Relaxing/Texlaxing My Natural Hair After 3 Years

[@princessfly9052]

Being natural is a hassle not easy at all so i feel u... its ur hair do as u please

[@actmommy]

Amoonz Perspective thank you! I still admire natural hair. I think it’s beautiful. I have a medically complex child and it just doesn’t allow me the time to dedicate to it like I’d want to right now. But I still love natural hair.

[@shaniathemen]

It's not a hassle in my opinion when I was relaxed my hair was thick full and long and my mom took great care for my hair but after some time it became boring.

[@kailamoore5331]

Being natural is easy to me, but ofc everyone had different experiences and find things easier than others.

[@tonniebracey8231]

Agree...I can so relate. I've been natural now for 14 yrs. It's at the length wear it's tiring (mid back). I don't look forward to wash and detangling days. I've started to wear blow outs but that lasts two days if I'm lucky...roots curl right back up as soon as I sweat. With being a full-time Mom I no longer have the energy or motivation to deal.

[@sassyrarebreed9914]

Yesss, You have to what best for you and not follow Trends. Everyone is different and I hate when I see people pass judgment/ have to comment on somebody else and what they decide to do with their body and hair. This trend will pass LOL also when people talk about the chemical aspect holistic practitioner I always tell them you worry about the perm there was in your hair but you not that conscientious about what you're putting in your body and on your skin. If you going to be natural all the way around be consistent. I know a lot of people who are relaxed / texturized and their hair is healthy. People don't realize no matter whether it's natural or relaxed if you don't take care of it won't be healthy.

[@chasturner84]

Love this new relaxed hair community. Do what you want with your hair.

[@actmommy]

chasturner84 thank you! But whew!....folks are maaaaad 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@siennajewelss]

Same, I’m relaxing my hair soon for the new year, and because I’m SICK and tired of dealing with my natural hair 😭

[@koko87371]

The relaxed/texlaxed hair community is more inclusive while the natural hair community isn’t

[@Lanilottie]

Same ! Been natural for 5 years after my big chop and I can’t wait to relax next month lool

[@angre6422]

I think relaxers are coming back. I’ve been thinking about it too

[@Jazminfields]

All I want is longer natural hair .

[@mochamommyATX]

It will happen. Try the Taliah Waajid vitamins and the Tropic Isle living growth system

[@naturalhairchickonabudgett849]

🥳🥳🥳 Me too I’m almost waist length without ever using heat!

[@solarlola5953]

Check out indigenous strandz channel..I’ve been retaining length

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

Don't cut it. It'll eventually grow long.

[@NinthJewel]

Natural Hair Chick On a Budget TV what’s ur hair type and regimen?

[@shaunadubb2777]

It’s just hair. The wonderful thing is, you can always go natural again if you choose. It came out beautiful ❤️

[@actmommy]

shauna walters and that’s all I’m saying. It’s hair. We have the luxury of going back and forth. I may shave it next year. Who knows. Thank you so much!

[@justaunpopulargirl8463]

Then let white girls wear braids and have afros

[@kamariahollins1813]

THANK YOU💖

[@shaniathemen]

@@justaunpopulargirl8463 It's impossible for a white girl to have a afro hun

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

@JamericanDC1 Lol.. It's still just hair. (Of course our DNA and genetics are involved. That's our makeup..hahahaha.. what a stretch).

[@edmenfranky9893]

Do you boo !! Natural hair take 3-5 buisness days to do, and that’s just drying time. Be great and do what makes you happy ❤️❤️

[@Doesitstop]

3-5 business days!? Oh my goodness 🤣 true tho...

[@nativenation11]

LMBO 3-5 business days

[@R.G.LovesBooks]

Lol

[@kbb649]

Lol🤣

[@LimitlessBloom]

Not business days 😂😂😂😭

[@Lynn-gw7he]

I just textlaxed my hair after almost 3 years of being natural. I used mild and added olive oil to dilute the relaxer even more. I didn’t want straight hair. I just wanted it to be less time consuming. Well it is about 15% straighter. I’m happy for it. Still type 4 hair. Just an easier wash day. So I completely understand. Your hair is beautiful.

[@actmommy]

Lynn G thank you very much! That’s pretty much what I was going for. I’m not a fan of bone straight thin relaxed hair but that’s to each their own too ya know lol I just needed it to be more manageable.

[@tanisha.r.thomas]

Yes. And if you are a hater...I live at XXX Springbok drive....feel free to drop by to do my hair anytime🤣🤣🤣

[@Lynn-gw7he]

Ymane23 ! Self hate IS definitely real. Many naturals wear wigs and weaves every day because they don’t like their hair. I digress. Who are you referring to?

[@Lynn-gw7he]

Ymane23 ! Thanks troll 🤗

[@solarlola5953]

Ymane23 ! I would not call it hate..the truth is natural hair is very stressful( depending on texture) to manage and style. I’m still natural but it’s by Gods Grace. .

[@cee2random]

It’s crazy how we go natural and “protect” our hair by wearing wigs and weave, and in some cases we end up damaging our hair more in the process. I’ve been natural twice in my adult life and I just recently “tex-laxed” my hair so that I can spend more time with my family, and focus less on my hair. No regrets.

[@Safiyyrh]

Tootally agree sis. Makeup too isn’t natural and most naturalistas apply makeup. Why don’t dey attack it??

[@rizzjohnson1644]

Absolutely I agree. 🌺

[@Yentl97]

Please tell me what is a texlax? I want to do it too..

