Idk if others will agree with me, but I think there is a hidden group of people that can be beneficial to you without you realising it: annoyances. People who are not (purposefully) hostile to you but who have attributes that bring you displeasure(annoying, bad-mannered, weird in a way that bothers you) force you to learn to handle imperfect social situations and can make you more accepting of people's differences over time
@evyiam37804 ай бұрын
That’s so true tbh
@squarrot93554 ай бұрын
@@evyiam3780 secret other relationship: recurring social media goer that i see often great to have you buddy
@isaac59904 ай бұрын
YES
@gatergates88134 ай бұрын
Some neighbors fit well into this category
@WeirdestAlOfAll4 ай бұрын
Some people realllllllly need to learn to tolerate these people to function because my god the only thing more annoying than an annoying person is someone who constantly yells at an annoying person.
@absyntheproductions33304 ай бұрын
I genuinely believe that the rivals to best friends pipeline is stronger than the friends to best friends pipeline
@shipwreck91464 ай бұрын
I was hoping this story would end with you married. :/
@Pr1ya-Night4 ай бұрын
Debatable.
@alastarGabriel4 ай бұрын
One of my strongest friendships growing up started out like that. She was talking about me behind my back before we even met so I decided I was gonna try to be so nice to her that she'd feel terrible about it. I got over my whole thing with her and she got over my whole thing with me and we ended up actually being close friends for a long time lmao. We don't really talk anymore, just kinda lost contact over the years, but I really cherish the memories I have with her 🩷
@akunita.424 ай бұрын
completely. i think its one of the coolest self growth events
@jackcarter50854 ай бұрын
@@alastarGabriel If you want to reconnect, you should share that sentiment. Use those exact words.
@squarrot93554 ай бұрын
you forgot the reverse of the mentor, pupil(s)/mentee/student (UNDERRATED) having to give your wisdom to someone really solidifies for you what your wisdom actually is and what you have to provide as a person
@silly_on_4 ай бұрын
Greg is still too young to understand that the single most important relationship in a human life is actually your children.
@imabird15664 ай бұрын
@@silly_on_that’s the family node, bruh
@choux83724 ай бұрын
That's true, and you end up learning from your younger pupil as well. Especially if you're someone who doesn't have kids, you'll be surprised what they can end up teaching you!
@hhoopplaa4 ай бұрын
Also kinda hard to realize, specifically because what kind of wisdom do you have if you are in your 20s? I guess you could give some advice to your younger siblings your parents might not give. I also felt good when I did tutoring and felt like I made the student understand or when we just talked about life inbetween breaks and I could give my perspective on things
@gobble_gang4 ай бұрын
The best way to learn something is to teach it to somebody else.
@DarthShadie4 ай бұрын
NEIGHBOURS are underrated. I can chat with my neighbours, we exchange food and recipes, we help each other during storms or power outages. I cannot stress the importance of having good relationships with neighbours because when shit hits the fan or if an apocapyltic situation happens, we can look out for each other.
@Poopymancer4 ай бұрын
How did you start talking to your neighbors? I have a bad mindset of just assuming everyone wants to be left alone like im intruding on them idk i need to change how i think about it
@silly_on_4 ай бұрын
Damn did not think of that
@shnitzel90524 ай бұрын
IMO its a subsection of acquaintances (sometimes friends and peers too), but should be included definitely!
@DarthShadie4 ай бұрын
@@shnitzel9052 Oh, that's one way of viewing it, yeah. Though sometimes they're not as well known to us as acquaintances. There is a particular relationship with neighbours I find particularly unique.
@meowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww4 ай бұрын
SO TRUE. If there's one thing i miss from my childhood is having neighbors who were also my friends and living in a neighborhood that was also a community where people interacted and had events together and were there for each other in times of need. Not having that is probably one of the worst things about living in a big city in this century, people are atomized as shit
@yourembassysoftworks4 ай бұрын
My enemy may cheer at my funeral, but at least someone will be there!
@PersianLeonidus4 ай бұрын
Bro, go touch grass.
@ErlingGrey4 ай бұрын
@@PersianLeonidusshut up
@pigslam4 ай бұрын
@@PersianLeonidushes true though
@LordComradeAnarchoCapitalus4 ай бұрын
@@ErlingGrey you coping
@JokerDoom4 ай бұрын
@@PersianLeonidusIt’s a joke my dude. You gotta learn how to have fun once in a while.
@Brick_Eater_4 ай бұрын
Where are the parasocial ones? They're the most important!
@awsheit4 ай бұрын
I know, jreg is my best friend!
@jibblydibbles4 ай бұрын
@@awsheithis circle goes right around yours
@gohardorgohome66934 ай бұрын
Touch grass
@slyfoxblox4 ай бұрын
I think a parasocial relationship would be contained inside of the you bubble, because it’s all inside your head.
@TestChamber154 ай бұрын
this video feels like a sociopathic philosopher tied me to down to a chair and shares his new findings to me
@JohnnyVegas3254 ай бұрын
I think a mentee could be added, I know a lot of people here are very young and so they don’t know that they could encourage someone else, but lately I helped push someone out of their shell and it was one of the most fulfilling parts of my life so far, and I believe everyone has the opportunity to do that, even if you don’t think you have anything to teach, just hearing someone say the right words to you can help so much
@bighillraft4 ай бұрын
You sound like JJ McCullough 😥
@roggy1794 ай бұрын
I've been a scout instructor since 16 years of age. I absolutely recommend folk try and share their knowledge regardless of their age, it can always be always a fulfilling experience to have
@9WEAVER94 ай бұрын
This chart has a third dimension (currently hidden) and most of what it doesn't currently show is in that third dimension
@NintendoBoy644 ай бұрын
Just remember that Jesse Pinkman was the catalyst to Heisenburg
@jupiterlily133 ай бұрын
Yep, someone to make you think about what you're doing, what messages it sends and actually force you to distill your thoughts down into something that another person can unedrstand.
@naryosh_3 ай бұрын
we didn't "forget", the infrastructure of our communities that enabled/encouraged togetherness and complex social relationships was destroyed to create an unfeeling corporate hellscape with extra parking lots and an uncrossable highway separating it in 3 places
@whitemakesright21773 ай бұрын
Bingo.
