Red Flags: 8 Types of People to Avoid in Christian Dating and Marriage (Proverbs

[@lovelybeauty700]

1. A Legend or Wise in his own eyes. Believes he's always right. 2. They have excuses for doing the right thing. 3. Sluggers/lazy people 4. Avoid people who think they are smarter than everyone else. 5. Drama lovers - looking for problems. 6. Cynical and sarcastic, passive-agressive. 7. A Gossiper 8. Smooth talker to deceive.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Nice summary! Thanks for this :)

[@kimdkus]

That's a narcissistic person 100%. they will use you as their source, then move on when you are depleted.

[@grandeurglory7777]

thanks for summarizing

[@superkal2006]

that funny

[@APP-hm6bf]

It's interesting - what if we fit into a few of them??

[@brilurz]

This was really good-- looked at it as a self check rather than a spouse check

[@paulokello5981]

Very wise decision

[@newsjunkieish]

Same here.

[@Redeemedentertainment]

Same

[@JustineMfulama]

Uhhh that is such a good idea. Gotta have the same traits you expect in the other person.

[@marydonovan4174]

Yes, I am very flawed

[@michelle625]

I'm so glad I watched this, I'm looking at my own life so that I'm not one of the 8 types of people you have described. May God richly bless you

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Michelle Bingepinge amen! And may God richly bless you as well :)

[@isabelwong8239]

im doing that too god bless

[@gwenmarie7311]

Exactly thats what i was doing. Checking myself

[@anauxistential8486]

The Single people walking 🚶‍♀️ with GOD need to understand the singleness IS YOUR BLESSING before it’s too late!

[@JustineMfulama]

RIGHT! Singleness is a blessing because it gives you the time to invest in yourself!

[@pineappledonut5011]

I used to be number one. Now I know I have faults, one of them being; I overthinking small things that may not even mean anything and its making me feel overwhelmed, anxious and stressed. Currently I have a lot going on with my life with the Navy, school, and work. May I get some prayers please? If you pray for me thank you. But don’t pray that I get an easier load. Pray that God can help me deal with this heavy load.

[@cressyl2042]

God bless you Mark. Your channel is God's tool to heal me from brokenness. For 3 long years I was in a relationship with a guy with these things you are talking about. It was a great mistake to enter his den but God is good enough to take me out of it.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, the Lord is faithful

[@frankfromupstateny3796]

Good comments Ms. Cressy. I'm a man who used to be "open sexually" with women...until I read the Bible 3-4 times over. It's hard work...it's worth finding a worthy Christian spouse inevitably.

[@artcrafttweets5556]

You sound a lot like the number 8 of the Red Flags "smooth talker to deceive people" @@frankfromupstateny3796 . Many Narcissistic guys are lurking around, searching for a pretty, empathetic Christian woman as a new source of supply, I hope you're not one of them... As for being hard work not to sleep around, pray and fast and get your strength from the Lord. Don't be deceived into thinking that you can do it yourself, lean on the Holy Spirit instead.

[@lalayatem3758]

thank God you are saved, God Bless truly

[@claudiasaurez9784]

I wish I knew these truths when i was younger. But We must teach our children how to pick their friends and what types of people to avoid as friends and for a relationship.

[@CoffinZ12]

I almost cried when you brought up sarcasm since I’m known for being a jokester but it’s heathy and super light heart so thankfully you cleared that up.

[@mariav4580]

Ditty C same lol 😂

[@Super_BeastGirl]

So glad I watched this! That verse in Proverbs about joking... I am gonna be tossing that around quite a bit now that I recognize it. I have too many people around me who like to "joke" and say they were not being serious when in reality they are being hurtful.

[@ricomacias8811]

I'm not afraid to admit I'm most of these.. My gf and I broke up... I had to self-reflect... I needed help. So I prayed... and even though right now I'm learning to change myself. It's difficult.... jeez. I really needed this... Thank you God for this... Pray for me... I'm going for a year long missionary trip. Trying to reset my life. And hopefully be more aware of what I'm doing in order to Glorify God... Thank you Mark and God...

[@ronaldrime5286]

Mark Ballenger I've been the victim of all 8 of these, I'm sorry to say. I'm even related to people who are like these. Members of my own family have spread lies about me throughout the years and have been successful in getting people turned against me. They even set me up and had me arrested for a crime I didn't commit. Don't always believe everything people tell you about someone. Just use good judgement.

[@isabelwong8239]

LifeBeginsWithChrist well said thank you and God bless you

[@chelsieromero4874]

@LifeBeginsWithChrist OMG so true and remember she probably didn't even love herself.

[@chelsieromero4874]

I am in the same situation

[@Eurospec73]

Wow this video really had a huge positive impact on me because there are so many toxic people out there and it's so important to avoid them because in the end they will drag you down! Who you hang around is who you become!

