Relationships and Schizophrenia/Schizoaffective Disorder

[@LivingWellAfterSchizophrenia]

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[@spleengrrrl]

My husband disclosed to me very early on when we were getting to know each other that he took medication for schizophrenia. I remember already being into him and thinking, "This is the one" so when he told me this I was shocked and thought, "WHAT!?? I finally meet someone and he's got schizophrenia???" But that lasted a few seconds and then I moved on. I fell deeply in love and here we are now, 11 years later, and we are married and have a child. I am so glad I didn't rule out being with someone with this diagnosis because I would have missed out on the best thing ever.

[@paulweston2267]

That is a good thing. You did not have the "Instant Freak-Out". A great many people do. Makes one wonder just who is mentally ill and who is not. It is not stigma, it is pure FEAR!!! People are always afraid of what they do not understand, and they will not take the time to understand it.

[@riaheatskittles]

roki feler no it does not. Stop trolling.

[@evalinamarie4309]

@@paulweston2267 yes understanding is very important!

[@bisdakngahapon5393]

This also happened to me. At first I was hesitant coz we were just chatting on messenger that time. He's now on medication and we're trying to have a baby but, lately he is having this erection and ejaculation problems. Hope you can share a tip. I feel so down now and Frustrated coz of my situation.

[@jasonspradling2463]

My fiancé has schizoaffective disorder, he told me from the start about having it and I didn’t even flinch. At the time he was only diagnosed as schizophrenic, but still I could not imagine nor do I want to NOT being with him. Its definitely not been completely easy and we b have been through so many things together. It’s been 6 years and we are going strong. Awareness needs to taught more often, AS often as possible. It breaks my heart to think of a person with schizoaffective/schizophrenia not ever getting the chance to love and be loved!

[@sl5311]

Seeing young people with this level of maturity is very reassuring to me. I have never seen a video like this.

[@superswag3252]

Yes, she might have some disorder, but she's way more mature than lots of ppl over here

[@jackburton37211]

@@superswag3252 indeed she is a role model for everyone.

[@superswag3252]

@@jackburton37211 It's good to know that some people out there ar still f*cking normal

[@margaretyarlett8907]

You two are absolutely brilliant. This is such a hugely informative video showing how open communication and respect can help support an challenging relationship. I wish you both luck and good health in your future together.

[@3rdeyeshi902]

sl5311 age doesn’t equal maturity tho time does mature dealing with this will make you come to the realization that you have problems it makes you grow up fast especially if you mix it’s with trauma

[@jillyfish1]

You have changed my view of schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder so much. I thought the stereotype was truth. I imagined homeless people who could not work or have meaningful relationships. I'm so glad I found your videos. I work in healthcare and have contact with people with different mental illnesses. I'm a lab tech and usually am only drawing their blood, but this helps me to approach them not only with empathy but also with respect. Thank you for educating me and others about your strengths.

[@stoneyvowell1239]

That is so awesome to hear! I have so many issues with doctors especially when they don't listen to me or think everything is chopped up to somatic symptoms! But my point is I usually relate better to the nurses who actually care about what I deal with and why I'm there because I would not be otherwise unless I had to!!

[@SoraByers]

Thats good that you understand the illness now

[@jasonford7481]

To your credit you listened and was open to changing your mind. Your a good person. :)

[@personincognito3989]

Jollyfishthe1st, You are very brave for saying this. You do not "just take blood" you are an integral part of the healthcare team. I also work in healthcare.

[@anitagomez9100]

Its sad that there are a lot of people who don't get help either because where they live don't have any resorces or the people don't want help because no one ever talks about these types of brain deases so its great that there is someone who is successful in life and can articulate so well the true meaning of living with schizophrenia.

[@india239]

I was dumped by my boyfriend, after he told me we had a future together, when I had an acute depression episode. I felt like I would die. Now I’m glad he did. 16 years into a marriage with a wonderful man. Best wishes

[@KTlevine07]

India M I have recently experienced this and it sent me into relapse and into a mental hospital.

[@KTlevine07]

I am now beginning to feel like I’m able to love myself again ♥️ (very far from recovery yet but taking it one step at a time)

[@india239]

Kt Lev I had been admitted to hospital and that was one of the reasons he gave. I still remember how hopeless I felt. My heart was shattered. But I survived and when I met my future husband I told him about my mental health difficulties- if he was going to dump me I wanted it to be before any feelings developed

[@PRmoustache88]

It is your former boyfriend's choice whether he wanted to build a life with you. Be glad he had the honesty to say no, which is better than an equivocal yes that changes to no on wedding day. It's best to get this over with quickly. I'm sorry you had to go through this grief.

[@cuteasabug17]

I’m often told “you’re too well spoken and intelligent to have schizoaffective” watching your videos I feel a real affinity with you and your insight. My fiancé is so beautiful to me and helps ground me in reality. I fear constantly that I’m not acting rationally but he’s always there showing me the real world.

[@akeridae]

Rebecca Delatorre How did you know you had schizoaffective disorder? Would love to know your experience ❤️

[@Frank289100]

SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.

[@yunglynda1326]

This is so sweet I want to be as lucky as you💚

[@LuxMeow]

I'm told the same for my BPD, I'm with someone who is schizoaffective, we are both not on meds which is unheard of, being we are high functioning and have a good relationship, of course not without it's challenges, good communication and compatibility are huge contributing factors.

