Relaxing/Texlaxing My Natural Hair After 3 Years

[@princessfly9052]

Being natural is a hassle not easy at all so i feel u... its ur hair do as u please

[@actmommy]

Amoonz Perspective thank you! I still admire natural hair. I think it’s beautiful. I have a medically complex child and it just doesn’t allow me the time to dedicate to it like I’d want to right now. But I still love natural hair.

[@shaniathemen]

It's not a hassle in my opinion when I was relaxed my hair was thick full and long and my mom took great care for my hair but after some time it became boring.

[@kailamoore5331]

Being natural is easy to me, but ofc everyone had different experiences and find things easier than others.

[@tonniebracey8231]

Agree...I can so relate. I've been natural now for 14 yrs. It's at the length wear it's tiring (mid back). I don't look forward to wash and detangling days. I've started to wear blow outs but that lasts two days if I'm lucky...roots curl right back up as soon as I sweat. With being a full-time Mom I no longer have the energy or motivation to deal.

[@sassyrarebreed9914]

Yesss, You have to what best for you and not follow Trends. Everyone is different and I hate when I see people pass judgment/ have to comment on somebody else and what they decide to do with their body and hair. This trend will pass LOL also when people talk about the chemical aspect holistic practitioner I always tell them you worry about the perm there was in your hair but you not that conscientious about what you're putting in your body and on your skin. If you going to be natural all the way around be consistent. I know a lot of people who are relaxed / texturized and their hair is healthy. People don't realize no matter whether it's natural or relaxed if you don't take care of it won't be healthy.

[@chasturner84]

Love this new relaxed hair community. Do what you want with your hair.

[@actmommy]

chasturner84 thank you! But whew!....folks are maaaaad 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@siennaluvskz]

Same, I’m relaxing my hair soon for the new year, and because I’m SICK and tired of dealing with my natural hair 😭

[@koko87371]

The relaxed/texlaxed hair community is more inclusive while the natural hair community isn’t

[@Lanilottie]

Same ! Been natural for 5 years after my big chop and I can’t wait to relax next month lool

[@angre6422]

I think relaxers are coming back. I’ve been thinking about it too

[@edmenfranky9893]

Do you boo !! Natural hair take 3-5 buisness days to do, and that’s just drying time. Be great and do what makes you happy ❤️❤️

[@daublex2388]

3-5 business days!? Oh my goodness 🤣 true tho...

[@nativenation11]

LMBO 3-5 business days

[@R.G.LovesBooks]

Lol

[@kbb649]

Lol🤣

[@LimitlessBloom]

Not business days 😂😂😂😭

[@Jazminfields]

All I want is longer natural hair .

[@mochamommyATX]

It will happen. Try the Taliah Waajid vitamins and the Tropic Isle living growth system

[@naturalhairchickonabudgett849]

🥳🥳🥳 Me too I’m almost waist length without ever using heat!

[@solarlola5953]

Check out indigenous strandz channel..I’ve been retaining length

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

Don't cut it. It'll eventually grow long.

[@NinthJewel]

Natural Hair Chick On a Budget TV what’s ur hair type and regimen?

[@shaunadubb2777]

It’s just hair. The wonderful thing is, you can always go natural again if you choose. It came out beautiful ❤️

[@actmommy]

shauna walters and that’s all I’m saying. It’s hair. We have the luxury of going back and forth. I may shave it next year. Who knows. Thank you so much!

[@justaunpopulargirl8463]

Then let white girls wear braids and have afros

[@kamariahollins1813]

THANK YOU💖

[@shaniathemen]

@@justaunpopulargirl8463 It's impossible for a white girl to have a afro hun

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

@JamericanDC1 Lol.. It's still just hair. (Of course our DNA and genetics are involved. That's our makeup..hahahaha.. what a stretch).

[@cee2random]

It’s crazy how we go natural and “protect” our hair by wearing wigs and weave, and in some cases we end up damaging our hair more in the process. I’ve been natural twice in my adult life and I just recently “tex-laxed” my hair so that I can spend more time with my family, and focus less on my hair. No regrets.

[@Safiyyrh]

Tootally agree sis. Makeup too isn’t natural and most naturalistas apply makeup. Why don’t dey attack it??

[@rizzjohnson1644]

Absolutely I agree. 🌺

[@Yentl97]

Please tell me what is a texlax? I want to do it too..

[@rfr2703]

@@Yentl97 u leave the relaxer for a little bit x

[@AnimalLover2400]

im about to do the same. I love natural hair but the maintenance is just too much sometimes, especially as someone who does not wear wigs, weaves, or braids

[@Lynn-gw7he]

I just textlaxed my hair after almost 3 years of being natural. I used mild and added olive oil to dilute the relaxer even more. I didn’t want straight hair. I just wanted it to be less time consuming. Well it is about 15% straighter. I’m happy for it. Still type 4 hair. Just an easier wash day. So I completely understand. Your hair is beautiful.

[@actmommy]

Lynn G thank you very much! That’s pretty much what I was going for. I’m not a fan of bone straight thin relaxed hair but that’s to each their own too ya know lol I just needed it to be more manageable.

