Recovered Compulsive Gambler-Dan Trolaro

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Soft White Underbelly

Жыл бұрын

Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Dan Trolaro, a recovered compulsive gambler in Essex County, New Jersey.
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@Ex-PokerGuy
@Ex-PokerGuy Жыл бұрын
Gambling is the worst thing that ever happen to me. Video poker to be exact. Lost over $2 million in the past 5 years and have over $270k in credit card debt and loans. Just yesterday I relapse and lost another $10k which was suppose to go toward my debt and now I'm screwed. How I wish I can turn back the hands of time 5 years ago and stop my self from ever going to the casino. Worst decision of my life and biggest regret of my life. Gamvling has destroyed me emotionally and financially.
@nadiahassan6228
@nadiahassan6228 Жыл бұрын
That’s a very honest assessment of where you are and where you’ve been. Take it a day at a time. I wish you the best in your recovery!
@Ex-PokerGuy
@Ex-PokerGuy Жыл бұрын
@@nadiahassan6228 thank you. Still so angry at myself right now, I could of retired 5 years ago at the age of 34, now I'm 39 with no money and nothing but debt. It so sad how the casino ruined my life.
@nadiahassan6228
@nadiahassan6228 Жыл бұрын
It would be so frustrating to lose that kind of cash. I agree, casinos and other gambling avenues shouldn’t be as accessible.
@elit3_boyz
@elit3_boyz Жыл бұрын
Same here
@marklewen9384
@marklewen9384 Жыл бұрын
Its why they call it video crack...
@Nick-rs6lp
@Nick-rs6lp Жыл бұрын
As a gambling addict and in the process of trying to recover, I wouldn’t wish gambling addiction on my worst enemy. It has destroyed me mentally and physically. I have lost everything to my name. I am now 3 months clean and aiming to never ever gamble again. To all people out there stay away as much as you can
@MeMe-in8tj
@MeMe-in8tj Жыл бұрын
Well stay away from gambling if you have an addictive personality. Stay away from alcohol and tobacco too
@kontenta82
@kontenta82 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong and pray upon Ur addiction. If U can travel somewhere U can be safe and be with U. Helps U think and away from the everyday that surrounds U.
@tammisummers
@tammisummers Жыл бұрын
🙏🙏🙏
@leanne_the_metal_girl
@leanne_the_metal_girl Жыл бұрын
@@MeMe-in8tj it doesn’t work like that.
@miket6915
@miket6915 Жыл бұрын
Hey nick I hope all is well I’m also a compulsive gambler. I’m finding more of a community online and started going to GA meetings. Keep strong my brother and let’s give our life to God. Money can be replaced but you are priceless just take it one day at a time.
@etimani7282
@etimani7282 Жыл бұрын
Wow I'm speechless, he described gambling addiction 1000% because I myself was a gambling addict. Too everyone out there fighting addiction, stay strong because the storm will pass like everything else.
@darylmixan8170
@darylmixan8170 Жыл бұрын
I'm exactly like you.
@johngeiger3770
@johngeiger3770 7 ай бұрын
Don't know how true is the statement but some describe gambling addiction as worse than alcohol addiction.
@etimani7282
@etimani7282 7 ай бұрын
@@johngeiger3770 it's a strong/sneaky addition that's crippling to the mind and internally. You'll never see a gambler coming because they seem happy on the outside, but dying by the minute on the inside. It's a very sick and disgusting addition, you will sell/pawn everything you have just to go back and tap that button. Even if you win, it's not enough..you lie to family and friends, your kids. Lose your home fkn everything and still sometimes the lesson still ain't learned
@maasicas
@maasicas 5 ай бұрын
Sorry, but you ARE are gambling addict. A recovering one. This is for life. Relapse os ALWAYS a possibility.
@SportsBoss999
@SportsBoss999 5 ай бұрын
Unless you get help, the storm of addiction will not pass. I know. I'm 68 and still gambling even though I know I need to stop. I can stay away from it some days, but eventually the bug comes back and bites me every time.
@epicglobalsolutions
@epicglobalsolutions Жыл бұрын
We're proud to have Dan Trolaro as a key member of our team, and whether it's the first time or the 501st time, it can never be easy to share a story like his, and in such a public manner like this. He and our other lived experience staff play a vital role in our US operations, most prominently in educating student-athletes via NCAA colleges, hopefully preventing others from being affected by problem gambling. We hope this story will help others who find themselves in a similar situation to the one that Dan describes and hope that the support pages that can be found via our company website will be helpful for anyone needing to know where they can turn for help.
@KimbradleyMasterGardener
@KimbradleyMasterGardener Жыл бұрын
Awesome! Best Wishes from Nashville Tennessee USA 🇺🇸
@epicglobalsolutions
@epicglobalsolutions Жыл бұрын
@@KimbradleyMasterGardener Thank you for your best wishes. Have a great day!
@deerheart87
@deerheart87 Жыл бұрын
Best wishes x
@justme-dm7sb
@justme-dm7sb Жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking actual addicts into your company. There is no better way than one addict helping another. Our gratitude speaks when we share.
@leanneadams2549
@leanneadams2549 Жыл бұрын
What a prestigious and great company this sounds like !!
