Real life with ADHD

[@jaynem9896]

To the people questioning the validity of ADHD as a whole on the basis that they've also experienced similar conundrums, and so does everybody sometimes, I offer this: imagine yourself in this scenario, except every day. Every day this is you. Not just sometimes. Every day you encounter a new crucial thing you didn't factor into your planning, even in spite of all the preparing you think you did, and every day it takes you by surprise. Multiple miscalculations and oversights all day long, every day, for the rest of your life. That's what real ADHD is like. It hurts relationships and opportunities, so by the time you're an adult living independently, your self-esteem is at rock bottom.

[@ladylilac4363]

The amount of disruptions, damaged relationships, arguments, financial issues, and shame that we go through on a daily basis would boggle them.

[@Beleen-gw3vw]

Thx for putting it into words for me. It’s exactly how I feel.

[@EidolonPoem]

Absolutely this! It sounds so benign until you factor in that it is literally your whole life every day.

[@davidhumphrey7874]

ADHD is not something you HAVE, it's something you ARE.....

[@BRandleman8541]

Thank you for this❤

[@ladylilac4363]

I'm so sorry. I feel the panic, frustration, and failure. I don't know how to make it better but please know you are a lovely person and have made such an impact on me. I'm turning 63 tomorrow and only got diagnosed a couple weeks ago. I found your channel while waiting for my results and I saw myself over and over. I can't thank you enough for putting your life out there.

[@skbrickmeister]

Just turned 61 and just found out.

[@KayleenWhite-ug4sk]

I’ll second this - except I’m 65 and working this all out with the help of this wonderful channel

[@artscrafts4685]

💚💚💚

[@tazziegee8479]

60 and diagnosed this year.. its so good to have channels like this for information and real lived experience.

[@theladyinblack3055]

OMG!! I'm home!! I'm 61 and waiting for an official diagnosis by an ADHD specialist for adults - which is proving difficult to source - but my GP and my psychiatrist both say it's highly likely I have ADHD. I thought I was the only idiot to be finding out now but it's turning out to be more common than I ever imagined, so maybe I'm not an idiot - maybe it's the fact that I'm female and so many of us weren't recognized back in those days. It's wonderful that creators are normalizing ADHD and helping us recognize that we're not bad people - it's just the way we're wired!

[@SirNightKnight]

I received my diagnosis 2 hours ago at the age of 31. I was leaving work, then bing, email notification. I my chest felt like electricity was going through it, I managed to remain somewhat outwardly normal long enough to leave. Then I ranted out loud about everything and everything the entire bike ride home. It's a fucking lot to process and my mask is well and truly slipping at the moment, but I wanted to thank you. For the last few weeks waiting I've been having major imposter syndrome and watching your videos was a really nice distraction.

[@Janne_Mai]

Congrats on your diagnosis! That might be a weird thing to say, but understanding what's going on can help soo much, with managing it and also with not beating yourself up about it. ❤

[@SirNightKnight]

@@Janne_Mai Yeah I know, just a lot to process, kind of like having the curtain pulled back on a part of myself. But I appreciate the comment, thanks

[@SirNightKnight]

@lokeoddity I appreciate the welcome! But I guess I've always had it I just know now. If anything I guess it's good being part of something than just being that kind of weird guy. On the plus side, 9/9 on impulsivity/hyperactivity and a 9/9 on inattentiveness so at least it's full marks hahaha

[@coffeegonewrong]

Congrats?🤔. It’s always better to know. Next is the work of understanding when things went wrong, how much of it was ADHD and not you, then starting to forgive yourself because you didn’t know. Just a hint, the last step to whole lot harder than it sounds. Feeling like lifelong screwup and trying to change that is like trying to change 4 flat tires from inside the car while still deriving it. So if you figure out how to do it, let the rest of us know. K? Edit: and congrats on the perfect score! Nothing helps imposter syndrome like the doc saying “Oh yeah, you definitely got it. Any more obvious and it would have come with a warning label”

[@alexandralite835]

Why do you need a mask? I learnt years ago there's no point. People are either going to see you for how you are and like it, or they won't. Most often than not, people don't like me because I'm unapologetically myself. My boyfriend thinks he's ADHD but he needs to actually get test for BPD first because ADHD because they have a lot of symptoms in common. My friend scored an 80% on ADHD.

[@solveigrose5537]

You may not have found the exit of the train station but you have found your way into my heart and the hearts of so many of us through your music, interviews, witty and funny videos. You are loved. Hugs from a fellow 39 year old ❤

[@LadywatchingByrd]

It's tough being on this precipice of 40 and having a 🧠 we still can't control. 🫂🫂🫂 To all of us NDs

[@sunflowergirl73]

Wait she sings?I thought she only talks.aboyt Adhd.

[@brigittemerz9667]

This brought me to tears... Thank you!

[@judythompson3612]

66 year old with VERY LATE diagnosis. So much of my life was Hellish and I walked away from shambling wreckages so many times. I am so damn grateful for ADHD Love, it’s saving me.

