How to Deal with Self Criticism: 7 Tips

Do you ever put too much pressure on yourself? Do you compare yourself to others on social media? Today I wanted to share my take on how to deal with self criticism and overwhelm because I'm pretty sure we all do this on some level in our lives.
After taking a break I've been feeling unproductive and a bit overwhelmed by all that I want to do but am not doing at the moment. Add into the mix comparing my low points to the high points of others on social media. I realize that I go through phases of feeling strong, empowered, inspired and creative, and dip into phases of feeling lazy, unproductive and low energy - and then I feel bad/guilty/disappointed about being that way. My overachieving mind always seems to make me feel like I'm never doing enough.
Today's tips are some ways I'm learning to deal with this and rise above it. I'm doing better now, especially after some journaling sessions and meditation to bring me back to Love. Hope you enjoyed these tips, and can't wait to hear your tips too.
// how to deal with self criticism
1. Understand you are your own worst critic
2. Embrace and honor your cycles
3. Forgive yourself for being hard on yourself
4. Take care of your body
5. Disconnect from social media
6. Reflect: What do you have now that you once wished for?
7. Do something that brings you joy
// related videos
→ You Are Enough: Self Worth & Comparison Traps | bit.ly/2IMLCut
→ Self Sabotage: How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself | bit.ly/30SvBqM
→ Release What's Holding You Back | bit.ly/2LBzw80
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1. Ask someone about your good things 2. Talk with yourself 3. Make a list with sentences to read while bad mood 4. Listen some motivations videos/soundtrack 5. Pray 6. Meditate 7. Make a journal which helps u 8. Take yourself for a selfdate and recover

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I have two kids and finished writing a manuscript for a book - two things I only ever dreamed about! We so often forget to be grateful!

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I feel like self criticism is a side effect of self improvement. Self improvement without selflove. If your constantly on your way to perfecting yourself and your constantly observing and analyzing yourself it's no wonder you sometimes get disappointed... I like the idea of the seasons and circles. Everyone should know that it's normal to sometimes be sad or lazy or irrational etc. But advertising and media in general tell us that if your not happy you're doing something wrong. I hope I got my thoughts clear because English is not my mother tongue!

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Wisdom. Thanks for sharing

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*Since losing my job last week, I spent the entire this week criticizing myself for being unproductive and not earning any money. What a wonderful way to end the week with this video, Aileen! And please pray for me!*

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Hey girl I just quit my job too, im so glad because the time we have now will help us discover more about ourselves:)

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Tamara that's a very positive way to put things in perspective! Thanks for the tip :)

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As a kid I dreamed of being a writer. Today my third novel came out, I finished my fourth one and currently planning the fifth (everyone on german)- something I would never ever have thought of! But I am totally happy with it, even if it is stressful sometimes, to write with being a student, a fulltime and a part-time worker. But somehow I managed it, and it feels really great!

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[@mizpahjoy7798]

i dont know if i should call it a tip, but every time i feel down, im sad, insecure, i always look myself in the mirror, look closely, stare at myself for a minute and say positive words; saying, declaring it with a brave voice and brave faith YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE GOING TO BE A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN, ETC. it helps a lot because I am reminded of the things I always forget. at the end of the day, the person that can make you feel better is you ps: do this when nobody can see you. lol

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MJ SY lovely! Love great affirmations. I’ll usually journal it to myself lol

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I'm a number 1 self-criticism 😔 I've always been criticising myself for every little thing. But this video is so helpful. This made me better. Thank you Aileen ❤

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You explained who I am within the 1st 3min of this video. I've been binge watching your videos today. Thank you for the quality content.

[@PlantBasedBride]

Love that journaling prompt! A couple things I have now that I always wanted... a wonderful husband whom I love deeply and loves me for exactly who I am, flaws and all. Two lovely kittens who make every moment a delight with their antics and cuddles. A home for my family that feels like a home and is ours to mold into whatever we want and need.