@jordanbrown38873 ай бұрын
To be fair, our parents (I'm 26 with early 50s parents) also lived in similar desolated landscapes (Southern California aka a car-centric perspective), there was just less pressure from their families to be "afraid" of what would happen if kids wandered outside alone (but in groups). They too dealt with awful city planning, but they had the pressure and privilege of in-person connection as the option to connect online or parasocially didn't quite exist yet.
@bv26623 ай бұрын
Internet
@Ardorstorm2 ай бұрын
True
@fugu_34672 ай бұрын
I think he is talking about those same hellscapes and behaviors as having been translated over to the internet where it is self imposed rather than par for course.
@apoqliphort36144 ай бұрын
Mentor really got me thinking. I've never personally met someone older that has traits or knowledge that I desire particularly strongly. No one comes up, no matter how much I think, and it's making me kind of sad. I'll be on the lookout more consciously from now on. I have a strong desire for it conceptually.
@elusivemayfly75344 ай бұрын
“When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” I bet your interest in finding a mentor is the beginning of finding a great one, or them fining you.
@roannavochez11974 ай бұрын
🦍
@appa6094 ай бұрын
That's the purpose of grad school
@silly_on_4 ай бұрын
I've had 5, but almost all were school teachers and unfortunately lost to the ages
@4hedron8524 ай бұрын
I don’t know what’s worse, that or knowing that there was someone who could have been your mentor but instead let their life end to something preventable, and having nobody else to fill that role.
@adamweinberg25324 ай бұрын
I think the one thing this graph is missing is a underrated subcategory of family, kids. Kids get so much flak these days, but I think actually interacting with some of your younger relatives or maybe your friend's children if your cohort has become that old will give you such a different perspective on life and make you much more conscious of the lasting impact that your actions today can have on generations in the future.
@Pebphiz4 ай бұрын
Ha ha what? Just put those pesky little noise-makers in front of Paw Patrol or Roblox for a few hours, so the adults can talk!
@benfennell68424 ай бұрын
@@Pebphizreal and true, I'm terrified to have children because I'm convinced they will end up unhappy because of pressure from peers and tech addiction to become like this essentially, I don't even trust myself with that responsibility
@Pehz634 ай бұрын
@@benfennell6842 The mere fact that you're worried about this makes you a far better parent than most parents in human history. Yeah you will mess up, and your kids won't be perfect. But nobody else is. And life is such an inherently wonderful thing that you really can't fuck that up. I hope you find the courage to face your potential for failure and chase your dreams and betterment of the world despite those fears.
@benfennell68424 ай бұрын
@@Pehz63 yeah I will just give it a year or 5 (I'm still only 21 man haha)
@thesurvivorssanctuary65614 ай бұрын
@@Pehz63Encourage people to adopt children, as there are plenty in third world countries; and as refugees, that need a home. Raising such a child is an act of God. Don't encourage people to breed. "Life is so inherently wonderful that you can't fuck it up!" is a naive statement friend. Suicide rates are going up and up, and the fundamental nature of suicide, school shootings, war, famine, plague, economic disasters, and super storms, refutes your statement with malicious vengeance. I understand that you just wish to spread the happiness you have found in life, but you could literally inspire a serial killer to have a child to groom into a monster by advising every stranger to get busy and make babies.
@frankthetank25504 ай бұрын
My mentor passed away a few years ago and I'm now the mentor for his son... the mentee to mentor pipeline is real
@Snipfragueur2 ай бұрын
Rreally ? Care to say more, if that's not being too nosy ?
@cryowreck31934 ай бұрын
Shoutout to mentors who are younger than you. In Fahrenheit 451, Montag only snaps out of his nonreality thanks to Clarisse. Wisdom is born of experiences, not of years passing-- and we should strive to recognize it wherever it is found. Walk softly, listen closely.
@DizzleDoodles4 ай бұрын
My gosh I love that book. But YES! There are so many young people you can aspire to be like who teach you things you have yet to learn
@TravellerZasha4 ай бұрын
Honestly this is something I struggle with. I have huge age insecurity and issues especially as an early 20s thata when i get "younger" mentors honestly i tend to act like those cranky grandpas that. Especially the idea of experiences, I missed out on most experiences growing up so having a younger person teach me about their experiences like their better than me and rub it in how they got to have something i never got to at a younger age, thats how it feels to me so yeah i need to work on that.
@clementiine44224 ай бұрын
"i have autism- *cut off*", Greg- i love you, and i mean this in the _nicest_ way possible, i can tell.
@dinninfreeman20144 ай бұрын
takes one to know one
@clementiine44224 ай бұрын
@@dinninfreeman2014 you get it.
@furinick4 ай бұрын
@@dinninfreeman2014autists tend to easily identify each other and form groups with each other. That's scientifically proven
@squishyhug93663 ай бұрын
Me at the beginning of this vid: a clear disection and explanation of social relationships is probably really helpful to a lot of autistics. I wonder how many have found this video cause I know I would have liked this when I was younger.... Oh that explains it.
@theycallmealex4543 ай бұрын
@@clementiine4422the pfp kinda gave it away
@Buckleupbucko4 ай бұрын
Having a mentor will take you to crazy heights.
@dann100004 ай бұрын
Imagine someone who: 1. Is above you (age/wisdom) 2. Has good intentions for you 3. Guides you well Just imagine you don't have to find EVERYTHING out for yourself. Imagine that. It's crazy how much capacity you would have to actually "live" your life
@littlehuman70284 ай бұрын
I wish I could find one, I have no idea where to look :')
@SA2004YG4 ай бұрын
@littlehuman7028 first you have to know what you want, then you need to find someone successful in that field that you respect and contact them. Be honest and tell them your situation and what you want
@Wulk4 ай бұрын
This is the type of advice that gets you to a cult or worse an Andrew Tate video
@iCookCrystalMeth4 ай бұрын
@@Wulk??
@crushedlittlestars74 ай бұрын
As cathartic as it is to dunk on incels, this is the kind of content that actually helps counter incel logic, instead of just hating on and shaming lonely, misguided people 🙏🏻
@fleecejohnsonn4 ай бұрын
Some are unfortunately too ugly to form any social connections. It has always been that way.
@silly_on_4 ай бұрын
Truly.
@froggin-zp4nr4 ай бұрын
The people who need to see this are not the ones that seem like they obviously need it. Incels may change but the people around them also need to change
@veritasgaming28614 ай бұрын
People who consider hating incels as cathartic are losers. It's nothing more than a cheap thrill used to assert one's perceived higher position in the social hierarchy and reveals insecurity more than any supposed "virtue." Also, Jreg's interesting little chart, while benign, cannot help incels if the majority of incels are terminally lacking access to all possible categories of social relationships. i.e. no one wants to befriend incels etc, incels themselves often try to form friendships early on in their social development and fail, which only spirals as they grow older, etc, as they realize no one wants them (in any social context).
