Remembering Tam at St Peter's Hospice

St Peter's Hospice cared for Tam after she was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer.
Here, her husband Dan remembers the special times they spent together, and the care she received in the Hospice Inpatient Unit.
This film was made in support of our Room to Care Appeal, through which we are trying to build a 21st Century Hospice for Bristol. Find our more: roomtocare.co.uk

[@dondressel452]

My heart goes out to this family I’ve been in his shoes as I lost my wife to cancer in 1989 My kids were just 9 and 6 when my wife passed away from cancer I asked my wife to come to me when it would be my time to go Now fast forward to 2021 I’ve got terminal cancer I’m hoping she will come to me when my final days come

[@socrates5135]

Wishing you well...in a real way, from memories and thoughts, she has been with you all this time.

[@54GARYBOY]

Live the best you can always knowing that she will ! You will have that reunion. God Bless.

[@aloharoadto1004]

She has been with you all the way. Your love for her will allow your children to mourn your passing knowing you are together again

[@Joemnc]

She definitely will be there for you…I believe that with all of my heart.

[@olliehook3387]

God bless you sir, when your time comes to perish you will fly with your beloved wife up to the sky. Wish you the best

[@rozzcourt975]

Just love the way the father talks to his girls and speaks about the Hospice with such love....what a beautiful man

[@mydyisgod]

Hospice is a wonderful help for people that need. I was able to take care of my husband, at home, with Hospice helping me keep him comfortable and pain free. Bless this sweet family Lord Jesus.

[@YackBackatcha]

What an angel of a husband and father. She was very blessed as he was.

[@gailnash7676]

To listen to this husband, father speak is so comforting for those in need of special care. 💕

[@steffibaker2294]

This guy is just amazing 😍... keep staying strong for your beautiful girls.. prayers for this little family and may God be with you and protect you always .. ❤️🙏🙏 from Australia 🇦🇺

[@brendarawlins9417]

Truly the most beautiful man.

[@TaylorsMillArts]

Sometimes a star shines so brightly, so beautiful that it only shines for a short period of time, but what the star leaves behind will be loved and remembered for ever.

[@brendacook9059]

So very true . Life is Like the Butterfly If you touch it's wing's it will die. So be careful with your Human Butterflies🦋🦋

[@brendacook9059]

I am not saying we will kill each other but each of us are delicate. Love not hate or hurt . Treat others the way you want to be treated. Right

[@jeriyahmackey7140]

True

[@suemoore4409]

That is a beautiful way of looking at death.

[@welshwytch]

@@suemoore4409 we live on in the memories of our loved ones

[@royageorge7526]

What a beautiful man with a beautiful soul and kids .may God bless you all and give you strength. Rest in peace Tam ❤🙏

[@MrSprite2005]

I am a nurse of almost 30 years. Hospice is so amazing and beautiful. ❤️❤️❤️

[@countrymom7438]

MrSprite2005 I’m a registered nurse been for 8 years I work in the emergency room

[@lashermayfair0]

The oldest little girl looks just like her mother ❤️ You can easily sense the love in this family and that is a beautiful thing for all of them to hold onto

[@ellioshiem7892]

Such a wonderful husband And father....priceless 🌹

[@SpudEater]

My ex's grandfather was sent to a hospice here in the states, the entire staff was so loving and after he passed they did everything in their power to make sure in that moment it was the family that were comfortable. Tears were shed on both sides, we all shared stories and had great things to say about how uplifting his personality was and that day forward I was almost certain that Hospice nurses are angels on earth

[@flowerlm47]

What a fun and vibrant lady Tam was! Her smile was amazing! I’m really glad that you found a hospice that brought your family so much love, and comfort at the end of her life. I pray that you and your children are thriving, even though you miss your wife/ mother. I believe she watches over all of you, and you will see her again. Rest in Heaven beautiful Tam!💕💕💕💕

[@MargoStewart-in5qj]

😅

[@reneesotelo7664]

I was a cna in a hospice adult foster home for some years, we had 5 residents at a time,I loved them all like family it was an actual home a house,it still feels like home when I go see my old boss. Not all hospice is a dry hospital experience.