[@zezezep]

52 year old diagnosed, twenty years ago

[@chong2389]

73, diagnosed a week ago Monday, to my great relief! Even though I had a very successful career in the field of a special interest, it was tainted by my ADHD telling me that I am an imposter and will be found out and fired. My personal life had fleeting moments of happiness, but I was always waiting for the shoe to drop, which it eventually did. This channel, video content and comments such as yours, helps make me feel less alone and hopeful, even this late in life.

[@joannewoodward3480]

because when we were young there was no such thing as Autism and ADHD just naughty, stupid children who wanted attention, refused to behave and refused to concentrate. The number of times I was punished and the amount of mental and emotional energy I expended trying to not make people angry at the way I behaved lead to me struggling with depression and self loathing for my whole life. I'm 64 and have only just had my neurodivergence recongnised (very high functioning Autism and ADHD ) as part of yet another round of therapy for depression and anxiety. I need to get my husband to watch some of these videos since he is struggling to understand what this all means.

[@KarmaTSVb]

I’m 36 with ADHD and a musician, and those days are the worst where headphones go missing or you buy the wrong ones multiple times. I’m sorry you’re day was shit. It’s not your fault, even though you the channel that checks that at the front door. We’re fully behind you and grateful you share your life and passion for ADHD Awareness with us from across the pond. I’d totally hang out with you guys and we’d have amazing ADHD non-linear convos for hours. Much ADHD LOVE to you both! ❤

[@coffeegonewrong]

Sort of pro tip: Find the one you want. Take a picture of it, then favourite the picture. Save picture forever so next time you don’t have to figure it out again.

[@user-lg1rf8gx5i]

❤😊👍 Yes. Well said.

[@ViviRaaawr]

Im savin literally almost everything through notes, screenshots or just pictures,a lot of timer for my clock, if I get more then 3 new tasks I need to write them down or think REALLY hard about it, but I keep forgetting something anyways..

[@EraDanceMusic]

Another musician here. I wrote on my white board HEADPHONES but I can still leave them at home.

[@DaGuys470]

I've got autism on top so I really need my standard rituals and if any little thing is off I become very nervous. Forgetting my headphones is a nightmare for me. When I'm outside I wear them all the time, even when I don't listen to anything. It helps me focus and puts me in my own little fantasy world, which is a thing that makes me feel very comfortable. When I don't have my headphones it almost feels like I'm missing part of my body. Going anywhere without them feels very strange.

[@tolstoy21]

Totally get this. 100%. Every time I start a new home renovation project, I can't find any of the tools I need. So I go to Home Depot, but new tools, etc. I finish the job and am too tired to put things away properly, so I just heap all the tools up in a pile. The next time I start a project, I have to go through the pile to looks for tools I need, but can't find them (and to be honest, I completely lack the patience to look in any comprehensive way). So here comes another trip to Home Depot to get the required tools. However, and here is the rub, during the frantic search for the currently needed tools, I find all the old tools I was looking for and could not find from the previous project. Rinse, repeat. Rinse, repeat. All I need to do is organize my workspace so everything is in the correct place and easily locatable. But I'm 51 now, so, if I haven't learned to do this by now, ain't gonna happen. Hey, does anyone need some tools? I have extra!

[@kalt1976]

Gosh, I can relate so much. It really sucks at times. Big hugs!

[@alili825]

I know it was a few months ago now, but sending you a big hug and, a huge “you are not alone” (which I know you know, of course). 🤗🤗🤗

[@flemmerc]

I feel this! Reminds me of the trip for Farnborough air show. I successfully took the train four days in a row, to and from London to the air show. Day five, I get on the train, and after 20-30 minutes, realize that the scenery is all wrong. I had gotten on the wrong train and this was back in the day of no cell phones. Ugh! I didn’t know I was ADHD, just that I was mortified and to this day, I don’t know what I said when I finally showed up in Farnborough. 😅

[@shawnowens7099]

Girl, it's Thanksgiving here in the States and my energy has been off all week. It started when I refilled my meds dispenser and forgot my ADHD and anti-anxiety meds and the B12 for two days. Now it's the morning of and I'm sauteing greens but want to go back to bed. 😢

[@thecherrytree]

I felt this a week ago. Im a college student. Cant manage a job and an arts major at the same time so my parents end up helping me if i need stuff for my apartment or for sensory needs and the just got me a pair of earbudss less than a week ago because my other pair were malfunctioning. And i lost the case. The case required to charge them. I felt like such a failure and a burden and it would have hurt less if i bought them but it was my very generous parents who got them for me and it was the absolute worst feeling. i spent the entire day trying to find where i had misplaced them on campus and i finally found out i left them on the bus and had to go to the building that runs the busses to get it back. All while i had classes that day. Its do weird how panic can make me go from the calmest person you know to an absolute disaster in an instant

[@LIsa_Shi]

I'm like literally crying listening to this. So freaking relatable 😢😢😢 you stay safe you amazing person

[@juleswick]

Been there done that!!! You are NOT alone my friend! We love you!!! ❤

[@JacktheRah]

Oh no I can so relate to this. Especially the no headphones bit. Everything is more stressful if you can't just tune in some music or a podcast that calms you down. And not finding the way out of a train station is something I can very much relate to. Happened to me recently as well. While I didn't mean to leave the station I meant to change the train and I did so and I was really proud of myself for finding the platform that quickly. And I was pleasantly surprised when the train arrived a few minutes early. I then drove it for one station, left the train and then waited. Only to figure out I had gone to the wrong city because while I did take the correct trainline I took the one that goes into the other direction. So yeah, you're definitely not alone.