[@tanisha.r.thomas]

Yes. And if you are a hater...I live at XXX Springbok drive....feel free to drop by to do my hair anytime🤣🤣🤣

[@Lynn-gw7he]

Ymane23 ! Self hate IS definitely real. Many naturals wear wigs and weaves every day because they don’t like their hair. I digress. Who are you referring to?

[@Lynn-gw7he]

Ymane23 ! Thanks troll 🤗

[@solarlola5953]

Ymane23 ! I would not call it hate..the truth is natural hair is very stressful( depending on texture) to manage and style. I’m still natural but it’s by Gods Grace. .

[@marshaanis4057]

I went back to a relaxer because it's my damn hair and I will do as I damn well please with it period!

[@Kat_Beezy]

Marsha Pierre Sis 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@ambermcfadden3520]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Ash.99]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@raic3283]

💯

[@drmimzz309]

Word!

[@Tyansofficial84]

I'm 1yr relaxed after 13yrs & I'm stress free on the hair front. I'm not going natural until I'm 80 Lol

[@actmommy]

13 years!?!? God bless you lol I just feel so much more....relaxed 😂

[@Tyansofficial84]

@@actmommy Yes & I never really enjoyed my hair i kept finding ways to cover it up. So glad I did what was best for me & my lifestyle. Totally relaxed lol

[@Tyansofficial84]

@Ymane23 ! Sorry to you & your mother go troll somewhere else

[@shaniathemen]

@Ymane23 ! Okay listen here lady I'm never going to relax my hair ever again but if somebody else want to let them. It ain't your damn hair !!

[@naturalhairchickonabudgett849]

Ymane23 ! 🥳🥳🥳Actually you’d be surprised at how many men love their women natural hair and there mostly young men! Who have embraced their own natural hair texture! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@motivationmonster482]

It can’t it won’t it Doesn’t. ItsNOT. 😂😂 girl I died. You deff over it.

[@boring.3486]

NaturallyFitNadia that was a mood

[@KeaneLuvr]

I was looking for this comment so I wouldn't repeat it. LOL!!😂

[@motivationmonster482]

😂😂

[@krishondandy4221]

It's so mind boggling that people are so up in arms when women decide to relax THEIR hair...Noone owes anyone an explanation on what they decided to do with their hair...If like relaxed then relax...If you're team natural, then do you....it's a individual/person decision!!!... PERIODT 🙄.... Your hair is BeAUTIFUL!

[@mintrivia7320]

the whole natural hair movement got all the type 3 girls riled up lol

[@nickyblackford1462]

Amen!

[@NubbyG05]

Well Said! 👏👏👏👏

[@BrittanyMega]

I LOVE my long natural hair, but I also LOVE watching these videos of black women relaxing their hair (or cutting off their really long hair). People really be mad at y’all like you just naired their hair while they slept. It looks great! 💛💛

[@faithyayi]

strange

[@blessed7015]

❤️

[@HairliciousInc]

Let me first start off by saying that I commend you for sharing your true honest feelings about the struggles you faced being natural and balancing life as a wife and mom. It’s not easy. Your natural and relaxed hair is so gorgeous!! Yesss I remember Ateyaaaa!! Aphogee Queen. Welcome to the TEAM!! #teamrelaxed 💕

[@dadaTunes]

This is so real. I prefer to wear my hair straight but my ends won’t cooperate. I just want a little straight with texture. I’m tired of wash DAYS. Plus I’m 8 months pregnant. I feel you girl.

[@actmommy]

MzQue I think that was my break down 😂 Being pregnant and fighting with my hair. I just had had it I guess. I despised wash days to the point where I wasn’t washing my hair nearly as often as I should. Good luck on your pregnancy and congratulations as well ❤️

[@dadaTunes]

Ciera Danielle Thank you! Congrats to you as well. I’m due the end of January so I’m almost there lol. Your hair turned out great!

[@airilamb8503]

MzQue I don’t know if you know this but relaxer is extremely bad for pregnancy !! My doctor warned me on my 2nd child that relaxers are extremely bad to use when you’re pregnant. I had to stop relaxing during my 2nd and 3rd pregnancy. Please take the time out to research what you’re putting on your head. (I am now back relaxed after my 3rd child)

[@dadaTunes]

Airi Lamb I’m sure it’ll be fine. They also say lunch meat is bad. Everything in moderation. Relaxing once isn’t going to hurt anything. This is my 4th baby so I don’t freak out about everything like with the first 2 😂 I appreciate the concern.

[@airilamb8503]

MzQue lunch meat is different from a relaxer tho.

[@muslissa3089]

Its so fitting for your name to be Ciera because you look just like Ciara 😍

[@boring.3486]

Muslissa she does!

[@KeaneLuvr]

She reminds me of Halle Berry

[@ambermcfadden3520]

Ciara😕 never. she favors and her voice sounds like Tiara, scrap babymom on love and hip hop

[@nessaluu4949]

Don’t see it

[@shivairas6717]

Right

[@FayeInTheCity]

WELCOME TO THE TEAM!!!! I did it and have no regrets. And don’t be afraid to se the comments on this video to “pending approval”. I had to do it because the hate is REAL. Do you and enjoy your life!