[@odious5317]

@@LuxMeow Glad to hear you guys support each other. I'm curious about what you actually experience with BPD. I've read about it online, but I figured getting it from the pov of someone who actually has the disorder may better help me understand it. If you wish not to share I completely understand.

[@GlamourKillsTian]

I had a neuropsychology professor who was bipolar, and because of the class he taught, we got a lot of insight into his disorder. What really stuck with me was how supportive his wife was, how she was such a crucial part of his stability and medication use, and the two of you really remind me of that. I wish you both the absolute best, what a fantastic loving relationship!

[@SamirCCat]

I think one of the key things to understand is that a partner is supposed to SUPPORT the ill person, not HELP them. That is reserved for the professionals, your love or effort can't "cure" the person, it's an impossible mission and you will break yourself down for no good. Be there, listen, care, hug and love, but don't take their illness as your responsibility.

[@TheScreamingFrog916]

Yes, I made this mistake. It's harder if you don't know about the illness, and how to support.

[@brownprincess7189]

good comment

[@eskimo05w]

She just lights up like a Christmas tree when introducing her beau. May you have many, many happy years together! (You two are absolutely adorable together.)

[@melliebw3248]

Two compassionate, loving, understanding souls right here. What an example you both are to human beings in general. What a beautiful world it would be if we could all be this supportive of our fellow man.

[@freddypie7613]

So true

[@EpicKate]

It's so great to see you break your professional characters and giggle and just show how in love you are. It's great how you can be so brave to share and to fight the stigma and help bring people hope. You are doing a great job.

[@rkumar570]

Seriously, there are both men and women who would abandon their partner knowing that they suffered from some mental disorder, either because of the pressure, the responsibility or the embarrassment of the entire situation. That guy is absolutely God sent. Happy to see that you have someone as supportive as he is. You're very lucky.

[@kaileemckenzie]

you guys seem so great together

[@Scoomzzz]

Editing can do that for even the most screwed relationships lol. Not that they aren't great together, but everyone has ups and downs. It's just no one ever posts the downs obviously. It's funny to me when people take any type of post at face value, like that tells you any damn thing about the person or their relationships. That's just silly. It's all a big advertisement of your best self across all personal media. It really just furthers this self important idea most western people have to the detriment of all relationships and the breakdown of the family unit. So let's just be real and not try to keep up or strive for some fake shit like #relationshipgoals because you will just end up alone. It's all bs in the end.

[@GETBENT1331]

dude, im mrried with a kid and i have schizoffective. i have a caregiver.

[@miporsche]

I love this video. My mother had schizophrenia, was on psychiatric medicines and suffered with symptoms. She was also happily married. My parents seemingly adored each other. They were committed to each other for life. That is the one thing I was hoping for when I found my partner--a marriage like theirs.

[@crimsontomato8033]

Schizophrenia is a scary thing, being brave enough to speak up about it is an awesome thing. Thank you for being there for us all. Family and the ill alike.

[@RaeaLynnae]

I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2019. It manifested in the middle of my divorce, it has now been nearly 3 to 4 years of being single and I am terrified I will never be loved or accepted again. Thank you for giving hope that there are people in the world who will be loving, patient, and understanding.

[@blackfrost273industries4]

I have dealt with reoccurring thoughts from age 14 through 32 of being alone for all my life. Having thought I never had a relationship and feeling overly hurt at the thought of feeling never able to provide the things I hear nuclear family believers say. Self conscious about how to have enough money, how to have extra money, where to find someone who I can actually relate with. Feeling like an alien and not knowing how society functions to get where I am at. I knew the pickup line Russell Crowe said as John Nash was not the answer, but what...I decided to prepare myself for being alone and let someone compliment my life if they come along. I have found someone and being filled with PTSD about social interactions in this manner, someone was comfortable initiating conversations and stuff. Two years later, they have had a critical moment and off of medication for a cool minute. But, I am trying to research what is going on and self assessing because soooo many hard symptoms show schizophrenia. I grew up with a single mom with unchecked and unhelped mental health. So I know it's out there. I know people find each other. I can share more info to give an idea of one way that helped me get there. I do think it's harder as a male and not into guys at all. If you still feel this way, or do not, reach out perhaps? I compartmentalize like a genius, but I'm looking at am I capable, how capable or willing are they to move forward, do they have hypochondria or lie about this? Am I getting accurate data while using my qa skills from work and childhood (not what happened, but feelings), and if something is off; do we push forward, take a break (unlike Ross), do we switch for a while and empower more of their work on this to have a more centered and accepting stance on this mental health situation? It is not easy and kind of is easy because of space to think to myself without interaction while they are in a facility stabilizing themselves. I've been in one and I loathed it. I also found the after inpatient interview with this KZbinr to be accurate and helpful too.

[@christygonzalez2066]

You definitely deserve love and I hope you find it! Their are people out there willing to understand.

[@beautitips5144]

Please contact me 😭😭

[@jaimie8689]

You are incredibly articulate. It’s so easy to listen to you talk.

[@michellemolina5632]

I have schizoaffective I’m 26 and I been with my husband for 7 years 🥰 happily married I love him we are not going to have kids Dow but we have a dog and we can just have fun in life by traveling or saving money and use it for things that makes us happy 😊

[@freddypie7613]

Blessings on you all stay strong

[@wyattserviss992]

The way you two looked at each other when you were talking about having someone loving to bring you out of your own headspace and sort of take care of brought so much love to my heart.