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At the end of the day, I write/say at least 3 things that I am thankful for. It just makes me appreciate even the little but great things that are happening in my life. Whenever I do that, even after a really long & tiring day, I end up smiling and being thankful for everything that happened that day, good or bad. :) Thank you for this very timely video! ✨

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that prompt really did make me realize that the 'me of today' has so much more and better than the 'me of yesterday' and that just makes me wanna be grateful and put those negative emotions aside and do something of value that the 'me of tomorrow' would be grateful for

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My tips is realize that I'm in my low point, then do little things like doing chores, ironing, etc. Those make me feel achieve something, eventhough just a little and unrelated :)

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when I was younger I would constantly put myself down because I didn't like the way I looked, but with time and patience (and a lot of self caring) I am better at loving myself

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[@OnPrinciple]

Thanks Aileen. Your videos/podcast always help me. I have problems with productivity and procrastination, which result in self criticism, specifically about what I didn't do-- basically word for word what you said in the beginning. I'm aware of it, enough so that now if I start going down that route, I'm able to catch myself and let go, but still I think a lot of it is deeply subconscious. Hearing it from you & your delivery is soothing, as always

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Omg Aileen, I literally can not thank you enough for this. I graduated college a year ago and the struggle of finding employment has really caused my once hidden anxiety and self-criticism to bubble up. Sometimes its hard to find the time to apply for new jobs and be productive and it made my day so much better to watch this video and remember I've already accomplished so much. I'm definitely keeping this video in a playlist so I can watch it over and over anytime I'm struck with self criticism and anxiety.

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I wished to have a dog and three years ago I got my favourite little doggo❤️ Time goes so fast and I just remember the moment when I saw him for the first time. Now I’ve had him for 3 years and I couldn’t be more grateful for that. I loved todays video, because it gave me so much more confidence and tips to appreciate myself! Thank you for always making my day✨🌻

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I love the "what did you once wish/dream of that you now have?" section such a refreshing way to look at life, and how much we have achieved already. Thank you for this new positive perspective

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I love you and your channel ❤ I have been going through what is called the Dark Nights of the Soul in my yoga, meditation, and spiritual journey. But, your videos and podcasts remind me to be more grateful and compassionate to myself. Thank you! 💕

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This was so needed. I'm in my last semester for my bachelor's degrees and today I got the results of my last exams. The results were pretty good, i did even think I failed 2 of those exams and my gpa went up 0.8 points. But today I wasn't happy, I was only thinking about my thesis and how stressful it is and how I should have studied more etc. Also in times like these when I am stressed out, I really forget taking care about myself and I get sick a lot. Thank you so much!

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This was much needed. Self criticism just happens unconsciously and then it leads to meta-cognition and thereafter leads to believing it. I so needed this one. Thanks Aileen! You're my 1st KZbinr who inspired me!! 💓💓💓

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This past week I did exactly what you talked about...overthinking and being hard on myself....just making myself restless the whole time. Thanks for this!

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Exactly, you can't have summer without winter, and you can't have happy moments without sad moments

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This is so helpful! I've always been criticizing myself and it makes me feel really bad that i havent been putting effort in anything that i do when i could be doing more, and this video really helped that thank you for this video aileen, helped alot. #notifsquad

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FanFan_Laxy 23 you deserve more kindness towards yourself than you can imagine!

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I really like number 6. I know we should always be grateful for the things we have, and I have been for the past couple of months. But I noticed that I am mpre grateful for the smaller things. I haven't stopped and thought about the bigger things I've worked hard to accomplish. Thank you, Aileen for reminding me.

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i know this is repetitive but it really blows my mind when you upload videos talking about things that i need to remind myself at that very moment. this whole week i‘ve been feeling like im not good enough and ive put a lot of pressure on myself, but after watching this i felt less alone and so much better. i like to think, like you said, that it‘s a sign from the universe. i honestly wouldnt be the same person i am today without your advice. ly ❤️

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I love your eyes! they so full of life. Thanks for the video,I really needed this.Lately I have been so bad to myself for not being as successful as I wished to be

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Thank you for this video Aileen. I’ve totally not been on my A game for a while now- we had a bereavement. And as a business owner, if I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done. But hearing your tips have reminded me of so many truths, it’s been really positive to hear you speak on the subject. One tip to add is 🌸Acceptance 🌸 of the here and now. And knowing it’ll change, things will get better. Love your content. Wishing you love 💖 and light ⭐️xxxx

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I was thinking that only I have such problem of self criticizing. Thank you so much..You are my angel..