[@commandercody7594]

Wow man thank you so much you’ve really convicted me of my gossiping, arrogance and pride, double standards, unhealthy sarcasm, laziness, and a selfish take and not give at times perspective - your words on giving strength to your spouse not being needy (might of been another of your videos) was really helpful and convicting too. Thank you so much for your work! Would it be possible for future videos to have words on the screen for each point? e.g 1. ‘Do not date people with double standards’ Cheers brother in Christ!! Love and prayers to you man!! ❤️

[@shaeshaes9588]

Thank you for your biblical postings, they have been helping me get closer to Christ.

[@Flinabin]

I wish I knew this 10 years ago😧...

[@merlinsvdd]

We can avoid people who are too judgy towards us.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

True

[@donnar.3110]

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger what if im a sincere believer and im actually trying to learn to desire God and cut out sin in my life, but im about 4 out of 8 of these things myself??

[@ErickMcNerney]

You need to choose your mate wisely. There's no rule that you have to be with everyone possible. We can avoid judging but also recognize that we shouldn't be with them.

[@kindranadine9513]

Thank you very much Mark. I was seeing someone who had a lot of these qualities. I ended the relationship but wondered if I made the right decision. This confirms it for me.

[@detectiveshonburras1268]

Hi, enjoy listening to all of the bible verses. I am constantly learning and growing daily. Thank you, TO GOD BE THE GLORY !

[@Clementine202]

This is incredible. I've been reading through the Proverbs every day this month and thinking about a lot of these things. I like how you condensed some of those ideas in this video and related them to relationships and friendships. Thanks Mark!

[@brannondoolin8654]

The 2nd Timothy verse literally freaking slapped me cuz I’ve started to change various things and Mature and that just describes what god has been putting on my heart

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen! I'm so glad word is speaking to you!

[@JustineMfulama]

YES THOSE ARE THE PERFECT EXAMPLES. Love how you used Proverbs for that. Now I can study it myself 🙏

[@jesuslover3543]

My ex husband has all these negative traits. I pray for him and his family! 🙏🕊 #onetouchfromGod

[@caribaez5711]

Life is so mysterious. Everything we think, we do, and we say have power to destroy or influence other people.

[@Michel777]

Yes. But with the help of the Holy Spirit we can develop a peaceful life in such a way that we do not give any offense to anybody. Humbleness is the very most important thing we need to get and maintain.

[@rosem.3533]

This makes for a wonderful filter to determine "who is who" in ones life and decide if "Goodbye" is the right thing to say to those that meet this list. Thank you Mark!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen Rose :)

[@tanyadixon7980]

Passive-Agressive men. We shouldn't definitely not ever initiate a relationship with one. That type of man is avoidance addicted, mean at his core, and has no desire to ever be honest, only über- controlling, in an oh, so cruel and underhanded way. He is not prone to develop the important skill of handling disagreements in a kind, direct, and mature way. This is from personal experience.

[@isabelwong8239]

Tanya Dixon wow well said i agree God bless you

[@paulokello5981]

And women too

[@eileenchang9365]

And they come as an angel of light.

[@anauxistential8486]

Wow sounds like my ex

[@blessedsoul949]

True

[@myrnafigueroa1033]

Thank you for opening my eyes with the words of the Lord. ✨🙏✨

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@beautifulbeginningslove7671]

Guarding my heart

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@MariS1980]

God is definitely speaking and I appreciate the words of wisdom. Thank u.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

My pleasure 👍

[@JustineMfulama]

Soo true, these videos always come right on time!!!!

[@vjones1437]

Hard pill to swallow, but I am apart of this list. Thank you, Lord, for guiding me here.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

We all fall short of the glory of God, but thankfully God's grace can transform us when submit to him :)

[@taliyahumitz9436]

Every believer needs to watch this and really think about themselves and the people we seem to gravitate too! Thank you so much, great video :D

[@zahraofficialph]

Timely!I needed to hear this!Praise God for the wisdom!🙏

[@johannerodrigue9005]

Hi Sir, from Quebec 🇲🇶 🇨🇦 Canada... I really like your Conference and subject Also ... You speak with the real-world & problems And you refresh our minds of out past memories that we have forgot become a better person

[@darlenelane392]

GOOD ADVICE -THNKS^

[@smc1774]

Awesome advice. Everyone needs to watch this. Thank you so much for sharing.🍎🍎🍎🍎

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@nelodypond9282]

I've been watching these videos since the channel began and I'm so happy to see the growth! ❤ Praise God!!

[@tacksgmvs2070]

The third thing is a problem I see myself in. I mean I do do things, mainly when I’m asked to, and if I know how to or I can do it, but most of the time I am quite lazy. I know when I find the right one I can get out of this laziness. Right now, especially in the Winter, there’s not much to do.