[@sjwillis1137]

Rob seems like such a lovely bloke . Intelligent , sound , and deeply loving . I have just discovered your channel today . I love your forthright way of speaking . Bringing your experiences out and sharing them . 🙏

[@Frank289100]

SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.

[@olive_99]

Frank289100 you did not need to type that in all caps lol

[@Frank289100]

@@olive_99 THE CAPS TAUGHT YOU SOMETHING.

[@FRANKIE2UIAM]

I Absolutely agree with making things a bit light about the illness. I suffer from a different type of mental illness that I take medication for and my wife will notice the change in me and say "dude, you forgetting something?" I love that support you both offer each other. My wife of 26 years married into my world and we are happy as can be. Keep up the beautiful work and looking forward to more posts. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@Frank289100]

SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.

[@kiriforever1]

Lauren is such an intelligent & self-aware individual. She is enlighten and engaging individual. I wish more people were as intelligent and accepting of their illness.

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

Well said!

[@AdventurewithLynes]

My girlfriend, has Schizoaffective Disorder, bipolar. Thank you for sharing this information. My partner showed me this channel and I look forward to learning, supporting, and being there for her. Thank you

[@riaheatskittles]

I love this! My fiancé is Schizoaffective. He confided in me on our second date, and I could not be more thankful. A few months after that he relapsed and I was able to rehabilitate him every step of the way while he was in the hospital. We had the conversation and the understanding of how and when. Warning words, etc. this video was extremely relatable. The stigma is hard to overcome, the stereotypes etc. self care is so important, therapy is so important. It helps us so much. Humor helps ALL the time.

[@Frank289100]

SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.

[@riaheatskittles]

roki feler actually it’s not genetic at all. Thanks though. Our first child is due next year.

[@riaheatskittles]

roki feler sad to hear that you and your spouse were not open about mental health. It’s a genetic risk factor - same as alcoholism and drug addiction. with that said, schizophrenia is not directly passed from one generation to the other and there is no single or specific cause to it. Schizophrenia and Epilepsy actually have the same genetic commonalities. I’m glad you talked to a doctor about it, however my sister is a physician and has gone into depth and length about this, along with his psychiatrist and psychologist. These things do happen at random, and it is not schizophrenia itself that is passed, its an abnormality in dopamine across the brain. Mental illness is not a means to an end, and should not be looked upon as lives ruined, that is simply ignorant. Your boys can thrive and live wonderful lives, as my parter does. We own a home, started a family, he’s an engineer for a well known international company in his field - and it’s all because he chose to not let it define him, keep people who support him close, and make sure he advocates for himself when things don’t feel right.

[@riaheatskittles]

roki feler as I said - I’m sorry that you feel this way and I’m sorry the communication between your wife and you was lost. As for my soon to be husband, it was not genetic at all. No one in his family has a history of mental illness above bouts of depression. It was entirely random and that is how it is for some people. The genetic pool is vast and complicated, there are many factors and influences and vulnerabilities that can be at play, that does not make something genetic, environment also plays a huge part in mental disorders. Oxford university released a huge study on the genetic relations of bipolar, schizophrenia, and schizoaffective disorder proving that while an increased vulnerability factor can play a part, in twins, one who is diagnosed with the above disorder the other has a 0-10% chance of also being diagnosed. It is still an at will, at random diagnosis. Your hardships are valid, and it’s good you’ve been doing research, the studies are there and they are plain as a day, the rhyme and reasoning is still very unsure.

[@lillilillillil999]

Frank289100 dude you made me laugh so hard! Thanks!!

[@tylerf2891]

Thank you so much for this video. My fiancé of over 6 years was unofficially diagnosed with schizo-effective disorder with major depressive tendencies. She's a wonderful woman with so much love in her heart, but has a significant amount of childhood abuse. This has left her scarred in many ways, most significantly the constant feeling of inadequacy. Part of my role over the years has been to reassure her that she's fantastic and be a support while she's feeling low. She needs constant reassurance that I love her, I support her, and that she's not useless (which she believes most of the time). She's only 23, but she's making her way in the world. Hopefully I can be enough of a support system for her to succeed in the ways she wants to, but it's difficult on both ends knowing that I'm really her only constant support. She doesn't want to resort to anti-phychotics due to the (perceived?) high potential for negative effects (such as a fog over emotions and desires). I realize that I can only mention the possibility of medication and gage her reaction, but she has to come to the conclusion herself that she wants to move forward in that regard. I love her so much, and I will continue to reassure her that she's a wonderful person who can do anything that she sets her mind to, even if it takes longer than expected. Your videos have really helped both of us, and me in particular. The increase in understanding that her need for constant reassurance isn't a lack of trust or love in me, but a symptom that can be managed with patience and love from both. Thank you.

[@eurekamreum5458]

Bless you and your partner, Tyler!

[@starlite369]

Thank you. I’m gonna share this with my BF, seems the 4 of us live parallel lives lol so this might help

[@freddypie7613]

Continue your showing love and support stay strong 💪💪

[@aspiringrunner4796]

Thank you for sharing your experiences. One of my ex was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I had no idea what that meant at the time. A big part of me wishes I had more knowledge and understanding of the disease at the time. She'd have these episodes where I had no idea what she was talking about or why she was so upset. Looking back I can only imagine how helpless and alone she must have felt, me being there but not having a clue how to be supportive and help her through it. Thank you for posting your videos. Very educational.

[@fatenfarouk1205]

Hi, lauren. like your hopeful videos, I am lecturer of one of Egypt universities. I am a mother of 2 childeren and my husband understand my illness. I diagnosed as schizophrenic 4 years ago.