[@rfr2703]

@@Yentl97 u leave the relaxer for a little bit x

[@AnimalLover2400]

im about to do the same. I love natural hair but the maintenance is just too much sometimes, especially as someone who does not wear wigs, weaves, or braids

[@marshaanis4057]

I went back to a relaxer because it's my damn hair and I will do as I damn well please with it period!

[@Kat_Beezy]

Marsha Pierre Sis 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@ambermcfadden3520]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Ash.99]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@raic3283]

💯

[@drmimzz309]

Word!

[@Tyansofficial84]

I'm 1yr relaxed after 13yrs & I'm stress free on the hair front. I'm not going natural until I'm 80 Lol

[@actmommy]

13 years!?!? God bless you lol I just feel so much more....relaxed 😂

[@Tyansofficial84]

@@actmommy Yes & I never really enjoyed my hair i kept finding ways to cover it up. So glad I did what was best for me & my lifestyle. Totally relaxed lol

[@Tyansofficial84]

@Ymane23 ! Sorry to you & your mother go troll somewhere else

[@shaniathemen]

@Ymane23 ! Okay listen here lady I'm never going to relax my hair ever again but if somebody else want to let them. It ain't your damn hair !!

[@naturalhairchickonabudgett849]

Ymane23 ! 🥳🥳🥳Actually you’d be surprised at how many men love their women natural hair and there mostly young men! Who have embraced their own natural hair texture! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@motivationmonster482]

It can’t it won’t it Doesn’t. ItsNOT. 😂😂 girl I died. You deff over it.

[@boring.3486]

NaturallyFitNadia that was a mood

[@KeaneLuvr]

I was looking for this comment so I wouldn't repeat it. LOL!!😂

[@motivationmonster482]

😂😂

[@BrittanyMega]

I LOVE my long natural hair, but I also LOVE watching these videos of black women relaxing their hair (or cutting off their really long hair). People really be mad at y’all like you just naired their hair while they slept. It looks great! 💛💛

[@faithyayi]

strange

[@blessed7015]

❤️

[@krishondandy4221]

It's so mind boggling that people are so up in arms when women decide to relax THEIR hair...Noone owes anyone an explanation on what they decided to do with their hair...If like relaxed then relax...If you're team natural, then do you....it's a individual/person decision!!!... PERIODT 🙄.... Your hair is BeAUTIFUL!

[@mintrivia7320]

the whole natural hair movement got all the type 3 girls riled up lol

[@nickyblackford1462]

Amen!

[@NubbyG05]

Well Said! 👏👏👏👏

[@muslissa3089]

Its so fitting for your name to be Ciera because you look just like Ciara 😍

[@boring.3486]

Muslissa she does!

[@KeaneLuvr]

She reminds me of Halle Berry

[@ambermcfadden3520]

Ciara😕 never. she favors and her voice sounds like Tiara, scrap babymom on love and hip hop

[@nessaluu4949]

Don’t see it

[@shivairas6717]

Right

[@amoraisonguyo9618]

honestly...i made the best decision to relax my natural hair that i had for two years. i was so happy, and now it's growing ! If ur considering relaxing ur hair, DO IT !! this is me telling u to DO IT !!

[@dadaTunes]

This is so real. I prefer to wear my hair straight but my ends won’t cooperate. I just want a little straight with texture. I’m tired of wash DAYS. Plus I’m 8 months pregnant. I feel you girl.

[@actmommy]

MzQue I think that was my break down 😂 Being pregnant and fighting with my hair. I just had had it I guess. I despised wash days to the point where I wasn’t washing my hair nearly as often as I should. Good luck on your pregnancy and congratulations as well ❤️

[@dadaTunes]

Ciera Danielle Thank you! Congrats to you as well. I’m due the end of January so I’m almost there lol. Your hair turned out great!

[@airilamb8503]

MzQue I don’t know if you know this but relaxer is extremely bad for pregnancy !! My doctor warned me on my 2nd child that relaxers are extremely bad to use when you’re pregnant. I had to stop relaxing during my 2nd and 3rd pregnancy. Please take the time out to research what you’re putting on your head. (I am now back relaxed after my 3rd child)

[@dadaTunes]

Airi Lamb I’m sure it’ll be fine. They also say lunch meat is bad. Everything in moderation. Relaxing once isn’t going to hurt anything. This is my 4th baby so I don’t freak out about everything like with the first 2 😂 I appreciate the concern.

[@airilamb8503]

MzQue lunch meat is different from a relaxer tho.

[@livonderqondile1340]

this gave me courage l wont lie ....natural hair is just a struggle sometimes yes its beautiful but its just hair.....l am going to relax my hair .....l happy l watched this video

[@DW-li1jn]

Seun Okimi page has great tips on protective styles and Hairlicious page has excellent relax day video.

[@CinemaDoll137]

Just going to keep binging on these natural to relaxed vids until I build up the courage to do it which is hopefully next week. Today, I told myself that I was going to straighten my hair and....yeah, once again, it was too tiring for me to do on my own and I'm tired of being overcharged because my hair is nappy 🌚. After about 5-6 hours of attempting a rollerset and press then a bantu knot out then press, drying my hair for over an hour, I said fuck it and threw on a wig. Update: I did it and I feel better now. Wash day is a breeze lol

[@airilamb8503]

Hillary watch NG evidence for a better video on texlaxing this girl in the video didn’t do it correctly.

[@zordiahwhite5315]

You and me both!!

