Restarting my whole house decluttering journey, bedroom reset, exposing my entire messy house

[@isabellerininger6249]

My thought….. first, thank for sharing!! Being vulnerable is HUGE! Second, Start with the area that will be noticed first. It will create order spillover into other areas. Main spaces, holidays coming, the kitchen/living/dining area. The banker boxes can go to the garage, any inventory that’s invading the home shared spaces should go to the garage.I’ve seen many resellers use their garages as inventory storage both before and after posting the items, with a photography area in the office. (And post the exercise equipment on hubby’s behalf since he simply hasn’t had time.) I also highly encourage the Dana K White methods-have a finite space for inventory and more can’t be added until there is space-this way you can keep your work and home/shared space separate and is fair for the rest of the family and their use of the home and your own self care sanity. You deserve a calm home as well and to keep business in its allotted space in your life. Oh, one other note…Maybe you could consider a trash can in the bed room so the trash is contained daily and doesn’t get mixed in with your regular belongings.

[@sarahharper-fi2mx]

SHE'S BACK!!!!! The way I have been checking your channel, waiting for a new video like a STALKER. 🤭 Everything you've done has been a step in the right direction, don't stop! Keep it up!!!!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@sarahharper-fi2mx 😂😂 thank you!! I appreciate the support and encouragement!

[@sarahharper-fi2mx]

I commented that right at the beginning and I'm back to answer your question. 😊 Kitchen seems most important to me. The "functional" rooms are always important to sort first imo. So kitchen, bathrooms, walkways, etc, then the more off shoot spaces as I call them. Dining room, bedrooms, living room.

[@rvmomma8687]

So glad your back!! Blake needs to get on board with cleaning/decluttering. Seems like a lot of the clutter revolves around his things.

[@ErinEff]

I’m absolutely made it to the end of the video! I’m into the kitchen pantry declutter. That’s an area where I also have lots of clutter and we have a similar tall, deep pantry set up. Oh also, maybe use some of the banker boxes that you would donate and fill up with the things you are donating while you declutter. My biggest mental block when decluttering is the hurdle of ‘how’ to get it out of the house so having empty boxes to fill with the stuff would be helpful?! Also, love the channel name.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Hey Erin!! I’m happy to see you over here and I see you have a name change too! I hope all is well with you and your family, I miss seeing you!

[@rachel8727]

I have a washcloth in the bottom of the toothbrush drawer that makes it super easy to clean because I just wash it and put a new one in. Just an idea. :)

[@karenwells6414]

I just found you today and have enjoyed your video and you motivated me to get up and move some stuff thanks

[@karenpage9383]

Yay! You're back!!! Love the new name too! Girl, I know you are dealing with challenges, but all the more reason to limit how much you actually own and keep it down to a manageable amount. I'd go hard decluttering toys and games for sure since the influx of new stuff for Christmas is going to put both categories over the top. And while I know you want a peaceful bedroom, I think that room is the hardest for you. Its upstairs, so crap never makes it back down. Plus, by the time you go up there you are tired, and that's when stuff just gets set down instead of put away. Instead of a full decluttering of your room, spend 15 mins a day trying to keep it from getting out of control. At least until you can dedicate time to it. Def get Blake a garbage can though and empty when its full. Keep bags in the can (under the current bag) so you don't have to go downstairs for a replacement bag. And if you want to decorate, focus on the living room / shared areas before you deal with the kitchen. The whole family will benefit that way. And the kitchen can be tackled a little at a time. With the vintage business being so busy, you'll make more progress in the house with 15 min room pick ups than 3 day overhauls. Oh, and I saw your comment to someone about wanting a big pile to show how much came out of the boys' room, but as a viewer if you show me pics of 3 piles taken over time, it registers the same as one big pile. You'll be able to say how many bags of stuff was the total. Don't let that hangup keep you from getting things out of the house now! 😘 Oh, and I have no issues with the cat food on the counter 😉

[@JojoboxVlogs]

Love your videos and so glad to see you post. A suggestion, if you find that garbage collects in your room, then why not put a garbage bin in your room - that will shortcut the need to take the individual pieces of trash downstairs each time. If you’re making trash in that room, perhaps a trash can in the bedroom would be helpful 😊

[@NancyTawil-c3h]

So glad you're back . . . missed you! 💞 pantry/kitchen video would be great!

[@nettie8060]

Kitchen would be my vote. I decluttered mine a few months ago and it really helped. Still have other areas to work on though.

[@jennettehenderson9810]

I'm so happy you're back! Your decluttering videos are very inspiring! Also, you're very funny, lol.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Yay! Thank you! 😊

[@amandab.6815]

I remember when the inventory was taking over the house. I'm so proud of you for selling all that and taking control of your home again!

