REALITY of Singapore Weddings vs Japan!

[@Landonyeo]

Hey Ghib, Just saw the video, and we can’t stop laughing! Our quirky dance moves and Goldee the dog shall now be immortalised on KZbin.. 😂 Hope you had a blast capturing our craziness. Thanks for turning those moments into forever memories. Let's plan that dinner soon to share more laughs and say a proper thank you!

[@GhibOjisan]

Thanks so much for inviting me, it was really fun. Congratulations again😁㊗️

[@sallylovegame]

シンガポールの挙式はカジュアルなんですねー！本当に出席してみんなで祝って楽しそうですね。 寄せ書き日本の文化を贈るなんてとても粋ですよ。 わんちゃんも出てきて温かい結婚式、みんなでキスしあって。祝福されて夢のようですね！ シンガポールの文化に触れることが出来てとても良かったです。 ホテルのセレモニーは、中国式もちゃんと入っていて、とにかく雰囲気豪華！

[@pristymo]

I love all your videos Seriously original

[@durian5233]

These wedding games are mild but respectful to the guys and fun to watch. God bless the couple.

[@StrykeRainmaker]

Now time to try Malay and Indian wedding in sg! All of them very different, but very fun too!

[@arsenal_84]

Yup, Malay weddings are more affordable or at least is easier to find out their market rate by asking a Malay friend.

[@GhibOjisan]

Would love to😁👍

[@david888a]

It’s $360 per seat or person, Ghib, don’t get invited to weddings,it’s expensive nowadays…😂😂😂😂. Congrats to the newly wed….

[@kwpf]

It's absurd these days to expect guests to give big angbao for the wedding couple (not this one) to cover the cost of the dinner at a high-end hotel so that they can show off. That's why I still give based on relationship. Take it or leave it. If the invite is from an acquaintance, I confirm decline it. Where got such thing as giving well wishes and still have to pay a high price for doing so! High-end hotels/venues only look good. But the food usually sucks in taste. Instead, normal restaurants' food tastes so much better and worth the money for the wedding couple.

[@thegreenbaby9365]

Nice coverage Ghib; I’ve attended a Japanese wedding in Japan with Shinto ceremony thrown in (also v interesting lah, from a Singaporean’s perspective)

[@lydiakvlogs]

Love this venue!! Thank you for your videos Ghib!

[@AmbientWalking]

Thanks for this! Really interesting to see things from your point of view!

[@calvincheecs]

This video is refreshing with your presence, and it's hilarious. However, you left out your MIL. Including her traditional wedding insights would surely add another layer of laughter. Great content as always….😂😂😂😂 Happy to see u soak into Singapore’s culture.

[@damien8398]

I reject all weddings that are held at higher end places as I don't think it is wise paying up to a certain amount just to attend. I've always simply wish them the best and they accepted the wishes with no bad feelings. An invitation is not a summon, you have a choice whether to go or not to go.

[@Unepic_Smurfman]

i like to go cause food is good and you get to meet family

[@nxOMEGA]

You sound like a lot of fun!

[@thetinkerer5322]

@@nxOMEGA Stop trolling in comment sections. If you have an argument, express it with your reasons, not with these types of mediocre uneducated comments that only makes you look poor.

[@Humorousguy64]

Depends on income la...for average or below income ppl really is not easy

[@Silent俊]

Angbao is actually red packet in Hokkien. In chinese is Hongbao.

[@jimtang7087]

It really depends on mindset. I invited the owner of a listed company to my hotel wedding dinner previously. Their family came, took a whole table and gave a red packet of $500. I think there shouldn't be pressure to match the cost of the table, but at least give a decent amount. Generally i feel sensible couples planning their wedding dinner would be smart enuff to understand proper budgeting and not wishfully expecting friends and relatives to minimally cover the cost of their wedding dinner.

[@thewalk7816]

Nice to watch ur experience 😂 Personally, I wld only attend weddings of close friends. Makes more sense esp if there’s an expectation to cover costs 😢

[@lecherhao86]

Dont worry about the amount you give. Wedding couple invites the people they want to give their blessing. They would have been mentally ready to cover the cost. What we ought to do as invited guest is to give off positive vibe and be present through. Dont ever get stressed to attend a wedding banquet just because you feel you have to give market rate. Even $50 is better than nothing. Isn't it a pity not to attend just because you don't give the market rate?

