5 Things That Make a Narcissist Miserable

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Do you know someone who is a narcissist? Chances are, you do. Narcissists can be frustrating to deal with and often have a lot of anger built up inside them making you miserable. In this video, I will outline five things that make a narcissist just a miserable as you are.
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[@charlottepembroke5446]

I remember telling the narcissist I had the misfortune to know that I was considering a new job, when I mentioned the salary he said 'That's more that me!' in an irritated voice. I hadn't even applied for the job yet and he was already jealous.

[@jtee231]

Yes they either try to attach to other peoples succecess or make it seem like they are the reason for your success..or either hate on you because they feel it’s better than what thier doing!!!

[@charlottepembroke5446]

@@jtee231 Agree - in my case he was insanely jealous of anyone he saw doing 'better' so for instance he visited a friend who lived in a small Georgian mansion in the country and when he came back he just said 'Very impressive!' in a sour voice, but wouldn't say anything else. He also thought everybody else was insanely jealous of him - so for example, he had tennis courts put in at his house and he thought I would envy him, but I don't play tennis so I didn't care - and this seemed to annoy him even more!

[@yukio_saito]

Right! It's impossible to have a conversation with them. Everything they say is a self-talk.

[@Bianca-sw5id]

They keep secrets about what they are doing because all they want is to control you

[@jtee231]

Yes exactly …it always turns out being how they feel and we never get a chance to process how we feel.

[@elizabethandiosa4579]

Denials and denigration lol

[@amandafevrier2638]

No wonder 🤔

[@lulee7375]

My parents both covert narcissist, seriously horrible childhood

[@lightsacco]

Stay as far away from these types as you can ,they can never be trusted .

[@williamsaloka9043]

Amen!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Totally agree!

[@christophermeyer3306]

Right on! About the jealousy of the narcissist... They tend to get jealous because of good friends you may have that treat you like as if they were family. And, they do what they can to turn your friends against you... Henceforth, they (the Narc) don't appreciate anything you do for them.

[@jtee231]

Exactly they try to push ppl out your life by causing conflict and putting ppl against eachother….and then try to befriend the one they want to be your enemy.

[@happym3008]

They want to be ur friend but they throw tantrums who would want to be a friend with that head ace They don’t notice that they anger makes ppl Push away

[@whadanut]

1. Be happy 2. Be more successful than them 3. Criticism of any slight. They perceive anything to be a criticism even if you’re just making an observation since they’re extremely defensive. Anything you say here will work. 4. Ppl being appreciated other than them 5. Being Exposed.

[@innovativesolutions2428]

🤫😎

[@Sandra-mq1nb]

Thank you for the short summary😃

[@joshuaanzalone2060]

Everything is a criticism to narcs. They tell me they hate liars and when I say it back to them they can't handle it.

[@1286cassandra]

They are pathetic liars. Is disgusting. Do they know they are lying/gaslighting?

[@areg3750]

I was dealing with someone like this in the workplace. I'm a manager and they were always trying to get me to "dislike" one employee or another by casting doubts and dispersion. It was a nightmare. He finally ended up being exposed and he did it all to himself.

[@danbride7221]

Today is my birthday and I'm celebrating

[@ReRe_642]

Happy birthday May you have the best one ever live your best life.

[@LOVEtoPLAYdrums]

Happy Birthday! Thrive out of narc abuse!

[@LusciousBlackQueen]

Happy birthday! May you have many more bless years to come. Hope you enjoyed your day.🎉🥳🎊🎂🍷

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

[@joshuaanzalone2060]

They are insecure and it's an illusion

[@jacalyntaylor6721]

Thank you 😊 I am watching 👀 im gonna break away from them

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Proud of you! You got this ❤

[@joe7665]

What makes my ex covert narc miserable is me connecting with people again. I found my old self and it's great, reconnecting with true true friends, new friends. Her and her family always had something negative to say about my friends and family. These videos helped me ton Thank You

[@lt827]

Of course the narcissist does not want you to succeed! If you look better relative to them it is the same as them looking relatively worse!

[@1286cassandra]

She told me my current friends are all superficial.

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

I love the analogy of the star in the sky shining! I can be a star and I am not taking anything away from anyone else.✴ No more guilt.