[@melaniehutchinson5306]

As a pro declutter coach ( Dana K White trained and certified) and adhd organizing expert, I think you need to start with visible areas. So start with your front hallway. What people see when they come in. Starting in hidden spaces won’t help with motivation. Using Dana’s five steps will get you there. Think too about like things together, and open easy storage.. so open bins are the best, make it as easy to put away as it is to put it down Think about point of performance , so store things near where you use them. A great example would be a coffee bar zone. Also use your containers as limits, even for inventory to sell to keep that manageable. Hope this helps!

[@FatBirdFindsCrafting]

Love this channel! All I can say is….same girl same. ❤

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Oh I know you get it! We sure have special challenges in this line of work!

[@nbig860]

Soooo glad you’re back-been waiting! 👍👏 YOU CAN DO THIS! 💪🏼

[@theredspottymushroom6025]

Super nice job getting rid of the storage and paying that bill!! Love your declutter videos! They are so relatable and makes me start doing the same. ❣

[@sapmolina]

I'm glad you are back. Love the name change

[@valm1569]

Great video Jamie love what you’ve been doing. I’m also organizing and donating the things I have. It’s easy to get sidetracked, but I love it when I can see progress. Great job 🐈‍⬛😀👍

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I think “Sidetracked” might be my middle name! 😆

[@roesej]

Glad to see you are back! If you ever move out of this house, never go to another one that has stairs. They seem to create a big obstacle when you are organizing things-there always seem to be piles of items to move up and down the stairs-not to mention that you fell because of them. Hope your knee gets better asap

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

100%!! I hate the stairs, all of us avoid going up or down them and the clutter piles up on them. It’s a total hazard! I said in our last apartment that I would never live in a place with stairs again but here we are. At least these have carpet so they aren’t as deadly as our last ones, but it’s still a reason we don’t put things away. And I managed to hurt myself anyway 😆 I truly hope if we can ever buy a home I can find one that is single story!

[@delorseboyd1224]

Yes!! The kitchen, please 😊

[@dayna6938]

Either fill the empty boxes with things to donate or immediately get rid of them. They take up a lot of room, also donate them bags of clothes from the boys room right away. Then move into the kitchen. Edit: Actually I would take 30 mins and fill a few boxes with things to donate first, then hit the donation center with the boys clothes etc and then tackle that kitchen. Glad you are back and looking forward to more videos.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

This is going to sound so dumb… because it IS dumb… but I don’t want to donate the clothes until I’m done with their room so I can have a “look how many bags I’m donating from their room” shot for the video 🤣 if I wasn’t in the mindset of “everything is content!” I would have donated them months ago. Again, it’s very ridiculous I know. 😆

[@kako6417]

I just watched a video you posted 9 months ago and the way your husband talks to you just melted my heart🥹. He was so happy and appreciateve for couple of more hangers and so proud because you did such a good job decluttering ( i think you gor rid of half clothes in one round). Hope you continue doing great job and maybe even buy a new dress to make a wish come true for your husband. Wish you all the things to be light and easy as you declutter the old stuff❤

[@katespurgeon5572]

Hit up mini areas where you can see quick progress. Example: cardboard, out-grown games, ciffee bar, moving things fir better fliw in pantry/cereal. Glad to see you back. I've referred to your 50% clothes reduction ptocess multiple times!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

This is exactly what I started today! I think before tackling whole “rooms” there’s lots of quick areas of progress to be made in the little problem areas. Like the dresser I want to trash by the front door! So quick to go through those drawers and basically dump everything and get it out of here.

[@lindastefanski4330]

Kitchen 😁❤❤. Or, what ever you feel like 😂

[@shannong7556]

Still here. You remind me of my daughter and her full steam ahead life 🥰

[@erinwalter5395]

I would love to see you declutter the coffee bar, it looks like it would be a quick win, I am so happy your back 🩵🩵🩵

[@AWanderingEye]

@38:59 - Ditto here. I used to use other parent's behavior to figure out what was happening. We were late almost every day because there was still a line of parents dropping off their children. Little did I know that 7:30 the children were expected to be in the classroom in their seats instead of being dropped off at the door. But since I always saw other parents lined up dropping their children off I thought we must be on time...whack me on the head. We eventually had to do the whole tardiness routine, all because I some how missed that little detail (at 7:30 children are in their seats in the class). Ugh. Had to chime in with that found memory...

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Oh my gosh 🤣 I remember when my oldest was in preschool, I never knew what was going on… I felt like everyone somehow “knew” things like to bring valentines for the whole class on Valentine’s Day, stuff like that. Turns out there was an email list that I never got put on and everyone was being informed things and I missed all the info 🤣 I didn’t figure it out until my second kid was going to preschool and got on the email list 💀 Parenting is a lot of trial and error that’s for sure 🤣

[@stephnapper7341]

You could use the empty boxes by filling them with stuff to donate.😊

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@stephnapper7341 good idea!

