Compulsive Gambler interview-Daniel

Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Daniel, a compulsive gambler in New York City.
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[@marcmarelli1]

It takes balls to go on a channel like this and expose your deepest darkest demons to millions of people around the world. I applaud you sir and hope you're able to find peace and balance in your life

[@georgegoble6054]

i knew belushi wasnt dead

[@Th3Liquidator]

That’s why it’s called soft white underbelly this is where people can be the most honest and vulnerable to others

[@_JellyDonut_]

Hopefully his current girlfriend doesn't see this

[@andrewcross8244]

It’s akin to being a total fuckup. Like serious level. And going out in public and telling people how bad you suck.

[@pitsmittengurrl5249]

Thousands not millions but your point is valid.

[@jin6000]

You can see the weight of the addiction that this man carries bearing down on him. Massive respect to him for sharing his story. I wish him all the very best.

[@thesmiter1084]

he just feels sorry for himself

[@jin6000]

@@thesmiter1084 He has every right to. Perhaps practice some compassion rather than demeaning the validity of another person's suffering.

[@KingofUrasus]

He uncontrollably ruins everything he touches. Imagine the shame. How do you not empathize with his lack of control?

[@negativghostrdr]

@@KingofUrasus I think gambling has to be the worst addiction.

[@lucyflint5833]

My friend lost his business he's very depressed now gambling is like Crack cocaine.god bless this man.

[@randyreitz9530]

My heart goes out to this man who seems so lost. I wish nothing but positive things for him in the future.

[@necromancer234]

After what he did to his father he does not deserve the best.

[@m.b.6042]

​@@necromancer234 are you from wpd lol

[@Kimetic]

100% relatable. Money becomes just digits on a screen that becomes meaningless. It is about the dopamine hit and feeling good, pure escapism.

[@abotto35]

Probably most accurate thing I’ve heard regarding this.

[@forevermancc]

Bang on I'm a heroin addict last few months been shooting it with crack too and this is the most accurate thing. Luckily I'm sober ATM

[@seankiesling2054]

At that point ...like you said, money isnt money anymore...it's a tool

[@TonyPajamas24]

@@forevermancchow’s it going brother?

[@atticuskilby515]

Attempting to fill a hole deep within, there is great underlying pain and thus the need to escape.

[@cantkillmetal666]

I was a table games dealer in Milwaukee from 2013 until earlier this year. I remember him, feels so sad hearing these stories after my time there was done. At the time I tried to be as cold as possible in terms of thinking about money, had to force myself to think that every person that was there could afford it. It always stung in a way to see some people at the start of my shift, through all 8 hours, and then seeing them again the next day, in the same clothes, still gambling.

[@switchbladeporter]

This is my first month as a table games dealer and I’ve already had police come to my table and tell a woman that her husband had reported her missing. She went and talked to the police and called her husband. Then came right back to the table.

[@cantkillmetal666]

@@switchbladeporter yeah, it's absolutely heartbreaking to see the life that a lot of people live that they hide from their loved ones.

[@chriskoshinski]

@@cantkillmetal666 some don't have loved ones, and your their family/friend

[@cantkillmetal666]

@@chriskoshinski completely

[@Shayster-_-]

I mean I go in the same clothes everyday and I’m up 1400 off my first 100 in poker💀💀 Screw gambling yay for poker

[@whoneedsbond]

Brave man. Gamblers know exactly what he is saying and can relate. It’s tough, thank you.

[@Tacoman1967]

I hope he paid his family back.

[@tracypeterson9352]

@@Tacoman1967 he did I am his father

[@Tacoman1967]

@@tracypeterson9352 I bet

[@Adam-hi9dh]

Damn I wanna know his last name

[@mkvingti]

@@Adam-hi9dh probably cox or something like that

[@Jen_Is_Outside]

I sat and talked with a homeless man and his dog in front of a convenience store one day. He was handed $5's, $10's, even $20's. Every single dollar he was given he walked into the store and bought lottery scratchers. Lost it all. He lost his house, wife, and kids over his gambling. I had never met anyone with a gambling addiction before. It was very humbling to sit with that man and his dog. I will never forget that moment. Thank you for your work, Mark.

[@DEfittness24-7]

You talked to the dog too?

[@Jen_Is_Outside]

@@DEfittness24-7 Of course. Who wouldn't? ❤🐕 It was a one sided conversation tho.

[@voteZDLR]

When people are genuinely addicted to gambling it's no longer a choice anymore it's a compulsion.

[@commentcraftsman]

Lol.. Comment Craftsman likes

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

I worked at a gas station a long time ago and all day long poor looking people would buy scratch tickets sometimes on credit cards. There was a limit to how much we were allowed put on credit. Not a single person ever won a dime.

[@KizetteandTotoro]

You can really feel how he is burdened by his addiction. Very insightful interview. The things we do to cope with the pain inside...

[@charlesgerety1403]

I felt compassion for him he is really sad

[@thomasminarchickjr.7355]

Not burdened enough. He stole from his sick father. I can believe how selfish he could be. He literally said his father was the only person he cared at all about stealing from, and he stole from his own family!

[@charlesgerety1403]

@@thomasminarchickjr.7355 We all make mistakes. He seems to understand what he did was horrible and had corrected himself so perhaps we should show him understanding/compassion?

[@reececarr2784]

He is burdened with being who he is. A very weak ,highly Uneducated person who has no intentions Other than the short cut in life in general

[@chalupacabrabatman7771]

@@reececarr2784 and your parents are burdened with having an idiot for a child. I guess we all have our issues. You can go back to eating crayons now.

[@spklyunicorn]

He just seems so terribly burdened and sad. I want to give him a hug.

[@Jake-mj2kf]

I love you, buddy. I don’t know you - but you’re as human as the rest of us and deserving of grace, love and respect.