[@Estrellacristalina728]

My son is the hospital because his going through that 😭😭😭I’m so happy you so good and so happy you have a boyfriend!! You know my son is 24 and he never had a girlfriend ! God blessed you 🙏🏼

[@laurafagan5524]

I struggle with paranoid schizophrenia. I do not have children of my own, but I am an aunt, the kids love me but - YOU HAVE TO BE MED COMPLIANT If you are going to be around his kids!!! One time before I was diagnosed and put on medication I became psychotic, (I have had 6 psychotic episodes, that I remember, where police had to be called), and I broke a friend's arm. I am never completely alone with my sibling's kids and I am ok with that because this is unfortunately a part of this illness.

[@SamirCCat]

Most people are not violent when ill, but if someone is frightened and feel threatened it's definitely a risk. Basically be very kind, compassionate and careful dealing with people in full-on psychosis.

[@maddieebobaddiee]

Laura Fagan my grandma had schizophrenia and bipolar, my mom said she wasn’t allowed to be near my sisters and I (we’re triplets lol) until she got better and on medication

[@personincognito3989]

Good for you for being so open. Kudos to you for saying stay on your meds

[@SamirCCat]

@@personincognito3989 Staying on meds if you have a chronic mood/psychotic disorder is the best thing you can do. It's the foundation of being able to live a good life.

[@carolj2013]

@@deardeaddays8673 that makes no sense at all.

[@gcampbel55]

Thank you so much for your intriguing and well done videos on schizophrenia. When I was 26, I married a woman who developed paranoid Schizophrenia after a year of marriage. It seems to hit in the early 20's. She refused to take any medication, and became totally irrational. Life became absolute madness. The medications were pretty poor in the late 1970's. There were bad side effects. I'm sure they are much better now. As far as not wanting to take a medication, that seems to be part of the illness. Keep up the great and informative work of making these videos. Lauren, I have to say that you have the most stunningly beautiful eyes and a wonderful smile!!!

[@AnneLien1987]

Oh I'm very happy I found your channel. I have generalized anxiety disorder and feel so alone. Mental health is still taboo and I feel like a failure. My husband is very supportive 😀

[@presidentamanda7468]

AnneLien1987 I have gad too. Are you able to work? I’m having a really hard time right now.

[@Niekard]

Thank you so much! I've fallen head over heels for somebody living with schizophrenia and want to approach this relationship with a certain level of maturity and understanding, this video helped a lot. I will be following you from now on.

[@mycophenolatmophetil]

You are such a fighter! I had depression and I fought also a lot! So you give me hope! Im sending you my love for the hard work you do for the community and just anyone who struggles! Thank you for being open! Its so difficult to talk about this matters with the outside world because of the stigma as you said! Thank you! Keep up the good work! You are amazing!

[@3firstnames903]

Thank you so much for this. My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with Schizoaffective Disorder, and beforehand it was a lot harder to understand her behaviors and episodes, which I tried my best to support her, but I would often times get frustrated and take the blame. After the diagnosis I’m doing everything I can to learn and understand her disorder so I can be a better partner to her.

[@jmisfit1304]

Lauren, you are a wonderful, beautiful person! I can tell all of this has really had an impact on you in the past, but believe me when I tell you you are such an incredible person. Don’t ever let any of this get you down because you’re one of the people who makes this world a better place. Also, so glad you are in a great relationship! That’s awesome

[@freddypie7613]

Correct

[@virginiatoupinkunze8521]

My partner's daughter has schizophrenia, she does not take her medicine on a regular basis because she is in denial for over 15 yrs. Her Dad is a doctor so gives her medicine because she refuses to see a psychiatrist, she is being enabled by her father. Otherwise, she won't take meds. I refuse to deal with her as every time I help her she bites me like a snake, so I'm done with her because she is not mature at 30+ yrs old and does not want to evolve by consulting a psychiatrist. I wish she could be more like you. You are indeed very mature, open, and intelligent. You are a role model, an example of going to your human potential even if you are not perfect all the time (no one ever is even people who do not have this disease). Your couple with Rob seems to be great, congratulations, guys make a great couple and seem to support each other. Thanks again for the video.

[@brickhouse7401]

Very inspirational for those of us with family members living with schizophrenia.

[@thoreauediting4094]

You have the most beautiful smile, and it's so clear how happy he makes you by how easily that smile spreads across your face. I'm so happy for you, you are a lovely person and you deserve love and happiness in abundance. Congrats. 😊

[@nkf4503]

Thank You so much. Your positive, calm and well spoken manner is so comforting and really encourages me to both absorb and retain the valuable information you share.

[@rhiannetrinder8158]

NK F my partner has this and he will not except anything and is not a very nice person when he is on his moods he also lies a lot and always tells everyone I'm chatting to other guys and I can't go any were without him as if I do that's when he kicks off to the point he has hit me any help or advice please

[@melaniekandra7312]

I just want to say how amazing you guys are. I just found your videos last night and shared them with my girl friend. I can already see how much your videos are going to help us. So thank you so very much!

[@nivessvajger262]

You know you are so brave. You are doing something good. Be very blessed you 2! ✌💕🌼 Open comunication, yes. Thank you for reminder.👍

[@churchillthenut8822]

Thank you for this video. I’m currently frequenting a girl and recently she opened up about having the diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder. I got very scared and worried about still going deeper in a relationship. After viewing this video, it gave me a better insight and vision of the disorder. I’m diving in with more information and a general better insight. Thank you!

