Reacting to Trans Fails | Accidentally Coming Out

[@JadeOart]

My accidentally coming out story: My parents were out of town, this usually presented me with the opportunity to dress fem around the house. This time I decided to paint my nails. Later I got a call from work, and they asked if I could come in to cover a dish washing shift. I wasn't out to anyone at the time, including work. I arrived at work, and was just getting to my area of the kitchen, when my supervisor looked down at me and started laughing. I didn't realize until he pointed it out that I had forgotten to remove the nail polish!!! I would have been totally embarrassed, if not for one of my co-workers later coming over to me to ask if I was trans. When I told him I was, he said he had a feeling, because I had long hair, and he saw the HRC sticker on my car. He then told me that he was trans too, and told me his preferred name! I continued to wear nail polish to work from then on. To this day I can only remember the co-workers preferred male name, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

[@potatohead8305]

Aww that’s so sweet!

[@friendofstars]

That's amazing! You can support each other!

[@manicpixiecremegirl]

Aw. This is sweet. Though I wish you wouldn't have been laughed at.

[@AGrotesqueMess]

That is so sweet!!!

[@Alexis-nd9kw]

im so glad you found someone who supported you an shared your experience!

[@TheChaoticAsexual]

A positive story: so I recently came out as non-binary to some people at church, and one of the leaders was so supportive and he said “nice to finally re-meet you Micah” and it was the first time someone referred to me by my chosen name and I literally cried for an hour bc I was so happy

[@diadia5634]

Awww that is so wholesome!!!

[@confused_lost_introvert1725]

aww that makes me really happy!!

[@naomideoliveira1886]

You’re so lucky. I’m out to one person at my church, and they are super homophobic and transphobic.

[@renelaramee]

I love that name

[@thelisa7914]

Micah is literally the coolest name ever

[@elliotjames3895]

Jamie, she didn't actually make a wool trans flag, she built one on minecraft lmfao Edit: since people keep commenting on it, “she” refers to the person who made the comment

[@elliotjames3895]

But a giant wooly trans blanket sounds incredible

[@azulBjort_1406]

For a trans human burrito🌯

[@eijirokirishima372]

I want to be a trans burrito...

[@phoenixthings]

I'm not trans but i really, *really want a wool trans flag blanket now*

[@user-ud8yq1bn2j]

*he Sorry you misgendered him but yeah I agree!

[@sunnybrightmoon]

so i haven’t told my mom this. but she’s always says “she” referring to me, when we’re in public. we were at walmart, checking out, and she says to the cashier, “she can’t lift the water so can you come around the cart?” i always whisper to myself “he” just to make myself feel better. and the cashier heard me. and i was paying for my fruit, and my mom was in the car already. the cashier ends up saying “i love you” and i’m like- what?? and he said “you’re cute, i love you, and i support you” and now when i see him in walmart he always smiles🥺✨

[@No-zp5mv]

Bro that's so wholesome and adorable, remember you are valid

[@crowleeisonfire]

That's the only context where a cashier (or a extranger for that mather) telling you "I love you " is not creepy

[@sybilcollas]

@Axl Dave Telling someone, even a stranger, "I love you and I support you" can save a life. Writing it off as creepy may discourage others from doing it :)

[@Defnotjolie]

@Axl Dave yeah it would make me creeped out Maybe “I support you” would be better.

[@evilpotato1534]

aww im genderfluid and my mum always uses my name which cleary sounds like a girls name

[@sophyoung903]

Friend's mum: so are you 100% lesbian then? Have you never liked a guy Me: umm, well I talked myself into a couple of crushes on 'guys' when I was younger, but I looked them up recently and they've all since transitioned to women. I dont know if the universe was trying to tell me something or if i can just sniff out girls. Seriously I had 4 guy crushes growing up and they've all since transitioned to mtf.

[@isaacorr3180]

That seems like an amazing skill to have

[@CoreChick]

So instead of gay-dar you have girl-dar?

[@isaacorr3180]

@@CoreChick xD good one dude

[@CoreChick]

@@isaacorr3180 thanks 😉 *flips hair*

[@isaacorr3180]

@@CoreChick ur welcome

[@galacticstar1614]

My friend came out as Non binary during an argument Their mom: Why do you keep dressing like a boy are you even a Girl? My friend: no Their mom: Them: Their mom: oh- Their mom was super supportive after Why have so many people seen this comment in like 2 hours

[@beepboop2816]

That is the best story I love parents who work to understand their kids it’s just so wholesome

[@CaleenKnow]

Lol that is probably how I am going to come out to my extended family we have that fight all the time

[@vvronskyy]

Aww

[@orsolyafekete7485]

Awww, that's really similar to how I came out to my mom (only it was about my hair)

[@ZimLikesPastaAnimation]

awwwww cute

[@_Gr1mm_]

I’m Transgender (FtM) and I’m not out to my classmates yet (The majority of them are immature boys who call people gay as a joke) We were assigned to do an art project that involved us drawing stuff that represented us on an outline of our hand. I drew the pride flags that represented me at the time (Asexual, Transgender and Biromantic) and the assistant teacher saw it. I went to the restroom because I needed to and when I came back my class was outside for gym. I walked into the room and the assistant teacher walked up to me and said “Hey I noticed the flags you drew. What pronouns do you prefer and do you want me to call you something other than *dead name*” and I almost cried. I said now both anxious and happy as fuck “My pronouns are He/Him and I’d like to be called Asher.” And she smiled at me and said “Alright Asher If i accidentally misgender you or call you by the wrong name please correct me!” We talked about it for the rest of the way downstairs. If you somehow find this comment Ms.Harvey you are my favourite teacher and I really appreciate your kindness. It made my day. Thank you! Edit: Wow it’s been a while since I commented this haha, I’m now out to most of the people I know and most of those people support me :)

[@audreyyale2363]

Aww that's so sweet We stan supportive teachers 💜

[@AverageTreeEnthusiast]

We love Ms. Harvey

[@echowings0]

:’) damn this is wholesome what a wonderful teacher

[@bacul165]

Asher, can I please ask you a question? I'm a teacher and there is someone in my class (17 years old) who I think might be trans or nb. Do you think it's OK for me to just ask for preferred pronouns and name? (Sorry to bother you, but I want to be supportive and feel very anxious about doing the wrong thing...)

[@_Gr1mm_]

@Barbara 165 I totally think it’s okay! Most people surprisingly don’t mind being asked that and I think you should ask :)

[@LiuGondor]

Jamie not undetstanding how minecraft works

[@matthewmoody3330]

I was just looking for this comment!!!

[@zmarilu5016]

I was laughing so hard, it was so cute hahahaha. A wooly blanket sounds very nice tho

[@queeniestar9081]

The disinformation is real jdvdjdvshdvdhhddj

[@Alexis-nd9kw]

its so wholesome tho "you could use it as a blanket"

[@astrallitwick5490]

Now I want a video where he plays Minecraft with shaaba

[@mc_s7775]

I came out to my dad by writing "I'm Cisn't" On a piece of paper then throwing it at his head..... since some you are wondering, my dad reacted very well! he was a bit confused but now is my biggest supporter also i am now coming out to my grandparents via a powerpoint with over 20 slides

[@garbagebageater]

Lol

[@MagicXRoads534]

now there's a way to come out that doesn't require that my parents be the last in my family to know, and it's also pretty clever, I'll have to write that down if I'm not out by the time I get a new phone.

[@tuesdaywithanh]

That's really chaotic, and it's beautiful

[@mc_s7775]

@@hiimashoutyman yessss

[@MVRCLE]

I’m doing this now

[@floopyboo]

The melty packer was made of unsafe materials and transmen deserve better than that! Please check and make sure that your packers are made of body-safe materials such as silicone!

[@box389]

Socks work too

[@gliscorpropagandaaccount1764]

@@box389 just make sure it's a fabric that won't offset your ph balance!-

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

@@gliscorpropagandaaccount1764 It doesn’t go inside of you, tho. It would be like wearing cotton underwear.

[@Rainlitnight]

@@Jellybeansatdusk you're still wearing it against your body... you still need proper pH balance even if it's not inserted...

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

@@Rainlitnight you don’t need your underwear to maintain a proper pH balance? You don’t wear it literally all the time. A person born with a vagina will have the ability to regulate their internal pH as long as they are healthy. It’s the same thing as washing your upper thighs with soap. It’s ok to clean the skin of your thighs or your pubic bone, just don’t put soap in your vagina. Putting a sock inside your underweae outside of your labia and not touching anything inside is not going to throw off anyone’s pH.

