Your LGBTQ+ Confessions

[@artistdudebro]

Coming out as Irish is so hard in today's society.. they always ask me to say "lucky charms" in an Irish accent 😩

[@dinosaurs_rule]

I'm Irish too 😂😂

[@LunarArsonist]

Im crying

[@MLiskindagay]

@@dinosaurs_rulesay it.

[@jacobc9221]

​@@LunarArsonistHi crying, I'm dad!

[@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit]

@@jacobc9221 Hi dad, I'm son.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

If I was sending a confession, I’d start with “Forgive me, Father, for I have slayed.”

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

You slay for this

[@gummyf4ngs]

you’re so real for that

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

The best way

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@Finnley-supports-translivesHaha thank you!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@gummyf4ngsThank You! 😂

[@BackAtItAgainAtKrispyKremes]

I’m Russian, so being LGBT is kind of like a cardinal sin- but fortunately my parents are progressive and accepting of my being gay❤

[@PlatinumAltaria]

I hope things in Russia improve soon!

[@rroes7319]

I'm glad you have such awesome parents!

[@UniDocs_Mahapushpa_Cyavana]

I think things will change with Russia's education system being renovated to being very good relatively recently, because there will be a lot more LGBT Russians, and Russian culture is naturally tolerant. Really, Russia's anti-LGBT stance is mostly just Russia hating humanism and LGBT rights being argued by humanists. I think humans are born with 2 sexualities: • 1 an extremely powerful mental illusion • 1 which is their real one In the modern day, *centuries of intensifying education 🏫🎒 🚸* has led to humans experiencing high levels of true stress. This true stress has a chance to shatter the illusion irreversibly, which increases with the quantity of true stress. This explains data points like: • Many hunter gatherers not realising gay people exist, as wells old civilisations clearly being the same way • Why the LGBT 🌈 population of younger generations is so high (like 29%) etc. It also explains how biological *heterosexuality* is a thing. Which many theories don't explain at all.

[@cristiangaban960]

@@UniDocs_Mahapushpa_Cyavana I'm sure hunter gatherers and ancient people had no stress . You must be mental.

[@naastyaaaaaaaaa]

I feel you, dude. It still amazes me how with our bigoted government poisoning people's minds every damn day I am lucky enough to have a wonderful and accepting Mom. We watch together / buddyread a lot of lgbt+ stuff and discuss it afterwards.😊 To those who aren't as lucky: don't give up, keep going, seek info about lgbt+ meetings and get-togethers near your area (I promise you, no matter how small/insignificant you think your hometown is, there ARE queer communities around you. If you search you'll find.❤️

[@hiitsme2814]

My grandma is the homophobe racist Catholic ever. I just love to taunt her about it. In nearly everything I say to her I just have to make a point about how gay I am when anything happens. "Grandma. I went swimming yesterday. I am gay." She is always so upset, though the funny thing is, I think she's LGBTQ herself. She will tell me, "You're not gay. Everyone has sexual feelings towards women, but it's just the devil in your head 😊. Even I do." LIKE HUHHHH?.? She's seriously tried flicking holy water on me over it though 😭😭

[@suzbone]

I'm almost 60; my horrid racist sexist ageist grandmother died long ago. She would try to teach us the most hideous values, but we were too decent for her poison to stick. We were under such tight control though that we didn't dare say a single word to her about it. Children weren't _allowed_ to have opinions, much less voice them. And we were beaten for any infraction, so we stayed quiet. Your comment made my heart beat with a fierce joy. Please know that every time you give your grandmother hell, you're partially speaking for a generation who were utterly silenced. I'm SO. PROUD. OF. YOU. 👏 👏 👏

[@lilmeater4785]

​@@suzboneninja I'm pretty sure ur grandma is racist because she was from the 20d or something 😂

[@ghulehvoodoo]

im sorry, somehow i misinterpreted what you said as you telling her the swimming pool made you gay and had to go back and read this like 50 more times💀💀💀

[@ChronicGoblinQueen]

I love this for you! "Do you want to go for a walk? I'm gay"

[@tjenadonn6158]

Sounds like your grandmother would love my grandmother. Mine has openly said that my autism and my brother's hemifacial microsomia was God's way of punishing my mother for marrying my mostly-First Nations and Christian Universalist father instead of someone who's just as White, Irish, and Catholic as the rest of the family. Yeaaaaah there's a reason why none of my parents' children are Catholic: if she's the sort of person who gets into Heaven I'll vogue my way through the gates of Hell with a smile on my face.

[@justtcallmered]

one time my grandma took me clothes shopping and I wasn't finding anything I was liking in the girls section and eventually my grandma was confused and asked me why I didn't want anything, so I told her I don't really like anything we've seen, then she asked if I wanted to look in the boys section and I felt like I was about to cry but said that I don't know if I can because my mom wouldn't want me to buy stuff from the boys section to which she said "well your not shopping with your mom, are you, your shopping with me." and proceeded to take me to the boys section where I got a bunch of graphic tees and some shorts. anyway that is a core memory.

[@mazzy_ivy]

Thank you grandma this is such a good story ❤

[@ccrandall1495]

Aww your grandma is awesome, cheers to her!

[@moxiebombshell]

if your Grammy is still around, give her a hug for me ❤

[@saige81711]

That’s so sweet and makes me so happy 😭😭 your grandma sounds lovely

[@Lizard_Ri]

As a cis girl i can confirm the boy section is better, the girl one never got anything i like

[@Lil_Warrior_Princess]

I used to be a "manly man", now I'm just a butch lesbian. All because of a dream where I'm living happily as a girl. Follow your dreams. Did take me 3 years to come out cause it was in the middle of the previous US presidency.

[@WitchCee218]

I'm so happy for you! That's such a sweet story.

[@tjenadonn6158]

Masc lesbian transgirls UNITE!

[@MikeSteele-gt7td]

You can't be a lesbian if you are a man. Impossible dream mate

[@DinaMcTasty23]

No way!! I’m also a butch trans woman. It’s crazy how often I get mistaken for being AFAB and on T lmao.

[@MikeSteele-gt7td]

@@DinaMcTasty23 butch trans woman....lol...you mean a man.

[@LunarArsonist]

as an aroace, im not trying to hide that im aroace, im just letting my mother figure it out naturally(She said I wasnt allowed to date till she was dead anyway😉)

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

She gave you the best blessing

[@gl1tchspectre_]

"oh no.... anyway"

[@Montesama314]

"Ah, so we're playing the LONG game..."

[@deltamico]

Fortunately it doesn't affect you, but imagine being able to date only after around your 50s

[@farisakhtar4824]

How can you hide being aroace? Most people just assume I'm gay as a heterosexual Aromantic

[@Parasaurolophus476]

I'm a cis straight woman, but in college I had a bi boyfriend, a pan roommate and his boyfriend who lived with us was trans. My mom knew none of this. When she came to help me move out of that apartment, she brought my brother with her to lift heavy stuff. I had been using an IUD for birth control for years and thusly, hadn't had a time of this month in years, however.... When my brother needed to use the bathroom (the only bathroom in that apartment) he spotted my roommates tampons and grabbed them because, as far as he knew, I was living with three cis men. TLDR, I stole my roommates tampons so I wouldn't accidentally out him.