[@annfernakerpan6654]

Thank you for sharing Tam's life and family with us. A beautiful family, much love to you xx

[@nikolewelsh6288]

I have to say it. I'm so Sorry for your loss, but you are a Beautiful Soul.

[@danielam9467]

Prayers for beautiful Tam and her family! 😇

[@pattykochenower4222]

You have 2 beautiful girls that look like their mom and I’m so sorry for your loss, Tam was blessed to have you in her life. My prayers for your family.

[@stuartpierce121]

@Oliver ClothesOff You really didn't make that comment you're sick.

[@annkelly6643]

@Oliver ClothesOff You disgusting human being. Shame on you.

[@annhughes1503]

Oliver ClothesOff you are so nasty

[@jeriyahmackey7140]

Yes

[@socrates5135]

This video beautifully shows what Hospice and Palliative care are all about. Tam was well cared for in her final days at St. Peter's Hospice and her family and friends very grateful.

[@jessicadreamtime2479]

Even if this is advertising it's still someone's personal story. Having had a similar experience I resonate deeply with what is said. We are still greatfull 3yrs later for the loving care our local hospice gave us. I love what is said about how the hospice provided a space for his family to make memories and focus on connecting. Yes, it's time to embrace death and not fear it.

[@amystabenow1189]

worked at a hospice for years. brought my kids on visits. laughter in the hallway. llamas visiting. I am blessed for what I learned and the love....

[@dizzydaydream9647]

Having worked in an acute hospital and a hospice as a registered nurse I just want to point out that a hospital is there to treat illness and injury in an acute setting and therefore regular monitoring is of paramount importance. A hospice is not a hospital and therefore it has a different way of approaching the needs of the patient, eg it focuses more on the comfort and emotional needs of the patient. The two levels of care cannot really be compared.

[@jimrosarti3768]

very moving... may she rest in peace and always know that she was loved by her family.

[@mariel4085]

What a beautiful man...so sad & those sweet little girls.

[@54GARYBOY]

They were both blessed with each other-beautiful people and family. She will live on in her daughters and his heart forever. Went through this with my wife too and thank God for Hospice. I have to admit that I have a bit of comfort knowing they will be there should I need as well. We have a great one here in Buffalo Hospice. Nice man- I would love to know his update as to how he and the girls are doing now 4 years later-its coming on 3 for me.

[@terrisantiago9128]

Hospice is a wonderful place my husband stayed at home and hospice came here to take care of him he is now passed

[@debraouellettr3709]

GODBLESS HER PRECIOUS SOUL AND THE HEARTS OF ALL WHO LOVE HER!

[@madeleine8977]

A beautiful love story and a beautiful family. I wish you the very best.

[@Maria-zc6jp]

A great husband and father. So sorry for your loss

[@kascialelonek8757]

God bless you Tam

[@luzsanabria2053]

I know how it feels cause I lost 3 sisters, 1 brother, my dad and now my daughter to this awful illness 😢😢😢

[@patsyhay9592]

That’s one brilliant father the girls are so lucky to have him so sad to loose there mums

[@yesterdayitrained]

I am so sorry for your loss, so sorry. You treat your daughters so sweetly. Thank you for sharing the most difficult moments of your life with the world.

[@debrakleid5752]

I just signed the papers today to put my dad on hospice. Hospice is wonderful. I live in the US and I’ve never seen a bad one

[@jackiedavies6956]

Sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing what hospice care really is and the need for more of them.

[@amarchhabra2175]

I'm sorry for his loss to - feel for the family - glad the girls have what looks like an awesome dad - the best to you all.

[@elizabethsavage9108]

God bless her memory , what a beautiful story x

[@donnadalessio3853]

So many amazing stories and wonderful people. God Bless this beautiful family 💖🙏🏻

[@chrisduncan3943]

My wife was also born '76 and she passed away in 2016 because of her pancreas. Hard to believe how long it's been now.

[@skippy7208]

So sorry for your loss 🙏

[@christinemosley3660]

So sorry for your loss

[@serenafanlife4226]

Sending my prayer's, positive energy, positive thoughts to you and your Beautiful girls.