@marsdriver25014 ай бұрын
@@froggin-zp4nr I hate all of this so much. How are incels going to change? How are people around them going to change? What's a way to influence literally everybody? What should we tell them? Are you sure it will work? So many questions, and so little answers. And anyone in here is hardly to blame, so there is no one to put this hate on, just pure fucking confusion
@crypticcorgi82804 ай бұрын
The Lover being overrated because it cannot be your everything or missing piece. Is exactly why the best advice for _"Focus on yourself, seek to genuinely hang with more people(with no expectations), and following your passions."_ Is the best advice for young people about dating. 2 birds with 1 stone. Because a romantic relationship will not make them truely feel whole anyways and people are more attracted to others who run on their own ambitions. Not some one who feels they need you to be whole.
@StarboyXL94 ай бұрын
Why would you date though? Like, at all?
@Nosteponsneksss4 ай бұрын
When I see someone complaining about how lonely they are, the focus is mainly on finding a romantic relationship and less importance on friends. But if you want to have a romantic relationship you have to make friends. That’s how opportunities open up to you. Friends can introduce you to others, they take you to new places where you can meet more people. How are you supposed to find a partner if you don’t go out and socialize?
@normanclatcher4 ай бұрын
^at work
@Nosteponsneksss4 ай бұрын
@@normanclatcher that works for some people but work is an environment where everyone is miserable 😂
@ilikewearingspikedboots4 ай бұрын
Try referring to the little "friend" section at the top of the chart. If you have hobbies try to actively engage in those enough to the point where you are meeting people. TTRPGS I think are a good example. You and a group of people regularly show up somewhere and play Warhammer or whatever. Pretty quick those people become your acquaintances. Immediately they become your peers. Then some of those peers become your friends. Then maybe 1 or 2 of those friends become your best friends. It's obviously better when you can do this IRL but it can work equally as well online. If you like gaming, try playing competitively to emulate that same experience. I don't play fighting games much but my friends are heavily into it. Most the people they talk to (This includes friends, rivals, peers, etc) all come from that one community simply because they just show up to tournaments and play with people.
@normanclatcher4 ай бұрын
@@Nosteponsneksss keep the numbers after you and she both leave. Reconnect with the one showing the most genuine interest in you, with the most upsides and least-relevant downs. Complement her work style and ethic. Work smarter, not harder. Work _with_ her, not against her. And, most importantly, as you _work together,_ as a couple, after each having left that corporate hellhole? ...have fun together.
@IrateWizrd4 ай бұрын
Plus (and Greg mentioned this) if you don't have friends then your whole social life collapses with the relationship
@ende0_04 ай бұрын
The rival might look like the silliest suggestion here but it has done me SO much good. A healthy rivalry has kicked me out of my apathy and auto-isolation multiple times, it's fun, it's engaging, I look forward to arguing W this person and to have the most fun I gotta be in shape. Butting heads has made me much sharper. The crucial point is: you and your rival have to be on the same page about this or you'll end up someone's enemy.
@seriouslybruh21464 ай бұрын
What do you guys rival about?
@sithdude24364 ай бұрын
This is probably a part of why school sports are popular, it's fun to grow as a team but it's also fun to have that one person you're always trying to surpass (though I was normally the one who got surpassed lol). If you can compete with them academically it's even more engaging. Feels a little bad when you get crushed though lol, but that makes the little victories sweeter
@mechadonia2 ай бұрын
Had a dude online that would post crazy tracks on SoundCloud and pissed me off how good they were. We made the same genre of trance music and whenever he dropped a track id try my hardest to outdo him in some way, I was ecstatic when I had a track that outperformed his and saw he’d listened to it multiple times or liked it. I’m sure he had no idea I was competing with him in my head but it pushed me to be a lot more creative and learned a lot abt production on the way. Now he hasn’t posted in over a year and I’m in a big creative slump and not finding a lot of inspiring music nowadays. Aitana hope ur ok buddy!
@katzea.a78802 ай бұрын
I don't trust myself enough to let myself have a rival, I fear it'll end up in a very violent incident
@KopyErr2 ай бұрын
This with banter
@quenteta14 ай бұрын
"I dont know why I made a chart. [cogent explanation of exactly why he made a chart]"
@dinninfreeman20144 ай бұрын
I would have made a chart too
@MatthewKelley-mq4ce4 ай бұрын
Freeform charts are lovely.
@MrxstGrssmnstMttckstPhlNelThot4 ай бұрын
I don't like the tiny sliver of overlap between the "lovers" and "family" bubbles there bud.
@tomok37334 ай бұрын
I do.
@sniedendepoes4 ай бұрын
Wincest
@MegaVega20074 ай бұрын
I feel like if you have a wife/husband and kids that's still technically your "family" not in an incestuous way
@matiasgarciacasas5584 ай бұрын
Have you considered that your parents are both family and lovers to each other?
@normanclatcher4 ай бұрын
**humming the Lynyrd Skynyrd song...**
@Astro_Crunch4 ай бұрын
I also think strangers are pretty underrated. I've had experiences with strangers in the past, whom I've only spoken to once and never again, that were deeply impactful, moments that I still think about to this day. Of course, this isn't the kind of relationship you can build upon without fundamentally changing it since then they'll no longer be a stranger lmao. Still, I think even fleeting interactions with someone you don't know can bring value to your life, and them being strangers doesn't make those moments any less meaningful. Strangers can offer wildly different perspectives that sometimes close friends and family can't.
@TheNaturalnuke4 ай бұрын
Rival: a person you want to succeed against. Enemy: a person you want to fail Nemesis: a person you want to fail even at expense of your own wants and needs
@dinninfreeman20144 ай бұрын
I need me a Nemesis, that's real passion
@125friends84 ай бұрын
@@dinninfreeman2014 same
@poisonouspotato14 ай бұрын
Ash Ketchum has rivals, team rocket has enemies and a creeper's nemesis is a player character
@amazingjay39574 ай бұрын
I’d say an enemy is a person that wants YOU to fail and a Nemesis is a person that you want to fail
@Tamperkele4 ай бұрын
I mentored a student at work. He was about 10-15 years younger than me. He turned out so good that he got hired to our clinic straight out of school which I think was wild. It felt nice to mentor someone and see them succeed.