[@nancyhi8357]

I forgot to come out as lesbian to my parents, I only remembered to after my sister mentioned that we were the only straight cousins

[@ariadne0w1]

lol. I've been out to my mom for over a year, but I have no idea if I'm out to my dad. I didn't tell her to keep it from him, but he hasn't said anything either. I'm aroace so it's not like I'm going to bring anyone home, there's no deadline, but it's weird to not actually know if I'm in the closet at home or not. I'm pretty sure he'd be supportive because I go on about GSA this and lgbtq+ that and he's fine with it, but...I...just don't want to say anything? Anyways, hope coming out to your parents went well.

[@beeboo2127]

@Ivy Miller no you can know lesbian at any age over 5+ I,m 11 and I know I'm pan

[@MagicXRoads534]

@@ariadne0w1 Pardon me for asking, but what does GSA stand for in this context? I looked it up and got at least a dozen different meanings, none of which seemed to fit the topic of this reply.

[@ariadne0w1]

@@MagicXRoads534 Whoops. sorry. At my school it stood for "Gay-Straight Alliance". It was mainly for lgbtq+ kids, but it was important that straight people be welcome so that kids could attend without outing themselves.

[@damisslave2406]

Haha lol be aware I'm 15, I never came out to my grandma but I talk about girls I have crushes on all the time. Shes not supportive tho, she doesnt want me to date anyone until I'm finished school. She never asked me my sexuality and frankly she doesnt care lol

[@sonofcar9980]

'Dick ramen' was not something I was expecting to hear today but I'm not mad about it

[@29jgirl92]

And here I thought "dick soup" was the weirdest thing I was gonna hear all day!

[@Soken50]

I mean it is sometimes refered to as a "noodle" so why not a side of egg and pork in a broth along with it :D

[@4rt3m1sskies]

Lmao, “dick soup” and “I need to use the sleep!” Were the weirdest things I heard today

[@sylverdoqqo]

i still can’t breathe from laughing

[@Moo-2310]

Lol.

[@crowscloset__2639]

“Accidentally coming out” *felt that on a personal level.*

[@Maukiki]

Ellie’s Corner haha

[@azulBjort_1406]

Now her name is Karen right? But is she an Karen?

[@azulBjort_1406]

Jorja Jevams yeah my mums a Leo and she seems to have sort of Karen attitude/temper but she's not actually a Karen so I think we'll be alright 😅✌️

[@catastrophicmid-lifecrisis451]

My friend and her cousins were making gay jokes and I was like “jokes on you , I ain’t straight” ..... Kinda had to say that I was pan and they were like “ok....would you date any of us?” I was like hell no because one , I’ve known my friend for 10 years and two, one of the girls is a kleptomaniac and I dunno which one.

[@azulBjort_1406]

Jorja Jevams I didn't me to offend you in any way😅 I like Leo's, Leo's are cool. My mum she just has a sort of anger management issue, she's gotten quite better but sometimes she'll still blow up a bit😅 Btw my mum's been into astrology every since she was little and isn't really religious so I mostly just grew up with her telling me all sorts of stuff about it...so it stuck I guess 😅✌️I'm Gemini btw

[@alfie3.14]

I came out to my brother like this: "You keep wearing boy clothes, do you want to be a boy or something?" "Yesn't" "What?" "Dude, I'm not a girl" "Oh. Okay"

[@feltstuffing]

thats an amazing way to come out ngl

[@-Solidwater]

You are my idol.

[@alfie3.14]

@@-Solidwater why thank you

[@solarsleepless]

Yesnt

[@AkumaDayo]

That's actually pretty similar to how I came out to my mom and little sister lmao My dad (already came out to him by this point) just got done giving me a haircut and then a few days later I went to stay with my mom for a few days My little sister was like "you look like a boy lol" And I said "yep, that's the point that's what I was going for" and then I told them They're both very supportive and my little sister calls me bro every chance she gets lol

[@schnizzyfizz7832]

"Mom, dad... I'm bartender!" Dad: "That can't be! You never showed any signs!"

[@earenqueen]

The whole "how can someone just start saying slurs to someone they don't know, assuming they will agree, etc" thing makes me super mad. My boyfriend is not white but I am and the sheer amount of casual racism that some people say in front of me, expecting me to agree, just for me to shut them down... the audacity of these people i stg.

[@emilybeaudette9917]

Mariona Vila This reminds me of my relatives. They talk really poorly about other people, but I’m too afraid to speak around them because they talk about me that way too. But on the other hand, after coming out to my parents, my dad has made a huge effort to change the words he uses and be more sensitive to how his word choices make me feel. He says that he’s learned a lot from me, and that makes me really happy.

[@theincarnationofboredom207]

I totally get this. I'm white but my closest friend isn't, and I stg some white people I know will make the most racist comments and expect me to be okay with it? I'm like fuck no, I'm not tolerating you making racist comments about MY friend even if he ain't fucking there to hear them. What kind of friend would not support their friends unconditionally?

[@No-zp5mv]

@@theincarnationofboredom207 Exactly, like I'm not white myself, but if anybody tried to insult my friend, especially about their race, I will throw a fit.

[@anonymouscausewhynot]

@@AGrotesqueMess I feel awful for your friend. Maybe their transition will make at least their parents realize queerphobia is not okay.

[@tibbytobby]

i know someone who is mixed (her mom is white, her dad is dark skinned (i’m not sure what race or ethnicity so i don’t want to assume)) but she has had plenty of people say racist shit in casual conversation right in front of her. yeah, people are stupid.

[@CapCochCosplay]

Omg I've accidentally come out so many many times, once I got drunk and cried coming out to all my friends then and there and they were all super supportive, I was sobbing

[@hideakisorachi3953]

I'm glad they were at least supportive. that's literally my biggest fear

[@certifiedjeremy]

thats so wholesome omg

[@kearns552]

I wonder all the different words people have mistaken “transgender” for- the bartender one was funny

[@robinyb1210]

lol someone once misheard me and thought I had said sword-fencer.

[@Viiliskivi]

@@robinyb1210 lmao I'm trans and fencing is my hobby I'm a transgender sword-fencer

[@Dicen_Delirio]

@@Viiliskivi underrated comment

[@robinyb1210]

@@Viiliskivi Lmqao, I'd love to fence but my coordination is w h a c k so props to you, for being able to do that ツ

[@maxattack3853]

@@Viiliskivi transgender, sword fighter would work well as rap song.

[@smunknown9573]

I was binding my chest a lot at the time, but mostly at school so I was still seen the same. But one time I did it at church, and an elderly woman next me was talking and said, “I’ll just sit next to this young man.” I’d never been happier there.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

That's so sweet!

[@timothyvovakII]

My sister is trans and our stepdad is extremely transphobic. She is refusing to come over to his and our moms house. (I support her in this. Along with her grandparents!) It had been two weeks but he hasn't budged. Cross your fingers for us!

[@apofid]

🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

[@hibiscusray7148]

you switched pronouns at the end so i gotta ask, is your sibling ftm or mtf

[@natashavermilyea7964]

@@hibiscusray7148 I'm assuming the "he hasn't budged" is the stepdad hasn't budged.

[@Seawitch555]

Any updates?

[@aetherretrix2322]

How is it going now?

[@tyedraws]

"something smells like food it's making me hungry" Me eating dinner: ";-;

[@merrittanimation7721]

Same

[@qlutsy]

he smells you

[@animeumbreon8224]

Whatcha having :)

[@tyedraws]

@@animeumbreon8224 soup

[@willfontana8838]

DaSpooky1 was it dick soup? (If you don’t get it watch the rest of the vid)

[@kyros7040]

"I know I'm not cis but other than that, I'm completely and totally confused" - Me just now.

[@thefruitbucket789]

Same

[@magicllamakitty353]

Lol, I think I'm cis but I'm also like "Can I just dress like a dude sometimes to feel more comfortable and avoid sexism?"

[@thefruitbucket789]

I have this weird thing where feminine clothes make me feel like a dude and masculine clothes make me feel like a girl and I think I might be bigender?

[@ZimLikesPastaAnimation]

same

[@magicllamakitty353]

@@thefruitbucket789 I get that- you could be or maybe you just tend to see the flaws in yourself. I do that where as a female is see and hate all the masculine things in my appearance but if I dress like a dude those things don't bother me but then the feminine features are the ones that don't look right and mean I couldn't pass as a guy in public if I felt like it. Or maybe I'm just confused about my gender identity IDK.