[@liam6727]

How I broke free was to walk away and never look back, and not give a damn!!! After 8 yrs.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

[@MissKitty8]

When I got free I wasn't aware of any of this. I wasn't aware what he was capable of, or what I was dealing with. Long story short, I had to be my own attorney in my child custody case. He got my counselor of 10 years on his side to give a false testimony, bought the best lawyer in town from the house I paid the mortgage for the entire 4 years we lived there. He held that house over my head the entire time. How we hated it and didn't want it and it was all cuz of me meet. So he sold it $350,000 for it. For the house I solely paid the mortgage on and I dealt with all the resentment for all that time. Did what he said he always would if I ever left him and did everything he could to take my daughter. It worked. If I knew what he would go to to destroy me, I would have done it more planned out take lesson in advice like this. It's incredibly valuable. More valuable than your desire to escape. These people will stop at nothing to ruin your life. The messed up part? A lot will succeed unless you really know what you're up against.

[@wildfeather]

I think what you represent, Rebecca, is maternal love for your patrons. Many of us had a hard time with Mom who had NPD. You provide the necessary nurturing we needed from her. So, thank you for sharing your heart with us orphans.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

[@jeanmichael7991]

caught him by passing the phone on speaker to the healthy member he claimed was blaming me for abusing him. They said the perfect thing, “I was just telling my 8 year old to get control of his emotions “ ! checkmate !

[@lizabetty]

I refuse to be miserable. That is a personal choice that I have made. I have trouble with succinct off the cuff comments in discussion with the narcissistic personality. Thank you for providing insight. It's helpful!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

[@Roseylady2]

Right you have helped me so much dealing with a narcissist.I am dealing with a cyberbully narcissist who is relentlessly spreading lies can you do a video about this please. I have walked away but that made it worse.

[@LOVEtoPLAYdrums]

Go grey rock. Document everything. If damage happens to your name. You might want to speak with an attorney... If you can show that damage... That's defamation... Get an attorney and keep your sanity! You cant control a bully. But you can control how you react. Stand on this power...

[@marciakozel4272]

Exactly! Cause the Narcissist is getting away with it. You must hold up for yourself and reveal the truth to anybody involved. These Narcissists are cowards.

[@patrickdyess7797]

Can you please talk about advice for our children to help them cope with a narc parent, please. Thank you.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

[@laurenwerner8785]

My mom is the narcissist in my life my birth mom. We talk all the time but she’s scared to see me I’m nervous too. I feel like she’s my soulmate or twin flame. Sometimes it’s very hard with her she abuses me a lot but she’s got good moments wonderful times when she loving to me. I’ll be happy when I can see her in person. I hope it will be ok I don’t know I’m trying to learn about narcissism but I have faith in my mom. Ugh we just have to stop fighting all the time. We always fight I don’t know why? Anyway thank you for the video! Very enlightening

[@diannaleefolkers-sarber2393]

I love your feedback!!!!! RIGHT ✅️

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! ❤

[@mustbegoodtoknow6545]

This is so RIGHT!! Thank you Rachel

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! ❤ Care to share what you like the most?

[@patrickdyess7797]

Right! (the stock footage is so apropos btw, nice job)

[@jtee231]

All of this is all so familiar especially when you were saying receiving compliments in front of them… a person they knew complimented me genuinely on a few things now she’s saying the person is saying judgmental things about me.

[@amandafevrier2638]

Right✅️ 👀 Miserable loves company

[@kaynock1585]

Right! I see it all now, I just wish I’d have known these things whilst I was still with my narc. But, better late than never I guess. Thank you.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this ❤

[@jamalmcdaniel3339]

When he was young, he didn't really notice it Maybe he tried to ignore it Maybe there wasn't enough time spent between them to notice. At first, they seemed cool to the world Smart, giving, happy Suddenly, they were cold to the world arrogant, selfish, sad their outward personality was a facade to mask something hollow... Something missing Once he finally realized it He made a promise to himself to be different. It was easy for him to be different: stay quiet, be shy, be kind, remain humble opposite of the constant yelling and talking and yelling and talking and yelling and talking to no avail He focused on being different on the outside but neglected something else important on the inside and that left him Hollow Hollow Just like they were he broke his promise to himself just like the thousand promises they had broken ehh.. you know what they say though: "apples don't fall far from trees" that's not exactly what they say, but yea. anyways...

[@lulee7375]

Don't let people steal your happy ❤

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! 💪

[@prernaofficial2724]

I want my husband in-laws life like that..also relatives, caste community

[@donnalachner4018]

Right and Amen to That 🥰💜

[@sand0077]

Right! Misery loves company 😠

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@grantaugustyniak6667]

Love the other flower bloom going on !

[@laurenwerner8785]

Right!!! I agree

[@DidiyogasalsastudioTM]

thank you Rebecca so true

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! ❤ Care to share what you like the most?