[@tarng2901]

I just saw this and can relate so much, then I Just wanted to give you a great big hug xxx

[@NonExistent-lw4wm]

Awww bless you, I'd be just as upset if that was me too, your age doesn't mean you aren't allowed to feel this way!! I hope you have more better days, sending hugs❤

[@eirini9419]

I can soooo relate to this! Especially the wandering around not being able to find your way out of the bus or train terminal thingy! You poor thing! This IS real! 😅😅😅

[@beckybee_]

Oh what a horrible day, I'm so sorry you had to experience that!! ❤❤❤ Well done for getting through it. I know all those feelings all too well and just want to cry with you. I would buy you a nice warm drink if I could!

[@becksarmour9922]

We are here for you like your here for us ...and for u selflessly sharing with us to help us , shows us what an absolute beautiful human being you are xxxx ❤❤❤

[@brightdeathfriend]

Cheers to you, Rox. I got diagnosed with ADHD in May and I'll be 34 in a couple of weeks. Starting out on this journey of understanding myself and what makes me ADHD has been very hard, especially as I'm also autistic, there are so many conflicts in my head and I feel useless or like a complete idiot most days. The inertia is the one thing that is well and truly kicking my arse and I know I'm physically capable of doing alot of things but I can't access them...I feel your frustration and your sadness. Despite all of that, you're still here and helping people like me not to feel alone in our struggles...so thankyou for that ❤

[@livingjacqueline]

You’ve explained it sooo well… it brings me to tears. I know I’m capable but I’m so often frozen. Not knowing where to start, procrastination, so often causes problems like not making phone calls not paying bills, research, papers pile up and I know there’s urgent things to do… By the time I get to them, it’s too late. It’s just overwhelming. I feel like I need a system but I have no clue what system is actually gonna work. It know in the past once I have started it wasn’t as hard as I thought, but getting started feels like climbing Mt Everest, too hard, too cold, I wish someone else could do it. Maybe I need to ask for some help.

[@brightdeathfriend]

@@livingjacqueline I completely relate to the frustration and I sympathise that it causes you do much upset. Its maddening when we know that so many other people can do (thing x) with no problems but why can't I? One thing that Rox has done a video on, and that I've seen in other places is body doubling. Have you heard of it? It's where you ask someone to just be with you while you're doing a thing you need to do and their presence is enough to help to kinda trick your brain into doing said thing! Mad I know...but it's been helpful for me as of late. Please know that asking for help doesn't mean you're weak. It means that you understand your limits and need a bit of help to achieve whatever needs to be done. Having those thoughts and wanting to improve on yourself however you are wanting to are the most powerful tools you have and noone can take those away from you. Stay strong, you can do this ❤️

[@icqtrinity]

​@@livingjacqueline Excellent job of describing what I also go through. You are not alone. God bless ya! ✝️

[@jenniferbates2811]

Hugs from Rhode Island, USA hun. 💜. Just because you're an ADHD creator doesn't mean that it doesn't affect your life. Thank you for being you and not pretending that ADHD isn't tough. Please understand that you're not alone. I'm 46 female with ADHD and PMDD. I work 2 jobs and go to college.

[@jennifercartwright2360]

Sending hugs and prayers for continued strength. ❤️

[@Ofclwordplae]

I completely understand the overwhelm! The best thing I find I can do in these situations is just laugh lol it sucks and it’s annoying, but we’ve all been there and we all make mistakes. The days can be rough sometimes, but if I know one thing from personal experience it’s that your trying your best and that’s all that matters! No need to beat yourself up!

[@deysareus]

That is life in the most accurately descriptive way for an ADHD person. I always wondered why therapy never worked for me and after years of reflection I realized that I already knew the techniques and answers. I already knew what I should do so the therapists all thought things were working and they were successful. Unfortunately being a people pleaser, I didn’t want them to think they weren’t successful and then I failed as usual. ADHD people are usually highly intelligent and easily frustrated or bored. There are some that go in the opposite direction but not many and maybe that’s why we’re so hard on ourselves when things don’t work out the way we know they should. I think that should be the first lesson any ADHD person learns ….how to forgive yourself.

[@dreamtlife0656]

I relate to this so so SO dang much. Late diag adhd female here, too, and wow this is so accurate. Sending hugs

[@TasareAlda]

I've had that day, on the other side of the world, but that day all the same. Sending you a virtual hug. Its all right, you are all right, and you are not alone.