@pinuri69
@pinuri69 Жыл бұрын
This guy could write a script for an amazing movie. Amazing speaker and story teller
@DobbyTheGamer
@DobbyTheGamer 10 ай бұрын
Now that you say that, a movie based off this guys life would be pretty interesting to watch. A character study on the development of a gambling addiction. He describes the carnage of 9/11 so cinematically.
@AlvinLovesAnime
@AlvinLovesAnime 2 ай бұрын
Agreed.
@jin6000
@jin6000 Жыл бұрын
What a likeable and open dude. So respectable how he owned his actions and committed to improving his behaviour. Wishing him all the very best.
@josephgreen2008
@josephgreen2008 Жыл бұрын
I had a gambling problem for 15 years. I would basically work for 15 years to feed the habit. I stole around $50 dollars from my brother and felt so bad and he was so good to me when I told him. Other than that one incident. I always paid my rent and travel pass back and forth to worth( As soon as my salary was paid into my account.) I tried to eat ok but went hungry on a few time when it got bad. When I got to 30 years of age, I started to save money and that became my new addiction, seeing how far I could take it. Today I have a house and an apartment at the beach. My kids college is paid for and we live well ( My wife keeps me grounded) It can be done even after 15 years you can turn it around you cannot accept that it cannot end.Its about putting your energy into something else. I hope my story will give hope to someone who is struggling with this terrible problem.
@antisocial3232
@antisocial3232 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I myself struggle with gambling. I'm about to be 30 and feel like I am starting from scratch. Lost 2 cars in the process, all my savings and any valuables I had have all been sold or pawned. I feel like a complete loser. But you're right, just need to channel this energy into something else.
@josephgreen2008
@josephgreen2008 Жыл бұрын
@@antisocial3232 Thanks for your reply. Sorry to hear about your struggle. 30 years of age is a good place to start. Sit down and think, that's the first thing to do because gambling is an impulsive act, we just don't sit and think before we waste more money. Sit and think about your life. What you want from life. I know why I gambled. I came from a very poor family and watched my father work like hell in a job that paid little. He took on that responsibility of raising us the best he could. I thought that I could gamble my way out of poverty. Worst Idea I ever had as it kept me poor for 15 years through my 20s when I was young and strong and could have done anything. Maybe there is something that triggered your gambling and maybe continues to do so. If you are about to lose all your money anyway, why not just spend 6 months just spending it on things you want (You are going to lose it anyway) Find a trip you want to go on somewhere or a hobby. Buy a business and run it as if it was a gamble. It is hard what you are going through, its the worst disease but it a disease that can be controlled. If you want to talk again, please just post I will always answer.
@antisocial3232
@antisocial3232 Жыл бұрын
@@josephgreen2008 thank you very much for your response and advice. I truly appreciate you sharing your experience. I started gambling for the exact same reason, looking for a way out of poverty. Parents worked hard for my siblings and I, I wanted to give them the world. The crazy thing is that I would actually win some pretty significant jackpots, only to give it all back within weeks. That's when I knew I really had a problem.
@josephgreen2008
@josephgreen2008 Жыл бұрын
@@antisocial3232 Thank you .All the best.
@jvs3431
@jvs3431 Жыл бұрын
@@josephgreen2008 Hi can i get your email? I just want to get advise and personally talk to you on how to overcome this addiction.
@SwitchGannon
@SwitchGannon 8 ай бұрын
Mark, it would be a crime if u weren’t awarded a Nobel Prize for the work u are doing. This channel has helped tremendously with my depression. No matter how bad things get, with your channel I’m reminded that things could be worse.
@KimmiesKloset85
@KimmiesKloset85 Ай бұрын
💯 💯 💯 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾
@FatPatricia978
@FatPatricia978 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! I felt him 100% I grew up into this family of sports betting and casinos at such a young age, but it was my grown up decision to gamble. Onling gambling, sports betting, casino, slots, everytable game you name it. Lost so much money let my family down, cars repoed , savings gone, drained 401k, debts racked, done some bad things ,I am now almost two months sober from gambling after some eye opening events, had some suicidal thoughts but still here for my kids, i hope i can continue to fight these demons and addiction.Videos like these also been helping me. I suffer from deep depression, anxiety and gambling is my way to cope. To all the gambling addicts out there just like me, im hoping it gets better with time, stop trying to quick flip this and that or gamble every little penny or money you have just to pay this debt off or that person off. It will eventually get worst and worst no matter how many amounts of money we win we will do it again. I own up To my mistakes all the time, I constantly remind myself with positive thoughts that Keep working, I will get out of this life with time, management, help,guidance. If you think you need help seek help, stop thinking be about it. I hope this channel comes out with more stories like these.
@tyguy4708
@tyguy4708 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this. ❤
@jettli2444
@jettli2444 Жыл бұрын
Ty bruh
@YourThermalWorld
@YourThermalWorld Жыл бұрын
I had a gambling problem, but not as bad as yours. One day 3.5 years ago I just decided “No More!” I am happier than ever, have lots of money and am debt free. Once you realize the casinos exist solely to separate you from your money, you’ll look back and see how easy it was to let them manipulate you. Keep on fighting, you have a very bright future ahead! Best wishes fir your success!
@4d827
@4d827 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this, I kinda felt the same, deep depression, I felt so sick, I lost my savings too, not as much as yours, but it's definitely not a good feeling.