[@paisleepineapple2291]

I'm in the same position girl lol trying to muster up the courage to relax

[@CultureKingdomKids]

Hillary I feel stressed because I don’t want anyone to say that I am Being a traitor to my heritage.

[@sassyrarebreed9914]

@@CultureKingdomKids It's not about what other people think do what is best for you. Don't worry about pack mentality.👌💞💝

[@Mona-mr1cd]

After about five years of going natural free of a perm I’m going to relax my hair as well. It’s just what fits my lifestyle best. I want something more easy and manageable and less mess and fuss. I’ve kept my hair in protective styles but now I want to be able to wear it straight, wash my scalp really good and actually do my hair in a style... so whatever is best for you and it meets your needs and your lifestyle do as you please .... your hair looks beautiful!!!!!

[@Kat_Beezy]

Mona619 I went back to relaxing after 5 years as well....right after the New Year! I used Creme of Nature’s Straight from Eden relaxer kit. It’s plant based relaxer and it wasn’t harsh on my hair at all! ♥️♥️

[@cleo6189]

Number one reason I'm going back to relaxing

[@boring.3486]

2:17 - true. This rests my case on relaxing again. I only went natural during my self love journey and to feel good / fit in with my community. It still didn’t give me the answer I hoped for so; Texlax and relaxers here I come because I miss having different styles. While I will miss my natural curls. I won’t miss being agitated trying to figure out cute hairstyles to put it into.

[@llanneg.v.c545]

I’m natural with 4Z Hair (yeah I made that up cuz its that coarse) and I love it. I have been natural for over 20 years before It was a trend and let me tell you...THIS HAIR DRIVES ME NUTS at times. I have had the most beautiful hairstyles and gorgeous twists, but like you said, shampooing and detailing, and blow drying ...Chile. It’s been flat ironed, ironed, laced, Locked (LOOOVED the locks) and now I’m rocking a short boy cut like they do in the motherland. PEACE AND GREASE. Don’t feel bad. I feel yah LOL

[@ShadesofSage]

Lol, my sister, Tiyaná Hicks, calls her hair 4Z as well! I thought she made it up😄! You can check out her channel if you’d like ☺️!

[@terriandrews3785]

😂

[@sailorhill1085]

Three years being natural. I couldn’t do it anymore. I just finished relaxing my hair. My head feels sooooooo good! This southern heat don’t play, I walked outside and when I walked back in... my hair wasn’t holding heat like a furnace. Free at last.

[@janelouw402]

😂

[@jaicbacote3494]

Ateya?! Girl you went waaaaaaaay back in time 😂 YT OG fa real! 😂 3 kids, a husband and natural hair?! How did you not fall out from exhaustion?! 😳😩😂

[@tanisha.r.thomas]

I have......lol. I have the exact same circumstance and Im over hair period. If my husband wouldn't have acted funny-style after my my BC I would shave it all off..... Oh yeah....and my dog has the nerve to have long hair that has to be combed🤣😢

[@actmommy]

Whooh she was the GOAT back in the day!!! Don’t you remember lol But yes...I’m exhausted! And I have one on the way! I just couldn’t do it anymore ❤️

[@jaicbacote3494]

T. Thomas 😂🤣

[@shoryacione5175]

@@tanisha.r.thomas I'm glad you didn't shave it off thank God 😀

[@shelli523]

JaiC Bacote You missed the one on the way part lol

[@FayeInTheCity]

WELCOME TO THE TEAM!!!! I did it and have no regrets. And don’t be afraid to se the comments on this video to “pending approval”. I had to do it because the hate is REAL. Do you and enjoy your life!

[@actmommy]

Faye In The City I’m so glad to be back lol And thank you! I didn’t even think to adjust the comments on here because I can honestly say I did not expect all of this. I mean dang...it’s literally just hair. Thank you so much ❤️

[@tonniebracey8231]

Yes! Let black women be free to CHOOSE what's best for themselves. Black women need to stop bashing other black women and respect our choices. We don't all have the same history experiences or lifestyle so what works for you may not work for someone else. Trolls: Stop forcing your beliefs onto your sisters. That's just another form of mental oppression. I've been natural for 14 hrs. And Natural hair is not low maintenance for my thick long tresses. It's a hassle. It's time consuming. It hurts. Nothing to do with the visual aspects, everything to do with the physical aspects. My arms cramp up it's tiring

[@tonniebracey8231]

Short natural hair may be hassle free but long natural hair absolutely isn't.

[@c0smecc]

Geilila Z it’s more like the other way around

[@beautifulllb9493]

But it didn’t work for you either, you had to big chop too lol natural is the best way to go at the end of the day, you just have to be patient and caring to your tresses. Just wish BW would stop lying to themselves and admit they just don’t know how to manage their hair in its natural state smh

[@yinthecancer2806]

I’m so jealous of your hair😩😩😩 When you said this is 3 years worth of hair I was like omg look at my 7 years worth of hair it isn’t even up to 5 inches

[@stormstorm7396]

Just keep it braided a lot of black women don't know we're not supposed to wash our hair every week or every month

[@itsjustkeria]

Bby Yin learn your hair porosity, moisturize, use silk or satin hair scarf/ bonnet, rice water, jamaican black castor oil .. but learning your hair porosity will most definitely help you grow your hair better, healthier and longer. remember everyone hair is different❤️ *sidenote* protein treatments are MIRACLE WORKERS (i personally prefer a homemade kind)

[@hadizaa702]

keep it hydrated/moisturized , wash every 2-3weeks or whenever you feel best, braid it or wear protective styles to keep the moisture in for days. use oils to lock in moisture and honestly just have fun experimenting

[@victorias5272]

I've been natural for 10. I'm just now growing it back after buzzing off the sides and back for a cute short style. Using Blue Magic hair grease and hair skin and nails gummies are helping me get and retain some length. Good luck!

