Reframe Your Social Anxiety and Speaking Phobia

Do you struggle with social anxiety that results in fear of speaking up and judgment of sounding stupid? Do you pass on opportunities to contribute to group discussions?
Laura coaches you to shift your perspective by diverting your attention away from anxiety about speaking to focus on your connection with the speaking situation.
Approaching all situations where you feel unskilled at speaking with a new attitude and mindset, while not a cure for social anxiety, is a manageable option to be present with your purpose for speaking and connecting with the other people involved.

[@ranc1977]

Love this, it is shifting our awareness into our goals and purpose. However social anxiety is trauma - there are many issues which CBT ignores deliberately: 1) ACE ACoA trauma from childhood is core of social anxiety. This means - our fears and anxieties are conditioned and programmed - and this will cause obsessions and compulsions in real world - so trauma needs our attention to heal 2) Due to unresolved trauma - being exposed to narcissistic abuse in childhood - our Self was never developed. So basically instead of knowing what is our purpose, what is our goal, how we contribute to community and what we like and dislike - we have fawning and people pleasing instead of being captain of our own ship. This means - this schizoid empty core will cause us to be externally focused on other people and their needs and their anger. Social anxiety is complex trauma issue - it is not a mere shyness. I discovered that allowing anger - just to feel it, helps with starting block of building our Self persona - and then when we build our self persona personality - we will know what is our purpose.

[@Laurabresee.speechcoach]

Thank you for sharing your insight. I really hope readers embody a sense of hope that you can manage social speaking trauma with awareness and attention. I had to develop this skill growing up as a person who stuttered significantly where talking was always a threat of being laughed at or questions about my intelligence. Reframing your perspective is not meant to suggest to wave off the underlying core of your social trauma. As said, trauma is a deep real struggle. Self Management strategies of going within (internally) to be clear on your speaking purpose and desired outcomes are available, in many cases, to override the externally focused threat. It requires awareness, practice, and courage to laser in on your speaking goal outcome. It takes muscle to silence the identity of your core trauma. I really appreciate your comment and the discussion about maintaining your purpose.