Restarting my whole house decluttering journey, bedroom reset, exposing my entire messy house

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you all for the great suggestions! I didn’t mean to sound like I’m sh*tting on Blake in this video so please be kind in the comments. Everyone in this house has made messes, myself included, I’ve just been actively working on mine and they haven’t. But learning new skills is hard and takes time. Blake is naturally messy and has had ADHD his whole life - that commonly goes hand in hand and I’m understanding of that. But a family conversation needs to be had about how cleaning up everyone else’s messes isn’t “mom’s job” especially since I’m currently overwhelmed with this work project. The decluttering is 100% me, though. I’ve brought all my reselling stuff into this house, among all the other things, and I’m ready to purge it and organize it. But I do need the family on board to not undo all my hard work the day after I do it. I will talk with them, although I’ve been beating my head against the wall on this issue with all of them for years. But hopefully once they see me taking care of my own mess, it will inspire them to keep things more tidy. Especially with the kids, when there is stuff everywhere it’s hard for them to even recognize what they need to do. If it’s overwhelming for an adult, it seems impossible for a kid. Blake is another story, but if he could just throw his trash away and get his dang dirty clothes into a hamper I’d have zero complaints. He does do a lot around here and feels like he is at his limit, too. We are both busy, stressed, and exhausted and I understand that. I will be buying a trash can for the bedroom (even though there is one in the bathroom 10 steps away, apparently that’s too far 😂) and discussing a hamper solution that works better for the way his brain works. Hopefully he can figure that out or express it somehow. We may need to trial an error some solutions. I am naturally an obsessively clean and organized person. It’s hard to imagine, I know. 😂I think I was a librarian in another life. We can go into what has changed and how I got here to this state some other time, but the biggest issue is having TOO MUCH STUFF and that’s why we’re starting with decluttering rather than deep cleaning or changing the habits of my family members. I appreciate all the concern for me and my wellbeing, all the tips, and just the overwhelming kindness and love you have shown me. It keeps me going! ❤

[@jenn1663]

As someone with severe ADHD - Not just a trash can in the bedroom. Strategically place it wherever the most trash tends to accumulate. It needs to be specifically in the spot where stuff is already being tossed. Believe me, it's magic. I have small discrete trash cans EVERYWHERE because yes, 10 steps is too far 😅

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@jenn1663thank you for that insight. I believe I had adhd as well but mine manifests much differently if I do have it. More of a compulsive cleanliness and agitation from messes so it’s been very interesting looking into ways to adapt to both of our neurodivergence 😂

[@savannah1529]

A standing hamper might be easier for Blake. I looked at your laundry bag and I thought, "that's too many steps to getting my laundry in! If I can't throw it in, I don't put it in the bin." I also have ADHD, and everything needs to be so simple for me. Good luck 🩷

[@margaretwhiting3073]

I was sitting in the middle of my massive, disgusting out of control cluttered home, depressed, teary and no motivation because I’m overwhelmed with how much I have and where to start first. I’ve let my entire life get 100% out of control. You, sweet Jamie, have given me the gentle push to be able to battle one thing every day (or maybe every other day?) But I think once I’m in the process I’m going to enjoy purging and organizing because having a “lottery drawing” jar it gives me hope to get every thing taken care of by the new year! Thank you for giving me hope again! You’re such an inspiration!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you so much for sharing that with me. It means so much to me that I could help motivate others and give you a sense of gentle encouragement! I was totally overwhelmed at first but something about this method just clicks. I hope it works well for you too! Go easy, give yourself lots of grace, and before you know it, it will be done! I’m cheering you on!

[@onairwitherika4644]

Through it all, dont let your journey overwhelm you! Strive for progress and not perfection. My house used to be JUST LIKE THIS or maybe worse. I started with the most noticeable areas and it gave me the momentum to keep going. Now, you wouldnt believe my house if you saw it. You got this mama!!

[@KristinaGreenwood]

Glad you're back! Thank you for being a normal human being, imperfection and all are greatly appreciated ❤

[@rachel8727]

I have a washcloth in the bottom of the toothbrush drawer that makes it super easy to clean because I just wash it and put a new one in. Just an idea. :)

[@alinafries3452]

Hi, I just wanted to thank you for being so honest and authentic. Your video really inspired me to get up and get things done. I’m so excited for the coming content.😊 Greetings from Germany

[@isabellerininger6249]

My thought….. first, thank for sharing!! Being vulnerable is HUGE! Second, Start with the area that will be noticed first. It will create order spillover into other areas. Main spaces, holidays coming, the kitchen/living/dining area. The banker boxes can go to the garage, any inventory that’s invading the home shared spaces should go to the garage.I’ve seen many resellers use their garages as inventory storage both before and after posting the items, with a photography area in the office. (And post the exercise equipment on hubby’s behalf since he simply hasn’t had time.) I also highly encourage the Dana K White methods-have a finite space for inventory and more can’t be added until there is space-this way you can keep your work and home/shared space separate and is fair for the rest of the family and their use of the home and your own self care sanity. You deserve a calm home as well and to keep business in its allotted space in your life. Oh, one other note…Maybe you could consider a trash can in the bed room so the trash is contained daily and doesn’t get mixed in with your regular belongings.