[@MultiCatPass]

Just keep plugging away and surviving the de-clutter...... that's what I'm doing too. Ongoing de-clutter for past year and a half, and I'm not done yet. Cheers!

[@owlcreekpatterncompany5675]

Yes! The kitchen 🙌

[@debbiebales4938]

I would LOVE to help with the kitchen when we come down before Christmas. Complete with buying you some cabinet organizers. ❤️ you.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Deal!

[@lindatuell164]

Hi I would love to see you cleaning the boys room and the kitchen/ dining room - and be sure the NY Yankees hat goes in the donate bin. 😂 Glad your back- I enjoy your videos and your sense of humor

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@lindatuell164 🤣 I agree, my boys were the Yankees in little league otherwise I would have burned those hats! 🔥

[@donnalegrand9133]

I hope you pick the kitchen and that you start with the pantry!!! I almost bought a plane ticket to come help!!!! Welcome back!

[@rosalieposey6585]

Glad to see you.

[@terryruiz7417]

Definitely kitchen. I have found Dana K White to be the most helpful for decluttering advice. No, decluttering never ends. Glad the knee wasn't broken!

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

OMG! I’m so glad to see you again! You have a big job ahead of you. I would start in the kitchen first BUT put a lg wastebasket on Blake’s side of the bed and beg him to use it. Do a 10 min. clear-off of your bathroom counter. Also, make an agreement that when anybody goes downstairs, they should carry something down that needs to go down. For some reason that landing really bothers me..

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I’m going to get a trash can for Blake’s side so we’ll see what happens. I’ve been begging, pleading, nagging him for literally years to put his dirty laundry in a dirty laundry bag and he just doesn’t do it. He throws it on the floor on top of the bag. I have no idea why, I’ll never understand exactly how his brain works or how to get him to care/remember. So I’m not optimistic about the trash can getting used, or the bag being emptied/replaced when it’s full (unless I do it of course). But we’ll try, maybe he’ll surprise me and prove me wrong. We do already have a “every time you go up or down the stairs, take something with you” rule, but obviously unless I’m standing next to the stairs like a troll under a bridge reminding everyone, it just doesn’t happen 😆 I’m welcome to any suggestions on how to get my family on board to help more. It’s not that I don’t try, the kids do have age appropriate chores and 50% of them do a good job but with my son who has ADHD it’s like pulling teeth. My husband also has uncontrolled ADHD and I suspect I do as well, which might be a big part of the issues in this house. But mostly I think no one else in the house cares what it looks like. They’re all happy as clams living in filth and I’m repulsed by it. And if it does bother them, it doesn’t bother them enough to do something about it. So I’m not sure if they’ll ever actually help. I’m trying to instead get rid of most everything so that it’s easier for me to just reset the house myself.

[@karenpage9383]

@@Jamie_Chaotic What about one of those hampers that's made for kids that's a basketball hoop and if he makes the shot it goes in the hamper??? I wonder if it just needs to be another style of hamper that works better for his brain. Maybe ask him what you could get him that would help him keep it tidy. Maybe a hamper in the bathroom makes more sense to him 🤷‍♀

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

Oh you poor dear. I didn’t realize the problems you were up against getting cooperation from your family. I think you’re right- the more you get rid of, the less there is to clean up. What you probably need is Family Counseling but I doubt your hubby would have the time or the inclination to go. You have my love, prayers & support from down here in Brenham Texas.❣️❤️❤️🙏

[@3TXSisters]

Thank you for sharing your home with us. I admire your determination and openness, allowing us to see the "before." There are some battles not worth engaging. Pick up your husband's clothes and put them in the hamper. Two seconds of your time isn't worth high blood pressure. It took me years to realize that my husband has many wonderful traits, but he wasn't ever going to put his socks in the hamper, lol. A garbage can on his side of the bed will be useful, even if you're throwing away his trash. Also, a trash can by his desk will be helpful, hopefully, lol. You have a wonderful family. Your idea of decluttering will help keep your home organized, I think. Our house is turned upside down. We brought my 93-year-old sister-in-law in to live with us without having time to prepare our home for the move. I'm overwhelmed. I like how you give yourself grace and accept that a job is good enough for now. Very healthy! Take care, Linda 🦋

[@deec121]

❤ thank you for a safe space

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Thank you for being here!

[@vintagecatnpaws]

You don’t need to declutter, you need a bigger house 😁! Seriously, loving this and happy to know I’m not alone. Ps. Have you considered doing the surprise Christmas boxes this year? I snagged one a few years back and I LOVED IT!

