my computer, then i realised i needed my sketchbook to reference something, stood up to find it, then got distracted by moving my cat's radiator bed on the way, then spoke to my partner about needing to find something, then sat back down again and remembered OH it was my sketchbook then went around to find it again only to get occupied by the freezer in the kitchen and a cornetto icecream i remembered i wanted earlier then i sat back down at my desk again then, only to remember AGAIN i needed my sketchbook. i got up again only to come back to my desk after talking to my partner about how i was watching a video on ADHD and THEN when i sat down again, i was about to stand up again trying to find my sketchbook only to i finally see that the bag that my sketchbook was in was right next to me the entire time.

[@fingerpunch45]

Honestly TikTok also has so much misleading content regarding ADHD (thankfully Josie sorted out the more accurate ones first for you so you didn’t have to see those ones) and it was so interesting watching this because (similarly to narcissism) ADHD has a very superficial reputation in being just “unable to focus” and so many people have a very inaccurate idea of what it is. I did too so watching this I was better able to grasp how difficult some of the symptoms can be for neurodivergent individuals. It’s just so interesting and I appreciate you helping further explain how this effects people in their day-to-day life.

[@mygenderisdje]

Oh my god I’m so glad you’re back!! I’ve been watching a bunch of videos and learning from you lately so I’m glad you’re still posting!!!

[@smiffysmrs]

This video was the first time I considered myself to be ND (see my comment from one year ago lol). It was a bit of a shock tbh, but after researching a lot I decided to get myself on the waiting list fire a diagnosis. Two daya ago I was told that I'm very neuro diverse, that I definitely have ADHD and should also should consider an assessment for autism pmsl. Quite a bit away from the very neuro typical person that I thought I was pmsl. My diagnosis explains so much and I have this video to thank for starting the wheels turning. Thank you Stevie xxxx

[@liljuggala]

I was diagnosed with extreme ADHD at a young age. I was even almost medically separated from the navy so to how severe it is. I relate to almost everything in this video. Especially the issues with other people being late when I am on time and marathoning shows

[@kriyab4071]

Lmao I just realised the light above my shower is broken whilst watching that tiktok at 5:40 while brushing my teeth😄 Then I remembered it's been broken for years

[@rosieblyther444]

The wild thing for me watching these is that I'm not ADHD but since I've become disabled with so much brain fog, I can now relate to like 90% off ADHD symptoms! I think it's super weird for me because I have always been super organized, always on time, gets to do lists done every day... now I'm like "wait, it's already 5 pm?! I thought it was still 10 am and I had more time to do my tasks!" and more. I definitely think EDS and some of my neuro symptoms are causing it because I never had the diagnostic criteria before. So interesting!

[@vildeve818]

I've seen a lot of ADHD specific tips, like put things you need to be doing in the open so you remember to do them when you see the thing lol

[@rittj.1303]

I've been diagnosed since i was 8, it's really fun seeing all the videos and posts people put out now! Though sometimes I have that moment of "that's not weird that's normal- oh wait"

[@marcrecord3991]

Hi Stevie, Found out I've got ADHD a few months ago. Been watching you for 2 years and noticed you've made comments about neurodivergence a few times, but I couldn't find anywhere that you specified it. I did guess ADHD though 😉 Thanks for making this video to reduce stigma and increase representation 🖤

[@lyssasletters3232]

Brains and minds are so fascinating. Thanks for creating this video and spreading awareness about neurodivergence!

[@ravenclawallday6213]

The thing you said about planning panic attacks and tried that too relatable

[@unidentified6495]

Was recently diagnosed with ADHD at 14 after struggling in school for 3 years and constantly asking my parents to take me to a psychiatrist for a diagnosis, currently going to therapy and getting meds with in 2 weeks after long mental and emotional struggles

[@Cattia5]

These videos are great! I do not have adhd, but my husband and 6 year old son do. Understanding why they do the things they do is so helpful! My son is medicated and it was the best choice we've made for him. He is still him, but a calmed down slightly more focused him.

