A lack of friends indicates that a person has many...

[@scruffyIII]

I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. (Source: Robin Williams)

[@Chris-en1ym]

Bro, check your source, RIP robin williams

[@scruffyIII]

@@Chris-en1ym ....Bro, please feel free to correct my source if I am wrong.

[@Chris-en1ym]

No, I mean with respect to robin williams, he did commit suicide right, so probably not the best guy for wisdom on loneliness.

[@joshuasmith7775]

🤔 I acknowledge that Mr. Williams's contribution to our lives and his legacy far exceeds his closing act.

[@johnm2871]

​@@Chris-en1ymit wasn't loneliness, he was ill..

[@donteague614]

Solitude is golden and not to be confused with loneliness.

[@warthogA10]

It's so bizarre the number of people who are concerned that I'm "lonely" They're so concerned that they insist I'm lonely and just won't admit it, or I'm in denial. They'll say they feel so sad for me, knowing I'm alone 🤔 This is due to the constant brainwashing of the general population that they have to be constantly socializing, around people etc. There are even studies and "scientific documents" stating that humans are social by nature. All to the point where those who prefer to be alone are viewed as odd, or someone to be suspicious or wary of... "What's their deal?" It is labeled as a "social disorder"... The reality behind this, is that people who are a true introvert, or who aren't easily brainwashed, manipulated and controlled on a social level, tend to think independently, and clearer than others who are drawn into the trap, and the fog of constant propaganda. and propaganda isn't just about or related to only politics, it can be used to create a desired society for elitist types. a society which is easily mass manipulated and controlled. We're basically potentially dangerous to the overall program, which is why we have to be placed.in and categorized in a certain way which makes others feel uneasy and untrusting of us. If anyone reads all this, most will view it all as "crazy talk", because that's what they're programmed to think. The entire subject is all about creating an easily manipulated and controllable general population... regardless of how long it takes, the goal is set, and those involved want to be a part of the group which succeeded in that accomplishment. It is part of the driving force in their lives.

[@lhu6971]

HALLELUYAH.AMEN. I KEEP TELLING THIS TO FOLK'S. NOT MY FAULT IF THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND ME😮🎉

[@opticalman6417]

living in solitude is my way of life how ever people think i am like this as a result of lacking soical skills which isnt truth its has more to do with the fact i dont crave other peoples company and been subjected to alot of abuse has made me value peace over people

[@warthogA10]

@@opticalman6417 exactly, it's not a "social disorder"... it's a solution and a reaction to an ever degrading society. I'm right there with you. My solitude is the result of much time and thoughts about what I am, and am not willing to deal with from others around me. General society is where the real disorders exist.

[@why-jw3od]

contentment is the goal. Have learned many people have double lives.

[@belinda510]

Not having friends can also mean you are ok being on your own,it's more peaceful.

[@niqk8712]

no offense but this sounds like cope, isnt it like a basic human instinct/desire to want to socialize? Edit: y’all are disagreeing with me so I feel like ur not understanding. For those of u who have been outcast or put down by “friends” in the past, grow up, life throws shit at u, just get up and keep walking, if u have had bad experiences with trying to have friends that doesn’t mean u should give up on trying to make friends. Finding the right friend group that’s filled with quality friends is only a matter of how hard u try. Having real friends does not make your life less peaceful, and if that’s the case, they’re not your real friends, don’t be content on being a loner just because no one wants to be your friend. Having true friends is one of the most beautiful things in life, and yes it’s hard to achieve that, but don’t let the difficulty discourage you from trying to make friends, it is very possible to have perfect friends, just look in the right places, and in some cases, own up to the fact that maybe you are the reason your friends of the past dropped u, everyone has issues and if your issues caused u to lose friends, then you should work to solve your problems rather than just saying you’re okay with being alone, because no one likes loneliness, and whoever says that they are fine with being lonely clearly hasn’t experienced loneliness.

[@Necroionutwiz]

​@@niqk8712t really but people forget that while we're built for social interaction we're not bound to it also as she mentioned it's not the quantity friends that matter but the quality... And I'm sorry to inform you but as stated in this video these people are very rare...

[@juan-miguelavilesgarcia5951]

Facts

[@eMegMBea]

​​@@niqk8712 I was extremely social all my life until I got to my 30s. Then I began craving the peace of just being home alone. I really actually enjoy being by myself, and I believe quite a lot of other people do to. Once you go to work and are forced to interact with people, or go to appointments or meetings or whatever, it's a wonderful feeling to come home and just be peaceful and quiet. You're only your absolute true self when you're alone. But, I do know people who need much more social interaction. Seems exhausting to me! 😂

[@demeter7011]

@@niqk8712 you haven’t been burnt out by many. It takes a while to heal.

[@mattp4007]

Reading these comments. Honestly I think all of you would make a great friend. Love you all

[@bellagrace9812]

The hardest lesson Ive learned in life is that there are people who get great joy out of hurting others.

[@spartjovic]

Sadists...should look into the Dark Triad of Personality (narcissism, Machiavelism, psychopathy). Unfortunately it's frequent these days.

[@fernando3061]

Yea I agree, that's probably the toughest one.

[@mikejohn0088]

I had a best friend since I was about 7 yrs. old....like a brother to me (so I thought). I went thru a divorce in my mid-30s and I used to call him almost everyday, often in the middle of the night for solace (he lived in another state). He was always there for me getting out of bed at 2am to listen to my mental anguish. He died at 43 yrs. old about 4 yrs. after my divorce and his death took me to my knees once again. Time moved on and many years after I began to put complicated pieces of the puzzle together, piece by piece and I then saw it all. He was a instrumental in "orchestrating circumstances" that resulted in the divorce --I never saw it or conceived of that possibility at the time. He answered my distress calls because he was loving to hear the pain and sucking up the negative energy---he fed off it. He was a Freemason which meant nothing to me at the time but opened the door to reality once I learned of the "brotherhood." In retrospect he actually did me favors. His lies separated me from a narcissistic wife and his death liberated me from "medicated pain."

[@ericmcarthur1975]

Bollox to those people, it's all just part of your own personal development you end up a more complete and contented person through hardship and disappointments expect nothing but always be kind to people we all have our crosses to bare ; )

[@crystalgeter.6294]

Facts 💯👍 Sad but true they follow u from state to state too The Evil is Real God is Going to deal with

[@joshuaanzalone2060]

Being alone is powerful. Most people can't be alone. It's better to be alone than to be with people who make you feel alone

[@melodyal3357]

that´s what I am saying too. :)

[@joshuatree1886]

I love being alone. I enjoy my own company without ever being bored or lonely. If I want to be around people there is the library, senior center, etc. Or I can call any of my friends whom are always glad to hear from me.

[@lynic-0091]

Exactly! I'd much rather be alone (not lonely, BIG DIFFERENCE). I can focus all my energy and time on the things I want, without having to play mind games with "friends". The older I get, the more I realise most people deep down don't give a shit about you. There will be some people who do, those people I absolutely keep in my life. But it's VERY RARE. If you ever have a bad feeling in your stomach about your friends, it's probably true. Listen to that gut feeling people. I should've done it sooner, so many times, with so many people. Learn to enjoy life on your own, if you can pull that off, like I finally have, NOTHING can fucking stop you. 💙

[@aprilpayne788]

Hate always feeling alone even when I'm surrounded by people

[@datdankdj8264]

@@joshuatree1886lucky bastard. I have no one I can call friend and loathe myself more than those who consider me an enemy

[@paulgrey8028]

There was a time when I thought that I had lots of friends. That was until I was diagnosed with a terminal illness and spent six months in hospital. No visits, phone calls, not even a card. Once I was out of hospital the common excuse was "I hate hospitals". Yeah well try staying in one for a length of time. It made me realise that these weren't true friends, just those who hang on for the benefits of someone who's always there for them. No thanks. Now my best friend is my German Shepherd. He has a terrible history of abuse and neglect. He never had a friend who cared for him. Now he does and he appreciates me. My only hope is that I outlive him. The thought of abandoning him is too much to bear.

[@TheTruthFadeswithTime28]

I was in a mental institution for months and only got one call from my brother

[@judithmcvey63]

However rare true love is, true friendship is rarer.

[@partheniat.9557]

@@TheTruthFadeswithTime28 now that is sad. But that's ok whether you realized it or not God was right there with you every step of the way. HE SAYS; "I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU"! "I AM" SAID IT!