@elguerokabron
@elguerokabron Жыл бұрын
@@4d827im sorry, same happened to me had a good amount saved up, will try to stop and save more money
@mistystreasurechest5347
@mistystreasurechest5347 Жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you Dan for sharing. I was able to quit internet sweepstakes gambling twice in my life. Alone without Anyone knowing. I thought of dying so often. I’m thankful for people like you who will share openly and recognize the need for help. Thank you always mark 💕
@lindarutledge9104
@lindarutledge9104 Жыл бұрын
Dan, you speak so well. Out of something so bad, you are where you need to be. Helping others to recover and heal.
@matryan3532
@matryan3532 Жыл бұрын
This was a helluva interview. Im a recovering alcoholic (July 4th 2019) , its crazy how when you take away the drugs, the alcohol, the bets, our addictions are the same at the core. I can relate to every single thing Dan said. So proud of you dude, keep up the excellent work!!!
@sebastiankuhnert3639
@sebastiankuhnert3639 Жыл бұрын
All the best to you, Mat!
@OwenGilmoreOG
@OwenGilmoreOG Жыл бұрын
My sponsor still gambled and went to prostitutes for the first 5 years of his sobriety. He described himself as a sober horse thief because he was siphoning money from his payroll withholding to do that. Then he decided he really wanted to get serious about sobriety. Yeah an addict can get addicted to ANYTHING.
@michaelheery3085
@michaelheery3085 Жыл бұрын
alkhol is a social habit in europ
@AP7K
@AP7K Жыл бұрын
There’s a lot of similarities. It struck me when he talked about the normalization from adults to kids. I remember when I was younger, I had friends whose parents would let us party at their house (and buy us alcohol), and other friends whose parents would place bets for us every Sunday. We were 16 years old drinking and gambling regularly! That was just having fun to us and the adults were actively making it happen for us.
@HVACOG
@HVACOG Жыл бұрын
One day at a time
@MrsJoeD31
@MrsJoeD31 Жыл бұрын
This interview is definitely in my Top 5 of Marc's videos! Dan thank you so much for sharing your story! I Love how you shared that it's not about the religion, but the relationship. Very POWERFUL WORDS! God bless!
@nohookshot9977
@nohookshot9977 Жыл бұрын
Dan has the gift of gab. Not in a bad way....just the guy-next-door that's sincere and speaks from the heart. The 9-11 story was particularly moving. I can remember the events of that 24 hours clear as day as well. Congratulations on your recovery and here's hoping to many more fruitful years without giving money back to the casinos!
@girlinthesouth850
@girlinthesouth850 Жыл бұрын
I think the gab is a Jersey thing lol
@sumtxflygrl1
@sumtxflygrl1 Жыл бұрын
@@girlinthesouth850 nope. It’s a southern thing too
@tonycamaj7243
@tonycamaj7243 Жыл бұрын
That’s how he was able to scam people.
@AlexIan8854
@AlexIan8854 Жыл бұрын
I agree. Sounds like he's rehearsing a script almost.
@paulc3749
@paulc3749 Жыл бұрын
Being able to get people to put their confidence in you when they really should not , is a gift.
@philharris53
@philharris53 Жыл бұрын
This is one of the best interviews for forming problem resolutions that I've seen. He says all the right things. The last few sentences are among the most important and yet least available to find. Specifically relationship and having a trusted friend by your side. Find that and you can unlock any addiction or mental prison. Thanks ++
@hanedorm
@hanedorm Жыл бұрын
​@jamesgleason3715 you don't? He literally displayed those things in this video
@TonyaKay
@TonyaKay Жыл бұрын
Thank you Mark for including success stories of recovery. I get deflated, listening to one addiction story after another, recognizing everyone is an individual, but the stories have so much in common. I end up thinking there is no hope. I know hearing a hopeful story like this re-inspired me to keep caring, keep looking for solutions, keep seeking that glimmer in others. Thank you, Dan, for your well-spoken interview. Thank you for doing the undoubtably hard work. Thank you for respecting yourself to know you are worth it. You are. Everyone really is.
@aremnant3937
@aremnant3937 Жыл бұрын
As an active gambling addict, a lot of it surrounding sports betting is about BEING RIGHT. Looking at the point spread or total for a game and having a strong gut feeling and then winning, or losing. God has set me free from alcohol, drugs and pornography. I am praying to be set free from all gambling.
@themannodoubt8657
@themannodoubt8657 Жыл бұрын
It's funny cause I have a friend who bets sports and everytime he wins he'll call bragging how he knew but when he loses there's no phone call or if he calls he makes little mention of his bet.
@neverbrokeagain3435
@neverbrokeagain3435 10 ай бұрын
You know what’s funny. These demons are bffs, gambling alcohol and porn. They’re all connected. They don’t like being alone
@loowmello7188
@loowmello7188 6 ай бұрын
90% Prozent of all gamblers stop before a big win
@davekennedy6315
@davekennedy6315 Жыл бұрын
Very articulate, chatty, seemingly a very nice and likeable, confident guy, the ultimate conman! You can see why people trusted him with their money as he seems like a safe pair of hands. Alas, you can NEVER see what truly lurks beneath another!
@naelyneurkopfen9741
@naelyneurkopfen9741 Жыл бұрын
He's a salesman for sure!