[@damienwelch9067]

Strategy leverage anticipate

[@drutfurgeson]

Right!!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! 💪

[@debbiecarleton2101]

Thanks for the help

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! ❤

[@Furcorners]

"Right!" times a thousand!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! 💪

[@CaliGal_17]

Right!

[@danbride7221]

Right

[@laurajurek4065]

Don't even care really ,why bother with them ,an attorney wow you go girl, you look like an attorney

[@LSP-wc4od]

I RECEIVE THIS WORD & connect myself to this Word of Prophecy whether I have Met him, my KS or not . I’m waiting for this to happen , Hallelujah ! Thank you, ABBA : I need this encouragement, in Jesus’ Nme, AMEN !

[@mayolasbones6831]

Right you are very good. Thank you

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! What part did you like the most?

[@mayolasbones6831]

@@RebeccaZungEsq I think you helped me understand many things. To put in into words I guess I would say after talking with one you walk away feeling bad about yourself. So nice not to put yourself through that any more. They are very hurtful people. God had helped me survive what I went through. Thank you for what you do.

[@damienwelch9067]

So true

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! ❤

[@cyndim8785]

RIGHT!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I'll see you all there!

[@lindac4450]

Right!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤

[@pattifairbanks5782]

RIGHT!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! 💪

[@rachelcoloradomy3kidz778]

Right!?! Tfs 😘🌹

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@melinda1566]

I think it's just life in general. Are they ever truly happy?

[@litzatedesco1417]

Right.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! 💪

[@Spritsailor]

Rightio!

[@randyhudson5786]

She left her son and took her daughter.our adult kids now are suffering the consequences along with her

[@LOVEtoPLAYdrums]

Hit that subscribe button! Ms. Zung is the best! 110%!!! No narc love bomb... Karma is very real!!! I've seen it! 🎼🥁💯👍🧐🤓

[@josephsnisky1851]

#1-. When we wake up in the morning ?

[@stuartlee5964]

Spot on , ridiculous way to live

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! ❤Care to share what you like the most?

[@stuartlee5964]

@@RebeccaZungEsq I was stuck living with narcissistic girlfriend, exposing them daily helped them leave my house and my life for good

[@robertgaida923]

right

[@happym3008]

When u ignore them When it just being ur self I understand from My toxic Roomate that she is gelous for everything And she is very hostile In text Like she dosent think befor the texts A many angry text message from Her We just ignore her

[@danbride7221]

Hit on alot of rights for me

[@daniellebarron3418]

What to do when they talk under their breath do I say something to them or do I keep it quiet

[@larrypeer4006]

Who is the best to hire a lawyer in South bend, in for a narcissistic ex wife.

[@lauradelregno99]

If you want to accelerate karma go out there and thrive. It gives them crushing blows.

[@debbiecarleton2101]

He won't let me talk in a conversation with him

[@melissa1957mw]

This is my Husband.He doesn't want me to be happy and always ruins all things that make me happy with his criticism. I am going to start telling him that he can't go when I go anywhere . Is this ok

[@fightswithspirits915]

I mentioned the clothes she wore to work indicate she does not care are her appearance. Clothes are old, faded, plain. Any normal female may explode on that. She defended and justified, so that indicates appearance not part of her self-esteem, which was obvious. A few weeks later, she showed me new clothes. She was horrible doing a "thing" that all men enjoy in the br. She told me no one ever complained. I provided some suggestion and now she's a champ. However, her whole existence is built on deception. I will never know the truth with even basic things in the delusional world she has created.

[@rachelcoloradomy3kidz778]

Right!?!?

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Proud of you! You got this ❤

[@kazzcopes8468]

The worst was how slighted they would get, and the reaction was enormous and I was totally to blame. The trauma bond afterwards is real. I run from those energies now.

[@jtee231]

That is good. Keep your guard up!!

[@ogbinvestments4361]

I made my derailed narcissistic train wreck shut down on social media as well as her phone and texting. I feel as if I owe her an apology because I destroyed her ego and happiness. She is now depressed I can actually feel it in my own body even though I am not depressed. I didn’t mean to cause her any depression. I just wanted her to understand that I KNOW who and what she is.

[@tiachambers4787]

You don't owe her ANY apology. That is the whole game of the Narcissist. To make YOU feel guilty to chase behind THEM.They don't want to take accountability.

[@stacygyuricza2187]

If you were to apologize you would be feeding right into what she wants. DON'T DO IT! She's a grown up. She has to figure it out on her own.