[@julylove8572]

Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my ❤ for the videos you post. I spend most of my mornings in tears just because I have to do the school run or leave the house and I too have to take the exact journey that you have. I’m panicking already am having trouble sleeping all because of a train journey!! People do not get adhd and your videos have helped me so much and I can expect thousands of other woman who look “normal” (I hate that word) but have izms. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

[@jenknox8]

The tears I feel to my core. No one can be more frustrated with me than me. Those moments suck and they are so sadly frequent

[@nse712]

It must have been hard to share about that experience, but thank you for being brave and doing it...I feel less alone.

[@MagicPanther]

Rox, I love you so much, you have no idea. Your channel has seriously become a safe space for me. I always had so many rough days like yours and I've been beating up myself for that so many times, I just got so frustrated, leading to the point of me having literal panic attacks, but you made me realize, that it's not my fault, it was my ADHD that whole time. And especially for those of us, who got diagnosed pretty late in life those days are really tough. But you helped thousands of people to not go too hard on themselves when it comes to their neurodivergent brain and you don't deserve that either. So please be kind to yourself, you deserve so much love and understanding. I know it's hard on those days, but you've built an entire community that loves you just the way you are❤

[@user-lg1rf8gx5i]

❤👍

[@rlud304]

Thank you so much for sharing this. It is so 100% validating for me

[@dreamclaw00]

Love your videos! I so relate. The stress is a nightmare, always trying to keep up, and being punished anyways...

[@WillemPenn]

Oh sweetie, I’m 52 and still do the same sort of things. I guess the only thing I can say is keep practicing the self-love, compassion, and radical acceptance. At some point it just becomes natural. It doesn’t stop these moments from happening but it sure lessens the emotional toll. You are a beautiful soul and I am so grateful to you and your beau for sharing your journey. ❤❤❤ And I’ll tell you, you asked what type of 39 yo cannot find the way out? A perfectly lovely, talented, wonderful, amazing, brave, creative, authentic, 39 yo who anyone would be lucky to have as a friend.

[@MrsBobMom]

I'm 50 and I have done very similar things. Thank you for being open about it and helping people like me realize we're not alone.

[@alexwestmore7419]

I am 40. Diagnosed with ADHD about 3 years ago. My youngest son is also diagnosed. I take medication to help me deal with daily haps, but it is still stressful most days! I try to be prepared for everything, it never plays out, how I hoped. It’s like some days, ADHD is my super power and other days it can be crippling. ❤

[@DanzoTheManzo13]

Related so hard to this. Thank you for sharing your struggles so that we know ee aren't alone 💛

[@childofdestiny2811]

You are here, you are sharing, you are helping people beyond measure! (and, your make up is popping!). A tough day for sure, but overall I would call this one a win! Be gentle with yourself… Much love from the US. P.S. I’m really enjoying your book!

[@Rinkutoki]

The honesty is inspiring and you aren’t at all alone. One thing that helps me, after the panic has passed, is to pretend to be an auditor critiquing how the systems worked. “Did there really need to be 6 ticket types that all look similar but do different things?” “Is the signage well spaced for navigation?”. It doesn’t fix the struggle, but it does help me not berate myself as much. A lot of the time the systems just aren’t well designed for anybody

[@monaami555]

oh I do the same, and then I get immensely pissed that nobody "fixes" those things, and everyone just puts up with this horrible stuff.. so this actually makes it worse for me. Because I feel this is unfair, because it must affect more people, and just because some idiot did not put a sign, maybe 100 people a month have to walk in circles, and waste 10 minutes, which is 1000 minutes of human lives WASTED a month, which is ... and then I think about environment protection and how we are trying to limit plastics and food waste, but we don't care about TIME waste on such DUMB stuff, and it would be enough just to put a stupid sign! I often get into fights with whoever may belong to organization responsible for the problem, explaining why I think it is a big issue, and they usually don't get me, keep saying "it just is so", and it all just becomes worse and worse... because why nobody cares to improve things..

[@randiwinks]

@@monaami555This is me every day about everything. I totally feel you.

[@buffyVampslyr364]

I feel this so hard, and I send *SO* much love your way. I worked 8 hours at my job the other day, came home and immediately got overwhelmed at the idea that I also had to cook dinner, and then felt ashamed that that is so normal, to the point of feeling like nothing to other people, but it overwhelmed me to the point of crying outside for 10 minutes before I could get started. There was also a lot of noises as my fiancee was listening to music and cleaning and it was all just too much. Even when I went to make dinner it felt like I was burning it and making a mess, and that was stressful and anxiety inducing all on its own. You're not stupid, and I'm so sorry that you had such a stressful day. 💛💛💛

[@RM-hi4vv]

Diagnosed a couple years ago at 46. It’s still so damn frustrating and the ADHD Tax is so *incredibly* real, between losing things, impulsive new hobbies you’re “DEFINITELY going to do this time!”, late fees; the list goes on. *HUGS* to you and to all you do. It’s a lot to show the vulnerable side of our challenges. Especially when we’re adult-diagnosed, the internalized shame of “WHY CAN’t I *JUST*…!!???” can be SO REALLY REAL AND PAINFUL. HUGS ❤ HUGS ❤ HUGS!