[@steemcgee5150]

That's actually hilarious

[@sarahr8311]

That's both sweet and hilarious. I hope you texted him afterwards and had a good laugh 😂

[@mariebourgot4949]

@@dustygania2425 Wow you're so not politically correct, how many points do you get for these comments?

[@KaityKat117]

​​@StopSinI'm burnjn the lgbt flag jn my profjle

[@njmoonfrost6145]

Can we give your bother a round of applause for grabbing them though? He was trying to be nice and thinking of you

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Quote of the Day: “No, I’m not sick, I’m just gay.”

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

Beautiful words

[@rosalynelippington]

Hahahaha I’m both.

[@autumngreenberg3686]

Lol. I ended up accidentally outing myself to my sister by being "too much of an ally". To be fair, she wasn't wrong. She's also, like, the third family member to ask me if I'm LGBTQ+. I must be unconsciously projecting something into the world, lol...

[@orsolyafekete7485]

That could be true: my mum was regularly asking me since I was like 10 if I was gay, regardless of how much I insisted that I like girls. It turns out we were both correct, I'm a trans lesbian. So I was definitely radiating something, even if no one could tell what it was :D

[@isdrakon9802]

I'll never understand why being an ally must mean you're in the closet to people. I've gotten it from multiple people and it's just really annoying.

[@autumngreenberg3686]

@@orsolyafekete7485 Lol. Yeah, it's been a few years since this time and since I was asked last time. In those few years, I not only realized I was Ace, but then realized that I'm demibisexual. So because I went from thinking I was an ally to actually part of the LGBTQ community, naturally I got more passionate about it and ended up outing myself, lol... Maybe now she'll start to be a little less "not homophobic, *but*..." 😮‍💨

[@kdepp90]

​@@isdrakon9802my mom is kinda like that, even tho she's phobic. I was trying to tell her I didn't have any issues with people who are gay, and my mom was like "so if another girl started hitting on you, you'd be ok with that?!" Uh, I don't exactly swing that way, tho I'd be open to the idea/possibility, personally, but I wouldn't have a problem with it. I'd probably take it as a compliment, lol.

[@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit]

Same but slightly different. She knew beforehand. I don't know how. Is it really that obvious that I'm ace?

[@kbeara03]

I came out as bi after the last Winter Olympics. Those female figure skaters are just so graceful that I started noticing women.

[@averylouise1024]

That’s very relatable. I feel that. ✨Women✨

[@tjenadonn6158]

Women hit me like a brick wall after I started hormones. Like seriously, why are there so many pretty women in the world and why can't they all just hold me? It's unfair.

[@RenaissanceRockerBoy]

Yuri on Ice if it was actually yuri (real)

[@jerrimenard3092]

For me it was women's golf and tennis. It was the 1980's and the teen magazines all had centerfolds of male heartthrobs. My sister hung up those in her room. I put up Annie Lenox and David Bowie. Yes, I am Pan and non-binary.

[@tjenadonn6158]

​@@jerrimenard3092I imagine those two were the awakeners for many a Gen-X enby.

[@weirdo001]

I came out to my dad by sending him a video of me jumping out of an actual closet and saying "I'm aromantic and asexual!" And he somehow forgot. That was an awkward conversation... Edit: Thanks so much for 160 likes!

[@misterglo1394]

How did he forgot that glorious video! Also hi fellow aroace

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

OMG I wanna make a video like this too ?? What a beautiful idea

[@Crushinski]

My dad forgot too! Also that's so funny lmao

[@MoodyMickey]

Man, I kinda wish I came out this way. I came out as ace before coming out as aro. My mom thought asexual was the same thing as abstinence and told me I chose to be ace 😒 she also tried to prove that her definition of asexual was right and I was wrong. She literally googled the definition to try to prove me wrong 😂. I was not proven wrong

[@MoodyMickey]

@@trevorchester4439 well, it's been a few years. I came out in junior high and now I'm a high school graduate, and I'm not embarrassed yet

[@thelittlestpika]

I went from transphobic to nonbinary and queer. I think I just had a lot of internalized transphobia from my parents but, luckily, I found out that I'm not cis and I'm much happier being myself than who people wanted me to be. Edit: I want to say that I appreciate the celebration in the replies and people sharing similar stories! I'm glad everyone here is doing better with self-love and self acceptance. 💜 Only ones who don't deserve love are the bigots.

[@The_sunshine_clown]

Good for u! I used to think that being gay was weird and cringe, now I’m a full blown lesbian 😂

[@RicinOnFire]

Nice!

[@toastiesburned9929]

I used to be an angry homophobic guy, now I'm just a girl in therapy 😂

[@soulsofwar8985]

I went from homophobic and transphobic to a pansexual trans woman. It turns out I just hated myself and was projecting ajlkdsnvjkladsnv

[@aprilk141]

Angry half guy to healing and loving being alive as a trans woman. Life is funny, sometimes a little too funny. ❤

[@BubblyRainbows]

So... my dad caught me watching adult fun time videos and doing... stuff... because I had earbuds in and didn't hear him come home, so I thought I was alone in the house. I would have thought that like you said, I would have shriveled up and died on the spot. I couldn't imagine anything more humiliating. And yes, I was really embarrassed. But my dad was the one that absolutely imploded. It looked like he was about to have a panic attack while he fumbled for the door handle until he managed to close it. Him being so scandalized kind of canceled a bit of my own embarrassment so it was only mortifying and not lethally humiliating. It was too awkward for me to bring it up later, and he said literally nothing to me, not one word, for the next two days. He just kind of grunted in response to questions and otherwise just avoided being in the same room as me. Two days later he replaced the handle on my door with one that could lock from the inside. I came home and he goes and shows me the new handle on my door, and without ever even looking in my general direction he clears his throat and says, "Uh... It's normal. And healthy. Lock the door." It was never spoken of again.

[@waytoobiased]

this is incredible

[@sarahr8311]

My Dad caught me reading some THINGS, and since I was a younger teen asked if someone had showed me things. When I replied I'd found it on Google, he said ok and we never spoke of it again.

[@BubblyRainbows]

@StopSin Tell me you're a worthless bigot without telling me you're a worthless bigot. I'll never understand why people are so proud to announce that they're a garbage person. At least we can laugh at them. ✌🤓🏳‍🌈

[@Maud_mg]

my confession: when i was nine i accidentally came out to my parents by asking for a bi flag from santa. edit: turns out im actually a lesbian, but i still love this story, and "santa" got me a new flag 3 years later.

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

What did they say????

[@ragnkja]

Did you get one?

[@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit]

I hope you got that flag!

[@Maud_mg]

@@ragnkjayes! i got the flag and "santa" gave me an invite to pride that year! was so happy.

[@alexanderfo3886]

That's such a lovely story, and I am so glad for you. When I was nine, I didn't even know what bi meant :-D.

[@supermangarritano6636]

We welcome the newbies to our community with open arms 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🖤🩶🤍🤎💖💘💕💞💝💓💗💟🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@the-digital-idiot]

What are 🩷, 🩵, and 🩶? (My font doesn't have them for some reason?)

