Restorative Practices to Resolve Conflict/Build Relationships: Katy Hutchison at TEDxWestVancouverED

Katy Hutchison became a Restorative Justice advocate following the murder of her first husband. After ten years of sharing her story internationally to over five hundred schools and community groups, she views the education system as the structure with the most potential to affect positive social change. Katy sits on the Boards of Restorative Practices International & Glenlyon Norfolk School and volunteers for Leave Out Violence (LOVE).
In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

[@kingkong905]

Restorative justice is powerful. I confronted 1 of my victims face to face and listened to her story long ago. She talked about how deeply I affected her, how alone she felt, how she suffered from the bad things people did to her, from people blaming her for being a victim, and treating her like an outcast. She basically said "I needed you.. you were my role model but you hurt me.." we were crying like babies. I felt so guilty over what I did.

[@ianaustin8364]

Hi Katy, As a newly minted Conflict Resolution major, I am thinking Restorative Justice might be the key to the whole thing. Thank you (!!) for being who you are, and sharing that person so freely. Your father was clearly a wonderful man and excellent at HIS job. Be well 🙏🌻

[@paddyocon1]

This should be required viewing for every teacher worldwide.

[@josephholdman1037]

This could be an interesting study after all!

[@kommisar.]

Well, 10 years later and how did that work out? Skyrocketing crime everywhere it's tried, including schools.

[@najdr]

What a beautiful beautiful human being. How wonderful would our world be if we all aspired to be as understanding as her. Thank you for sharing your world with us.

[@HONEYP6K]

Positive statement

[@rickmontgomery1296]

Rick Montgomery, the art of forgiving can only come from a force in our soul! The real proof that we have attained it comes with saying, showing and acting it out!

[@hughfynn9503]

Thank you Katy for this inspirational and heart wrenching talk. I am involved in running RJ workshops for teachers in Cape Town South Africa. I hope that you wont mind me both using and referring teachers to this clip. We have such a need to change the climate in so many of our schools and I am convinced that restorative practices is where we have to start and that they have the potential to make a huge difference. Hugh Fynn

[@kommisar.]

Looks like that place only got worse. Gee, what a surprise. Who would have thought that junk progressive ideas wouldn't pan out?

[@juliedorcas47]

you are an inspiration Katy! My life was changed when I read "Walking after midnight" ...I was in prison for impaired driving causing death. my friend died, and it was because of my bad choices that it happened. I hated myself. Katy's message of love and forgiveness gave me hope. that someday, something good could come from all of this... Today I share that hope with others. Honesty is most important. taking responsibility and having willingness to do things different... a must. One day at a time, it is possible to change. ... and forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves

[@josephholdman1037]

Thank You! For your statement! This makes sense to me! Maybe we can make a difference, in this world! Together! Could go a long way! Instead of diversity.

[@jackmacyt5074]

Anyone in religion class covering restorative practices in this video here ya go -Katy explored multiple ways to restore a relation and a life in this video. She spoke on how rather than vengeance she seeked to change this young man. She helped him understand everything and he helped her understand. She turned an awful situation in to a mutually benficial scenario. They shared their story and ultimately moved on. She values her morals very much as we can see and she swore to frogive this young man.

[@connorwetzelberger9422]

Using this for my Restorative justice class thanks dawg

[@marleeliss4452]

so incredibly powerful. Thank you for sharing your story Katy and these messages of healing justice. With you in solidarity

[@SeeratKaur-te3eu]

You are so brave! Thankyou for sharing your story. May god bless you and your children

[@mwinaz480]

Great talk. Thank you The family that I was raised absolutely refused a few minutes of unnecessary uncomfortable conflict resolution to keep us close, together. But we can break those chains with our children. We can't help the families that we were born into,,we can only try to do better with our children by example.

[@Ratatata1810]

Watch the movie about this, its called Bond of Silence

[@carlmarcus910]

I want to thank of great Dr. Todd he brought my boyfriend back to me. i had seen many people to get him back but nothing, Dr. Todd gave me a consultation and told me all truth, and I trusted Dr. Todd and had him do the spells for me. it took awhile because it was very very messy between us. i had to wait for each spell to do its work. but once the last spell finally was working and the other spells had worked, that is when he called. we met. then it took many more meetings. but now we are back together and i can only thank Dr.Todd, he is the greatest, i will come to Dr. Todd for life. Todd took care of me like family. contact; manifestspellcast @ gmail. com WhatsApp:[phone]

[@ucdruby]

What an amazing message. It's so heartfelt and moving.

[@zzulm]

Wow I hope this option is used more often.

