Regretting Motherhood | Milda Gadliauskaitė | TEDxLeidenUniversity

[@HomeEcSewing]

You can see how taboo this subject is by the few views and fewer comments on this video, but I appreciate those willing to debunk the lies that motherhood is obligatory, joyful, fulfilling, and supported by community.

[@MassielPG]

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[@meep_murp8758]

I was guilt tripped into motherhood by being told things like "But you're going to be so saaad and lonely after you turn 40 with so many cats" Having a baby is still the worst decision I've ever made and I still believe becoming a parent is a joyless burden. I miss my old life. Cats are intelligent wonderful creatures.

[@Electr0fleur]

I love my baby more than everything but I regret it every day. It’s too hard to be a single mom. Don’t do it. Many suicidals or sudden deaths. No sleep no food. I am writing this while this monster is screaming. He’s teething since he’s 3 weeks old. I looked like a princess now I look like a horror movie actress.

[@denfolo5224]

Oh I'm sorry!

[@denfolo5224]

​@@Electr0fleurHang in there. Take it one action and one day at a time. You will pull through.

[@dubaiedge]

And it's always women who get this. Incredibly insulting. What do they say to childfree men? "Congratulations." And all the ones dodging child support? "Congratulations." And the ones paying for abortions? "Congratulations."

[@beaulieuc8910]

It is really obvious that parenthood is awful. I don't understand why women have kids just because they are guilt tripped.

[@defiantlypinki1107]

She is very brave for bringing this topic up. ❤

[@RiccardoGranieri-mc5gy]

Selfish and damaged

[@MR-pw4zn]

Great talk. Thank you for this.

[@mildagadliauskaite545]

Thank you for listening ❤

[@ccd5942]

The truth will set you free! No one speaks about motherhood regrets until your knee deep in the bs!

[@tanyamue8752]

Regretting parenthood is entirely normal. Accepted, too, just look at all the fathers who suddenly disappear while they're just getting cigarettes LOL. But that's male privelege I guess. It should be just as normal to give up the child at any age once you realize you're not fit for the job, no matter your gender. We still have such a long way to go.

[@kelebeksky]

Thiiiiiossss

[@MassielPG]

Regretting motherhood is normal but not acceptable. They want to silence women and just treat us like objects.

[@RiccardoGranieri-mc5gy]

The women killing babies by the millions …. And get away with it no prison time … female Privilege

[@dubaiedge]

Biology is not destiny. Say no.

[@hannahkate2342]

I didn't think about wanting kids. Later I did want them, it is who I am now. As a mom it is becomg of you, it changes you, It is very hard but it is a love better than your dog or cat. It is beautiful. Every day is beautiful and hard

[@adamborowicz7209]

its just hard and then you die

[@schikatz1187]

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[@iikimida]

About the last statement... thousands around the world? Must be hundreds of thousand to be conservative if not counted by thr billions. Check out Chinese Postpartum Meal and read the comments and likes of crying mothers in disbelief and relief and joy that somewhere some culture actually cares this much about women after birth.

[@verdaylove]

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[@SegnoongeS]

Congratulations to TED for exposing this monster

[@charondolls]

did you even listen to the whole talk? do you even understand the whole message of the talk?

[@cumquatsarentsweet]

the true monsters are those who selfishly birth kid after kid into this world without being able to take proper care of themselves.. look at the US where countless obese jobless girls are having kids out of wetlock from several fathers to then be crying that their kids stay hungry when schools are closed for some weeks

[@kp74952]

You mean the monster of motherhood? Misogyny? The patriarchy? Message unclear.

[@natb007]

@@kp74952 excellent reply!

[@pilar9247]

@@kp74952 all of the above

[@sumamat5093]

Women should naturally embrace their nature and gracefully accept motherhood.. thats how humans have progressed in this world.. get real

[@brookefox3627]

Is avoiding motherhood wrong?

[@Daniela_Germany]

Some are made for it, others aren't. As long as there is no shortage of people on the planet (on the contrary!), why not leave motherhood to those who enjoy it?

[@aaunyea4799]

Nah

[@katherinefields250]

@@brookefox3627no

[@beaulieuc8910]

Nonsense. Humans can make a decision not to have these expensives burdens

[@sumamat5093]

Regretting motherhood is just absolute ungratefulness .. children are a gift from god.. don’t propagate devil’s ideology..

[@brookefox3627]

Can you tell me why you feel this way? I am really wrestling with God about even wanting a child. Do you feel women are biblically obligated to have kids?

[@wordyyou5617]

Biblically we are absolutely not obligated to have kids. Paul even says that it is better to stay unmarried, if you can. If God has another plan for you as a woman, that is totally fine. If you have a child, that is great, too. Pray a lot about the decision. @@brookefox3627

[@sleepyhermit5758]

Youre an absurd person. You want people to have children they dont want

[@beaulieuc8910]

there is no such thing as god.

[@beaulieuc8910]

@@brookefox3627 no they are not. It is a choice. There is no such thing as god