[@rainbownerladybounce]

I have ADHD. Diagnosed within the last year... maybe year and a half? I'm 33 now. So a long history of absolute chaos, and thinking I'm just lazy and not trying hard enough 👍👍👍 Super good for my self esteem 🙃 Lol. Now I'm meditated and things finally make more sense. Plus I'm learning tricks to help myself all the time. Struggling to remember many right now though 😬 But one that has helped me a lot recently, with keeping my living space tidier, is bins. Bins for everything. Everything has a bin or a place. So if I still struggle with keeping it tidy, when I go to clean it's not much thinking and worrying about where to put things. Idk if this is helpful or just an obvious common practice. But it wasn't obvious to me lol. Edit to add my age, seems relevant.

[@loribarbosa9]

HAHA! The girl brushing her teeth is me for sure. What a mess in my brain. I find lately my ADHD has been worse and more forgetful or to many tasks going on. My brain in like a phone off 1000 apps open or in the background still running

[@uhohspaghettios2391]

I wasn't diagnosed until 24/25, and when I was, I had to take "classes" from my psychiatrist's office before they could actually treat me for it (state regulations, I think). Despite those classes and having a psychiatric nurse practitioner who actually *has ADHD*, I learned more about ADHD and its symptoms from TikTok than from any medical provider.

[@sydneyharp1989]

I have been recently diagnosed with ADD and I wish there was more talk about it. Because I needed help! I was an obvious case but I didn’t even know it wasn’t normal. I hate to think of all the people suffering just like I was/am. I was so excited to try medication most of my biggest struggles had a solution.

[@Xxxypher]

All of these spoke to me... I have never been diagnosed with ADHD but knew I had some form of neurodivergent condition but just pinned it on my dyslexia 😅

[@exbaddeathgod]

While better help sounds great, in practice it's awful. They have unqualified councilors (people have been hired without their credentials checked), at times will ignore your preferences to match you with someone faster. My personal experience was my councilor canceled half of my appointments, only held half time appointments and never was available to me during the week like she promised. This service is unfortunately a scam.

[@Abi-zs9ff]

One of the things i love about having no object permanence is that i am gleefully surprised by things i forgot i owned

[@mariebourgot4949]

^^

[@EldritchDoe]

Congrats on getting the meds you need again🥳 I hope they'll help you.

[@kaylashaw1994]

Well now I’m going to go get a diagnosis 😅😅 also explaining the tik tok you were confused about (the neat folding/perfectionism vs throwing things in piles) - sometimes you feel aligned and hyperfocused enough to do things but you HAVE to do them properly or heck it don’t bother / vs scramble brain days where you find it impossible to do anything orderly and crap just keeps piling up. For like 2-3 days my apartment will be super clean and I’ll be obsessed with picking up after myself consistently, whereas for the 8 days after I will leave everything everywhere and not give a single fuck (like really do not care at all I would rather do anything else in the world) and then freak out that I am living in such conditions and start the cycle again. Brains are fun!! Love this video thanks Stevie (from a not super consistent but very longtime follower) 💖

[@kylersaurus42]

I relate SO HARD to so much of this!! You're not alone. I finished the entire Orphan Black series in 3 days. That's 5 seasons. Also, I laughed so hard so many times! I get it!! 😂🤣😑

[@baguettegott3409]

The 60 seconds trying to clean/get stuff done one was EXCRUCIATING. I don't have adhd, I'm autistic, and sometimes these things overlap and have similar symptoms (like the auditory processing issues). But that one? Hell no. That made me so nervous just to watch. For all the ways my brain betrays me when I like... talk to people, or have to make a change in my routine - I'm really glad it doesn't do THAT.