[@7777beth]

Uglie Duckling you summarized it so well. That’s all we need

[@HairliciousInc]

Let me first start off by saying that I commend you for sharing your true honest feelings about the struggles you faced being natural and balancing life as a wife and mom. It’s not easy. Your natural and relaxed hair is so gorgeous!! Yesss I remember Ateyaaaa!! Aphogee Queen. Welcome to the TEAM!! #teamrelaxed 💕

[@PLAYG1RL07]

Girl you really just spoke what's been in my spirit for a while. My 12 yr olds hair is past your length now and it takes me damn near 2 days to do her hair in a protective style then turn around and do MY hair. With school, planning a wedding, work, being a mom and my child and myself have disabilities I just cant do it no more. You made my mind up for me sis, I'm slapping a perm in TODAY! As soon as I go to the store to get some keratin and protein conditioner to help repair the bonds that the relaxer breaks I will be kissing this 5 years natural good bye. I did a big chop down to 2 inches and so its 5 yrs worth of all natural hair that will be RELAXED!

[@sandriais]

I’ve been natural for years and even though it can be a hassle, I can’t ever see myself relaxing. However, I’m not a mom or a wife so, if you say it’s too much, I definitely believe you. Do what’s best for you. So glad there were no regrets. And baby girl, with that little laugh and that little smile, is toooooo adorable! 😍😍 I’m the opposite of you. The left side of my hair is always thicker and longer.

[@theetravelhippie]

girrrrrlll thank you for that intro, I’m so on the fence about the creamy crack after being natural for 8 years

[@justmetori4645]

Damn everybody is going back relaxed 😭😭. Beautiful Beautiful results tho ❤️. Your daughter is so beautiful too. I understand how hard natural hair can be to manage sometimes. I don’t blame you

[@libfuzzy4629]

Only people with type 4 are going back relaxed 😂

[@hawaiianBombshell]

Did it after 7 years. I'm so happy

[@tuesdaymckenzis3994]

Facts

[@ginahateka7589]

Natural hair is so so stressful especially if u live abroad. Thank guys for showing this I have to do this to my hair and my little girls hair.

[@KAELUHXECEO]

I did this on Sunday and let’s just say I no longer talk to a lot of people because of how they bashed me for doing what’s best for me and MYYY hair 🥴

[@candidoll81]

g

[@rses916]

Wow

[@relaxinginpeace1310]

People get their panties all in a bunch over things that doesn't affect their lives at all lol

[@sashaay22]

That’s crazy that they really bashed you !

[@hillsraphael2145]

And it's not even about them..this world where people want us to live for them ..... and live to the standards and norms that they believe is the appropriate way..... yes girl let them be...they are never there to help with anything anyway. 💃💃💃

[@100230058]

Girl Go for it!! I texlaxed about 3 months ago after 4 years of natural and LOVE it!! I can wash and rollerset or wash and blowdry in about an hour! And my hair is super thick with or without a relaxer! My schedule just didn’t allow all day hair days anymore with 3 girls. You have to do whats best for you! Kudos!

[@esthersworld4884]

What texlaxer do you use? Thanks

[@100230058]

lilma latifa mizani butter blend

[@actmommy]

Ok! When I say my hair is a breeze now! I’m not almost in tears doing my hair. Wasting my day. I have nothing against natural. I think it’s beautiful! I just needed low maintenance. And I got it! I’m glad you’re enjoying your hair now too!

[@100230058]

Ciera Danielle not to mention the reduced shrinkage with the weather lol.. im not 50 yard dashing when it’s sprinkling outside

[@aliciabraison6450]

Q

[@chinflawless]

Your hair looks beautiful both ways. I loved the fro and I’m loving the new look as well. I’m like you at this point. I have 3 kids one of them is 7 months and I have no time for my natural hair. I’m about to be back on the creamy crack.

[@LyricSpencer]

I was fed up in 2014 just like this, tried to texlax my gorgeous natural hair, it came out and broke off in clumps, grew it out after a big chop and it was gorgeous again in 2018, now here I am considering the same cycle. Thing is, the more thick, beautiful, and long your hair gets, the more frustrated you get.

[@ijehmakuochiconfidence6085]

The way your daughter was laughing when you were telling her not to perm her hair is so adorable. ❤️❤️

[@arelixxro]

I’m 15 now but I’m pretty sure I’ve had my hair relaxed from the ages 8-13. I cut all of my hair off after that. I’m now 2 years natural almost 3 and my hair has never been this long. “Do what you want with you hair” is completely fine bc it is your hair and it grows back. But this is for anyone who is planning to do it: after a while of having it you’ll notice that your hair will stay the same length for years. So make sure you keep it healthy

[@kamariahollins1813]

I'm officially Relaxed as of today 1/19/2020💖

[@cleo6189]

How do you feel

[@ayonnazglam9050]

I’m thinking about doing it also lol

[@kamariahollins1813]

@@ayonnazglam9050 relaxers Aren't for Everyone but I love my hair even more. For me it's so much easier to manage and I got tired of flat ironing my leave out. I'm in Florida this humidity was crucial to the hairstyles I tired to achieve and silk press were a waste of money😒. If your feeling like I was wait no longer. Don't let anyone discourage you. Anyway.. .its just Hair and we have more knowledge today to properly care for our hair whether it be natural or relaxed.