[@sunnygal12345]

I don't understand this culture of giving red packets with amounts that is deemed "enough" depending on where the wedding is held. If the couple chooses to have a lavish wedding at a high end place, then they should not expect their guests to pay for them. If they want to hold it at a five star hotel for example, then make sure that they themselves can afford it.

[@arsenal_84]

Just reject the invitation.

[@supreme87878]

I would say this culture is amongst the young lah. U go ask old ppl they dont really say this, they pack according to the ties in relationship.

[@cs2007new]

unfortunately they cant afford it but still want lavish wedding. just reject it if not close, save the trouble.

[@steffibee1]

Singapore is the most expensive city in the world, on par with Switzerland. Restaurants r expensive. Go figure .Wedding couples don’t expect how much we give them but we Chinese - some Chinese, not all, due to face, will give more Ang Pao depending on the wedding venue. In a way, they r also considerate n kind.But if you don’t like gifting, then don’t attend.

[@ylein6508]

I feel like media has a part to play. There are always articles written that gives guidelines on how much angbao to give for chinese new year and weddings. It's kind of stupid cos it sets expectations. This is a singaore culture that i hate

[@iAxianguy]

Another good one! Laways enjoy your show 🙂🙂👍👍

[@ivanseah8321]

Love your video , more videos please ❤

[@mariatachi8398]

When you start to keep the plant expression makes me laugh 😂 very funny! Glad you had fun and also congrats to the newly weds.

[@willie8452]

Hope u had fun! This is quite a typical Chinese SG wedding in Singapore 😄 Congratulations to Landon and Eunice! ❤️🥂

[@christinalee7818]

If one person go 200 can already. If you and your wife go 300 can liao...

[@cnachopchopnewsagency]

I myself as Chinese dont attend wedding so much except for close relatives or best friend type. Its crazy the concept of invitee having to "help" cover for the cost when they themselves have the full prerogative to choose whatever venue or catering. I prefer attending Malay or Indian wedding, less stress😂 they are relax in terms of the cash part and best part, THEY DONT CHECK OUR ANG BAO AND THEY ARE GRATEFUL WITH WHATEVER AMOUNT INSIDE..checking ang bao just feel like an insult and making comparison from one attendee to another and have some element of shaming.

[@lecherhao86]

Dont worry about the amount you give. Wedding couple invites the people they want to give their blessing. They would have been mentally ready to cover the cost. What we ought to do as invited guest is to give off positive vibe and be present through. Dont ever get stressed to attend a wedding banquet just because you feel you have to give market rate. Even $50 is better than nothing. Isn't it a pity not to attend just because you can't give the market rate?

[@esther340]

​@@lecherhao86 Not true. I have a friend who is very offended by her friends/relative not giving a decent amount. Deep down, everybody minds a little unless they are filthy rich. But yeah, I agree this concept is crazy. Making your friends pay for your wedding that you chose.

[@lecherhao86]

@@esther340 well, we can't control others' behaviours but can only control our own. If one feels stressful giving an amount that makes the person even feel hesitant in attending the wedding, then that means the amount is over what he can comfortably afford.

[@spe3m]

Rejected 4 weddings this year, Ritz-Carlton/mbs/ raffles x2 .. I'm just peasant who eat dingtaifung occasionally

[@sgmei]

People are so negative in the comments lmao, great to see you enjoyed the experience of a Chinese wedding Ghib! As some other comments said, it's time to experience Malay and Indian weddings 🤣

[@GhibOjisan]

Would love to 😁

[@aaaduccs6667]

fr im so....shocked like damn..

[@haruhi7745]

Welcome Back. Ah so nice Vlog. It is so interesting topics 🌷💙🤍

[@ejsoh5291]

so nice! great sharing!

[@デスパイネ-h5e]

寄せ書きとか最高の思い出になりそうですね！

[@user-tb1dd4bh1b]

カジュアルな結婚式なんですね〜！ 日本の結婚式より楽しそう！ 結婚式ならではの幸せなあの空気はどこの国も一緒ですね〜😊 ほっこりしました〜。

[@gotmyonu1027]

Singapore wedding..... You must try those wedding at HDB void decks.