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How she gives all the credits to other people..Not only you're gorgeous outside but also inside. I love you.God bless you.you're like my family who supports and encourages me to do things😍😍😍

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i got accepted into a prestigious summer camp a couple of days ago and instead of being happy for myself, i’ve spent this entire time wondering if i should even go because i do not believe that i’m smart enough. it involves written assignments, oral presentations, projects, etc. and all i can think about is how much better everyone else will be at writing, at public speaking, at creativity in general. i hate that i cannot ever seem to fully convince myself, in any situation, that i am intellectually capable of belonging in a situation such as this program i’ve been offered. anyways, my point in saying all of this is just to say that this video came at the right time. my situation may not directly apply but, regardless, this is advice i really needed to hear today. if anything, it brought my spirits up. thank you.

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I found one of your morning meditations recently and now I am so into it! I am 58 and have never been able to meditate, but I love your voice and the tone, its just perfect and I am loving it. Now I am going to watch your other videos, I want to heal my broken nervous system.

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I had this really down time earlier this year (or i guess it’s about to be last year) and I really want to change things for myself. I’m still a kid but I work in professional theatre so that is a time consuming and self-degrading activity. I really wish I discovered your channel back then, but I am glad I have it now.

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1:33 : Hello there! :) Hope you all good. Good vibes from Paris.

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Cyrus!! ✨✨ aw thank you, hope you’re doing so well too

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Thank you, Aileen for addressing an important issue faced by many. "Facebook depression" is a growing phenomena in today's social media frenzy world. Please know that what people post on social media is not really how their lives are. Everyone struggles and everyone finds life difficult. It's just that in today's success and perfection obsessed culture, the truth gets lost. Love yourself, love people around you and support each other.

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I am a little depressed today "You have cycles of ups and downs" It is wright Yesterday i falt like i am so happy person Thank you for your tip It is helpful

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The thing that i wanted from last two years & have now, is being an IITian. JEE Advanced is the hardest examination of India to get into the Prestigious Institutes IITs for becoming an engineer. Nobody helped me & I'd taken no coaching due to financial limitations. And whenever I think about it, it boosts my confidence to another level, from 2018 - 2020 I worked so hard blindly, to achieve this dream of mine & today I'm very much proud on myself.

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I've spent last two hours watching videos on your channel and the more I watched it, the more I've felt calm, in peace, like, I'm so relaxed right now, my mind is so clean and I've set my priorities straight. Ten minutes ago, I've started changing my room and making sure that everything is on it's place and clean. Also, I wrote down a lot of your advices and planned a lot of things. I saw that a lot of people are saying that this came at the perfect time and honestly, this really came at the perfect time because I'm going through a lot lately and there is a real tornado in my head. Thank you so much for being such a wonderful person and for sharing your positive thoughts and vibes, you've really helped me a lot! Sending good vibes to you too!

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Wow, that tip with the going through seasons thing is just what I needed. Last semester I was so productive and motivated and lately I've been so unmotivated and just, not as positive and productive as I was before. I've been beating myself up about it, but you're right. I don't always have to be majorly growing and changing. It's okay that I've gone into another cacoon right now, because soon I'll emerge even better than before. Thank you 💛

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I never comment on your videos, but I always have been binging on them whenever I feel uninspired or just poopy about myself, and I'd always come back right on track! For the past four years, I've always have this cycle of self-criticism. I've always blamed myself and compared myself to others, even if nothing big happened. This video has enlightened me, and I hope I can make the change I've always wanted! Thank you so much Aileen. You have inspired me.

[@ma.paulachavez7546]

Maybe the reason why I end up beating myself is because I wasn't productive as I once am. I needed to hear this. Thank you so much :') 💖

[@evelijn7566]

Hey Aileen! Thank you for your amazing videos! I love them! I have another writing exercise for you when it comes to self criticism: Have a dialogue with your inner critic. While this may feel counter-intuitive, it is actually healthy to let that critic speak every once in a while instead of ignoring it all the time. What you eventually may find is that the critic evolves into another person in your mind, instead of it being part of yourself. Let them speak, thank them for their concern and then ask them politely (or less politely) to shut up.

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Omg.that was a much needed video.now I don’t have drama in my life,which is good. I have a dream job(I am a physics teacher at high school). I finally get a car. I can paint with water color eventually . I can dance now. I have a good handwriting now . I overcome social media which I am proud of.and I can understand English today without taking classes or spending money on that. I think I am doing good.for coming year I am planning for writing a book and having speeches at high schools.