@sihplak4 ай бұрын
The thing that frustrates me personally is wanting and pursuing these things, but so many people I come across or have come across don't bother to foster their social relationships. Like, I'm mostly atomized not because I'm introverted or anti-social, but because I've had the shit luck of almost everyone I've tried to deepen relationships with just not giving a damn about trying to be a better person or to be social or to put effort in or to reciprocate socially. Thankfully I'm moving far away from where I currently live in the near future, so I'll hopefully be able to have opportunities to meet people and build these relationships adequately in a place where hopefully not everyone has this suburbanite-brained mindset of keeping to themselves and refusing to reciprocate or initiate anything. Fuck the small-towns and subrubs in the Midwest
@googleautocorrect94984 ай бұрын
most of the relationships here kind of require a close-knit, high trust community, something which simply doesn't exist nowadays anymore. finding a mentor, or a proper elder that will guide you is near impossible because we've decided that we want to socially segregate people that no longer give any profit to shareholders. social alienation isn't really a personal problem, it's a societal one and we're failing at preventing it
@bigman-kt3hi4 ай бұрын
wadiohead
@autumntaylor25334 ай бұрын
"High trust community," that's a good name for it, and it sure doesn't exist anymore
@rcoppy4 ай бұрын
@@googleautocorrect9498 ive experienced this as an adult in europe, and have vague childhood memories of it in the US, but would agree north america is incredibly atomized
@jameswalters35714 ай бұрын
Your comment kinda screams that your standards for others are too high
@99sparks934 ай бұрын
The irony is that I already know all of this but still can't find these kinds of people. Life is so stupid sometimes, lol.
@definewrath27913 ай бұрын
Yeah its hard. Ive been trying to make connections for almost 2 years now and then I see others do it so easily.
@Alienrun2 ай бұрын
Can confirm...I have a few casual "mentors" in my life but I found them by complete coinsedence. In fact most good people I've found are by complete coinsdence. And that makes sense in retrospect...I didn't know them prior so its not like the meetup was planned, it just so happened to work in my favor. Its easier to make safe good friendships when your younger because there's less to lose on banking on your friend maturing as you grow older...when your older though...its harder...because now there's more expectation to get your crap together. Its stupid...but it seems the only real solution is just to be very honest about what you want...even if you don't know for sure...a simple "I kinda want this but I'm not sure if it will work long term" will do quite a lot in selling what your worth to others. Fake it till you make it only works if you like where your going. Not sure how helpful all this is...but unless your undergoing some insane trauma that's keeping you stuck in one place...you can succeed if you just keep trying and hope for the best. You don't need to find that perfect person now, but be thankful for who you are and learn to enjoy the journey! For the record I don't have my crap together...like at all...but at least I can find opportunities if I'm willing to look for them, whether they be connected to other people or not. But its all doable, just keep trying and socializing and you'll get there! (also do all that take care of yourself stuff...but if you suck at that honestly just wing it and don't do the advanced stuff unless you need to...last thing you need is to have your social skills be drained by surpurfluous nonsense...just be yourself and don't overthink it! People won't enjoy you unless your enjoying yourself and show interest (genuine or otherwise) in other people! :O)
@IIlllllIIIllllIIIlIllI4 ай бұрын
Weird that rival isn't connected to the friend group. Based on your description a rival is just a friend/best friend. A healthy competition between similar people, which you want to have as friends to push each other further anyway
@pyros43334 ай бұрын
Friends you hang out with to relax. Rivals can show up anywhere and do not necessarily need to be a friend. Could be a sibling, peer, acquaintance, etc
@elusivemayfly75344 ай бұрын
It’s amazing to me how fast life has changed. I’m in my early 40s and have been able to have these relationships, and I want them for all people. (Enemies aren’t fun, but they can sometimes bring about important and helpful change.) I am planning to use my gift of non-threatening auntie energy to begin a group in my area-anyone can join for coffee / dessert and talk about deeper topics than we often get to, especially in person. I want to offer some topics and facilitation and see how it goes. I’ll bring my husband because he has fun uncle energy but also looks like the kind of guy you do not want to get on the wrong side of, just in case something threatens the safety of these meetings. Anyway, God willing things will line up to start these meet-ups soon. I’d be grateful for any advice and input from you all!
@KevinMakins4 ай бұрын
Bless. 🙏
@silly_on_4 ай бұрын
Doing God's work
@Jane_83194 ай бұрын
Mentors are super important and underrated! I had one growing up, and he has forever been like a second father or extra uncle for me
@jacobwebster64454 ай бұрын
Wow, I hadn’t realized this parasocial relationship I thought I was building with Jreg was actually us both just keeping our enemies close.
@janedoe79714 ай бұрын
So you're an introvert, right?
@willia_music4 ай бұрын
Another note, this is not a static chart. People that may reside in one circle can change and move to another. Friends can become rivals, lovers can become enemies, peers become friends, etc
@no-lifenoah7861Ай бұрын
Enemies can also become lovers
@Anastasia_14674 ай бұрын
The amount of people being weirded out by the overlap between lovers and family... You don't understand that in a good relationship your lover eventually becomes part of your family? A core part of your family, in fact. That's also why it's not overrated. That's a person you will raise your kids with, grow old with, they are as important as your family and more important, than your friends, because your friends will also have families of their own and you won't be their top priority, which is normal. Friendships come and go, and your spouse stays. But if we're talking about crushes or casual romantic relationships, then yes, they are not so important. Aside from that, great points! Mentors are super important and underrated.
@IbnRushd-mv3fp4 ай бұрын
People dismissed freudian ideas only to accept them as gospel today 🙈
@125friends84 ай бұрын
I hope this becomes top comment so people will stop asking.