[@rowanbowyer6560]

Stigma is such a big problem with so many things, and essentially it’s a basic lack of understanding and education, and because of the basic knowledge leads to unnecessary fear and so much misinformation. Videos like yours really does help to inform, educate and break down the stigma. Thankyou for your videos.

[@dontfeelcold]

Stigma is a survival mechanism and should be respected. If something challenges a person's status quo, it has the potential to upset the balance of their life. If you have a problem, it's your problem, not theirs and you should not expect others to be fully understanding. I say this as a person who has a Fring personality.

[@dianeaishamonday9125]

You two are so precious!! Honestly relationship goals, bc the level of communication and understanding between y'all is freaking stellar. Love to you both from Texas 💙💙💙

[@sarahrah77]

I think it's amazing you are using your strengths to educate the public about your experiences! You're an inspiration, Lauren!

[@freddypie7613]

So true

[@CommonTerry2024]

Lauren, please do an episode on what friends and family can/should do when a 27-year old woman denies the diagnosis despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary. Did you go through such a stage?

[@ceilidhachaos1]

1. Find out what happened the day she was born. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1992 2. Get her a gift or send one that shows you understand. 3. Visit her (or video confrence). 4 (Most importantly) Treat her like a person, not a problem. :)

[@starlite369]

Let her be. Don’t force anything. I’m a 31 yr old diagnosed, never taken meds, never will. It’s hard, very hard, but it’s a better life to me. Maybe suggest she go speak to someone just to get things off her chest. I saw someone for a while who didn’t pressure me and accepted how I waned to do things. It was such a relief to remove the burdens and secrecy of all the years. Maybe that’s all she needs, too?

[@starlite369]

I guess I should clarify. I don’t believe I’m schizophrenic, I don’t believe in the disease. I’m a *very* spiritual person and my conditions all make perfect sense to me. Reality isn’t something you can put your own label on. Let her be free in her own world. Does she seem to be a harm to herself or others? Is she in a lot of pain? I think I could help her, quite a bit

[@starlite369]

Terry Heaton ❤️

[@emeraldrojas2126]

@@starlite369 hi hun, do you have bad thoughts about hurting someone or anything like that? I am currently dating a guy who is one of the most sweetest person I've ever met! He says his very spiritual as well and that his OK. But he has schizophrenia its just too obvious

[@enriquetarivera6073]

I met my schizophrenic wife on the train. I didn’t find out till our dates when she would out of nowhere laugh uncontrollably and say god talks to her. I stopped seeing her. When she called me I gave her a ultimatum , either she gets help or I won’t be with her. She started going to a clinic and taking meds. She got so much better. But she gets those voices when she stops her meds. I love her

[@bbrantley9191]

Bless you and your partner. As a person that has dealt with depression most of my life, I wish you all the best!

[@guineiman11]

Thank you for this video. My wife had her first episode of psychosis about 30 days ago and she is still having the symptoms. Her current diagnosys is of Schizoaffective Disorder and your video gave me hope to continue helping her in this dificult times. Much love, from São Paulo, Brazil.

[@luciana231100]

Beautiful couple! Today I told my partner that I had been hospitalized 2 times ... I’m not really open about my diagnosis because no everyone understands ...

[@personincognito3989]

I'm so sorry about that. Keep widening your circle of family and friends and soon you'll find supportive people. Best of luck to you

[@MysteriousWolff]

This channel was suggested to me out of the blue, and I'm so very glad. My boyfriend has schizophrenia, and I found out a few months into our relationship after he ended up in a psychiatric hospital after an episode. He gave me "an out" on a phone call while in the hospital a state away and told me he'd understand if it was too much for me and that it was okay if I broke up with him. I knew even then that he was the one for me, and I told him his diagnosis didn't matter to me, that HE mattered to me. I could tell then and I've since learned that he's been unfairly judged and poorly treated because of it, which hurts to know because he's such a wonderful person. Since his initial confession to me, he relapsed once when he was without insurance and unable to get his medication. I got him to go with me to a hospital one night, but after four hours waiting to be seen I couldn't get him to stay any longer and I knew I couldn't force him. He ended up being brought in the next day anyway and transferred to the psych hospital. That was the scariest 24 hours of my life, and since then I've tried educating myself more on ways I can be supportive, resources that are available, and what to look out for. A lot of what was said in this video really hit home, and it just... feels comforting and validating in a way, I guess. I know I have so much more to learn, and I'm really glad I found this channel.

[@Davyjones5454]

I think you’re mentally more stable than me.

[@joewalker9032]

Hahaha me too lmao

[@John_Longbow]

Same here.

[@realascanb222]

Why wouldn't she be? She has a chronic remitting and relapsing disease. It can be managed to the point where one behaves normally.

[@psychedlicsouljam1995]

@@realascanb222 exactly. Psychosis isn't a permanent state.

[@Frank289100]

SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.

[@GottaWannaDance]

You two àre sooo Uh-Doooor- able! I listen intently as you share and teach, then another part of another video where you and Rob converse crossed my mind. It is then that I smile and laugh at the love and caring we get to witness. Thank you!!