[@NOpopplaying]

Did Landon say congrats to Ghib too at 15:45? 😆

[@yamenaidepure]

Normally i will based my angbao at $120 and add on in tiers in turns on the day held, venue, how closed an i with the wedding couple and and so on, adding $30 every tier.

[@nonamelah847]

Indonesian Chinese would put numbers on the angpao that exactly match with the numbers when you fill in the guest book. So we would know how much we “owe” to the guestin the future.

[@gohkenny]

This place is grander than usual!

[@meehoongcheung2918]

Ghib..you 've got taste lah to gate crash such a beautiful wedding ceremony at a posh location..😂

[@yewteiklim8276]

It is a complicated culture on the wedding event. No right or wrong. Base line is to respect each other and do not criticise subjectively.

[@lecherhao86]

Don't think it's too complicated for people to reject an invitation just because of money issue. Why worry about the amount you give? Wedding couple invites the people they want to give their blessing. They would have been mentally ready to cover the cost. What we ought to do as invited guest is to give off positive vibe and be present through. Dont ever get stressed to attend a wedding banquet just because you feel you have to give market rate. Even $50 is better than nothing. Isn't it a pity not to attend just because you don't give the market rate?

[@71775926]

Talk about misplaced priorities. All the angbao rates websites I could find peg their figures to the venue rather than the relationship the guest shares with the couple. No judgement on how one wants to spend their own money, couple or guests, but do we as a society and culture want to foster such values where we care more about "face" and "market rates" than our interpersonal relationships?

[@eio1971]

I learned about hongbao for red envelope when i was in Shanghai. Looks like same thing.

[@simplyme3306]

Ang bao is not chinese. It's a hokkien dialect. Also red packets are blessings. Personally I feel that one should give based on your relationship/closeness to the couple and also your own financial ability. It feels wrong to expect guests to cover the wedding banquet expenses and choose places that are way over what the couple can afford. This "gatecrashing" is typical of Chinese weddings in Singapore, Malaysia and Hong Kong. It can go super overboard, depends on the couple and their friends.

[@dennisleong7866]

Yes , Singapore angbao is depend on the venue the wedding is hold

[@loyckfiona]

Regardless of venues. I give according to closest to the couples or couples parents

[@chenyinmei6466]

Cute newbie..haha..interesting topic..ghib!

[@sujaniaslam2428]

Hi Ghib, wah that gate crashing is so mendokusai 😅,, i attend a wedding in singapore n put 500$,, in indo i put a million rupiah,, i dont really like party but if invited bo pian , go lah, if its a close friend,, anyway fun party n congrats for the couple, so funny when you kept the plant your face Ghib, 😂🤣,,

[@redwings1974]

Maybe can do a video on how a couple select their venue and what considerations are key to their selection.

[@simplyme3306]

I think I saw Chinse Zaobao channel had one recently

[@conan2209]

My views, couple invited me to witness their wedding. NOT for me to pay what they think is my share of cost for a dinner I had no say in. If they cannot pay for their dinner, go to their parents, not their guests.

[@kaiyin3842]

Even if you pack less in the ang pao, no one will know. Its up to you to give or not

[@bonster22338]

As a Singaporean, I don't understand why people are talking loudly and walking around when someone is giving a speech. Japanese people are more polite and we should learn from them.

[@Buttercookies0]

Wedding couples should choose a wedding they can afford. The burden of paying for the wedding dinner should not be thrown to the guests because they never asked for it. An invitation is supposed to be a nice gesture by the wedding couple to the guests but with the expectation, it is no longer so kind. It is hypocrisy

[@walcotttang6946]

Usually will give additional 50 to 100 dollars more than the market rate😂

[@lecherhao86]

Dont worry about the amount you give. Wedding couple invites the people they want to give their blessing. They would have been mentally ready to cover the cost. What we ought to do as invited guest is to give off positive vibe and be present through. Dont ever get stressed to attend a wedding banquet just because you feel you have to give market rate. Honestly, even $50 is better than nothing at all. Isn't it a pity not to celebrate a joyous occasion with the couple than to turn it into a negative event?