[@ashleycd6487]

​@@the-digital-idiotpink heart, cyan heart, and gray heart

[@the-digital-idiot]

@@ashleycd6487 thanks

[@XENOWOLFI]

Woah how did you get that like cyan heart- and the pink one? What is this witchcraft?

[@kye_the_possum]

ONE OF US ONE OF US ONE OF US ONE OF US

[@patchymoon]

my confession is that my parents are so accepting that i forgot to tell my mom that i was non binary and only found out when i bought myself a nonbinary pride flag

[@sarahr8311]

😂😂😂

[@maggieb6636]

I forgot to tell my Dad I was genderfluid - for a year. He found out through instagram. To be fair - I knew he would be chill about it, so I didn't feel like I HAD to tell him. I think he was a little hurt all the same.

[@Jugador-Feliz]

Yeah, I just never thought of the closet I was bi so I just naturally showed it, like a year later I was like "btw I'm bi"

[@Uomelette]

When i came out to my dad as trans (mtf) he was super supportive about it, but at one point he innocently went "right right, your mom told me a long time ago that you liked watching MLP, was this why?" and i just started laughing and told him that no i just liked the show 🤣

[@RenaissanceRockerBoy]

Same vibes as me initially asking for a binder and my oblivious but vaguely supportive cis dad saying “like for school?” 😭

[@deltamico]

@KazKindred613 are binders heavily used in schools, or why did he say that?

[@aidennevada243]

I'm also a trans person and a brony! I'm happy it went well for you!

[@YourWaywardDestiny]

@@deltamico A folder binder. You know, rather than having the single folders that might fit into a filing cabinet, one of those more sturdy plastic ones with pocked on the insides and three ring holder things for loose paper. Their Dad was thinking about their organization capacity first since school is (probably) an important topic to him that came up a lot more often at that point, lol.

[@AstralArbourSys]

heh, i'm transmasc and loved mlp as a kid (still do). got my transfem partner into it last year lol.

[@iiscatt.]

I found out I was a lesbian only recently… my first crush was a girl… and my first girlfriend is that girl and we are dating right now.

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

Congrats

[@shy2infinity]

Omg, congrats!!!

[@ObsidianHunter99]

Nice!

[@andreaseverin1346]

100% accuracy, nice

[@isabelcore]

​@dustygania2425 you need to spice up the story with therapy and healing. I hope you become a better person ❤

[@mysleepy_head5509]

My confession is that I very casually came out as a trans guy to my very queerphobic grandparents. They ignored it. The rest of my family gender me properly in front of them and they still choose to ignore it. Those grandparents always mentioned that they wanted a grandson so its a little annoying.

[@damienberry974]

That's bullshit, I'd take the win of having a grandson no matter how it came to be Although I myself am transmasc sooooo I might just maybe be the tiniest bit biased😅😂

[@strangejune]

Sounds like some grandparents want to be ignored. That's no fun...

[@maddykrantz]

Bro my bestie is in a similar sitch, but when her grandma found out she could finally have a granddaughter, she began to accept her, but only because it meant she could buy her dresses and finally have another girl in the family. She still calls it a "phase" but she is willing to "play along with it" because it means she can raise a girl.

[@aiden3627]

⁠@@maddykrantzthat’s really weird of the grandma but at least she’s “playing along” hopefully she’ll eventually realize that it’s not a phase.

[@nerissarowan8119]

@@maddykrantzbaby steps on that one I think!

[@jeddybear5909]

The last packer story made me remember this: Complicated story shortened, I was living with my mate's grandparents. The grandmother had kindly washed my clothes for me, she approached me subtly to tell me "I put your clothes and your di*ldo in your drawer". I was very confused as I didn't own any toys and went to investigate. I later went back to subtly tell her "that was my curling iron" xD

[@jelatinosa]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ArtisanYozora]

She was really like "Here's your clothes and d!ldo🥰" 😂 Fuckin great

[@jeddybear5909]

@@ArtisanYozora I assumed she was worried about the inappropriateness of her husband spotting it from the hall, I probably left the iron on my vanity, and she might have seen it as a favour and gentle reminder xD

[@normalhuman9878]

I used to be very confused about trans people because I didn’t know how one could feel like a gender. Turns out that’s because I didn’t have one.

[@martind2520]

No-one has a gender. Gender doesn't exist.

[@westzed23]

😄💛🤍💜🖤

[@StormyTalks]

I love it!

[@StormyTalks]

​@@westzed23More like 🖤🤍🩶💚🤍🩶🖤

[@LemonAid82]

FINALLY! EVERYONE IS AGENDER​@@martind2520

[@SilverStarlight5555]

Last friday I found my grandma ranting about 'some bigot and why that's not okay' so, turns out I'm at least safe there, success!

[@sheilaw3301]

I'm an expert at being misheard and having to work out what people thought I said, so the Irish flag story is very straightforward to me: "I'm looking for the bi flag, do you sell those here?" "You're looking to buy a flag? Sure, these are for sale." "I mean your flags are for pride, right? They're pretty and brightly coloured." "Yeah we're proud of our flags. Which one would you like?" "I want to buy a bi flag. Is this the bi flag? I like this one." "Absolutely, you can buy that flag, it's [insert price here]" "Okay." *pays for flag* "Thanks, I hope my nibling likes it. They're bi." "Bye, have a nice day!" Anyway that's my best guess. Petition to replace all homophobia with homophonephobia, a much more valid fear.

[@goodpeople25]

"Mummy that's man's name is a homophone." "Look away Johnny, look away." Props to the show Phineas and Ferb which I stole that joke from.

[@caltheuntitled8021]

⁠@@goodpeople25 A name can’t really be a homophone, since a word can’t really be a homophone without another one you’re comparing it to. It’s a “one hand clapping” situation. In the episode you’re thinking of, the man (professor Ross Efrop) had a pallendrome for a name, when something is spelled the same forwards and backwards.

[@goodpeople25]

@@caltheuntitled8021 Wow. What a lot of words to not know how jokes or language work.

[@caltheuntitled8021]

@@goodpeople25 I can see missing the joke (it wasn’t very funny since it didn’t make sense) but what do you mean about language?

[@goodpeople25]

@@caltheuntitled8021 Well you didn't read the joke right (or seem of understand different types of jokes) so no wonder but you also don't understand how language works if you think it's ever in a vacuum. If a tree falls in a forest is a philosophy question and we all know the actual answer is doofenshmirtz.

[@AltJGirl]

Hiiiiiii Jamieeeeeeeee 🎉 My confession: my mom found my tiktoks and found out I'm trans through there. It didn't go badly, I'm good 😊

[@LunarArsonist]

Congrats!!!

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

Congratulations I think..?

[@aidennevada243]

Good for you!