[@saintessa]

People self-diagnosing invalidates people who actually struggle. I suspected it since 2014 and only JUST got my assessments, last one is about a week away. It was VERY in depth and took me YEARS to have any professional listen to me, but I remember thinking back then "hopefully in like 5-10 years people will globally pay more attention to it and taking people seriously, and I hope that's what this all is . (not you, Stevie, but some people who self -diagnose)

[@gingersal8052]

You have such a lovely personality! I find the subject very interesting (suspected I had Adhd a while back, now not sure at all) but would honestly watch you react to anything.

[@AwesomeAsadaf]

6:10 Related to this one a lot. I don't exactly forget my friends and loved ones _exist_ (like I know they're out there living their lives), but if I don't interact with them on a regular basis, the relationship gets... muted? Less tangible? Something. Feels less real somehow. Texting doesn't really help with that much. Talking on the phone or over voice chat is better, but only by a little. Video chatting is probably the best long distance option for making people feel real, but in person interaction is unbeatable by a long shot. Unfortunately, with the way life functions as we get older, hanging out in person becomes a lot harder to do on a frequent basis... Edit to say: it's kinda like the longer I go without tangible interaction with my loved ones, the more they become concepts in my mind than people (which feels like a terrible thing to say). I still love them and miss them, but often don't realize how much until that interaction happens again. (Which sucks cause I'll think about doing it, but it just... never actually happens)

[@Abs0408]

ADHD symptoms are mostly just jacked up normal people things that are super exaggerated which is why a ton of people think they might have it. But there’s much more too it then meets the eye. When I tell people I have adhd they either respond “I could tell.” Or “oh I think I might have adhd!” And I see a lot of adhd symptoms in my friends, but they clearly don’t experience all of the things I do. Or have the insecurities or RSD. I’m not a medical professional.

[@cuartemi6582]

The music that was garbled and sounded backwards was from the sims! They got the actual musicians to come in and sing their songs in simlish! It’s definitely how I hear most music too lmao

[@emilyquinn984]

Me, who can't remember where things are and forgets things that were immediately put down yet can navigate a city flawlessly, who has a million bruises from running into things at work, who's also watching this while playing a game on their phone to focus.

[@tylerbeales1987]

I find out the results of my testing I've had on Tuesday I pretty much know I have something just because of how much school sucked academicly for me I'm grate at art and other tactile classes but not at math or English. Love your videos Stevie thank you for spending time on this topic it is rarely talked about.

[@MissAdeleJayde]

I’m in the middle of a diagnosis (so GP pretty much diagnosed me but I am waiting for a psychiatrist to give me the official stamp and med permit) and when I tell you that reading hack CHANGED MY LIFE. 👌🏽 it’s sooo good.

[@Samantha-Who-Writes]

12:30 I am an artist, and I have this problem. people ask me why I draw so much when I'm watching TV. I usually have to force myself not to draw but the movie gets so freaking boring because my brain is upset about it so I don't enjoy it. So most of the time I draw.

[@ravina6686]

That reading trick works really well for neurotypical people too! Used it in school for dense academic texts.

[@may4026]

Yes! Just found out at 27 two months ago and I started watching you years ago. I love your videos and tbh you talk at the perfect speed.

[@thiswildelifex]

I was recently diagnosed and these tiktoks make me feel so seen and validated

[@jennastannard7085]

I feel like I might have adhd but my counselor dissuaded me from seeking a diagnosis unless I wanted medication. But all of this is way too relatable to how I cope/ fail to cope with things

[@jadyn_sage]

Asking for your first-born isn't far from the truth with Better Help. "More affordable" is definitely subjective. Even with the financial assistance I was given, I was only able to afford 2 months

[@UnknownVir]

10:00 yeah, not everyone lives like that 😅 I finally made a dedicated place for my clothes pile It was the difference between being highly organized in a very specific way and then just having piles.