[@xiinar420]

imagine having supportive enough parents to have funny times like these- my dad thinks that dysphoria is a choice “i have a daughter and that’s that” and MMM it’s frustrating cause we’ve been doing this for a year and a half

[@RBRCR-se2gz]

i feel you. just remember that there will always be people that support you, and maybe your dad will come around. either way, you'll be able to be you soon. i promise.

[@d0mdum]

I’m pretty sure i’m not trans but i’m pan and i’ll never understand this way of thinking, “mmm yes let me just choose to identify as something that is seen as abnormal and strange, why wouldn’t i wanna be seen as something that certain people will genuinely hate and criticize me for and that will be a psychological burden on my identity and self image for the rest of my existence?” like wha-?

[@missnaomi613]

❤️❤️🙏🙏

[@cyrilltate7065]

Oh man, I'm sorry for that. I understand how you feel, and I hope the situation gets better soon.

[@mopdinky5559]

You’re definitely not alone in this. ❤️

[@DustyPhantom-ne5hy]

Positive story: I recently transferred schools. Because Zoom is weird, sometimes my name comes up as my deadname and 1 or 2 of my teachers call me that name, but I'm kinda desensitized bc my parents aren't that supportive. However, within the first two weeks of school, I got 3 emails/texts from other students asking my preferred name/pronouns, and that made me really happy.

[@larrycantdraw8995]

*TRANS*ferred

[@エリン-o9h]

pun

[@ValeryValWho]

I was talking to a friend about youtubers we liked and I mentioned Jammie. He asked me if I was trans so I was like "no, but since I'm part of the LGBT community it's important for me to be supportive of everyone's identity". He then came out to me as trans saying it was his first time telling someone outside of his family. It was really nice that he trusted me and felt at ease with me to simply be himself :)

[@numberonedad7924]

HELLO i'm the aaron from 7:32 and yes i did stick with aaron!

[@bacul165]

Great to hear from you!

[@Oops2007]

hey aaron :)

[@maebholeary2734]

Hey Aaron!

[@werelemur1138]

Hi Aaron, that's my nephew's name too and he is definitely NOT an asshole.

[@nikkirose3246]

YOLO right!

[@anna4aa570]

When i was coming out I accidentally got super anxious and deadass said "I'm a transgender" Edit: just thought u should know that it went fine and all is well. But it's still funny

[@thefuckwhat7851]

I can only imagine you having a heavy newyorker accent

[@azulBjort_1406]

Hi transgender I'm a person (who saw the opportunity to make a dad joke(￣ω￣))

[@purple-bloom]

I read that like gru from despicable me 😂😂

[@avanesbitt8408]

@Kayden Kneeland nah you good

[@anna4aa570]

@@thefuckwhat7851 sadly no. British, which makes it even worse

[@Mason-fp5eb]

I'm a closeted ftm and I asked my mom a few days ago if I could but my hair short and she said yes (she doesn't know Im trans yet) and any way I'm going to get my hair cut tomorrow and and I'm so excited! I've had strangers before use he/him pronouns for me, or call me a guy even though I had longish hair and every time that happens I feel so happy inside, and it just feels like thats right. I think having short hair really is going to help a lot with that I hopefully I will feel a little less dysphoric. Edit: My hair has been cut! This is so awesome!

[@queeniestar9081]

CONGRATULATIONNNSSSS

[@izzyd3857]

so happy for you!

[@theemeralddragonyt9315]

YAY

[@jebwatersheep3458]

YESSSS!!! When I got my hair cut it was the best feeling in the WORLD! (Non binary not FTM)

[@mickb.8925]

That's awesome!! 🌈🌈🌈 *Sending some rainbow support* 🌈🌈🌈

[@rinnox7568]

This isn’t a fail, but here’s a nice story: A few days ago, my sister’s friend came up to me at school just for her and my cousin, who was with her, to say hello, but then she said “Oh, I also wanted to ask you something. I saw the flags on your wall the other day and I want to make sure I’m doing it right: what are your preferred pronouns?” And I told her whilst struggling to keep my composure, as that had been the first time someone in person asked me for my pronouns (they’re they/themc btw). And then she told me she’s demi, as well, which is so cool! And this was all keeping in mind for me the fact that number one: the two flags on my wall are the demisexual and agender flags, two *very* obscure flags for anyone who isn’t acutely aware of the lgbtq+ community, and two: I’ve known this girl since she was born because we’ve gone to the same church together and our moms are friends. We live in the dreaded South in an area where there’s a Baptist church around every corner, and the church we’ve grown up in is very openly not supportive of lgbtq+ people. Her brother, who is my age, is not nearly as chill as her, and I had already had been a part of a conversation before where him and another guy we’re spouting homophobic rhetoric. I had assumed she was kind of the same way, especially I’ve seen some of my sister’s other friends turn up their noses at gay people. To have her say that to me was like whiplash. It just really opened my eyes and made me feel seen, and now we wave at each other when we see each other in the parking lot. I always get taken aback when I see people from my area being chill with lgbt+ people, especially with how prevalent Christian life is here. My sister’s friend asking my pronouns, my sister playing a video game and not batting an eye when there’s a transgender character in it, my cousin’s girlfriend saying my pride t-shirt looks cool. It’s all mind-shattering to me. Like, haha, people accepting me? What a concept! But it really did make my day.

[@jonathangalindo8141]

Erin Nox Very sweet girl

[@TeaBeeLeaves12]

That sounds cool :) My town (I live in Eastern Canada) is also pretty Christian but a load of people are still quite excepting except for that bunch of immature homophobic boys in school who pressure you into being mean to LGBTQIA++ folks.

[@funwithakthechannelwherean4510]

as someone who went from a private jewish school to an arts integration charter school, and who grew up orthodox jewish and around very homophobic people all my life, to go to that school im at now and see just how chill and accepting it is, even the staff, was just such a culture shock. it felt and still feels so euphoric that I dont really have to be scared to be open to new people I meet anymore, as well as feeling like I can talk around the staff without having to censor myself. its so great that you got to feel accepted and loved, even if just in small moments!

[@lostconstellationsband]

That's amazing! I grew up Catholic and my best friend grew up Protestant Christian. We've known each other since we were four years old so I was like "oh no how will I ever come out as trans to her". Fast forward to her showing up at my birthday party this year (we hadn't seen each other since before the pandemic) with a backpack covered in pansexual pride pins.

[@baroozles]

I came out as bisexual to my dad before he died. Being in his 70s, he didn’t quite know what that was, or really anything about the community. At our next lunch he informed me that he had done some research and wanted to know if I was going to be a boy now, and that he would happily switch to my new pronouns. Bless him, he thought I was lgb AND t 😂 He really tried!

[@PeacheIIe]

This is making me cry

[@booboofairy8014]

Someone: *talking about JK Rowling as a transphobe* Me: Yep, she's definitely hating on us Me, not out as trans to this person and panicking: I mean, as a part of the LGBT community ... because I'm very gay (true).

[@cameronwarmerdam4251]

Same. My mom doesnt understand why her actions affect me so much. Did you happen to see her new book? It took that for my mother to believe me that she is transphobic writing everything else off as a "misunderstanding".

[@artema.]

@@cameronwarmerdam4251 omg what's her new book called; i haven't heard anything about her since i mentally cancelled her.

[@cameronwarmerdam4251]

@@artema. Its called "Troubled Blood" written under the pseudonym Robert Galbraith (also the name of a conversion therapist fun fact for you) and it is about a cis man that dresses up as a woman to kill women without suspect. I think he uses a burqa too but I don't remember exactly. I think that this topic could be really interesting if done right, ie by a trans ally while making sure that it is obvious that this person is not trans nor are trans people predators. Not JKR for sure for writing style/history and especially knowing that she is transphobic.

[@samgrieve7721]

My gran was her backup makeup artist in makeup store Jeners, at one point in 2015 and she said that Rowling was a bich about everything and was very judgemental

[@samgrieve7721]

I'm also trans so it was awkward

[@JazzyKitsune]

7:40 that exact thing happened to me! I'm mtf and my name is Zoe, when my grand aunt found out, she said "my son dated a zoe, and she was awful, why did you have to pick that name?" I just laughed and told her it's what i like, i'm sticking with it haha.