@e.n.9139
@e.n.9139 Жыл бұрын
I call it strong manipulative vibes.
@bigchungus540
@bigchungus540 Жыл бұрын
Gambling is a serious addiction just like drugs sex alcohol it’s funny how the chemicals in our mind can run how we function! But $2.1 million dollars you’re just a degenerate ConMan.
@davekennedy6315
@davekennedy6315 Жыл бұрын
@@e.n.9139 yeah I can certainly see what you mean by that!
@davekennedy6315
@davekennedy6315 Жыл бұрын
@@meganschoel8398 I was referring to him naturally being the conman type, with his easy going manner and fast talking. I am not saying that he still is, in that regard I take him at his word. He has moved away from his addiction and on to a good, family life.
@roberthenson6886
@roberthenson6886 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Dan for sharing your story. It’s truly an honor to have met you in person and to be working in helping others to deal with problem gambling. You are an inspiration to those that are trying to make a change and contribute to a noble cause. Take care of yourself and allow God to guide you to what you were truly called to do. You make an impact my friend. Thanks for all that you do.
@Andrea_k86
@Andrea_k86 Жыл бұрын
This was a great interview. Happy to hear he changed his life around. That takes a lot of strength & courage. ♥️
@jasonbaran7338
@jasonbaran7338 Жыл бұрын
I've known you since undergrad and you remain the dearest of friends. Watching this and reading through the comments brings back a lot of memories and stirs a lot of emotion. There was a long period of time - years - when I didn't recognize you. When all of this came out it explained so much. Then, I witnessed first-hand the fallout and ALL of the collateral damage. I visited you in prison. I've been watching you do the work for years now. I've seen your contrition. I am profoundly proud of you and your recovery. You're always going to be an addict, and I'm always going to be your friend. One more thing, Dan; the U.S. population is approximately 330M, not 3B.
@stellapivovarova5625
@stellapivovarova5625 Жыл бұрын
What a kind message to gave to Dan. He deserves messages like yours and I’m sure he appreciated it. This was one of my favorite interviews.
@pfossful
@pfossful Жыл бұрын
Yeah I found that $3B figure disconcerting also. The woman giving him $10,000 is such minutiae.
@mountainwoman4924
@mountainwoman4924 Жыл бұрын
PAUL S., I'd be willing to guess that it wasn't minutiae to her and it sure wouldn't be to most of us.
@pfossful
@pfossful Жыл бұрын
@@mountainwoman4924 Agreed. Prudential made everyone whole which is cool
@feelinghealingfrequences7179
@feelinghealingfrequences7179 Жыл бұрын
give us some of those memories here please
@raethibodeau9604
@raethibodeau9604 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story Dan. I'm glad you were able to turn your life around and are now helping others who are headed down a similar path. Stay strong and continue doing your great work.
@brycebrown6596
@brycebrown6596 Жыл бұрын
Bless this man for sharing his story so honestly, to be so vulnerable and open about his past problems is really brave, he’s very well spoken as well. Thanks to both of you for making this happen
@mandywood3327
@mandywood3327 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. As an addicted gambler in recovery up until this past week when I found myself going back for 'just this one more time,' this message was so important. I will always be a gambling addict and I made a poor choice this week; but I can forgive myself and go forward with renewed intention. One day at a time.
@dantrolaro3043
@dantrolaro3043 Жыл бұрын
Hang in there Mandy and continued strength for the journey. Reach out anytime.
@mandywood3327
@mandywood3327 Жыл бұрын
@@dantrolaro3043 thank you. I'm a South African and live in the most beautiful part of this country. The rest of my life is lovely. My family unit intact and a big part. Yet there is this ugly and dark side that rears its head. I could destroy everything. The dark side says 'do it, you don't deserve it anyway' and then the light of grace shines through. Your message has been a blessing to me today.
@deerheart87
@deerheart87 Жыл бұрын
Amen x
@themissinglightninglink
@themissinglightninglink Жыл бұрын
@@dantrolaro3043 Your story was harrowing but necessary. Your humility and hopefulness and gratitude truly inspiring. I commend you sir, you are a treasure of a person, and I really appreciate you sharing. Thank you and I wish you the very best!
@nosolar2023
@nosolar2023 Жыл бұрын
Every day is a new start!!
@jc36245
@jc36245 Жыл бұрын
Clearly Incredibly Intelligent and what an honest interview. As an Addict - Respect to you Brother. We are not bad people, even if we have done bad things. As long as we are trying daily to improve ourselves 🙏🏻
@carterevans2012
@carterevans2012 Жыл бұрын
I live in NJ and have a gambling addiction - being so close to so many casinos really sucks lol. Your story really hit me because of how close you are to where I call home. I banned myself from all online gambling and I’m working on getting some control for in person gambling. It’s definitely not easy, but I hope to be where you are one day soon. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story.
@ross_ulbright7779
@ross_ulbright7779 Жыл бұрын
I gamble online sometimes and other times at the casino. My wife and I always have spending limits when we go to the casino. The thing that keeps me from getting addicted is the fact that that the odds are stacked against the player. When he mentioned that he felt relief when he gambled his last dollar that really confused me. I always felt bad when my money was gone but I realized it is just entertainment. When I gamble online it is mostly poker and again I don't spend much on it because I hate the feeling of losing. I was always confused by the fact that Americans aren't allowed to put real money on some online poker sites. It just seems like common sense to have a spending limit.
