LILI REINHART ON: YOU ARE STRONG - Anyone Who Feels Stressed & Anxious, WATCH THIS! | Jay Shetty

Jay Shetty sits down with Lili Reinhart to discuss how allowing yourself to feel your emotions can become liberating. We are often told that crying in front of others is a sign of weakness, that being vulnerable is allowing others to hurt you. Yet we have never been taught that listening to your thoughts and allowing ourselves to truly feel our emotions is often the best way to bring out our true self.
Lili Reinhart has quickly amassed an impressive resume as one of Hollywood’s most exciting young actors on screen and is quickly becoming a multi-faceted talent with projects as an executive producer and author. She is well known for playing ‘Betty Cooper’ in Greg Berlanti's television series, Riverdale which is based on the famed Archie Comics. As an author, Lili penned, Swimming Lessons which is a collection of poems released by St. Martins’ Publishing in 2020. Currently, the book is available for purchase worldwide. Lili is an activist for mental health and body image and uses her platform to raise awareness to these issues.
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
05:44 Juggling several jobs
07:35 Starting a job and having panic attacks
11:43 When you start judging yourself
13:32 “It was my drive to be an actress…”
17:34 What is the role you played in the family?
21:52 Crying is the most healthy expression of how you're feeling
32:13 We don’t talk about how often people come and go
38:41 How can you fill your time?
41:58 Overwhelmed by trying to fix it all right away
45:40 If we take the role away, who are you?
48:23 Letting go of something you’ve identified for so long
55:13 Resonating with spirituality
01:00:38 Finding the right people for healing and wellness
01:06:37 Playing a woman experiencing two different things
01:11:15 Taking extra care of your gut
01:14:28 How do you describe your current purpose in life?
01:17 31 Lili on Final Five
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[@Ali-fh8nn]

When Lili said that everything was a countdown I have never related to something more in my life. I constantly feel like I'm waiting for things to be over.

[@GAMINGBLAZE]

What a muslim is doing here, you guys only believe in alaa and he does not believe in these things.

[@Ali-fh8nn]

@@GAMINGBLAZE Im not a muslim...

[@GAMINGBLAZE]

@@Ali-fh8nn I thought Ali is a muslim name.

[@shinchannohara9511]

@@GAMINGBLAZE Indian media ne literally kitne chutiyo ke dimaag ka bhang bhosda kar rakha hain, kaam ki chize dekh le beta tv pe ❤️❤️❤️

[@anshjain9978]

@@GAMINGBLAZE He is, or related to muslim religion

[@Abstract-nz2hm]

I watch this anytime I’m feeling sad because this reminds me I’m going to be okay and it’s going to pass

[@rashelmahomud]

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[@boudjemahamani]

you shouldnt feel sad because Allah with us always

[@Ash01010]

ikr so funny😂🤣these podcasts are

[@heavenlywarning]

I’m telling you, everything you going through is preparing you for what you ask for.

[@neonblackbeast7243]

❤

[@lelalaiguterres1257]

That's true

[@Wingzzie]

❤

[@theklapash]

Thank you✨❤️

[@jasminereneexoxo1]

One of the many things I’ve taken away from this is, “Although this a very uncomfortable, painful feeling, it’s quite beautiful that I have the capacity to experience it” 💜

[@shinchannohara9511]

If you want you can rewind the video to get refreshed❤❤❤

[@grannyronna]

Being vulnerable and showing your real emotions are valid. Incredible interview!

[@lisakazubek3572]

"My wish always has been I wanna be happy. My Intention is to find true happiness and peace with myself." I just watched the whole thing . This is so inspiring. 💓

[@shilpapoojar1296]

wow! i always think the exact same way!! It feels amazing to see someone wishing the same too.

[@ronaldsantos7408]

X3

[@amygate6292]

Did anyone else find it calming watching Lili twirl and spin her foot around or is it just me who found it relaxing

[@tiffanykenner2993]

Same … I’m a foot tapper with my energy so it was calming

[@darinabenakova7830]

FRRR

[@romanumeralz]

Shift your focus

[@Vikram_tej]

I felt the same

[@faizaan2400]

At what time duration?

[@jenniferlle]

This interview resonated with me…panic attacks are real. The dread is real. The magnitude to which you can feel anxiety is sickening. It’s hard work to push forward wiser

[@arvindgujjar5525]

Are you ok

[@ibrahimnadeem1064]

But what actually triggers Panic attack?

