Release What's Holding You Back | Dream Life Series 🌻

[@lavendaire]

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[@Piquetures]

“Growth happens outside your comfort zone” was something I needed to hear again. 🙏💕 I think it’s easy to forget that our comfort zones change with time and that to keep growing, sure you may have conquered a fear before but that isn’t a reason to stop looking for other areas to improve!

[@lavendaire]

yess i always have to remind myself that too!

[@laurachampeil_]

"Done is better than perfect" .. thank you, it's the only thing I have to understand today! I didn't realize it until you say it. I have to work on, but thank you for you video ♥

[@SiobhanOConnell519]

I just want to add that sometimes its really difficult to identify your self-limiting beliefs and fears by yourself. I have made the most amazing progress in transforming myself through seeing a therapist. For me specifically, its a trauma therapist because I am recovering from complex PTSD. I am steadily transforming myself from a girl who suffered with severe crippling anxiety, mood volatility and ptsd symptoms which held her back from even having a steady job to an ambitious young woman who is ready to take on relationships, have a career and pursue my passion of creative writing. In cases like mine, this progress would be impossible without the help of a skilled therapist.

[@moneymagnet1112]

Failure is part of the game. Imagine if you get everything that you want, what would be the challenge or purpose of life. There won't be anymore growth. Failure/challenges are natural part of the life cycle.

[@aparajitabiswas2911]

It was really very helpful video..thanks a lot dear Aileen 💕 "Growth happens outside of your comfort zone" .. "Done is better than perfect" .. "Follow your fears".. I will constantly remind myself these lessons to overcome my fear..

[@PahlaB]

If you don't feel fear, you're a psychopath. LOL!!! Loved this video, it was really helpful. Your B roll was especially awesome today, too.

[@Piquetures]

Pahla Bowers ahhh hi！ I just wanted to let you know I recently sustained a foot injury and your chair exercises helped me so much!! Did not expect to find you here so it was a pleasant surprise 😊🙏 thank you for all you do!

[@PahlaB]

HI! KZbin is such a small world, huh?? I'm so glad you liked the chair videos, and I think everybody can use a little Lavendaire in their lives! :)

[@lavendaire]

hehe thank you!

[@LoLeanderx]

I love you and the series. You radiate so much positive energy and inspiration. 💗

[@bellevieyoutube]

I never thought I'd be able to live free from fear. It seemed as though it was a continual struggle in every person's life. It stripped me of hope. But I thank God that He has completely set me free from fear. It feels as though I'm finally breathing, finally seeing the world around me. I pray that He would do the same in your lives. Simply open yourselves up to Him and He will give you life!

[@salomegp9250]

I can not afford a psychiatrist in my country, and just you being you, adorable and doing your most to help people reach their dream life do a lot for me. You are an amazing woman.

[@nnillc8899]

Thank you soooooo much for mentioning Fear of Success! I suffer from that and I know that it is the main reason for my procrastination and other things. Thank you so much for that!

[@nnillc8899]

I completely understand! I still have this fear and, whenever I have a great idea or a great step towards success, I back away due to my FEAR of success. So what I have been doing now is I do it anyways. For example, if I know that going to a conference will be of great benefit to my success, I go, even though my mind yells and screams that I shouldn't go because of A and B reasons. I go anyways. When I do this, I have been anixety and my heart beats really fast. But I do it anyways. So it's like I am completely ignoring myself and becoming separate from myself (if that makes sense) because it is that only way, for now, that I can take action.

[@nnillc8899]

Another thing is I know why I have this fear. Knowing why you have a certain fear helps TREMENDOUSLY. My fear of success stream from my fear of what my family would say. I have ambitions to be very success in all areas of my life; this is something that is not common in my family. So knowing that I can (and will) potentially outgrow my family drastically has caused this fear. Like "will my family deny me/ reject me?" This is what goes through my head and what stops me from being successful. But regardless, I still move on because I really, really, really, really want to be my future self.

[@toni-6673]

You're spreading calm and happiness gurl this is amazing

[@marantan4715]

Thank you for making the series.. This is what we need and there is not much of this kind of help in the Internet. We need people who already succeed to help us choose what to do with our lifes to use the best of it, contribute to the world in the best way. We are so grateful! Thank you for devoting exactly to this topic!

[@laurengarrett8244]

Using fear as a compass is something that I haven’t heard before but it resonated so much with me. Thank you!

[@lavendaire]

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[@lavendaire]

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[@priyankasahu6126]

Fear is so common and so relatable. Often so ignored. I am also reading The War of Art by Steven Pressfield and I am glad that you enlisted it in your books to read video. Thanks for pointing out those points. Really helpful!