[@actmommy]

Faye In The City I’m so glad to be back lol And thank you! I didn’t even think to adjust the comments on here because I can honestly say I did not expect all of this. I mean dang...it’s literally just hair. Thank you so much ❤️

[@tonniebracey8231]

Yes! Let black women be free to CHOOSE what's best for themselves. Black women need to stop bashing other black women and respect our choices. We don't all have the same history experiences or lifestyle so what works for you may not work for someone else. Trolls: Stop forcing your beliefs onto your sisters. That's just another form of mental oppression. I've been natural for 14 hrs. And Natural hair is not low maintenance for my thick long tresses. It's a hassle. It's time consuming. It hurts. Nothing to do with the visual aspects, everything to do with the physical aspects. My arms cramp up it's tiring

[@tonniebracey8231]

Short natural hair may be hassle free but long natural hair absolutely isn't.

[@c0smecc]

Geilila Z it’s more like the other way around

[@beautifulllb9493]

But it didn’t work for you either, you had to big chop too lol natural is the best way to go at the end of the day, you just have to be patient and caring to your tresses. Just wish BW would stop lying to themselves and admit they just don’t know how to manage their hair in its natural state smh

[@CinemaDoll137]

Just going to keep binging on these natural to relaxed vids until I build up the courage to do it which is hopefully next week. Today, I told myself that I was going to straighten my hair and....yeah, once again, it was too tiring for me to do on my own and I'm tired of being overcharged because my hair is nappy 🌚. After about 5-6 hours of attempting a rollerset and press then a bantu knot out then press, drying my hair for over an hour, I said fuck it and threw on a wig. Update: I did it and I feel better now. Wash day is a breeze lol

[@airilamb8503]

Hillary watch NG evidence for a better video on texlaxing this girl in the video didn’t do it correctly.

[@zordiahwhite5315]

You and me both!!

[@paisleepineapple2291]

I'm in the same position girl lol trying to muster up the courage to relax

[@CultureKingdomKids]

Hillary I feel stressed because I don’t want anyone to say that I am Being a traitor to my heritage.

[@sassyrarebreed9914]

@@CultureKingdomKids It's not about what other people think do what is best for you. Don't worry about pack mentality.👌💞💝

[@jaicbacote3494]

Ateya?! Girl you went waaaaaaaay back in time 😂 YT OG fa real! 😂 3 kids, a husband and natural hair?! How did you not fall out from exhaustion?! 😳😩😂

[@tanisha.r.thomas]

I have......lol. I have the exact same circumstance and Im over hair period. If my husband wouldn't have acted funny-style after my my BC I would shave it all off..... Oh yeah....and my dog has the nerve to have long hair that has to be combed🤣😢

[@actmommy]

Whooh she was the GOAT back in the day!!! Don’t you remember lol But yes...I’m exhausted! And I have one on the way! I just couldn’t do it anymore ❤️

[@jaicbacote3494]

T. Thomas 😂🤣

[@shoryacione5175]

@@tanisha.r.thomas I'm glad you didn't shave it off thank God 😀

[@shelli523]

JaiC Bacote You missed the one on the way part lol

[@sandriais]

I’ve been natural for years and even though it can be a hassle, I can’t ever see myself relaxing. However, I’m not a mom or a wife so, if you say it’s too much, I definitely believe you. Do what’s best for you. So glad there were no regrets. And baby girl, with that little laugh and that little smile, is toooooo adorable! 😍😍 I’m the opposite of you. The left side of my hair is always thicker and longer.

[@Mona-mr1cd]

After about five years of going natural free of a perm I’m going to relax my hair as well. It’s just what fits my lifestyle best. I want something more easy and manageable and less mess and fuss. I’ve kept my hair in protective styles but now I want to be able to wear it straight, wash my scalp really good and actually do my hair in a style... so whatever is best for you and it meets your needs and your lifestyle do as you please .... your hair looks beautiful!!!!!

[@Kat_Beezy]

Mona619 I went back to relaxing after 5 years as well....right after the New Year! I used Creme of Nature’s Straight from Eden relaxer kit. It’s plant based relaxer and it wasn’t harsh on my hair at all! ♥️♥️

[@cleo6189]

Number one reason I'm going back to relaxing

[@___Victoria_sunny]

Wow relaxers ARE BACK!!!! YAY!

[@actmommy]

JA C SA I’m so glad to be back!