[@rosylimbu2886]

@@arvindgujjar5525 r#ew#

[@techdetailsbd5983]

Nice comment

[@techdetailsbd5983]

Jennifer so cute

[@LiveLOVELife1]

"Telling someone not to cry is like tellimg someone not to laugh." We need to release our emotions. This is so powerful! Love this podcast!❤❤✨️

[@r.e9304]

I feel like crying listening to her. I could relate so much to when you crave solitude and you're happy about it. It is something people around you does not understand. I'm loving her more than I love her character in Riverdale.

[@NathalieLazo]

Love this! Thank you so much for sharing! :)

[@osesiesallau9655]

One of my biggest takeaways from this conversation is creating....creating who I want to be....creating new patterns..actively being who I want to be

[@simcanrun]

You are not living.. You are just surviving nothing more relatable than this

[@KatieThompson22]

I cannot express how much I needed to hear this conversation. Thank you to the universe for sending it my way. 💕

[@jenellestevens5657]

I feel exactly the same.

[@chrissyg9576]

Agree!! And it’s 8 months later

[@de72486]

Don't thank "the universe". Thank the creators who posted the video to help people : )

[@LEVINATOR]

The way her whole presence is pure poetry. Lili is awakened ❤

[@bethanywedlake]

I've never related to somebody so much. Its kind of refreshing/warming to hear somebody has been through the same type of thing as you and that you're not alone

[@wanderer8243]

Jay Shetty's voice itself is healing 🙂

[@DanielMazz]

I found it relaxing watching her twirl her foot with her red shoes and calming also

[@DanielMazz]

Her shoes are so shiny and sparkly. I really like them. She is so strong and love how she open up. As I did used to think her life was perfect and nothing bad ever happend in her life. I sometimes forget that even now

[@shivani_narang]

Maybe we're all just called here to this planet to experience life and all these emotions, whether uncomfortable or exhilarating, with full and complete depth. That's what we are called here to do, Thank you Lili for helping realize that.

[@annydrah4034]

This young lady's contribution to humanity goes away beyond her role as an actress. Wise, empathetic,.kind and concerned about how we as women move through the world. Keep up the good work, Lili!

[@sakethkamatham810]

I feel this is one of the most wholesome and candid podcasts I have heard so far. I am a huge fan of Lili Reinhart as an actor but now even more so for the person she is. Both Lili and Jay are an inspiration to figure out yourself and to listen to yourself. Loved the talk!

[@celmedx]

So good!

[@dmaram]

28:20 is may absolute favourite, I always think that every life we get to experience something different. Life is not just a thing that happens once.

[@ranabayk8138]

This generation is definitely changing life. We are awakening to the truth/ collapsing wrong patterns, and future children will be able to know/learn what we did not know when we need it the most. I genuinely think that well-being has to be taught at school at a very young age. Who knows...

[@stephaniearoca8461]

Please do more videos with her!!! This was the most beautiful and realistic, relatable thing I’ve watch in my life!

[@Michelle_GoldingArt]

I so agree!

[@monikabasaria634]

she is such a truthful person, no shame in being herself.

[@ktzannimate4629]

Anxiety is literally the worst thing that I've been struggling with because it's like you have to keep your mind on so much of the time otherwise you'll think about the things that you don't want at that moment and then the panic attack happens and all that stuff. it's horrible. and when you can't handle with this it turns worst.

[@drnabanita4056]

Unbelievable, how much I could relate with this entire conversation. We all suffer the trauma done by others. However, we can only heal that trauma. Such conversations in a traumatizing world is profound and immensely helpful

[@InsaneBleu]

I want her law to go into effect ASAP!!! I'm so tired of people (loved ones) telling me how I should feel, and that my feeling are not valid and I'm crazy for feeling the way I do..

[@celestec4990]

When she shared her wish is to be happy.. that resonated. You can tell she is such a kind and pure soul.

[@blanjb4038]

The fear of being bored is really something that feeds general anxiety. I m glad Lili talked about that as well, it makes me feel less isolated. It tends to create a huge internal fire where i am just left with strong anger and being unable to be understood or to let that go is pure angst as well. I am amazed about this girl, Lili is so sweet and strong at the same Time, very inspiring !