[@sarahharper-fi2mx]

SHE'S BACK!!!!! The way I have been checking your channel, waiting for a new video like a STALKER. 🤭 Everything you've done has been a step in the right direction, don't stop! Keep it up!!!!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@sarahharper-fi2mx 😂😂 thank you!! I appreciate the support and encouragement!

[@sarahharper-fi2mx]

I commented that right at the beginning and I'm back to answer your question. 😊 Kitchen seems most important to me. The "functional" rooms are always important to sort first imo. So kitchen, bathrooms, walkways, etc, then the more off shoot spaces as I call them. Dining room, bedrooms, living room.

[@kayalford6746]

First time viewer. I’m 68 and just can’t get my house in order. I have physical limitations that limit the amount of time I can work. I have decluttered a lot in the past few months but can’t keep a good daily upkeep. Some due to physical and some due to depression. I think your channel will give me some inspiration. Cats! I have two. Cat litter is heavy! I have started ordering from Walmart so I don’t have to carry it. I don’t have carpet, on purpose, but do find places they have tried to hack up hairballs. Non cat people would never understand! I have a window perch for them that suctions to the window at the pad level and the bottom sits on the window sill. And now that I have Christmas decor out, and I have a lot because I love it, it does make cleaning harder. Glad I found your channel.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you for being here and I hope it helps. I watch other decluttering videos myself for inspiration, too. It is motivating when you see others getting rid of stuff! I’m sorry about your physical limitations, and it’s completely understandable to not be able to do much at a time. The thing we don’t talk about a lot is how physically exhausting cleaning a house can be. In the next few days I’m going to be starting daily short videos for vlogmas where I clean up one small area in my house per day. Things that won’t take more than an hour, but usually take more like 15-30 mins. This method might be something you could try! I’ve started filming them already and I have to say I love it. I appreciate your kind words and thank you again for watching!

[@monicamolloy5105]

I understand CHAOS… I sadly learned about in childhood. I think I watched too many ?? Maxwell Smart ?? X the “enemy agents were spelled KAOS. And I’ll say unfortunately integrated the idea into my life … so I appreciate your struggle … Im in the middle of one of my own. R/ M

[@cassandraknight8804]

Hi there- I just turned 50… but I have physical disabilities. I had my cat for around 14 years and he was still well, unfortunately I could no longer do it… so he now has a new home and cat mum who loves him… it’s been hard and I miss him …. But I want you to know he is ok ( spoiled) and I am to Because I’m free of the hard work and mess.

[@theredspottymushroom6025]

Super nice job getting rid of the storage and paying that bill!! Love your declutter videos! They are so relatable and makes me start doing the same. ❣

[@tashafmt5200]

I’m proud of you for getting back into it! It’s ok you took a break, that’s life. I hope 2025 is your year! You got this. I really enjoy when you show what you got rid of, it’s motivating.

[@jennettehenderson9810]

I'm so happy you're back! Your decluttering videos are very inspiring! Also, you're very funny, lol.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Yay! Thank you! 😊

[@rvmomma8687]

So glad your back!! Blake needs to get on board with cleaning/decluttering. Seems like a lot of the clutter revolves around his things.

[@JC-xl2bq]

I have an ADHD person in my house too. He’s just such a pigpen. Our system (and my anxiety about shit all over the place) forces him to deal with his crap. It’s gotten better but it’s never been easy.

[@MK-ex2vt]

What is your system? Need tips 😂​@@JC-xl2bq

[@kimbucha2949]

My mantras are, Don't leave the room empty handed, and Don't put it down, put it away. It really helps me to not let things pile up, even if it's just a baby step toward progress. Also, decluttering and organizing is my self care, lol!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Can you program my kids and husband to have this same mindset? 😆

[@fig8634]

Thanks so much for sharing!!. My house is just as chaotic and cluttered, so I’m comforted that it’s not just me!! Little by little we will can declutter and organize…..

[@nbig860]

Soooo glad you’re back-been waiting! 👍👏 YOU CAN DO THIS! 💪🏼

[@karenpage9383]

Yay! You're back!!! Love the new name too! Girl, I know you are dealing with challenges, but all the more reason to limit how much you actually own and keep it down to a manageable amount. I'd go hard decluttering toys and games for sure since the influx of new stuff for Christmas is going to put both categories over the top. And while I know you want a peaceful bedroom, I think that room is the hardest for you. Its upstairs, so crap never makes it back down. Plus, by the time you go up there you are tired, and that's when stuff just gets set down instead of put away. Instead of a full decluttering of your room, spend 15 mins a day trying to keep it from getting out of control. At least until you can dedicate time to it. Def get Blake a garbage can though and empty when its full. Keep bags in the can (under the current bag) so you don't have to go downstairs for a replacement bag. And if you want to decorate, focus on the living room / shared areas before you deal with the kitchen. The whole family will benefit that way. And the kitchen can be tackled a little at a time. With the vintage business being so busy, you'll make more progress in the house with 15 min room pick ups than 3 day overhauls. Oh, and I saw your comment to someone about wanting a big pile to show how much came out of the boys' room, but as a viewer if you show me pics of 3 piles taken over time, it registers the same as one big pile. You'll be able to say how many bags of stuff was the total. Don't let that hangup keep you from getting things out of the house now! 😘 Oh, and I have no issues with the cat food on the counter 😉

[@katespurgeon5572]

Hit up mini areas where you can see quick progress. Example: cardboard, out-grown games, coffee bar, moving things for better flow in pantry/cereal. Glad to see you back. I've referred to your 50% clothes reduction process multiple times!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

This is exactly what I started today! I think before tackling whole “rooms” there’s lots of quick areas of progress to be made in the little problem areas. Like the dresser I want to trash by the front door! So quick to go through those drawers and basically dump everything and get it out of here.