[@___Victoria_sunny]

@Promise You rude

[@nalaamour]

@Sheree Morgan speak the truth sis!!! I'm going back to relaxed tonight! This is ridiculous I'm tired of this mess and no dag on products works for me. I wasted so much money. I'm over it

[@INAN2222]

My sisters, I love you all, but I must dearly ask: what products were you all using? I fear the monetization of the natural hair community has resulted in the false perception that natural hair care must be expensive and time consuming! Bottled Olive oil/ coconut oil/ shea butter from your local grocery store, have priced merely ranging from $2-$10 and should last you for months. & While it is ideal to support black owned businesses (& I still do when financially feasible!), I have used cheap 'white girl shampoos" with nutritious hair benefits (aloe, sulfrate free, etc) and have been just fine! The aloe vera brand I use costs at most $3! I wear my 4c hair in two-strand twists and leave it be! Detangle once a week! I am concerned that many of us have been mis-informed by the corporate sphere of natural hair media! It should not be expensive and time consuming! We do not need to do wash & gos and twists outs every day! Low manipulation is possible! What did our ancestors do before colonization? They did not need $20 shampoos and special brushes! We do not either my sisters! :( I support Black women embracing self-agency and doing what brings them peace and happiness, but I cannot help but remember the internalized-antiblackness I felt as a young black girl, feeling that natural hair (especially natural 4c hair) is genetically unfavorable. The way we speak about natural hair concerns me, as if it was an unfortunate genetic mutation that has cursed the Black diaspora "difficult" and "unrealistic". I felt so hopeful that natural hair had finally become normalized, that little black girls could look to their moms and aunts and peers and no longer feel discomfort about their hair, to feel what little White and non-black girls feel: that their natural bodies are normal, valid, and welcomed. I know no-one in this comment section wishes to encourage harmful messages, but to little black girls hair is "not just hair". As a little black girl, when looked to the straight hair wig on my mother's head, and the straight weaves and perms on the black woman around me, and on the tv, and then looked back to my "nappy" head, i knew that hair was not "just hair". l always support women finding peace, but I will also express fear for our children. I was finally hoping that naturally kinky hair would be normalized in our society, present everywhere, welcomed, beautified, and accepted. We have regressed. Regardless, you look beautiful with your relaxed hair Mrs. Ciera, your feelings are valid.

[@velvetvel9763]

@@INAN2222 Too bad no one acknowledged this!! I do the same as you, and my hair is almost to my waist using oil and water. I make my own shampoo! Never have I had a perm...

[@yinthecancer2806]

I’m so jealous of your hair😩😩😩 When you said this is 3 years worth of hair I was like omg look at my 7 years worth of hair it isn’t even up to 5 inches

[@stormstorm7396]

Just keep it braided a lot of black women don't know we're not supposed to wash our hair every week or every month

[@itsjustkeria]

Bby Yin learn your hair porosity, moisturize, use silk or satin hair scarf/ bonnet, rice water, jamaican black castor oil .. but learning your hair porosity will most definitely help you grow your hair better, healthier and longer. remember everyone hair is different❤️ *sidenote* protein treatments are MIRACLE WORKERS (i personally prefer a homemade kind)

[@hadizaa702]

keep it hydrated/moisturized , wash every 2-3weeks or whenever you feel best, braid it or wear protective styles to keep the moisture in for days. use oils to lock in moisture and honestly just have fun experimenting

[@victorias5272]

I've been natural for 10. I'm just now growing it back after buzzing off the sides and back for a cute short style. Using Blue Magic hair grease and hair skin and nails gummies are helping me get and retain some length. Good luck!

[@7777beth]

Uglie Duckling you summarized it so well. That’s all we need

[@llanneg.v.c545]

I’m natural with 4Z Hair (yeah I made that up cuz its that coarse) and I love it. I have been natural for over 20 years before It was a trend and let me tell you...THIS HAIR DRIVES ME NUTS at times. I have had the most beautiful hairstyles and gorgeous twists, but like you said, shampooing and detailing, and blow drying ...Chile. It’s been flat ironed, ironed, laced, Locked (LOOOVED the locks) and now I’m rocking a short boy cut like they do in the motherland. PEACE AND GREASE. Don’t feel bad. I feel yah LOL

[@ShadesofSage]

Lol, my sister, Tiyaná Hicks, calls her hair 4Z as well! I thought she made it up😄! You can check out her channel if you’d like ☺️!

[@terriandrews3785]

😂

[@amoraisonguyo9618]

honestly...i made the best decision to relax my natural hair that i had for two years. i was so happy, and now it's growing ! If ur considering relaxing ur hair, DO IT !! this is me telling u to DO IT !!

[@sailorhill1085]

Three years being natural. I couldn’t do it anymore. I just finished relaxing my hair. My head feels sooooooo good! This southern heat don’t play, I walked outside and when I walked back in... my hair wasn’t holding heat like a furnace. Free at last.

[@janelouw402]

😂

[@KAELUHXECEO]

I did this on Sunday and let’s just say I no longer talk to a lot of people because of how they bashed me for doing what’s best for me and MYYY hair 🥴

[@candidoll81]

g

[@rses916]

Wow

[@relaxinginpeace1310]

People get their panties all in a bunch over things that doesn't affect their lives at all lol

[@sashaay22]

That’s crazy that they really bashed you !