[@marzsalazar5340]

I just wanna hug her. This made me cry because I know exactly how it feels to have anxiety/panic attacks! Yes IT IS REAL! The physical symptoms are REAL and not "just in our heads" as some people would say. Lili is such an inspiration. Thank you for discussing this very important topic and helping those of us who suffers from anxiety and depression.

[@oceangrl89]

I can definitely relate to this! My anxiety got really bad at 11 as well, but it stemmed from the death of my dad. Love her!!!!

[@lindsayhallin]

I am enjoying this conversation so much. Only now, in my 30s, am I just grasping that relationships end and that's okay. I used to hold on so tightly, considering it a failure if a relationship didn't work out. Now, I'm learning that people change, I change, and it's okay to let relationships fade. You know, I say that, but it still feels hard to accept. Also, I completely resonate with the Googling of how to handle situations and the articles saying things like "go on a hike." No!

[@MizzRosita]

The part that resonated with me on the deepest level was when Lili revealed how her every wish was to feel happy and to be at peace with herself ✨❤

[@lookwithin0]

What stood out to me was that she really just wants to be happy with herself and not filling a void

[@thaliacoromina2524]

I think she’s the most real / relatable “celebrity” of our time.

[@ambereocchinero9910]

Her and Misha Collins. Both very refreshing. 🥰

[@gimashacelineedirisinghe6379]

To be in a career, job that makes you happy. To feel everything, to be with urself. ❤️

[@siennathomas4745]

When Lili said “crying is ok” i immediately started crying omgg💘

[@darrenstoddart8673]

I need that clip on repeat whilst I sleep, she is correct I hold everything in so much that I have no idea how to feel or express the full range of emotions. I had to turn this connection of when I was a child, What a beautiful episode.

[@anshjain9978]

@@darrenstoddart8673 I have that clip cut

[@user-jf5gt9pi4i]

This human being, the guest, has a ancient soul, she has experienced something extraordinary in her past lives. If she reminds inquisitive she will bring new dimensions of divinity into this world. She got what it takes to make a difference in this world. From Danny, South Africa

[@queeniettw]

Lily, I’ve never watched any of your work. Until I watched this episode I had no idea who you were. I have missed out. I love your energy, honesty and insightfulness. I too am on a healing journey. It’s Fucking wonderful. Thank you for allowing myself to nudge myself just a little closer to ultimate great fullness without judging myself!!!

[@dni144]

@ 38:46 "How do I find serenity, acceptance and peace without running away from myself?" amazing. thank you lili

[@blankdayz8807]

I literally share snippets of this with people when they are personally struggling because as a grown ass 47 yr old this has resonated and helped me put things in perspective and sets my inner voice or self talk straight 💜💜💜

[@ags_wsw]

I love lili's perceptive on life I can relate to her so much

[@remixtube8653]

Indeed, I felt her. She's one of the people who suffered a lot in her life.

[@iyaabdo7524]

Most genuine episode. A lot of the time while watching, guests say a whole lot of nothing. She was real

[@AqsaKhan-gm5jw]

Her whole story seems like my own story! Not a single thing is different amazed and motivated ✨

[@lindasigei4490]

When Lili and Jay said that both ways would have been okay. I don't have to keep thinking, ' what if I had done this' would life be any different.

[@Sorry.not.sorry.695]

This is hands down my favorite interview. Everything Lili said is how I feel and her thought process on being impatient, embracing all emotions good and bad, the anxiety that is triggered randomly. I never met someone I related more to.

[@hannalugo9220]

I have never related to someone so much before, let alone a celebrity. I've always loved Lili, she's seems very honest and sincere

[@iamhere4961]

Facing a condition when you are silent but a thunderstorm running inside,is really so incredible to be describe 🔥 time is not going to be same always.

[@alexxa8273]

I loved this interview so much. Wishing you all so many blessings and love! 🙏🤍✨

[@alvadee]

That’s exactly how I felt, counting down to go home, wanting to be homeschooled. I couldn’t be around the kids at school or the staff. I’d cry and every day it was fight or flight. I couldn’t eat at school or didn’t want to play. It was awful. Thank you Lili for speaking about it. I’ve never heard a celebrity explain exactly what I felt. ❤️ You get it.

[@hi_2049]

True she is so brave

[@siennathomas4745]

I thought it was just me who counted down minutes seconds hours just so i could get away from people.