[@terrytownsend5583]

Praise the lord. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🫣

[@Jmr-o5e]

Grace and love ok. For me respect has to be earned. It is a reward for acting long-term with integrity; not sure this guy - who steals from everyone he gets close enough to steal from - deserves respect. But you are free to feel as you please. Just dont invite this guy into your life. Some people are better respected from afar.😮

[@justanunknownfriend5091]

I lost over 500k gambling my businesses away at the casinos from 2015-2017. Still haven’t recovered the $ of course, however I did quit gambling.

[@thematriarchy2075]

Well done! I hope you will recover. ❤

[@alking6633]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@jake-thegoat]

That's impressive

[@YouHaveNoBalls]

@Franz Fanon be useful and go do some dishes

[@Align500pro]

@NMFI LLC wanna bet..?

[@emm2937]

“It’s never enough.” Those words are something all addicts know extremely well!!!

[@elinmansson5535]

Yup…..

[@Infashiononlineshop]

That’s also the human psychology. That’s why gambling addiction can happen to anyone

[@CarCoSaNoLa]

One drinks too many and a thousands not enough

[@CarCoSaNoLa]

@Franz Fanon says a everyone until they are one. I can see you have a strong e.q. Probably arrogant and self centered but hey, you like it that way

[@emm2937]

@Franz Fanon I would sit this one out.

[@deidrahall1428]

Growing up with a gambler was the hardest thing of my life. It absolutely stole my childhood from me. I also think about the mental torture my Mom went through dealing with that addiction, it wasn't easy but it made me the person I am today❤️

[@Anonymous-lq2bs]

Growing up with an alcoholic is not east either especially when he looks at you he sees himself and hates it.

[@thomasjefferson7359]

Good for you...that's awesome.

[@replynotificationsdisabled]

Our past always makes us who we are. 🙄

[@deidrahall1428]

@@replynotificationsdisabled what

[@bonki8594]

My father was a gambler too. Though it may not be heroin or something like that, it can still cause so much destruction and pain

[@mr.nmoney3554]

I feel the pain and he said it in the end. "If i didnt grow up in a broken home. If i was able to love another woman but im hung up on the one, its a social aspect being around other people tipping big making people happy. The rush of winning the feeling of success in life. No social skills, a loner, a man in solitude who wants to be social and yearns for love. Living with regret for the rest of his life fighting a battle of depression. you can hear it in his voice. This man is walking the line of self canceling and living one more day.

[@jjosten529]

I'm an alcoholic, been sober a year and a half. The closest I felt to losing control of my life again since I quite drinking was when I fucked around on Fanduel for a few months. I went from having fun to degenerate gambling in a week. Spent 6 months trying to "cover losses". Finally I realized what I was doing and was able to stop before I really fell on my face.

[@DrSchor]

I am very confident that you, as an alcoholic gambler , will fall on your face very soon.

[@laurynassungaila5382]

@@DrSchor wow. Very supportive.

[@rezzbuilds8343]

Shit dude that’s a double whammy. I’m an alcoholic and that shit has been a bitch to kick. I already know what gambling could potentially do to me. Plus all the times I’ve been to the casino I’ve never had a big win, so I’ve never actually seen the dragon.

[@Bizzybee1.]

Sorry to hear that. Those sports books are nothing to play with, and it's so easy to bet through your phone so quickly. I had to quit too after loosing a decent amount, still paying it off.

[@TzUuup]

​@@Bizzybee1. it's crazy now. I try to cap myself. Had a good run of up and downs a few years ago where I got up a few grand but than lost it. I haven't gambled since. Crazy cuz I still have the app on my phone with my bank account linked

[@MahhadValixFlash]

I love how Mark knows just how much and when to speak... keeping the conversation free-flowing. Some interviewers will completely take over n push their own ideologies onto the interviewees

[@rae3356]

Agreed

[@deadmeatjb]

Mark realized when he first did this that he isn't the focus. He's chatty in interviews tho.

[@ChainsawDaveUSA]

You are exposing behind the curtain of so many parts of life that many would never see otherwise you are a true artist! Thank you for allowing us to see behind the curtain with you!

[@Anonymous-lq2bs]

I’m an alcoholic….. I’ll be sober a year next month. Unfortunately, I feel like I’m walking a tight rope without the circus net, because I’ve lost 3k this month making bets. I hate the feeling of losing and normally I grab a bottle to get rid of that feeling. I’m kind of scared, because I’m getting used to the feeling of losing money. It’s ironic, because I have a twin brother that has lost over 200k easily in his life and we’re only 35. I don’t believe this man only lost 20k; denial for sure. I lent my brother 1k for a dog and he ended up going to the casino and lost, but he did pay me back. Having an addiction can be a blessing or a curse.

[@craftygirl9666]

@@Anonymous-lq2bs Congrats on your sobriety! That's a huge accomplishment. I have no degree so I don't want to give you unsolicited advice, but I pray you find the root of what is causing your actions. I don't know if you have resources, but maybe you can dig deeper into the harder parts of your life and find peace. I *see* you. hugs

[@davesteadman1226]

@@Anonymous-lq2bs Stay sober dude!! Go to a meeting! Do whatever you have to do, don't fuckin drink, ever. I'm with ya dude! Don't gamble. For us it's poison and the casinos are NOT your friend!!!

[@paulc3749]

@@Anonymous-lq2bs , good luck and be strong. I agree with what you say that you believe he gambled a lot more than he is letting on . The denial is a way of limiting in his mind how much damage he really has done

[@mr.makedonija2627]

@@Anonymous-lq2bs a blessing? 🙄

[@dolltall]

Daniel, Thank you for your courage. You will change someone’s life for the better, in the vulnerability of this interview , and that is … what life is all about

[@bonki8594]

My family fell apart because of my fathers gambling addiction. It will always be a frustrating thing for me but this gives me more insight on what my father may have felt.