[@JustNatasha93]

@@Jamie_ChaoticAnd along these lines, maybe you could get a trash bag and just go around and collect trash from all rooms and nothing else. Like solely focus on removing trash from the house.

[@amandab.6815]

I remember when the inventory was taking over the house. I'm so proud of you for selling all that and taking control of your home again!

[@melaniehutchinson5306]

As a pro declutter coach ( Dana K White trained and certified) and adhd organizing expert, I think you need to start with visible areas. So start with your front hallway. What people see when they come in. Starting in hidden spaces won’t help with motivation. Using Dana’s five steps will get you there. Think too about like things together, and open easy storage.. so open bins are the best, make it as easy to put away as it is to put it down Think about point of performance , so store things near where you use them. A great example would be a coffee bar zone. Also use your containers as limits, even for inventory to sell to keep that manageable. Hope this helps!

[@NancyTawil-c3h]

So glad you're back . . . missed you! 💞 pantry/kitchen video would be great!

[@blue_Ash_]

So happy you're back! Definitely agree with putting a trash can in the bedroom. Make things as easy as possible for chaotic brains. I don't have a suggestion where to start decluttering but I do think it would be a good idea to divide your kitchen declutter into different sections to make it less overwhelming and as a way to track your progress. For the stuffed animals in the kids room maybe consider getting one of those bean bags that you can fill with them. That way you have storage that's useful too and it might be easier for the kids to put them away as well.

[@karenwells6414]

I just found you today and have enjoyed your video and you motivated me to get up and move some stuff thanks

[@Liz-bc9pj]

I put a trashcan in my bedroom, now we have less mess on the carpet….. just empty the trash weekly ❤

[@kallistorrs4418]

Thank you for showing the realistic side of cleaning and decluttering! Maybe a trash can in your room/bathroom that can hold a trash bag? It has helped us tremendously.

[@kako6417]

I just watched a video you posted 9 months ago and the way your husband talks to you just melted my heart🥹. He was so happy and appreciateve for couple of more hangers and so proud because you did such a good job decluttering ( i think you gor rid of half clothes in one round). Hope you continue doing great job and maybe even buy a new dress to make a wish come true for your husband. Wish you all the things to be light and easy as you declutter the old stuff❤

[@LV-Frankie]

Hello from Australia. Just found your videos whilst I was packing away my Christmas things. Then I got sidetracked and was looking at all the beautiful things you have in your house. Best wishes for your journey in 2025

[@roesej]

Glad to see you are back! If you ever move out of this house, never go to another one that has stairs. They seem to create a big obstacle when you are organizing things-there always seem to be piles of items to move up and down the stairs-not to mention that you fell because of them. Hope your knee gets better asap

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

100%!! I hate the stairs, all of us avoid going up or down them and the clutter piles up on them. It’s a total hazard! I said in our last apartment that I would never live in a place with stairs again but here we are. At least these have carpet so they aren’t as deadly as our last ones, but it’s still a reason we don’t put things away. And I managed to hurt myself anyway 😆 I truly hope if we can ever buy a home I can find one that is single story!

[@sapmolina]

I'm glad you are back. Love the name change

[@cindymoore9380]

One step at a time one day at a time looking forward to the decluttering journey

[@hellosteph9206]

I'm so glad I found your channel! Can't wait to see you declutter. I would start on your kitchen for two reasons 1. You seem have some motivation to start there 2. It's next to your husband's record room...have him declutter organize that simultaneously during his week off!

[@AiveenReynor]

Great job. I'm glad you're back😊😊😊

[@valm1569]

Great video Jamie love what you’ve been doing. I’m also organizing and donating the things I have. It’s easy to get sidetracked, but I love it when I can see progress. Great job 🐈‍⬛😀👍

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I think “Sidetracked” might be my middle name! 😆

[@bethanyb1760]

I am so glad you are back! I have a few ideas that may help you? You could consider putting a trash can in your room for all of the c-pap garbage and empty it before trash day. Another idea is using those banker boxes for donations! The areas you’ve already decluttered and organized are working out great! The medicine cabinet is obviously working well and that will only take a few mins to tidy up again.

[@erinwalter5395]

I would love to see you declutter the coffee bar, it looks like it would be a quick win, I am so happy your back 🩵🩵🩵

[@amymomo]

Love your MCM furniture and lamps. That Brasilia collection is lovely.

[@ErinEff]

I absolutely made it to the end of the video! I’m into the kitchen pantry declutter. That’s an area where I also have lots of clutter and we have a similar tall, deep pantry set up. Oh also, maybe use some of the banker boxes that you would donate and fill up with the things you are donating while you declutter. My biggest mental block when decluttering is the hurdle of ‘how’ to get it out of the house so having empty boxes to fill with the stuff would be helpful?! Also, love the channel name.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Hey Erin!! I’m happy to see you over here and I see you have a name change too! I hope all is well with you and your family, I miss seeing you!