@NothingToPointOut24
@NothingToPointOut24 Жыл бұрын
I'm from NJ and moved back when Covid hit because my job ended and I could live for free. The worst decision of my life by far as it led to a gambling addiction due to NJ having online casinos. In a hole financially, stuck at home with nothing to do and the option to win "quick money" was a recipe for disaster. I think a few years from now we are all going to be smacked in the face with just how many people developed addictions with either gambling, drinking or drugs in that year where we all were forced to stay home and had minimal entertainment.
@Zovie555
@Zovie555 7 ай бұрын
@@ross_ulbright7779the lights n the uplifting ditsy music they play on Roobet hypnotizes me .. literally they have this shit down to a, T by enticing u with all the cool little lights n shit. Lost about 8k in one year bro.. god Bless you! You Got Thiss!
@mrpapagiorgio3620
@mrpapagiorgio3620 7 ай бұрын
​@@NothingToPointOut24im in NJ , its the same here, the legalizing of gambling has been a disaster. I def have a problem, been blowing paychecks etc, i always up and 1 outta 10 times ill take it home, brutal pointless addiction
@NothingToPointOut24
@NothingToPointOut24 6 ай бұрын
@@mrpapagiorgio3620 The only thing that slowed me down was moving out of the state again. Right now I live in a state where I can do online sportsbook, but for whatever reason, I know my limits when it comes to that. I guess it has something to do with the fast paced nature of the casinos and the ability to win big in a short amount of time. One of my first times playing I turned $200 into 2k in less than a hour. Probably the worst thing that could've happened looking back cause I easily gave back 10 times that much. 2 years later I'm still paying it off. Good luck man.
@julizaperez7198
@julizaperez7198 Жыл бұрын
Gambling addiction is one of the worst addictions to overcome. Thank you for this interview 🙏
@WayysWorld
@WayysWorld Жыл бұрын
Wow that bit about the last dollar being a sense of relief really hits home for me. I'm just starting to try and kick this sick addiction and hearing Dan's story is comforting knowing there's a way out. Thank you for sharing this
@evelynjackson6248
@evelynjackson6248 Жыл бұрын
You and me both but we will get through this
@MassAppeal966
@MassAppeal966 Жыл бұрын
Yup we only feel relief when it's all gone.
@goliatheater67373
@goliatheater67373 Жыл бұрын
Hope you're having success
@roadrunner9622
@roadrunner9622 5 ай бұрын
Exactly. Somehow when there's a pile of money I can't relax. But when it's all gone, it's like I can just be myself and enjoy life. That must sound so crazy to an outsider.
@frankparoutoflovefci571
@frankparoutoflovefci571 Жыл бұрын
I love listening to people in recovery. Thank you!
@OM-or3im
@OM-or3im Жыл бұрын
I learned a lot about drug and alcohol addiction in my clinical internship and met some very introspective people (clients), but i never really got a chance to learn about gambling addiction from someone who had first-hand experience. I appreciate very much Dan’s story and really glad he found his new career in which i am sure he is amazing at! Thank you, Dan!
@jesserhodes7430
@jesserhodes7430 Жыл бұрын
these extreamly tough life experiences seem to manifest themselves inside of us and emerge later on in a much different form.
@tommarty879
@tommarty879 Жыл бұрын
Dan, that was the best interview i have seen on this channel. Glad you are in a good place.
@beaversroastingbacon1679
@beaversroastingbacon1679 Жыл бұрын
This was great ! Need more of these types of interviews mark
@benjaminthomure
@benjaminthomure Жыл бұрын
This has been my favorite video so far! This man is very insightful and it helps me understand better my own addictions and dark thoughts. Thank you.
@blackjackmaestro6505
@blackjackmaestro6505 Жыл бұрын
I'm from England, I watch this channel so much, I'm so close to the edge, struggle with alcohol every damn day, OCD, severe depression, anxiety (I drink to stop the anxiety but it's a killer circle) I'm in debt and the huge increase in energy bills and cost of living in England is making me suicidal. I cant cope with everyday life like normal people. My world is so small. Seeing other people and their struggles on this channel make me feel not so alone I guess...
@Happy_Spatula
@Happy_Spatula Жыл бұрын
Agree here . That alcohol anxiety cycle was horrible. Giving up alcohol reduced my anxiety immensely. Waking up without a headache us an incredible bonus
@a.i.a.algalg1322
@a.i.a.algalg1322 Жыл бұрын
Still light just need to seek for it world is big and big will be your life is you trust on future and move out it that circle Hugs from Spain
@annieseaside
@annieseaside Жыл бұрын
Please call for help! You are not alone!!!
@icemaiden6000
@icemaiden6000 Жыл бұрын
talk to your GP/Doctor asap. ph a crisis helpline asap. explain it all to them. most importantly, reach out to your family members, open up to them. show them you are vulnerable and need help. a trouble shared is a trouble halved. you may need to move in with family members till you clear your debts. there is no shame in asking for help. no one is perfect. we all fuck up sometimes. ask for help. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@wolflowasab4255
@wolflowasab4255 Жыл бұрын
Maybe try moving to the united states. or somewhere else. Sometimes a change of scenery really helps
@CBQReview
@CBQReview Жыл бұрын
This was great to listen too. He was so well spoken
@jchan2811
@jchan2811 Жыл бұрын
Powerful interview. And everything he said was so eloquent. Thank you for sharing your message
@jhi9867
@jhi9867 Жыл бұрын
It is a speech that is very well practised.