[@Metallikat]

Thank you Daniel for sharing your story. Being vulnerable about any kind of addiction is hard. Best of luck in your recovery!

[@cwilsonsr7263]

Hearing him describe that gambling high was pretty much like me sitting there telling my story word 4 word. Even after all I've lost hearing someone else describe that thrill gives me goosebumps

[@meenrobinson3592]

Facts!!! I really needed to hear this

[@joejohn8834]

I’ve been in crypto since 2018 & this video hit hard

[@cwilsonsr7263]

@@joejohn8834 damn bro I can just imagine

[@joejohn8834]

@@cwilsonsr7263 Yeah 2022 has been a rough year

[@carrybylaw]

@@joejohn8834 are you comparing crypto to gambling?

[@BenjaminBox]

I just have no words for how hard addiction can be. You deal with it every single day. As soon as you wake up. The first thing on your mind is "how am I going to appease this feeling?" You will screw over everyone you love just because a chemical in your brain told you to. Even if it isn't the most "exciting" interview, the feelings are still heavy and real. The most relatable interviews on here for me are the "a life on drugs" ones. But anything on addiction, abuse, or sex worker related hits very close to home. Sometimes I think about telling my story to the world, but first of all, it's embarassing. I have respect for these people for just being open about this. It's also hard to find the chance or medium to talk about this stuff. Thank you, Mark, for giving these people the outlet to express these feelings. You're a great interviewer, you know exactly what to ask and when to be sympathetic

[@sallyann985]

Mark should go to Vancouver Downtown Eastside.

[@BenjaminBox]

I think there's quite a few places in Canada he could go. I don't blame him though, "don't bite off more than you can chew" There's already so many people in the US who have these issues. This is the channel for them to vent.

[@sallyann985]

@@BenjaminBox what's your addiction?

[@BenjaminBox]

I've been dealing with alcoholism and sex addiction since the beginning of the pandemic. But unfortunately with those addictions comes other issues. Ive also had a few since I was about 12. I haven't had access to ADD medication until recently so this may be an issue.

[@emm2937]

Perfectly said!

[@rewok11]

Please do more Gambling addiction interviews, these are very interesting

[@hmu05366]

Quite a boring guy though no?

[@Foose3535]

@@hmu05366 no he’s not it’s actually a really interesting vid and the first of this guys channel that I watched all the way through

[@northpole8318]

@@hmu05366 to look at..if you actually listen it’s not boring at all lol it’s actually pretty interesting …

[@reececarr2784]

@@hmu05366 agree. There story's are all the same...weak & poor values

[@DaddyLondon]

@@reececarr2784 but we listen

[@ABNA.X]

Something about his emotionless way of speaking made this an incredible interview. Thank you mark !

[@kurtcleary6794]

His life has been so devoid of connection that he still obsesses over one person, he stole from his bedbound father just to get a high, he admits to not ever loving his ex wife or his current partner. Don’t let your own life disappear like this guy. Try to be brave and make the harder choice in the moment and seek help wherever you can.

[@rmmm4268]

100% this. I have am uncle that still talks about a high school crush he had as if it was yesterday, even though it was 15 years ago. If you don't expierence new connections it will be as if time stands still and you domt go forward. That's why when this guy finally went to his high school crush she was almost stunned by thr comments as if he was crazy. That's cause for her it was something long forgotten and for him it was a recent memory.

[@thisisgettingold]

It would be nice to think we have free will like that, but everything happens because of a reason, and in the end, some people are simply not capable of the kind of change you are talking about, and often, it is not even their fault.

[@intensepassion3382]

​@@thisisgettingoldoh, it's definitely their fault, as they made a choice

[@piyh3962]

A marriage is something you build a little bit every day and put work into by prioritizing your partner over your wants. This guy put himself into gambling instead. My dad didn't teach me anything about getting a girl, this gambler really spiked the personal responsibility ball at the end there.

[@ML-kx9gz]

The way he told that story about the chick that friendzoned him and the way he rattled off like 8 poker players that nobody outside of gambling/poker world would even know about screams delusional to me. Another shocking thing was when he basically talked about resenting his father for not being able to talk to him about women, because he was busy working and was a smoker who had a stroke. It's like wow man, that's about as heartless and cold as you can possibly get. I could see this guy going down in flames when he roasts his parents inheritance at the casino and all he has left in his delusional mind is that one chick that got way (who probably never ever liked him to begin with)

[@henrifischer1119]

bullying leaves people damaged. for life.

[@bisola7775]

Gambling addiction is one of the most difficult to break! Wish him the best

[@leahdavis8446]

Very true. My dad had it horrible. He would bring me to gambling places and a lot of times to the horse races to bet on the horses...he used to leave me alone with weird drunk men that he barely knew. He would always do that. He finally got his life together and went to GA (Gambling Annonymous) he said it helped him. But yeah I was super little I don't remember going. He had to tell me. And my mom followed him there a couple times too, she told me she grabbed me off a random drunk guys lap. She was so pissed. I'm glad he is done with all that though.

[@jorgegonzalezquintero]

i bet u are rigth

[@dowogenesthedog7186]

You've never had heroin, that is a REAL addiction, gambling isn't.

[@tiggtiggs]

@@dowogenesthedog7186 I had an uncle who was a heroin addict & an ex who was a gambling addict, both were traumatized. Almost all addictions are related to trauma, ALL are horrible. It's not a competition.

[@laurieg2436]

@@dowogenesthedog7186 addiction is addiction…..

[@samuelary8476]

This was a beautiful interview. When the past becomes the present you lose the future. I really can relate to Daniel on multiple levels of his journey and crossroads in life. Thank you, Mark, for this interview.

[@4d827]

I shed tears every time I watched these interviews, it took a lot of balls to speak out, it's so relatable.