[@ruthmora0207]

Thank you for doing videos on this topic. You are very brave, and are opening the way for other people to open up about it. There is so much stigma and ignorance that is scary being honest about it. My hubby has schizoaffective disorder and I can tell you that it is possible to have a meaningful life and marriage. We have been married for 22 years, it takes a lot of understanding from my part to build up our marriage (with God’s help), I had to learn as much as I could about it so that I can understand when it is the disease or when it is him just being difficult. Sometimes it is hard to separate the two. For his part he is loving and kind when not being affected by some of the symptoms and the medicine helps him keep most symptoms under control. He has not been hospitalized for our whole marriage! Which I understand is a miracle. Before that he was hospitalized 3 times for a few weeks each time. I love him very much but I have to tell you, if it was not for God being at the center of our relationship we would not be together today. It would have been too ease to give up during the hard times, and feel justified. But marriage is in sickness and in health. I also, put myself in his shoes when I am about to lose my patience. When he is experiencing symptoms and I have to deal with a difficult situation it helps to talk to him about what the Bible says about the specific situation and bring him back to what I know he wants to do as a loving husband. Even if it takes a couple of days for him to realize his “mistake” or that his behavior was not the “right” one. I have learned to wait patiently a couple of days for an apology. He has never been violent, but as all people do, we have had arguments and it can be hard to make decisions together when he is not using “common sense”, specially since he is the man and it could be humiliating to have your wife be in charge. So, I try hard to show him respect by making him a partner and not my child. By the way we have two wonderful kids. He is a wonderful father most of the time too. Well, I think I will stop here. I can write a book 😉 Again, thank you for your videos. They are very informative and you are really able to express everything that goes on with a person suffering from this disease in a very clear and wonderful way. God bless you.

[@freddypie7613]

I really suggest you should write a book it will surely help others living with the illness and educate family and friends. Your experience will definitely make a difference. Stay bless❤️

[@Copilot1204]

Can you help me I'm 19 they said I might have it or schizophrenia I feel like shit . I don't have friend don't get girls super paranoid in public it's so terrible

[@Cityofemeralds]

You truly are a blessing to so many people. God had a wonderful purpose for your life ❤️

[@jessmjfan989]

The way she smiles when he comes in to kiss her is just SO ADORABLE OMG 🥺🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@Madeline96]

Perfect timing ❤️ This video is exactly what I needed, as I have so much inner turmoil about opening up to my recent partner of 3 months about my DID and occasional psychotic episodes. It's taxing trying to hide these things that unfortunately consume so much of my day to day life, but I have a terrible fear of rejection.

[@DerMig590]

Fascinating! KZbin teaches me so much 😮

[@bobbybabinski8019]

what a smile! how how joyous! your man's intro. your face beamed may your joy bring forth the fruits of joy! i am so inspired. i am going to watch from the beginning.

[@milikoshki]

I get the feeling that you two are excellent communicators. Definitely a great asset to being in a relationship and dealing with mental illness. :)

[@SirDopeBoy]

Today I found out my girlfriend has symptoms. Ima bit nervous but my love for her makes me wanna help her and stay by her side. I appreciate your videos and your stories for helping me understand the difficulties and ways to overcome them. This is something I’m new to, so gaining as much knowledge for this topic has been a priority for me. I thank you for educating people like me who has a loved one who deals with Schizophrenic symptoms

[@freddypie7613]

Hang in there bro you are doing the right thing 💪💪

[@karenbrooks8915]

i would echo my relief at seeing this relationship of caring concern. It moves my heart to see that LOVE conquers ... a good sense of humor is also very important. I think people in toxic relationships should consider that there's a better story out there ...

[@ConradB]

The world needs people like you to share your story. Thank you for your courage to put your story out there 🙏🏻

[@margaretd.9729]

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! There are too few examples of recovery in mental health, and specifically recovery when living with psychotic disorders. Your videos are inspirational and informative. God bless you!

[@debbiorvis9305]

This gives me hope for my son seeing you two together is amazing and sir you are so empathetic and caring you are one of a kind I wish I were more of you

[@HVlogsss]

I just found your channel and am so grateful for that. I have Schizophrenia myself and find it so helpful and important to spread awareness about this stigmatized mental illness! I literally was thinking today that a channel like yours would be great and then I found you and felt like my wish had been heard :D

[@freddypie7613]

Maybe you should start one of your own . The more information that get out out the more people will be educated and the stigma will reduce . Stay bless

[@RuiLopesOutrorui]

My partner was diagnosed with schizophrenia 15 years ago but we've known each other from school and all that... more than 25 years. I've been living with her for 7 months now and appart some discussions and fights, it's been bliss. Although she has that tendency to not accept the diagnose and keeps telling me i should help her leave the medication. I try to explain it's better to take the medication and accept it rather than try to avoid it. It's really complicated.

[@sackstoracks]

How’s everything now ?

[@MarkfromNewYork]

You are very blessed to live in Canada and have an outstanding and supportive worry free health care system. Not driven by money but buy respect and dignity regardless of ones social or financial standing.

[@MarkfromNewYork]

@Matt G apparently not, but just imagine that happens to you then you get a bill for $78k.. because that's the American way.

[@SoraByers]

Last week I just disclosed to my friends that I was experiencing psychosis. All of them were really accepting. It was really nice hear that from them since I had no idea how they would react. This is a good video I will definitely take you advice for any future friendships.

[@chloegreen7738]

I love your videos, you have really opened my eyes to the reality of Schizophrenia/Schizoaffective disorder. I honestly had no idea the quality of life someone with such a diagnosis could live. Thank you, you are doing amazing things to break the stigma. I can't imagine dealing with that kind of stigma. I myself recovered from bpd which has its own stigma, obviously each illness has its own unique challenges though. ❤

[@stephanierising4368]

Thank you for your bravery in stepping forward to demystify the experience of Schizophrenia and mental illness.