[@AltJGirl]

@@Finnley-supports-translives yep. She vibes with it pretty much

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

@@AltJGirl that's great

[@reneemckinnon5731]

I’m 40 this year and ever since my teens my cousin has accused me of being a lesbian constantly because I never had a boyfriend; tried setting me up with her boyfriend’s crazy lesbian sister; constantly brought up my sexuality in front of everyone and anyone, including all my family members; Spoke about my sex life in explicit detail in front of family and friends; And basically shame me for not being in a relationship. I’m asexual. I knew it back then but I didn’t have the language to understand or talk about it and wouldn’t have confided in her anyway because she’s like a sieve with just the rim and handles. She broke off contact with me and my now extremely small family group (just my mum, uncle, sister, and myself) about ten years ago after both my grandparents died and the family split because of shady stuff that happened with the will. All this to say that she probably still talks about me behind my back because she has been obsessed about it for so long, I’ve never confirmed nor denied anything which is what I think really got to her. I have so many wild stories about my family that I could seriously write a book or make a drama series about them 🤷🏻‍♀️🙄

[@TCHorwood-xq7mw]

[@deltamico]

A blog might be easier. Anyway, let us know if you decide for it

[@tjenadonn6158]

Come on. Spill some shade. Throw some tea.

[@jann_07]

I'd watch the drama series

[@stannosaurus]

​​@@dustygania2425That's not teasing, that's harassing. It is so rude to try and force somebody to be lesbian when they ARENT. Not to mention it is not family's business to talk about your sex life like that. Gross. I'm asexual as well and I would have simply been horrified.

[@drowninglisa]

This might be a bit of a useless comment, but I just really wanna share how much I value the aro/ace rep in your videos! That we can exist in the same space as the other LGBTQIA+ identities and to know that your channel is a place where I can see myself and be represented is a very good feeling. So thanks Jamie and all aro/aces who share their experiences online 🥺💜💚

[@WitchCee218]

As an ace, I love the rep

[@missnaomi613]

Your comment is not useless! I'm not ace, but one of my kids is, and another may be aro (we'll see) and a couple of my friends are aro/ace. Y'all are valid!

[@drowninglisa]

@@missnaomi613 that's a lovely comment, thank you!

[@mazzy_ivy]

🧡💛🤍🩵💙

[@westzed23]

Following Jamie I realized that I was ace. He holds a special place in my heart. Yes, the aces are very much represented here.💜

[@chrissynoelle1648]

I accidentally came out to my sister by playing Sims 4 with her We were making our family as Sims and she let me customize my Sim's sexuality I'm bi and I knew that my whole family is accepting so I just nonchalantly set my Sim to favor both in-game genders APPARENTLY my sister wasn't aware of my bisexuality and got VERY excited when seeing me do that lmao !! She high fived me after I told her "Yea I also like girls" Funniest way I've come out to a family member lol

[@camillex5916]

Aw that‘s cool. :) I came out to some friends as masculine nonbinary by playing Sims

[@URnightmares162]

I use to be confused on what's nonbinary and use to be a bit confused phobic towards people like that until i had a friend who was nonbinary. Now im a demi-boy. Love yall and have a good day/night and stay safe!

[@BlindStarLily]

I was in a similar boat when I was younger. I was surrounded by people who thought that NB people were just trying to get attention, so I believed it myself. Well, the joke’s on me I guess, given I’m genderqueer and only use they/them lmao

[@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit]

I'm from an area that is pretty transphobic. I even heard some kids make fucking attack helicopter jokes *this fucking year.* I don't know how they knew about those jokes considering the fact that they would've been in first grade when they were popular(if I'm guessing their ages correctly) and I'm not even from a counry that speaks English. I'm pretty sure that I had laughed about one of those "jokes"(whithout fully understanding what it was actually about to be fair) back when they were actually popular. I also know some people that'll say that they aren't transphobic or anything and then turn around to argue that being nonbinary is stupid and not real and that changing the language to have less grammatical gender rules is too far and indoctrination for the children that (allegedly(there's no evidence for that accept "I heard they do that")) get taught that in first grade. Yeah, so anyway, he/they.

[@URnightmares162]

@@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit Oh yeah, i heard those jokes in my elementary times, i hope your doing much better today. Also i love your username. Im also He/They.

[@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit]

@@URnightmares162 I still have not told anyone outside of the internet. My language doesn't even have a good equivalent for they anyway, so it probably doesn't make that much of a difference on that side(people have been using he/him for me all my life). My country is currently in a downwards spiral back towards far-right politics so I don't think it'll get any better anytime soon. I hope that that'll end soon. I like to tell the story behind my username whenever someone mentions it. I'm going to do that now. Basically, I needed something when the youtube handles were introduced(my previous username was "A" which was partly a reference to me being aroace and partly me desperately running away from the username I had before) and thought that'd be funny late at night. I still think it's funny.

[@URnightmares162]

@@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit Again, i hope you can be in a better place in future. Either that your country improving or moving, that's up to you. Have a good day anyways!

[@Richard-Bullock]

When my former partner (cis gay man) came out to his mother, she just laughed and said, "Yeah, I knew you were gay before you did!"

[@sarahr8311]

Same energy as the mom who told her just-come-out son "Just make sure they use protection with you" and when he asked "What if I'm doing the penetrating?" She laughed. Totally knew her son was gay, and also was (correctly) sure he was a bottom. 😂

[@Bunny_Bill]

Seeing these "I used to be homophobic" confessions made me remember that I used to be the same way when I was a little kid, and my not-so-ally mom was the one that told me being gay is okay as long as they love each other. Anyway flash forward a decade and I'm the queerest boy to queer and my mom does not like that.

[@mr.perfectcell1887]

I'm bi and I didn't really start figuring that out until I was already 30 or so. The clues were there. There was a few bigoted anecdotes passed around in my family for a bit as I grew up. My mom was an amazing person who raised me and my brother by herself. She wasn't hateful, she just held onto a few toxic ideas. I wasn't fully aware of who I was yet and never pushed back. She passed away when I was 24 or so, right around when I started to become more socially and societally aware. It was still a few years before I addmitted who I was to myself. I just wonder and hope that she would have still loved and accepted me for who I am. I want to think so, but I'll never have the chance to find out or know for certain. I guess I just wanted to share this, for no particular reason...

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

I feel the same about my dad. He died when i was 17, just begining my self acceptation about my identity (trans, nb, pan & ace). I'll Never know what he would have said about it. I prefer to assume it would have gone great with time. ❤️💜

[@missnaomi613]

It took me even longer to consciously recognize my bisexuality. I was about to turn 49! But we're here now. Fun fact: my kids were NOT surprised. 😅 💗💜💙

[@mr.perfectcell1887]

I'd like to think so too, Aki. And Missnaomi, kids are more intuitive than we tend to give them credit for. Thank you both for taking the time to share.

[@gilesclone]

I’m ace and I didn’t figure it out until I was 57. I’m not out to my wife or my parents. I don’t think my parents would have any problem with it. But I’m afraid to come out to my wife. She didn’t handle it very well when my child came out as bi and even worse when they came out as trans and gender fluid. (Tho, fortunately, she has since come around). It’s pretty obvious that I’m asexual actually since we haven’t had sex in over 20 years (which leads me to think she is at least on the grey spectrum). But I don’t think she likes to think of herself as anything but straight. I feel like I would be outing her if I came out to my parents. So I don’t know if I will ever come out to them, even tho I want to. I’m out to my kid, their cousins and one of my sisters and they have all been very supportive.

[@mr.perfectcell1887]

Do what you feel is right for you and them. That decision is yours. I wish you the best no matter what you decide.

