Read this book if you have no friends (it's not what you think)

[@Devamsha]

i completely agree that dale carnegie's book was much less about nurturing genuine relationships, and learning a lot about building a network at work this year it added to that 'transactional' feeling i had with building corporate networks. this is another push for me to read the courage to be disliked this year!

[@Akta]

Agree, it’s about networking and I really hate the idea of networking vs genuine relationships

[@RyanYeo]

Being yourself in relationships is so much better than changing yourself to please other people. Great video, simple & straightforward, and really nice vibe!

[@Akta]

Thank you SO much Ryan! I agree, it’s always better to be accepted for who we are 🙌

[@JustinTrudeau1971]

I leapt out of my chair when you read the title. I’ve listened to the audiobook. I don’t agree that there’s no such thing as trauma - PET scans reveal long term abuse changes the brain - but all the other tips are good. I’ve never read Carnegie. It seemed too manipulative. Good video.

[@JamieWhiffen]

I've heard a lot of good things about 'the courage to be disliked', I'm definitely going to check it out!

[@Akta]

You will really enjoy it! :)

[@lindokuhleshandu4024]

I bought this book a couple of days ago. I've yet to read it. My intention for buying it is not to learn how to make friends perse, but to understand and connect with people from multiple walks of life. At least that's what I'm expecting to learn from it. At the same time, I'm more than okay with not being everyone's cup of tea. Not everyone is my cup of tea either. In the context of relationships when I can feel that I'm not someone's (a crush) cup of tea, I tend to ask myself how would they know unless they take a sip?

[@adamlogan7340]

Hi Akta, What you said totally resonanted with me as I had a fear of communicating with others. I spent a lot on books on how to make friends with little benefit/true friendship. Thanks for your honesty.😊

[@Akta]

Thanks so much for watching Adam, it makes me so happy that you related to this 🥰

[@LeonardoOliveira-ko1rf]

I also read Dale Carnegie's book and I didn't really like it, because I also felt that it's not about making friends, but about creating a business network.

[@Akta]

I agree!! I think if it had a different title it would be fine but it’s so misleading

[@browncoco17]

The title really struck with me when I came across it a while back. The whole idea was so refreshing and freeing.

[@Akta]

I agree 🤗

[@bellabong8862]

This video really hit home me. So many mind-shifting nuggets packed into less than 8 minutes. I was especially impacted by the idea of not giving a false negative meaning about ourselves or others when having having less than ideal experiences while trying to establish and maintain friendships. Lovely. Giving another the benefit of the doubt when we feel they may let us down is a very loving thing to do both for the ones we care for as well as ourselves.

[@Akta]

Thank you so much Bella, I’m glad this video resonated with you 🤗🤗

[@mymomantailife4790]

First of all, I loved the video! I haven't read Carnegie's book but a summary and it made me think that it was about manipulating people in orden to like you, at least the way the summary exposed the ideas made me feel that way. I agree with you! Relationships are a two-way road and it doesn't work if one is trying to make the other person feel good and "important" and the other one just "likes" you because of that, like out of convinience but not true connection.

[@RhianeHacker]

Ooh I definitely didn't find it a book about manipulating people. In fact my favourite bit in the book is 'Let me repeat: the principles taught in this book will only work when they come from the heart. I am not advocating a bag of tricks'. I also think perspectives can be different for everyone, so book reviews can sometimes put us off something we might actually really enjoy or can benefit from.

[@Akta]

Yepp I fully agree! It’s a classic for a reason though, it’s about the art of persuasion so it’s actually a book people read for things like marketing. It’s just not as helpful for genuine connections and friendships and I agree, the book almost made me feel worse when I was struggling to make friends and made me even more hyper aware of if people liked me

[@Akta]

Yep I agree! I don’t think it’s a bad book by any means, I just think it’s not necessarily the best book or the healthiest for people who struggle to make friends. I personally found it made me overthink more which made it even harder to genuinely make friends as I was constantly worrying about if that person liked me, if I was talking about them enough, if I was interesting enough etc. it’s a fantastic book for marketing and communication in some senses, I’ve applied some of its teachings in my role as a dentist as I speak to patients for example :)

[@Devamsha]

also as a chronic people pleaser, i have so many thoughts. i definitely need to read this book wow

[@Akta]

You definitely do!!

[@kiia1482]

Thank you for being so authentic❤️🎠🌺

[@Akta]

Thank you, that’s so kind of you to say ❤️❤️

[@BenIsFiguringitOut]

Thank you for this video! I’ve been thinking heavily about what it means for me to be my authentic self. I will definitely check out the book. Thanks!