@Anastasia_14674 ай бұрын
@magicalvoidgirl3246 True, but it doesn't have to be that way. I think it's in our power to be more selective about the people we date. And a good social network (community) plays an important part in that, because it helps you feel better about yourself and not chase every available person out of loneliness. I think Greg's message is important, I'm just afraid it can turn into "bros before hoes" type of thing for some people
@leli62913 ай бұрын
I actually disagree. In my experience and what i have seen in the world it's the friends that stay and the lovers that come and go. Being lovers is much more unstable than being friends because it's based on attraction and being the same on so many levels and it often doesn't withstand the changes that come with time. With friends you already expect that you are different and going in different directions in life but you can still hang out. Of course there are a lot of friends that will come and go as well but some will stick around till the end of time with you. That's why i will never understand why lovers are valued so much more than friends in our society. Sure best case scenario is a lover that is also a (best) friend. But i will never have to worry about a friendship ending because i gained weight. A lover can find me less attractive when i gain weight, which impacts physical intimacy which can lead to hurt feelings and a relationship break up. I also never have to worry about a friend "cheating" on me with another friend. A lover relationship is just so much easier to break up and yet society puts so much pressure on us to make it the most important relationship in our life. I just don't get it.
@josephkass4773 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for making this. I am 23 and have thought at times about many of these concepts - the erosion of communities, how you would have had just as much to gain from the people in your life that you struggle with and clash with as you do from the people that you like. How people look to their romantic partner to be their everything (and how that's an impossible task), how mentorship is a lost relationship. You really brought this together in a great way and I hope that many more people see this.
@Buckleupbucko4 ай бұрын
Idk bro, Thorfinn was pretty badass when he said “I have no enemies” and I’m tryna be like him.
@mappplesirrup84734 ай бұрын
yeah thorfinn my mentor tbh
@nharo24424 ай бұрын
Thorfinn’s whole deal is that he sees others as rivals, and not enemies. He doesn’t want to see their downfall, he just wants to see them get better, and to get better himself, and the conflict between others seeing him as an enemy while he sees them as rivals is what drives the story’s central conflict.
@josephk.42004 ай бұрын
@@nharo2442 Read further into the story. In the part of Vinland Saga that depicts Thorfinn’s youth, he really does see most of the people around him as enemies, he seeks revenge. Later on as an adult he realizes his hatred was never going to help anyone, so he decided to do everything in his power to prevent deaths rather than deal it.
@dinninfreeman20144 ай бұрын
I don't have any more enemies (I already won)
@emschlef4 ай бұрын
Practicing jiu jitsu has helped me a lot with finding a mentor *and* being a mentor. It's so lovely having someone want the best for you, guiding you where/when need be, and then developing the skills to give back to new folks in the same way. It's also a great environment for me to find friendly rivalries! I have teammates at my same level who play a completely different style, and it's mutually beneficial for both of us to be tested and grow together.
@Wulk4 ай бұрын
Pov you said you don't like to hang out too much to your extroverted friend:
@manusgraham11594 ай бұрын
Mentors are massively essential, best bit of advice from this video
@Untoldanimations4 ай бұрын
I don’t even know what a mentor would look like. I don’t really look up to anyone or have anyone whose lifestyle I want to achieve. Where do you find motivation to seek that out?
@manusgraham11594 ай бұрын
@@Untoldanimations I'd probably consider myself a bit lucky being I found it comparably easy when compared to most people, essentially my guitar teacher through imparting more and more knoledge eventually became a mentor figure for me, I'd say if your looking for one, try and looknout for people who are not just knoledgable but passionate about that knoledge, I've had the same experience Greg mentioned where I hang out with alot of other musicians and they always find it a bit weird when I tell them I have a guitar teacher, almost like I'm too old for one, but I wouldn't have been able to go nearly as far in my skills without the advice from a wiser friend
@Untoldanimations4 ай бұрын
@@manusgraham1159 I find it really hard to find someone who is both way wiser than me (not saying I'm wise, I'm about average at best) and isn't trying to exploit me for their own benefit/ego. My college professors try to get me to do more unpaid research for them under the guise that getting more publications will make me look good. My old music teacher who I had for like 8 years as a kid just assigned me a bunch of learning before I could really see the bigger picture and decide where to take it, and then randomly texted me years to write a positive review for her singing lessons (I did piano, not singing!). I don't think I have anyone in my life wiser than me by whom I'm inspired or that I want to be more like. I had no relationship with my previous bosses and I certainly was not impressed by them either.
@PitchBlackForge4 ай бұрын
@@Untoldanimations how old are you? what are your interests?
@Untoldanimations4 ай бұрын
@@PitchBlackForge 21. These days my interests are animal rights, academic research, circus/performing arts
@gwinpro11724 ай бұрын
i was so confused why this video wasn’t obscured by seven and a half levels of irony before realizing it’s his second channel
@kovici72262 ай бұрын
“i have no enemies” roast was SO REALLL
@rumplstiltztinkerstein4 ай бұрын
For thousands of years we had societies built on mentorship and pupils. If you want to become a knight, first you need to be a squire. If you need to become an artisan, you need to find a master at the guild. If you want to become a priest, you start by learning from other priests as a student. Schools bastardized the concept of mentorship where the pupil CHOOSES their master. It is a lost art. Maybe this is one of the reasons why so many adults are lost.
@Ardorstorm2 ай бұрын
The problem is that there aren’t ever going to be enough mentors in the world for every student to have someone to learn from, not unless we manage to normalize EVERYONE sharing their knowledge in some way, which would be a miracle. School broke the concept, then the internet shattered it
@powderedphantom57654 ай бұрын
Man this feels like getting a lecture from my older self. I keep complaining about shit mentally and overthinking shit when I just need to accept that a big thing in my life I'm missing is courage and the refinement to express my true self in a productive way. Idk if you were playing a bit of a character or not but thanks for the talk man. I was putting too much pressure on the lover category because I thought they're meant to be able to deal with everything. Thanks so much man
@ungrave52314 ай бұрын
You forgot the lady at convenience store check out
@quinnholleman15474 ай бұрын
That could probably fall under "Acquaintance"
@ungrave52314 ай бұрын
@@quinnholleman1547 no it's something more, you can't tell me otherwise
@quinnholleman15474 ай бұрын
@@ungrave5231 The small overlap between acquaintances and friends?
@youtubeuserdan40174 ай бұрын
@@quinnholleman1547The convenience store lady is the intersection of all these categories.
@quinnholleman15474 ай бұрын
@@youtubeuserdan4017 The convenience store lady was us the whole time?
@mirtorande4 ай бұрын
I'm glad you made a chart. I like looking at charts. They make so much sense. I like things that make sense.
@small.clover4 ай бұрын
MAN IS ON A **ROLL** THIS YEAR, BANGER AFTER BANGER (on this channel)
@silly_on_4 ай бұрын
Everything this man puts out is pure gold that nourishes humanity with almost unparalleled art and wisdom.