[@kamariahollins1813]

@@cleo6189 Good 😊

[@ayonnazglam9050]

Kamaria Hollins update!! I just relaxed lol my scalp feels so free 😂😂

[@Maremare680]

Wow! this is what I call a natural beautiful woman. She has cero makeup on and looks stunning 😍

[@solarlola5953]

I almost textlaxed due to frustration ...then I discovered indigenous strandz channel ..changed everything

[@Tammy-SophisticatedGlamGurls]

lol lol the opening I feel you 1000% I can't take it anymore.... I am seriously thinking about telaxing for real, sick and tired of the struggle 4c hair is a lot damn work. About to take down my crochet braids and dreading it. Thank you for this video you look fab.

[@monalieza6248]

Great video. Beautiful hair. I feel you sista. I just texlaxed my hair after almost 5years being natural. I don't care what people think or say. Cause they ain't there or helping me if my hair is acting up, if I need a style. We don't always have a good hair day.. Girl now that I know more about caring for hair my texlaxed came out perfect.. Better then years ago. ❤️

[@actmommy]

EllaBella Kramp and that’s all that matters! You can have beautiful long hair natural or relaxed. Neither is superior to me. Thank you so much ❤️

[@charniecearielle]

I just want to say to the ladies with children , don’t be afraid or feel bad to ask for help with managing your kids. Whether it’s from a supportive friend, family member, spouse, or if you’re in a position to hire a trusted child care professional (nanny). But seek the help/ support you need to enable you to properly care for yourself. I can tell she wasn’t 100% into relaxing her hair (she even said so herself) and the fact she STRONGLY advised her “mini me” not to do it, confirms that. It was just the best thing to do due to lack of support sounds like. Beautiful hair either way just make sure to get support because you deserve to be in tune with other aspects of yourself not just your role as a “mom” that way your children truly learn by seeing you taking the time to take care of YOU ❤️

[@AyyyeoBayybee]

Girl do what’s best for you! You don’t have to explain yourself to anybody.

[@Heyyshani]

I have locs. I just enjoy watching people do different things to their hair

[@___Victoria_sunny]

Wow relaxers ARE BACK!!!! YAY!

[@actmommy]

JA C SA I’m so glad to be back!

[@___Victoria_sunny]

@Promise You rude

[@nalaamour]

@Sheree Morgan speak the truth sis!!! I'm going back to relaxed tonight! This is ridiculous I'm tired of this mess and no dag on products works for me. I wasted so much money. I'm over it

[@INAN2222]

My sisters, I love you all, but I must dearly ask: what products were you all using? I fear the monetization of the natural hair community has resulted in the false perception that natural hair care must be expensive and time consuming! Bottled Olive oil/ coconut oil/ shea butter from your local grocery store, have priced merely ranging from $2-$10 and should last you for months. & While it is ideal to support black owned businesses (& I still do when financially feasible!), I have used cheap 'white girl shampoos" with nutritious hair benefits (aloe, sulfrate free, etc) and have been just fine! The aloe vera brand I use costs at most $3! I wear my 4c hair in two-strand twists and leave it be! Detangle once a week! I am concerned that many of us have been mis-informed by the corporate sphere of natural hair media! It should not be expensive and time consuming! We do not need to do wash & gos and twists outs every day! Low manipulation is possible! What did our ancestors do before colonization? They did not need $20 shampoos and special brushes! We do not either my sisters! :( I support Black women embracing self-agency and doing what brings them peace and happiness, but I cannot help but remember the internalized-antiblackness I felt as a young black girl, feeling that natural hair (especially natural 4c hair) is genetically unfavorable. The way we speak about natural hair concerns me, as if it was an unfortunate genetic mutation that has cursed the Black diaspora "difficult" and "unrealistic". I felt so hopeful that natural hair had finally become normalized, that little black girls could look to their moms and aunts and peers and no longer feel discomfort about their hair, to feel what little White and non-black girls feel: that their natural bodies are normal, valid, and welcomed. I know no-one in this comment section wishes to encourage harmful messages, but to little black girls hair is "not just hair". As a little black girl, when looked to the straight hair wig on my mother's head, and the straight weaves and perms on the black woman around me, and on the tv, and then looked back to my "nappy" head, i knew that hair was not "just hair". l always support women finding peace, but I will also express fear for our children. I was finally hoping that naturally kinky hair would be normalized in our society, present everywhere, welcomed, beautified, and accepted. We have regressed. Regardless, you look beautiful with your relaxed hair Mrs. Ciera, your feelings are valid.

[@velvetvel9763]

@@INAN2222 Too bad no one acknowledged this!! I do the same as you, and my hair is almost to my waist using oil and water. I make my own shampoo! Never have I had a perm...

[@ChaoticCurlCrafts]

You can't, you don't want to, and you don't have to. You are giving me life natural and texlaxed 😍😍

[@KayleenMukire]

It’s beautiful both ways girl ❤️ I’ve cried about it too 😭. Girls with 3c hair are saying “4c hair is beautiful” it may be, but it is a STRUGGLE. I honestly don’t wanna be natural anymore I want to texturize it but I feel like I’ve come so far so idk what to do.