[@hillsraphael2145]

And it's not even about them..this world where people want us to live for them ..... and live to the standards and norms that they believe is the appropriate way..... yes girl let them be...they are never there to help with anything anyway. 💃💃💃

[@ijehmakuochiconfidence6085]

The way your daughter was laughing when you were telling her not to perm her hair is so adorable. ❤️❤️

[@justmetori4645]

Damn everybody is going back relaxed 😭😭. Beautiful Beautiful results tho ❤️. Your daughter is so beautiful too. I understand how hard natural hair can be to manage sometimes. I don’t blame you

[@libfuzzy4629]

Only people with type 4 are going back relaxed 😂

[@hawaiianBombshell]

Did it after 7 years. I'm so happy

[@tuesdaymckenzis3994]

Facts

[@monalieza6248]

Great video. Beautiful hair. I feel you sista. I just texlaxed my hair after almost 5years being natural. I don't care what people think or say. Cause they ain't there or helping me if my hair is acting up, if I need a style. We don't always have a good hair day.. Girl now that I know more about caring for hair my texlaxed came out perfect.. Better then years ago. ❤️

[@actmommy]

EllaBella Kramp and that’s all that matters! You can have beautiful long hair natural or relaxed. Neither is superior to me. Thank you so much ❤️

[@chinflawless]

Your hair looks beautiful both ways. I loved the fro and I’m loving the new look as well. I’m like you at this point. I have 3 kids one of them is 7 months and I have no time for my natural hair. I’m about to be back on the creamy crack.

[@msxoladyluckxo]

I’ve been having these same exact thoughts. This is literally the most honest and relatable video I’ve ever seen on KZbin. Thank you so much for posting this. ❤️

[@theetravelhippie]

girrrrrlll thank you for that intro, I’m so on the fence about the creamy crack after being natural for 8 years

[@KayleenMukire]

It’s beautiful both ways girl ❤️ I’ve cried about it too 😭. Girls with 3c hair are saying “4c hair is beautiful” it may be, but it is a STRUGGLE. I honestly don’t wanna be natural anymore I want to texturize it but I feel like I’ve come so far so idk what to do.

[@100230058]

Girl Go for it!! I texlaxed about 3 months ago after 4 years of natural and LOVE it!! I can wash and rollerset or wash and blowdry in about an hour! And my hair is super thick with or without a relaxer! My schedule just didn’t allow all day hair days anymore with 3 girls. You have to do whats best for you! Kudos!

[@esthersworld4884]

What texlaxer do you use? Thanks

[@100230058]

lilma latifa mizani butter blend

[@actmommy]

Ok! When I say my hair is a breeze now! I’m not almost in tears doing my hair. Wasting my day. I have nothing against natural. I think it’s beautiful! I just needed low maintenance. And I got it! I’m glad you’re enjoying your hair now too!

[@100230058]

Ciera Danielle not to mention the reduced shrinkage with the weather lol.. im not 50 yard dashing when it’s sprinkling outside

[@aliciabraison6450]

Q

[@PLAYG1RL07]

Girl you really just spoke what's been in my spirit for a while. My 12 yr olds hair is past your length now and it takes me damn near 2 days to do her hair in a protective style then turn around and do MY hair. With school, planning a wedding, work, being a mom and my child and myself have disabilities I just cant do it no more. You made my mind up for me sis, I'm slapping a perm in TODAY! As soon as I go to the store to get some keratin and protein conditioner to help repair the bonds that the relaxer breaks I will be kissing this 5 years natural good bye. I did a big chop down to 2 inches and so its 5 yrs worth of all natural hair that will be RELAXED!

[@livonderqondile1340]

this gave me courage l wont lie ....natural hair is just a struggle sometimes yes its beautiful but its just hair.....l am going to relax my hair .....l happy l watched this video

[@DW-li1jn]

Seun Okimi page has great tips on protective styles and Hairlicious page has excellent relax day video.

[@ohsoojazzy5182]

You took it back!! I still go back and watch Ateya’s old videos! I miss those days. Your baby is so beautiful 😍

[@actmommy]

OhSooJazzy yes the KZbin OG lol The good old days! Thank you so much ❤️

[@niac9568]

Ateya! A REAL throwback! Lol I used to model my hair regimen after her when I was relaxed back in ‘12-‘13

[@solarlola5953]

I almost textlaxed due to frustration ...then I discovered indigenous strandz channel ..changed everything

[@neesieb6772]

Damn girl you kept it sooo damn REAL YO!!! I'm crying watching you do this to your BEAUTIFUL natural hair. However, I TOTALLY understand. I'm literally intimidated by my natural hair, especially when its wet. I'm also afraid to wash it on a regular bc of it being SOOO much to deal with (detangling) And for days...I GET YOU GIRLFRIEND. I've been natural since before it was a "trend." I wore it faded out, dreads, t.w.a., you name it. With all that said, you did what was best for YOU and your lifestyle. Your hair is STILL GORGEOUS!!😍 I'm praying for you. MUUUCH RESPECT!!

[@molovefive9]

You’re hair looks great! Do what’s best for you 👏🏾. I was thinking of becoming a straight natural for a while . I don’t want to ever relax again because I want to wear it curly again. You know, switch thangs up.

[@getreal4real169]

Love this video. It was relaxing to watch. No pun intended. Your hair came out nice.