@marasultan6771
@marasultan6771 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. So articulate. I'm a NJ girl and my mom and dad snuck me into casinos underage. It never took hold thank goodness but watching this made me realize the very line they were walking on. I wish you the best!
@donovanmarcus289
@donovanmarcus289 Жыл бұрын
Enjoyed this one. So articulate and careful with his words. Goes to show that addiction does not always have to be a physical drug.
@tamasviczian4594
@tamasviczian4594 Жыл бұрын
Now I understand gamblers much better! And that's because of a such a well spoken smart guy like Dan is. Facing your problem is giving you a chance to forgive yourself! And without that forgiveness you just can't move on in life! I have just learned it right here, right now from this gentleman! Thanks Dan!
@flaviorasa784
@flaviorasa784 Жыл бұрын
Such an interesting story. The fact that he admitted being 100% responsible for what happened, helped him recover. That takes guts!
@lolQ459
@lolQ459 Жыл бұрын
Massive massive guts 👏🏻
@deerheart87
@deerheart87 Жыл бұрын
What else is there ? HOW honesty openness and willingness x
@1Lexicon
@1Lexicon Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your testimony brother Dan, it does not fall on deaf ears
@martin4343
@martin4343 Жыл бұрын
What a truly, inspiring guy He's been through it all and is now helping others in their fight against this horrible addiction. I hope I will have the strength and courage to beat it myself one day Much respect 🙏❤
@absinthemindedJ
@absinthemindedJ Жыл бұрын
This man is a born teacher. 👏
@denaemejia4751
@denaemejia4751 Жыл бұрын
Yes he is!!
@michaelheery3085
@michaelheery3085 Жыл бұрын
he knows TOO MUCH. NO MENTIONS OF WIFE.
@iijn
@iijn Жыл бұрын
Wow. He is such a great speaker. Thank you for this interview and thank you Dan for sharing!
@Acke1975
@Acke1975 Жыл бұрын
This was a really great interview. Thank you both!
@seahwkgrl80
@seahwkgrl80 Жыл бұрын
Good morning people of SWU! Southern Oregon at 3:15 a.m. & always stoked to see a new video!
@teresag3713
@teresag3713 Жыл бұрын
Thank you to these men who are honest about their healing journeys. Very Good examples to young men who are trying to heal. We need more!
@ZimasaMadikizela
@ZimasaMadikizela Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story
@deannagordon550
@deannagordon550 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing. I appreciate your story so much. I’m Canadian and I will never forget September 11th I remember exactly where I was and watched it on tv live. I’ve never heard a gambling addiction perspective I applaud you taking 100% responsibility.
@fortunelyfortunely6848
@fortunelyfortunely6848 Жыл бұрын
This was so touching and moving. I also live in Canada it’s a great country with understanding civil people. Lame as fuck where I live though (Atlantic).
@DA-eh9ce
@DA-eh9ce Жыл бұрын
Good interview. I've never heard a story like this. Now he's helping others especially younger people that could be having problems with gambling. Big heart.
@AuroraRoz
@AuroraRoz Жыл бұрын
This was such a riveting talk! Dan is an amazing human being, and the fact he prevailed after all the things he went through in his life, just shows how strong character he has. I honestly think it will be an amazing opportunity to make a movie about his life, so it can bring awareness to the public. Gambling addiction destorys life. 1 Win=losing big time.
@josephdelliquadri4497
@josephdelliquadri4497 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story. I believe this is one of the worse addictions out there. Very easy to hide it and the financial harm you can put on your entire family... Very scary
@miketsortos9226
@miketsortos9226 Жыл бұрын
I did the same thing with a check. I understand that I crossed the line feeling. It all went downhill from there. I feel you brother. Gambling addiction is a very horrible and evil thing.
@30k415
@30k415 11 ай бұрын
Wow! I love this guy, so much honesty, clarity and detail.
@pcaz23
@pcaz23 2 ай бұрын
This is crushing. Is crazy how an addiction can take you down a dark path.. I've been on and off dealing with the gambling , thankfully I haven't been compromised into a situation that I would regret for life.. a sidenote , I'm from the same part of jersey as this guy. Glad to here he is figuring things out
@imaloserdude7227
@imaloserdude7227 Жыл бұрын
One of the best interviews I've listened to. One thing I've heard again and again is...don't start. Cuz' so many activities can work the pleasure centers in the brain, and before you know it we are craving that kick, that feeling. And then we're always hungry.
@leanneadams2549
@leanneadams2549 Жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!!!
@justme-dm7sb
@justme-dm7sb Жыл бұрын
He knows about addiction, thats for sure. Everything he said about it is absolutely the truth. Stay grateful everyone.