[@indianelson4054]

OMG, YOUR BABY'S SMILE IS SO CAPTIVATING!!! SHE IS A LIVING DOLL!!! I LOES THE OUTCOME OF YOUR HAIR. YOU DID AN EXCELLENT JOB. I FEEL YOU ABOUT THE RELAXER. I WANTED TO GO NATURAL BECAUSE EVERYONE IS DOING IT, BUT TO BE HONEST WITH YOU AND MYSELF, IM JUST NOT BOUT THAT LIFE. ITS A WHOLE JOB TO MAINTAIN AND I HATE HAVING TO COMB MY HAIR OUT. RELAXER IT IS. THANKS FOR SHARING.

[@soundreign2319]

I really like dark and lovely relaxer, just like the way it makes my hair feel and look🤗. I like both natural and relaxed hair. I think folks over think what they should do with their hair, it’s just hair, not a vital organ. Have fun with it. Your hair is so beautiful before and after😍🤩🤩.

[@kamaradavis5026]

I know how you feel, I have been natural for a year and a half and I'm seriously considering relaxing it just because it's so much work, time, and effort with four children. I admire your strength to be honest with yourself. I owe no one an explanation, you have to do what works for you and your lifestyle. Thanks for the upload ☺️

[@PinkIslandJewel]

Yaaaassss I relaxed for the first time in 10 years a few weeks ago. I has 4c hair which is beautiful but I was just ready for a new look and lower maintenance. IM SO HAPPY with my new hair 🙌🏾🙌🏾 I’m like obsessed with it lol. Girrrrl we are #BackToRelaxed 💗

[@batiyahyisrael]

Kelli Kerr lol

[@MsParisiandoll]

Love love love your hair 😍 and your energy! Texlaxing my natural hair in 3 days 🙏🏽 wish me luck yall

[@getreal4real169]

Love this video. It was relaxing to watch. No pun intended. Your hair came out nice.

[@jodiannevins8431]

When your baby said “hey mama” 🥲🥺. She is so beautiful!

[@gswpower7098]

Ik its not the point of the video but when you wore your natural hair down it was just stunning 😍

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

It was!.. I loved it.

[@christineedwards2484]

Your daughter is soo beautiful! Glad you're doing what feels right for you xx

[@SHEaintPlayn]

I had been contemplating going back to relaxers myself but wow after watching you relax just makes me realize how much of a process relaxing is/was for me. I'll deal with the natural cause honestly having a lot of hair in general is a whole process lol

[@NappyHappyDrumMajor]

Thanks for sharing your journey. Your hair is beautiful start to finish.

[@actmommy]

NappyHappyDrumMajor thank you so much!

[@rosecare555]

I’m definitely relaxing mine too. I’m very tired to wear ponytail and have to de tangle my hair for hours. I am missing the easy way my hair was when I use to relax

[@amberlypressley7696]

Hi lady, thanks for the video.. I’ve been natural for 10 years and have really gotten fed up with it all lately. When I was relaxed prior, my hair grew with very little manipulation. I miss those days so I’ve decided to go purchase the relaxer kit! Just been viewing some videos to update. I’m so excited to see my hair again

[@molovefive9]

You’re hair looks great! Do what’s best for you 👏🏾. I was thinking of becoming a straight natural for a while . I don’t want to ever relax again because I want to wear it curly again. You know, switch thangs up.

[@jaznchic]

I relaxed my hair after being natural since 2009. I don't have the length you have but I am very pleased with my decision. God bless you on whatever you choose. You can stretch between relaxers and limit to no more than 2-3 per year. Your hair is beautiful!

[@sheliesesmith2735]

I’m cool with the natural to relaxed movement. It’s your hair do what works for you! BUT all I need is the “trend” not to shift too much and all my favorite products go away 🤣🤣 because I always intend to be natural.Y’all do Y’all tho!! I’m here for healthy hair relaxed or natural. I’m happy you are happier now! For me going natural wasn’t a trend. My hair just didn’t work relaxed it was harder for me to mange the two textures between relaxers. I’m happy with it now but I’m also a very lazy natural. You get one day a week from me lol

[@Queen-of-the-Burbs]

Your hair is lovely both ways!!!! Thanks for sharing

[@kynotamurray7105]

Your daughter is beautiful!

[@kayla3972]

Thanks for sharing! I've been natural (4c) for 3 years and I did my relaxer today. Natural hair is alot of work and sometimes stressful. I love natural and relaxed hair, both are beautiful. Your hair is cute before and after.

[@superstarcelina]

This is how I'm feeling, I have an infant and I've been neglecting my natural hair, it's too much. Have been close to tears because I didn't feel like doing my hair. Relaxer is definitely on my radar!

[@BonnieCreoleSpirit]

Good for you! Quality of life is SO important. You are loving and caring for yourself. So awesome to see! Your hair is gorgeous and healthy! 👍🏽😊

[@hawaiianBombshell]

Cutest little angel ♥️ You both have beautiful hair. I'm relaxing my soon as well 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@actmommy]

Thank you so much! It wasn’t the easiest decision. It’s just where I am right now with hair. Good luck to you as well!

[@hawaiianBombshell]

@@actmommy I agree with you but relaxing seriously saves time! Thank you😁👍🏽

[@tanisha.r.thomas]

She was an adorable mini me😍. I just love black babies!!!