[@luciannelarosa6472]

I hear you. I can relate 200%

[@partheniat.9557]

Also as the saying goes, "dog is a man best friend". Except for God. I had to make sure I got that part in. God is first in everything! 🙏🏽✌🏽

[@robertthomas4281]

I absolutely agree with this. I'm a 64 year old guy who decided more than 10 years ago that I was better off without friends. If I happen to find anyone who has as much integrity and honorable loyalty etc as me, I will reconsider but I'm not holding my breath. Most people take advantage of friends in a very dishonest and unfair way.

[@dianebannister4591]

Yep. I agree with you.

[@BeverleyMiller_]

I also agree, most ppl are more interested in their own needs🫣 Better to be alone than wishing you were...

[@williama9418]

Sounds like you think you’re perfect and better than anyone else. Anyone who says they have perfect integrity, loyalty and honor is clearly full of pride and probably extremely self absorbed. Now I don’t know you, and I can’t judge you but I’d encourage you, instead of judging people, to look at yourself. Are you being a good friend or are you just expecting others to kiss your boots?

[@R0S3I-t3i]

You gotta befriend the old men in this comment section 50-70 You guys need to make a group online and become buddies til the end fr I mean you all share the same issue so it should be a good bonding start

[@suraiyamansoor9740]

Shame. Sad but REALITY. Bad ppl in world

[@FlyingLibrarian1111]

Betrayal from friends is a horrible feeling.

[@natasharichter7694]

Tighten your shoe strings or slip on some slippers either or your boxing boots or your workbooks, slippers I say , for more than a day...and grief n loss may have their nature way... happy days are if we genuinely enjoy a goodnight sleep😊

[@leanderrowe2800]

Yes, but worse is betrayed by one's spouse. A friend's loyalty has boundaries unlike a spouse who has sworn his/her loyalty in sickness and in health.

[@larryw.c.4544]

Betrayal by a brother hitting on your wife is even worse.

[@warthogA10]

Not when you realize they were never a friend to begin with.

[@jacquelinegreen7796]

It's their problem though, not yours. OK, you trusted them and got hurt but they've got to live with that meanness, nastiness, evilness even in my case. But I'm still gonna trust, still believe because the next person who comes along does not deserve me being negative, withdrawn, cynical. I'm nearly 60, and been hurt many times. But I've also been loved too, I am loved. And I love myself but I'm not going to change myself just because someone else isn't whole within their own self. That's not my problem. I'll move on, find new people, have fun and be me. Merry Christmas everyone. Xxx

[@kleopatra6234]

My mother used to tell me that if a person had one true friend at the end of their life that they should consider themselves lucky. I used to think she was negative. But now having lived a good part of my life, I realize she was right. And wise.

[@joesmith9216]

it's funny how boomers are the only ones who even have true friends, my parents are boomers and they still talk with friends they had in college, even high school, me? HA, I can't even stand my one best friend from high school, boomers were just so much more normal.

[@tcbcmoto4895]

There both wise women God bless us 🙏❤

[@melodyal3357]

Same here. This is so SO TRUE!!

[@ronwinkles2601]

If you have more than one friend count yourself blessed by God.

[@galabond2588]

So very true .....

[@arniedee7251]

I had a friend like this. Called him my best friend and so did he. I helped him through the death of his mom, an always lingering drug addiction, talked him out of psychosis more times then I care to remember, made him a bed, renovated his house, .... He never did anything for me, but I didn't mind, always thought it wasn't necessary. He needed peptalk after peptalk and I was there. Gave him good solid usable advice to get his life in order. He always went back to his old ways after promising he d follow the advice on his mom, dad, life,... After years I finally admitted to myself that he was completely self centered, bit crazy even. He lied all the time, believing his own lies. I cut him out of my life. He was using so much of my energy my own life fell apart. If you want, take my advice: act sooner.

[@tracydriver1680]

Your friend has a narcissistic personality disorder that is exactly what they do excel every bit of your energy until you die, and they won't batter an eye lid. NPD for short.

[@janicecrose376]

Wow, unfortunately it sounded like you had a narcissist there that cared only about himself. No one deserves that kind of abuse.

[@mikejohn0088]

@@janicecrose376 --It's the norm not the exception given time and circumstances.

[@Gohigher-]

Exact same situation

[@pretinha718]

same thing happened with me. I'm done letting ppl drain me. F* friends!!!

[@mikehall6e]

Before you make friends with others - Make friends with yourself.

[@richardlilley6274]

No... That leads to betrayal.! Caring about self more than others is why the world is becoming so ugly

[@sherryjohnson36]

❤Excellent comment!

[@CarolynA-726]

Richard, he didn’t say to care about yourself more, he said to care about yourself before you put yourself out there.

[@jeremie73]

Period

[@worldgonemad1152]

When you have nothing to offer you’ll find out who your true friends are .

[@xxreavius1998xx]

Pure facts

[@bibibomba4515]

Nobody😊

[@mimif1604]

You're definitely right!

[@Hoggar3]

Facts

[@angelaharlow8790]

Soooo very true

[@360-Guy]

To have one true friend is far more valuable then having a thousand false friends

[@zboradenis9291]

True, and everyone who calls Jesus in their life can have that true friend who will absolutely never disappoint.

[@Sunshine-mf6pd]

​@@zboradenis9291Amen! ✝️

[@margaretconnors5879]

For certain. HAL'LELUYAH

[@fredcorona787]

Amen

[@ivanjuarez1160]

@@zboradenis9291amen

[@laura2372]

Been hurt too many times by so called "friends"--it's best to be alone. My anxiety in life & betrayal from others has left me too exhausted to bother with "friends' anymore.

[@LavaWave666]

I sympathize with that I used to be think having friends and being popular was fun in the past (I never had a lot of friends nor was ever popular) I got over that within years and saw it's better to have few real friends over many fake ones In social media having friends is a popularity contest 😢

[@laura2372]

@@LavaWave666 Agree.

[@clownman9404]

If you are logical and you say the truth you won't be popular. I know.

[@wikitoriasmith1713]

Clown man Truth! I too have very few friends.

[@bz93sa52]

Don't loose hope, everything has its ups n downs

[@brendasuits5895]

It's gets hard to sleep with so many "knives in your back" from "friends".

[@hourblood2974]

It’s hard to sleep knowing that I have hurt someone as a ”friend”. we are all humans after all

[@predestinated9248]

Betrayal doesn't come from enemies but from friends and your inner circle. It hurts so much that the person you are willing to take the bullet for is the one behind the trigger.

[@Lindsey578]

it always seems those are ones who end up taking the shot, i remember somehwere in the book 48 laws of power they say that you are better off with an open enemy than you are with a friend, because one friend that turns on you, or secretly harbors resentment can do more damage than several enemies who are open, it even suggests your better off working with an enemy in some situations and i unfortunately have to say i can agree with that statement. ( that was a very rough paraphrase of what i vaguely remember from reading it probably 3 or 4 years ago , sad thats what stood out most).

[@legionsarecoming4-u371]

BAMMM! UNDERATED COMMENT! I SO APPRECIATE YOU!❤🙏🏾

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Sadly that is so true.

[@rosemarynaples756]

Or family

[@Lindsey578]

@@legionsarecoming4-u371 lmao my screen name for this used to be they call me legion for we are many lol ....unfortunately i lost the password and ya----

[@c.m.303]

It's painful to make friends in a narcissistic world.

[@mariamart_0]

They say misery loves company…” Those who are miserable are afraid to keep pushing. They are tired of being strong.

[@joesmith9216]

a right! a feminist world!

[@MarkIsTiredAlways]

​@@joesmith9216This isn't a feminist world the feminist world is where both genders have equal rights

[@ysbryd9779]

​@@MarkIsTiredAlways try telling that to some of the feminists. Some of them would prefer men be wiped of the face of the earth

[@MarkIsTiredAlways]

@@BibiSalma-w5b feminist means equal rights since women in *MOST* AREAS in the world women had less rights. feminism fought for equal rights. But today In some parts of the world women have more rights then women.

[@hicknopunk]

Being alone doesn't mean you feel lonely. I love being alone.

[@jennifermorton8332]

I am there! I love my own company over anyone else's for sure!

[@hicknopunk]

@@jennifermorton8332 yeah. Different strokes for different folks.