@autumntaylor25334 ай бұрын
I think my particular age group has a very palpable fear of conflict. As much as I've tried to make friends in college, it's either gone down the road of some sort of conflict that neeeever gets properly addressed (no material how hard I tried) or them trying to shame me into thinking the same way they think, and seeing then out other's down for their own gain. It's definitely taken a toll on my own mental health? So I've kinda have had to start from square one in finding ways to build healthy friendships/relationships
@grain96404 ай бұрын
I didn't make any friends in college. People were really politically agressive, while being simultaneously REALLY scared of disagreement. Even people who I liked. Sometimes the "chillest" people were just the most fearful. People prodded me into joining their discussions, deliberately misinterpreted my words, yelled at me as a group, and then pretended it didn't happen the next day? wtf
@dann100004 ай бұрын
Are you guys growing up in cults? Because you're describing 1:1 cult behavior -> no other opinions allowed, insecurity
@ende0_04 ай бұрын
I've noticed this too. People seem so metaphoricallly terrified of stepping on your foot they end up denying they ever did. So nothing gets discussed properly ever. Or getting a clear opinion is impossible bc they want to cover all their bases and not upset any possible party it ends up a mess that means nothing.
@autumntaylor25334 ай бұрын
@grain9640 this is so real though!! Yeah I went to an art school and it was suuuper cliquey. Didn't matter if I has essentially the same views as them, there was just an air of "if you're not already with us, we don't know you." I mean, everyone's growing at that time, I know I had like, nothing figured out 2 or so years ago, but I think it can be a very uncharitable place.
@autumntaylor25334 ай бұрын
@@dann10000 less so cults, more like thinktanks and echo chambers
@SimplyMavAgain4 ай бұрын
i have all of these with the different voices in my head
@125friends84 ай бұрын
Real
@BasuraVidz4 ай бұрын
Watching this video made me feel depressive, awkward, and uncomfortable because i have none of these except for myself and family. Thanks a lot. 😊❤
@rosesapling724 ай бұрын
Digital peer here - you can get there, I just know it. We're in this together
@bigjoe80873 ай бұрын
@@rosesapling72Seconded.
@Ardorstorm2 ай бұрын
Same…
@criekstar4 ай бұрын
Idk what to think but watching this and looking at your friends makes me very sad and envious. Im happy for you and trying my hardest to make community where I'm at. I already feel the importance of what you say before you say it- its just hard to be the only one doing this.
@arec95814 ай бұрын
you're not alone I hope you can do it!
@herbertmoon9984 ай бұрын
"There are some people, who are just alone -I feel sad thinking about those people, I don't wanna think about it too much, cause it makes me feel sad" My desperation for someone who will engage with me, and that people can sense it, is the reason why I'll never have friends
@SebastianMartinezTX4 ай бұрын
Wow Greg! You really showed the relationship-havers with this one!
@pacotaco12464 ай бұрын
What about "devoted followers"
@shodanxx4 ай бұрын
No doubt will be introduced in future episode of the jrommunity jrera. Also, jreg is charismatic and wise enough we all want to join his future sex cult. That's like a whole episode of relationship dynamics right there !
@dinninfreeman20144 ай бұрын
wana be my devoted follower?
@dinninfreeman20144 ай бұрын
I'll follow you if you follow me
@rosesapling724 ай бұрын
cult members? :3
@Stellafera4 ай бұрын
I have a rival-category friend, it's great, he's the Ron Swanson to my Leslie Knope and he always encourages me to deepen my political perspective by backing up all my bleeding heart leftism with genuine research.
@antifantastisch44674 ай бұрын
Who needs all that when heroin exists?
@WhatANiceMonth4 ай бұрын
Oh hey kurt
@swagmundfreud6664 ай бұрын
Hi Lane.
@WhatANiceMonth4 ай бұрын
@@swagmundfreud666 I LOVE LAINE
@MassiveDestructionSP4 ай бұрын
If only making friends was easy... I have been in clubs with the same people for years and managed to walk out of it with no friendships, even when going out of my way
@chief_tobias_4 ай бұрын
I'm so completely starved of a worthy rival. Having enemies is great.
@PitchBlackForge4 ай бұрын
I hate you. There you go. Now compete with me,.
@125friends84 ай бұрын
@@PitchBlackForgeI think you intimidated him too much
@shotsniper0094 ай бұрын
Definitely agree with mentor. After all the non toxic older people left my life I realized how much more I could of been. Especially with the toxic older people that I do still have in my life it took me so long to realize they were lost and leading down their same mistakes. But I'm kinda getting this adulting thing down finally. Ill do the whole lovers thing later right now I just wanna make money completely break free of toxic relationships and fund furries to hack more of my political opponents.
@nekopop81594 ай бұрын
Lmao that last part
@hazey_dazey4 ай бұрын
I've been wanting a mentor SO bad for the past few years. I realized that it would be so comforting to have someone with life and skill experience that I can look up to and aspire to be. And i've literally wanted a best friend since i was a kid. I thought i had one for a bit, but we barely talk now. Never thought i'd want a rival, but you've convinced me 😂
@week1673 ай бұрын
Good luck
@Millie-um2bi4 ай бұрын
As a disabled person who struggles to leave the house, I don't appreciate the Discord friend shade. My disabled discord friends shares my joys and griefs and provide me so much more support than most people I see irl. Discord friends can be super super valuable for many people.
@esoopthederp76724 ай бұрын
Watch his other videos on atomization if you wanna know more about why he shades internet friends, it’s why he says it’s better then nothing but still bad compared to physical community Sometimes our situations prevent us from optimal scenarios, but that dosent make those scenarios no longer broadly optimal
@zeydalynn86344 ай бұрын
I think it’s great but it still shouldn’t be treated as anything more than a substitute for scratching the real itch that we all need. Nothings wrong with having discord friends but we all need more than that. You are right, though, that it’s a privilege to be connected to an in person community.
@bro9184 ай бұрын
Eh, not everyone needs more than that
@esoopthederp76724 ай бұрын
@@bro918 man I don’t know how you’ve ended up here if you fundementally disagree with the main point this KZbinr has been arguing for the past 9 months
@nicholasjacobson37124 ай бұрын
He literally said it was better than nothing. Discord friends are not as good as real people. They can provide support. Both can be true.
@redstarplaysguitar85014 ай бұрын
I’d say the hard thing about friends/ not locking yourself in a room trying to improve by yourself, for me at least, is that you feel you’re not good enough to be around friends and to work more before you can.