[@ronanmartin1990]

Guy cured his stutter by being too jaded and miserable to give a fuck about it😂

[@godthesonhasilluminatedme]

Makes a lot of sense…sometimes caring too much is bad

[@daddydidnt9700]

What a dumb comment

[@alicianblack2310]

The courage to admit one's challenges breeds so much compassion from people. You have no idea how much of an impact your story has. We appreciate you for being real with us and teaching us this reality. We are praying for you!

[@glennday7802]

Who's "we"? You don't speak for me and you never will. Presumptuous idiot.

[@tiggtiggs]

Everything you are looking for IS within you, Daniel. No-one is going to love & take care of you, more than yourself.✌️❤️

[@Nikki-ec1zb]

☕️

[@thepitpatrol]

Jesus

[@zzky666]

@@thepitpatrol no real person is going to love you more than yourself*

[@thepitpatrol]

@@zzky666 that's what I meant.

[@zzky666]

@DreadPirateDrake the problem is when people constantly drag religion into comments that dont mention it.

[@WillLiam_Gallagher]

Whether you think its a boring interview or not you have to understand there will be people watching this who will be struggling and find it helpful

[@travelwithtony5767]

I’ve watched a lot of these videos and this person is one of the few that I feel a genuine sense of compassion and empathy for..I hope he can break free from his demons and find a way to have a healthy and fulfilling life going forward.

[@iDevanHD]

One of the few ?

[@mattv8434]

"My childhood was sheltered, my parents didn't let me watch porn as a child". LOL.

[@zwinbtwn365]

lol….I know right!

[@emm2937]

He definitely moved to Brooklyn to be closer to the “girl who got away.” He is obsessed and won’t heal until he accepts it’s never going to happen! It appears he’s self aware enough to know this, so hopefully he can finally get the help he needs. This man is in a sad state. Damn.

[@skoochi]

Self aware enough to know it but has absolutely no self control. The awareness does nothing on its own. Hopefully he stays away from her.

[@karenharrell1972]

Yes and it seems as though with his addictive personality, he’s addicted to thinking about her. It’s no different than the gambling it’s just another thing to be addicted to. I hope he finds the help that he needs to put all of these addictions to rest.

[@brianminsk8]

@@karenharrell1972 woah, mind blown. Thank you for this insight.

[@electricfeel9501]

@@skoochi being self aware is still at least something. there are literally people out there that are in denial, no self control and or always blame their problem on something else. Also Daniel didn't blame his addiction and problem on anyone but himself.

[@skoochi]

@@electricfeel9501 true, good point

[@ThePortalTheory]

Very brave to tell his story. I hope he finds the right life path and happiness.

[@frankalmanzar3492]

Props to this guy for explaining a gambling addiction so well. I don’t gamble so I didn’t know how fulfilling it is but he gave me a good idea of how it makes him feel good. It’s like a fun lifestyle for the moment.

[@davidcurtis7547]

Thanks!

[@MrSylthas]

I admire you for your courage to speak about this in front of so many strangers. You are helping so many people understand what is gambling addiction, and raising awareness is the first step to solving the problem

[@Yzjoshuwave]

This one brought up quite a bit of emotion for me. I’ve had different coping strategies, but the pain over what happened with that girl is deeply familiar. The powerlessness to do anything about it or to care about anything else the same way rang true - compulsively doing something to get those deep wounds to cool down. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Hope you find a full sense of love again somehow, though I think it always starts with ourselves.

[@JoeL-kn9tc]

One of your best interviews Mark. Very educational. I feel his pain. I hope he has success in overcoming his demons.

[@kayd3021]

Loved this interview so much! Childhood and parents are the FOUNDATION!

[@grixloth]

When you're bad at it, they call you an addict, but when you are GOOD at it, they call you a PROFESSIONAL

[@Eskimobrille]

yeah, professional heroin consumer :D There is a difference between setting yourself a boundary and not crossing it, and setting yourself a boundary and nostop crossing it, because you cant help yourself.

[@bentegel3783]

The average professional poker player, of whom there are under 50,000 worldwide, makes an average of $28,000 per year. You could make more working at McDonald's.

[@abcdefg54321x]

🤔 professional crack addict

[@peanut632]

Here’s what I’ve learned about gambling addiction from this video: you almost never win, and if you do win it’s not enough

[@lococholo2857]

This was a great video... Kinda tired of drugs and sex workers.. This was definitely a different and very real situation that could effect anyone!!! Best wishes

[@lucianaromulus1408]

Yeah I want more, like Communists, Fascists, Politicians, Prisoners, Immigrants, Christians, Muslims, Jews, Black Nationalists, AntiFa, White Nationalists, Teachers, Cops , Mercenaries, Nurses...I could go on but all kinds of stuff from every background. Plenty of people out there with crazy stories and experiences.

[@lococholo2857]

@@lucianaromulus1408 Absolutely

[@ddcristo]

Drug addiction can affect anyone too especially if you have the money to support a habit.

[@ryanjacobson2508]

​@@ddcristo Drug addiction doesn't affect people who don't do drugs.

[@gritagon2114]

​@@lucianaromulus1408 this channel kind of specifically focuses on the victims not the ones treating the victims tbh

[@cindywhedbee1713]

Wow! My addiction was not gambling but cost me almost as much. This channel keeps me grounded….

[@elinmansson5535]

I know what you mean.. I’ve spend thousands on junk food…

[@robcharette1915]

When he said he “was “awkward I was actually thinking how awkward he still is … this poor guy is just really lost . He seems really sad too. I feel for him and I hope he somehow finds his happiness.