@nickm9680
@nickm9680 Жыл бұрын
This one had me with goosebumps the whole time.. one of the best interviews so far 🔥🔥
@shelly.618
@shelly.618 Жыл бұрын
“As an addict I started looking for a way out, so i defrauded my customers out of 2.1 million dollars” wow not what I expected as a way out 😂 more of a head first dive in
@ckennedy1973
@ckennedy1973 Жыл бұрын
Really appreciate these interviews. It gives me a perspective on my own life.
@leanneadams2549
@leanneadams2549 Жыл бұрын
Same ! Every. Single. Time. !!!!!
@birdflipper
@birdflipper Жыл бұрын
If I was a gambling man I'd bet he's gonna be ok.
@terrytownsend5583
@terrytownsend5583 Жыл бұрын
Very funny
@jewels18261
@jewels18261 Жыл бұрын
Id put money on it 😆
@parisa5014
@parisa5014 Жыл бұрын
I'd take a chance on him.
@terrytownsend5583
@terrytownsend5583 Жыл бұрын
@@jewels18261 feel free to jump on the bandwagon
@zerodarkthirty703
@zerodarkthirty703 Жыл бұрын
It’s a lock.
@jvl3097
@jvl3097 Жыл бұрын
awesome video. loved how expressive and honest dan was.
@akamomakawife4928
@akamomakawife4928 Жыл бұрын
Really a great story I loved it I'm glad he's better and doing well Mark thanks for all your work thanks for everything you do I am proud of you.
@RichYungCaliber
@RichYungCaliber Жыл бұрын
Wow this was great. Great redemption arc, gambling addiction is absolutely one of the worst.
@xbigshot1
@xbigshot1 Жыл бұрын
As an AA oldtimer, I know that GA members are on another level as far as addictions........Dan has over 12 years without a bet.....he is an OLD TIMER in that program!
@rezzbuilds8343
@rezzbuilds8343 Жыл бұрын
Alcoholic here. It’s amazing how we have the same issues at the core just different branches of the tree. I could never imagine giving away that much money. But then a gambling addict might turn around and say to me that I could never imagine drinking myself stupid like that over and over again.
@michellefranklin3479
@michellefranklin3479 Жыл бұрын
Incredible how any addiction can ruin your life, dosen't matter what it may be..Always spiraling down..Thankyou for sharing your story, it's so important that we recognize any addiction and this episode allows us to see the heinous side of gambling..So honest and Incredibly insane..Wow
@erinchillmusic8930
@erinchillmusic8930 Жыл бұрын
Dan, Thank you for your openness and honesty. I loved this interview. You are strong, courageous, and I wish you the best! (you are handsome too!). My mom left me when a I was barely two, I can totally relate. I struggled with some addictions of my own, I think to fill the void of a maternal figure in my life.
@debwalker1907
@debwalker1907 2 ай бұрын
As a kid, my Dad would never allow me to play carnival games at the local fair. He said, “They’re set up to beat you.” He was correct. I’ve always regarded gambling in the same way, and stayed away from it. Never realized (til watching the gambler interviews) what wise advice my Dad had given me.
@alexred1038
@alexred1038 Ай бұрын
I’m still mad I played one that you pick an envelope and win the price inside. So you pay 5 bucks and win something worth 1 buck 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ It occurred to me that the high value items I wanted didn’t have any envelope.
@ness6970
@ness6970 Жыл бұрын
Amazing amazing story. I’ve suffered with gambling as well and I can relate. It’s terrible. My breaking point was my dad dying. I still owe him $1600+ and I’ll never be able to repay him. It’s beyond upsetting. Thankful for this interview.
@DuyPham-nz7oe
@DuyPham-nz7oe Жыл бұрын
I suffered with gambling too , I steal money from my Dad, now he passed away and I never repay him , I own him my life , I feel so bad , my terrible life 😢
@peripheralparadox4218
@peripheralparadox4218 Жыл бұрын
You can put that money to a good cause.
@stephenkirk1024
@stephenkirk1024 Жыл бұрын
I knew a guy once who would lend money, a loan shark I suppose. I asked him what happens if someone owing money dies, what happens their debt? He said 'if you die, your debt dies with you' 🤷🏻‍♂️ I know this is the other way round in your situation but try not to concentrate on a debt you can't now settle. Just know your dad loved you and try to arrest your gambling, that's what your dad would want more than anything.
@whowhatwhenwherewhynow
@whowhatwhenwherewhynow Жыл бұрын
As a parent i can tell you id give my child a kidney. $1600 is nothing. Dont beat yourself up x
@ness6970
@ness6970 7 ай бұрын
I’m here again rewatching this video, one year later. Since my last comment I’ve lost well over $80,000. It’s never been this bad
@sveeny
@sveeny Жыл бұрын
Man, he's such a good story teller. Could listen to him for hours.
@Kolby2004
@Kolby2004 Жыл бұрын
Wow Dan, such a great story! Thank you for sharing... you give me motivation to continue to choose healthy options to cope with life and triggers.
@leanneadams2549
@leanneadams2549 Жыл бұрын
I feel so much for this man. I started to cry as he was recalling the sights he saw at the World Trade Center. Hits home as we come into the first week of September. As with so many of us I was 33 and will never forget. I was a casino dealer then so I’ve seen all sides including stories like this. Crazy. How much I can relate only on a totally different level !!!! Oh plus I’m an recovery addict also, so again, I can relate. ( sober since june 5 18’ )
@non-wx8qm
@non-wx8qm 4 ай бұрын
This man is exceptionally brave. Thank you for sharing.