[@ladylilac4363]

Newly diagnosed at 62. The ADHD tax is so real. I don't even know how many times I've had to replace birth certificates for myself, husband, and kids. I have a file cabinet but somehow they disappear and that's only one example. The internalized shame will be hard to shake.

[@lesliereed1033]

Yep, get it. Just had the same feeling storm hit me yesterday. It’s exhausting. Thank you for being aware enough and brave enough to share it.

[@knifeprince]

THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO! i swear it literally feels so isolating. i had an experience not too long ago where i was coming out of uni, ready to go home. the bus gets to my stop every hour or so depending on the time (this time it was longer!) , this time it got there earlier than usual (i usually try to get to the stop like 8 - 10 minutes early because i panic that im gonna be late due to my crappy time awareness, even though the bus is ALWAYS late) but unfortunately this time it took me a little longer than i thought due to something i had to do, i ended up getting to the stop 1 minute earlier than it says on the time, but the bus had already passed, and would not stop for me briefly to pick me up. i instantly panic, called my dad crying because i felt like such an idiot failure - and im also pretty sure that day i wanted to go home a bit earlier because id had enough of working, i felt overstimulated from class i was tired and he basically told me that shit happens, and its nothing worth getting so worked up about. it wasnt a big deal that i had to wait, it was only an hour and a half. I KNOW IT ISNT A BIG DEAL! but your head just makes you feel like such a freaking idiot, its so hard not to cry over stuff when it goes wrong so suddenly

[@chong2389]

💯 I have run after many buses, waving my arms wildly and banged on train coach doors as they are shutting, both to no avail. Getting to the stop ahead of time is an obsession of mine too. Especially when the schedule indicates the bus or the train may leave early and the next one will not arrive ufor an hour. Late for work means staying to make up the extra time it took to get there. Getting home late completely destroys my routine. AuDHD.

[@AEM479]

❤ YOU ARE SO LOVED!❤️ & HELPING SO MANY! ❤💕

[@caesertullo1824]

If it makes you feel any better... I've been in denial about my adhd for a decade and change since ive got a few more stuff going on, and your channel has made me come to terms with it. Im starting therapy in 2 weeks and am really excited. Also Ive always hated the terms neurotypical ans neurodivergent but seeing it used by you in the way you do has shown me the benifits of rhe words for talking about the wbole picture and not just the tiny parts if that makes sense. Thank you for all the work you put into your channel. I'm sure you've helped many many more people as well.

[@gabrielaburcea5734]

Aww dear, you got overwhelmed by all of it, starting with the damn headphones. I know I can't survive without them. And you jugded yourself too hard, we all do unfortunatelly. What kind of an adult forgets headphones or can't find the exit? A beautiful one ❤ with the sweetest hubby ❤

[@mudotter]

Awe. My heart goes out to you. So much BTDT in my 59 years on the planet. Now I am processing that I am also autistic, as well as ADHD, which I was diagnosed with when I was 29. I always knew ADD was not the full picture of my experiences. I think the biggest relief is finally appreciating that a meltdown is my ticket back to nervous system regulation. All those years of fighting them, all those years I 'failed' to fight off a meltdown. That was me, winning the battle to exist, now I can embrace them and not apologize for them. Thankfully we now have so many more people aware and willing to give space. 🥰

[@brolly414]

43 here. THANK YOU for saying that a meltdown is a ticket back to nervous system regulation. That is huge - I've never thought about it that way. And you are right, because once you hit that point there's no way out but through. (I can see myself still apologising for them though)

[@Friendowo]

34 year old just starting to restart their lives more aware of their ADHD, I have been there so many times and never knew until recently the things that made me feel those ways. Your channel has been helping my partner and I tremendously and I hope the rest of your day is chill and calm. 🙏❤

[@nooooooooope3809]

Thanks, buddy. I'm so sorry you had such a rough day. I've been dreading going to Thanksgiving with friends today because when I hear people talk about relationships, careers, hobbies, goals, etc. I just feel sad and bitter because I really struggle with all of that. I've been so burnt out the last few days that I got really overstimulated in a grocery store last night and wanted to cry when I was having a hard time finding canned artichoke hearts. I'm 33.

[@randomness051]

​@@maeblathanksgiving is today

[@cindyrussell7286]

​@@maeblaThanksgiving is a federal holiday in the United States celebrated on the fourth Thursday of November.

[@murielleroschi4888]

39, newly diagnosed and you actually described my day. thank u for sharing. it makes it so much easier to deal with

[@laurawestabyoliver9716]

Thank you for your honesty and being so humble. I am a care provider with undiagnosed adhd and I am Autistic. So is my client. Somedays, it's all I can do to get through the day. The struggle is so real. Thank goodness my husband finally gets it, and so does my employer. I love that you share the REAL life with us. Your videos have helped not only my husband understand what is happening, why, and how to proceed but help me understand how to express and explain it to others. You are truly valued and appreciated for each and every bit that is you. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

[@lambda1863]

I had a very similar experience a few weeks ago i couldnt find my earphones while i was at school so i thought i had loat them and i was really stressed out about it not just because of like sensory stuff but also because my parents would be very mad at me i was extremely lucky that i just forgot to take them to school that day and they were in my room

[@davidhill5684]

I can feel the panic, and it doesn't help to be told it will pass. Because it has to run it's course. I can relate to being unable to do simple things, being caught up in places where you can't find your way out. Horrible. You're not alone in this. Im 61, ASD, undiagnosed ADHD but certain.