[@frankish5314]

@Rob, the way Lauren's face lights up when she looks at you its clear she loves you completely. You are a lucky man and in your shoes I'd be honoured to walk this path with her. All the best to you both..:)

[@scottcarder9543]

Why is it 80 of these idiots put thumbs down on this video. These all make sense. Lauren your doing a fantastic job with Rob on these videos. I've been in too many relationships because of this problem. It really depresses me and because of this I'm spending Christmas alone with no family or friends this year. I'm staying home

[@laceyyoung1557]

you are a very smart young lady. keep pushing forward YOU GOT THIS!

[@brielleanyez7113]

You're extremely lucky to have a support system. A lot of people I work with, do not have a support system or resources to keep them stable. They are chronically homeless and addicted to drugs in attempts to self medicate. Your partner is a wonderful man. Please remember that he needs others to talk to and support him as well because ( speaking from experience with a mentally ill partner) because it's very draining. All the focus gravitates towards the " sick" one. We have so much responsibility already and sometimes we need to get away. Make sure you recognize his needs too.

[@paradisecolors]

I am a counsellor, and I wanted to learn more about Schizophrenia/Schizoaffective Disorder. I am so glad I have found your channel. Your videos are really helpful. Thank you :) I wish you well-being, happiness and wonderful times with your loved ones.

[@nonaamer]

I love your presence. Thank you for this share. Wish u both all the best

[@melissamoerike9124]

Love this and helps me in a new relationship, all unique challenges for sure. My struggle is when he is irritated at me when he is having a psychotic episode and hears voices, so hard to not take it personal and to work hard to stay together & love each other. Thank you!

[@TheScreamingFrog916]

Thanks very much for sharing your experiences.It helps. I was in a relationship, for about 5 years, with a partner who has schizoaffective disorder. We were together 3 years, before she told me about it. It is my way, to be open minded, caring, and understanding of other peoples differences. Before I knew, I tried to be kind/supportive, but was confused/concerned by the illogical behavior, and emotions. One of the ways this would manifest, is for her to get angry at me, for reasons that did not make sense to me. When she was symptom free, she was very logical/kind/loving to me. When she was having symptoms, I could do nothing right. We went to couples therapy, and learned good things, but she would still get mad when symptomatic. It was a year later, before she told me about her illness, and went to the Dr. for help. That helped, but by then we had bad habits/feelings, from before I knew. We were together for another 2 years, before we ended our relationship. We are still friends. I wish she had told me about it early in our relationship, but I think she was in denial about it too. She had been hospitalized before she met me, and had bad experiences with treatment,. When she got out, and was able to function without medication, she went on with her life. Though she could function, the illness still affected her. I wish I had better tools for understanding/coping, right from the beginning of our relationship. I also think a support group would have helped. In the end, I was no longer able to cope with being told I was why she was upset, even when I knew it was the illness. I was not strong enough, and did not have support and skills, to be happy in our relationship. I could not accept, that I was not able to reason with her, talk her out of her illness, help her feel better. In spite of, and partially because of, her illness, she is a great person, with lots of admirable talents and accomplishments, and I wish her the best that life can offer. It takes a strong person, with unshakable self confidence and compassion, to be in a relationship with a partner who often challenges your reality, Understanding helps. knowing earlier, helps prevent bad relationship patterns, from becoming ingrained, and having to be unlearned. Best wishes to all the lovers in the world. The world needs more love and understanding.

[@billjackson1317]

You've brought a new positive look at Schizophrenia, Thanks it's a long road, mine since 1978, but I made it 2 retirement after 40 years of working. My father told me you might have a problem rest of your life, but I'll tell you it's better 2 have a pocket of money with a problem than have a problem with no money. I took a old med from the 50s that had reputation 4 helping people keep a job , Trilaphon, Recently I saw a biography on Nina Simone in Netflix and they put her on trilaphon and she was able to perform 4 the rest of her life,I recommend this movie. I'm 67 know and have some TD but not in public, but if had 2 take Trilaphon again, I definitely would, I got to live a more normal life, & and when you retire you can get off psych drugs, you outgrow them when your a senior by the way I' have a Scizoeffective disorder, don't mention it 2 much these days, Thanks again 4 the positive new face of Scizoeffective disorder. ✌🖖

[@freddypie7613]

Stay bless and enjoying your retirement 💞

[@Tracymcgrath-p3e]

Beautiful couple. Inside n out 🙌🏻🙌🏻❤️

[@vikvarvet1889]

You deserve the Nobel Prize in medicine - and peace.

[@freddypie7613]

I so agree with you . I hope ppl in authority will see her video and even make her a medical ambassador for mental illness ❤️💪

[@jg5995]

You are a beautiful woman I love your devotion and it gives hope to others ❤

[@kennethdobos9755]

Thanks for helping the people who need it. My symptoms sometimes were an issue early in my marriage, but after time a lot of the distress going along with relationships normalizes a lot. Remember have patience with each other, love & respect always as any problem can be solved together.

[@coltsteggall4872]

I'm living with schizofective disorder. I was 36 when it hit me .I'm living on my own after my divorce. It changed my hole live .I learning everything I can about my ellness. Thank for the video .it make me feel that I'm not the only person that has it .