[@phillipgarrow2297]

Hospice is a wonderful thing it makes dealing with end of life easier for the family as well as the patient

[@bethpeters3187]

You will always have Tam with you in your daughters.

[@Sgt-xw5lx]

My Father was cared for at home by Hospice Nurses,the last few days of His life..My Mother,Sister and myself were with Dad when he passed..Hospice Nurses are Great..

[@kui_maina]

Sending love and gentle hugs to you and your daughters.❤

[@sallyclay1974]

Wow! What a wonderful hospice place!

[@patriciafoster3347]

Hospice is the best thing ever created.

[@louiseclee9198]

Thoughts are with you and your family ❤️😢 x

[@brendaharvey2992]

Your heart will heal sir. I am sorry for your loss of a beautiful wife I'm sad for your precious little girls

[@deborahisaacs5541]

My heart hurts for ypu and ypur family, how l hate diseases that takes loved one away, and 2 sweet baby girls, hospice is such a wonderful gift to give and guide a family through the hardest time in their lives, God Bless you

[@patearl4036]

Why oh why is it always the good ones that get taken. No fair. Dan, you are blessed still. Hugs to you and yours.

[@michellesmith6785]

Thank you for sharing her with us! She's better off than we are now! Right there with Jesus!

[@lindawild6568]

So very sorry for your loss! Praying that 🙏 God will be with you and your children 🙏 during this difficult time of grief!

[@michellesartori7601]

In Australia there are not many actual hospices, but our hospitals have Palliative Care wards attached to other wards and there are the Nursing Homes where some people come to to pass away from their illness, not necessarily older people who are expected to die. I have had great satisfaction over the years of being an RN who was able to spend time with people who were going to die and their families. It is an absolute privilege to care for someone and their families. I have very special memories of a lot of the people I helped care for. We have a very good "hospice at home " program too and my father was able to have my mum stay at home with him when she was dying of cancer and I was offered help when I was caring for my ex husbands dad until his death 2 months ago at the age of 97. I had been caring for him for years, but I really didn't need the extra help until the end and he passed of a severe stroke the day before we were going to engage the Palliative Care services. Each family is different. Some people simply aren't able to care for their loved one at home, while others feel better knowing that there are other people around at a moments notice. We all die and we can only die once and for that to be the best experience for everyone involved is THE most important thing, regardless of the place. I wish this man and his daughter's all the best for the future and I'm glad that this service was available to them.

[@taniav6990]

Michele Sartori.. you sound like one of the beautiful people that took such wonderful care of my mum before she passed. Just minutes after mum died I heard one of her carers whisper to her "it's been an honor & a privellage to have met you" & kissed her on the forehead. That carer didn't know I was watching so I know it came from his heart & he didn't just say that for my benefit.... 12 months later I still think of him saying that & it makes me cry knowing mum was in such wonderful caring hands.. All carers have a special place in my heart.. angels on earth I think..

[@kenzierocks1240]

MIXHELE. MICHELLE..I’ve always found my mom’s relationship with my dad’s parents quite unique so when I read your comment, I felt compelled to comment. My mom and dad got divorced when I was 16 YO and I’m now 57 YO. In spite of their divorce, my mom continued to remain close to my dad’s parents and helped them a lot before she moved in with them and helped to take care of my grandfather until he passed away 20 years ago at age 86. Hospice was there towards the very end of his in-home care. My mom again moved in with my paternal grandmother In 2014 and took care of her until she passed away in 2016 at age 95. She wasn’t doing very well when my mom moved in with her so b/c of the TLC, I love to believe that my mom gave her almost 3 more years on this earth that she probably wouldn’t have had, otherwise. Plus, when my mom moved in with her, she took her own 94 year old mother with her, so she was taking care of both of my grandmothers. I have chronic back pain so my daughter and I helped out when we could. In fact, my daughter was very young but looked forward to spending the weekends with my mom and helping her. They were her great grandmothers and not every child has the privilege of knowing any of their great grandparents. I’ve always thought that experience will help her to be tolerant, understanding and sympathetic towards the elderly and/or sickly and currently she has ambitions of being a nurse. My paternal grandmother passed away the very next day after Hospice started their in-home care. Hospice played a huge roll in the home care of my maternal grandmother until she passed away in 2018 at 98.5 YO. Same with that of my father before passing away in 2019. IMO anyone who takes proper care of the elderly and/or sickly are heroes. It takes a LOT of dedication, patience and love and often times it seems as if the caregivers who sacrifice so much, get overlooked. It’s VERY tasking yet rewarding and when you look back you realize you wouldn’t change a thing!! Hospice is a wonderful organization. It takes a very special person to be a part of it and I’m so appreciative of those that are!!