[@davidhughes6]

@NAGI NAGI i agree he is very sad. He is so sad in his whole demeaner

[@Jason.cbr1000rr]

Thats what happens when you're a goody goody squarehead nerdy geeky loser who never gets tail. They turn ibto weirdos and you know the rest, end up in the news from doing foul stuff with kids and etc.. lol

[@artic_hills4988]

@@davidhughes6 lose 26 grand at a black jack table.. then walk away with a smile I dare you lol

[@TheMicturation]

@@artic_hills4988 i thought he said he lost 26k from 2007-19 ? was thinking that aint much

[@billymanziel5666]

So rude

[@SportsBoss999]

Anyone that has been controlled by a gambling addition knows the despair and sorrow he's going through. I know only too well, because in many ways, his life mirrors mine. I was a loner in school and never had a girlfriend all thru high school and college. Those women that I did come in contact with never materialized into any relationship because of my shyness, feelings of inadequacy and lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. Gambling became an outlet for me to escape the world around me, and the feeling that I don't belong. I could go to the casino myself. It was a thrill to play - a thrill I did not have since I was so unsuccessful with women. You become obsessed with that excitement - even though you know its a losing propsition.

[@insideout277]

Wow great explanation! I was looking for this in the comment section

[@MA-fe3pt]

Yes, you explained it perfectly!

[@DTWAR]

So true! 😢😢

[@DrSchor]

you have a ways to go. you have to get on a tcap type sting to really be a loser

[@toolboxnj]

Been clean since July 2022. David is talking the truth 100%. I've been there.

[@zsazsarose]

Coming in being interviewed by Mark is more than entertainment for us. These folks bare ugly truths that no one wants to admit. I applaud this fella for opening up that’s not easy to do. Addiction is gripping in every way, crippling and shameful.

[@chrisinglett3704]

It’s so crazy to hear this mans story and how much I can relate to it. I also was very addicted to gambling and also have a very addictive personality. I’ve found that if you’re addicted to something and you stop, something has to fill that void. That’s why the overeating and shopping also became an issue. Gambling, shopping, eating, etc. all trigger the reward system in the brain when you have an addictive personality. Banning myself from all the casinos nearby was the only way I was able to stop. Great video! Good luck to you.

[@DevHazy]

Same. Sex cheating food. Etc etc

[@BulldogBoxing]

Yes

[@TheBlackCat1337]

fishing, foraging, hunting seem to help.

[@bennettburris3446]

Jesus Christ can feel that void man, I’m sorry if it sounds cringe

[@chrisinglett3704]

@@bennettburris3446 it doesn’t sound cringe at all. You’re absolutely right. God bless!

[@skyking228]

I can think of at least a 100 conversations a father should have with his son. Those dad's that are capable of providing those conversations/lessons open many doors for their kids and grandkids. Always interesting, thanks!

[@Clipsyouwannasee]

List the subject of each of them.

[@timber8324]

@@Clipsyouwannasee yeah

[@skoochi]

This dude is being a victimized puss

[@GurlinDaBackk]

Remember God loves you♥️😊! John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whosoever believeth in Him (Jesus) should not perish but have everlasting life. Please repent, change your life around and live for Him🙏. He is coming back soon🥳🎊........

[@Wavelover33]

@@GurlinDaBackk why do Jesus freaks always want to sling their ridiculous beliefs in these comment sections? It’s so ignorant and pious. If you want something to say - “think” use your own brain instead of relying on this antiquated outdated socially conditioned nonsense.

[@andrewpandis]

I truly appreciate a video like this. It's real and raw.

[@Elizabeth-nr8vo]

I went to high school with Daniel, he was 2 years younger. I remember him just being a nice kid. I had no idea he was being bullied. That kid who bullied him a smarmy jerk and deserves to be in prison. Our community was hard to grow up in; extremely elitist. He’s extremely brave for doing this documentary.

[@JacobTabak]

My jaw dropped when he said he went to WFB, class of 03 here :)

[@ArthurHill88]

Hard to believe that a self-described compulsive gambler only lost 26k over a 13 year period between 2006 and 2019; that's only 2k a year/$166 a month when you average it out. Not saying he's intentionally lying or anything but given his claims about what his addiction lead him to do and the consequences of it I'm inclined to think the real number is significantly higher.

[@BulkernatorKerb]

Great take. I definitely have a feeling he's either too ashamed about it or in denial, so he's downplaying the amount to avoid thinking about it. Shame can play a huge part in addiction and leave you running back to your vice over and over again to avoid facing it.

[@wesleyAlan9179]

Possibly... But, he might not be lying too. It may be based on his budget reason it's low..I mean, he's gotta pay money to live, then when you add addiction to that..I mean,it's not too far fetched to believe he's telling the truth

[@Jay5-0]

He's a videographer. How much money you think he had?

[@David-fu8is]

Regardless if it’s 2k a year or £200 a year he’s lost. Gambling is a horrific addiction, it takes over your life literally and every waking hour, it is also one of the most destructive addictions their is. It doesn’t get enough coverage.

[@Day-ZDuke]

For sure he’s lying, good call. Because we are not just talking his own money he lost. He spoke about stealing from his wife’s parents, his own parents, etc. So it would be well beyond the 26k over all those years

[@1428monsterdrink]

You’re doing excellent work mark!! I love that you are expanding.

[@angelmartinez9744]

Very articulate man who knows how to express what’s on his mind and explain how he feels. Everyone deserves to find a healthy happiness.

[@johnclark7133]

Dad was staying up late and drinking coffee ☕️😂

[@deliafredericks7578]

I'm at home and not at my usual place So damn proud of myself Difficult but one step at a time

[@Hooozyer]

good for you

[@jsquaredm]

one day at a time

[@zacklande5159]

Happy to hear this.

[@ValleyOfGump]

I thought this was a poem bud!

[@ineedtostopwatchingyoutube5211]

That’s good, crawl before walk, and then you can run.