[@tintintin534]

still will be a concern coz many couples do expect the on the par red packets

[@indrazareen5826]

Class wedding venue. ❤

[@disionex]

The whole gate crashing games thing is a fad that originated from 80s TV dramas and although it can be a fun thing, I have witness first hand how it can quickly turn sour and hurt relationships.

[@supreme87878]

Just like the one knee kneel of marriage proposal.

[@mokoriin]

Also, sometimes it’s a nightmare for all the people planning it.

[@disionex]

Actually it is usually the bride maids that keep the gate crashing money. The bride sometimes don't even know what is happening outside at the gate. One crazy experience was actually caused by the bride maids going all out to humiliate the groom and groom mates. They asked for $8888. Unable to pay, the "games" escalated into a trial by fire. After 2 hours of hell, the groom and mates looked like they came back from a war zone, covered in filth and sweat. It was so bad, even the hired wedding photography/video crew were disgusted by the whole fiasco. The bride thought the groom was exaggerating when he told her, and she only found out how bad it was when she watched the raw wedding videos.

[@MaryKuijper]

I totally agree.

[@shanicestella2226]

The Differences with Japanese style wedding is , The Guest can dress casually or very dress up compared to Japanese wedding

[@youllneverscrollalone]

silly of ppl nowadays to expect guests to "pay enough" angbao for their seats. if cant afford, dont spend and feel entitled ppl should "pay for it".

[@markshen3280]

Chinese 🇨🇳 people in Hong Kong 🇭🇰, Taiwan 🇹🇼, and in China 🇨🇳 also do the same in serving tea and eating sweet dumplings in the newly wed, bride’s family, as well in all Chinese 🇨🇳 communities in America as well.

[@khokl9288]

Ghib finish the wedding series. Do a Malay, Indian and Eurasian wedding's

[@paecpc]

The so called ‘ gate crash’ during weddings is a new phenomenon, we Singaporean never have this in the old days of 80s and 90s, nevertheless, as long as people enjoy it, it is ok I guess.

[@bernardlokman5442]

You'll have to look up for Peranakan wedding. That is an animal of its own. Endless rituals lasting for days.

[@supreme87878]

Chinese also same lah. Now all modernise watered down liao.

[@bernardlokman5442]

@@supreme87878 depends if you are Sin Khek or Lau Khek. Not many new migrants experienced having sang keh 'm hosting and being matchmade in Malaya.

[@bryanttan8401]

Interesting idea and video. Now try to do Malay and India Wedding

[@GhibOjisan]

Can someone invite?😆

[@noelloh561]

Where got standard lol. this one quite big can.

[@aest6099]

omg i work tcp during the wedding sia AHHAHHA

[@hipposamadesu]

You can try putting a Toto ticket inside angbao 😂 if it strikes first prize, they will be millionaire 😂

[@ylein6508]

By the way, no matter what hotel, they have different tiers of dinners, more courses and better dishes are typically more expensive, this hotel is good but 6 courses only so may not be as ex as you thought

[@mikey6538]

hmmm.. your wife is singaporean and chinese.. so i am kind of surprise.. what wedding did you have..

[@shinshin8012]

Ang pao is one of chinese 's dielets... all dielets are part's of Chinese . Just *Mandarin * chinese officially language .

[@SamStab007]

As an "official videographer" the bride and groom should have given you an ang bao for services rendered.

[@GhibOjisan]

No lah I self invited myself and I’m grateful they invited me for the shoot for my channel!

[@isaiahjoshc]

Woah, angpows are so much nowadays?! Can't say I'm shocked but still a big outlay nonetheless. It's coming up to my 25th wedding anniversary next week so this is really a nice video, haha! Mine was a Chinese-Eurasian thing, and we tried not to spend so much, so it was a nice lunch reception at a restaurant after the church wedding in the morning. That was actually good as it left us time to celebrate again with some close friends in the evening with dinner and drinks, and didn't leave us too worn out after an entire day of activities. Just tipsy, LOL!!