[@jolenehauck7019]

There are no words! I am sorry for your loss doesn't cut it! I know from experience. I am sure she is with you & your gorgeous daughters looking out for you everyday!💗💗💗

[@marylagreca2191]

Sending hugs!

[@yvonneduffy6812]

How beautifully sad

[@kimgodwin5997]

Thank you for sharing your personal story im so sorry for your loss . Ur strenght shines threw for your beautiful wive and your daughters im so glad the hospice made all ir journey easier . They are amazing places . God bless you all .

[@mkivy]

Bless u sir...u and ur babies!

[@xmasgrump2398]

These make me sad and happy at same time. 😢

[@savannahm5529]

beautiful Woman, Beautiful love story & a Priceless tribute. fly high, sweet sweet Angel.

[@savannahm5529]

the environment a person's in is INCREDIBLY crucial for any time in life but, especially for this.

[@bocskailucia159]

I would love it that everyone could afford this, not only the rich ones !!!!

[@giovannamoro8564]

Gourgeous family .

[@dl7281]

Just lovely. Thank you.

[@JavierBonillaC]

Man life deals you a really bad hand sometimes; I think you are taking it with great courage and love for your kids.

[@ukok6961]

you are so brave and you should be proud, she is watching over you all x

[@tina4niko]

Sending you all gentle hugs.

[@valeriedavies4854]

You have such a beautiful family your wife will all ways live in your two girls. I am so sorry for your sad loss But one day you will be all together again. Xxx

[@annaglenn3490]

I believe you will be with your wife again. This isn't the end of your relationship.

[@ellad9513]

My deepest condolences to u and ur family..I thank u so much for sharing ur story , Ur eyes look so sad and full of pain ,I pray that God gives u the strength u need ,she left u with 2 beautiful little girls that will need ur love and she will forever live through ur beautiful little Angels, I lost my mom when I was only 10 years old and my heart just aches to know that ur daughters lost their mom, I will keep ur little girls in my prayers :(..

[@kiela17]

Always leave God in. Always. God will never leave you out. Never.

[@taniav6990]

@hobbit lad yo if it's your belief that God doesn't exist that's fine, but dont tell others to leave god out of their lives. Whatever belief helps people get through sad & hard times is good. I personally don't believe God exists but I wouldn't push that on to anyone.

[@shavonneproctor7763]

@@taniav6990 Don't argue with an Atheist, it's pointless.

[@jintyc9133]

Who in there right mind would give this a thumbs down 😡😡😡

[@markb1487]

Incredible story...💯👍

[@renee.wilkins8282]

Speacial ppl at hospice anywhere ❤

[@erlawind4542]

You’ve got two beautiful girls to cherish god bless!

[@jessicadreamtime2479]

Thanks Dan

[@ariknight2975]

I am so sorry for you. Sending hugs from Germany

[@lindauribe6872]

Love gets us through.I miss my husband a police officer every day.

[@Daisypetal100]

Very touching.

[@dianemainiero6760]

thankyou ..xx

[@laurariley7071]

I would love to see how many rooms have been able to be added to the facility that would have a great impact in the people actually seeing that they are truly using the donation for that purpose plus I think that every time that they have a patient that they are going to be able to get that privacy they have to take away enough as it is because I have been a nurse for people that have been in the hospital and they have been really trying to get that I hope that those young kids will be able to take and always remember that leaf was a little sign that they had a mom who they loved and lost so young.