[@thatonemoonboy]

I love the name Zoe! I had a cat named Zoë. She was really sweet and mostly very smart.

[@lillyw2695]

heck yeah sis u keep ur name if that's what u vibe with ❤❤

[@larrycantdraw8995]

Okay but Zoe is a very pretty name

[@box389]

@@thatonemoonboy Are you a Percy Jackson fan?

[@thatonemoonboy]

@@box389 No, sorry

[@disrepcloven4258]

I “came out” when my mom dug through my room while I was at work. It was pretty common for her to do this and she was dedicated, looking for one of my shirts. Well she found something she did not expect. I had been experimenting with gender and such for years and had tried things such as binding and packers. So… she found my stash and sat down and had a talk with me. The talk started with “*deadname*, you... can’t even put in a tampon...” she clearly thought I had bought a toy. I explained to her what it was and what I was feeling. They haven’t been easy on me and have said bad things, but it’s a hard change for them. Anyway :) I recently got my first short cut and am old enough to start T without their permission so… my family is much more supportive, and it’s getting better. I go by my new name and have been so happy with becoming who I want to be. Thank you for making such lighthearted videos and spreading joy to others. Thank you if you have time to read this ❤️ -Sawyer

[@juliabea4705]

It’s really admirable that you were able to have that conversation with your mom. I hope things continue to get better for you. Have a great week, Sawyer!

[@bacul165]

Sawyer, thank you so much for sharing, your story can give a bit of hope for those who are unfortunate enough to have a family that reacts badly at the first moment. Sometimes, it takes people a bit of time to readjust their expectations... Best wishes for your way!

[@missnaomi613]

Good luck on your journey. ❤️🙏🌈

[@dakotadrake5877]

"You can't even put in a tampon." Lmaoooooooooooooo why did it take me 30 seconds to figure out what this meant? 🤣

[@pennylane4718]

[@luqicharmz]

My cis daughter: complaining about cramps. My trans son: yeah, I relate My cis daughter: how would you know! You’re a guy! Everyone: blinking slowly - unsure how to respond Cis Daughter: oh yeah, sorry, I forgot

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I love that :D Also, that's a great thing about trans guys - they're men, but they also understand our pain

[@leafy_green7573]

THATS SO CUTE WTF

[@amaeliss7827]

When i came out to my cousin she said she'd call me by a new name if i asked, "except Hervé or Didier, those are ugly. That's where i draw the line, sorry." I love her.

[@crumble2000]

It's so nice when these comments and stories start with "I'm ftm" or "I'm mtf" or "I'm non-binary" or something else like that. Because if they just say "I'm trans" you don't know how to refer to them, and you get confused when they add details that don't fit what you imagined (for example if you read an mtf story after three ftm stories) Edit: also it's nice when non-binary people say if they're amab or afab (only when it matters to the story)

[@OWO-kg9in]

What is amab and afab? -A non binary

[@sugarrcircus]

@@OWO-kg9in Amab is when you’re assigned male at birth and Afab is amab but with female

[@midoriemi3859]

@@sugarrcircus Thank you! -A non-native English speaker XD

[@sugarrcircus]

@@midoriemi3859 no problem :)

[@AkumaDayo]

Yeah it just really adds to the story, like you feel like you have more information and can imagine the story better lol That's why I always say I'm transmasculine so that people know I'm afab but a male presenting nb

[@toastwithamonocle5466]

Grandpa I have a confession, I serve drinks.

[@queertearss]

the horror :0

[@evey8178]

YOURE ONLY 14 >:(

[@baldeaglesarentbald1921]

Did you said "I have dysphoria?"

[@slushpuppie19]

No, this is illegal, you're a child

[@shamrockbrine268]

I accidentally came out to my mom as bi when I referred to the lgbtq+ as “we” instead of “them”

[@FiSH-iSH]

ive been purposefully using “we” in order to hint at my friends that im acearo but they havent even noticed lmao

[@cyan.-]

@@FiSH-iSH not very related but im aroace too

[@briarsalt5803]

I'm always so scared I'll do that, but I'm a walking pride flag so I think my parents know by now.

[@dYstop1a_]

@@cyan.- not very related either, but im aroace too

[@crubblegumi7291]

I kinda came out as Non-Binary by accident. My convo went like this: Dad: She wants a new haircut. Mom: Omg again? Dad: She said her hair is too short. Me (with headphones on): They Dad: Huh? Me: oh.. uhm... If you're referring me please include my stomach too. I got away with that-

[@journeywaitz5826]

lol foooooooooooooood

[@C4MERA_MAN]

I accidentally came out to my mom a week or two ago I'm still figuring out my gender but I'm pretty sure I'm a trans guy. I've felt progressively more and more uncomfortable with wearing feminine clothes. My family is religious and I've grown up going to church. At church, the norm is that the "girls" have to wear dresses/skirts and the "boys" have to wear suits and dress shirts. I do NOT feel comfortable wearing a skirt anymore so I asked my mom if I'd be allowed to wear a suit to church. She answered and then asked me about my gender identity. She asked, "Do you feel like you identify more as male than female?" I was in shock but I hate lying and I hate keeping things a secret so I just told her how I felt. Ultimately I think she supports me and is doing her best to learn more about being transgender and I'm hopeful for the future. I'm not out to anybody in my family except her and my cousin but I'm crossing my fingers that religion won't create a barrier between me and my family.

[@robertabarnhart6240]

Would you be comfortable in a skort? It looks like a skirt, but feels like pants.

[@dylanfooler]

I think my two funny trans 'fails' was getting the guts to ask the announcement people during the practice run of getting our diplomas if I could use my chosen name instead of my birth name for my high school graduation and they weren't sure if I was allowed to so told me to ask my principal, he was in the cafeteria with them only a few feet away, I asked him and he Also said "Idk ask the -announcement people-" I stood between them and laughed saying they both said the same thing. They laughed with me and said it was fine, though they called my mom to confirm (she said yeah duh it was cool). I became the first student in my county to use my chosen name instead of my birth one. The second one is less dramatic but really funny. I was at work and grumbled to a new coworker that I needed to change my pad, she very confused said "What? You don't have periods." I just stared at her holding back a laugh before she went "Ooooh" I felt so euphoric having passed so well. My other coworkers thought it was hilarious too saying "Dylan's just Dylan" and didn't feel the need to say anything about my transness. My coworkers are really cool about that stuff.

[@MichiruEll]

Both these stories are really cool! Thank you for sharing. I'm the person who finalises the slides for my Uni's graduation, and the first thing I did when I got the slides was remove all of the 'ms' and 'mr' indications. Still have to figure out a system to let the students indicate a preferred name.

[@9miles4way]

last time i was this early i was just a really supportive ally EDIT: I've seen like two people ask but im lazy so, I'm a bisexual, Demi-sexual, and a Demi-boy. so im just full of indecisivness Edit2: I still get notifications from this nearly year old comment. What.

[@kenshi6673]

Ayyy congrats

[@hideakisorachi3953]

the fact that this channel is one of the reasons I figured out that I'm trans makes this statement a big too relatable

[@aldusplays1596]

Big mood

[@XemeraldXD]

I feel called out

[@conor1111jaofnwosnwoa]

grow up ffs

[@johnmague7134]

Smile my children your valid and loved ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤 ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼✊🏻 Also Free virtual hugs to everyone who reads this comment!❤️🐈

[@Primadonna327]

Thx for the hug 😊

[@johnmague7134]

Stan by Lee your welcome

[@theemeralddragonyt9315]

YAY hug

[@johnmague7134]

TheEmeraldDragon YT yep hugs!