[@jasminebacon2850]

I honestly cannot relate more to this podcast, I am going through the same thing right now, I am trying to be ok on my own, handle my feelings and not have to keep myself busy to be ok! This generally is nice to hear that there is someone else out there going through the same thing, because I feel I have been going mad, like I’m crazy for hating my job and the anxiety I get everyday

[@newbalance3069]

Lili is such a beautiful woman inside & out, I love watching all these interviews seeing her talk about her own personal issues/ struggles like this before she was famous & after reaching success it’s very interesting not a lot of celebrities are so honest like this!

[@Els18]

Exactly the words I say to myself and childern it's okay to cry. Sit in your feelings let yourself express the needs for yourself.

[@celmedx]

This is one of my favorite episodes, the flow and understanding of each other is so so smooth and well said 😭

[@shivanijha2607]

I am loosing myself, feel like I am falling slowly slowly feeling tired hopeless and watching this video

[@anonymouspainter9847]

I remember 2 years ago i was a student and I have this social anxiety or some kind, I couldn't go to school, I had this trauma that was so hurtful it triggered, amplified those pressure I already had on myself, or society put on me like what to wear, act, if I was try hard enough for the money my parents invested in my education, etc. I have this tendency to isolate myself bc that made me feel safer than to meet people, besides I think I needed sometimes to heal. I thought I need some mental help and quit school for a while. The country I live in, people don't know much about "mental health", and It also hard for me to open up about my problem. So i just isolated myself for a while and wasn't able to put on any more pressure. I had a big fight with my parents to get the allowance to quit school for a while, because they didn't believe there was something wrong with my mental health, they didn't even know mental health existed. I feel seen and heard when i see video like this, so i also share my story for anyone living in places where people don't know about mental health so you have to go on internet like me.. feel seen and heard. And I like sharing, so 💁‍♀️

[@user-bv5tu4uw8z]

God, thank you for inviting Lili here. she doesn't have many interviews at all, and this long podcast is a real miracle. and we know so little about her life, what she was like, what's with her now, it's nice to learn something new I love her so much, and this podcast is all I need.

[@julieklick4321]

I loved this podcast! I really enjoyed hearing about focusing on who I want to be, what are my values, changing old patterns instead of dwelling on who I am or trying to understand the past! Great interview!

[@nethmihimalsha965]

It was soo great to have her on the show and thankyouu soo much for that.As always another perfect episode.🌟

[@anikalee9012]

My trauma is different I feel anxious around my family and feel safe with strangers in public places

[@garvitasingh29]

Such a deep, meaningful conversation.I loved every minute of it. There's so much to takeaway from this. Just watching this once isn't enough 😭😭😭😍😍😍

[@lentesymentes]

I love this type of content, amazing conversation guys. So helpful and open minded, seriously thanks

[@darrenstoddart8673]

That opening line summed up my life too, I have spent so much of my life in fight or flight its been the default mode. I am a fan of Lilis and this was so important to hear. Jay this episode and the one with Kendal have been so on topic and incredibly well put together thank you.

[@livpettersen9908]

A gift bag of an interview; lightbulbs, resonance, vulnerability, raw, real conversation. Soulfood♡Much appreciated and needed☆Thank you!

[@Diva_libera]

The energy in the room is so present 💚🤍 luvit 🙏🏼

[@gigisonline]

I appreciate you a lot for talking about this in such great detail, Lili. I also begged my mom to be homeschooled at a young age, dealt with anxiety and situational panic attacks for most of my life. Now I'm in university & pursuing acting, and on the verge of quitting due to panic attacks but also very pressured to succeed. Thanks for opening up, it helps to know that we're not alone.

[@rachnaramani3892]

Amazing podcast.Thank you Jay and Lily

[@brianmora2254]

Found this ep late, but it’s a very good one! Lili’s tone is refreshing, and both of their takes/looks are very insightful. I’m in my 20’s, and she hit it right on the nose! 🤧

[@PrettyRedemption]

Omg I love her. Thank you for sharing her❤️

[@muralireddy935]

We love you Lili❤

[@ameetkumar1215]

I cannot express how much I needed to hear this conversation.

[@nour5893]

SHE IS AN ANGELLLLL!!! I LOVE HER!

[@shashijain5084]

Love the openness & honesty of both !!!! Good or bad food is food never call it junk please !!!! 🙏 There are people in our world that have nothing to eat & would be grateful for any food whatsoever !!!!