[@mr.hostetter855]

I was, outdoors sleeping on the ground homeless, for about eight years. Every one of these videos brings back a flood of memories. The good moments, the bad moments, the scary, the beautiful, moments of unexpected humanity. My life hasn't always been great and it sure as sh*t didn't go in the direction I wanted it to but it sure has been interesting.....

[@abk8310]

Due to gambling?

[@travislivingston3895]

I'm glad you are indoors now.

[@jnew9036]

This poor man's sadness and despair is beyond overwhelming; I pray he finds some peace and joy in this life.

[@brocktonma.1816]

This dude is an immature pussy.

[@mastercreamer1398]

He did it to himself though…

[@Faithfulfarmer]

thank you Daniel. I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. may this help many

[@edwards.8453]

Daniel, thank you for telling your story. I can relate, slightly about the gambling and more about being loved and the feeling of losing the ones based on your actions. I regret them terribly! Thank you so much! Truly inspiring!

[@marycrowley1442]

We suffer so much in this world. Thanks for sharing your touching story. My father had a stroke when I was 19 that disabled him. He truly loved me but was unable to help me through my life. I felt like he was the only person that was on my side in my family.

[@aboredbochur]

"My current gf is cool but not like that girl" is something you should never say. And if it's truly bothering him he should really tell her. She deserves to know where she stands.

[@gdaymates431]

I know. What a jerk. Sorry but move on before you get involved with someone else. It's such user behaviour.

[@primordialpouch565]

probably will be his ex after seeing this

[@jessebeahm348]

he shouldn't be dating anyone

[@wilsonfisk2134]

I mean, he did tell her where she stands... He even recorded it for her. The ball's in her court.

[@sexpistols015]

@@gdaymates431 you act like it’s that easy when you’re depressed and feeling guilty.

[@paulfix9823]

I used to be a table games dealer in the Seattle area. I didn't last too long only because everyday I felt tremendous guilt. Having to see people there everyday all day long gambling. It was really sad and I felt horrible having to be in that situation.

[@waynesilverman3048]

Did they pretend they didn't care or look a bit crushed ?

[@dougbollacker5444]

You would be amazed on how much free shit the casino will give you when your winning money and how quick they say to get lost after you drop everything.

[@OGRE_HATES_NERDS]

did your coworkers give you any advice about how they deal with it? or did they just not give a shit

[@dougbollacker5444]

@@OGRE_HATES_NERDS shit. Casinos want you to lose as much as possible. They have to act like they care cause the gov forces them to put problem gambling help signs all over. The casino I dealt in gave blue pins to wear for gambling awareness week then I liked wearing the pin cause it was cool looking and my boss calls me in the office and says deadass get that fucking pin off cause it's like being a bartender and wearing a anti drinking badge when he sells alcohol. So that's how they feel. Well they look at like nobody forced these people to play and if we lost we pay them but the huge difference is I'm paying them with company money and it makes no difference one way or another. Also people will play the minimum and some dealers will get players to bet more by nudging them by saying oh you running good you should be upping the bet to win better. Especially in craps.

[@paulfix9823]

@@dougbollacker5444 totally, I remember having a guy win 7k for a raffle drawing. He wasn't even happy about it. I congratulated him and all he could say was "this is only half of what I've lost this weekend".

[@tammyb8742]

I love how these interviews bring different things out in different people and touch them in ways that don't touch others. I couldn't really relate to this interview but I read in the comments about how many people can relate and that is the beauty of this channel.

[@brandonroberts7055]

Been going to Vegas at least once a month for the last 11 yrs. It's a revolving door of torture. In the moment you forget about all your problems but after you lose the amount of stress I feel is unmeasurable

[@EvaonTelg]

Hello, I am a gambler and I am currently in deep mess I have lost everything my job, all my savings, owing huge debt, I am currently living in the street and I am suicidal. So I decided to come here for help, please Sir/Ma help me with anything I will really appreciate I really want to be better and I want to do better you can contact me through my name🙏

[@arcanondrum6543]

I'm VERY fortunate regarding any gambling, drinking and drug addictions but I HAVE been out of money before and I know the stress of that. If it is helpful at all to you, I can tell that the stress goes away with even the smallest cushion of a bank balance and security in where you're living. I cannot speak to addictions, I understand how fortunate that I am not to have them and so; counseling will be much more helpful than me for those that suffer from one or more. I'm referring only to the security of even a little bit of a bank balance cushion. Work for that, hold on to that and much stress will melt away.

[@mazmikemaz]

One of the best I’ve ever heard on this channel

[@brooklyn5793]

Thank you for sharing your story…think there is much more here to unpack but he’s not ready…best of luck. Hope he gets the help he needs to live at peace with himself.

[@RawOlympia]

Thank you so much for these interviews. Wishing everyone the best ~ love how you give people the opportunity to have insight into the machinations of their lives, and the influences behind decisions.

[@JonyBetancourt]

I hear an enormous amount of entitlement in this video, even before the addiction started. “If only my father would have taught me how to be with women” “Arresting me isn’t going to happen now” “The only person that I cared about that I stole money from was my dad” “Why can’t I find the love I believe I deserve” Lots of blame and entitlement. Life doesn’t owe him anything. I hope Daniel is able to see this for himself one day.

[@zeebee3606]

Think ur lookin a lil too hard on that one...1st quote, I didn't hear that being said. 2nd, that was him describing what he was feeling in that moment. Not wanting to get arrested for the first time isn't entitlement, it's normal... 3rd&4th, Within the context of his story it didn't come off as entitled imo... he clearly has issues with his father, but as a 40 year old using retrospect, after years of therapy, I think what ur hearing is him genuinely wondering what could have been a difference maker in his life. Telling that story on youtube is not what an entitled person does. They make a gofundme n leave out all the extremely shameful admissions or owning of guilt

[@JonyBetancourt]

@@zeebee3606 fair points. If you deserve to get arrested then you deserve to get arrested. That’s just taking responsibility for your actions.