[@iateyourdog617]

💖

[@al45-v5b]

Every time i go somewhere with my mom its a loudly declared: “Hi my DAUGHTER... SHE... HER...” (so I relate to the deadname story) ... I came out as gender questioning about 2 years ago and am still very much in that place. I don’t know if I'm trans or not... maybe I am self-diagnosing/convincing myself or having “body issues” or just hated sexism like they would say. Maybe I have some internalized homophobia or transphobia. All I know is that my “old feelings” haven’t vanished and she/her still doesn’t feel right all the time. I gave up trying to talk to my parents or at least my dad. They weren’t “unsupportive” so to speak. Believe me, the first thing they said is “We’ll love you no matter what.” Just, the main thing for my dad revolves around some buddhist principles that we are in charge of and can change our thoughts. (So, I am allowing myself to “embrace negativity” and attaching negative thoughts to she/her pronouns, etc when i say they don’t feel right). My mom’s thing is that she knows that its “outdated” to think gender and sex is the same but believes that “you can dress and present however you like no matter your gender, its just a label that we shouldnt be defined by.” (Doesn’t like labels in general). Main thing shared point of contention is: “but why can’t you do all of that as a girl.” For them, its a matter of embracing myself (as who i am aka “girl”) or not (by being “someone else”) Part of me wants to try and talk yo them again but last time it tore apart our relationship and they are so stressed rn. I hint to my mom. I “openly” wear a chest binder, but for all they know (especially my dad) that’s just an expression thing and I got over all that years ago. Guess what its still here! (I just stopped talking about it...) I’m 17 starting 4-yr college in spring or fall and it just feels like a good place to start thinking abt trans stuff... but I’m scared that won’t be me then I have to deal with all of that. Plus then I feel so incredibly disrespectful to all the people who are “actually” trans. I guess what I want is my parents blessing to be out as openly gender questioning while I try to find people/therapists to talk to. I have a feeling this is gonna get lost in the swirl of youtube comments. I apologize for rambling, just feels good to type it out i guess 🙂 If you made it this far... well thank you. I’ve been following this channel for years now and Jamie and all you comment people always make me feel so happy and well... safe and supported. Apologies if I have caused any offense.

[@bacul165]

Hey, take a breath. You're not offensive. You're not disrespectful. You have EVERY RIGHT to question yourself, your identity, your sexuality, for as long as you feel the need for it. Keep in mind that those things are not necessarily fixed, too - whatever you feel is right for you at this moment might not be the best thing tomorrow, but if you find something for today, that's enough. Don't listen to haters, gatekeepers, anyone who tries to invalidate you and your feelings. You owe them nothing. You are not in this world to fulfill anyone's expectations. You are a unique, valid, precious person. Sending you a hug and good thoughts!

[@al45-v5b]

@@bacul165 You wrote me a giant paragraph back :P Thank you... just thank you. That means so much to me. And a big yay for virtual hugs :D

[@ariadne0w1]

Thinking you might be trans is a pretty big sign you might be trans. But anyways, I feel that all that exploring feelings about gender does, regardless of what you decide, is help dismantle harmful binaries. And figuring out who you are isn't a linear process. I know someone who grew up as a girl, started thinking that didn't fit them in their teens, got involved and learned about the trans community, and decided they just hated sexist expectations and stereotypes of womanhood, not actually being a woman. Then in their late 20s, they were like, oh wait, shit, I am trans after all. But they spent so long thinking of themselves as a woman, albeit an unhappy one, that suddenly flipping to being a guy and using he/him was too much, so they used they/them for a few months to help them transition happily. Now he's out and happy, post-T. Gender is complicated, and you are not disrespecting trans people who are confident in their identities by questioning yours. Best of luck on your journey!

[@keeprollin9911]

I feel ya I totally do. Sometimes, I'm so so sure I'm a guy. I feel so terrible whenever people refer to me with she/her, girl or my feminine name. But then I question myself. Is it just for attention?? Are you _really_ sure?? Is it just sexism?? What about all the problems when you tell peeps?? Don't you need more muscles if you _really_ were a guy?? Is it just because you're an ugly woman?? It is so draining and awful to always question yourself, but I did the exact same thing with my sexuality. Now, I accept myself as asexual and I hope to be able to accept my gender, too. The same goes for you ofc!! Idk if you'll ever read this, but you are _so_ valid!! You deserve all the acceptance and respect in the world!! No matter what gender you are. You probably are the gender you think feels right when you ignore everything others may say about it. It doesn't matter what your dad says (I mean it does have an effect on you- you feel shitty and invalid, but it doesn't have an effect on your actual gender) or what your mom says, or your friends or whoever. You are the only person who could ever know who _you_ are. I really hope you can accept and love yourself!! =:)

[@al45-v5b]

@@keeprollin9911 Hey, just wanted to say that I saw and greatly appreciated your reply! Definitely still not sure about everything, but am in a much better place overall. Wishing you the best of luck with your journey as well :)

[@user-qt3sl1go2i]

My accidental coming out story: It was in my math class. I had recently starting using my preferred name on my work to feel comfortable, and I always erased it and put my deadname so I wouldn't be outted. One day, I had put it on my homework, and forgot. I turned it in, and my teacher asked who was Jeremiah. I felt so much dread. I ended up coming up to the front of the class, erasing it, and started getting mocked because of it by classmates. Luckily, someone in my class who was nonbinary defended me and made me feel so much better :)

[@midoriemi3859]

So now do people call you Jeremiah? :)

[@MarcRivera]

I'm going to came out as NB and present my new name to my parent in a couple hours I made cookies white the trans flag to came out Wish me luck✨ Actualization : AAA I DON'T DESERVE MY PARENTS I wrote a letter cuz I don't have the balls to say it. So I open the door and I went to the bathroom. When I came back my dad say hello and my preferd name I cried and he hug me And now everything's Is just like always •́ ‿ ,•̀💖 So new actualization: Its 3 of february. Until a few weeks my mom call me by my dead name and refer to me in femenine. Until i snap and i yell about it. Since then she ACTUALLY tries to call me Marc or refer in masculine. So if you are struggling with the same problem (dosent respect your gender or calls you by your dead name and looks like they didnt even try to change) TALK about it, YELL if its necesesary. Let them now that they are hurting you.

[@jamie-bc4vs]

Good luck :)

[@juliabea4705]

Good luck!!

[@raeesahu1388]

Good luck! I hope it goes well:)

[@MarcRivera]

@@raeesahu1388 THANK YOU. It went well ;w;

[@MarcRivera]

@@juliabea4705 Thanks you, it went well. I wish there was a camera filming cuz I was very wholesome

[@aldenheterodyne2833]

"can you pick a different name?" I actually changed my name from Kayden (which is close to my deadname) because I realized that nobody my age was named that, and I didn't want to share the same name with a buncha grade school twerps. 😅 I finally picked one that isn't particularly close to my deadname because I liked the meaning... It's "old friend" or "wise friend". Honestly, I think everyone should have a childhood name and an adult name that they choose for themselves. One that fits their personality or their aspirations for themselves.

[@ghostbones5927]

My chosen name means "Defender of men, protector of mankind" lmao I love your choice by the way

[@MagicXRoads534]

"Honestly, I think everyone should have a childhood name and an adult name that they choose for themselves. One that fits their personality or their aspirations for themselves." So, we should do names like we're D&D elves?

[@ghostbones5927]

@@MagicXRoads534 yes

[@aldenheterodyne2833]

@@MagicXRoads534 Fuck Yeah! (Didn't think anyone would pick up on that reference 🙂)

[@ceve]

I changed a letter and said that's it, lol. I'm lucky to have that clear from the start.

[@charliemorningstar7251]

His intro: "Something smells like food and it's making me hungry." Me: "Mood."

[@mariao1421]

My friend accidentally called me by my chosen name infront of her parents and I blurted out "it's a different classmate" while she blurted "it's a pseudo name" and before that she used my preferred pronouns (They/them) infront of her dad and her dad became suspicious of me. Then her parents looked at each other and nodded. They now know I'm genderfluid while my actual parents don't.

[@sebastianritchie6895]

I came out to my dad last year in October over the phone. I hadn't seen him or heard from him for over 5 years after my parents divorce. Mainly because my mom and Nanna were controlling and abusive. But anyways, I was crying and he asked me what was wrong so I finally told him "Dad, I'm trans." And he immediately asked "So what's your new name?" I cried SO hard as I told him that my new name is Sebastian and now we are taking the steps towards getting me a gender therapist with the help of my psychiatrist! Also I live with him now and he threw me a party for my 20th birthday this past Monday!

[@ariadne0w1]

Congratulations, Sebastian! I'm glad things are starting to look up for you.

[@monikakavaliunaite8017]

"You can use it as a blanket" 🤣 that's not really how Minecraft works Jamie

[@singingblueberry]

8:19 Jamie thinking she actually made a trans flag out of wool irl is so wholesome though

[@morgrugg]

Yep, now I want to make a trans flag out of wool and send it too him, but I can't knit... If someone who can reads it, please do it!

[@disableddragonborn]

I really hope the flag doesn't get struck by lightning, because I remember how flammable wool is in Minecraft.

[@robertabarnhart6240]

@@disableddragonborn You can put a lightning rod nearby if you're playing 1.17+.