[@ShadesofSage]

Girrrrrl, I feel you so much and I TOTALLY understand! I’ve been natural for 10 years and my hair is waist length. But I have three kids now, youngest is 9 months, and it takes me a full 3 days to do my hair-not to mention the whole postpartum shedding situation. It is a LOT! And now filming videos for my KZbin channel I’m just about at my wit’s end. I need a change. You do you momma, 👌🏿it’s YOUR hair 🥰!!!

[@christineedwards2484]

Your daughter is soo beautiful! Glad you're doing what feels right for you xx

[@monaelee2626]

“It’s just like . I can’t. I can’t right now” LMAO! Mood😂

[@PinkIslandJewel]

Yaaaassss I relaxed for the first time in 10 years a few weeks ago. I has 4c hair which is beautiful but I was just ready for a new look and lower maintenance. IM SO HAPPY with my new hair 🙌🏾🙌🏾 I’m like obsessed with it lol. Girrrrl we are #BackToRelaxed 💗

[@batiyahyisrael]

Kelli Kerr lol

[@boring.3486]

2:17 - true. This rests my case on relaxing again. I only went natural during my self love journey and to feel good / fit in with my community. It still didn’t give me the answer I hoped for so; Texlax and relaxers here I come because I miss having different styles. While I will miss my natural curls. I won’t miss being agitated trying to figure out cute hairstyles to put it into.

[@kamariahollins1813]

I'm officially Relaxed as of today 1/19/2020💖

[@cleo6189]

How do you feel

[@ayonnazglam9050]

I’m thinking about doing it also lol

[@kamariahollins1813]

@@ayonnazglam9050 relaxers Aren't for Everyone but I love my hair even more. For me it's so much easier to manage and I got tired of flat ironing my leave out. I'm in Florida this humidity was crucial to the hairstyles I tired to achieve and silk press were a waste of money😒. If your feeling like I was wait no longer. Don't let anyone discourage you. Anyway.. .its just Hair and we have more knowledge today to properly care for our hair whether it be natural or relaxed.

[@kamariahollins1813]

@@cleo6189 Good 😊

[@ayonnazglam9050]

Kamaria Hollins update!! I just relaxed lol my scalp feels so free 😂😂

[@MsParisiandoll]

Love love love your hair 😍 and your energy! Texlaxing my natural hair in 3 days 🙏🏽 wish me luck yall

[@AyyyeoBayybee]

Girl do what’s best for you! You don’t have to explain yourself to anybody.

[@soundreign2319]

I really like dark and lovely relaxer, just like the way it makes my hair feel and look🤗. I like both natural and relaxed hair. I think folks over think what they should do with their hair, it’s just hair, not a vital organ. Have fun with it. Your hair is so beautiful before and after😍🤩🤩.

[@blessed7015]

I applaud your honesty. You and your hair are beautiful either way! Enjoy the newest journey!

[@katyp5914]

Ateeya laid her relaxed her down! She was amongst the "go toos" for relaxed hair! Your hair looks great!👌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💗

[@kynotamurray7105]

Your daughter is beautiful!

[@hawaiianBombshell]

Cutest little angel ♥️ You both have beautiful hair. I'm relaxing my soon as well 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@actmommy]

Thank you so much! It wasn’t the easiest decision. It’s just where I am right now with hair. Good luck to you as well!

[@hawaiianBombshell]

@@actmommy I agree with you but relaxing seriously saves time! Thank you😁👍🏽

[@tanisha.r.thomas]

She was an adorable mini me😍. I just love black babies!!!

[@BonnieCreoleSpirit]

Good for you! Quality of life is SO important. You are loving and caring for yourself. So awesome to see! Your hair is gorgeous and healthy! 👍🏽😊

[@jodiannevins8431]

When your baby said “hey mama” 🥲🥺. She is so beautiful!

[@superstarcelina]

This is how I'm feeling, I have an infant and I've been neglecting my natural hair, it's too much. Have been close to tears because I didn't feel like doing my hair. Relaxer is definitely on my radar!

[@Eveningbreeze721]

Very real vid sis. Thanks for sharing. Enjoy your texlaxed hair! Long stretches should be a breeze after being natural so long.

[@actmommy]

eveningbreeze thank you! And yessss! I plan on relaxing twice a year. Being natural prepped me in a way I wasn’t prepped for when I was relaxed before.

[@NappyHappyDrumMajor]

Thanks for sharing your journey. Your hair is beautiful start to finish.

[@actmommy]

NappyHappyDrumMajor thank you so much!

[@kamaradavis5026]

I know how you feel, I have been natural for a year and a half and I'm seriously considering relaxing it just because it's so much work, time, and effort with four children. I admire your strength to be honest with yourself. I owe no one an explanation, you have to do what works for you and your lifestyle. Thanks for the upload ☺️

[@user-gs7qe2mk1q]

Beautiful hair

[@actmommy]

Chat Time with SoniaThank you so much

[@sheliesesmith2735]

I’m cool with the natural to relaxed movement. It’s your hair do what works for you! BUT all I need is the “trend” not to shift too much and all my favorite products go away 🤣🤣 because I always intend to be natural.Y’all do Y’all tho!! I’m here for healthy hair relaxed or natural. I’m happy you are happier now! For me going natural wasn’t a trend. My hair just didn’t work relaxed it was harder for me to mange the two textures between relaxers. I’m happy with it now but I’m also a very lazy natural. You get one day a week from me lol

[@jaz6789]

I went through the same thing with my hair and I’m sooo happy I did it , I think it’s important for all of us to have the natural experience but as long you take care of your hair when relaxing it’s sooo much easier to style

[@jasmyncoles2402]

Love your hair! natural and relaxer!