[@davidhill5684]

I'm 62, ASD, undiagnosed ADHD, also certain. I've had horrible meltdowns at being utterly lost in an airport, unable to find the way out. Totally relate to this. Almost always these things happen through not saying NO to "helpful advice" which is so complicated for me..

[@unicorntamer2207]

I fully understand. I was undiagnosed until this year. I have terrible self talk and insecurities about feeling like an idiot. Thank you for being real. Thank you for spreading awareness. ❤

[@yolandalopezvictoria4569]

This is so much my life, we would be good friends. Cheers to that!

[@AdelmanPhotographyAtlanta]

I get lost in a paper bag with 2 open ends that say exit so feel your pain there ❤😢

[@pixling]

I'm so much the same way. My saying is that I can get lost in my driveway both figuratively and literally. ❤

[@feiryfella]

Oh hunny! I feel you so bad! When I get overwhelmed by my cascading ineptitude, which happens BECAUSE I'm overwhelmed, this shit happens over and over again.

[@jamiecampbell2637]

So sorry you had a horrible time. I had such a similar day last Monday at Edinburgh Waverley station, but we get through these things. I have no hesitation now I’m 65 just asking for help, being a bewildered old biddy. I too felt on the verge of crying from frustration and shame but all the lovely people I asked the way were so kind, it made me feel better and more confident. I really hope you’re feeling calm and happier now.

[@michellecaudwell1559]

I can completely relate to this! 🥺 hope u managed to calm ur self ok etc. U have given me so much awareness about my life long struggle I feel more in tune with my self, so don’t u feel like ur incapable of anything cause u can change peoples lives! ❤

[@PhoenixVic21]

*polite and soft hug only if wanted* Your sharing is so helpful for so many people. I hope you had a relaxing drink and a nice meal. I know it's hard to forgive yourself when it happens, but I hope you can. I only just discovered you a little bit ago, but love your ability to share, even in short video form. I also watched an interview with you about your journey. Your journey is amazing. I don't struggle with the forgetfulness/getting lost, at lest I don't think I do, but I do struggle with overstimulation and hyper-focus issues among others, that I thought were due to being introverted, that I can relate at least a little. I'm scared to get tested mainly because of the process of finding the right person to help.

[@jamiecampbell2637]

Is there a trusted organisation like a charity which might help advise where to go where you are? I hope you find the right diagnostician soon.

[@PhoenixVic21]

@@jamiecampbell2637aww, thank you. My church actually has a system and even has connections. I just nervous to try it. It's finding the right person, time, and money. Which can feel like an excuse saying it. That first step is really scary even if you know it can be a good thing.

[@radiantbird]

The struggle is real. I get burnt out by life’s demands. I feel like I’m constantly being hijacked ~ losing thoughts into the abyss…!

[@angela0042]

I was 45 when I was diagnosed 3 years ago. Thank you so much for posting this, your content helps me to feel like I’m not just broken “normal”.

[@HzFvr]

Had you on my mind yesterday -So glad to see you! I can so relate... I have to see my Dr. every month & have been about 8x. Small office w/lab. WITHOUT FAIL, I always have to ask "How do I leave?! I laugh, they smile at me (as tho I have dementia). People are going to think what they think. Not my problem.

[@Anna-y2p2x]

Im sorry you went through this. Ive had similar situations too. Much love to you for making these videos. Its like a balm to my soul to not feel so alone in these types of experiences.

[@Vivypips]

Watching your videos makes me seriously consider getting myself tested. Theyre way too relatable. Ive been there, and combine it with dyslexia reading signs when youre getting frustrated just makes me want to scream. Im thankful that i have learned to manage it, but damn, it there arent days where it creeps up on you and you still end up like that.

[@Tinyflypie]

I am in my 70s and through your videos I have finally come to love and forgive myself for a lifetime of that kind of confusion. I still have nightmares that mirror your experience but my life, although narrow these days, is better. That's largely down to you. I am so grateful. Wipe away your tears, you've rescued the self respect of thousands of people. God bless you my pixie faced lovely friend.