[@disableddragonborn]

@@robertabarnhart6240 It has been years since I last played the game, so the addition of a lightning rod is news to me.😂

[@robertabarnhart6240]

@@disableddragonborn I kinda figured that, that's why I mentioned the version number. BTW, it also works really well near villages, iron farms, and the like to keep your villagers from getting turned into witches.

[@carleflores9065]

WTF there was this ad about food and then jamie: "something smells like food..." Ahhhh my fourth wall hahaha

[@lauren6299]

I just wanted to share something positive about my mother. When my sisters and l were young I was probably in 5th grade and they were in 3rd. So this was about 2005 being trans was not spoken of much. A documentary came on the tv at the hotel about young child who said their penis did not belong on them and they wanted to cut it off. After we watched the documentary my mother turned to my sisters and asked if we felt comfortable in our bodys. No, none of us were trans or fit into to the LGBT group but It still ment the world knowing that we knew our mother was going to accept us no matter how we felt or who we may be attracted to years later.

[@nessa-parmentier]

That's wholesome Personally I know I would have answered the same at that age, because I had no clue about that. Took me long enough, I'm 22 now.

[@elirock9044]

While texting my friend like 2 days ago having a pan panic, (about this girl I thought I got over but didn't) I accidentally used a male emoji, and she asked about it, so I used the opportunity to come out to her as trans, and she was super supportive and I am happy because this is the first person I have come out to!

[@julienblack536]

Hhhh I felt the Aaron one my name is Jules and when I told my dad to call me that he said “oh an ex-friend of mine was named Jules,,,,, he murdered someone” and I’ve never been the same since

[@larrycantdraw8995]

I mean, just don't murder someone

[@franksonatra]

that's messed up of him to say, I'm sorry Jules

[@lucitheloser1992]

Hi, I'm the off brand marshmellowy mortal combat character, I'm gonna send an update to you when I get home, yall have a nice day💞

[@fallenpoet6051]

Haha, you too! Good luck with the hot weather!

[@mangmangmangobri]

💜

[@ecksspot8497]

WHATS THE UPDATE

[@lucitheloser1992]

@@ecksspot8497 the update that I sent to him on twitter was that I stopped wearing the jacket and it seemed like it was going okay because the people I supervise were pretty open minded and didnt seem to care and I still had alot of constructions workers and visitors call me ma'am, unlike the construction workers who already thought I was a guy and were upset that they didnt know what was in my pants, what i didnt send to him was that a week after I sent that it seemed like it was going okay I was fired under the guise of "making changes" they refused to look me in the face when terminating me, when inquiring why I specifically was being fired they refused to answer and called me disrespectful. A week after being fired in October I found a job in an asian market and restuarant that treated me like the gender I am and respected my choice in name, I was layed off a week before christmas because they didnt have enough buisness to keep me. This monday (the 4th) I'm going to go work as a cook in the Mississippi College for Women (known as the W) and hope that they dont turn me away day one for... existing incorrectly or looking for literally any minor failing to fire me because I'm not allowed to wear a puffy coat in a kitchen. Three cheers for good old fashioned bigotry and hostility from the "hospitality state" I guess. I wish it wasnt a bad ending but cest la vie and que sara sara and whatnot and what have you. ------------ Edit: sidenote if you call the unemployment office in Mississippi and they think your voice doesnt match your name they will openly say "well you dont SOUND like a ________ you sound like a ________a" and even if you explain that you are trans they WILL label your account as fraud. (My issue is my legal name isnt yet changed BUT my speaking voice even when not trying to pass as a woman is naturally high, so thats a double sided sword) ---------- Edit 2: got a job as a cook, there wasn't exactly a way I could hide my being trans, but the funny thing is my confusion ruined a buisness deal between the college and a temp agency and all the people who were being hired by the temp agency got hired directly by the college AND I got hired AND they're letting me use the office restroom while figuring out the school's policy so I dont have to decide between assault and arrest AND I'm getting insurance AND the chef said if anyone fucks with me to tell him.

[@CastellanKid]

@@lucitheloser1992 yo congrats on the job! I hope it goes well

[@q-tips8632]

My mom said come out of the closet. I almost came out as gay...Then I remembered I was laying down...In my closet. I almost had a heart attack

[@melodic.starlight]

XD

[@icarrioncarrion]

I got an add for Trump, lie, “Do you approve” and I was just like... “I’m watching a trans guy’s video, I’m nonbinary myself, and I’m not stupid, so no I do not.” Edit: Haha, I’ve figured out I’m a demiboy now-

[@violetrose674]

Niiicceee

[@chloemarriott4121]

Is it alright if I asked what a demiboy is? I recently found out I'm bisexual and want to find out more about the community

[@icarrioncarrion]

@@chloemarriott4121 oh, I use he/they pronouns instead of just they/them now 😁

[@-Solidwater]

@@chloemarriott4121 A demiboy is someone who loosely identifies as male, and the other part of the gender can be unspecified or agender I think.

[@eurithya]

cool, im a genderfluid demigirl (if that's possible)

[@taylorlynn5345]

"Who just starts chucking around slurs at a family event" you're so adorably British lol

[@enbywithcats]

just based on the title: i’ve almost accidentally come out to my mom and now she knows my preferred name but doesn’t know why i wanna go by that name- edit: if you wanna know the story i’ll tell you edit 2: THE STORY | it’s not that interesting 😅 basically i was looking at cavetown’s twitter and i saw he retweeted a deadname remover and i was like y e s i’ll use this so i got it and my mom was looking at my computer and she saw cameron instead of my deadname and was like who’s that are the teachers fine with it you have to put ur legal name and i was like heh- it’s only on this computer- and she forgot about it for a bit until a few days later and there was this lgbt online chat room and when i was signing up she said you could use ur other fakenamething (it was basically one word lol) and i was like heh- yeah- that’s what i put- and then she asked if i wanted to go by it and why and when she asked why i just said “reasons-“ and yeah that’s the end so if you read this far have a cookie 🍪

[@kbsmith6132]

yesss tell it

[@animeumbreon8224]

TELL IT please

[@audreygaines7831]

Yes tell me!

[@roisinbarry3506]

I wanna hear it!

[@Salikino]

Tell me.

[@GeneralCloudhopper]

My boyfriend just came out to everyone as being trans and I'm so happy and proud for him ❤️

[@jgabe73]

Hey Jamie I just wanted to say thank you for being such a positive creator; I've been watching you since pre-coming out and now I have my top surgery consult scheduled! Thanks so much for everything you do!

[@hideakisorachi3953]

congrats! I hope it goes well

[@jgabe73]

@@hideakisorachi3953 thank you!

[@RowanArk]

I wish you luck

[@maxproductions7793]

I was accidentally outed to my mum by my teacher. I'm guessing he said the wrong name on a phone call with her or something. However once my mum knew that at school it was Max, she said in a car ride "(something idk), right *deadname*? ohh sorry or is Max?" She said as if it was a joke. I don't blame my teacher, I am kinda happy because it forced me to come out. I'm just really upset that my mum isnt accepting of the fact, even though she's told me so many times "I love you no matter who you are or love!". I kinda want to make a post on facebook just saying "Im trans, and would like if you called me Max. My pronouns are he/him. I don't mind slip-ups, but will correct you. It takes some time to get used to. *heart*" but I'm kinda scared to.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

Did you get round to making the post?

[@maxproductions7793]

@@unapologeticallylizzy nope, too scared for the rest of my family to be like this aswell :/

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

@@maxproductions7793 I'm so sorry ♥️ I hope it gets better, Max.

[@maxproductions7793]

@@unapologeticallylizzy It probably will, I am turning 16 soon and my mother has allowed me to (maybe) start on testosterone, or I could do it myself by going off birth control as I have a higher production of testosterone because my ovaries don't work properly.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

@@maxproductions7793 Oh, that's exciting! Good luck with the testosterone.

[@piercedsiren]

When my friend came out as non binary the whole chat was like "okay what pronouns do you want?" And I think it was really sweet.

[@wasteofpotential1617]

accidentally came out to my dad when I sent him a picture of an error on my computer that showed my new email address in the background. accidentally got outed to my mom when I didn't realize someone corrected my name in the program for the fall play.

[@msguineapigsrus]

ahrgljashrgjlashrglri this is why in my college theater program and now in my orchestra (both very LGBT friendly) we always sent/send around the roster as it will appear in the program during rehearsal and have everyone initial to verify it appears as they wish or make any necessary corrections. Serves a double purpose- catches accidental typos and avoids accidentally outing people.