[@missmykki2949]

I also want to add that the fear of success can be related to the fear of loosing a goal, a motivation : some people think that if they achieve their goal, they’ll get their life empty, so they tend (sometime without noticing it themselves) to refuse to succeed (I am not sure that I was clear... it would be better if I could write in English, but as most of you are anglophone, I am doing my best to share!) Beside that, I’d like to thank you for this series, it’s so interesting and educative (it’s not really the word I was looking for, but it will do the trick :p ), I love your contents, it makes me so relaxed, yet so confident and motivated as it gives me the interest to push myself to the best I can be. Therefore, keep doing what you do, you are just a treasure of kindness and share!

[@puddingsdiary272]

Hey! I just wanna to thank you for making this series especially this video! I am a pharmacy student and we have an exam called OSCE which is an examination to test our counselling skills. I am a timid person and I always scared of OSCE workshops and exam. Fear is blocking my way to success. I am so scared, I don't know why. I think part of the reason is I am not confidence with myself. And I know that only when I overcome and face this fear, I will then have the chance to become a first-class honour. I really agree the phase that 'Fear as your compass' and 'Fear will never goes away.' I will tried my best to face my fear, step out of my comfort zone and do my best! Thank you Aileen!

[@JesseandKyle]

Growth happens outside the comfort zone! I LOVE this phrase. 😍

[@axleblaze9791]

Now i realised Perfectionism holding me back☹ No more perfectionism from now😤

[@yuliiafranchuk6503]

I just cannot cope with my excitement anymore. I`ve been watching your channel and listening to podcast for about a year now, but this Series is simply amazing.😻🙃I love the idea of personal emails with worksheets. It`s so exciting to get new exercises and it definitely helps me to build new healthy relationships with myself. 🌿 Thank you! Love from Ukraine 🌻🌻🌻

[@lavendaire]

:) so happy you like it

[@aliceinwonderland42020]

The word deadline gets a whole new meaning

[@AshleyWineland]

I have been loving this series! Thank you for creating it; it came at the perfect time! This video is a necessary reminder

[@lavendaire]

Thank you 😊

[@nicol2607]

You are my favorite KZbinr, I really love all your videos!

[@venugopalanvenu7201]

The way u help us in analysing our fears and THEN tackling them..is amayzing Love !

[@__Yankeela]

"Done is better than perfect " I needed to hear this. Thank you Aileen for this amazing video ❤❤

[@chandrikabvs487]

I was holding back myself I didn't knew why, thank you so much Aileen for this video😘😍 it was really helpful

[@yumnaamjad2637]

1.growth happens outside of comfort zone 2.fear of failure,judgement(psycopaths r only ones not scared) 3.done is better than perfect.

[@lizziedeerest]

This was so much deeper and helpful than similar videos! I realize I have a fear of success. I got a slight upgrade in my job and all my coworkers are giving me the “You’re so fancy now” treatment, even though I’ve been humble and expressed how grateful I am. I just have to ignore that snide treatment, even if it hurts my people-pleasing tendencies.

[@lavendaire]

ooh! that feeling is so relatable to me. you just gotta focus on yourself and keep moving up girl!!

[@kevindaniellewhite2546]

Lavendaire smells so good woman of joy and light thank you!!

[@nesstb]

Hey Aileen ❣️ thank you for making videos and being such an amazing person !❣️ I've been excellent in school since I can remember but these past 2 years I have been through consecutive failures. Which made me question my intelligence. I've fallen into a severe kind of depression and my psychologist gave me medicine to take, but I couldn't take them bc I felt like that's not how I want to get better! Now I feel like I'm still in shock of what I'm going through since I never imagined my life would go this way! I know I can still fix it and achieve my dreams. But I just feel a lack of motivation and discipline, and like what this video is about "FEAR". I'm afraid of every step I'll be taking. And so I start visualizing the worst things in life. Much Love ❣️❣️❣️

[@jasminealiareads]

Loved this video! I am actually progressing so much as this series goes on...I'm feeling myself grow closer and closer to my dream life:)

[@zamimahossain9482]

U r one of the most inspirational you tubers I have ever seen 💎

[@isabellapattinson1437]

Thank you so much for this video. This video is really helpful and quite common to everyone. Love you and love your channel.

[@venugopalanvenu7201]

FEAR OF CHANGE !! THATS ME !!!

[@Lumary]

Its also good to remember that everyone has his personal fears. So your fear might be non existent for someone else.So you can do it as well you only need the practice the other person already had. :)

I really needed to hear this. I'm a massive procastinator when it comes to anything that may have some impact in my life, and I know that's beacuase I'm super scared of changes. At the same I want to grow and change towards my ideal self. I gotta work on that fear asap.