[@rosesarered4999]

Thank you. Rough day. So rough Im starting to question my spiritual beliefs. I just could of sworn I was making the right choice. I believe I've ever been more confused.

[@karenberry7119]

♥️♥️ Thank you for this for this came right on point Lord talking through you to me and Many others God bless you

[@sharongideon3726]

Brother you are amazing. God is speaking through you. Stay blessed.

[@lovegoddess29]

I feel like I keep attracting all of these kinds of people! It's so annoying! I know that I am a good person although not perfect. Regardless I feel that I still deserve healthier people around me and in my life.

[@brendajones9941]

Amazing blessings to God’s ministry

[@lorettaagustin2970]

Love it! Pearl of wisdom. Thank you brother Mark. These are wise advise.🙏🏻😇

[@chelsieromero4874]

Loved it to the full extent Mark. I am definitely going to share this on Facebook to the Public.

[@T12321]

Thank you for this video; I believe that my life / future has been blessed from watching this. God bless

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad this was helpful to you :)

[@augustayarteh7524]

Some of us don't look at most men to be perfect with us that so great when the grace of God is working .Those kind of men will be so jealous of their relationship. especially some men they always find faults on people or they will be finding too many faults from good women.I know good men do exists. great one man of God

[@ToBeLikeChrist]

This topic is pretty interesting and largely good advice. I remember God telling me recently to look at others as how he looks at me. We must do our best to let the Spirit of God guide us and not our flesh and emotions. Who are you man or woman to cast someone away because they may not fit your predefined fleshly bill. God may well use someone who is seen as largely imperfect in many ways to address issues we have in our own personalities as well as using us to help to build someone else up. Not saying all circumstances are like this. Some are truly agents of Satan but we must stop making judgement of who is ideal by our eyes and ears but instead be led by the Spirit of God. The best teacher is the Christ in us! not our words.

[@breewilson6711]

Wow so much wisdom here... Thank you Jesus

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Praise the Lord :)

[@lalayatem3758]

God Bless you abundantly, great video, thank you

[@migdaliamojica7123]

Thank you for the message. Its was very clear explained. God bless you📙📙📙

[@rosaranson5238]

I wrote a poetry on how words are powerful and how you should be careful of how you used them to communicate to others. Words do hurt.

[@evonx7373]

Thank you for the words of wisdom from the Word of God.....😃

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

My pleasure, God bless!

[@christvesselofhonorroyalty185]

great word of wisdom. thanks for sharing, God bless you.

[@jammykc]

Hey Mark, I'm Sharlene. Thankyou so so very much for your videos, they give me clarity n healing n so much learning. Really Enjoy them just the way you teach and who u are. Thanku Bro.

[@cr625]

TRUTH Straight up!!Thank You, Brother!♡

[@nanetteconcepcion2502]

Thnks for sharing it..Nice to know this godly ways of a healthy relationship..

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@tanyastevens9553]

This is by far one of the best videos I've heard. Great job, Mark!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks for the encouragement and God bless!

[@tanyastevens9553]

Your welcome!

[@teddytestis6342]

I love you so much,because when I see young people speaking the truth I am exalted

[@gregputman9812]

Thank you Mark! You and your ministry are a real blessing! God bless!

[@applehair995]

I really find your channel very helpful. Thank you for your great service.

[@brooklynroyale7736]

THANK YOU KINDLY FOR SHARING! ❤❤❤

[@anointed1302]

Lovvvvvvvveeeeee this, Pastor Mark!!!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@mabuyimtshali6291]

This is powerful Man of God thank you

[@mariesavannah2369]

let hope people will take note of the warning to avoid some unnecessary pain

[@graciedg5723]

I am glad I watched this video. I finally realised that he is not the one for me. Thank you very much. God bless 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@christinasaba6646]

That dating course thing I pray and believe God will help me find a way to get into it

[@brenme35]

U are so right I wish I had a healthy relationships

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@greta-i4q]

Love this, I've been watching you for a couple weeks and I love how you've gone through the scriptures in this one! Thanks

[@comforthealingministries3531]

This video was sooo helpful I genuinely feel like I was lead to this message and I’m content 😌God bless

[@JustineMfulama]

YES, these videos always come right on time. The holy spirit has perfect timing!!!!

[@millicentsimelane3193]

thank u for this video, I have been dating this guy my family says his not right for me at first I thought maybe they just Dont like him but now am starting to see the things they were talking about, I love this guy it not easy to just end our relationship, I Dont how to get out to this relationship

[@johnpark8324]

I thought the 8 traits were written in lelevance to relationship between men and women. But these problems are general problems related to everyday human relationship. Laziness sometimes is affected by the limitations as lions roaming outside..