[@sazdotcom9295]

Jamie: Something smells like food... Me: *Eating white cheddar popcorn* noooooooo you can't have any

[@summerrose4351]

Cheesy popcorn?

[@CoreChick]

But sharing is caring 👁👄👁 hand over the popcorn

[@narwhaltheseawing6988]

I felt that. I have three little brothers and whenever I’m eating they’ll barge into my room like that one weird ‘I sMeLl PeNnIeS’ meme

[@heyojinko]

so like the other day i was with my mom and dr. phil was playing on tv the mother on the show apparently locked her kid in a closet to put them in time out (i know) and my mom says jokingly 'guess i should have locked you in the closet as a kid' and i KID YOU NOT i almost said "i'm still locked in the closet what do you mean" WHEN I TELL YOU MY LIFE FLASHED BEFORE MY EYES

[@franksonatra]

OH GOSH I'M GLAD YOU DIDN'T SAY IT. STAY SAFE

[@ToeBag]

Something good happened today! So basically I’m a trans boy and my dad got me to go in the men’s toilets today! Also, a woman at a store thought I was a boy and used “him” for me! So remember that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to

[@Keynan-soph]

jamie is just the overly supportive father we all needed.

[@ryderj1979]

I love how I just finished making food and he said "something smells like food" I was like "I'm sorry" XD

[@mistydono3482]

Same here funny enough. I thought he was actually talking to me.

[@psychopathetic5341]

I've never been this early.... The last time I was this early I was a NeoCon homophobe, now I'm a radical gay socialist

[@kenshi6673]

Congrats

[@addisonblackmore273]

Character development

[@sallybyte]

Main character worthy

[@29jgirl92]

We love character growth!

[@tabathamoonstone8633]

Same. Was a closeted, miserable homophobe, am now a pansexual, relatively happy Dungeons and Dragons player. How the times change... Yes, D&D is the opposite of homophobia. THIS MAKES SENSE

[@g4wrulesnatesminecraftyt858]

Yo Jamie a baby trans here

[@anna4aa570]

Yo baby trans another baby trans here

[@Elack_80]

Here another baby trans

[@user-el2gi5ws8d]

Another baby trans

[@feel-goodfrankie8370]

Baby trans dootdootdootdoot Me too, just started binding a few weeks ago! :D

[@user-el2gi5ws8d]

@@feel-goodfrankie8370 Ohhh that's awesome good for you!

[@sevensesnvelasdljkaalkjkskksk]

idk where to submit these so im putting it here: i have two incidents with my dad. when i initially came out (ftnb) i wsa nervous and i sat down and cried and when i came out he was quiet for a second before he said "is that all? i thought someone died?". second incident was when i was waiting for a blood test and i told him i want him to call me elliot now and he looked upset. i asked him if hes uncomfortable with me being enby and he just said "no...its just, elliot sounds like the name of someone who eats glue." i burst out laughing. BONUS STORY: he outed me to his mum (my nana) because he didnt know outing is a big no no but when he tried to explain what being nonbinary is, she (in her 70s, mind you) cut him off and said "no, no i know all about that!" i had visited her in october before i came out so she wants me to come back so i can have a better time in my hometown without being deadnamed by anyone.

[@elirock9044]

Your nana sounds like an amazing person!

[@aromanticfranziskavonkarma]

Changing my name to Elliot now (/j)

[@President_Starscream]

I'm sorry but, a "stand to pee device" , a "pee-nis". I'm dying 🤣

[@kuroneko5390]

Some people are just mean... my grandmother and an aunt talked about how awefull people are that only wear black ecpecially if they are overweight because that wouldn't make them any less fat. I always struggled with my weight because of ilnesses( that come from that part of the family btw) and at that time I had a phase where i loved to wear black clothes. It was awful.... really and no one stopped them not even my parent's because that would've been disrespectful towards my grandmother. So yeah no wonder I didn't come out to that part of the family for a really long time.... to my grandmother i actually never came out. But i am lucky that my other grandparents were really supportive and that my mother tries to be and that my brother couldn't care less. My dad is still in denial ecpecially since i have a male partner but i always stand my ground when he says something homophobic, transphobicand so on.(I am pansexual and agender btw.) The sad thing is that he was very ok with LGBTQ+ stuff before he started to belive in conspiracy theories.... we'll i have supportive friends and my partner has a bachelor degree in biology and is getting his master soon and he loves to do some research on LGBTQ+ related topics. Like articles and even some papers... he really educated himself in all that scientific stuff because he said just because he as a straight, cis guy can't really relate at an emotional level it doesn't mean that he can at least try to understand it in an other way. As a person that loves to work scientifically he of course choose to research as best as he could and then sending me the most important paper's and articles and if i have trouble understanding them he takes time to explain them to me. He also said it's an really interesting field and that more people should work on it. Oh and he said that he would love to get the straight ally flag for the next pride parade (after the virus of course). I nearly cried because that was so cute :) i also got the ok from my roommates to hang the rainbow and ally flags our the balcony. Both are straight cis males :)

[@disableddragonborn]

"because that would've been disrespectful towards my grandmother." NO. FUCK THAT. I know this comment is two years old, but NO. Respect is not owed, it is earned, regardless of who they are. The fact that your partner is super supportive is great, and the fact that him being cishet doesn't change how he feels about you is really sweet.

[@kathrinehmunk]

I nearly outed myself in my English class today... We were told to pick a cause that we would like to support... I chose "Teaching people that biological sex is not the same as gender" and I said "because I haven't learned about it in school so I had to learn it from the internet... my teacher then said "Oh so you searched for it???" My brain just went what do I do about this??? "Um... no... I-I read about other people..." I was completely red in my face and shaking... hopefully I played that off well enough... 😅

[@bacul165]

Ugh, I'm sooooo afraid I'm going to be that idiot teacher one day who makes their students uncomfortable. I 've become more sensitive since I started to watch Jamie's videos, so now I realize how much of what I say is not inclusive for anyone who is not cis, het, and white. Long way to go, me...

[@kathrinehmunk]

@@bacul165 At least you are aware that is a big step in the right direction 👏

[@bacul165]

@@kathrinehmunk Aw, thanks! But I mean I get paid for taking care of kids and young adults, not offending them should be the least. I wish there was proper, mandatory training on this kind of stuff for teachers. But I'm hopeful for the future, I think there is some progress being made.

[@feel-goodfrankie8370]

*sees Aaron in the thumbnail* NOW THIS LOOKS LIKE A JOB FOR ME-

[@linguiniperuano]

Greetings, not asshole Aaron.

[@feel-goodfrankie8370]

@@linguiniperuano bold of you to assume I'm not an asshole

[@bookgoblin3645]

I have a similar story to the aaron one: When I told my mum that I like girls she was chill about it and said that she only wants to see me happy. But, goodness I can't even count the times that she told me that I was going to hell for liking rock.. It's not as funny but I thought I might as well share☺

[@bjornreeve2091]

When I was in class one day before I knew what trans was my teacher was taking attendance by telling boys to raise their hand, and then girls, and I didnt raise my hand at all,my teacher saw this, and after class she said she wanted to talk to me. I thought I was in trouble, and she told me "i noticed you didn't raise your hand for girl or boy in class" I respond "am I in trouble" she continued "absolutely not, i wanted to make sure you felt comfortable with being called she or if you wanted to go by something else. If you'd like i will explain to the class when you are ready" the next day a began going by my current name and using he him program. She was the best teacher ever.

[@thegreenmanofnorwich]

I remember one work friend (you know, friendly, might join them for drinks on a Friday, but we wouldn't go to the movies or anything) just said one day in conversation at lunch "I'm trans!". I was a bit surprised but just said "oh right. Do you want me to call you something else?" He said no (he already presented as male, and i had idly wondered but assumed it was none of my business and a bit rude to quiz someone on their gender and genital history) but asked me not to talk about it with other people, and we just carried on talking about whatever it was. Probably customers being arseholes. Much later (probably a year or more), he told me that I was the first person at work he'd told and that he'd had a vodka miniature in the loos first. At the time I'd assumed it was probably something everyone knew, and it made no difference to me. He said it was a brilliant, but perhaps slightly anticlimactic, response and helped him feel more comfortable coming out. He said something like he'd been binding his (apparently sizable) bust, or maybe something else, but was using a means to minimise his breasts, and it was becoming difficult. When I found out, I felt really touched that he'd told me first, though i still sometimes wish he'd said I was the first. I didn't run my mouth off, but I could have so easily put my foot in it when out for drinks or something, and i sort of wish I had mustered something more supportive, reassuring and profound than a mildly interested "oh right"

[@achnav3762]

I'm always so happy when people mistake me for a teenager because I know that I can either look grown up women or a young boy (I'm a non-binary afab so seeing people thinking I'm a teenage boy and then being confused by my age is pure gold)

[@inksir7522]

i love how wholesome all of your videos are! even if they're negative topics, you're still so kind! keep up your amazing work!