[@Earthy-Artist]

Yup, and I'm never bored or lonely. It's very peaceful.

[@carolynmerritt7100]

Its great being able to enjoy your own company. However, there will come a time in life than a true and honest and available friend will be appreciated. So, enjoy it while you are young. It doesn't get easier.

[@eveevolution1607]

Same! I need my alone time! I absolutely crave it

[@anthonycontarino4713]

A winner has many friends, a looser has true friends

[@williamburroughs2273]

And for both of them, most of their friendships are fake.

[@marybeck7594]

Like mark twain said, if you die with only 1 best real friend, you were the luckiest person in the world.

[@tripeeblonde8309]

I wonder what he experienced that made him say that?

[@bento7963]

Wasn't he the one who preferred the company of a dog to a person?

[@frenzalrhomb6919]

@@bento7963 If he hadn't any personality, and the Dog no teeth, then yes, that's the same Mark Twain. But Mark Twain had personality, in spades and ALL Dogs, even the old ones, still have teeth, so maybe it's not Mark Twain

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Maybe he got betrayed by his “friends “ before?

[@injanhoi1]

I don't have a lot of friends but I have 3 real friends! I rather that than 50 fake friends!

[@dawn7882]

I'm an introvert so being alone is fine with me, and I learned at a very young age that most people cannot be depended on. I have very few friends but get along with most everyone. The ones that I can't, I avoid because I can't stand their negative energy. Being raised in an abusive family I'm very picky. I live out in the middle of nowhere with my animals and I love it

[@ericmcarthur1975]

Whatever feels right for you and makes you comfortable and happy is right, why wouldn't it be there is no right and wrong way in one's own personal journey if it feels natural thats all that matters we are all our own people, sorry to hear you had a bad start but that's their fault, not yours.

[@kristandagley7089]

Both of you are making me tear up. Dawn, you sound like me, and your comment caught my eye. My heart goes to you with understanding....Eric, that was a beautiful and heartwarming thing to say. You're souls are both amazing 🖤🥺

[@kristandagley7089]

​@@ericmcarthur1975 My comment before was for you too. Never forget your heart is amazing, pouring with empathy.

[@reahallu]

i hope to live in the middle of nowhere with animals some day too - people are awful

[@jobes4525]

Can't fault you. Wishing you well from one introvert to another. 😊

[@charlesnorm4883]

I’m 31. Literally every friend I have made and become close to has disappointed me. It seems if you let your guard down enough people will always find a way to step on you.

[@roboparks]

I'm sure you have done the same thing?

[@RexDavis415]

The older you get, the less people you need in your life.

[@OceanLover805]

Yes 😔

[@dennismattord1554]

I'm 69, expecting more from others than from yourself, is your first mistake. Maybe you should reflect on what you have done that may have disappointed those friends. People have a habit of looking outward instead of inside. Judge your own works first.

[@mikewillett5076]

Almost every "friend" in my case too. Some were very surprising, never thought they'd drift away like that. However, on the other end, almost all of the few people who keep in contact with me are very annoying. They always run away with and dominate conversations before I get 5 words in. I don't even want to try to have conversations with them anymore.

[@arcacoma3524]

Friends come and go,but you are always there for yourself...That's the friend I'm most rely on.

[@bethfallis3997]

If a person can find ONE person that they can depend on to be a true friend, that person is extremely fortunate.

[@lorigulfnoldor2162]

But then there's the question: do you need a friend on whom you can depend to be friendly and supportive in the emotional sense, but who can confer you no tangible benefit at all, no "apples", no "branches", no nothing - a friend who is poor themself but IS still a good friend? A friend like that could only hug you and offers words of sympathy when you need money, or house, or a boat - but nothing to help you with your woes. If you WANT to have such a friend still, that would mean that you YOURSELF may be a (potentially) good friend...

[@THMonstar]

@@lorigulfnoldor2162 Yes, because a friend is not a bank, nor someone who is there to physically help you through your problems all the time. You might some times need it but considering someone a friend because of material belongings is shallow.

[@lorigulfnoldor2162]

@@THMonstar can you stop yourself from beating yourself and blaming yourself for being unable to help a friend in a genuine need, when you have no resources to, though? i sometimes think that things like "friendship" evolved in human society when people were much more equal in their access to resources, so it was "either you can count on your friend, or you're in such a trouble that no one could help you anyway." If you are beaten by bandits, a friend can oil your wounds and help you get to place of healing. If a crocodile bit off both of your legs, your friend can hardly help you - but so hardly can anyone else. Nowadays it seems natural to either feel your own guilt, or anger at a society, when your friend is in need, buy you are empty-handed. Dealing with that sort of guilt, it's... not easy.

[@kathydaubs7829]

I had that with my husband and best friend that both are now gone. I miss them dearly they kept me grounded

[@bethfallis3997]

@@kathydaubs7829 You have my sympathy.

[@jacksquat4140]

After all the dust has settled, and after all is said and done, I was the friend I always wanted to have.

[@Chris-en1ym]

Same, except my hand was the only one I wanted to date 🤣

[@partheniat.9557]

@@Chris-en1ym well I don't want to shake hands with you to often! 😄🤗👎

[@partheniat.9557]

@@jacksquat4140 yeah especially his hand.😫

[@partheniat.9557]

@@jacksquat4140 😄😄😄😄

[@Chris-en1ym]

@@partheniat.9557 Imagine how many hands you do shake though, I don’t wanna shake hands with you either for all the secondary residue 🤣🤣 Now you have something to think about when meeting people haha, your welcome.

[@shaneashby5890]

A true friend is someone who knows everything about you and still likes you.

[@grayguy3619]

Sharing everything about yourself with anyone is FOOLISH!

[@shaneashby5890]

@@grayguy3619 That one comment tells me everything I need to know about you as a man.

[@donaldmickunas8552]

For me, a true friend is much more than someone who likes me. I’ve had people who liked me for what I could do for them. When they no longer needed my help, they dumped me. Would you call such a person a true friend?

[@edie4321]

@@donaldmickunas8552< no, but sadly, that is how it often is, and with family too.

[@donaldmickunas8552]

@@edie4321 indeed.

[@Madhurolexxx]

there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal

[@dannovack1364]

It’s very hard to trust anyone anymore, even family.

[@brandyjan14]

... especially family.

[@Solscapes.]

@@brandyjan14 you beat me to it.

[@Elaynebrant]

Family is the worst because it hurts that much more.

[@abdulrahim8446]

Take people as they come

[@mikejohn0088]

@@abdulrahim8446 ---across the border or in your house?

[@James-ol6rw]

Here’s what I heard not long ago. “The more people I get to know, the more I love my dog”. Truthful to me and my solitary life with my dog. Age 70.

[@keepitreal1547]

Love that & very apt, thanks for sharing.

[@vampirehunt63]

I too live alone with my pet dog... Age 31..and living peacefully

[@LightHouse_222]

❤

[@Renee-ge5nt]

I never, ever add comments for anything on the internet. But I'm compelled with knowing I am not alone! I love my dogs 🐕 more than most people!!

[@KarenGuerrero-j3d]

❤

[@ronwinkles2601]

When my grandfather died at age 82, I was surprised to see so many young people at his funeral. Curious, I asked several young people how they knew my grandfather. They said they would often stop by to see him on their way to and from school. Even when they were young boys and girls at the time, they said he always treated them like adults and honestly listened to their concerns. He always gave them good advice from tips on playing baseball to explaining how to be and have good friends.

[@craftypaton4195]

❤

[@Nina-vv3ev]

🥹

[@LeriaTheClown]

What a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing ⭐️🥲

[@johnhough7738]

Dammit ... I qualify except I haven't a clue about baseball. Or cricket. Or any so-called 'team' so called 'games'. The mis-named 'team spirit' is another word for unleashed but legal Nasty. But I treat all people, young and/or old, as if they were me. It seems to work. No need to be nasty, even to the nasty; there's often a reason for their nastiness ... gently popping the bubble and letting the nasty out often reveals the nice behind the persona.