[@benjaminbrady9159]

It was really nice to see how much you lit up in the presence of your boyfriend! More power to you both! Thank you for your videos I have learned a lot from you.

[@menuhin]

Hi Lauren, (hi Rob,) My girlfriend has her first diagnosis as Schizophrenia and is currently still hospitalized - she has yet to obtain an insight about her illness - i.e. she still doesn't know clearly why she is in the psychi ward and she cannot answer these questions clearly. Her episodes still comes suddenly almost every time I visited her... While not in an episode (mood or emotional storms in Schizoaffective disorder kind), she is loving and caring. When the onset happened, she turned into an emotionally abusive and aggressive person from time to time and more and more withdrawn. I was sticking to her because I studied psychology and recognized the symptoms and that something not right is coming up. Her parents are in another continent and another state, and I am her only visitor now. It takes a lot of patience for me, when I had to leave the psychi ward often with her 'hating' me, having said things like, "I don't trust you", "you tricked me", "I tell the nurses not to let you see me" How to help my girlfriend to obtain an insight? How to prompt her to do effective reality test? How did you check your reality and what signs or cues do you use to tell possible relapses?

[@valkyriandreams]

I'm so sorry for this hard situation... I hope soon it gets better! Hug

[@herrkulor3771]

I have been through the exact same situation. Very frustrating. I could not speak about medication. In the end the illness had taken all her energy and she took medication. It had an instant effect. From there on things went upward.

[@AishaKiwi]

I had excatly same situation with my now husband. I visited him every they even if he hated me and threatened me. And I was pregnant with twins. But once his medication started to work it was as though he literally woke up. One day he greeted me kissing and smiling and he did not remember last 6 week of his psychosis. He was overjoy to see me and to learn we are expecting and he is best husband and best father to our 3-years old twins. So just be there and hold on.

[@heatherw5793]

@@AishaKiwi what were the meds if you don't mind me asking

[@AishaKiwi]

@@heatherw5793 well, aripiprazol and valproic acid, he even used to have to take clozapine but doctors later said he got better and told him to stop taking it.

[@janesdisorder1565]

I have Schizoaffective Disorder depressive type, and just found your channel. I'll be watching more of your videos.

[@ShatteredRippleBooks]

Excellent video very informative and helpful

[@encinosarah]

You are very smart and very brave to tell your story, and to continue to tell your story. I’m certain that, by doing so, you are helping people and yourself too! Brava!

[@coreymack6208]

I dated a girl with PTSD and it felt like I was dating PTSD. There was no “our relationship is larger than the illness” so I am relieved that other people are living with illness and not being defined by it. Because I walked away with thinking that having a mental illness was the end for someone

[@AKIRA-we4hd]

😂 the first sentence sounded like a meme. But yeah. I think it just happens that she presented more symptoms. Whereas for others people with mental illness, their condition is more well managed or less severe. Still, no one is to blame. In the newest Joker movie, he wrote in his diary “ the worst part about having mental illness is being expected to act as if you don’t have one”. Sadly, it’s still very common for people to expect such things. As much as physical illnesses have their own challenges, mental illnesses do too. I’m sure you saw some kind of value in her, for you to date her despite PTSD. In any case, it is an experience. Getting to know another human being. I think you’re still lucky, getting to understand having mental illness is as difficult and real as physical illness, without having to have the illness itself and be in pain long term. I’m sure it changed your perspectives, so you’re not going to feel that people should just get over it and use will power, or that having mental illness means that you’re weak. Being in this relationship wasn’t a waste of your time and energy, since it allowed you to see your personal threshold.

[@elliewalsh5381]

This channel has entirely changed my perspective on schizophrenia and schizo effective disorder. I’m ashamed to say I was actually fearful of people with these conditions; my biggest phobia was developing one. However, now I see that through resilience of your strength and support that you can live so well with these conditions. Thank you for taking the brave step to share part of your life online; it is changing the world one persons view at a time x

[@oyinlolarosamond786]

Beautiful video. Thanks a lot and kudos to your partner

[@xeroone2650]

You have so much of your mind, it's amazing. I have schizoaffective disorder, I think I'm about two minutes into your video and I can't do a lot of the things you say.

[@KalishkaRuby]

This is so wonderful to watch! I think it’s brilliant, Lauren, that you are being open and honest about the challenges you have faced and how it is possible to live with your diagnosis. Rob, you seem absolutely wonderful too. It’s refreshing to hear you speak to honestly about the challenges and how you have grown and learned in the relationship. You also seem like a very intelligent, kind hearted person.

[@horisontial]

Love it when you break from the script. Your face just light up and especially whenever Rob says something your eyes just gleam

[@kav5906]

I am happy to see that u r surrounded by thoughtful people. Also appreciate how you are honest about this and you show how mental illness is an illness. All it takes mostly to deal with it is a proper diagnosis, care and acceptance.

[@parsizaban1]

Thank you Rob, for being there for her and supporting her.

[@hammastytava]

I recently lost a friend due to my condition. Really sucks that I wasn’t accepted, but that’s how life works. Some will understand and accept you for who you are, and others won’t.

[@Sadbhnailart]

my diagnosis' are gad, depression and agoraphobia but i cant put into words how much i love your videos!! they help me so much even though i have a different diagnosis love from ireland

[@SamirCCat]

I am bipolar and have never had a psychosis, still I also love these videos. She's so very articulate and precise when talking and explaining. Very pedagogic and that's great for my out burnt brain.