[@ulyssesbaldomere8346]

Thank you, Eileen. I really like your channel. Each one of your videos helps me with my cognitive health and helps me through my day.

[@myriambhji3951]

"Done is better than perfect". Thank you fort that reminder !

[@ViviansCrafts]

Yes i've been looking forward to the next video for a while😆 thank you for everything, i'm really getting motivated to be my best self! As this year, after summer is my final high school year and i must do great because these grades will stay with me for the rest of my life😣

[@lavendaire]

aw thank you & enjoy your summer!

[@kimmiharitha438]

Done is better than perfect❤️👍

[@wraithlight2898]

Binge watching this entire series and it's got me so hyped to really dive into my personal goals! Thank you so much for your videos and I'm a big fan of these conversations ^_^

[@lavendaire]

❤️❤️

[@LindaThao]

So glad for this new episode! 💕

[@Nadaa242]

grl! i love watching your vids ! they give me such an incrediable power to keep working on achieving my dreams!

[@DustyStarrs]

Aileen pulling an absolute power move by being like - stock footage? Ha! I'm gonna make my OWN!

[@me-zs7tr]

Failure is a learning experience, thank you

[@bambi5102]

you're so beautiful and kind... and i love your hair and makeup :) you're killing it girl

[@beautifulmindpodcast]

I really struggle with fear of success. Its really scary. Your fear mind is always there. It never changes. The only thing that changes is your perception from fear to love. Thank u so much for this video. Sending u lots of love.♡♡♡♡♡

[@ambariv84]

This video is so good. Just it alone has made me reevaluate and completely change my perspective and my way of handling my own personal fears :o I always found that talking about them with others was just useless, like an obsession: it made me feel relief and forget about them for a little while but then they just came back again.

[@ambariv84]

Especially the part of them indicating the things you really care about and that are important to you. You've made me realize how true that is

[@lavendaire]

i'm glad it was helpful love 💜

[@reetsrituals4348]

Am just getting there with every lesson... I can see the change in me... I have already started to take small steps towards the things I always wanted to do.... am so thankful to you Aileen.... Thank you !

[@romaissach497]

I love it ♥!! thank you Aileen ♥! it's exactly what I am looking for currently, and what you've said is exactly what's holding me back, I can't wait for the next video about taking actions.

[@aliciatoporkova269]

had to stop the video when you mentioned fear of success because i learned that about myself recently. after aknowledging this fear, i can let it go and move forward. thank you for being such an inspiration Aileen!!!!!

[@lily-tes9958]

am I the only one who think you are amazing, I love you and your videos.

[@hichammecho9070]

This video is what I truly needed to start away thank uu so much ailein 😍😚😚😚😚😚

[@sumbaltasawwar]

So true about the Fear of Success - you finally gave me the term to identify mine :P :D Now I can tackle it.

[@butterkeksgangster6685]

This is real high quality content. Thank you for this present!

[@butterkeksgangster6685]

also thanks for showing your own struggles so openly (like in the painting of yourself)

[@DrinkwaterMindurbznz]

Best video ever 👏😆👏🤗 It was really eye opening 😮 with plenty of food for thought. 🤔Thx!

[@feleesi]

yay it’s finally here! i’ve been looking forward to videos in this series now. definitely made things clearer for me & now i’m excited to see this to the end. thank you so much for this ❤️

[@mariajosebianchi5]

You're so great and we're all so blessed for having you in our lives! Your content is great, Aileen, keep up the great work, I know you'll reach that million subscribers you talk about in your vision exercise :)

[@kahofuruta1845]

You are always beautiful and radiant so encourage me in the bottom of my heart✨ I am shifting mind to stay with people who I look up to and places where I feel comfortable like following my heart truly that is freedom and peaceful🍀

[@lavendaire]

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[@MsTaLaiah]

So true. Failure is our chance to learn. For me, it seems like you are presented with the SAME lesson until...you pass it, until you learn the lesson. I feel like I have the same strong personality in my family dynamic to live with and maybe the lesson is for me to learn my self worth and to carve my own path-like you said-without waiting for those ppl to change and help me in a certain way. I'm not on the other side yet so this is my current theory.

[@arielleabelon7847]

Love this!! Thanks Aileen. Your soothing voice and life lessons keep me sane 😊

[@hmaki9783]

Your words always encourage me to take action

[@sofija_theresa]

You are SO MOTIVATIONAL I LOVE IT

[@shalup94]

It's amazing how you spoke about fear in such a positive way 😁

[@joy2bmeee1]

Thank you for the insight and direction. I have a fear of failure AND a fear of success, and so much more to work on. 2018 is supposed to be the year of being uncomfortable for my continued growth according to my Artist of Life Workbook 2018 Goal AF. Thanks for pushing all of us to be better and live the lives we deserve!