[@perrywhite734]

When I was younger I had so many friends that I think I took to many for granted. They all seemed to be genuine and Real. Looking back I think that I should have been a more caring and tolerant of them. Now that I'm in my early 60s I live alone with my 18 plus year old Cairns terrier.i have a handful of ( Friends) but when I think about it do. Any of them really care about me. I lost my very best friend on August 6th 2018. My Mom, I know she cared since she passed I haven't spoken to my younger brother, or sister. Tried to make amends with my younger brother a couple of years ago, I told him I'd like to let bygones be bygones and I love him couse he's my brother. He looked at me and walked away without saying a word. They reason he won't talk to me is , when we were at the funeral I got really drunk and said that I would pay for everything casket, plot, headstone etc. when she passed away, my little brother jumped on a plane and flew down to fla . While my older brother and I drove down. Gee I wonder why he wanted to get there so quickly. My mom left both him and I enough money to cover all the funeral costs. When we returned home I started thinking about how caniving he is . I know my mom gave him a conversation van. Well he turned around and sold it to me for 10,000. Dollars . When I asked him to at least pay for the headstone that I put on my credit card. He refused . So I told him I would cancel the Stone. Of course I wouldn't have. But he didn't know that. He had me meet him at a bank and fill out paperwork saying he payed the twenty five hundred dollars. Out of the money that she left for her final expenses. He wanted to pocket the whole amount. Unbelievable! He won't talk to me because of that. What a piece of work. The funniest part is that I love him because he's my brother , but I don't even like him as a person. He's an asshole. What a clown. Back to the friend thing. I have one friend, and two sorter friends. But like I said I lost my only real friend when I lost my mom . Dam I miss that woman. Well I guess that's all I can say about that.

[@lovesings2us]

Thank you for posting this wise, kind story. It helps me hav more compassion for myself and others than I would otherwise have.

[@MathsScience-Hub]

Being alone doesn't mean you're unwanted; it's a sign that you're patient enough to wait for the right relationships that truly value and understand you

[@jeannemeiring30]

Really🥺Because I've been feeling unwanted all this time

[@MathsScience-Hub]

​@@jeannemeiring30 I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. It's important to remember that feelings of being unwanted are often just feelings. This can be easily influenced by current circumstances and not necessarily an accurate reflection of reality or our worth. Everyone at some point will experience moments of self-doubt and feelings of not being valued. But remember this: your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth!!! We all have intrinsic value, and sometimes it takes time for the right people to come into our lives who can truly appreciate us. Use this time to explore and understand your own worth, develop self-love and self-respect, pursue the things you are passionate about, surround yourself with positivity, and do what makes you feel happy. And always remember, it's okay to ask for help if you're feeling particularly low. Reach out to someone you trust and let them know what you're going through, it could make a huge difference! Good luck and stay strong!❤

[@Ms.Jamieh297]

Words of power and wisdom 💜 Beautifully written 😍

[@jeanmitchell5834]

Interesting comment

[@glennis-dankuwel6020]

Exactly!

[@kimbennett3014]

When you cut out the toxic relationships and lose the intertwined drama, life is much more peaceful. I quit chasing after unhealthy, disappointing connections (which was usually the end result) and chose to keep more to myself. I've been called anti-social or a hermit, but all I know is I'm happier as a hermit. 🤷‍♀️

[@Raebrained]

#HappyHermits 😂

[@kristinloucks2084]

Let me guess... You're a Virgo

[@kimbennett3014]

@@kristinloucks2084 Lol. No. Go fish. (And no, I'm not a Pisces. 😄)

[@kristinloucks2084]

@@kimbennett3014 Cancer then lol

[@kimbennett3014]

@Raebrained Perfection. We need our own group... that we participate in mostly independently, with minimal interaction, of course... 😉😶‍🌫️

[@peterjohn3123]

I live by this -- the less people in your life,the less drama!

[@bibekjung7404]

ALMIGHTY God KABIR++🙏🙏🙏++

[@LauraWalton-f8o]

❤ u are so right

[@LauraWalton-f8o]

❤

[@LauraWalton-f8o]

😮😅

[@LauraWalton-f8o]

🎉

[@SUPERFLUID88]

I love being alone it’s super peaceful in mind and body I learned in life never take friendship too serious they’re 99 cents a pound

[@amycaprari9951]

Sometimes a person CHOOSES to be alone because they are done with gossips, rude, thoughtless and self serving people. 😊

[@xdrazormon454]

It's sad, but people have betrayed me and disappointed me so much that I would also rather be alone

[@amycaprari9951]

@@xdrazormon454 😔

[@cynthiahotieno146]

I just realised also some people decide to be alone because it's not sweet feeling to realise that that you cannot blame your friends for what's happening in your life except yourself

[@amycaprari9951]

@@cynthiahotieno146 Exactly!

[@LadyDragonfly8460]

@@xdrazormon454 Same. The people I thought were my friends ended up not being friends at all. I have acquaintances, but no real friends - and I'm okay with that. The more I'm around people in general, the less I like them (family included).

[@Djulimee]

Someone wrote in my autograph book at school many years ago.... 'True friends are like diamonds, Precious and rare; False friends are like autumn leaves, scattered everywhere.'

[@HarryOsirian]

That's the truth. I hope you are still in touch with whoever wrote that beautiful piece of text

[@Shirar2000]

How many people here are INFJs, by chance?

[@HarryOsirian]

@@Shirar2000 what's that?

[@Shirar2000]

@@HarryOsirian Personality type (old-fashioned Meyers-Briggs assessment)

[@KateAjiboye]

Oh! How I love this piece!

[@krakatoa1200]

i totally agree with this tale. Over the years I have helped many people, it's in my nature, but when I've needed help in return, "I am told, sorry, can't help" Of course, I do still help people who need help, but i am very careful now. In fact, counting your true friends doesn't take long. One finger should do it.

[@5pointview717]

Not even one finger is needed for me. I am the same as you - be it family or 'friends' or colleagues when they needed me I was there, when I needed someone - nobody wanted to. I now have the True Friend - My Creator God Almighty, All Knowing, The Provider. God has temporarily brought people into my life for short periods to help and teach me a lesson until they suddenly 'ghosted' me as is the normal way people leave me.

[@TacticalTomatoe]

I have also been through this took me a long time to learn my lesson. Peace and blessings upon both of you.

[@donaldmickunas8552]

Me too. Funny how time changes people. Anyway, I don’t have any true friends left except Jesus Christ.

[@jt2473]

WELL SAID!

[@iamministry8287]

It's called codependency. I'm codependent and have literally sacrificed myself for the happiness of others. I have helped enough people for a lifetime. But, now I only help me. Look up codependency.

[@anthonycontarino4713]

A person of faith is Never alone, Jeremiah " before you were conceived in the womb I knew YOU"may this comfort you as it did me.. AMEN

[@Amanda-kd3cm]

Amen🙏❤️🇦🇺

[@iainpattison903]

Spot on.

[@heliandme]

I thought I had friends and family, until I started saying "no". Then the real people appeared.

[@Chemistrysolutions3]

Yes. This is the reality. I noticed the same the number of friends reduced whenever you create boundaries. So the People still come to you means are real ones 👍

[@heliandme]

@@Chemistrysolutions3 Thank you.

[@LoveLife-oo9cz]

The moments I put boundaries, silly friends or acquaintances disappeared, but the real ones would show up. Because the real ones respect your boundaries, and they understand if you do this for them, they will do this for you. The fake ones always ask for help but never return the favors. Don't be afraid of saying No and don't be afraid of being alone even if you have to. So far, I still have 7 or 8 people I can reach and talk to often. Before I probably have more than 50 😅.

[@rainforest.4577]

When you set boundaries, you realize that those who hate you were the ones benefitting from you having none. 😑

[@heliandme]

@@rainforest.4577 Absolutely right!

[@pam8962]

I ❤ this. I'm 60 years old no brothers or sisters no husband no kids or grandchildren no nieces or nephews my parents are gone. Had to set boundaries with the few friends I had. So just me and my dog 🐕. No drama or BS. It's good considering 🤔 people and their motives😊❤

[@patriciaclark7342]

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

That was why my late parents had so many of us. They were worried that once they are gone that if any of us were an only child then we would be all alone.

[@briangenereux2202]

I agree with your wisdom and also put alot of thought into how and why life actually works. About 15 years ago I wrote a small book about what really drives life here in this world. My conclusion is that everything here is driven by the engine of Karma. Relationships included! If one doesn't have many friends or relationships, one should think of themselves as lucky because they also don't have too much Karma debt. Looked at closer, there is alot of stress, responsibility, loss of freedom, financial weight, etc in Relationships, especially marriages. Be happy you don't have to deal with all that stuff and enjoy aloneness. If one can do that, then "loneliness" will never show up. Two different birds!