[@Akta]

Thank you for watching! This is the one book that helped me most with authenticity :)

[@krishnak5774]

Gonna order it now...and as always great video 👍

[@Akta]

Thank you Krishna ❤️🥰

[@Jubair194]

You've convinced me to read this book. It's been recommended by other KZbinrs, but you put it so well.

[@Akta]

Thank you 🤗 pick it up for sure!

[@peachypie8184]

You gave a good points talking about friendship from that book. I also love that book even though there are some parts that i still didn’t understand in the full context. I wish lots of people to read that book. Anyways, thanks for sharing this :) i think i might reread the book soon 🙌

[@Akta]

Thanks so much! I agree, I think it’s a book everyone should read :)

[@niftyquizforfun6324]

Friendship is dependend on emotion respect

[@Akta]

Very important :)

[@niftyquizforfun6324]

@@Akta @Akta and one more thing also important always should careing and hv some time for ask that how are you what thinking about future say good night and good morning on the call and always hv familyness nature

[@wildwoman9314]

New subbie here 😊 your channel is refreshing

[@Akta]

Thank you so much for being here ❤️

[@LatifaDreamer]

Such a great video! I need to read this book ♥really interesting point about having confidence in people than trust as it's true we all make mistakes! I miss you!

[@Akta]

I miss you so much 😭

[@Siel-bm7gx]

I never read the boon the courage to be disliked but will check it out.

[@Akta]

Please do it’s a good read :)

[@Siel-bm7gx]

@@Akta will put it on my reading list, I appreciate you sharing it.

[@LeonardoOliveira-ko1rf]

Loved this video!!

[@Akta]

Thanks so much 🤗

[@mashoodfarooqi3565]

Thank you for the recommendation akta. I remember a video of yours about being an INFJ, any recommendations to reduce judgement (book recommendations are welcome too).

[@Akta]

Hey Mashood, thank you so much! I’ll have a think about it because I’ve never really thought about how to change the judgement to perception before

[@mashoodfarooqi3565]

@@Akta Thank you for the reply Akta (i didn't think I'd get a response 😅). Will look forward to what you'll recommend. P.s. Thank you for this channel.

[@nashondala]

Hey, curious is one of your 5 Clifton strength Intellection?

[@TravelinRosy2025]

Omg I read same book

[@Akta]

What did you think?

[@kierlak]

1st book: not a fan of it tbh 2nd book: interesting title but not sure about it either. Some good points but I am not a fan of Adlerian Psychology and it's view on trauma. I very much prefer Gabor Mate, Carl Jung, modalities such as: IFS, CFT, ACT. I think Gabor Mate once said: "Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happanes inside of you as a result of the traumatic experiences". Therefore what we go through in life isn't that important. It's what happens to us as a result, that's key. The core beliefs we form, fear, self-doubt, being attracted to abusive people, addictions, etc. When it comes to authenticity as an INFJ 4w5, Quiet by Susan Cain really helped me. Also other titles such as Secret Lives of Introverts, Introvert Power and Introvert Advantage. I also discovered that I am sensitive. Therefore explored the topic too: Jenn Granhenam's Sensitive helped me to with self-acceptance. Read few other titles too. Also about to start reading Brene Brown's The Gifts of Imperfection.

[@seetasingh4642]

Hi looking for a good speaker on loneliness you would be great how to contact

[@Akta]

My email is on the about page :)

[@danieliusvilcinskas4585]

But people are with strange character and experience if u know, this book recomented not all!

[@seetasingh4642]

Atka can I contact you looking for a truth speaker to host

[@Akta]

You’re welcome to email me!

[@Michael.design]

Looked at it several times but never read it. Definitely gonna read it now! Btw, If you’re still looking for some friends, I can be one:)

[@Akta]

Thank you SO much Michael 🤗

[@pacoimeroxvida4404]

Im stingy with my affection because im a sigma. In that vein, if u need help finding friends u r probably delusionally narcissistic.

[@Akta]

🤷‍♀️

[@niftyquizforfun6324]

Have you visited India

[@Akta]

I have once but I’d love to go again properly, my husband really wants to take me :)

[@niftyquizforfun6324]

@@Akta wellcome anytime with yours family India is very beautiful and have good culture spritual

[@EphemeralEncounters]

💯💯💯

[@Akta]

🙌🏼

[@reemlav8805]

❤❤

[@Akta]

❤️❤️

[@TravelinRosy2025]

I ageeeeee like one dating book I read n I'm like hell no n the ladies divorced now lol

[@Akta]

😅😅😅

[@unforgettxxle]

First 💓

[@Akta]

Thank you for being first ❤️❤️

[@N3ssa212Linda]

Same it didn’t help me!!!