@arcanewarrior8634 ай бұрын
This exactly. I don't feel I am worthless, but I feel everyone treats me like I am, like to their subjective standards I'm not good enough. So I'll sometimes try to improve but always burn out. Every time I've tried to put myself out there without fully doing all the work I feel the same results, feeling used, infantilised and degraded
@HunterAllan4 ай бұрын
as a homeschooler, I grew up hanging out with people in all sorts of ages groups, I don't understand why some people have a problem with hanging out with people significantly older than themselves. having a mentor is definitely underrated.
@anonemaus44454 ай бұрын
I find rivalry often comes from some of my closest friends but only in specific contexts. As you noted rivals, are often similar to yourself and therefore good candidates for friends as well.
@periwinklesprinkles4 ай бұрын
I want a rival so bad genuinely. during different points in life I’ve had one and it made me so much happier and more motivated. it made me better able to improve myself
@asalaj58854 ай бұрын
I'm happy for you genuinely for having these
@dsdebate29884 ай бұрын
I realized halfway through this video that this chart also includes all of the major characters roles you find within a Pokémon game
@angrymurloc76264 ай бұрын
You have pokemon games with dating? 😅 but yeah it's an escapist fantasy, like a functioning society based on animal fighting
@Ardorstorm2 ай бұрын
@@angrymurloc7626 The fact that the functioning communities in Pokemon are what make it an escapist fantasy and not the rise to glory and fame through supernatural monster battles and widespread animal companions that require very little maintenance is a depressing truth about our society
@BouArts2 ай бұрын
Gran conexión
@PersianLeonidus4 ай бұрын
I would argue that your relationship with yourself is rated. Yeah you should never be only by yourself, but you need yourself to put effort into your social relationships. If you don't even have a relationship qith yourself, it's hard to have and maintain the social relationships you need in the future.
@ruthielalastor22094 ай бұрын
Had a rival-to-lover relationship. They were just so good that I kept getting more and more impressed. 😆
@Nagasakevideo4 ай бұрын
You should do a video about social relationships you shouldn't have.
@dann100004 ай бұрын
Just for inspiration: - gossiper - the leech - the "I need you to validate my superiority complex"-'friend' The list goes on
@octag0nist3 ай бұрын
@@dann10000 none of those things are "relationships"; they're dynamics/personality traits.
@dann100003 ай бұрын
@@octag0nist where do dynamics/personalities play out? exactly, in relationships
@luismigueldelatorregalvez94484 ай бұрын
For example i feel like almost all of these can be considered underrated in the way in the present era.
@ninocraft14 ай бұрын
also i think you need someone that looks up to you so you can be accountable, like a younger sibling or a coworker that has less experience
@alexatanasiu69914 ай бұрын
like the inverse of the mentor relationship
@jessegenao32904 ай бұрын
Mentee, protégé, kouhai
@Val-d9p4 ай бұрын
Amen to just having a lover being overrated. I broke up with my ex and I was incredibly depressed for months. I'm only ¼ through the video, but folks-- consider hobbies that get you outside, so like, photography or hiking. Being outside and having fun makes life a lot better. Be well, folks.
@noaag4 ай бұрын
I loved my photo 101 class!!! And i'm so stoked to keep going, for the rest of my life. Photography is an amazing hobby. It's "easy" to make beautiful works. Gets you outside. Acceptable in male gender norms. Genuinely super fulfilling.
@CLurker14 ай бұрын
I think this is unironically one of the most interesting videos youve posted yet
@potmki66013 ай бұрын
You’re stressing so much that it is not weird to have a mentor, and then tell us to be on a look out for a personal enemy pretty much in a passing 😭
@AwakeInNaptown4 ай бұрын
God Bless the Pokémon Go Community leaders out there
@nel71054 ай бұрын
Had a mentor who passed away a couple years ago. I dont think you can go shopping for them because they just happen when they happen
@MegaVega20074 ай бұрын
I haven't spoken to another human that wasn't my family for 4 months and I was talking to a waiter
@bethanyward90434 ай бұрын
You should change that, buddy. Go to a bar and play some pool with a bunch of strangers. Or volunteer at your local library/soup kitchen. Get outside.
@MegaVega20074 ай бұрын
@@bethanyward9043 I can't go to a bar in my country sadly since I'm -18 I am extroverted but also have social anxiety so it is hard for me to do those things, especially when so many people don't even want to socialize anymore. thank you for your concern, though.
@MegaVega20074 ай бұрын
@@bethanyward9043 sadly I can't go to bars cuz of my age. I wish I could talk to other ppl casually but social anxiety prevents me from that, even though I'm extroverted and need socialization. I would rather just rot away at a computer screen 24.7. Thank you for the concern tho
@bethanyward90434 ай бұрын
@@MegaVega2007 Aw bud:( Try therapy for your social anxiety, and you can still volunteer at a library (if you're at least 15/depending on where you are). It's a nice slow way to meet more people- accidental self-imposed exposure therapy helped me with my social anxiety. Way easier said than done, but I believe in you.
@rcoppy4 ай бұрын
@@bethanyward9043 +1 for libraries! stacking books on shelves is fun :)
@choux83724 ай бұрын
I agree with the enemies and rivals thing! When I was in school facing bullies, I worked my butt off to become the greatest artist in school! And I did, I got the friends AND the clout that I wanted, which only made the bullies angrier, and made me work even harder. But now that I don't have any adversaries, I feel like my drive has lessened.
@week1673 ай бұрын
Big ups to you🎉🎉🎉🎉 From my experience, what you're experiencing is due to your source of motivation being absent (bullies).
@Mephmt4 ай бұрын
As a 42 year old Millennial, I'm so proud of Gen Z picking up on the things that I'm just now picking up on. This kind of thing should be taught in elementary school and reinforced throughout your life where possible.