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Hi!!! So good to see you over here 🩷 No kidding about the bigger house 🤣 although I would just fill that too! I’m not doing Christmas mystery boxes this year (sadly, I love making them!) because I didn’t really source for half the year. I was going through all these inventory boxes and am just about fresh out of Christmas littles if you can believe it! Hopefully by next year I’ll have a nice good Christmas hoard ready for mystery boxes again 😆

[@vintagecatnpaws]

@ sounds like a plan! Wishes to you and your family for a wonderful Thanksgiving.

[@Emmaslaysinroblox3.0]

Yayyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@delorseboyd1224]

I love and miss you so much!!!!

[@sydneychapman8577]

Kitchen or boys’ room!!! Then the office!

[@vaughankeeney8979]

I think I have an idea of why there are some socks without mates...🐱😂

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

Haha yes!!! We have a sock thief!

[@diannefaust4046]

He's hungry for some chicken fingers!😂😂😂

[@RoseofSharon3]

Please tell us what the name of your vintage resale biz is? I think you would find support here if you did a live auction on here. Personally I like vintage Christmas. And I understand the tired feeling. I raised 3 children and I’m working nearly every day outside the home and my husband is about to retire in February and tells me he’s going to need me to get another job. Well I can just tell you that’s not going to happen. At my age my body isn’t being kind to me.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

It is called Mid-Century Wasted and there’s a link to the channel in the description of this video. Maybe since husband is retiring, he can get a retirement job? Working two jobs is very hard on the body for sure!!

[@RoseofSharon3]

I’m not worried about what the husband wants me to do, i’am doing all a body can do. I clean houses for a living and I really enjoy helping people. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family.

[@theurbanthirdhomestead]

Packing = fun Unpacking = not fun 😂

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

That’s the truth! 😂

[@bobbibice4381]

I would start in your bedroom again so u have somewere to relax each day your done, and just go each room up stairs n then move down stairs instead of jumping different rooms in each area of the house

[@Struubels]

One suggestion for the trash in the bedroom, get a trashcan besides blakes side.

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@Struubels I agree with you, I don’t know why I was avoiding having a trashcan in our bedroom but clearly we could use one.

[@amandag3805]

This tactic was a game changer for my husband. Sometimes it’s easier to accommodate than change a habit.

[@theurbanthirdhomestead]

I had to put one next to my side of the bed. Turns out, I eat snacks in bed. 😬

[@diannefaust4046]

My cats food is on the counter because the dog will eat it if it's on the floor.

[@lindabourketempleton4040]

Don’t buy more hangers declutter, I hang washing on hangers to dry thus no dryer and no folding

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@lindabourketempleton4040 I definitely won’t buy more, I have a bunch downstairs in the laundry room. But I’ll definitely declutter first, I know there are some things to let go to make room for the new stuff I got.

[@NadyaFarah1]

💪🏻

[@hazelmeldrum5860]

Kitchen and removing items from the house

[@rachgeorgia9993]

I feel like you had to get a lot off your chest in this video. I think you should declutter the kids toys because they are bound to get more at Christmas and you'll need somewhere to put them.

[@susanwalgren3939]

Your progress is good. However, I feel your home is just too much for one very busy person to handle. Is there any way u can get help from family and friends? Sometimes all u need is one friend to tackle an area with u. They keep us accountable and it’s actually more “fun” if u work along side someone. And, with deep thought, pick a room (or area) that u can get outside help. Use some of your earnings from selling some things to pay for it. You will feel SO good. Blessings to you…

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

I’m way too controlling to let anyone else sort through my stuff. They would just get in my way lol 😆 I’m not doing it all at once, I have the rest of my life to get this place in order. And I just don’t have that kind of relationship with anyone in my family or any friends who would help with this anyway. I’d love for Blake to help more, I think he can help with the actual cleaning while I sort through all the stuff and get rid of things. The money I earn from selling things is my small business income which we need to survive. Southern CA is very expensive and I have to work to pay bills. I hope someday to have a little extra income to pay for someone to come do some deep cleaning after I’ve gotten rid of the messes. I have a bad back and heavy scrubbing (especially the bathtub) about kills me. It would be great to have a professional come to get things feeling really clean, not just tidy.

[@susanwalgren3939]

Yeah, at some time, the professional deep cleaning would be great. I didn’t mean for someone to declutter your stuff. I was thinking of you giving them specific things to do, like wiping down shelves that YOU emptied and moving bags of trash and donations to a designated area.

[@lindabourketempleton4040]

Why not unpack down stairs and take only what you need upstairs

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

We do that sometimes, especially if we’ve used all our clothes on a trip. They just go straight to the laundry room. The suitcase just lingers by the front door for months in that case, rather than in the bedroom. 🤣

[@lindabourketempleton4040]

Get rid of flat surfaces

[@Jamie_Chaotic]

@@lindabourketempleton4040 good idea in theory but I don’t think I could make it without a dresser haha