[@princetonleo7440]

It's like looking in mirror

[@vidaacheampong2563]

Ya but what about when u get older and u have nobody?

[@Strawman333]

The value of a “true” friend is immeasurable.

[@patriciaclark7342]

BOTH ARE IN HEAVEN!

[@kaoskronostyche9939]

Wouldn't know - never had one.

[@alexsmith240]

define truth as truth is only what we perceive it to be its only a lie if we dont believe it

[@claudeculver4076]

​@@patriciaclark7342Amen Brother

[@mikejohn0088]

Find one and report back in 20 yrs.

[@enterusername4650]

I had one true friend. He was killed in a car accident... nobody has ever compared. Everyone else is fake and now I'm just going to die with no friends.

[@BrendaThompson-x7m]

What a friend you have in JESUS🙏🏽

[@Blueking_Bg]

Don't lose ur hope bro.Jesus loves you

[@tessasisson8746]

I am 83 and have had 2 friends for 60 years who are loyal. Another friend that I've had for 40 years is still close and loyal. Along the way, I have made and lost a number of friends who didn't turn out well, but I consider myself very lucky to have those 3.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

You are lucky. I still have 1-2 close friends now. I had a best friend that passed away and lost 2 close friends along the way. But having 1-2 close friends is good enough for me.

[@patriciaclark7342]

U R!

[@777Ryank]

You're blessed on many levels.. Best to you and your friends

[@JayEnlightenedtitan369]

Bless you sir you are a wealthy man to of had 3 friends for 60 year's 🤔❤

[@pam8962]

You are blessed 🙌 😇

[@nancyanderson616]

I've only ever had two true friends in my life. One of them passed away several years ago. One of them I'm still blessed to have. A true friend is very rare

[@annahadher]

U can say.that again!!!

[@AmAlmostHome]

Same story here, Nancy.

[@shelanjaypreston2072]

Me too Nancy . Quality over quantity every time.

[@mikejohn0088]

Watch your back.

[@pieterniemandt1098]

My bestie died of cancer in 2018.

[@brendaleverick3655]

People tend to like physically attractive, charismatic, confident people. They care less about good deeds. Sad, but true.

[@vuhuongly3884]

Physicall attractive, charismatic... people are used, too. Look at Johnny Depp, he is a well known example. I think people who have learned and know how to detect toxic people are the ones who win in the end.

[@brendaleverick3655]

@@vuhuongly3884 I don't believe Johnny was used. I think he used Amber Heard.

[@dream_on_sammi]

In other words people are shallow af. This is truth unfortunately.

[@casualcookin3893]

@@brendaleverick3655 Whatever the case there was,they were both attractive and famous and rich

[@deveshdikshit90]

Good deeds make gud fortune this is karma phal siddhant =Deeds result principal.

[@MashStars]

I watch this video at times when I feel hurt to remind myself self-isolation is a defense mechanism and my belief in the good of people cannot change. It helps ground me so I don't ruminate, thank you.

[@johngicurtis9828]

Some people choose to have no friends because it's far more better to be alone than to be in bad company!

[@grayguy3619]

Good one and true!

[@Lotusfan11]

THIS IS ME. Live for yourself and you only. People are people. To have friends youd have to buy with things.

[@gloriaholloway6282]

You Are Better Off. No Drama

[@johnathanwilliamleonnorth2040]

A lack of friends is a wonderful indication that a person is to real & genuine! # for me it is! I prefer the solitude over fake people!😊

[@Freshadventures_]

Same here. I really enjoy the peace and quiet of being alone. Don't have to deal with any b.s.

[@johnathanwilliamleonnorth2040]

@@Freshadventures_ Well the self is found in the solitude but happiness in a mutual bond!

[@srvntlilly]

Well, I don't know that it's a *wonderful* indication, but it's absolutely true. I know, cuz I'm the one who's too real and genuine. People don't know how to take me, cuz there so few people who have the courage to be themselves anymore.

[@johnathanwilliamleonnorth2040]

@@srvntlilly Well one must learn to be all one needs which is found in the solitude!

[@heybra8941]

My kids and I are the same, acquaintances...not many friends tho

[@jimmyruger7529]

I am 58. with many acquaintances. The more I learn of humans, the more I love my Dog.

[@11xforeverx11]

😂😂😂😂 facts

[@nilsgroters2494]

Mark Twain?

[@dandesrochers363]

Me too

[@breannanance116]

i agree!!!!!!!

[@itguru2037]

I’m 57. I really don’t care if I have any friends. I wake up every morning praise God and I try to keep healthy. For some reason external factors are my biggest stress

[@jenniferhaynes8625]

I agree that friendship is like a rare diamond,its precious.Everyone is'nt on the same level with you.

[@Livingstone497]

I find people always let me down or betray me or never put any effort, but I acknowledge that I need to have social connections because I am healthier and happier, so instead of friends I started volunteering in our community, it’s a great group of like minded people enjoying a common goal. Then I go home feel happy and get on with my hobbies and no need for fake friends. It’s a win, win for everyone.

[@mrtim5363]

Thank You... One of the things I tell people suffering from loneliness & depression is to volunteer to help those less fortunate. One day a week helping the homeless & those without food to eat changes your perspective on life. & You're socializing with no expectation of a relationship.

[@robr.830]

Great idea!

[@SpaceCowboyFun]

That's awesome! Build your treasures in Heaven!!

[@sherburck]

Great idea

[@KatT-qr6fi]

Great idea🎉

[@harrybond1485]

The saddest thing is when you think you have a few good friends, and then they are not there when times are tough for you, and you need them the most.

[@johnnyblazey]

yoU are never alone on this Earth, as All Life will help Life, regardless of Life!

[@harrybond1485]

@@johnnyblazey Huh?

[@Sunny25611]

Fact

[@christinacastell-ott6811]

​@johnnyblazey I have never heard it put that way before. I think you just might be onto something. Thank you,!!

[@johnnyblazey]

@@christinacastell-ott6811 ty for your kind words and yoU are welcome! There is/are a vast amount of specie Life, outside of the hUman world but not All are disttacted. Those in concern, just need a hUg from the Understanding and trUe meaning (defaUlt - start point of a semi-coherent/ coherent Self via Awareness of Self, Awareness of surrounding, and Awareness of Self in surrounding) of what one's Life means to Self and what Life (in it's entirety) means itself. We hUmans are very delicate to influences outside of Self but still completely precioUs, always.

[@adriansalmon9030]

"Better alone than in bad company"☺️🔶

[@partheniat.9557]

You got that right!☺️

[@eavymuturuh3717]

Yep and I enjoy

[@DeadInside-ew8qb]

What if you’re both?

[@pam8962]

Amen 🙏

[@partheniat.9557]

@@DeadInside-ew8qb explain!

[@tordlindgren2123]

It's quite comforting to know others experience the same thing.

[@chriswegman738]

There are hardly any people left in this society worth calling a friend.

[@8188jlpc]

🎯

[@metalbelles3662]

Absolutely unfortunately

[@froggylegspeople]

There’s a thing about friendship…… I’m going to look at myself…… what kind of friend am I myself?

[@8188jlpc]

sounds like victim-speak@@froggylegspeople

[@froggylegspeople]

@@8188jlpc That’s how you see it, I don’t 😄

[@1Kent]

Trusting people never fails to bring disappointment.

[@Earthy-Artist]

Yup.

[@rojan7737]

Your are expecting not trusting. If you trust then the results doesnt matter

[@brokenangel2224]

Never!!

[@tien7742]

Instead of putting trust in others, be wiser to put that trust in yourself .. Period..

[@karenk2409]

That is not true. You need to learn how to determine trustworthy people, and how to be one yourself. It's a two-way street, a relationship built over time.