[@paulwhitear4983]

Sorry for your loss. My Father in law was in his local Hospice near Maidstone, a wonderful place.

[@abigray8585]

Dignity is so important, so many people neglect this and then cause so many people to suffer unnecessarily. So glad this place doesn’t so that and allows privacy and dignity.

[@madeleine8977]

Dan, I, too, am sorry for your loss. No wonder you fell in love with Tam. My husband died in hospice and it was such a positive experience. Ed was a physician so he knew everything that was happening with his cancer, but they were wonderful to us.

[@ncredbird3998]

Beautiful

[@ritazmadeinlithuania2499]

Prayers n love

[@QqpgHjklF]

R.I.P. 😢

[@nickywilks7928]

Beautiful.

[@jeriyahmackey7140]

Wonderful

[@scamela21]

I’m sorry for your loss but you will see your beloved again.

[@beatsbytheround]

I think he said she lost a bunch of weight and had no energy.

[@annetteslife]

Your partner is looking down on you making sure you and your kids are okay. So sorry for your loss of Tam.

[@billysmith5721]

my older brother passed 1/19/22. in idol conversation one afternoon, him and i had a conversation about ways to die that are quick. years later my brother was discovered deceased one morning at home. he had a heart attack during the night which killed him. he did not have to have hospice there trying to negate the pain, saying good byes etc. i did not know it but i said my final good bye the last time i saw him alive jacks passing was quick and fast. no pain or suffering. my condolences with prayers and thoughts are for those who suffer for a long time before death RIP god bless the works of hospice

[@patearl4036]

Wow....nice place for what it is

[@Paranormalin416]

I am so deeply sorry for your loss, but if it means anything, I don’t know whether you’re religious or not, I wasn’t very, but I died when I was 21, I’m now 49, even though that was a long time ago, I had a near death experience, and I got to see what awaits us on the other side. Your dear sweet wife will be with her family right now, and will be waiting for you when your time finally comes. I promise you that death is not an ending, but merely a transition into the next state of existence. It’s never good guy, only until we meet again. Ever since that first experience, I’ve undergone 33 more operations, and nearly died twice more. I’ve also lost several people I love during that time period, But having experienced what I did, while I’m still devastated, it gives me so much comfort and joy to know that I will see that they can, and that it’s not goodbye. I just hate being separated for such a long period of time, but love knows no boundaries, it is eternal, and absence truly does make the heart grow finder. God be with you and your family, My deepest sympathies, send all my love, compassion, and hopes for a brighter future for yourself, your beautiful family and your beautiful wife, who is not gone, just temporarily separated.

[@micheledoddkelton6598]

Mrssewhardtoplease It wasn't this persons choice the reply gives hope to someone who might feel hopeless about a loss you on the other hand offer nothing but negativity and no hope and to do it on someones page that has suffered a loss is just cruel.

[@onemuckypup9823]

Well said, Michele! Couldn't agree more!

[@thatcatboab]

I like to think what TJ Devereaux is true. X

[@mereej8924]

exactly what i was going to say too..

[@rocker-barrel4786]

Immortality awaits...

[@RoniBWN]

Rest in Peace TAM...

[@tomahawk5118]

God bless

[@Joemnc]

Some people have a really bad opinion of hospice because they view it as death, but the people who work there are amazing. They can help you prepare for the end so you’ll know what to expect.

[@pallavisreetambraparni6995]

So sad. No one should have to suffer like this.

[@GiGiwreathdesigns]

So sorry

[@russtee9352]

Only 158 commenys??? Murders get thousands of likes!!! God Bless You Good Sir and your beautiful Children. Tam rests in God's embrace. Will TRY to save something to send the Hospice. Old Guy ( Canada).

[@mrfixit2788]

One of the hardest cancers to beat.

[@jimtuyo]

Cancer is the worst thing that can happen. Only those suffering or witnessing a loved one going through it would know that. Whatever you assume and imagine, it’s way harder and painful in real life. So much Technology And Gadgets and the best Gadget ever will be The cure for cancer, the Pain and suffering is Major with cancer.