[@kevithovitsu4723]

Very practical, but not very relevant according to me. My suggestion, Pray people. He is a God who hears. Trust Him to bring you the right people in your life. He loves you. Romans 8:32.

[@imunique10]

Kevitho Vitsu Amen!!👍

[@chelsieromero4874]

Amen

[@JustKate43]

Amen

[@jessicaaye3738]

Every Word from God is relevant... Amen

[@Dr777cl]

Yes sir! Great video bud! Thank you

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

My pleasure!

[@trug1799]

NAILED IT!! Awesome video thank you!!😊

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks! God bless :)

[@detectiveshonburras1268]

You are so informative, thank you !

[@idapreciousnwachukwu5779]

Thanks alot. You are God sent.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

All glory to God!

[@ayafe9379]

I appreciate this video.

[@jaderose6615]

Man this really helped! It even exposed some flaws I had!! Thank god for making me find this video and I hope your ministry continues to touch others

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, so glad you found this helpful:)

[@jennifersweety5465]

Great video Mark.It was helpful.God bless you!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks jennifer! Glad it was helpful, God bless :)

[@sunitafisher4758]

🌸 first one, 4, 6 & number 8 you described is narcissistic personality lol

[@dillonnj45l.18]

Also many more even worse traits like no empathy, finding joy in hurting others

[@donnahollywood8007]

I'm a victim of this. My husband is one :(

[@JaimeeL901]

Can you please slow down a little bit when reading a long verse? I could just rewind it, but I just thought I'd let you know. Much love for this video. Looking at my friend group at the moment, and this was really helpful in making Christian decisions. The drama part was especially helpful. Thanks for the video and the channel.

[@arielevelin7181]

I really love your videos Mark! I started watching the past month/two. Your fruit is evident. Blessings bro 🙏🏼💜

[@aliciamartinez8388]

What if your 5 of 8 of theses people, what can I do to change this? Thank you for your videos, and this video. I'm a Christian man, that's is now trying to be a practicing Christian. And church isn't accessible for me currently. So, I'm trying to find a way to build a closer relationship with God, and obey and ably his word. Thank you for your videos and channel, which is helping me with this. Have a great day, and God Bless.

[@jacquelinewoods2587]

Keep them coming!!!!! 😇😇😇

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@jerrylisby5376]

You are a lot like the Mark that wrote the gospel. You are short and concise and give out good news in truth.

[@caribaez5711]

Awesome channel I have found. So unique for modesty and traditional Dating! Hopefully dating comes along beautiful as before when our parents were young dating haha.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Hi Cari, so glad you found the channel and are enjoying it :) God bless!

[@wolfknockemout4382]

The thing is I work with these exact people at my job. And I’m starting to realize that God is always separating me from them so that I can work hard and focus on my job with God. 🙏🏻❤️

[@tetgirlnxtdoor]

WOW just right on timeeeee 👌💯

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen! I'm so glad this was timely for you :)

[@lizzkl89]

I think im all of em, now when u elaborate it i understand more. Oh my, i need to change, i dont know how

[@jerrylisby5376]

Read the King James Bible daily. Twice daily if possible. Morning and evening. Growth will take patience.

[@coragoss1498]

Thank you!

[@ice_faerie]

Thank you so much for this!

[@Aykndkjh13t]

I really like your videos. Thank you for posting these. It really helps me with my grief.

[@teddytestis6342]

Good talk God bless you brother

[@meaganpayne6531]

Right on time Mark! Thank you!

[@Angie-AFB]

Video suggestion, witnessing to immediate family or in family members in general. Also witnessing on social media

[@radioaustralia5070]

This is all me, I need to change and get closer to God.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@radioaustralia5070]

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger thank you so much

[@scottbrockman4327]

I have just watched this on KZbin, this was actually recommended to me by my friend & Big Sister in Christ, Gigi. In my opinion when it comes to women, the type that I want to avoid are those who are acting childish, a teenager who let's their own hormones do the thinking and talking, those who take advantage and are really not after a guy's heart, but his money and especially those who are horny, fickled sled dogs, taking nude photos, wearing seductive clothes and showing off her private parts including her breasts, looking for a guy to do the "dirty dance with no pants", to get in her pants or under her bra or panties, to prove something that she's not. I will also check out Proverbs 4:23 & 26:12-28 :-).

[@JustKate43]

You can’t be a Born Again Christian if you demonstrate these kind of behaviours! We can know them by their fruits. Thanks Mark

[@workingken4268]

We all have issues it depends on how they handle the issues and are they willing to listen and allow God go give directions to their problems

[@blindvision4703]

The weird thing is: throughout this entire video, I was mostly thinking about whether or not I myself have any of these problems. I’ve sent these to a couple fellow believers of mine so that they can check me.

[@GemRizing]

Thank you for the amazing insight on this topic, very helpful and much appreciated! :)

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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