[@KyoKitten]

Max is just giving sone love bites LoL so much love, he just can't contain himself. Been binging this playlist after Beth suggested to check out your channel and so far so good, definitely relatable (on many fronts). On to the next video in the list. 😂🎉

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thanks so much for being here! Max is that kid who playfully jabs at you and then you jab back and then he throws a real punch 😆 only its bites haha

[@KyoKitten]

@@Jamie_Chaotic i have one of those too except mine is dog hardware with cat software aka a husky 🫠

[@BLUEGREEN65]

I LOVE all the mid century modern furniture in your house! GORGEOUS!!!❤😊

[@JojoboxVlogs]

Love your videos and so glad to see you post. A suggestion, if you find that garbage collects in your room, then why not put a garbage bin in your room - that will shortcut the need to take the individual pieces of trash downstairs each time. If you’re making trash in that room, perhaps a trash can in the bedroom would be helpful 😊

[@lindatuell164]

Hi I would love to see you cleaning the boys room and the kitchen/ dining room - and be sure the NY Yankees hat goes in the donate bin. 😂 Glad your back- I enjoy your videos and your sense of humor

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@lindatuell164 🤣 I agree, my boys were the Yankees in little league otherwise I would have burned those hats! 🔥

[@gingercotter4761]

Just the other day I thought about your videos and wondered where you were then today you popped up, I was thrilled!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

So glad you’re here!

[@shurrymasa]

I love the painting on your bed.

[@MultiCatPass]

Just keep plugging away and surviving the de-clutter...... that's what I'm doing too. Ongoing de-clutter for past year and a half, and I'm not done yet. Cheers!

[@luiiaco6246]

I'm not sure if people have mentioned this but I love that pointy starred clock it's gorgeous

[@nettie8060]

Kitchen would be my vote. I decluttered mine a few months ago and it really helped. Still have other areas to work on though.

[@findingaway5512]

Oooo. Hello! 🤗 Love this!!! Great video and looking forward to more. It's never done. 😂 Trust me we are chaotic and neurodivergent here too. Never dull... Always behind!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

That’s why I figured the name of my channel was a pretty safe choice - it’s always going to be chaotic! 🤣

[@donnalonghenry9550]

You are a warrior. Keep going.

[@lisaartistry289]

I love your house!! 😂🥰 just lived in, family cozy.. it's hard with 2 stories. And young children.

[@wendymartin4251]

Welcome Back! I'm quite impressed with all that you have accomplished during your hiatus. I'd definitely start with the Pantry.

[@shannong7556]

Still here. You remind me of my daughter and her full steam ahead life 🥰

[@purposeinmind]

You have made progress which is awesome! Life happens to all of us and can disrupt progress but the good newsd is that the clutter will sit there patiently waiting for you. Believe in yourself and you will achieve your goal. There are many ways to tackle decluttering and for ADHD I've found it can take a while to stick with routines. I would set up systems and let the decluttering fall naturally in with them. For eg: Food. Dedicate one day for food shopping, of course you can do a pick up shop in between if something was forgotten (Hello ADHD) on food shopping day you bring it home and unpack it straight away WHILST making space for it in fridge freezer pantry which is the decluttering part. toss out of date and rotten foods and anything that has been in the freezer for a year or more. you haven't eaten it in the past year so chances are high you won't this coming year. To begin with food day will be a bit overwhelming but over time it will becoming your routine and then a habit so it won't take up too much brain space. This will take care of your pantry and as you develop routines you will be decluttered. Also there are other ways to do this and whatever actually works for you keep doing it. Anne, Australia 🦘

[@pinadelmonico]

At the end of the day when I’m really done w everyone n thing…I almost always do a 5 min tidy of kitchen bc I CANNOT stand waking up to a messy kitchen in the am! My point is maybe if each fam member had a 5 min tidy before bed it would help the mess & start new habits for everyone? ❤ WELCOME BACK!🥰🥰

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I think something like that is a great idea, and I always think after the kids go to bed, “ah I should have made them pick up xyz before going to bed…” so it’s really not a habit I’ve attempted with them yet. I think once all of my clutter is out of here and it’s more obvious to them what needs to be done, those are skills we all need to work on. Also cleaning up messes as we go through our days and completely finishing a task when we start one… I call Blake “Mr. 75 Percent” because while he IS the one who does the dishes every night, he never does every single dish to leave me with a clean, empty sink in the morning. There is always about 25% left in there. Just one of his funny little neurospicy quirks that I don’t fully understand, he just can’t fully finish anything 😂 But the alternative is that I do the dishes myself and add one more thing to my task list, and I think I’ll actually go crazy if that happens! So 75% it is!

[@KarMa-ws3ll]

@@Jamie_Chaotic perhaps the kids need more bitesized steps? Like...collect any dirty dishes OR dirty laundry OR paper trash or just put all eg Lego in a bin ?? I remeber, for me, as a kid, it was hard "just to clean up the room" or "just organized stuff"; i needed bitesized, clear, actionable steps (its still like this today but what helps me is limiting all stuff going inside the house, especially paper, dishes, and cloths).