[@one-onessadhalf3393]

I’ve got a confession, but it’s not a coming out story. A couple weeks ago, I told my mom that I was going to the Barbie movie with a friend. This was a lie, we actually went to the youth-friendly drag show in town. It was my first drag show that I ever went to, and it was a wonderful time. I got a Pokémon card from one of the queens because she lip synced to the Pokémon theme song. Excellent time! ❤️🏳️‍⚧️🌈

[@dianamerchant1026]

Going to our local gay club at 18 with my coworkers was fantastic! Such an awesome community😊

[@milliemino8424]

I came out as bi to my parents… literally yesterday. No lie. I’m happy to say they were more than supportive, but it’s still pretty scary. Your videos have always made me feel less alone. Thank you, Jamie.❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you

[@mirabellenbaum4109]

That's great 👍 I'm happy for you

[@Bunny_Bill]

Congratulations, I'm glad they were supportive☺️

[@SomeGalNamedEve]

Congrats!!! :D

[@yshktdhnkppfffryu69]

Congratulations!!!

[@Sky-ms2us]

Welcome, b*tches, bros and non-binary hos

[@SAMGEORGE.]

💀🖒

[@Warren-rr3hv]

What's up, beardos and weirdos. One topic here. Edit:I commented this an hour ago. How does this have this many likes already.

[@suzbone]

I'm a huge fan of "theydees and gentlethem" ❤❤❤

[@ghulehvoodoo]

whats up greg! :D

[@maeliame]

I'm so lesbian that I said "why are you censoring butches?" Thank you so much I am on the floor dying lmaooo

[@flapjack1857]

I grew up trying to fit in as a boy but it never felt right and I struggled for 26 years until someone used they for me and i felt happy. I didnt knew anything of the LGBTQA+ and when i told my group about it, one of my friend showed me the nonbinary flag and after research and talking... I came out as nonbinary to my sisters and my friends!

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

Congrats sibling 🥰

[@mazzy_ivy]

Aww thank you to that friend :) 💜🤍💛🖤 is that the right order lol i forget

[@flapjack1857]

@@mazzy_ivy 💛🤍💜🖤 is the nonbinary color, you we're close though!

[@flapjack1857]

@@akitokutikabanae7010 😄 my sisters are supportive

[@ameliagoesontour]

I came out to one of my best friends by telling him ‘I can’t believe you got a girlfriend before me!’ He was really sweet about it and said he already suspected that I was gay ☺️

[@hyenaholicproductions9033]

LGBT+ People have been telling me I am Asexual for years and I denied it cuz I was scared it would mean I wasn't allowed to look at porn. Also I was Transphobic (the ignorant way, not the lynching way) and yet it was Trans-people who helped me realise that being Ace isn't a bad thing. It was like a whole mountain of rocks just fell off my shoulders.

[@mazzy_ivy]

💜🤍🩶🖤

[@TheRedMoon1]

"I was scared it would mean i wasnt allowed to look at porn"

[@hyenaholicproductions9033]

@@TheRedMoon1 Yeah, I was SO wrong. I can totally look at and read exactly the same kinds of porn as I always did and still be Asexual. It's not like I looked at porn of real people anyway.

[@TheRedMoon1]

@@hyenaholicproductions9033 im proud of you

[@StormyTalks]

Welcome to the community. 😊

[@damiensebastian]

The bi flag being accidentally switched cracked me (who is also bi) up "No, I'm just Birish, from Bireland" 😂😂😂

[@dianamerchant1026]

At 14 my dad said “you have as many pictures of women on your walls as you do men.” I responded “ yep. Sure do.” Lol. I realized I had as many girl crushes as I did guy crushes. It just took a while to realize “ oh yeah im bi” ❤

[@AnnabethOwl]

I just thought being bi was normal as a kid. I didn’t have a word for it but when my friend told me they were bi I’m like me to that’s how I feel😂. Now in high school I just realized ALL my friends are lgbtq. And my first crush happened to be a girl that was my best friend, she’s bi but she like someone else and was asking me how to ask him out….so😭(that happened recently)

[@semperfi818]

I wish that everyone coming out, especially to family members, would be received as my dad accepted me then: "You're my child and I love you," nothing else, arms open wide to enfold me in a hug.

[@dinosaurs_rule]

4:20: As a bisexual Irish person, that's hilarious 😂😂

[@nuclearcupcakes]

Birish ✨ 🩷💜💙💚🤍🧡

[@dinosaurs_rule]

@@nuclearcupcakes Yes 🏳️‍🌈

[@waytoobiased]

isn’t it redundant to say both?

[@dinosaurs_rule]

@@waytoobiased hmm true. Sorry . I meant ✨️birish✨️

[@cloudyskye13]

my mental health has been struggling a lot recently and this lifted my spirits so much :) i feel the safest when i’m watching yours and shaabas videos

[@westzed23]

This is a safe place. Enjoy the laughs.😂

[@heather9130]

I am 37 and forget all the time that I never "officially" came out to my family or friends. I'm past the age of worrying about their approval, I have my own family now. So my brothers and dad were visiting. And we were talking about some homophobic legislation, and I just casually mentioned being bi. And my brother stopped the entire conversation. "Wait.... you're bi?????" Right in front of my dad who used to be homophobic but is trying to understand people better. "But you married a guy!" I said bi, not lesbian. 😂

[@mazzy_ivy]

Lol 🩷💜💙

[@LoverofLiszt]

Speaking of Pride, we had our local Pride parade yesterday. I got a lot of (good) looks and nice comments on my brand new "Dinosaurs are cool, transphobia is not" T-shirt 😊🏳️‍🌈

[@angrymicrowave]

@@pietjewaanman3506you are insulting reality by being transphobic.

[@goodpeople25]

@@pietjewaanman3506 Stop anthropomorphizing reality and science unprompted. You religious or are you just substituting vices?

[@BluestoneBeau]

​@@pietjewaanman3506, you don't get it, do you, what you are doing by being transphobic is the opposite of being in realty, if you were truly in realty, you would except that most people are not forced or choose to be to be who that truly are, most of the time, people are just who they are, most the time, people existing as they do does not hert other people, most of the time transphobia comes from self-loathing or ignorence, so i put to you ​@pietjewaanman3506, which type of transphobe are you 🤨.

[@angrymicrowave]

@StopSin okay, if you don’t like us, then leave. We don’t want you here if you are going to be hateful.

[@SAMGEORGE.]

Finally a youtuber with a majority of non toxic fans . Definitely my new comfort zone ❤

[@KentuckyFriedOne]

You've never sorted by newest in his shorts

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

Yeaaay welcome here !! Safeplace and good vibes only ✨

[@PinkPuffball1992]

@@KentuckyFriedOneKZbin shorts are basically just a breeding ground of assholes. Idk why, it just is

[@missnaomi613]

@@KentuckyFriedOne evidently, there tends to be more negativity in shorts comments for lots of content creators. Makes me glad to stick to long-form videos!

[@missnaomi613]

One Topic At a Time and The Click also have very wholesome, loving communities. 🙏❤

[@thebluestrat9623]

I came out to my parents in a not so good way 😬 I was having a mental breakdown because my ex was posting untrue and mean stuff about me on the internet. My parents caught me in the middle of the breakdown and asked me what was wrong so I told them. They were actually really nice and accepting

[@zachnesmith]

My confession: in spite of always priding myself as an ally, my cishet self has made really, REALLY stupid fucking anti-trans jokes in the past until my ass got called out and set straight by a friend of a friend. I still get confused by some of the pronouns, but getting called out really helped.