[@marthag3537]

6:17 this is so sad but I genuinely have to look through who's on my snapchat priv story to remember who my friends are

[@BrynaMay]

Hello I have adhd and one of the hardest things for me is that like the brushing teeth one I will be in the middle of doing something then be like well imma forget what do I do like I don’t want to do this and it happens in sentences to I’ll be talking about one thing then another and also the one about the going from thing to thing and never finishing the first one oh also I got a new puppy he’s so cute he’s a therapy dog for my adhd cause mines sever but I also I have anxiety so he’s there for that too his name is chase what did you have for breackfast like if you believe me

[@CarolineFarrow]

In the process of getting my diagnosis, waiting for my GP to send my bloodwork to the treatment centre. I might have to remind them again, but of course I don't remember to do it until I remember then I forget again...I don't really get the audiobook one, I've never had a problem with hyper-focusing on a book and I don't think I could deal with listening to a chipmunk voice overriding the characters voices in my head, that would be awful.

[@TroX30540]

Hey ! I was diagnosed two times (ADHD), one time when i was 6 and the other at 24. I don't know when i was younger but it was just questions with a specialists for the second time. So, sometimesI feel like I don't have it and I'm just seeking attention. It gets worse when I see people having these weird things on tik tok happening and i don't relate.Awareness is good, but this is straight up false information and it can really make people self conscious. And writting this I also feel like I'm a fraud.

[@JuMixBoox]

I really need to work on my mental health and understand my neurodivergence better this year.

[@spacesheep2110]

11:15 is it normal that it sorta applies to lectures too like if i cant see the speaker (i try to lip read) or if they don’t have gestures that go with what they’re talking abt. idk maybe im just deaf? 🤣

[@blueskythinking6592]

positive of no object permanence: every time I look up and see a member of my family, I say "hello!" and get very excited because I've forgotten they're in the room. (not ADHD, but autism)

[@jessetaylor9685]

the fact that it took my like 40 minutes to finish watching this video lmao

[@casebeth]

Moving abroad and convincing the doctors there that the dx and meds you've had for years are indeed what you need is such a pain in the ass. I've had to do it a couple times. Hope your wait isn't too long.

[@alexandrahenderson4368]

The object permanence thing is weird for me because I don't forget people but I forget how I feel about them... Like they're strangers until we talk again and then I'm like "omg hi wow I 100% missed you"

[@blommastudios-tj9ni]

Example of a adhd person I just wanted to search up a totorial of how to animate on blender ended up watching an animation a how to basics beef Wellington and have still not made an animation on blender just did random walls

[@milkshakebananaz]

I got diagnosed with add a few months ago. My life on medication is much better. Nice to see you doing so well, steve

[@glorysmith1183]

The SCREAMMM 😭🤣 UGH and please do not envy object permanence it IS ABSOLUTELY EXHAUSTING and for me it's all or nothing and completely uncontrollable 🥺

[@charismathis9210]

OK about the object permanence! Me and my sister both have adhd and we never EVER remember to change the toilet paper in our shared bathroom bc we store the new rolls downstairs so even if we remember to change it on our ferry downstairs we get distracted by somthing els. But like I never remember it need changed until I'm stuck in the bathroom un able to wipe.

[@ShwintyKat]

got diagnosed at 27 and i have no idea what to do with myself when im medicated, it's like they've turned off my brain and now i can only do the task at hand?? dont like it

[@KatSmith3173]

Hey ive not been formally diagnosed with ADHD but i find i experience a lot of thes symptoms regularly (ironically i just never get round to setting up the process of getting diagnosed because i my attention is always elsewhere :p) BUT fun thing about a lack of object permanence since you couldnt think of one is i get wonderful surprises when i leave stuff out for myself like rediscovering that £5 i left in my jeans pocket and forgot about or finding out i bought myself some tasty cheeses and not realizing till i check the fridge a week later :p like a lovely surprise from past me ^^

[@stephaniebeckman6885]

Cracking up since I’ve been binging your channel from oldest to newest nonstop for the past couple of weeks! unmedicated since October, so yeah…

[@kaytiemyers2698]

Yeah today I was spinning around my kitchen and living room and I was like why can't I ...do... anything.... Then it was like ah, you're late on your meds... immediately sat down to take them. Got up at least 3 times before I finally took them .