[@carolerobbins9522]

I’m a 43 year old with ADHD and no matter how carefully I plan vacations, some kerfuffle like this always trips me up at the airport or the shuttle station or the hotel. The world is a big confusing and frustrating place when you have executive dysfunction, that’s for sure ❤

[@LadyJsundriesandoddments]

65 and have no idea if I’m ADHD, but I sure do relate to everything you share. Watching your videos makes me feel less alone because I am surrounded with people who do not show any empathy when I find myself in situations like you just shared. ❤and hugs

[@justagirl7511]

Love you. I'm sorry you had such a hard time but I'm so grateful that you shared the experience. I feel like this every day at work- I'm a middle-aged apprentice working in the trades- and I'm self-conscious every minute of the day about my age and being one of the only women, all of which is compounded by ADHD-related difficulties. I feel SO stupid SO often, and even though I know what the problem is and I'm so much better equipped to handle it now that I know where it stems from, it's not enough to quiet the voices in my head that constantly belittle me. Cheers to all of us someday being kinder to ourselves and others when these struggles arise.❤ PS, today is Thanksgiving here in America, and even though I know you don't celebrate it there, I just want you to know- in the spirit of the holiday- I'm grateful for you!❤

[@ANinjasMom]

This 42yr old does all of that. I think you are fantastic. I have just been diagnosed and your videos with Rob have really helped me understand that I'm not stupid, I'm not a disappointment. You show the great side of ADHD as well as the struggles. You're my new hero in a way. I want to keep improving and you guys are helping me along. Thank you❤

[@sootycat2740]

You’re really brave to be so honest and I’m so grateful that you remind us all that we’re not the only ones. You remember that too❤ we’re proud of you (sending hugs from afar)

[@Naberious]

Awe hun I hope you manged to get home, I've been there and it's crushing and exhausting, I hope hubby gave you a huge cuddle ❤ keep being awesome xxx

[@sarahwest5964]

Hugs. I have autism and both my husband and daughter have ADHD and autism. They deal with type of stuff all the time and I know how hard it is. Your not an idiot and your smart and amazing. I love your videos as it helps me with my relationships with my husband and daughter and be a better wife and mom.

[@Sylsaltiagoed]

Why is it that the inner critic is always surprised at what we do no matter what age we are? You would think it would cut us some slack at some point😂. I feel your frustration! I have been in exactly that kind of situation innumerable times and I have felt so unbelievably dumb and inadequate but this is the first time I hear someone else talk about it! Thank you so much for sharing and never forget there are a bunch of us out here trying to find the exit. 💖💖💖

[@chong2389]

We're all on the same train with an unlimited rail pass. Finding this community has enabled me to see that I'm not the only one in the train car. 😊

[@xrockangelx]

Aww, sending the BIGGEST HUGS to you! I can feel the frustration in your voice. It's such a specific and familiar flavour of frustration. Ugh. And I'm 36, so I know that "I'm old enough to know better" feeling too. Thank you for sharing! I hope your day gets better! 💜

[@autisticrobotdragon17]

I’m sorry this is the kind of day you are having! I have these kind of snowball days myself and I completely understand! I hope your day turns around and that you remember you are not a failure or stupid or whatever your brain wants to tell you ❤️

[@maryannnichols1043]

Oh, love. Thank you for sharing so candidly. It absolutely sucks, those days. And also, you sharing helps a lot of people feel less alone.

[@marydidyouknow5826]

I'm sorry you weren't able to return the earphones. You can't exchange them? In three states, most places, you can exchange them, and some places have receipts on file in the computer. I was just diagnosed at 48. I went to school when they didn't have awareness. Also have complex ptsd and anxiety, so of course none of my therapists did an evaluation. I did have one mention it once but I didn't think I could have it because I didn't understand the hyperactivity aspect correctly. Anyway, great channel! Thank you!

[@Arty.niisha]

I feel like crying just hearing you talk about it. It is so relatable. I have to be so careful and go step by step for every single thing to make sure everything is good and it's exhausting and not always possible.

[@TillyFloss]

If it helps... if you paid by credit card the purchase will be on your statement and they may accept that as proof of purchase and exchange them? Fingers crossed!! ❤

[@sarahh1153]

Sending Love and Empathy from Canadian ADHD’er. This too shall pass. ✌🏼

[@stevenloridunn6677]

I can relate! I lost my car in a parking garage on vacation for 3 days! I had to have my boyfriend drive for 8 hours to get me and my daughter, and just when we were getting ready to go to the police department to report the car missing, I Saw the parking garage where I parked the car, as we drove by. 🤦‍♀️ I get it. I so get it.

[@mikerrington8266]

You are so brave, Roxy. You always power through those ADHD moments, and that's what makes you the phenomenal educator that you are 🫶🏻

[@katrianem2124]

With some slight variation I’ve experienced situations just like this! It’s crazy how much I relate to strangers (who have adhd) when I used to feel so alone! 🥰

[@meganbower2149]

Thank you. for being so brave and sharing your stories, and all the information you do. It’s such a great support. At nearly 44, I’ve had a life time of comparing and despairing. The way you are standing up - relating and naming it, is powerful! I hope you can find some downtime & recharge after this ordeal. Your a beautiful soul! Xx

[@xoxoinge]

It was situations like this that made me go what the f is wrong with me? How am I 30 years old and feel so uncapable in a lot of ways. Now that I am diagnosed I am more gentle towards my self and try to tell myself it’s okay. But some days I just get so frustrated I just need to have a little cry before I can go on with my day. At least know that sharing your shit day with us, gives us recognition and comfort that this is not an uncommon situation for us with ADHD. I hope tomorrow will be better ❤ thank you for everything you do and share om your channel xoxo