[@gswpower7098]

Ik its not the point of the video but when you wore your natural hair down it was just stunning 😍

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

It was!.. I loved it.

[@aisatougassama4893]

Your daughter is so cute!

[@ijeoma7963]

YOUR DAUGHTER'S SMILE. OMG. I COULD CRY SHE'S SO CUTE!!!!!!

[@iammamak3]

I appreciate your honesty and showing the process. I have three kids too. lol I have a daughter with long hair and it is a labor of love. I’m going to texturize my hair soon.

[@SHEaintPlayn]

I had been contemplating going back to relaxers myself but wow after watching you relax just makes me realize how much of a process relaxing is/was for me. I'll deal with the natural cause honestly having a lot of hair in general is a whole process lol

[@brookehenderson525]

I enjoy watching your video I been natural for three years then when back to relaxed hair I used to get my hair done at a salon. Then I started to transition back natural then I was like I should do what's best for me. I was feeling the same way missing my curls. Now seen I do my own relaxers I also used dark&lovely it gives me that texlax look then getting a professional relaxer that will give me bone straight hair. ^_^

[@actmommy]

Brooke henderson it’s a hard decision. It really is. People don’t get that. There are things about natural hair I miss but I’m breezing through my hair now. And you at the end of the day just have to do what’s best for you. You feel exactly how I feel ❤️

[@brookehenderson525]

@@actmommy yes I do ❤sometimes I think about going back to my natural hair. there's nothing wrong with changing your hair. but I understand

[@erickaf7744]

This was very relaxing to watch, beautiful hair either way!

[@neaviii__lovee5885]

Your hair is so beautiful and thick. Relaxed and natural.

[@purpledivva11]

I feel like some black women just look up other black women relaxing their hair just to tell them how much they don’t love themselves. And I just never understood why black people are so obsessed about what goes on with other black people’s hair. Mind boggling🤯.

[@kakyirepuah8609]

Even though u said,u don't take care of ur natural hair properly. It was still beautiful n long.u will surely go back to natural hair one day cus of what u said to ur girl.those that I have seen perming their natural hair was cus their hair was horrible even though they refuse to admit but urs just three years n ur hair was that long.all the best girl.

[@actmommy]

Kakyire Puah thank you. I just don’t see it for me. I’ve been on both sides. Natural and relaxed. And I just prefer this side. I really did not enjoy being natural. I thinks it’s beautiful. I just don’t have the time right now to put the effort in to taking care and doing it.

[@dianewema7642]

Your daughter is precious 😻😻Her laughs made me smile 😀 😊

[@niolab7]

I'm exactly where you are now! I just expanded my business and I'm working longer hours and I don't have time to literally spend 18hrs on my hair. My hair is breaking off, I have knots like mad and I'm really just going to bite the bullet and texlax it. I want to see your journey, you just got a new subbie :)

[@oglesbysb]

Well, I knew the some of the naturals would go back to relaxers as their life focus and priorities changed. The detangling struggle is very real and even daily styling is time consuming if you want to look good. And lets face it, some naturals have a much easier time handling their hair than others. From what i can tell, relaxing /texlaxing products, application and hair maintenance has improved immensely and former naturals now have a full and long head of hair to start over with. At the end of the day, its a personal choice and that Ladies, is that...

[@Seventh_hour]

Don’t do what mommy do, do what mommy says 😂💕 you’re hair is beautiful and thick either way

[@msnetnetjones5093]

Great results! Beautiful hair!!

[@StingM3Naptural]

So pretty! Girl I feel you, I relaxed my hair after 8yrs being natural and 2 sets of locs. My hair did come out texlaxed and I love that. And omgeeee yes my hair has natural layers and my right side is always longer than the left🙌🏽 lol and aphogee is the goat!

[@rosecare555]

I’m definitely relaxing mine too. I’m very tired to wear ponytail and have to de tangle my hair for hours. I am missing the easy way my hair was when I use to relax

[@sammy4634]

Do you girl. You can’t worry about what other people think. You got bigger responsibilities. The hair will be fine; and the care is less time consuming.