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Everyone should watch this video... Thanks Aileen!

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I can't believe it, the heart! ❤️

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Thank you for making this uplifting video. I have so much to be thankful for...I used to dream of working in an industry that would make me feel happy every morning. Now I actually work in a place I love!

[@JoTwi1881]

Whenever I feel overwhelmed because I have so much to do and I’m not doing enough I decide that the day will be a take it easy day, and I stop rushing and I still get everything done, but i let myself have a mental break from stressing to have something done. :)

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Thanks. I needed this

[@AndiLynn]

Thank you! When I was younger I wanted nothing more than to run a business of my own and work around animals. At 19 I opened a pet store. I often look at it now as a bit of a burden because of the time commitment it requires and how much pressure is now on me. My friends get to travel and I feel stuck. That prompt though really made me realise I need to appreciate where I'm at since there was a time in my life where this was all I wanted. And be grateful for what it's done for me. I'm still going to look forward to traveling and new experiences, but I really should be more grateful for what I've accomplished so far 😊

[@paulapena4347]

I feel like this is a huge struggle in my life right now, dealing with critics and jealous and the feeling that everyone is getting what they want and i havent and that everyone elses life is more interesting tan mine. Your videos are really helpful bc you make me feel and believe that I can be as I want to and that I have the power of creating my Dream life.

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I manifested my hair reaching its potential of curliness after a hairdresser really ruined my hair. I get compliments on it everyday. Also, I have a studio apartment and that's just a total dream. 🙏

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I manifested mine to be straight because the curls were so hard to look after and I'm lazy ahhah, congrats on your apartment that is so cool.

[@viviantd79]

Thank you Aileen for uploaded this video! I'm loving your tip on how to stop criticizing yourself from being influenced by the social media. My tip for not being critical on myself are to live in the present and appreciate the little things in life. I've worked as a nurse for almost 10 years and I have witnessed how precious life is from the beginning to the end. I have come realized that life is too short and if you're being critical on yourself, you'll be missing out on living your life to the fullest.

[@Iridescentlydreaming]

I swear your videos are always so creepily in sync with what I need. Thank you so much for your awesomeness. Have an awesome weekend! Loads of love

[@issaree4840]

Thank you for this helpful content and your effort in editing, It's really beautiful ✨ P.S.Your voice is sooo soothing 🌸

[@SimplySereneWellness]

Girl, I so needed this today! I’ve been having that kind of week and I know it’s that quarter life crisis anxiety that I’m getting. It comes in cycles or seasons as you mention and I know when I feel this way for more than a few days or weeks, I need to step back a bit and that’s exactly what I did this week. I’m trying to remind myself that it’s okay to take one step at a time, and to give myself grace. Today I treated myself to a day of no work, just playing and being present, and being off social media for a few days (except KZbin to get inspiration). I will definitely reflect on what I have accomplished so far that I wanted in the past, I really love that. ❤️ thank you Aileen for your beautiful energy!

[@ghostory8303]

Thank you! Your video is just in time:) I forget since when do I think that I'm not really like other girls, they can go meetings with friends from primary schools, they are approved to have dressed themselves up well. I feel that I'm not a girl that I should be and I've put too much pressure on myself to try to be like other girls. I can't even buy cloths when shopping on my own. Maybe one day I can be what I wished to be. Thank you :)

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You never fail to inspire people. Thank you.

[@sachadanielle6596]

It's like you could literally see inside my head! Thank you for making this video Aileen x

[@alicjajaworska9136]

I realized one day that the insider critic comes from what I think others think of me and now I look differently at things :)

[@cassinthecapital3490]

Thank you! I have been enjoying your videos on life joy and really needed this one. I think it is important for everyone to remember when passing on “feedback” or criticism to others how much this can compound with their own criticism. This happened to me recently, and I feel like I have wasted five years on a useless venture; and I know that’s not what they intended. Healing, but getting out of my head was a big hurdle.

[@TheBotanicalBlonde]

I can't watch your videos without a notebook and pen because I need to take notes on everything you talk about! Such amazing advice. Thank you for making these vids

[@mariaalexopoulou436]

If I knew at your what you know I would have a dream life. I don't regret for the things I did. I' m 46 and a mother. I know now that it's never late to stop questioning and judging. I love you. Thanks for the inspiration.