[@theclinchmma4126]

I'm 35 and have absolutely no friends. it's quite boggling, to be honest. i often find myself quite depressed due to my lack of satisfying relationships in life. i don't know if it's because of the changing times, or because im getting older, but I've found that finding and keeping friends around is not only extremely difficult but very exhausting as well. about 2 years ago, i noticed i was the only person keeping any of my meaningful (to me anyway) relationships in tact i.e. the only person to call, visit, etc., so i decided to stop reaching out and see who would actually reach out to me.... well i have no friends now, lmao. I've been trying to get on being alone, and find solitude in that. instead of investing in other people, i've invested in me. it still really sucks, and i would love nothing more than a loving family and a couple decent friends, but its not looking like its in the cards for your boy. ill be damned if i disappear into the shadows without being seen, though. the person i was 2 years ago to now is unrecognizable, so i suppose i can hold my head high with that fact.

[@OceanLover805]

I feel you. I’m a 37 year old guy here and this is pretty similar to my situation. When I do try to reach out to people they are toxic and use me. Even family and I’m over it. So I started just doing me. I tried meeting new people, but it’s like I’m a magnet for people to walk all over me. So now it’s pretty much just me. I have one friend I’m holding on to, but thinking about letting her go because she likes to get jealous and make snide comments. I do feel deprived of intimacy and socializing and having a sense of community. Im an introvert even, but still miss the human interaction.

[@lucidevlin]

@@OceanLover805 What are you guys doing to fix that? Are there any changes of actions and habits to ensure you’re meeting new and likeminded people?

[@rebeccataylor4809]

Perhaps you should go out and do community activities, enjoy people's company without expecting anything. Maybe something deeper will form, maybe it won't but you can still just enjoy the stimulation of interacting with folk. Be happy with yourself and in yourself and maybe don't expect others to make you so? A friend in need is a friend indeed...and also extremely rare. Sadly.

[@OceanLover805]

@@lucidevlin I’ve tried meeting up with family that I’ve never met before, making friends and even dating at one point. They all are crazy lol. They become jealous and controlling and all around toxic. Like I have 1 friend that I’m holding on to, but honestly need to let her go. She likes to make jabs like “my car isn’t as nice as yours” or “It must be nice that you get to go do that”. It’s always snooty and that’s how they all been. It really makes me sad because when a friend of family member tells me something exciting about them I’m really excited for them and happy. It’s like I can’t be happy about my achievements around people or happy about anything really without them getting jealous or ignorant to me. Sometimes I’m like was a cursed damn!

[@bbgunn917]

When you move through the world alone you experience it so much more intensely. You learn to be in a space with others of our species and feel how you are all connected, no need to cling to just one in which to reflect yourself. It can be quite beautiful to be alone.

[@steverabbits]

Someone very smart once said - 'hell is people' I've come to realise this to be true.

[@NYCLeo777]

A friend is someone who knows everything about you and still likes you.

[@StingRayRobertson]

Right.

[@underdoggys5415]

😊👍

[@djvenusflytrap]

No one will ever know everything about me... until the day comes when we're all telepathic.

[@mikejohn0088]

YES---they are nonexistent.

[@mikejohn0088]

He likes your pain.

[@jayleeper1512]

You can be your own best friend and never be lonely. It doesn’t mean you avoid people, you enjoy them for what they are and enjoy their company more because you don’t need it. To do this, you have to begin to look for your worth in your reflection in the mirror, not your reflection in other people’s eyes.

[@sethradcliff4042]

Very well put! 👍

[@betsyveritas1055]

So true.

[@paulgrey8028]

There's a big difference between being lonely and being alone. If one likes ones own company then ones never lonely.

[@deborahburroughs8905]

That is absolutely true! Well said my friend.

[@enlightenedone7141]

Underrated comment!!!

[@crownedgambit]

Cutting ties with toxic so called friends was the biggest weight lifted off my shoulder. I’ve become a much clear thinking person. My confidence level went extremely high. Because I no longer associate with peers who feels the need to bring you down.

[@tanishasharma5869]

Agreed 👍

[@Mamabearamelia]

Betrayal from friends hurts but Betrayal from family .... damages ones soul deeply .. at the roots the scars remain ..

[@bryonwatkins1432]

i LOOOOOVE being alone!!!! People are untrustworthy, unreliable, have hidden agenda’s, and just flat out suck!!!!

[@Kirkee7]

Are you trustworthy, reliable, without hidden agendas......etc ?

[@rickmorgan1441]

lol

[@rosannecole4992]

There should be no jealousy between real friends but that's how we loose them ..!

[@bryonwatkins1432]

@@Kirkee7 YES!!!! THAT’S what pisses me the fuck off about people!!!! When i deduced that it appears most (90%) of the world 🌎 are the opposite, that’s when i became a recluse for the most part!!!!

[@marysadnick6854]

So called friends cut your throat as soon as you turn your back! My husband is my only friend! I am good with that!

[@Jason-gt6ko]

Guess I'm not alone in not having any friends.

[@rosarosa3048]

Thank God we are not alone in this. We are totally normal people. 😊😊 😊

[@1unsung971]

Never. Alone is good.

[@greyfox243.]

Being lonely and being alone are different things. My husband and I both prefer to be by ourselves. I don’t necessarily feed off of other people. That may change in the future, but it’s held true for us for quite a few years, now.

[@Jason-gt6ko]

@@greyfox243. I said I'm not alone in not having any friends. That doesn't mean I'm lonely!

[@taxi1046]

Most Of my friends are my enemies.

[@lollapop7673]

I remember a speech by my headmistress when I was around 14. She spoke to the school assembly about friendship. Saying that some people are surrounded by lots of people, some are not. And that if those people surrounded by lots of people seem very popular, it isn’t necessarily true. That a person can only have one or two true friends if they’re lucky! That the seemingly popular people are merely surrounded by acquaintances and not loyal people. That it is impossible to have lots of true friends in life! That always resonated with me. As I’ve grown much older I feel she was very wise and true in her advice! I passed on her wisdom to my growing children!

[@Earthy-Artist]

Hearing that from the headmistress must have been very comforting to the children who heard it, especially the ones not surrounded by an entourage.

[@hortencianavarro885]

71, yes the older you get, watch out who you surround yourself with, especially now! A very wise person!

[@barbs1298]

When I was in 19, I met a couple who were my Alateen sponsors. They were wonderful people in every way & took many of us under their wings. They are both in heaven now. I remember Bob telling me when I was in college & trying to figure life out...he said if you can count on one hand the number of good friends you've had in your life, you're doing well. He was in his 50's when he told me that. I am now 63 & he was so right. I have 2 dear friends I can trust & count on. And they know me & love me flaws & all.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

That is so true and you have a lot of acquaintances but only 1-2 true and close friends at most in life. True and close friends are extremely hard to find.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

@@hortencianavarro885 So true and the older you are, the harder it is to find close and true friends.

[@JesusOnlySavesEternally]

I have found that not having expectations of others, good or bad, but rather seeking to understand and see the best whether the kindness is reciprocated or not is the struggle.

[@Megaman.ExE7]

I've recently been wondering why, as I am older (mid 20s) I have less friends than I do when I was younger. I thought I was the problem but then I realized anyone who I ever called a "friend" either moved away or, in some form, betrayed me. I thought I was the problem but looking at it now. I believe in loyalty to the most pain-staking degree. I'll die for people; I just realized that people wont die for me

[@rosarosa3048]

It is very interesting that these kinds of people ( who gives importance to friendship and love) don't run into each other even in marriages. I think this is the test for human beings in life and God wants us to love Him the most instead of mortals.

[@Bianchiboy]

I’d be wary of being friends with someone who claims they’d die for me... get a grip and stop being so intense and maybe you might find people want to be around you, not some fool who’s ‘ready to die’ and happy to tell random people that fact on KZbin 🥳

[@tedwojtasik8781]

@@Bianchiboy I believe Megaman was just trying to explain that friendship and loyalty are supposed to be intertwined, cannot have one without the other. However, most people are duplicitous whether they wish to be or not, that is just life. Bottom line is good people become cynical when these relationships are always one-way. People will take and take but give nothing in return, and when you finally say enough, they just bail and on to the next sucker.

[@ukmlirittab9235]

​@@rosarosa3048 that's why there is statement. " Remember, we should treat people good because of God and for ourselves, not become people pleaser. We treat them good because we don't want get the karma."

[@scottguitar8168]

It is not uncommon to have more friends as a kid. Friendship requires some effort and as kids, we have more time to make that effort. You certainly can have friends as an adult but it is harder in some aspects since people grow up and get married which usually separates them from their unmarried friends, then they have children, which separates them from their childless friends. All of these extra things also cuts into how much available time you have, which is why people try to find others in their same boat to hang out with. If you and a friend both have kids around the same age and involved in the same activity, it allows for that time to spend with each other. Occasionally you will come across that special friend, but usually friendship is just about enjoying the company of others who share similar interests.