[@SandieCastaneda]

Creating a new cultural norm. This is incredible. Thank you for sharing. Your service to the cause is impeccable. Congratulations*

[@Ryan-ex4wr]

What a TED talk. Wow. Such an amazing woman. Great watch. Well worth the 19 minutes.

[@chauvuyoga]

beautiful story. thank you!

[@yessireemaam]

You're a beautiful soul and light in this world. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@babystreetfighta]

What an incredible women. Really glad I watched this, was feeling kind of angry about society and now more motivated.

[@mayamassar4515]

Stunningly powerful presentation. Amen Katy Hutchison.

[@autumnford1920]

Absolutely love, thank you so much for taking the time to share your story💖

[@drpriyadarshinibhattacharj6070]

What an incredible woman! Kudos to her strength.

[@sylviecusson1352]

Such a powerful message 👏❤

[@raiseup4977]

Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing the idea / tips that exists alternative human ways if dealing the tragedies. Trully commendable

[@MindfulTalent]

Thank you for sharing Katy, what an inspiration you are and what a beautiful message to deliver. Thank you x

[@davidparrett410]

I want to live in the world that you live in because you are living some where else besides this world.

[@jaspreetchattha69]

Wow..thank you for these inspirational words🌺

[@elsagrace3893]

Great message. Seems like every TED speaker is coached by the same speech coach in exactly the same way. They all sound the same in delivery.

[@janekkazmierczak]

Great speech Katy. Was great to hear your story. Greetings from Poland.

[@bobberlin9702]

Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt beautiful message. I'm sooo sorry for your loss. I'm a mediator and resonated with your message. Thanks again.

[@pwarrren]

Thank you Kay Hutchison; thank you Ted Smith for sharing; What a message for the entire world -- each and everyone of us -- to ponder and act upon. PW

[@chapachuu]

I've always believed in restorative justice (and a revamp of the education system) to be the cure for much of what ails our society. I've been considering a career in mediation and I think this woman's story has convinced me it's a job worth doing.

[@fatema555]

Incredible....incredibly forgiving woman.

[@han4574]

this is inspiring. thank you for sharing ❤

[@modestpeanut]

What an incredible, beautiful human being!

[@beingboomlovinglife3474]

One human changing to world. believe in forgiveness

[@MsAntiguanRican]

Awesome presentation! Definitely worth sharing & applying time ins in all areas of life

[@insidebody]

Brilliant! Thanks for sharing Katy!!

[@floraaye266]

So heart-touching and educational. It also remind me to do my work better as a single-parent in my parenthood. So grateful of this video I came across today.

[@Mxryxmdv]

Wow amazing I learned a lot from this ted talk honestly I've been through though time and I'm still in a lot of problems which I find out the solution for it I'm a happy and I am so thankful I listen to this TED talk right now ! Completely worth it

[@mrtambourineman6107]

peace and love sister. you are a beautiful person and great speaker

[@angelaaponte8332]

Thank you Katy, your story bring tears to my eyes.

[@tulasideviful]

Drop the labels, focus on behaviour! Yes 🤩🥰

[@bobbiehuskey4981]

Excellent presentation and powerful guide for restoring harm.

[@daniaak1096]

Thank you for sharing, your story is a great inspiration for me, I think lots of people need to hear that to be able to go on their lives peacefully after tiney and enormous mees.

[@pieseeker1]

That might be the strongest woman i've ever seen

[@evanrobinson670]

This was amazing! Brought me to tears.

[@stxred22]

Excellent thanks for sharing I learned quite a bit! Your story is inspiring.

[@jones10121970]

I was outraged while listening to this. 3 out of 5 years in jail doesn’t send a message of consequences to criminals. I applaud this lady’s resolve in handling this but do not believe I would be able to handle this way. I can’t wrap my head around how she handled this.

[@vay5540]

to serve prison time only makes people not do bad things because they don't want to go back. Restorative justice more often than not allows people to reflect on their actions, see how they have affected others, and fix them. Of course, it doesn't always work, and some people will just forever be bad people, but it offers more closure for both the victim and the person who committed the crime.

[@indiahrose8302]

One of the best ted talks I've seen

Excelente

[@nyak63RUS]

So if Restorative Justice is the next step in justice, what do you think will be the step that follows Restorative Justice? Where will it lead us and what will it bring about in terms of the evolution of justice?

[@deonavery7539]

This is amazing. It's weird that the killer only had to do three years. I know minors who were convicted for attempted murder and are serving 70 years.

[@daniellecorbie-archey2893]

Deon Avery it’s because he’s white.

[@kasiegunn3682]

Deon Avery The US is the only country in the world that convicts children to life sentences

[@katebelongstogtgmnl2148]

I'm guessing Ryan looked like her and that's why his sentence was light

[@amazingyear9042]

great!!