[@WitchCee218]

It's amazing that you're learning. Allies are awesome.

[@aiden3627]

It’s good that you’re learning, to be fair it’s hard to keep up with the pronouns even when you’re in the trans community and actively trying the internet moves so fast. I recommend reading What’s Your Pronoun? If you like to read, it’s an interesting historic account of the evolution of gender pronoun usage in English language.

[@StormyTalks]

I'm happy you're learning. It helps to have someone to wake you up once in a while.

[@MagicXRoads534]

I wish I’d heard the gift card idea before coming out as trans, because “turn in your “son” and get a daughter free of charge” is just so funny to me

[@KiboSanti]

I flat out told my mom I'm ace and nonbinary, but I accidentally told her I was bi/pan when I parked the car and said "well, it's not perfectly straight but neither am I, so we're good"

[@waytoobiased]

based?

[@mazzy_ivy]

lol

[@princemaggie5684]

I've been SO close to doing this before and I'm very surprised I haven't accidently done it yet 😂

[@Jaxident]

"This isn't the bi flag, it's the Irish flag." "Sorry, sweetie! I thought you said Bi-rish!"

[@tonitoni9984]

Ah Yes Bayrisch 🟦⬜🍻

[@yanagelfand4337]

I have a friendship bracelet in ace colors. In my very homophobic country very few people know even the most famous pride flags, let alone this one, so I usually see it as something just for myself: I know what it means but nobody else does. It doesn't even look like a flag, it just has the right colors. I was tutoring a high-school girl, teaching ESL, and we mostly chatted in English because schools don't provide enough speaking practice. And one time she looked at my friendship bracelet and said "hey, is that an LGBT bracelet?" I freaked out a little, because it's literally illegal to talk to minors about queer stuff in my country; if her parents found out, I would be in big trouble. And then she said: "cool, I'm a part of LGBT+ too". I don't remember what I said about myself, it felt really weird to say something that personal to a student (especially in not that safe circumstances), but also weird not to say anything to a queer child looking for support. But I thanked her for her trust coming out to me, and we did bond a little more that day. I hope she's doing okay now.

[@ophiliavermeersch864]

Reminded me of when I tried to come out as trans fem to my mom and she just flat out interupted me TWICE - so I was like "hey mom, I have something important to tell you" and BAM she immediatly ask smt like "you're gay right" and I'm like "yeah but" and before I had the chance to say not in the way you're thinking she interupts me AGAIN : "oh - so you're trans AND gay" - like wtf, I thought I did a great job at hidding it TwT

[@mikusuwu420]

OH MY GOD this sounds hilarous. i hope she's supportive

[@alice5790]

if she's supportive then this is hilarious asg

[@ophiliavermeersch864]

She's.... Ok I guess - thing is she had a really bad experience being a girl growing up - couldn't do what she wanted because the school was man only... never met girls interested in what she was into and always end up having men trying to... you know... So she has a hard time understanding how I can be MTF or using my name and pronouns - on the other hand, she helps me with a lot of fem stuff so idk what to think about it. At least she's not transphobic and I live literally across the country so I only see her like 5 weeks a year

[@mikusuwu420]

@StopSin i'd write you a snarky comment if i wasn't fairly certain you're 12

[@ObsidianWinters]

We were shopping for for vitamins the other day and I accidentally kept on picking up the the guy ones, my mom semi raised her voice and said "you're not transitioning". Ironically we went bra shopping afterwards. I was planning on coming out as trans to her today. 💀💀💀

[@makakachaput]

Noo, I'm so sorry- that's horrible (and also rediculous that she thinks taking a different kind of vitamin will transition you...??). I hope you're able to find support elsewhere 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

Urf, rude, but i have been through this kind of things too. Since, my Mum has learn more about LGBTQ+ people and now she's making good progress and misgender me really less. It took years, it can be long, but i Hope it will be better one day with yours too. 💜💜

[@ObsidianWinters]

@@akitokutikabanae7010 I feel like I'm kind of in a void spot, she has no problem with me liking girls, and she has no problem with me presenting as more masc. This just bothers her a lot for some reason 🤔

[@ObsidianWinters]

@@makakachaput Ikr I was so confused too 😭😭😭

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

@@ObsidianWinters It Can be the time it takes her to process the information / "Idea of the possibility you could be trans" ! Leave her a bit of Time, eventually help her to inform herself on the subject (often the main problem is just the fear their children could be in danger or not happy, they need to understand we will be happier After) with Books, series.. without coming out, just "oh I read that and that was cool" or something (If you feel it safe enough to, of course !!) Then she will process it by her own, and i Hope one day it's gonna be safe enough for you to Come out officially ! (Mine actually kinda outed myself ? She asked me ahah. That was strange and i wasnt ready but well. Then i took time again to continue to learn about it, accepting it.. but here we are ! From transphobic -ignorant- Bad sentences to following one of my nb friend on insta to learn more everyday ahah) Sorry for bad english and typos, i'm french, and my autocorrect isnt helpfull fjdjdj

[@magicscientifically]

Hey Jamie! Casual viewer here. Just wanted to thank you and compliment you on your book. I'm nonbinary and bought it to hear your transition stories/any advice you had to share and ended up giving it to my mother to read. She's really enjoying it! And for the first time in eight months (since I came out) she's remembering and using my pronouns!! I'm excited to have a chat with her once she finishes, so thanks for being a part of this process.

[@rinkuraku5251]

So that dinner party one echoes pretty strongly with me. When I came out as trans to my best friend, his response was "oh, is that all? That's such a relief! You said you had something important to tell me so I thought you had cancer and were dying!"

[@Atlas_Quin]

I came out to my cousin as genderfluid about a hour ago and it went really well! He asked my pronouns and said he wouldn’t tell anyone until I was ready. It means a lot to me because I love my family but it’s hard to be out because I’m so used to hiding. (Also some people aren’t exactly the most understanding) He’s the first person in my family besides my sibling who I told and I’m still in a bit of shock about it all. Thank you so much Jamie for making videos. They’ve helped me a lot with figuring out who I am and becoming comfortable with it. It’s helped me realize how being out isn’t always a bad thing like it has been for a lot of my friends.

[@ryttyr14]

Congratulations on coming out! I'm so glad it's going well for you! Good luck in continuing to figure yourself out!

[@Atlas_Quin]

Thank you!

[@faith-by-faith]

I came out to my dad accidentally. I just casually mentioned it for reasons I can't even remember anymore, and he was like "wait are you?" and I was like "wait did you not know?" I just expected him to know because my mother had a fit about it when I was outed in high school, and when my mother knows something, EVERYONE KNOWS except my dad apparentliy

[@AltJGirl]

Lol, I was told my closet was glass. It's true. So true. I'm concerned more people can't tell.

[@Ayyke]

I'm now going to encourage my 30yo (cis) brother to exclaim "it's been 18 years on T!" every time his voice does a weird thing

[@ryttyr14]

As an aegosexual person my parents do not believe me when I tell them I'm ace because they know I watch pron.