[@icqtrinity]

I've just got to tell you how much I love you for putting your "moments" out there the way you do. It's such a comfort to those of us who are dealing with the same frustrations. You are NOT failing. You are WINNING by helping the others like me who go through the same kind of days. "Cheers" from South Carolina, USA. 🍻

[@kimberleydavis]

You make me feel like I'm not alone, I stopped leaving the house because it always ends up costing me more and I already have nothing. My counsellor tells me I'm probably self-sabotaging but I would never chose everyday to make my life harder. I've been through 3 vehicles in the past 9 months, begged the Job Centre to help me stay in work, had a car crash a nervous break down and a tinder date squat my house and steal my money, the world will chew you up and spit you out, I'm done with this version of reality, even if it is all my doing.

[@monaami555]

does staying at home help?

[@sundribird.777]

Thank you for being so beautifully real. So many of us walk around like this, and even though we KNOW the why, it still feels like our own brain is betraying us on a daily basis. Sending you so much love, hun!

[@ellarothsky]

If I had to buy new headphones every time I forgot them just so i could manage being on the train... I'd have a box full of them in my cupboard at home to think about every time it happens. I now keep some in every bag and jacket possible just in case! Also they should definitely have a record of your purchase especially if you know the time you went and/or paid by card. Take someone with you for support and get them exchanged (and bring some extras for the trip!)

[@evildoer61636]

You're not alone love❤

[@MichaelE6300]

It is 100 % relatable. But, I have seen this all over the place at moment: The time sucks... we are in a time frame were EVERY LITTLE THING hits the fan. Have a whole event where I must stay on sight, shoot pictures (even thats not my job, but i love that task). Monday went fine, Tuesday I said I will not attend to the after party, my superior tells me that I promised it (but i can't remember) - therefore I went into my car the day before yesterday and drove that 100 km distance and take pictures. It was so crowded and full, my pills for ADHD fade slowly out that late (6 / 7 pm)... yea it was too much for me so I called in sick yesterday, but everyone would have liked to have the pictures, so i told my superior that i wont be sick today and worked on the pictures. Uploaded these, but no one responded me with a feedback if the pictures were great. I felt so left out and tired, today I worked not really, couldn't because of the energy level. Had several private problems and that was also to much to deal with. The only thing I was suprised about myself was that I went to the gym and worked out. But the rest of the day I couldn't do anything, didn't do anything and I don't know what to do tomorrow. ADHS, Depression kicks real hard at the moment. We must keep our head up. Sorry for that rambling noise, I couldn't tell anyone else except the whole internet about this...

[@emilykhan8706]

Oh no....I am so sorry you've had such a difficult experience!

[@susangoddard9257]

I'm 58 and it can get better. I've learnt some strategies, through life experience. It hasnt been easy. Now I understand it's a 'thing', it's not just me. But also I thought everyone thought like me but they were just better at life. Saying that, i love the chaos it sometimes brings, it can be exciting. Dull is boring. Edit: marrying someone after knowing them for only three months wasnt my best moment , and the chaos that ensued wasnt exciting at all 😊

[@mrsmmoose6775]

Thank you for being so open. It helps so much. Did you know, at the airport in Freetown Sierra Leone, they have teams of people whose job it is to look out for people who seem to be struggling, and offer help. Absolute lifesaver initiative from a very poor country's government. It's all about understanding that some people need a bit of support to navigate life.

[@marydc7625]

Wow that is so considerate and brilliant.

[@gigimonrose157]

Bless your beautiful soul! (Also please go back to the shop and get a refund- I’m sure they’ll remember you and give it back. Just explain the situation!) Xxx

[@KBHNJ]

Awww, so sorry. I have been in ADHD hell for over a week now. Now I'm frantically making a huge Thanksgiving dinner... Forgot to put the meat in on time🤪

[@judythompson3612]

KBHNJ I made Christmas dinner last year and only had Prime Rib and nothing else. Not only that but no one said a thing, and it wasn’t till months later that I realized what I had done. When I get very stressed my mind just seems to block reality, argh.

[@KBHNJ]

@@judythompson3612 🤦 the stuff we can forget never ceases to shock me. Glad everyone was good about it

[@corriehatzer5004]

So relatable, I can make getting out of bed a story so when something happens that really changes things . It's internal blame. Looking at what you can't do weather then this could happen to anyone. Sad feelings like you always need help

[@llc1976]

My god I’ve done the exact same thing ref headphones at the airport!! ADHD can be expensive! Been there done that. Once couldn’t find my way out of shopping mall where I had parked my car!!

[@AlartoskyCreations]

Bless you 🙏🕊️💞 I feel ya Hugs

[@weaviejeebies]

I just want to say, you put yourself back together from that...well enough to upload, and didn't dissolve into a puddle again during the telling...the same day as it happened. Pause to admire yourself for the gold medal in emotional regulation 👏👏👏👏👏. It can take me the better part of a week to put makeup on after ADHD kicks my ass. As for what 39 year old does those things, well, me, except I'm 49. The struggle is real.