[@zeebee3606]

@@JonyBetancourt fosho. And he certainly deserved it in this case. Accidently chose it over going to treatment lol

[@ieeeee3728]

Finally someone who described this degenarate. This mofo needs to man up. Go watch sone sopranos degenerate

[@jasonchatham4170]

Agree

[@harrypeitsinis3005]

This interview was one of the bravest things I ve seen in my life. Daniel I hope you read this, hang on there buddy. Things are gonna get better.

[@tonymiller225]

Daniel has set up a go fund me page Go and make a donation His parents gave him millions and he still had to steal everything he could i have never seen a more pathetic character

[@harrypeitsinis3005]

@@tonymiller225 it’s a disease I can’t explain it if you refuse to see it

[@Fetchem1222]

This is powerful! Thanks for being raw about it. It’s humanizingly relatable.

[@tschibasch]

What a heartbreaking story. I wish Daniel all the very best of luck.

[@frasermccabe6640]

Not the best to wish a ex gambling addict “luck” 😂

[@mooooooooooooove]

You can see the shame in his eyes, in his demeanor, and most importantly in his photograph. Addiction is a hungry monster that eats, feeds, feasts upon men and women whose lives could have gone thousands of different ways.. Addiction turns your free will into determinism. You don't really have a choice once you're hooked, it seems.

[@mikebb1000]

Very well put. I’m in recovery and you hit the nail on the head.👍

[@darrellwood1594]

@Genevieve Pilz I agree

[@joshuaburgess4730]

@Genevieve Pilz yup ! All these addicts have one thing in common. Lack of accountability! It's that simple! Get better and get to living, or die. It's cut and dry

[@The_Majestic_Ibis]

@Genevieve Pilz Well how do you know you have a choice?

[@JacksonDunnoKnows]

Always the choice to get clean, from whatever it is your doing. It's sounds cliché, but it's all about our choices in life. I've been clean from opiates for around 4 years now. Now there is no medically assisted treatment for gamblers, but there is counseling, money management classes for gamblers, "road blocks and red tape" methods one could put up to deter it. And not to make it seem easy, cause no addiction is easy to kick. Be it cigs, drugs, sugar, or cards. All of em hold a bitter sweet, special place in the heart of the "addict". I still find myself dreaming of having a magical garden full of poppy plants, cannabis and cacti. But it isn't worth what I've gained from getting off the opiates. I have found a good woman, making a family,, built my own blacksmithing shop, and trying to make it a small business. I still smoke every once in awhile. I have a few beers here and there, when the moods right I'll eat some mushrooms or get some San Pedro but the difference is the control I gained. And again, everyone has a different experience, a different time to make these choices, if it ever comes. I have hope for anyone wanting to get a monkey off there back. I think some just have no clue where to start... Have a good day everyone, thanks for the rant🍻

[@SCY710]

I was bullied by a kid really bad for 7 years straight, and it bothered me at the time but as an adult I quit giving a damn about him. Anyway, years pass since high school and eventually my wife gets a new job and comes home one day and says this guy is a co worker of hers. Long story short, he came to her one day and told her he had pieced together that she was married to me and asked her to tell me that he is a different person now and he is sorry for tormenting me when we were kids. I thought that was nice. But you never know the damage you do to someone when you treat them like they are nothing.

[@p51abc]

Am I the only one who was laughing when he was describing refusing to go with the police and then getting pepper sprayed and tazed? What did he think the end game was? Hilarious.

[@josephedwarddowling5919]

What guts this man has. I wish him the best. If he sees this he is a good person and should not be ashamed.

[@dougm24]

Amazing interview and hope Daniel finds the help he needs and gets past this. Seems very self aware and very open in the discussion.

[@gummo3873]

Love ya Mark!!! The world needs to see this side of humanity and reality. Thank you for bringing this side of life to those who are living on the other side. Keep em coming brother! 👊

[@chinafatowproductions8064]

wow this might be one of my most fav interviews from you, raw unfiltered emotions with great questions

[@JayZoop]

Thank you for sharing. I relate to several things you went through. You story will help me to self reflect on my life.

[@mariabattaglia5428]

This guy has never gotten over anything in his entire life

[@becl1709]

This interview was like watching a scene from a Woody Allen movie - Daniel seems intelligent, neurotic and funny. It ended with what seemed like a genuine epiphany about his life and understanding his addiction.

[@mildred714]

Because he’s Jewish?

[@WaAaAaAaW]

That nonchalance is common among jews, especially thosefrom nyc. It's a kind of denial

[@pirufihho]

I like him, a lovely man

[@autumnsmith3585]

This is the first lucid person I've watched on here in a while. I always gravitate towards some of the more interesting looking people. I really hope this guy can get his life together. He knows himself well, very insightful. Seems honest. I think he would be a great guy if he did not have the money pit driving him. I hope he gets into treatment and lives to his fullest.

[@Remo860]

He needs to find something that makes him feel good about himself.

[@helenaneumann1872]

@@Remo860 ..if only it were that easy ...

[@herrrmike]

Such a rich character. And mark just let him speak, which opened up the space for the magic to develop.

[@drb2k580]

He’s looking for validation. It’s what he has always been looking for and it goes back to his childhood. He admits it without even realizing it: it’s not about the money, it’s about the fellowship with the players, the feeling of the cards, tipping the dealer. He craves the approval.

[@osibih]

this helped me more than you think you a legend for speaking out

[@guycalgary7800]

I knew a lady that was a high end realestate agent , she owned three homes and beautiful cars etc. She began playing the VLT's here in alberta back in the mid 90's. It started with $20 at lunch and soon became stacks of $20's. Within three years everything she owned was gone and she was living on her daughter's couch. It really scared me away from ever playing them.

