IS BLACK TAX A CURSE? | What We Wish We Knew In Our 20's Ep. 5

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@nyeletihanyani6963 2 жыл бұрын

The problem comes when your family dont understand that you cant go beyond what you already providing for them. It gets draining and becomes a burden when they expect you to be the sole provider.

@Miss_DeeW 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Fam, I'm also a first born and my black tax is a bit challenging because my parents lost their house,so they live with me in a rented place because I can't afford to buy at the moment,this has put a strain on me financially and emotionally and I'm still figuring out how I will conquer this challenge but, I true that God will take me through this and I'll be telling a different story in time.

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Amen!! We will keep you in our prayers Dineo! God will do a miracle in your life! ❤️

@zethudlamini2573 Жыл бұрын

It's emotional taxing because if one can't afford,some families do not understand. They will ask something like how can you buy a car if you don't have money,whereas a car is the tool for one to go to work.

@Blessed_for_life_2023 7 ай бұрын

And they don't understand that sometimes the kind of car you drive could be dependant on the car allowance u have, otherwise sars will punish you.

@Gugx 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Fam bam. Silent member here but this topic struck a nerve 😂 I disagree with being transparent about your salary/payslip & budget to family who is already coercing you & not accepting your boundaries or your no. I don’t think you need to explain your no. To anyone. As you all have said, give what you can, if you can, WHEN you can. Those who love & respect you should be able to respect your boundaries & your no without requiring an explanation. Attaching the notion of black tax to the religious principle of giving is a bit unfair (sorry Dise 😂) it’s not that simple. It may make those that are struggling with black tax feel more guilty. Which impacts greatly on one’s mental health. Sorry for the long message 🫣

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Gugu, Definitely hear your point and agree! Black Tx is Really not that simple! And taking care of ones mental health is so important!

@KikieBlessed Жыл бұрын

Black tax is an emotional topic on its own. I think it needs a family which understands a lot because it will end up like blackmail. Most people are caught in between exodus 20:12 and trying to make it out there because family will make you look like you are disrespecting whilist you are just setting boundaries.

@duduzilesibanyoni8074 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Fam, eish touchy subject for some of us that were not "contributing to black tax" while parents where still alive but things really shifted for me as the first born child when our mom passed who was the only provider for my sister's and I. By God's grace I am working so the extra responsibility that I felt towards my siblings didn't feel too much but I had to make some financial adjustments so that they can be ok and I am ok as well. The most taxing has been that after mom's passing family distanced themselves and then started putting demands on me and because I had boundaries in place, I must say now I am like the "Black Sheep" of the family that wont do what they want especially where my money or boundaries are crossed. Great conversation fambam...

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Dudu! Thank you so much for sharing! So sorry to hear your struggles. We hope that God will intervene and place peace within the family. And trust us, we know and understand what you are going through! ❤️

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations Dudu! You are one of our Satrix Voucher Winners! Please send us an email with all your contact details. Email: info@regodise.com Subject: SATRIX WINNER - BLACK TAX

@tengetilekunene961 2 жыл бұрын

This conversation was an eye opener and much needed. I care about the R1000 voucher, so let me go and clearly think about my response, but for now, I just want to say that Phila is brilliant. Thank you.

@sandyleputu8258 2 жыл бұрын

Wow it's a very touchy subject. I remember having to set boundaries after giving so much to family without leaving anything for myself. Now I help where I can

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!❤️ We know the struggle girl! Well done for setting boundaries!

@dineofaye9347 2 жыл бұрын

Its so true when they say our partners are ment for us purposely placed Rego differently is Modise's rib, guys may our Father bless your union its really beautiful to watch all your videos on all platforms, your union certify the fact that love it's amazing love is beautiful Modimo a Legodise indeed #Regodise

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Ash thank you so much Dineo ❤️

@lindiwe5949 2 жыл бұрын

My goal is to improve my financial planning to a point where providing for both myself and my family does not feel like a burden and does not hinder my investments. Where I can gladly help without jeopardizing the ability to meet my family's future *needs* and also my own.

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Love it!!

@leraydoo1 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Fam to the Bam!! Loved this convo so much! So my goal with dealing with black tax is to be transparent with my family about my budget as well as to help where I can. I will create safe boundaries and ensure that they aren't crossed. And then in creating generational wealth, I will ensure that I invest my money and ensure that it grows over the years.

@themkhizes4170 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Fam to the Baaammm !!🥰🤩 Always so happy when you have posted a new video and thank you for bringing in Phila to the conversation. Very informative indeed. I also believe that "family responsibility" should be voluntary and out of the goodness of your heart and not because you are obligated to now do things for your family... as some families can really be manipulative as Dise mentioned. So our goal as a couple is to be as generous as we can be and help out when and where we are able to but to make people know that we are not obligated and they should not feel entitled however it is a beautiful thing to help family out as long as you are doing it out of love and not by force. In terms of creating generational wealth, as a couple, we discussed that it is important to teach ourselves and our children sound financial literacy because we can invest as parents with the aim of building wealth and leaving inheritances behind but if our children don't know the fundamentals of how to handle money, they will be on shows such as 'I blew it '😅and we don't want that. So essentially we want to leave them with sound financial knowledge above the wealth they will inherit (whether through our own financial lessons, financially literate books we leave to them, simple conversations we have with them regarding money and even as they grow- the lessons we instill in them regarding the small coins they even get) - That for us is generational wealth, as they can also pass it on to their children and this ensures that the wealth is maintained throughout generations not just our children only but theirs too etc. 🤍🌼☺. #Regodise#Sanlam#Livewithconfidence#Finance#Blacktax#SatrixVoucher💃

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

So true! Thank you Fam!! ❤️

@advocatepuleng 2 жыл бұрын

Hello family. I agree 100% with you guys definition of so-called "black tax". It is family responsibility. As long as it is done voluntarily and out of love and generous spirit. After all, motho ke motho ka batho, and charity begins at home.