[@777sssggg]

いつも楽しく動画を拝見しています。最近は自動翻訳（？）だからなのか、日本語字幕がちょっとわかりにくいのが残念です😢

[@GhibOjisan]

すみません！間も無く再開予定です🙏

[@777sssggg]

⁠@@GhibOjisanお返事ありがとうございます！楽しみにお待ちしています😊

[@walcotttang6946]

How come u never invite us to your wedding😂🎉❤

[@crystal8537]

Just give what u can! Gatecrashing is so cringy and extra i cannot

[@janemuses3031]

So happy I am past the stage or maybe still coming up with children who will be getting married. Back when all our friends were getting married, in the US, if you are asked to be a bridesmaid - then you have to pay for the brides maid dress on top of wedding gift - the style and color was dictated by the bride so after a few of these events, I had a bunch of useless, prom type dresses that are totally not my style (although what bridesmaids dress is anyone's style?) hanging in my closet - so I stopped attending weddings in person LOL. I would just look up their wedding registries, find a reasonable priced gift and mail it, along with some excuse as to why I could not attend in person. Ot course, I made the exception for family and very close friends.

[@BlurDucky]

u might want to be specific in title as Singapore Chinese wedding? go attend a malay and indian one! all different :) all VERY elaborate

[@vanwangye]

I suggest Ghib to attend a Malay wedding thats held below the HDB block.

[@willman3893]

Poor thing……ur shirt is like almost screaming to you that ‘they’ can’t breath hehe

[@mikaneko1]

お祝い金についてはシンガポールも日本も同じような意見が多いですね😂 日本では若いカップルは予算がすくないので、結婚の記念にドレスと着物の写真を撮るだけの人(パーティーはしない)と、ゲストに定額を払って結婚式とパーティーに参加してもらう形式も人気です。 日本の結婚式はとてもフォーマルなので、参加者は自身のドレスやアクセサリー・バッグ・靴・髪を美容院で整える費用が追加で必要です。

[@king4129]

Bro since when wear spec

[@GhibOjisan]

Hurt my eyes🥺

[@krappola1]

was your wedding in Singapore not like this?

[@kaiyin3842]

Everyone complaining about the Ang Pao 😂 But its up to you to give or nor. Even you give less, no one will know and no one can force you to give more.

[@lovelypal]

シンガポールで 結婚式には368ドルのアンバオは与えません 結婚式には380ドルまたはアンバオ全額を贈呈します

[@ylein6508]

I feel like media has a part to play. There are always articles written that gives guidelines on how much angbao to give for chinese new year and weddings. It's kind of stupid cos it sets expectations. This is a singaore culture that i hate

[@lecherhao86]

But you don't have to follow the norm. Don't feel pressured to give the market rate. Even $50 is better than nothing. Most importantly is that you be a good guest during the wedding banquet. Isn't it a pity to miss your friend's wedding just because you can't give the money?

[@willman3893]

Cool videos, try to attend all race’s weddings……make them into videos……more fun

[@dawnho7744]

Perhaps Ghib may want to get himself invited to those quirky and innovative weddings like the one at McDonald's and Ya Kun. I do have to say that grandeur isn't always the way to go for weddings. The pressure to outdo the celebrations are high here and when that happens, that's when guests worry about how much to give to the couples when invited. I personally prefer low-key weddings. That said, everyone's ideal way of celebration is different. Congrats to the newly weds!

[@beetledune9264]

Now the host take the ceremony as 'business'.Some even take to social media to shame guest because they didn't give the 'right' amount.

[@sngjoolian]

No, i wont give according ro their expense They can afford , what some people can't afford. I believe this couple has good thought to invite you.Yes, give out of loce

[@philipchan79]

Not your fault. The groom and bride have to estimate their wedding budget. They will hope the total Angbaos they collect can offset some expenses.

[@Mew77778]

i think gatecrashing games should be scrapped

[@GhibOjisan]

It’s so fun though!!

[@douglasang3527]

All silly 😂

[@markshen3280]

The amount of ‘Lucky Money’ given in the “ANG BAO” is $9,999, 999.99 during weddings.

[@kelvgan]

For Chinese weddings, usually most family then individuals know how much to give or the minimum and rates are, less wealthy ones of course under give, depending on the well being of individuals and profession, those who can give will give more. Of course there are spoil brats who under cut giving😅

[@supreme87878]

Traditionally in singapore, there was no standard way of chinese wedding form. It all depends on the chinese dialect group u are from. The Hakka, Hokkien, Teochew, Cantonese, Hainanese all have their own styles. It is over the years where chinese in singapore came to quite a standardise form as more singaporeans are speaking mandarin and english, also hokkien made up the most in the chinese demographic in singapore. The angbao of helping to cover cost is a more modern approach and not the traditional one, maybe u can ask ur Mother In Law. Tea ceremony is usually done at home in front of ancestral tablets (now most modern family dont have ancestral tablets and god statue at home). First to the god then to the ancestor then to all family member of older rank than you.