[@noknapatalung8879]

I have been an apple tree to many people already and the only thing that I get out of it is betrayals, disappointments, insincerity, etc. I can totally understand how the apple tree in this story feels.

[@wa1ufo]

Me too

[@cynthiamatlock6925]

Our creator is a jealous God and we truly should only seek satisfaction in His provision.

[@Chris-en1ym]

It’s funny how everybody only worries about who they were an apple tree to, but never think about who was an apple tree to them

[@rebekahhamilton6146]

I have always been the tree and have never had a tree to pull from 😢 this hits home on so many levels

[@courtneyfisher3331]

@@rebekahhamilton6146 😢

[@ShaneVanderMerwe]

The miracle is not to have a hundred friends but it is to have one friend that would stand with you when the hundred is against you.

[@happy-v8h]

His name is the Lord Jesus Christ. He will never leave me nor forsake me. He sticks closer than a brother. His faithfulness is my shield and rampart.

[@hughmcwilliams1509]

​@@happy-v8h amen my friend. Jesus christ our EVERTHING

[@BoMalki737]

​@@happy-v8hGlory HalleluYah!!!😊

[@ChildrensRightsFirst947]

Yep. I agree with the quote "True friends are like diamonds - precious and rare. False friends are like leaves, found everywhere."

[@ChildrensRightsFirst947]

@@happy-v8h Unfortunately there's no proof Jesus is real. People need human friends, too.

[@2sweet2]

I'm a middle aged women and I'm that apple tree. I no longer trust and want to be friends with anyone. I know a lot of people have lots of negative opinions about me for not having and not wanting to make friends. But I have a few breaths left in my body, and I want to live what remaining life I've in peace and happy with my angel daughter, without whom life has no meaning. God spare me from those devil who comes as friends and rips my soul and wounds me. Help me.

[@dinat411]

I'm 59. Over the years,I've found that true friends are very rare. There are so many users, narcissists and people who really don't know what friendship or love is. They take your time, effort, energy and kindness for granted. People show you who they are. Sometimes, we just don't want to believe it. Letting go of people can sometimes the hardest and the best thing we can do for ourselves. I find that I'm so much happier knowing that I'm cultivating self love by I'm doing what's best for Me.

[@lemarajeske8260]

Very well said as I am going through this right now at the age of 70. Close friends have disappointed me time and again; and I no longer have the energy to carry these relationships … they suck the life out of me. I would rather be alone with my cherished cat! Your perspective was right on!

[@rogerpalacios3749]

Reaching the threshold of old age I learned that the least attached you are to anyone or anything the least pain you will suffer in your life.

[@carolynwebb9775]

That is so very true

[@inagordan4589]

so true. I'm definatelly agree

[@stephenpain9236]

Buddha teaches that half of human unhappiness comes from too much attachment to the things that we like. The other half comes from too much aversion to the things that we don't like.

[@MusiciansWithVision]

Loneliness does hurt, but yes, attachments can hurt even more!

[@JAM661]

That is like saying I am never going to get a dog to avoid the pain when they die. Meanwhile you missed years of experience, enjoyment and memories. Does not sound like much of a life. I would rather just not place expectations of others and let myself just be surprised by decent people. I find good people around all the time.

[@terrigb8436]

I heard last week that you should not tell anyone about your problems or how you are feeling because 80% of people don’t care and the other 20% are glad you have problems.

[@t-bonena3609]

I agree.

[@User0resU-1]

True

[@ljones98391]

I have found most don't care to know anything at all about me, neither my joy's or sorrows. Makes it difficult to talk to them as I abhor superficial conversation.

[@amethystrose5853]

That's so true!

[@shashwatpriyadarshi972]

Actually it is the other way round 20 percent don't care 80 percent are glad that you have them.

[@sherryjohnson36]

❤Very interesting. I am 59 yrs old. I grew up with drug & alcohol-addicted parents who were not very kind. My Dad was a Harly gang member. I have three siblings & we did not get along. Looking at my life, I have always wondered why I feel like others do not like me so much. This video taught me, "Those without friends have many reasons to distrust people". Humm...I thought about that.. it resonates with me. It reminds me that our perception is our reality. Am I projecting? I don't know, but it's worth analyzing. I have trust issues. Self preservation tactic.

[@PeterFinn-v8r]

Me too.

[@algebradavis]

"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." ~Maya Angelou

[@8188jlpc]

exactly

[@mariamart_0]

“I rather eat pasta and drink wine than to be a size zero.” - Sophia Loren

[@kidjetrecon7153]

Amen.

[@Gogeta2501]

yes man trust me let them go forever

[@KM-oy5yh]

AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉🎉

[@katiewarren443]

What a fantastic story. My experience of friends, family and lovers has always been eventual betrayal or abuse. I am safer and happier enjoying my own company and that of my dog 🐕

[@Earthy-Artist]

Dogs ❤❤🥰🤗

[@nancymcguinness6440]

Me, too.

[@johngrimkowski598]

i bet you have a warm heart

[@katiewarren443]

@John Grimkowski Thank you and bless you 🙏. Yes, because of the abuse and heartbreak I experienced I try to make everyone I come in contact with feel seen, loved and appreciated. 🤗🌈🌟

[@shogunshaggy6001]

Agreed 🐕 🐈

[@jim-fr2wj]

It really sucks when you think you know someone but realize you never even met them

[@deborahburroughs8905]

I hear you.

[@maxpower92]

Imagine if you were married to that same person for 16 years. It sucked...

[@GoblinIntheGroto]

Damn that just hited hard..i was seeing a girl and we had something but we didnt know each other at all..we rain into things ways toi fast and yet again im alone. I miss her And i hope she misses me too.

[@Chris-en1ym]

Dang bro 16 years, what did you walk in on?

[@MusiciansWithVision]

@@maxpower92 The realisation you've spent 16 years with someone who was faking it all along!

[@mrcasper09]

Go through a tough time. You'll realize how few friends you have...if any. Such a selfish world we live in today.

[@clintonrobinson8070]

I can count my true friends on the thumb of one hand, a man who has lifted me up in the darkest hour and loved me when I was completely unlovable. Thank you my brother you are now and have always been a better man than I am and I'd gladly give my all to repay your love and kindness.

[@douglasschnieder7816]

Yes 🙏🏽🎶!!! His name is Jesus Christ

[@tigerlily2941]

​@@douglasschnieder7816 wrong it's Lucifer. And he loves us all.

[@thehangingparsiple5692]

​@@tigerlily2941 🙄

[@1unsung971]

Full power to you. Respect!

[@Closereveryday]

I put my trust in Jesus. He is my one true friend, I can always count on. Humans will fail. Only God succeeds, always. 🙏🙂❤️

[@rickhughesprints]

If a person has two REAL friends in life, that is a true blessing.

[@Michael-x6r5s]

Two, who has that many 🧐 ?

[@KM-oy5yh]

​@@Michael-x6r5sAMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉

[@Michael-x6r5s]

Outside my family, the only people I know mostly involve money, both men and women.

[@MarekzAnglii]

Many years ago, my father said to me: _"Son, I'm happy that you have lots of friends and are having a good time, but remember this... if you die with as many true friends as you have fingers on one hand, you'll die a very wealthy man."_ I was young and didn't really absorb what he meant. But oh boy, did this video ring home and remind me of what my father told me such a long time ago. Later, I helped so many people throughout my life, but..... well, you all know the rest.

[@jackwilson4722]

Yep I know what you're saying..had a friend once that told me if you help someone and expect a thank you then you're doing it for the wrong reason...took years for me to understand what he said...but then again maybe they will pass it forward...still someone calling now and then would be nice.ohhh wellll...stay strong..

[@MarekzAnglii]

@@jackwilson4722 👍

[@ligerangry6857]

I have five friends my shadow👤 my two 🐈‍⬛🐈cats and my two🐕🐕 dogs.... is there a true friend out there . 🤣😂😅

[@alexsmith240]

but how much better is life now

[@marywinslow5808]

I am close to the end of my road and your dad is so right ...on one hand

[@KiamichiOzarks]

“It’s far better to be alone, than to be bad company.” George Washington

[@EWF-y4c]

At almost 73, I have been alone most of my life because I am a loner by nature. There are people who wanted to be my friend but I enjoyed my own company so much. I think there are mostly good people out there with good values and good intentions that would make wonderful friends. Love yourself first, make your own self happy..then you never depend on others for those things therefore they never fall short and you exclaim, "they are not much of a friend"....the kingdom of heaven is within.