[@samgilardi]

I think I remember watching you a super long time ago! Welcome back!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thanks!

[@wilmabooth8928]

Go girl you can do it.... just one step at the time i am quietly cheering here Give yourself grace and celebrate the great win of posting this video i am soo proud of you and will definitely be watching all the progress X

[@rhondap8683]

Hey! Good to see you! Welcome back! ❤😊

[@Afke1978]

I'm glad to have seen your home with all the imperfectness and the not so imperfect... My house is similar, minus the business and cats, but with 4 instead of 2 kids, 3 of them are 16 and over, the youngest is 7. Our house is smaller and we only have 4 bedrooms. The 7 and 16 yo share a room. That's why we still have a lot of toys in our living room. (Dollhouse, play kitchen, doll pram, wooden building blocks, most of the youngest lego...) Our living room is the fullest and least organised. I'm trying, like really trying to make it better, but that involves donating most of my books and arts and crafts things and it evolves slowly... Also we tend to hoard a bit... My oldest 2 and I have been diagnosed with ADHD and ADD, one of them with autism as well. My husbands oldest also thinks she has something but hasn't been tested yet. I think my husband also has a tad bit of ADHD, autism and OCD. He can be really organised in a few areas, but lacks it in other areas... The youngest is our whirlwind rainbow baby and our daily sunshine as well as the one keeping us on our toes... Greetings from this chaotic mommy from The Netherlands. By the way, I watched till the end!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you so much for your comment and for watching. With so many neurodivergent issues and age ranges in the house I can imagine there is a lot going on, but it sounds like a beautiful, loving family. The Netherlands is on my top 5 places I want to visit. I recently found out I had a Dutch great-grandfather and want to explore my roots! It looks like an absolutely beautiful part of the world. Thank you so much for being here and I’m sending my encouragement in your own decluttering journey!

[@rhondalockrey9592]

I feel like I am in the same boat like a hamster on a wheel loll We are both resellers my hubby is blind to organizing cleaning up donating but I have been slowly getting him on board with that part of the business before he wears me out. You have made good changes since last year so be proud. With Christmas coming I would work on areas you want to decorate take one job at a time. I got a few jobs done yesterday have pared down on the decorating. Have found a donation place that comes to pick up from me when I call them. That has been so helpful. Will be watching your progress it motivates me to keep going.

[@BLUEGREEN65]

Awesome record collection!!! I just recently bought a record player, so I’m starting from scratch on a record collection 😊

[@debbiebales4938]

I would LOVE to help with the kitchen when we come down before Christmas. Complete with buying you some cabinet organizers. ❤️ you.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Deal!

[@delorseboyd1224]

Yes!! The kitchen, please 😊

[@amplified506]

So sorry you are overwhelmed. Wish you were closer. I would love to come and help you barrel through the house. 😀💕 Would definitely like to see you clear the kitchen and adjoining family room so you can enjoy those spaces with your family.

[@M4rkeritaville]

Hi Jamie. I just found you. I've been digging out my closets to your voice. It's been working!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I’m so glad!

[@Sandrocas]

Hi Jamie! I just found your channel, you remind me a lot of my good friend, who lives way too far away. You are very personable. You have lots of lovely things in your home. Your family is very important to you. This is my first impression, and I will follow your journey. Btw, when you opened your inventory(reverse Monica closet,lol), I was impressed! You have it in you, one day at a time! Also please heal before taking on anything heavy, health first, take care.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Haha a reverse Monica’s closet 🤣🤣

[@Sandrocas]

@Jamie_Chaotic ☺❤

[@donnalegrand9133]

I hope you pick the kitchen and that you start with the pantry!!! I almost bought a plane ticket to come help!!!! Welcome back!

[@marilyndietzman-vx5ts]

Your home is full of stuff, but more importantly it is filled with love.

[@FatBirdFindsCrafting]

Love this channel! All I can say is….same girl same. ❤

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Oh I know you get it! We sure have special challenges in this line of work!

[@tandb1090]

I am new here just scribed , you can do’t all . You should make a collapse with the space maker , she does magic .

[@owlcreekpatterncompany5675]

Yes! The kitchen 🙌

[@tashafmt5200]

Oh and I’ve been waiting for you to come back!

[@theresaconner4705]

😳I’m new to your channel and honestly I’ll be back just to see how far you will actually get. Because you have so much stuff that it makes your house look tiny. So, I can’t wait for the next video to drop!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

This feels a little bit like a backhanded compliment 🤣 I have lots of more recent videos, I’ve been posting everyday for Vlogmas. So hopefully I prove you wrong and you see how far I’ve already gotten in just a couple weeks. 🩵

[@stephnapper7341]

You could use the empty boxes by filling them with stuff to donate.😊

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@stephnapper7341 good idea!

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

OMG! I’m so glad to see you again! You have a big job ahead of you. I would start in the kitchen first BUT put a lg wastebasket on Blake’s side of the bed and beg him to use it. Do a 10 min. clear-off of your bathroom counter. Also, make an agreement that when anybody goes downstairs, they should carry something down that needs to go down. For some reason that landing really bothers me..