[@HadrianOF]

apparently when I was like 6, there was a trans guy living a few houses over from us. He was probably 15 at the time, and went to school with my sister. I didn't know about him until this year, but it turns out we share a deadname, and his new name is a name I went as to my friends for 6 months but ended up changing. I don't know of any other trans people from our area

[@lemonlyartistry]

Every time Jamie says “subscribe if you want to, but no pressure!” It makes me want to double extra subscribe 👉🏼🥺👈🏼

[@momamiandkiddokelsi9027]

Your videos are amazing and restore my faith in humanity! What topic it may be you always know how to turn it to positivity. My sundays and wednesdays are complete because of you!

[@vani7579]

I needed this after I spent another day of my existence being invalidated by the universe

[@tabathamoonstone8633]

You're valid. Screw any universe that says otherwise.

[@boxofbugs2292]

Let's cancel the universe

[@kayarose14]

You are so valid!❤️

[@vani7579]

Aww thank you all so much! That really made my day! It's literally the same shit different day, but I have mental issues and gender dysphoria is a pain in the ass and school is terrifying. So yeah, thanks again!

[@katielogan9464]

The thing I love most about Jamie's videos is the acceptance and positivity they create. Whenever the universe is being extra shitty, remember there's always people here who have your back. ❤ ALWAYS VALID!! ❤🌈

[@obscure_munnerz6917]

Fun story, last time I got a haircut(and my first masc haircut) the hairstylist had to get my name and I panicked and told her my preferred name while my mom was right there(i’m out to her but she’s not very supportive) and she(my mom) just stares me down and in a tense voice just says “your real name, sweetie.” and makes me say my dead name to the hairstylist who, thankfully was very understanding and cool about it but uhhhhh yeah not poggers

[@august2405]

I was at my band concert, and I had to use the washroom. As I was about to walk into the lady's room, this little boy walks up to me and goes, "That's the girl's room." I just smiled at him and said "Thank you" and walked in. Me, a deeply closeted 12 year old: *Dysphoria panic*

[@broepic9472]

I came out to my dad through text(we don't really talk, I only live with my mom). And all he said was "Hey Leo[my name lol]. I like Greg better." Then later he asked if I got my "trans card" and I still don't know what he was talking about.

[@biggsteppy2436]

When i told my mom that I was trans and that I wanted to go by the name Ethan she told me that her and my dad were gunna name me Ethan of i was amab. just some i thought was funny.

[@catiafreitas]

I feel your uncle Aaron... My brother chose a name that I have an history of assholes with and that was my exact reaction... He is sticking with it.

[@xoll1571]

Hey people, I’m MtF, and I’m thinking of the name Jordan... what do you guys think? 💞 Omg tysm for all the help I love you guys 😭🤍🤍

[@mweheheh3463]

Sounds awesome! Select the name that feels right for you tho. But Jordan sounds really good.

[@mylifeismylaptop8529]

Oo Jordan’s cool like Jordan sparks

[@randomhuman731]

It’s really cool And if it suits you pick it however you might want to consider it’s a unisex name and might make passing a bit difficult. It doesn’t really matter tho just something to consider

[@idiomatic444]

Go for it girl! Sounds great

[@kyros7040]

Jordan is a good name

[@hamletprinceofdenmark5896]

I came out during an argument. My family were calling me useless because I couldn't make it to rehearsal. Going on about how if I can't do that I can't do anything. I started trying to explain that I couldn't take my shirt off for the costumes. There was a back and forth and then mum goes " well electric shocks used to work pretty well for that"

[@bluejay7805]

that's horrible 😕

[@mawkings658]

So funny story...I accidentally came out to my English teacher I wrote ‘Alexander’ on one of the forms we had to hand in, instead of my birth name (I wasn’t concentrating very well) and I only realized this once I was out of class. I was too scared to go and talk to her about it because I didn’t know how she would react. but she didn’t mention it for one or two weeks I just thought she glossed over it. Well yesterday she asked me if I preferred Alex or [deadname] and I- she’s one of the few accepting adults in my life and gave me such a confidence boost with this

[@BoooBear2322]

For a second there i thought you were wearing a binder and i was like "wait you already got top surgery." ·-·)

[@helloimarabbit4083]

Jamie is the only person I'll sit through a ad for.

[@fools4jules]

Jamie*: Gen Zed Americans who can't understand there are different cultures: excuse me-- it's me. I'm Americans.

[@EvelynFTTE]

Hi Americans, I'm Americans, nice to meet you

[@samb.3948]

Same. Hearing him say zed set off all my fight or flight responses

[@Ava-jy1rt]

It confused me too lol and I’m Australian. I’m pretty sure most people say Zee instead of Zed over here but idk.

[@lebazardebecques1223]

Now that you mention it, I see why you feel it's pronounced weirdly. I pronounce it Jamie's way but I'm used to mispronounce English words all the time.

[@tabithaweasley1942]

I’m British, I feel the same way when I hear someone pronounce it “zee”.

[@Atalinay]

Dont read the comments unless you're ready to cry from happiness 😭. These stories are so lovely

[@FiSH-iSH]

too late

[@Lechatbleu-dd1wp]

That was great!!! I have many stories, but my all time favorite is the first experience I had in my freshman year of high school. It was the first week of High school for all us Freshman, and for me, I had just cut my hair and began socially transitioning. Throughout the day I went by the name Dmitry (Because I look like Dmitri Shostakovich when he was 19, he was a great russian composer), When my sixth period French Class started, mon prof. called roll using and said my dead name. At the time no one seemed to notice that I said “here” to a feminine name, and even though I was as red as a tomato, I Just played along like absolutely NOTHING happened! About an hour into class, we were all singing a song (I forgot what it was)and he counted out all the guys to sing on one side of the room and then the girls onto the other. When he did so, he counted me as one of the guys! I was SO shocked, and I smiled so big that a couple of people stared at me in confusion but just went with it like it was normal. Since we were singing and I was me, having naturally a higher voice, Isang in the deepest register I could (since I was Pre-T at the time) and I passed SUPER well!!! Throughout the class he referred to me as un garçon, constantly, and it made me smile every time. Then toward the end of class I made the most ballsy decision I’d ever made. “I’m going to come out to him” I told myself. Now given my high-school is very small only about 950 students total since its one of the hardest high schools to get into for my district. There are a lot of supportive students and le musée du Louvrestaff there because it’s a school in Sac, CA, US.) He was very welcoming and charming but he was also very open to new ideas or questions that other students had! Plus the teachers are not allowed to discriminate against a student’s identity or sexuality , by law! So I said, fudge it! When class ended that day I ran to my locker to get all of the stuff that I need before the hallways got packed (…aaaand so I could leave faster). When I got my stuff, I began walking right toward his classroom down the corridor. Unbeknownst to me, I caught a glimpse of my teacher walking right in front of me and in a panic I said “Monsieur!” He turned around calmly and gave a warm welcoming smile. (It was the warmest, most genuine smile I’d ever seen, I’ll never forget it...anyways...) Walking side by side I introduced myself to him again and told him how I was trans, and that I really appreciated how he saw me as a guy, and apologized for “confusing him” when telling him my birth name, when in reality he wasn’t! He just totally fine with it! So he asked me what my preferred name and pronouns were, and he’s used them ever since! He is my favorite teacher and the most down to earth person I’ve ever known. So much so that when I’m around my friends I refer to him as my “adopted father”. We (my classmates & friends) all agree that he is definitely a father figure to many of us and we all miss him dearly due to quarantine. He and I are still in touch even though we aren’t in the same classroom anymore, but I’m glad to have had the opportunity to meet someone as respedced, supportive, and down to earth, as he is. P.S If it weren’t for him I couldn’t speak fluent French! So I guess I owe him !!! Lol 😂