@VacantSilver3 ай бұрын
My tip for lover is that it should always fit another group as well. It should always be a lover / best friend or lover / rival etc. situation
@Ardorstorm2 ай бұрын
True, just NOT enemies
@alexanderdinkov80024 ай бұрын
Here are some other types of community leaders: - The peers of your mentor are sometimes also community leaders. For example - if your mentor is an expert in the movie industry, they and some of their peers may also be community leaders of the movie creator community. After all, being community leader simply means that a significant part of that community choose to follow the person. - People with authority, relative to the size of their general community. In a town, that may be the mayor. In a small village, even the local doctor might be important enough to be a community leader. But in a huge city... it's hard to have that much relative authority. - Club Organisers: So... imagine a group of people gathering in a place, drinking coffee together and talking about topics of common interest. It could be a literature club, a political discussion club or even a postal stamp collector club. The dude that organised this club is by definition a community leader. - The modern internet version such clubs, may be the Fan Clubs. So... teenage girls that "stan" some K-Pop singer may actually have more community leader relationships in their life than you and me. :D
@StarJester4 ай бұрын
HAHA as a former kpoppie you're so right about kpop communities and fandoms in general. On social media some fan accounts gain prominence for their work (posting real time updates, providing translations, creating fanart) over time and grow enough of a following to organize all sorts of projects where other fans can pitch in some time or money to support the group
@alexanderdinkov80024 ай бұрын
@@StarJester Basically - whenever people truly care about something (the type of people that don't need to think hard when they are asked "so what do you like to do in your free time"), they are bound to find peers and connect with people. I used to be like that about learning Kung Fu. :D I'm sure that people who collect postal stamps are the same.
@sou93294 ай бұрын
I would a video of you talking about how you went about finding a mentor: what pushed you to do it, the process, what you looked for, how it’s impacted you, etc. !!
@Getsadandstuff4 ай бұрын
I feel attacked
@shodanxx4 ай бұрын
Enemies !!
@JohnnyVegas3254 ай бұрын
That’s good! I think you should examine that
@MatthewKelley-mq4ce4 ай бұрын
Don't we all.
@peffricklongjohns91684 ай бұрын
Seeing videos like these as an introvert is always very scary. I value a strong community but maintaining all these different relationships sounds really difficult…
@The_Hell_Lord4 ай бұрын
you don't want enemies if you're in an organized crime structure
@Tarik3603 ай бұрын
Problem is that it's impossible to not have that in such a profession. Even if you're the most affable person on the planet, your enemy becomes the law.
@theelectricant983 ай бұрын
If your lover shares some of your interests and values, it is a lot easier to integrate them with your other relationships. I've been really lucky to be able to see mine forge friendship with my best friends. Also, as a law student working in legal aid currently, the mentorship of a couple of the attorneys there has totally changed my life and outlook for the better over the course of this year.
@kelsanna1434 ай бұрын
Honestly I’ve found going to church to be a good way of having most of these relationships
@jessegenao32904 ай бұрын
This makes sense but I’m an English speaking Buddhist. Does anyone have any experience with finding community in Buddhist temples and the like? It seems to be a benefit but I wonder if it’d be mostly elders and not too many peers?
@meowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww4 ай бұрын
religious/spiritual temples/communities are great places to build social relationships, specially now that we're living in a time where so many third places are ceasing to exist
@bigjoe80873 ай бұрын
This makes sense to me, after all, places like churches or spiritual centers harbor communities of people. Glad to see they still exist
@Ardorstorm2 ай бұрын
I _would_ go to church if I just didn’t have to buy into the religion and constantly be _exclusively_ around people who do. Churches are a natural community center and one of the only ones that haven’t gone away, but going to church in the south means you can all but guarantee that your only friends are going to be bible thumpers that you can’t relate to if you aren’t one of them yourself.
@larklearningtopray57724 ай бұрын
You should add neighbors as an overlapping circle with acquaintances! It's so sad how many people don't know their neighbors these days. There are so many lonely people out there who could be a lot less lonely if they got to know the other lonely fellows down the street.
@stalesourdough4 ай бұрын
this is actually exactly what i needed to hear right now thank u jregory this was an eye-opening video 🙏
@ledores3294 ай бұрын
I love the idea and execution of this video! What would make it better would be some kind of supporting text or articles to back your ideas. Otherwise it seems really lecture-like when you could really turn this into a more informative/educational one.
@noaag4 ай бұрын
What is a lecture except informative and educational? Lectures are a good thing to me. I take notes on lecture so I can pass the exam. I don't think you need hard sociological evidence to find this stuff agreeable and thought provoking. He's not making numerical claims here or referencing studies. But I see your point, and agree that evidence would make the content more hard-hitting. There are good anecdotes in here but it feels like not much research was done, this is more like his personal theory/model based on his own life experiences. He's very well spoken and charismatic so I find it hard to care, but I really should care.
@ledores3294 ай бұрын
@@noaag exactly! I’m glad you get it.
@NobodyssGirl4 ай бұрын
So this is what my sleep paralysis demon does while Im awake.
@g.i.r.l.Ай бұрын
The fact that this channel started out for to attract all completely distirbed people, and os now genuinely helping is so fantastic. I dont think this could have been planned any better
@schnedwob43864 ай бұрын
The chart goes hard, I'm glad you made it.
@baba_beda4 ай бұрын
i realised recently about how much i'm seeking peers and rivals in my life lately. and how often i would assign these to lovers and be attracted to people because of this rivalry energy, but then the rivalry would turn towards our interpersonal situations and that was deeply heartbreaking.
@malachiwonder68004 ай бұрын
Some of those yellows should definitely be greens
@kasperkappe90663 ай бұрын
Normally your videos just make me confused, but this was actually some solid life advice
@EscPointDev4 ай бұрын
Thanks for making this video. I would love to have a rival, nothing seems more fun that competing with someone, wanting to beat them but also wanting them to succeed. I need to try harder and reach out to other game developers.
@drpepperm1nt3 ай бұрын
at my university we have a mentorship program for 1st year students and it's been quite effective
@rasyidpamuji72193 ай бұрын
Uoft has a similar program too, its quite effective so far
@viktoriab42934 ай бұрын
"I dont know why i made a chart, i have autism " that last line killed me 😂
@zeydalynn86344 ай бұрын
Another one is mentee. You kinda mentioned it already but from the mentors perspective getting to share what you already know is super fulfilling. You can have both a mentor and a mentee because any mentor you have probably might have a mentor as well.
@abcbcd18344 ай бұрын
This is great. A life of rich, meaningful connections is something to strive for. Excellent video as always jregory
@thundrbunny3 ай бұрын
Strangers are under rated truly the bastion of things you never would have considered
@wheresmymumy4 ай бұрын
I'm also finding it important to have mentees that you are able to be a role model for in some specific field. And some cross section between enemies and mentors for that one trash boss that actually teached you a lot
@grain96404 ай бұрын
For me that cross section is that one asshole professor. I studied like never before in that class.