[@abhishekthakai6022]

great thoughts :)

[@julzthandie1774]

Wow you're one in a million 👏 👏

[@sonnythirteen]

Thank God for great mothers

[@djayjp]

Amazing. Beautiful. Think about it: In either typical criminal justice, revenge, or this approach, they are all concerned with the same thing--making sure it never happens again.... But only one approach helps build healthier communities and addresses the root causes. I'm sure the rate of recidivism (to re-offend) is much lower with this restorative model.

[@ixchiguan1]

Existe el video con traducción al español???

[@spiritakarabbit369]

oh yeah and the proper term is healing/talking circles. #roots

[@snowcarapetyan4514]

So beautiful

[@nathanketsdever3150]

Is there any way to fix this audio? For instance, cleaning up the audio and reposting this? Or does the audio get better later in the video? If so at what time?

[@Rusty-Shackleford69]

I find it troubling that a murder serves three years! Even more troubling, She finds this acceptable.

[@cayennesinivassinel6977]

There are many Ryan's out there and in prison.... let's not only restore them, but the ones who make profits from prisons need restoring too. Pain is everywhere.

[@beno4963]

Whаt Меn REAАLLY Want => twitter.com/d978f65ab88cb195e/status/804693412402241537 Rеstоrativе Prасtices tо Rеsolve Conflict Build Relаtionships Katу Hutсhisоn at ТEEEEDxWestVanсоuverED

[@ronkatz4230]

Yes, the volume is challenging, but it is well worth the 18 minutes to listen. Just turn up the volume, This is an important talk.

[@ninthefrog3911]

what an amazing women

[@user_ytndslk]

*save

[@nemlolrawrlawl2350]

Super low volume.

[@marinakalathil537]

I was happy to listen but couldn't

[@Gurjitsingh-sj8ho]

I want to say something. I am a very outgoing, outspoken person, I am super social and super friendly person. I seen and heard people saying that people in states are rude and not friendly people, not only in States but any foreign country. I seen American people are so respectful and always say Sorry and Thank you. And guys it's totally fine if anyone ask you out or compliment about you. I have to say this people in generally in America are not so outgoing and seem to be shy and individualistic. There needs to be a conversation and affection between people. Life is too short to be fearful. Be fearless, be friendly, be kind, be helpful, and A BIG thing, please never ever hurt anyone physically or mentally. There's always a solution to an argument or uncomfortable situation. People need to sit down and resolve issues and conflicts. Do not start fighting or arguing. Life is too short to live and to be serious. Hopefully my views and advice can help people. And the pranks that these people are making are totally fine. People get uncomfortable so fast, people yell and go mad. It's totally ok to be weird and silly sometimes. Take it easy and YES no violence and no fighting. Just put a smile. Have patience. Ignore negativity and criticism. Laugh off the people who spread hate and criticism

[@josephholdman1037]

Thank You! But what if they don't contact you and you do leave that option open; too resolve the matter?

[@josephholdman1037]

Battle of the exes again! Weird!

[@raymund6704]

audio is just bad on this video. she keeps on just whispering.

[@misty3043]

It's not about the fear it's about the pills started that day. Remember that

[@osyasa6255]

It’s easy to do if u grew up in perfect childhood conditions with attentive respecting parents free of childhood trauma 😒

[@aloradeising-eovaldi3304]

Can't hear her

[@marinakalathil537]

Not clear. Speak louder

[@Casshern1456]

How can she stand there for 18 minutes just lying to crowds of human being.

[@susan137]

What makes you think she is lying?

[@weishengwu1217]

The wanting pigeon commercially haunt because willow successively post upon a naive wish. goofy, fortunate libra

[@phaselapsecore]

i like cheese.

[@phaselapsecore]

but none dat butt cheese.

[@maliikjafar7869]

Interesting. I did not like this. Maybe it is not what I was looking for. She spent 14 minutes speaking on her experience and opinion. 4 minutes left with speaking but not about theory.

[@jacksonhenley4342]

Worst ted talk Restorative justice might be the worst idea ever

[@bangchamber317]

This lady is a narcissist. Not a normal reaction to hug the family's murderer. Too much stock is put in to forgiveness. If forgiving is such an endearing value and everybody did it, there would be no need for laws or punishment or fear of being punished, preventing people from doing horrible things. Seriously, imagine what a world would look like if everyone just forgave. Probably more twisted than it already is!

[@nurse-oj3gm]

erin morris you forgive people for yourself. to let go of anger. sometimes forgiving other will help them change their behavior. may not. But forgiving is so you can move on and work on keeping a clear mind so you can continue to strive to be better then yesterday.

[@bootyholebandit2905]

Imagine wasting energy on someone like that lol.