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I’m going to get a trash can for Blake’s side so we’ll see what happens. I’ve been begging, pleading, nagging him for literally years to put his dirty laundry in a dirty laundry bag and he just doesn’t do it. He throws it on the floor on top of the bag. I have no idea why, I’ll never understand exactly how his brain works or how to get him to care/remember. So I’m not optimistic about the trash can getting used, or the bag being emptied/replaced when it’s full (unless I do it of course). But we’ll try, maybe he’ll surprise me and prove me wrong. We do already have a “every time you go up or down the stairs, take something with you” rule, but obviously unless I’m standing next to the stairs like a troll under a bridge reminding everyone, it just doesn’t happen 😆 I’m welcome to any suggestions on how to get my family on board to help more. It’s not that I don’t try, the kids do have age appropriate chores and 50% of them do a good job but with my son who has ADHD it’s like pulling teeth. My husband also has uncontrolled ADHD and I suspect I do as well, which might be a big part of the issues in this house. But mostly I think no one else in the house cares what it looks like. They’re all happy as clams living in filth and I’m repulsed by it. And if it does bother them, it doesn’t bother them enough to do something about it. So I’m not sure if they’ll ever actually help. I’m trying to instead get rid of most everything so that it’s easier for me to just reset the house myself.

[@karenpage9383]

@@Jamie_Chaotic What about one of those hampers that's made for kids that's a basketball hoop and if he makes the shot it goes in the hamper??? I wonder if it just needs to be another style of hamper that works better for his brain. Maybe ask him what you could get him that would help him keep it tidy. Maybe a hamper in the bathroom makes more sense to him 🤷‍♀

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

Oh you poor dear. I didn’t realize the problems you were up against getting cooperation from your family. I think you’re right- the more you get rid of, the less there is to clean up. What you probably need is Family Counseling but I doubt your hubby would have the time or the inclination to go. You have my love, prayers & support from down here in Brenham Texas.❣️❤️❤️🙏

[@3TXSisters]

Thank you for sharing your home with us. I admire your determination and openness, allowing us to see the "before." There are some battles not worth engaging. Pick up your husband's clothes and put them in the hamper. Two seconds of your time isn't worth high blood pressure. It took me years to realize that my husband has many wonderful traits, but he wasn't ever going to put his socks in the hamper, lol. A garbage can on his side of the bed will be useful, even if you're throwing away his trash. Also, a trash can by his desk will be helpful, hopefully, lol. You have a wonderful family. Your idea of decluttering will help keep your home organized, I think. Our house is turned upside down. We brought my 93-year-old sister-in-law in to live with us without having time to prepare our home for the move. I'm overwhelmed. I like how you give yourself grace and accept that a job is good enough for now. Very healthy! Take care, Linda 🦋

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@ oh Linda, I feel for you! Bringing someone into your home to live and also being a caretaker is extremely difficult. I hope it all settles soon and you can get your house back in order. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving 🦃

[@CleaningandClearingClutterwith]

First time seeing you. Looking forward to watching your decluttering journey.

[@AntiqueAgenda]

Loved how Max was all over you at the end...what a rascally loverboy! If I was to choose your next home zone for a video it would be the upstairs landing & stairs...I fell down my stairs 5 years ago and still have mental trauma from breaking my foot 🤣. Scott was watching this video with me and when you talked about hitting your knee on the hard floor he was grimmacing & wincing in sympathy!!!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you for the sympathy Scott!! And Heather thank you for watching, it’s so nice to see my reselling friends over here. I know all of you know the special challenges we face with all our vintage stuff everywhere! 😆 I’m sorry to hear you fell down the stairs and broke your foot!! It is totally traumatizing for sure! I’m lucky and surprised I didn’t break anything - all three times!

[@AntiqueAgenda]

@@Jamie_Chaotic Solidarity sister...i have been working hard trying to get out from under the Christmas inventory that currently owns all the square footage of the floor in my den. And my office. And the kitchen table where my unfinished crafts live 🤣.

[@SomersetSewist]

Just found your channel! OMG! SOOOO relatable. I love your honesty. I'm trying to improve. I feel overwhelmed. Baby steps.... a tiny improvement is still an improvement.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

If you watch some of my Vlogmas “decluttering roulette” videos, I highly recommend that method of getting started! It’s helped me so much to feel less overwhelmed and get some quick, mostly easy wins and see a big improvement over a short amount of time. 🩵 baby steps for sure!

[@homesteadingdreams8046]

Hi, i just wanted to take a moment to say you are doing a great job! Although you have a larger home than i do, mine used to be SO cluttered and overwhelming! If you just keep chipping away i promise it gets better! I feel like i live in different house now 😊 Kepp up the great work! Just a thought, what about a small trashcan in your bedroom? For packaging and things so you dont have to keep them piling up? You're doing awesome!!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

My hubby got a bedroom trash can for Christmas 🤣

[@lindastefanski4330]

Kitchen 😁❤❤. Or, what ever you feel like 😂

[@carries8914]

Beth from Feral TradWife suggested you, and Im super jealous of your pyrex collection!! They dont make glass bowls like they used to 😢 Also excited to go through your decluttering journey with you. I have a feeling you will inspire my own declutter!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

She’s the best!! Don’t tell her I said that! 😆 thanks for being here!!