[@annam.6494]

I have friends that take ages to reply to messages and always apologise (which they obvs don’t need to do) when they eventually reply and I’m like ‘no worries’ but what I’m really saying is ‘no worries I forgot we were having a conversation to begin with’ 😂

[@nhylers]

The more I hear/see people talk about ADHD, the more things I connect to myself but one thing I can't do is audio books/podcasts. I see people talk about them all the time now and it's often put forth as a solution for people with ADHD but I just can't do it. Firstly, sometimes audio books and podcasts remind me of ASMR and I can't stand ASMR, it makes me feel like there's a person standing up directly behind me breathing the words into my ear sometimes, really makes my skin crawl. Secondly, I think my brain is just very visually oriented so people will often say that I should do something else while I listen to the audiobook/podcast but all the tasks they give me are visual tasks like sweeping, doing laundry (chores essentially) and my brain just can't do it! If I'm doing a visual task, that will ALWAYS take precedence in my head over an audio task. The audio will simply be pushed to the back of my mind and forgotten or sometimes it'll even completely disrupt my ability to do the visual task because I HAVE to hyper focus on the audio to actually hear it/understand it which takes me out of the flow of my visual task. However, I can do more than one visual task at a time, like I can watch tv and play tetris on my phone and be able to keep up with both those things. I just can't do one audio task and visual task at the same time, my brain just can't work like that. I haven't seen a lot of other people ever bring anything like that up though. One thing I definitely relate to though is the lack of object permanence! Oh my gawd I've spent years being told I'm an asshole, or selfish or I "don't really care" about people who are actually really important to me, because I'm bad at remembering important dates, or keeping up with people if I don't see them all the time, or I forget someone's favourite coffee order if i haven't seen them in a few days and other things like that. Especially when I know I try SO hard sometimes!!! I'll work so hard to try to keep things in my brain and they still slip away from me, it's felt hopeless for years but seeing other people talk about this feeling, is finally making me feel like I'm not just broken, my brain's just different and that's ok.

[@0777sadie]

This is Literally me. Nobody wants to watch these types of things with me anymore... I always guess 2 seconds in n ruin it. And I'm usually playing a game on my phone or KZbin watching while I'm watching the movie.

[@Llamanescent]

I have ADHD and am fine with self-diagnosing to an extent, but strongly believe that people should follow up and have a doctor confirm their diagnosis if possible. It finally clicked in my head that I have it when I read something online with a person talking about their experience, but I got officially diagnosed a month or two later. It really is underdiagnosed, especially the inattentive type, which is what I have. My son has combined type and it was much more obvious because his symptoms are so visible.

[@sarahhiggins1515]

Ok I’m really convincing myself I have ADHD. I’ve been trying not to because I know its “so relatable” to a lot of neurotypicals. So I figured that’s what I was doing. But the stuff you talked about with object permanence and that including people and then me having to remind myself every few months to check in on someone because I forgot I hadn’t talked to them for months. And my parents always being mad at me for not bringing stuff down to the kitchen and them not understanding when I tell them that I genuinely forgot it was there even though it was right next to my bed. Or telling myself ok I need to do this after I finish what I’m doing and 2 minutes later completely forgetting.

[@midorishiwa]

I’m trying to get diagnosed with ADHD in the UK, I can’t watch TV without knitting, otherwise I’ll just grab my phone

[@midorishiwa]

I’m also pretty convinced my mum has ADHD, like in a way worse way than me. She won’t sit down, it’s exhausting

[@SelenicSoul83]

a lot of these just made me aware that, like me, my sister might have adhd

[@SarahYDanielle11]

the reading one is SO ACCURATE. i started doing that in college and now i can't read any other way

[@loupelizzo2399]

I hope you get your assessment done soon and I enjoyed your reactions to the tictocs thank you for doing this video loved it

[@EricMVlogs]

Happy Birthday Stevie. I believe that everyone should have the best birthday that they can in this new year in a safe way and that includes you. So have an amazing birthday today.