[@sivonl]

Thank you for this! I tried being natural for 4 years and honestly it's too much for me to handle. My life revolved around my hair

[@brookehenderson525]

I enjoy watching your video I been natural for three years then when back to relaxed hair I used to get my hair done at a salon. Then I started to transition back natural then I was like I should do what's best for me. I was feeling the same way missing my curls. Now seen I do my own relaxers I also used dark&lovely it gives me that texlax look then getting a professional relaxer that will give me bone straight hair. ^_^

[@actmommy]

Brooke henderson it’s a hard decision. It really is. People don’t get that. There are things about natural hair I miss but I’m breezing through my hair now. And you at the end of the day just have to do what’s best for you. You feel exactly how I feel ❤️

[@brookehenderson525]

@@actmommy yes I do ❤sometimes I think about going back to my natural hair. there's nothing wrong with changing your hair. but I understand

[@shalondabryant8263]

You dont owe anybody an explanation of why you want to perm your hair. It's your hair.💯❤

[@ohsoojazzy5182]

You took it back!! I still go back and watch Ateya’s old videos! I miss those days. Your baby is so beautiful 😍

[@actmommy]

OhSooJazzy yes the KZbin OG lol The good old days! Thank you so much ❤️

[@niac9568]

Ateya! A REAL throwback! Lol I used to model my hair regimen after her when I was relaxed back in ‘12-‘13

[@imeekay]

I’m texlaxing today and I am SO excited. Gonna texlax, protein treat and deep condition and hopefully keep my hair straight. I am so happy to be able to maintain my hair in an easier way and not be a slave to my hair 😭 I was holding back for fear of how the natural community would attack me but idc anymore. They’re not at home dealing with my hair with me. thank you for making this video! ❤️

[@sammy4634]

Do you girl. You can’t worry about what other people think. You got bigger responsibilities. The hair will be fine; and the care is less time consuming.

[@actmommy]

Pamela Dishman thank you! I’m like my God...all this over some hair lol It’s already done anyway sheesh

[@DaughterOfTheKing_]

Her hair was full,thick and beautiful when she was natural but as soon as she put that relaxer in her hair it looked lifeless and thin,not being judgmental but please embrace the hair that you see born with ❤️

[@dianewema7642]

Your daughter is precious 😻😻Her laughs made me smile 😀 😊

[@Eveningbreeze721]

Very real vid sis. Thanks for sharing. Enjoy your texlaxed hair! Long stretches should be a breeze after being natural so long.

[@actmommy]

eveningbreeze thank you! And yessss! I plan on relaxing twice a year. Being natural prepped me in a way I wasn’t prepped for when I was relaxed before.

[@aderaxoxo9865]

I JUST texlaxed my hair a few days ago and BABAAAAAYYYYYYYY let me tell you!!! It is the best thing I have ever done. My hair is not really tight it has like three different curl patterns maybe 3c, 4C and something else lol but I texturized it and that was a MISTAKE after a few years being natural with the big chop. My hair is almost mid bra strap length. But the texturizer had my hair shedding non stop, dry, and I could not color it at all lighter, it would not lift to the color I wanted so I went ahead and texlaxed not caring at all at this point. I used mizani diluted with Coconut an jojoba oil and my hair is sooo BEAUTIFUL and MANAGEABLE now, I loved my textured before but after this I am more in love with it. It stays straight if I do it myself and also I can do cute pulled back tight ponytails flawlessly.

[@oglesbysb]

Well, I knew the some of the naturals would go back to relaxers as their life focus and priorities changed. The detangling struggle is very real and even daily styling is time consuming if you want to look good. And lets face it, some naturals have a much easier time handling their hair than others. From what i can tell, relaxing /texlaxing products, application and hair maintenance has improved immensely and former naturals now have a full and long head of hair to start over with. At the end of the day, its a personal choice and that Ladies, is that...

[@Nekole1]

Your hair is so pretty and long like my daughter. I want this length. Im taking more care of my hair now. Thanx for sharing!

[@Truebeauty189]

Can you post an update video! I’m 2 seconds from texlaxing my natural hair and I would love to see an update video from you.

[@blessed7015]

I applaud your honesty. You and your hair are beautiful either way! Enjoy the newest journey!

[@Kat_Beezy]

Sis, your hair looks great! 😊 No need to explain why you made your decision! I too, decided to go back to relaxers (or texlax) right after the New Year, after 5 years of being natural! You said the SAME THING I (AND PROBABLY OTHERS) have said: the detangling was becoming too time consuming and there was a not enough time in the day to detangle AND style my hair! Also, there were certain hairstyles (roller sets) that I couldn’t wear with my natural hair, because the frizz was out of control. The only way to tame was to use MORE HEAT from either a hot comb or flat irons. I love texlaxing my hair & will only do it 2 (maybe 3 times a year)! The relaxer I used was Creme of Nature’s Straight from Eden kit. It’s a plant based relaxer & it wasn’t harsh on my hair at all!

[@neesieb6772]

Damn girl you kept it sooo damn REAL YO!!! I'm crying watching you do this to your BEAUTIFUL natural hair. However, I TOTALLY understand. I'm literally intimidated by my natural hair, especially when its wet. I'm also afraid to wash it on a regular bc of it being SOOO much to deal with (detangling) And for days...I GET YOU GIRLFRIEND. I've been natural since before it was a "trend." I wore it faded out, dreads, t.w.a., you name it. With all that said, you did what was best for YOU and your lifestyle. Your hair is STILL GORGEOUS!!😍 I'm praying for you. MUUUCH RESPECT!!