[@actmommy]

Pamela Dishman thank you! I’m like my God...all this over some hair lol It’s already done anyway sheesh

[@DaughterOfTheKing_]

Her hair was full,thick and beautiful when she was natural but as soon as she put that relaxer in her hair it looked lifeless and thin,not being judgmental but please embrace the hair that you see born with ❤️

[@thestarswillshineagain1824]

Your hair was absolutely glorious before but after it looks just as beautiful! I really like the end result ❤

[@CassCraft08]

I love you’re personality & you are absolutely gorgeous❤️

[@Kat_Beezy]

Sis, your hair looks great! 😊 No need to explain why you made your decision! I too, decided to go back to relaxers (or texlax) right after the New Year, after 5 years of being natural! You said the SAME THING I (AND PROBABLY OTHERS) have said: the detangling was becoming too time consuming and there was a not enough time in the day to detangle AND style my hair! Also, there were certain hairstyles (roller sets) that I couldn’t wear with my natural hair, because the frizz was out of control. The only way to tame was to use MORE HEAT from either a hot comb or flat irons. I love texlaxing my hair & will only do it 2 (maybe 3 times a year)! The relaxer I used was Creme of Nature’s Straight from Eden kit. It’s a plant based relaxer & it wasn’t harsh on my hair at all!

[@amuigayle2231]

I literally cried the last time i washed my hair too. That detangling really got me stressed tf out . I say I’m going to relax every single day but i don’t have the courage at all

[@shoryacione5175]

If you do decide to relax it you should get it done professionally if you're too nervous to do it yourself

[@janelouw402]

😂

[@PrincessYonna1]

This me 😂 wash day will have you wanting to give up but I just can’t do it I’ll probably regret it

[@Queen-of-the-Burbs]

Your hair is lovely both ways!!!! Thanks for sharing

[@LL-ur3ks]

I came to the same decision not long ago. Your hair is beautiful, please just remember to take care of it as much as you did when it was natural so it stays that way xx

[@tsebomahao4229]

Girl I feeeeel you on a spiritual level. My hair is exactly like yours and I. Struggling to manage it. I've consulted with everyone and they are all vehemently against it but you have to listen to YOU! Block out all the noise by hoteps and do you boo!

[@spongebob8157]

I like how you said your daughter could never perm her hair that was so cute :)

[@tattedthickness09]

You and your baby are sooo cute, too cute how you told her do as mommy say 😄 but your hair is beautiful either way!!

[@actmommy]

tattedthickness09 that’s my girl! lol Thank you! ❤️

[@sivonl]

Thank you for this! I tried being natural for 4 years and honestly it's too much for me to handle. My life revolved around my hair

[@kenkennedy8719]

I agree with everything you said but being natural has nothing to do with being a trend how is how you were born a trend it’s simply how our hair is if you feel like Changing it then fine but our hair will never be a trend

[@kenkennedy8719]

✨SadCat✨ sweetie we didn’t come out the womb with a perm and unlike how the media portrays us a lot of us stayed natural or did other things than perming our hair even if it meant hot combing it being natural cannot be trendy and a lot of white and Asian people will market things to us a certain way so we can buy their products people turned being natural which anybody can be even if their not black into a way to profit off of black people the amount of natural hair products we have today isn’t necessary we have companies that don’t know an iota about black hair telling us how to take care of it colours styles and other things can be trends but being who you are has nothing to do with trend setting

[@kenkennedy8719]

✨SadCat✨ who hired these women to speak about the natural hair care products who owns the majority of companies it’s not black people

[@kenkennedy8719]

✨SadCat✨ being yourself isn’t a trend and the same thing can be applied to other races

[@DaughterOfTheKing_]

Right! How can hair that grows out of your hair be a trend when you were born with it??? Natural hair isn't a trend ppl just want to find an excuse to put that toxic creamy cream in their hair to look like something else smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Grace-nb2po]

@@OnlyLilynn44 I'm not natural because of a trend. I realised the perm was ruining my hair and making it ugly and damaging it.

[@MsLA-tz4si]

Your natural hair was beautiful 😞

[@ashleybarr9401]

I commend you for posting this. I haven't had a relaxer in 11 years and I'm proud to be natural, but it does take a lot to maintain. With this quarantine, it's even harder because the salons and hair stores are closed so you have to maintain it yourself even more. Just as others have said, it's your hair! Thanks for your bravery!

[@chemerejohnson668]

Girllll I feel you I can’t doing it no mo I’m sitting here staring at this perm in this box and staring at my head with all these kinks and coils like do it or don’t but I’m doing it!! Lol thanks for the Video and Inspiration it’s Greatly Appreciated🙌🏾❤️

[@deeevans1389]

I've relaxed after 7 years with 4 men at home... That was Nov 2019.I'm happier was going fir text laxed but will go for relaxed.... Grew my hair long when nstural will still use knowledge learnt from process dooo much happier 😍😍

[@deronreed2945]

Your natural hair was so beautiful tho!!!!!!!!! but gurl I feel you! I'm relaxing my in the morning! people keep telling me don't do it, but I made up my mind I cant spend 45 min on my hair everyday or every other day! and trying to detangled my hair im pulling the sht out!! I'm over natural hair! that's why they make relaxer so we can perm this shit

[@cleo6189]

I felt this lmfaoooooo

[@hawaiianBombshell]

💯💯💯

[@lovelysosweet8386]

Gorgeous 😍 awwwwwe the babygirl!💕💕💕💕

[@andreavarela8925]

Omg i love your daughter, she’s the cutest😫😍❣️