[@pigeonsg4837]

please please please please use fresh money instead of used.

[@tkyap2524]

To some, it's better not to be invited for many known reasons.

[@mokoriin]

No one should hold a wedding at a bloody atas hotel and expect guests to afford it. Guests are there to celebrate with you, not fund your wedding. I know some people will say reject the invitation, but it’s not always possible. We need to starting breaking this toxic “culture”.

[@kaiyin3842]

Even if you give less in the angpao, know one will know. Relax

[@miyazakihiroshi2548]

日本の結婚式は正直何かとめんどくさいよな。

[@TemplarLove]

I won’t be giving $360 for one Ang Bao I’m sorry, I have kids to feed. If you are inviting me you need to understand my situation.

[@Tvyoutubeacc]

These ang baos you give will sort of have an everlasting impression of you. You dont wanna be remembered as the guy who gave just barely enough. As someone who attended weddings and had my own wedding, i would say best is to give $300 standard (if you’re financially stable AND the wedding is known to not be those super atas and grand place). For my wedding, i was pleasantly surprised so many of my friends packed $300 because generally i hear its just 200 - 250. And this made me really appreciated all those friends who not only made the effort to come to my wedding but gave such a generous ang bao. Dont save that few bucks, not worth it.

[@lecherhao86]

I have a differing view. Shouldn't worry about the amount you give. Wedding couple invites the people they want to give their blessing. They would have been mentally ready to cover the cost. What we ought to do as invited guest is to give off positive vibe and be present throughout the event. Dont ever get stressed to attend a wedding banquet just because you feel you have to give market rate. Even $50 is better than nothing. Isn't it a pity not to attend just because you can't give the market rate?

[@barrelh2315]

@@lecherhao86you are definitely someone i would avoid inviting 😂 that mindset is just so stingy. Might as well say give your parents $50 is better than nothing as monthly allowance haha.

[@lecherhao86]

@@barrelh2315 you are making an assumption that people around you are doing financially ok in life, and can give more. What makes you think the $50 isn't alot to me and others?

[@SuLoyalGang]

Such shallow friend . So u wont appreciate them if they are not able to afford that amount ?

[@mavislow2742]

And you are someone I definitely wouldn't want to be friends with. Looks like with you it's all about money. Are you aware that some people can make much less than $100 after a day of back breaking work? An ang pow of just $200 would mean several days of hard work to cover. I wouldn't want to put that burden on anyone I care for. Their presence should already be an honour and an ang pow of any amount would be a bonus@@barrelh2315

[@rogerfaint499]

If you worry about too little, just put in $200.

[@HolyEnchanta]

That particular hotel he mentioned in the video has a going rate of $388

[@jonathaner6199]

@@HolyEnchanta so what ? since when are guests expected to pay for the wedding ? give what you can or want. whoever came up with the notion that you must cover "your seat" is disrespectful. if everyone is expected to pay their seat, every couple will just hold it at the most expensive place they can find. it's a blessing. not an obligation to cover.

[@HolyEnchanta]

@@jonathaner6199 Very nice speech. But very distorted last sentence. People don't do that because they know got pple like you. It's always a nice gesture to cover your seat if you can, else just RSVP "not attending"

[@lecherhao86]

Dont worry about the amount you give. Wedding couple invites the people they want to give their blessing. They would have been mentally ready to cover the cost. What we ought to do as invited guest is to give off positive vibe and be present through. Dont ever get stressed to attend a wedding banquet just because you feel you have to give market rate. Even $50 is better than nothing. Isn't it a pity not to attend just because you can't give the market rate?

[@markshen3280]

The Red Packet in Chinese 🇨🇳 is called, HONG BAO. 🧧. “ANG BAO” is Malay word.

[@lawrenzhuang9748]

Ang bao is not a Malay word. THe Hokkiens and Teochews both call it Ang Bao.

[@sean9589]

😂 the food u ate, I don't think from Chinese...😂