[@carries8914]

🤐

[@wiebki]

I'm a big fan of working with your habits aka put a trash can in the bedroom if that's where trash gathers up from the cpap machine. That really helped me.

[@HBSVMom]

🎉 love your channel ❤️

[@kathleenkaleookalanismith8724]

I have little trash cans in each room that I empty once a week. I have a little basket for random socks and when I do laundry I go through the basket to find missing socks. In the kitchen I only have a few coffee mugs so that we are forced to wash them and just let them sit around the house. Same with plates and bowls. Basically I have 12 each and that’s it. I don’t have a lot of choices as far as snacks. I keep food choices very simple. On a side note, I would move the desk out of the office and use the office solely as a “storage unit” and place the desk somewhere else in the house just to be able to keep all the business clutter in one room and the spill over in garage. It’s nicer to see a desk in the living space rather than boxes. As far as the kids rooms, I would take the closet doors off and put up cream colored curtains and I would also put cream colored curtains in the windows because it makes the space feel calmer and also feel bigger. I would have a basket in the where all the cleans clothes go and a basket where all the dirty clothes go and they can put their clean clothes up. I would put a lot of the stuffed animals in baskets at the top of the closet. You will be able to get a lot more use out of the closet without doors.

[@kathleenkaleookalanismith8724]

The other things is before I did anything else in my home, I would spend the day taking all trash and all donation items out of the house and getting rid of it. It’s much better to do that then constantly moving them from room to room.

[@AWanderingEye]

@38:59 - Ditto here. I used to use other parent's behavior to figure out what was happening. We were late almost every day because there was still a line of parents dropping off their children. Little did I know that 7:30 the children were expected to be in the classroom in their seats instead of being dropped off at the door. But since I always saw other parents lined up dropping their children off I thought we must be on time...whack me on the head. We eventually had to do the whole tardiness routine, all because I some how missed that little detail (at 7:30 children are in their seats in the class). Ugh. Had to chime in with that found memory...

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Oh my gosh 🤣 I remember when my oldest was in preschool, I never knew what was going on… I felt like everyone somehow “knew” things like to bring valentines for the whole class on Valentine’s Day, stuff like that. Turns out there was an email list that I never got put on and everyone was being informed things and I missed all the info 🤣 I didn’t figure it out until my second kid was going to preschool and got on the email list 💀 Parenting is a lot of trial and error that’s for sure 🤣

[@deec121]

❤ thank you for a safe space

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you for being here!

[@erinnkemp]

Put the memories in the garage❤😊

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Good idea for “eventually” because once you see the garage you’ll laugh 🤣 it’s PACKED. We cleaned out one side but filled it with my flea market bins. Once we sort through the other side I should have lots of room though!

[@rosalieposey6585]

Glad to see you.

[@caryface1886]

I am so happy you are back. Missed you like crazy. I am just wanting to offer a suggestion . When things get chaotic, it's very hard to know where to start. I was thinking if you can do a honey do list. This gives him an idea of what to do first. And you can organize the list of tasks that are less than 15 minutes. That's what we do and it seems to really help.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

That’s a very good suggestion. We used to have a family task app where u would put things on there I wanted him to do. I think it just became too overwhelming for him and he started ignoring it all and doing nothing so I gave up. I think we need to sit down and come up with a new list or app or plan but I can only present a task or two per day otherwise he shuts down with overwhelm.

[@terryruiz7417]

Definitely kitchen. I have found Dana K White to be the most helpful for decluttering advice. No, decluttering never ends. Glad the knee wasn't broken!

[@heathercox9231]

Get you a fancy trash can for that man 🤣 and by fancy I mean you can use anything you have around. A basket? Laundry? Wicker? Hamper? Whatever you got babe! It's the best thing I ever did. I sweep and dust, change my trash every week...ish. heavy on the ISH 😂 my mental health and self care be suffering! Balance is hard. And I'm also a perfectionist. If it's not perfect, why try right? I totally get you babe ❤ you're seen and heard and I'm so glad I found you

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I’m really working on the perfectionism thing, it’s a tough mindset shift to do things “good enough” and really makes me dwell on things sometimes. But baby steps and I’m working on it. I’m glad you understand, that is comforting! Thanks for being here!

[@heathercox9231]

@Jamie_Chaotic progress over perfection is a motto i heard over on tt. It was nice to know that I wasn't alone. And if all I did was take the trash out of my nest (side of the bed), then that's okay. I don't need to overhaul every room every day. It's okay to just be. Resting is also productive. I came from a every Sunday deep clean household. It's hard to relax knowing I could be doing something, anything.... but I'm so burnt out after doing that for 20 years. Not to mention health issues and family issues 🤷‍♀️ give yourself some grace!! I think you've made wonderful progress. And if those areas pile up again, we get to watch you reset! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

This is all really good advice that I need to hear. I don’t ever give myself a rest day, there are chores and work to do 7 days a week, with moments of fun and relaxation mixed in… but it sure would feel different if there was one day a week to just REST. I honestly don’t know if I could do it, I’ve been go go go for so long 😅

[@catnpawsmercantile]

You don’t need to declutter, you need a bigger house 😁! Seriously, loving this and happy to know I’m not alone. Ps. Have you considered doing the surprise Christmas boxes this year? I snagged one a few years back and I LOVED IT!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Hi!!! So good to see you over here 🩷 No kidding about the bigger house 🤣 although I would just fill that too! I’m not doing Christmas mystery boxes this year (sadly, I love making them!) because I didn’t really source for half the year. I was going through all these inventory boxes and am just about fresh out of Christmas littles if you can believe it! Hopefully by next year I’ll have a nice good Christmas hoard ready for mystery boxes again 😆

[@catnpawsmercantile]

@ sounds like a plan! Wishes to you and your family for a wonderful Thanksgiving.