[@peggyglenn7655]

I'm my own best friend and enjoy it.

[@amethystrose5853]

Amen!

[@therisaalexander4201]

Amen right there

[@bernadettekelly8165]

Jesus said " The Kingdom of the heavens is in your midst " meaning he was or is the King of heaven and earth ! Luke 17:21....

[@TheJpep2424]

The kingdom of heaven is within Jesus Christ. The way the truth and the life. The only way to heaven.

[@MelindaMysticWitch]

I can't believe I cried over this. The tree was so kind and I could relate to the tree too much. A beautiful tale of truth.

[@smiley-qb3nt]

Awe me too beautiful blonde one

[@michaelmelling9333]

Pick up a copy of Shel Silverstein's, "The Giving Tree."❤

[@accadacastkr4912]

You are the apple tree like me

[@E.C.Animation]

Have clear boundaries and do not let them be crossed. Don't be afraid to say no and stop being friends when someone crosses them. Long time childhood 'friends' stood by while one's bf shoved me to the floor from behind completely unprovoked. Then convinced me to come back so he could attack me again as soon as I got there. They wanted me around because I was the only one with a car. Don't be afraid to walk away, it's safer and more peaceful. We all deserve better, remember that. ☘

[@Psychedelics22]

I am the tree.

[@QuotesWisdomOfficial]

Wow, this hit home! It's so true that past disappointments can make us hesitant to trust again. Maybe those without friends have simply loved too deeply and been hurt too often.

[@tone19xx]

My biggest insecurity as a teen was that my friends didn't really like me. I literally did everything to keep them happy... Even things that made me unhappy. Fast forward to now, the only friend I have is my Dog BUT I'm also closer to God, family and honestly myself. Not a bad trade. Being alone isn't a bad thing, it teaches you so much.

[@lauratober9275]

💯. Agree 🇺🇲

[@Australiantourforyourdog]

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[@MissingMyMommy]

All FAQs 💯💯

[@StevenConstantine-fw2kn]

I relate to all of you, I am alone but feeling not alone

[@inezzbeadz]

Best to have a good friend or 2, then several unloyal distrustful friends. Or even family members.

[@Amy-eb4gv]

I never feel alone. My lack of need for people is a strength. People who don’t like that about me might be secretly envious, as they know deep down that needing “friends”is usually needing validation, and even self acceptance.

[@sduskybutterflyk3720]

So very true.

[@tracywilliamson4275]

I hear that! I've always been a loner for most of my life. I happen to enjoy my own company. There's nothing wrong with either of us. I have some friends, but they are long term. One of them I met in 10th grade and she's still around! I became very ill with Lyme disease in 2001, but I didn't get to the right doctor for 6 years, which is why it's incurable. I had no symptoms. That's a great way to get rid of them! I found out .😢 But I still like to be alone. Even after my husband of 40 years died in 2020! Now I'll be 60 in September 😮! Enjoy your life as best you can. I'm telling you now, life is short. It's also hard. Message me if you want.😊

[@Tishalyn]

​@@tracywilliamson4275 Hi, your comment is interesting. If you prefer being alone, why have you asked for others to messenger you? I have found it intriguing.

[@tracywilliamson4275]

@@Tishalyn I dunno. I'm naturally a social person, but I've had Lyme disease for 23 years and all my friends left after that . I still have a few, but being alone has never bothered me. Even as a child. Does that make more sense?

[@poppymoon777]

Framing being popular as good is social conditioning to keep people under control. Of course society wants to socialize you and set the standards for why you’re good or not.they are jealous you reject the programming

[@annaarmstrong6956]

The bitterest pill one ever swallows is the one where one learns he/she meant nothing to those who meant everything to him/her.

[@daisydriver5877]

@annaarmstrong6956 Well said! Just another reason not to invest too much of one's self in a relationship unless it is w. Jesus. ...Even Jesus knew betrayal and suffering. ...is it any wonder we do that very thing to eachother?

[@holliwarriner1279]

I completely understand what you mean

[@stephaniemarshall399]

Family will be the people who hurt you the most! I could tell you stories...

[@tracywilliamson4275]

Ain't that the truth!

[@tracywilliamson4275]

@@daisydriver5877 Besides my son and a couple of friends, I also have nobody but Jesus. My daughter checked out too. Dad died so now everything is my fault. She had a privileged childhood, so I don't get it. She had far more than her younger brother, yet he is my caretaker (endless years of Lyme disease) after their Dad died. So now I know who loves me and who doesn't. My daughter must be psychotic. Everything she accused me of have more to the story, and even my Mom didn't understand any of it. So you can't count on your kids, either. Life is strange.

[@calebmelton5989]

Its hard to find friends when youre different than everyone.

[@46metube]

if you have one true friend - you have more than most. you'll find out who your friends are when you really need them. and that applies to family too.

[@BobTheBuilder-l9d]

Never expect too much from people and you'll never be disappointed.

[@KerryLeighBrett]

True but dont associate with people like that in the first place. Its like getting a bad exchange rate on your dollar bill

[@galabond2588]

That is so true !

[@melaninqueen2413]

It still hurts either way. Trust me.

[@patriciafaithfull6360]

why do u have expectations of others? who are you to make such demands?

[@tettehpriscilla1045]

There is no need for friendship for me personally

[@zarakhan7820]

I thought I had friends until things got hard, First my husband took his own life and then I became homeless then later in I was told I had lung cancer and that if I didn't havnt my lung removed I would die. No body came to take care of me on any of these occasions. A few people rang or brought food but this do called circle of friends were to busy they said. Now I'm stronger and I have my 2 dogs who are loyal and loving. I feel like all this adversity has helped me get rid of "The trash" and shown me "The treasure ". X

[@50toinfinityatleast]

How are you doing now?

[@brianhepke7182]

Everyone has their own journey in life. Some need to have people around them, and some don't. We are all here to learn and do what is right for ourselves. However, seeing people trapped in lifestyles and relationships that are damaging to them is hard to witness. Only they can get themselves out of it. Having the courage to change one's mindset and step away from such a situation seems daunting, but no more so than staying stuck in the same place and basically running on "auto". Once it happens, the feeling of liberation is quite overwhelming. Speaking here from experience.

[@JaneDoe76664]

It's safer to be Alone and not to have friends. No one can hurt You. The world has turned into a dark space.

[@MsEagle20]

But then no one can share their light with you either!

[@sthomas7211]

Share some apples but don't give away your branches .

[@joesmith9216]

it's not so much that, sheeple today are just blind followers, ALSO, many people today are drug addicts, drugs have really gripped humanity with all the big pharma being injected into newborns, don't stand a chance.

[@sirh.a.8738]

@@sthomas7211✍🏾✅💯

[@yardena1234]

So sad to say but. Peace and quiet is wonderful❤

[@rsvp1473]

Get betrayed or taken advantage of….just walk away and if you fall onto the path of never wanting friends again, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I believe you’ll live.

[@WilliamSanders-df3my]

I agree. I stoped looking or wanting friends. Some would say it's moping. No I disagree. When you find yourself like the apple tree you just don't want it anymore. Animals however have proven to be true friends.

[@MikeVerbeke]

Very true and true to you and your day is good ⚖️

[@fossgoddess]

I've always heard it is a blessing to have very few friends and many acquaintances. This is a reminder there will always be selfish takers. A wise pastor once said in a sermon about giving to others -- "Be the river, not the reservoir".

[@barbaraduggan631]

I have many acquaintances .... but that's as far as it goes ... I'm happy with that ... I am Dakota Sioux and there is a saying I follow .... (Don't give too much of oneself to people .... the energy within us will drain to the point we have nothing for ourself when WE need it ) being an empath ... I know when to say no politely ... Keeps you sane ...

[@uniqueboyz1379]

You'll always be alone no matter how many friends you have 2. The loneliest people are those who have suffered disappointment

[@daviddavid7667]

A friend is somebody you can trust. With age comes wisdom