@mrsmakhonjwa1058 2 жыл бұрын

Black Tax is a big problem, and most people don't understand when one say that they don't have money. #Notificationgang #Fambam

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Right!? 😰 It such a problem when family members don’t understand your financial obligations but still demand their share of your money.

@motlalepulemiya7528 2 жыл бұрын

Loved the installment very informative. Thanks Fambam❤

@philasandeshongwe8383 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for an amazing conversation, @Regodise! I really enjoyed it!❤️

@luelue5152 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Fam , thanks for the show, I will definitely apply what I’ve learned today and invest in my family’s future by being open and honest with them.

@oboikanyomosweu4190 2 жыл бұрын

Hey FamBam!! Thank you for such an informative series😍 I'm privileged enough to not be obliged to "black tax". I still live with my parents while working, they'd rather see me putting my money towards my goals (property etc.) but should the need arise for me to help with the bills I totally wouldn't mind🌻

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Wow! that's amazing Fam! Praise God! Praying you'll generate generational wealth for yourself and your family!

@nokuthula8210 2 жыл бұрын

What an insightful video! Black tax really is one of those sensitive topics, but that is precisely why it should be addressed. Thanks for this, @Regodise. In addition to being intelligent, convincing and extremely well-spoken, Phila is a very charming gentleman! Thanks for inviting him back. Looking forward to more episodes with him.

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Nokuthula!! ❤️

@dominicayanda9788 2 жыл бұрын

I watched your interview on 959 which led me to your KZbin channel to only found out that you guys are actually into property. Could you kindly please do a video explaining how to go on about n start a property development company from stretch. I am planning to start one with my long time partner.

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Dominic, Thank you for checking out our channel. We really appreciate it. We will definitely consider making that video for you soon!

@dominicayanda9788 2 жыл бұрын

@@RegoDise thank you very much.. it would be much appreciated

@samjnr1300 2 жыл бұрын

Hey fam bam. My goal is to get to a point where BT is eliminated through helping my family to be able to make their own money, so that we can start focusing on building generational wealth.

@namhlamancoba-ngewu9545 2 жыл бұрын

That's what i strive for,i want all of them to get educated and skilled so that they are employable or able to do something to provide for themselves. It will take time but i don't mind.

@estherbaloyi5690 2 жыл бұрын

Nombuyiselo baloyi tax is no good to some off us we feel robbed as special when your the one who your the bread winner alone

@lindokuhlebriget2304 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Fam. What a topic I recently just started working and man it feels like I'm a slave for my family. I don't mind supporting my family but sometimes it gets overwhelming to the extent that you even dread your own pay day. I am 26 years old so I'm still trying to find my voice in the family but for now they still want to tell me what to do.

@redeemablesoul 2 жыл бұрын

Try to find your voice..and look at giving only 10% of your salary to your family..and remember to pay your family first.

@davidmathenjwa2293 2 жыл бұрын

I wont pay black tax because once I lost my job they treated me like sh*t, they were gossiping and bad mouthing me. Sometimes they would even say all I know is to eat. So once I find a job again I'm gonna live in my own world 💔💔😭😭😭😓

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Hey David, so sorry to hear that, it is truly heartbreaking. In such circumstances all we can do is pray they see their wrong doing and hope that in the near future they will apologise and treat you in the right manner, with love and respect.

@davidmathenjwa2293 2 жыл бұрын

@@RegoDise Thanks you very much. But as for them they can take their love and keep it cos I no longer need it. I doubt they'll ever apologize nor see their wrong doing cos it's who they are. It's their true colors that they've relieved to me. Unfortunately They care about money not me

@ntombizodwamakhubela9421 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Fam bam.To answer the question,My goal is to start up my own businesses to have more than one stream of income and place my siblings in the business so that they can generate their own income.This will result in less burden,depression and more responsibilities .This doesn't mean I will not be helping them if they need help but it will make life simple for all of us.

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

LOOOVVVE THIS NTOMBI!!! Such an amazing and strategic plan!!! We pray and hope all goes accordingly.

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations Ntombi! You are one of our Satrix Voucher Winners! Please send us an email with all your contact details. Email: info@regodise.com Subject: SATRIX WINNER - BLACK TAX

@ntombizodwamakhubela9421 2 жыл бұрын

@@RegoDise Thank you 💃💃🥳

@NtombiLeah 2 жыл бұрын

😀😁 I always enjoy your videos FAM BAM ❤❤ Answer to the question : budgeting well, having an open conversation with family regarding finances and family responsibilities , having multiple streams of income and lastly investing and saving.

@RegoDise 2 жыл бұрын

Love that! ❤️