[@fruittofruition1254]

This was so relaxing and inspiring to watch x

[@jenealyanolanamoah1172]

Thank you so much for making videos like this, they’ve honestly helped me so much these pass weeks

[@pm-ne2vt]

#4 is soo true!! I began doing Pilates and working out by myself (I used to do competitive swimming) during the pandemic and I feel so strong and flexible! I never once thought I would be able to work out by myself or have enough motivation to commit to exercising every day.

[@internetpotato6734]

I have this one teacher who is really strict and has high expectations. In the beginning I was even scared of him. But I somehow managed to get an A in this class. I'm so proud of myself, because I worked hard for this, always doing my best aty homework and forcing myself to participate in lessons. Another thing would be that I'm managed to overcome my social anxiety. I meet friends more often and even made some new ones, which seemed impossible for me a year ago. So to everyone out there struggling. There is always a way. These days I like to tell myself that if it's bad that only means there's more space for improvement.

[@ohpinkiepie]

It really is perfect timing. Honestly, how did you know I needed it? Did you read my diary? lol. As always I take inspiration and motivation from your videos. I’m so happy I once found your channel and have been subscribed since then🌻

[@niharicaverma]

Oh my god! Thank you for this video! It comes at the perfect time!!!

[@kamori96]

I really needed this Aileen~ it's graduation season and I've been feeling extra down lately because I won't be graduating from college this year as planned. Instead, I'll be taking a 5th year and even though I know that it isn't necessarily bad, I just feel so behind from my friends and peers that will be finishing up next month. In the past 2 years, I've felt like I've taken many steps back rather than forward - from doing poorly in my academics, to feeling like I can't even achieve what I want to do after college, and just isolating myself from others. Everyone seems like they're moving forward with their lives while I'm just standing still and being complacent. I hope I can implement these tips so I can start feeling better~ :)

[@RaychRamos]

thank you for always uploading such great videos.

[@_floatinglantern4862]

This is exactly the kind of video I really need! I often catch me blaming myself even for the littlest things and I know your tips will help because you girl are incredibly inspiring ❤ Love you Aileen! 💗

[@lu8201]

💗. Creative Expression e.g. drawing, sing, dance sing ,medutating , release and being in nature is so soothing xx

[@moonlightbxe]

Im two years later but i think i just discover this channel on the perfect moment and i love this channel is so helpful!

[@mshambay]

I loved #6! I've dreamed of becoming an independent doctor for so long, and in two weeks that dream will come true. Yes, it's scary and I may not be perfect - but that's okay! I should just enjoy the fact that I am living my dream! Thank you!!

[@kirakirayuuka]

I love how U're talking about this now and making me feel better. While I'm still thinking of what to do with my life, point 6 is a pretty good tip. I think i need lots of reflection, although i feel overwhelmed that i didn't have the time to think clearly. But hearing ur voice made me relax and not feel so bad. 🙂 Thanks for being my spiritual healer. 💕

[@lizbethperez1223]

I finally feel as if I found somebody who understands what I’m going through & Got some real advice on what to do. Thank you❤️

[@sidorelazizolli7591]

It is wired how in a single video you described exactly the way I have been feeling in the last couple of months. I really needed someone to just vocalize what so far has been only in my head. It has been hard but I will try out your tips and hope they will work. 💜💜

[@dianacameron167]

I love this video and want to say thank you for it! I'm a Christian, and I am training as a counsellor at the moment so this stuff should be second nature to me! But it is challenging, and just hearing it all again and hear it from someone else is so helpful. Thank you! I once prayed for a loving husband, a great job and a lovely home and I have all of these things now and am so thankful. Sending love xx

[@Atmviola]

This has been really hard for me these past couple of years, because constant criticism/judgment is part of the music conservatory culture. One thing that’s really been helping me cope is tip number 5, disconnecting from social media. I’ve also been putting in the time to have slow mornings with coffee and podcasts, so there’s at least something I can look forward to in my “low season.”

[@alexbewell2107]

I love number 6. It reminds me that I am making progress even though my inner critic says otherwise

[@anavii12]

Before I only dreamed of treating my family to a vacation. We don't have much money so I worked so hard to make it happen. Recently I was able to do that and I'm so grateful that I get to make my familt happy.