[@ardoporkkropodra2474]

when I started working with my father I found out he spent 50% of his time and 80% of his money playing VLT's ...can't count the time we had the gas or electric shut off in the middle of the winter growing up :( nice to find out at least he had a warm VLT to sit in front of

[@rena2836]

What is VLT? I googled it and it came back Very Large Telescope.

[@deidrahall1428]

@@rena2836 I would also like to know

[@vanessab2726]

@@rena2836 video lotto terminal. Like a slot machine but has several games you can choose to play on them. In Canada they came out in certain convenient stores back in the 90s and then just bars were allowed to have them

[@vanessab2726]

@@deidrahall1428 video lotto terminal. Like a slot machine that has games to play on them

[@mattym8]

There is no way he only lost $26k. I know he says that. That was just what he stole from his dad. He is deep in denial. Before he stole from his dad he lost all his own money repeatedly. He wrote bad cheques. He lost all the money he and his wife earned. He lost his house. That all doesn’t happen if you lose $200/mo for 20 years. More like 10x that.

[@taylorferguson2589]

100% this dude is in denial. I didn’t even have any money and lost wayyyy more than 26k especially over a fucking decade!!! These amounts he’s saying aren’t gambling addict numbers

[@taylorferguson2589]

I almost feel like Bob saget in half baked, this dude is a puss

[@taylorferguson2589]

This dude gives all addicts a bad name

[@chris_2714]

He comes across as a bit disingenuous. He admits he has an issue but still seems to blame others and hides the true depth of his addiction. Kind of a "woe is me" attitude. I find him hard to sympathize with unlike other addicts Mark has interviewed. Hopefully with ongoing therapy he gets to where he needs to be.

[@rabidrabbitshuggers]

It’s like any other addiction: if an alcoholic tells you s/he spends $20 a day on alcohol, it’s actually at least $50.

[@seanycaufield6809]

My dad was a NYPD Detective for 20 years in Brooklyn. His Brest friend Bobby lived with us for about a year and when I was younger it was cool to have him around like a cool uncle in the basement. When I got older my dad and I were talking about him and my dad knowing I’m an adult at this point could handle the truth about why Bobby lived with us. The reason was because Bobby was a very very big gambler and he had gotten into debt with the mafia and they tied him up in front of his wife and kids and made them watch while they beat him nearly to death. My dad gave him a safe place to stay until he solved it etc and that took about a year. I feel for these people so much and I understand addiction. Gambling is the worst of the bunch IMO cause you can gambling things you don’t even have etc.

[@Clintsessentials]

A story worth telling, thank you.

[@4d827]

In other words, an gambling addiction can make you lose everything and beyond, today I'm deeply aware of the danger of it, so I've decided to stop.

[@Mart77]

Gambling is the worst because it could be completely hidden. If person is addicted to drugs or alcohol you can just see it. But someone who is addicted to betting can look perfectly normal family person, have a nice looking family and decent job. Person Could be sitting at home watching tv with family while gambling away all life's savings or even money they dont have.

[@adamurbacka3161]

@@Mart77 drug addiction could be completely hidden in the same way you just described. even hard drug use. most addicts are extremely skilled at concealing their behaviour.

[@juliansroadside7624]

Ok when ur barrowin money from the mafia u need to stop gambling also ur dads a looney for helping that guy

[@novac7294]

Last night I got paid. I lost everything but my rent. I have had a problem for years I’m 26 now and started going when I was 18. Today going into work at 5 am I put in the rest of the crypto I have that took so long to save. Luckily I won, but I’m not a winner I feel like a loser. How many times am I going to lie to my self. How many times am I going to crush my goals and promises to family. Opening my KZbin to find this is truly a blessing. Thank you for who posted this. I am looking into help as I type this. Thank you and please anyone that feels like this. Get help and don’t be alone. I can’t promise I can help you but maybe I can share my story with you. Feel free to comment and I’ll try to help you. It’s not worth it 😭 please please please, I say this with a tear in my eye .

[@shanghaiffgg]

You are still young with your whole life ahead of you. Stop gambling cold turkey and find meaning in something else. Relationship, work, hobby, anything. That’s what I did. Took a little servile to get used to it but I haven’t placed a bet in over 25 years and am now happily retired.

[@MikeyzFunLair]

Crypto?? Good luck

[@rixogb6409]

I got served a gambling ad before this video. Wild

[@phoebeb.332]

It couldn’t have been easy to talk about some of these things. Also probably felt good to tell someone. I really feel for this guy 😢. I hope he can live a stable and comfortable life in the future.

[@Triv1umxxx]

I really feel like he made some ground on the latter end of this interview, you could almost hear the light bulbs turn on. I hope he finds himself in a better place soon.

[@Bassgirl42]

I concure...realising if he had been taught by dad about how to approach and how to be around, and with, woman... the power of sharing.

[@BillyG563]

I relate on so many levels. Hung up over the one that got away all these years later. Chasing empty addictions. Etc etc. Wishing I could go back and undo mistakes. Unsure how to proceed in life. I get it. I get it.

[@thematriarchy2075]

❤

[@wintvrose]

😔

[@juliettezea9507]

all of this self destructive behavior just over a female?

[@8JFJK8]

@@juliettezea9507 Lol sad. Would never let a woman take anything from me😂

[@Sloimer]

@@juliettezea9507 try stepping outside of yourself for a minute

[@mfaracing]

I would like to thank Daniel for his open account on what's happened to him. I was never a gambler but I spent lots of my life so far thinking on the line of "what if I double what I have?". I never realised before today that there was something behind it. Daniel story helped me. Thank you Daniel, thank you Mark, as always.

[@themrmarkprior]

The weight of the game has and still is crushing this poor mans soul. Its obvious to see. And it's obvious it's never going to leave him. From one stranger to another, I truly wish him the very best for the future.