[@M_ldyCheese]

Had to google what aegosexual was and oh my goodness- Thank you for making this comment. I know that labels aren't the end all be all, but it does feel good finally having a name for what I am 😊

[@ryttyr14]

@@M_ldyCheese Glad I could accidentally help :D

[@KentuckyFriedOne]

​@@M_ldyCheeseI'm too lazy to Google what is it

[@ryttyr14]

@@KentuckyFriedOne There's a lot of different but similar experiences that fall under this label but in broad terms is basically the lack of a desire to partake in se×ual activities, whilst still enjoying se×ual fantasies. In my case it takes the form of being repulsed by all forms of actual se× but I enjoy pron depicting fictional characters and goofing off to it.

[@ryttyr14]

@@OfficerZlock First of, that's not even funny. Secondly, what the h does that have to do with anything I said?

[@PriyaaanshuThakur]

Literally just finished listening to Jamie's book on audible and i am just speechless, Thank you Jamie for EVERYTHING!! (& Shabaa)

[@nicolemariereads25]

When I came out, my mother asked me not to tell anyone else. I didn't know how to tell her that she was literally the last person to find out.

[@kdepp90]

In response to the mother outing their daughter at the dinner party: If my own mother wasn't phobic, I could very easily see her doing that as well, and then sit there wandering why I was upset, cause if I was gonna mention it anyways, then what's the big deal? What was so wrong with her mentioning it and what difference did it make? (There's been similar types of arguments with her over other non-LGBTQ things) Basically, there'd be no winning with her on that one. Unfortunately, however, she is phobic (I'm ace) and I've tried to in a third person sorta way explain what asexual is to my mom, but she doesn't understand it and can't understand how someone could NOT desire sex. 🙄

[@rosalynelippington]

Yeah it’s just rude to out people without their consent. And ur valid, even if ur mom doesn’t think so. Is your mom at least open to listening to an explanation from someone else about being asexual?

[@Qu4ntumC4T]

My mom told my grandparents about me being bi and trans (with my permission ofc.) The response was simply "we sort of figured." Gotta love it ❤

[@Astronaut-s6w]

You know it’s a good day when Jammi uploads!

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

Yess

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

You’re here stating facts

[@EasterWitch]

I complemented my uncles rainbow socks, and he gave me his second pair. I still have no idea if he is part of the LGBTQ+ community, or just likes colourful socks, but I will be wearing them to pride this year!

[@dark7859]

My confession: When I was trying to come out to my mom I would freeze and end up not saying anything. One day I got an ace flag and she ended up asking about it, and I froze again, ending up not saying anything for so long that it got really fucking awkaward and she left

[@johapunkt3053]

So, maybe write a letter instead?

[@dark7859]

@@johapunkt3053 thank you for the suggestion, but that was some time ago and I already managed to come out since then

[@johapunkt3053]

@@dark7859 Congrats! I hope it went well!

[@tanakasensei3450]

I came out as bi to my mom last year via text, which was the most nerve-wracking thing I'd done - mostly because my mom is highly conflicted as to whether she's for or against the LGBTQ+ community. She told me later she was glad I came out that way, because it gave her time to process the news before she responded. I'm hoping that she'll be open enough to join me at the next Pride picnic next year (this year she said she wasn't quite ready to go to one; probably for the better since I don't think I would've been ready for her response to seeing a furry at the picnic).

[@wind64a39]

I'm one of those guys who grew up in the 90s and tried to convince myself I was bi because I was terrified of being gay. Took until partway through uni to fully realize I was trying to force emotions into boxes they didn't belong. Took until graduation to come out to my parents and my dad is still the type to call Pride Month "too political".

[@mazzy_ivy]

“Too political” jesus that sucks :(

[@bettylawless8332]

I was coming back from a pride event with a slightly smudged aromatic flag on my cheek and a little girl asked me what happened in Basil, that flag isn't even stripped!

[@axel6640]

My Confession: I was watching an ASMR video for dysphoria comfort and half way through I started crying

[@Aquatendo]

I came out to my parents as trans mtf on Valentine’s Day. All because my local support group was meeting that evening, so my usual excuse that I was hanging out with my friend (who is married) wouldn’t work. To top it off, I had planned to come home from work, hand them a letter, and immediately leave for the meeting - but my car battery died and I was stranded at work. By the time I had it fixed I had to go straight to the meeting. So instead of my plan, I had to call my mom and cryptically tell her where to find a pre written letter that would explain where I was. Unfortunately, that letter was in a notebook among multiple failed drafts that contained things I considered TMI. They read it all. I came home to them waiting at the table, but luckily they were okayish with me.

[@unstoppableshark0986]

I love seeing Jamie so constantly doing sexual-related sponsors cause this is the first step we need to make these explicit things not such hush-hush topics, and have people more knowlagable, and prepared in this topic!

[@engimoon3954]

ooh so the i in LGBTQIA+ stands for irish! I always thought it's for intersex. Wow, you learn something new every day!

[@ahegaototthot7712]

I just want to say that your videos always make me smile! They brought me so much comfort when I was afraid and coming out to my family ❤️ Edit to add my own coming out story: I came out to my family (the second time, the first time was brushed off) via Christmas picture with my gf at the time. It turned out well, but it was a very awkward and tense Christmas.

[@elaineb7065]

I'm cishet, but on a Discord server with a large number of trans-peeps. Many have been taking hormones for 6-12 months & are getting so frustrated & emotional they post on the Discord's vent thread. To me it looked like teenage stressing out, & I thought: they're taking hormones, so OF COURSE they're having teen-like freakouts!!! This is how I figured out transition puberty, & when I typed up about this I found it was a thing often discussed in trans communities. So if you have trans friends taking hormones, be prepared for their transition puberty, & comfort them, listen to them, & gift them a snuggly plushie xxx

[@oiytd5wugho]

Yeah, it kinda sucks tbh, I personally was also in ultra-dissociation mode so literally acting out a different person for a decade so when I finally took the proverbial mask off I got hit with all the hidden stuff. So for me it's pubertal moods *and* zero emotional intelligence *and* suddenly all my autistic traits *and* like, not knowing anything about myself. I do *NOT* envy my mom, for sure; thankfully I do not have any friends so that's just the one person I bother

[@shy2infinity]

When I was still in high school I was still very much in the closet (even to myself) but when my best friend confessed feelings for me (genderfluid, but at the time they thought they were a girl) I thought about it and realized, "Huh. I wouldn't mind dating them." And that's the story of how I realized I wasn't straight.

[@BuckyBarnesAndNoble]

I’m bisexual and I’m very open about it online but irl not a single person knows. I’ve gone back and forth between coming out to people but every time someone I know says something homophonic I go back to not wanting to tell anyone

[@j.apenrose7896]

Sorry that there aren't tons of supportive people for you irl! I hope things improve and you can safely come out to those who you want to! God bless!

[@BuckyBarnesAndNoble]

@@j.apenrose7896 Thank you

[@varia2354]

I came out as FtM to my dad during a break in a live letter for a game we both play and among his first responses (alongside "I guess I'll say I have 3 sons" and "Have you decided on a name?") was asking if I'd change the name/gender of my character in said game. The answer was no.