[@kenkennedy8719]

I agree with everything you said but being natural has nothing to do with being a trend how is how you were born a trend it’s simply how our hair is if you feel like Changing it then fine but our hair will never be a trend

[@kenkennedy8719]

✨SadCat✨ sweetie we didn’t come out the womb with a perm and unlike how the media portrays us a lot of us stayed natural or did other things than perming our hair even if it meant hot combing it being natural cannot be trendy and a lot of white and Asian people will market things to us a certain way so we can buy their products people turned being natural which anybody can be even if their not black into a way to profit off of black people the amount of natural hair products we have today isn’t necessary we have companies that don’t know an iota about black hair telling us how to take care of it colours styles and other things can be trends but being who you are has nothing to do with trend setting

[@kenkennedy8719]

✨SadCat✨ who hired these women to speak about the natural hair care products who owns the majority of companies it’s not black people

[@kenkennedy8719]

✨SadCat✨ being yourself isn’t a trend and the same thing can be applied to other races

[@DaughterOfTheKing_]

Right! How can hair that grows out of your hair be a trend when you were born with it??? Natural hair isn't a trend ppl just want to find an excuse to put that toxic creamy cream in their hair to look like something else smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Grace-nb2po]

@@OnlyLilynn44 I'm not natural because of a trend. I realised the perm was ruining my hair and making it ugly and damaging it.

[@leahd6494]

The EXACT reasons you gave are why I am relaxing my hair soon. I am juggling two jobs with 3 kids and all the household tasks with errands along with going to the gym. I have NO time. I am definitely going to miss how versatile it is, but I can’t deal with it anymore.

[@itsjustronda6055]

My mom did this to me when I was like 4,5,or6 , now I’m 13 and I’m trying go natural. Relaxing my hair has to be the worst thing I did in my life :) .

[@anacolla2]

I’ve been having these same exact thoughts. This is literally the most honest and relatable video I’ve ever seen on KZbin. Thank you so much for posting this. ❤️

[@ShadesofSage]

Girrrrrl, I feel you so much and I TOTALLY understand! I’ve been natural for 10 years and my hair is waist length. But I have three kids now, youngest is 9 months, and it takes me a full 3 days to do my hair-not to mention the whole postpartum shedding situation. It is a LOT! And now filming videos for my KZbin channel I’m just about at my wit’s end. I need a change. You do you momma, 👌🏿it’s YOUR hair 🥰!!!

[@Alicia-fy3je]

Currently natural and I will be relaxing my hair today after nearly two years. I have purchased what I needed to make sure my soon to be relaxed hair remains strong and healthy

[@amuigayle2231]

I literally cried the last time i washed my hair too. That detangling really got me stressed tf out . I say I’m going to relax every single day but i don’t have the courage at all

[@shoryacione5175]

If you do decide to relax it you should get it done professionally if you're too nervous to do it yourself

[@janelouw402]

😂

[@PrincessYonna1]

This me 😂 wash day will have you wanting to give up but I just can’t do it I’ll probably regret it

[@jaz6789]

I went through the same thing with my hair and I’m sooo happy I did it , I think it’s important for all of us to have the natural experience but as long you take care of your hair when relaxing it’s sooo much easier to style

[@aisatougassama4893]

Your daughter is so cute!

[@logitech0300]

that hit me when she said are you natural bc you love it or natural because its trendy, and its true because we see hundreds of girls with long healthy relaxed hair and they still get judged. it's your hair do you, girl, I think being relaxed helped me and legit saved my life and actually I'm retaining more length and my hair is way healthier relaxed

[@tsebomahao4229]

Girl I feeeeel you on a spiritual level. My hair is exactly like yours and I. Struggling to manage it. I've consulted with everyone and they are all vehemently against it but you have to listen to YOU! Block out all the noise by hoteps and do you boo!

[@ohsomarvalus4712]

Me right now!! The next 2 days I'm doin mine..i can't no mo!! Your hair is beautiful!!! Yessss, I LOVED me some Ateya!!!!! UPDATE: I I texlaxed literally the day after my original comment up there 👆🏾. My hair was still thick (pass shoulder length) and I literally was over doing my hair period so, I cut it off 4 days ago with no regrets!! It was only 2 yrs of hair so it's not a big deal! I'm over combing any hair 🤣🤣...3 girls natural plus myself...I quit...I'm just staying short!!

[@jeniyakamille1266]

Update??

[@DW-li1jn]

Seun Okimi page has great tips on protective styles and Hairlicious page has excellent relax day video.

[@ohsomarvalus4712]

@@jeniyakamille1266 I did it but I've already cut the relaxer off! My hair is thick n beautiful but I was reminded of why I went natural to begin with..sad but true 😔!! My hair is shaved on the sides n less than a half inch up top.. I LOVE it n will probably stay short!

[@user-gs7qe2mk1q]

Beautiful hair

[@actmommy]

Chat Time with SoniaThank you so much

[@ashleybarr9401]

I commend you for posting this. I haven't had a relaxer in 11 years and I'm proud to be natural, but it does take a lot to maintain. With this quarantine, it's even harder because the salons and hair stores are closed so you have to maintain it yourself even more. Just as others have said, it's your hair! Thanks for your bravery!

[@Seventh_hour]

Don’t do what mommy do, do what mommy says 😂💕 you’re hair is beautiful and thick either way

[@iammamak3]

I appreciate your honesty and showing the process. I have three kids too. lol I have a daughter with long hair and it is a labor of love. I’m going to texturize my hair soon.