[@shilparaheja07]

I love these. Can relate to them both personally and professionally ( as a mental health professional). Iv always said. You got to allow yourself to feel it to heal it. All these podcasts are so REAL, so insightful and impactful. Love the last segment of the final 5!I absolutely loved the last one today ... YOU CANNOT TELL ANOTHER HUMAN BEING WHAT THEY CAN OR CANNOT FEEL!

[@usmanyousaaf]

much needed !!💗 I cant express how much I needed to this 💞

[@soundsoftheworldextended3022]

I must say....no matter how many of these podcasts I've watched, I am still amazed how Jay is able to connect, relate and make his guest feel so comfortable. So many layers to this man. Thanks for sharing.

[@theartistdenise1722]

That’s exactly how I feel about jobs ,I’ve been through 5 jobs within a month but I knew I needed money it’s just so hard

[@ranabayk8138]

I love this episode so much. I will see it as a lecture and rewatch it whenever I can. Thank you 🌺

[@jordyn5538]

It’s so enlightening seeing lily express her mind. I deeply relate to almost everything she said, she’s so so beautiful inside and out

[@fabihabushra7074]

I have never related to something like this before. I really feel grateful for having to see this during my journey. Thank you @jayshetty for what you are doing for us.

[@Just-Do-It-RightNow]

Thanks for this, you both are very positive, really love to learn so much stuffs today im thankfull❤

[@Dumzybae]

Betty , from Riverdale , wow what an honour , great podcast

[@jennylin1120]

I have listened/watch this episode over 5 times now, always so inspiring

[@valpineiro]

just 30 min in, and I have been deeply touched by lili´s story and being so vulnerable. Beautiful interview

[@chetneywilliams9573]

This is beautiful! Lilli you have literally reached a level of family in our home through art and love this year that have saved my daughter in ways I don't know if I could ever repay you. Jay is always a North Star example to me. He is a still life painting that people can look at and create their masterpiece with words. He is a magic table of real still life! Love you both Eternally!

[@KatMarie]

this was such and amazing convo. When people have the ability to reflect and really go inward, it changes everything for the better.

[@franchesterwilson267]

Thank you for this "just choose to create who I want to become "❤

[@srisushanta]

1. Cry freely whenever needed 2. We can create our purpose of life, rather searching for it. 3. And last 30 sec one liners❤️ 4. Spirituality is like a School and we all are students, We can say we belong to the School but we must know we are not the School. 5. Do you want to go for a journey to experience all emotions? Ofcourse Yes.❤️ And than grateful for receiving all the emotions. Lots of Love From India Jay and Lili. I love you both of you. And I know you both love me back. Gratitude near both of you & team for the beautiful time you created for us. I am a teacher in an Engineering College and definitely going to pass this knowledge to my students ❤️❤️

[@Manush]

Such a profound interview! Resonated with every word! Thank you to both Lily and Jay!

[@tahmenaferdous5213]

I don’t regularly listen to podcasts. But when I remembered Lili was on Jay Shetty podcast, I knew I had to listen. I LOVE Lili so much and how she talks abt mental health and her character Betty. One of my many takeaways from this episode was to live with the feelings of sadness or grief in order to feel them and process, which I know will be hard Also. This makes me remember how much I loved the Look Both Ways movie. One of the best movies of 2022

[@raideroftombs]

This is so refreshing!

[@taliaw8720]

I think this might be one of my favorite interviews ngl

[@brittlee6272]

I had debilitating anxiety from a young age. Everything she said I could relate to ❤️

[@alistairkip7303]

I can completely relate to what Lili Reinhart is saying here.... It is good to hear so I don't feel alone but I also feel compassion for her struggles .... She is someone people can look up to but what she needs to know is all she has to be is herself for people to do that... She has an incredible soul to go with all that struggle. Lili just be you it is beautiful and brilliant!!!

[@razanad3333]

This is one of the best episodes so much awareness, Lili is so so kind and just listening to her experience is so comforting and helpful i’m sure it helped a lot out there including me thank you 💗

[@eliotll]

Watching this interview reminds me that im so not alone in this, thank you.

[@michelecruz726]

So relatable to all her feelings/ explanation of those feelings, but lost with who you are.

[@auntlordy]

This was incredibly relevant. Thank you so much for your transparency- I could relate if it all.

[@CamandAlly]

This episode made me very emotional, I relate to every single word