[@Cartooncatali2015]

Does it make me one of them when I finally caught into their ways then reverse it onto them? I’ve been doing everything he’s ever done to me. He’s so insulted, on guard and acts as tho he’s never done a thing to me and I’m crazy. I’d never do this to anyone other than him, I’d feel horrible but he’s heartless so he can take it up the arse raw dishing out the same treatment.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

[@jasonroman3639]

So what type of supply should we be getting from the narcs?

[@ReRe_642]

None

[@jasonroman3639]

How do we get the narcs to put us back into one of the people the are fake too?

[@valevallo]

What?? Wrong question man. Walk away and don’t look back.

[@chereeB-hummingbird]

💯💯Rebecca I discarded the ex 5months ago after over a decade I didn't know he was a covert narc & I exposed him..to the church ,& other's He is currently on police bail & I have filed for divorce . Peace🌸 & 🙌🏾

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@bernicewalker1963]

Your the only one who ever been good to me yes but bye bye different city lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@WinterWarlock261]

I can NEVER wish a narcissist well, no matter what. The best I can do is not wish them anything and just be indifferent.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@53lillypond]

Once he want to punished me by peeing on the toilet floor n.i.made hin clean it n wash the mat. He's.not happy with it.

[@thanasisathanasi4965]

Don't be crazy. I personally feel sorry for my narcissist. Unfortunately they all die alone and they will still be manipulating you..

[@BarbieWilkins]

R I G H T ! ✨️

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤

[@BarbieWilkins]

You're amazing and help alot. Thank you!!

[@willkraus4233]

I was filmed, live streamed in Bathrooms.......

[@ilashankar9031]

😡🤢 Can anything be more dastardly!

[@jtee231]

I think my “friend” is a narcissist I lent my car to them and damages occurred and they said they have absolutely no idea hat happened….I told them the story did not add up and they started yelling at me and saying join the club everyone thinks I’m a liar.

[@lauradelregno99]

Get rid of that "friend" he means no good to you

[@lilitghazarian683]

Nothing is ever their fault and they are always the victim

[@jtee231]

I exactly this person stayed up till 1:00 in the morning trying to convince me that they didn’t do damages… I told them I needed time to process everything and she told me she needed space from me when I don’t even bother her I told her it was fine to take space and it made her more upset… so yea it’s time.

[@lilitghazarian683]

I'm glad, it'll be a weight off your shoulders :) I'm sorry about your car and having to deal with this person on top of it all

[@MaroonRose3216]

Sounds like one to me.

[@elizabethandiosa4579]

Lol. Yes, they just cringe and get real nasty even you are happy ,improving and really good at something. Best revenge is to be excited and happy about something you've done that is great for you. They be really crazy envious unhappy jealous, especially when uou make new friends and people like to help you. Let them know and block them or go low next to no contact. Don't let them know anything otherwise they just be hovering your to shit on you cuz that's what assholes do. Tis the nature of the asshole.

[@pangeaproxima9446]

No, the best thing is to keep oneself at the longest possible distance away from them.

[@elizabethandiosa4579]

@@pangeaproxima9446 true. Better yet they are dead.

[@jimmygarcia7250]

I've heard somewhere that women don't like it when their spouse is happy, but this is sounding like a good majority of women in the u.s. don't get me wrong, men are pretty bad as they are the more overt narcs more so than covert narcs and women tend to be the covert ones.. I'm finding that covert narcissism is the more hurtful than overt 😂

[@jodizellmer994]

Narcissistic parents are the worst! They take their miserable lives out on others. They're jealous of anybody who has it better them. Well, sorry to say this, BUT your life is what you chose it to be. If your unhappy with your life, CHANGE IT!!!!! Don't expect somebody else to do for your children what you as parents failed to do!!!!!!! SOMEBODY IS NOT BETTER THAN NOBOBY, AND MONEY DOES NOT NECESSARILY MEAN HAPPINESS EITHER. Parents like this are the worst role models.

[@paulwilliams5013]

Right!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Do you have a good support system in place?

[@Veey10]

RIGHT!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Proud of you! You got this ❤

[@peonyqueen9672]

RIGHT!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Care to share what you like the most?

[@1286cassandra]

Right

[@nancybirsch4529]

Right.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤

[@victoriaspencer4602]

Right!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤

[@kenconley9642]

Right!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@KK-gn8nm]

RIGHT!!!!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! 💪

[@suehailroman12]

RIGHT!!!!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! 💪

[@jamesmaske2710]

Right

[@aliakareem62]

Right

[@catherineyoungilayan1331]

Right

[@franciswitbooi4082]

Right

[@alienonion4636]

Right

[@debbiecarleton2101]

Right

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Right