[@elle5115]

I really have to binge watch ur vids!! I got busy lately and I have to catch up moreeee, wish me luck💕💕

[@manjistharawat9144]

You are our 👼!!

[@nurulpermatasuri6116]

YASH, FINALLY💖 you're so amazing aileen. I love you so much💖

[@katherynne8241]

I have been enjoying this series so far -- thank you!

[@harshabonde532]

Thank you, dear. Your videos are amazing. I learned so much from them.

[@camilleconcepcion2560]

This is gold. Thank you for this wonderful series Aileen! I guess I just need to repeat this every morning to internalize everything that you are saying. Thank you for sharing all of the things that you know

[@apriany]

Thank you verrrrryy much for this session... growing and growing and more growth

[@yandielvlogs8107]

Love the way you edit queen

[@LiterallyUnperfect]

I've gotta catch up with the series! It's so good, Aileen! I've watched all of the videos, but I haven't done all of the worksheets yet. I did wind up writing a letter to my fear while I was journalling for the first video in the series, which was very enlightening. I don't remember if you said to do that in the video or if got it from Big Magic or You Are A Badass. I've been listening to both of those books lol.

[@lavendaire]

Oh both those books are so good!

[@karensetchfield3495]

Such good advice, I have every one of those fears minus the last one. Thank you for this video.

[@mariaa109]

I will never get tired of commenting how amazing every new video you make is! 💞 I keep journaling all the time and it makes me feel as if I am meditating : )🌻💘 You mentioned fear of others' opinions in this video and I would like to ask you if you have any videos or podcasts that you can recommend me (if it's not a burden 😂 ) that kind of dive deeper into this ? Like how to focus more on myself and stop putting others needs over mine.. Last time I asked you about intuition and both podcasts you recommended were life changing for me! Keep posting such helpful and creative content! 💫⭐

[@kaylamarie9584]

This is so helpful!! You are so inspiring!

[@MarciaPze]

So excited! I just downloaded every single worksheet! Excited to write! Thanks Aileen! You're the best!

[@shretasathe6409]

I was having a terrible headache from the moment i woke up today... even turning my head was making it worse...i know this happens to alot of people..."the tension headaches"...but then i watched this video and the pain went to its minimum ❤️

[@roua3846]

I love you so much! Literally so inspiring! I wish if you could turn this into podcasts so we can get to listen to them all the time! Whenever and wherever we are! ❤

[@vihana3829]

You read minds!! This video is awesome, soooo sooo helpful.... I can't express how happy i am!! Thnks for inspiring us daily, Aileen

[@heyitsme4322]

This video feels like she's talking to me directly omg

[@moseslewis7149]

I luuuuvvvv the positivity!! Keep up the good work!! The bangs are gorgeous on you too!!😊

[@hillarycarol1115]

I love your videos. I'm learning a lot from you. Your contents are super useful.❤️💕

[@nikithagarapati2322]

Love your dream life series! I'm glad I followed you Aileen!

[@FERNANDAKT]

Dear Lavandaire. I am that 68 year old who wrote to you before. Every day I watch you. You amaze me. How can someone so young be so wise. I am really curious about your training. Where did you learn so much? Lots of love. May you always be surrounded with so much light.

[@HG-en8ek]

When ever I’m stressed I watch your videos 🌷

[@winnonajane5240]

Thank you once again Aileen! Keep spreading positivity and love! Sending love from Malaysia 💖💖💖🙌🙌🌻🌻

[@KimmiS.]

I love this episode😍 i totally need this right now as I am starting a new chapter next month seeing as I've finally decided to quit my job and create my dream life😍 watching your videos helped me a lot with this big decision so thank you so much, aileen!

[@jasminebedruz8789]

Thanks Aileen, you always put me back on track. I love you and your videos!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@afraaldarmaki52]

Hey love, Can I also add that Family may influence decisions and futures. Also family may stop dreams and I am talking from experience. I have so much more to say; however, not everything can be said right now or in this moment.

[@ashlyn9152]

really helpful. you're rocking this hairstyle!!! love your current length of bangs(??) really suits you

[@i.rajeshsuvarna3488]

u never ever forget to motivate me... loads of love lavendaire.♥♡♥

[@nnamfhon-7401]

Thank you so much for this video! It's really helpful for me. :)

[@jhaz3333]

I love your videos soooo much. Always so beautiful. Wish it had more background music though.

[@noorabbas3848]

Thank you so much. Seriously. ❤️

[@Abcdfj127]

thank u so much Aileen ❤❤😭 u can't imagine how much I love your videos , always you are my inspiration lots of kisses from Saudi Arabia ❤😍

[@taly2588]

Everything is superbbb on ur video