[@michelem9277]

I'm glad to see you back. I kept checking to see if you were still posting. I suggest you do the boy's room soon. Getting a big bin for toys to go in the closet will free up space in their room. It will make it easier for them to keep it clean themselves. Maybe you can get them to help declutter some toys. They will know which toys they don't play with anymore. Getting them to get the toys to donation centers in time for Christmas is a good goal for you all. ❤

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Yes with Christmas coming, cutting down the toys is something we do every year. “Santa won’t bring you new things if he sees all these toys on floor and sees that you have a bunch you don’t even play with!” They’re really good about letting things go. The stuffed animals are the only thing my youngest son doesn’t want to let go of. He has a hard time letting any go, so we just need a better storage solution for now. He does actually play with them constantly so I’m ok with it. I know the stuffed animal phase doesn’t last forever and he really loves them.

[@theresachristian4246]

Glad you’re back. Omg you don’t have time for all this. Pick one area to work on at a time. ❤

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I don’t have time for what? Making this video? 🤣

[@hannahkathleen1876]

Put a medium size trash can in your room, and a clothes hamper. You will be set. Yes you will still have to take out weekly, but no mess on your floor ❤

[@thisnthat42]

I think I would like to see the various pockets of the lounge that need decluttering. So the board games for what will likely be a quick win. The coffee table. Kids table reset (that's not really a once and done as you know but it's good to keep on top of it, and then get that drawer unit decluttered and see if you can get that out of the house. At the moment it's an extra surface and empty surfaces attract clutter so if you can empty it out and remove it altogether that will help. It will also make the lounge feel less cramped. If it feels like too much in one go pick a drawer to do at a time. I would giveaway the empty banker boxes. If the aim is to declutter further then you shouldn't need them and they are just in the way at the moment. You have that lovely globe behind them and the rowing machine that would be nice to see properly as you walk into the room once those items have gone. A suggestion for the bed room is if Blake tends to dump his laundry in that spot then maybe put a small basket there for him to chuck the items into. That way they feel contained at least. Then couple that with my suggestion in my other comment about taking them out of the room as you leave the room to go downstairs. If you are worried about going up and down the stairs maybe get a large cloth tote or laundry basket to chuck any items into as you go downstairs, then take them to the right rooms and put the tote of the banister so you can use it to take anything back upstairs or just take it back up with you when you go back up there later in the day so it's ready for the next time. Love your glass vase collection btw.

[@caryface1886]

So what I'm thinking is for you to write a list of every room and every area that you are not happy with and then look at the area that makes you the most frustrated and start there. Or if you want, you can put little pieces of paper of all the areas and just pick them out of a bowl. For me, I focused on what made me the most frustrated. And that just seemed to calm me.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I’m liking that paper in a bowl idea! Haha! That could be fun for a video too. I’m thinking of starting with all the small, quick problem areas like the dresser by the front door I want to empty out and move out of here, the landing at the top of the stairs, the games, etc. I could totally put those things into a bowl and draw them out one at a time. Thank you for that idea!!

[@sarahkinsey5434]

@@Jamie_Chaotic April from The Space Maker Method likes quick wins and timers, so tops of dressers and cabinets, small storage things like that front door dresser, etc. Another good idea for any room is first the obvious trash/recycling. Then things that don't belong, but that will become easier as the volume decreases and more things have homes.

[@sober1980]

Oh my! That would drive me nuts!!! Wish I could help you!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@sober1980 believe me when I say it drives me nuts too. I’m not a naturally messy or cluttered person so this amount of crap everywhere gives me wild anxiety.

[@kimberlymiller655]

Just subscribed!!❤❤

[@dianaklien1560]

I would suggest decluttering one of your most visible spaces. You will see and enjoy it all the time and that can help motivate you to continue to other places.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thanks! Check out my more recent videos and you’ll see what I’ve been up to. It’s been working great! 😊

[@amberdavies3178]

Extra Convenient trash cans are helpful! Whatever area is bugging you the most will have the most motivation for you.

[@dianaklien1560]

One of the things I regret when my children were little is not decluttering more. I was a keeper, as in I wanted to keep everything, and in doing that I forgot that empty space is important to be able to enjoy what we had. We had way too many toys (and other stuff) and it would creep down the hallway into the living room, etc. The container concept would have been very useful to know, it is described by a lovely declutter helper named Dana K. White, also known as A Slob Comes Clean. Might check her out, she has a way to deal with items without using emotion, just common sense (well, it kinda is once it is pointed out, I just didn’t have the common sense until it was pointed out to me).

[@joanasm9141]

really love your videos ☺️

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you so much!!