@mountainwoman4924
@mountainwoman4924 Жыл бұрын
This articulate, handsome man is going to be a life success...continue on young man...let the past remain in the past. You have done what you could to make things right. If you haven't, your work is not finished. God bless you.
@constantravens4800
@constantravens4800 Жыл бұрын
Respect to you You have a major message to convey 🇨🇦🙏💙
@tonybino01
@tonybino01 Жыл бұрын
Sex, Drugs, Alcohol, and Gambling are all addictive. But Gambling gets overlooked a lot but just as destructive.
@Blackcatt704
@Blackcatt704 Жыл бұрын
I feel like he is speaking directly to me. I felt all of that!
@mikemalonetv5385
@mikemalonetv5385 Жыл бұрын
This guy was very well spoken . Great interview 🙏 I’ve had a gambling addiction for 20 years . Thankful I have a good business .
@AVBNOW23
@AVBNOW23 Жыл бұрын
His voice sounds crystal clear…enjoyed hearing his story.
@jewellinasavoy7767
@jewellinasavoy7767 Жыл бұрын
Very much a smoothe talker. He almost convinced me German families aren't loving any family can be dysfunctional, however not always the case
@elisakibbey9177
@elisakibbey9177 Ай бұрын
Your story is powerful. I am working towards my Gambling Credentials and the best training is hearing stories like this. Thanks for sharing!
@Rochelle721
@Rochelle721 Жыл бұрын
Good morning SWU fam'. Greetings from Northern California. Its just after 3:00 a.m. & were at the beginning of a heat wave. Hope youre all doin' well. I send Good Vibes & Mad Love Your Way ✌😎☀
@Gram72534
@Gram72534 Жыл бұрын
Good morning Roc, have a great Friday!
@javanesemystic
@javanesemystic Жыл бұрын
Hello from Indonesia 🇮🇩
@KimbradleyMasterGardener
@KimbradleyMasterGardener Жыл бұрын
Good Morning from Nashville Tennessee USA 🇺🇸 ♥
@pjrichards3974
@pjrichards3974 Жыл бұрын
Good Morning from Houston.
@johnnyringo0506
@johnnyringo0506 Жыл бұрын
Hey from Branson, Missouri. Thunderstorms here.
@hithere2you1125
@hithere2you1125 Жыл бұрын
This man has an amazing gift of hiding what's under the surface. The coworker that seems okay but deep down there's a lot going on
@slowceezy6666
@slowceezy6666 Жыл бұрын
One of the best interview ever …. Well spoken 💯
@cmoore586
@cmoore586 Жыл бұрын
This guy comes off super self aware & really thoughtful. I hope he gets out of life what he is seeking
@davidhatch40
@davidhatch40 10 ай бұрын
This is what people from Philly/South Jersey just are
@cmoore586
@cmoore586 10 ай бұрын
@@davidhatch40 Thanks for telling the guy from Cherry Hill🤣
@angelicataylor505
@angelicataylor505 Жыл бұрын
Out of every video I've seen here, this was absolutely my favorite!. I'm a recovered alcoholic who facilitates a group of women in a recovery center. Most struggle with fentanyl and G. I showed them this and everyone in the room could relate to his description of addiction. He shares hope of recovery.
@JustBree716
@JustBree716 8 ай бұрын
What a fascinating story. I wish more stories like this could be made into movies.
@alejandramoreno6704
@alejandramoreno6704 Жыл бұрын
What a great speaker. Tnx for shearing your story Blessings. 🙏
@amberk4978
@amberk4978 Жыл бұрын
Good interview! Loved that he IS a part of the solution and not just the problem. I would like to see an interview with someone who is addicted to plastic surgery. Something different
@annieseaside
@annieseaside Жыл бұрын
Check out here Bimbo about a month ago.
@LindseyDyan
@LindseyDyan Жыл бұрын
Great interview
@TheProvenFact1
@TheProvenFact1 Жыл бұрын
Amazing interview. Speechless. Makes me grateful
@TheCareerCypher5871
@TheCareerCypher5871 Жыл бұрын
I am proud of you Dan 4 years away from family is a long time knowing should have to be through so much because of gambling addiction, I know you are a great person now and you are the best you can be in the present.
@4thEyeVision
@4thEyeVision Жыл бұрын
That was deep Thank you sharing Dan
@BillyCardano
@BillyCardano Жыл бұрын
Thank you Dan for giving us this insight. You're an incredible human and I love you man.
@Lyrikilla
@Lyrikilla Жыл бұрын
This is an amazing video, thank you so much!!
@fannydecaluwe8482
@fannydecaluwe8482 Жыл бұрын
Very inspiring, Dan! Thank you.
@deidrahall1428
@deidrahall1428 Жыл бұрын
My Mom always said she wasn't in putting any substances in her body so she didnt have an addiction! Her gambling addiction was worse than a drug addiction, in my eyes, she had no limits and lost everything
@antsmands
@antsmands Жыл бұрын
Dan's interview refreshes my hope for humanity! Taking full responsibility for ones actions completely is rare in todays society!
@mariamunroe6861
@mariamunroe6861 Жыл бұрын
Good Talk and the most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves...., Thank You for sharing.
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