[@MumboJ]

My niece was looking for a ruler for an art project and my sister-in-law said "anything straight will do" and without thinking I said under my breath "not me, then" (I wasn't out at the time). I don't think anyone heard me but I kinda wish they had as they would've found it hilarious.

[@JunoARain]

I had a friend when I was a freshman who came out to everyone and was very upset that no one was surprised. I told him, "hun, your closet had a screen door."

[@AngelDRose]

I was 17 when I came. Lived in a small town. My friend must have had suspicions because she came up with a plan to get me to come out. She asked me to go to the next town over to “pick up her friend”. When we got there we walked up to a camper outside of a house, she knocked on the door and when I tell you my jaw dropped. Answering the door was the most beautiful guy I had ever seen (Picture young Ryan Phillippe but with brown hair and eyes) He was wearing nothing but his underwear and was so cute while he rubbed his sleepy eyes. It was like a scene from a movie. The hallelujah angels were singing and time seemed to stop. I stared at him the whole way home. Later that same day I came out to my friend. When I came out to the rest my friends they said I was the only one who was “in the closet about it” 😂. I also didn’t want to have to go through all the fear and panic of coming out so I made the decision to tell everyone all at once. I told the 3 biggest gossips in town and told them “ don’t tell anyone”. The next day everyone knew. It was super easy. Also not a surprise to anyone.

[@Maud_mg]

ok, ngl the stretchable banana is low-key genius

[@RoseCarey-qt5dw]

My mom outed me to our entire family, grandparents, aunts, uncles, ect. And she also outed me to some of her friends and church. I am convinced that there is nobody in our little town who doesn’t know I’m trans because of her 💀

[@shadowemperor5177]

Wow that really sucks. I’m sorry that you are going through that, getting outed feels absolutely horrible. Best of luck ❤

[@demitwice]

my confession is that back when i was in pre-k, we're talking like 4 years old maybe, i went to a girl from my class and asked her to show me her tongue because there's a saying in my language that goes "a person who shows their tongue wants a kiss" ("quem mostra a língua pede beijo", terrible saying by the way) and i wanted to kiss her lol. i got grounded by my teacher and i couldn't understand what i had done wrong

[@jelatinosa]

Is that Portuguese? It's so similar to Spanish. "Quien muestra la lengua pide beso" would be how it's written/said in Spanish

[@zoeybourke9617]

I came out as trans to my younger brother on new years because we needed rides to get from where we were having predrinks to where we were spending the night. Literally just open the door to his car in full make up and a sparkly dress and go "So surprise".

[@snarkywallflower5829]

I came out to my parents by them finding my account where I had reblogged a lot of gay fanart (they were like, “are you…not straight?” and I said yes) and to my siblings using Hangman while we were watching a basketball game. The rest of the night wasn’t fun, but at least I have a slightly funny story now!

[@naluzoniro]

I came out to my parents and brothers by sending them a powerpoint presentation 😆 I suppose a gift card might have also be in the right mood, but I was coming out as trans, so there were a lot more things I wanted to explain x)

[@evan_j]

Wow, I hope it went well!

[@juliansthoughts5641]

I feel the need to mention that yesterday I was in the car with my friend and my brother and we drove past two people with a "Jesus Saves" sign (Midwestern things). At the time I was thinking about my boyfriend. I rolled down the window and yelled "I'm gay".

[@BlindStarLily]

Less a confession and more a funny story My girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years now, and I constantly am wearing the promise ring she gave me. I wear it only on my left ring finger, the place where engagement and wedding bands are traditionally worn. I was spending some time in the summer with my grandparents and my gramma’s side of the family. While at a sort of family cookout, I was sitting next to and chatting with my favorite uncle, and he, unlike the rest of my family, noticed my ring and that, in all the time he’d seen me that summer, I hadn’t ever taken it off or swapped it with a different one. He picked up my hand from the table so he could take a look at it, and I kid you not, asked me, “So, is this like a friendship ring?” I responded the only way I knew how. By giving this wide, shit eating grin while my sister-aware of my queerness-covered her mouth and turned bright red on the other side of the table

[@viivi4196]

omg the pride one is almost like my story, I told my mom I was going to pride with friends (only one of them was out at the time) and she was like "well what's your business going there, I know this one person has a reason but why are you going?" so I just came out then and everything went well!

[@Emilywilson10222]

I can relate to parents finding out through the 2020 consensus!! Mine wasn’t through the consensus but I form in my library where a lady said “sexuality? Straight I assume” without looking up at me (long story about why she was doing the form and outloud with my mum stood next to me). I hesitated and went “errr…errr..yeah sure, that’s fine” out of pure panic. My mum noticed and asked me about it when we left. That’s how I came out to her 😂😂

[@johapunkt3053]

What the fudge does a library need info on who you like to sleep with for?! Like, do they offer porn recommendations??

[@annameyl]

Found out I was aro/ace after. Instead of just breaking up with my partner I ghosted him so hard I literally moved out of the country

[@kwowka]

4:24 reminds me of my friend. She wore a bi flag, her lesbian aunts saw pink and thought it was a trans flag. Since, she has been gifted a lesbian sticker, an agender pin and tried to come out as bi SEVERAL TIMES, to no avail. Ah well.

[@ExplodingRainbow17]

Watching you and OT helped me build up the confidence to come out to my family! So thank you, Jammi!

[@crazygingerdub]

As an Irish Bi Trans guy, that flag story was hilarious 😂 i also travel a lot for work and get asked to say random things to hear my accent 🤣 iv also been stopped in the middle of a lesson (im a school tracher) and asked if i was a boy or girl (pre-t at the moment) But also to correct how i say certain words 😅 🏳️‍⚧️🇮🇪

[@thatdisabledprincess]

For Valentine's day this year, I made a sign that said "Error 404: attraction not found" and taped that to my shirt, along with wearing my aro flag like a cape. One of the best things I ever did in high school (the first being reading queer poetry in front of the school) I also went to pride for the first time this year! My best friend and I had an amazing time. (I also wore my aro flag as a cape then too lol)

[@If-loki-was-a-fox]

I just learned that I was outed for the first time not too long ago (dw this is a funny story) One of my little siblings and I were talking about how our mom doesn't have the best grasp on queer etiquette and stuff, like not outing people, and my little sibling suddenly remembered and informed me that the last time my parents and little siblings went to visit my grandparents, my mom brought up that I am nonbinary and use they/them pronouns without prompting, and allegedly even accidentally did the "she uses they/them pronouns" meme. Just fully going through a checklist of "trying to be a supportive ally but not quite hitting the mark" memes. And since the only reason I'm not already out to grandparents is me sucking at starting conversations and stuff, I see this as a win because now I don't have to, and it's also just a funny story :)

[@Amethystar]

I was a self-righteous homophobe before my former boyfriend came out as bi, and I realized that my parent's views didn't have to be mine. I'm in my late 30s and am definitely at least bi, but don't truly know my type. I blame all the years I grew up not wanting to be a sinner so I didn't even let myself think too much about who I was attracted to, coupled with rejection-sensitive social anxiety.

[@Pelumo64]

Better late than never, I guess.

[@Pelumo64]

@StopSin Meanie

[@StormyTalks]

I have no idea who you are but I love you and I'm glad you're here. Keep learning and growing.